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People Are Telling Their Darkest Secrets To This Twitter Account, And Here Are 50 Of Their Juiciest Confessions (New Answers)
There's a Twitter account (that can now also be found on Facebook) which offers people the chance to anonymously reveal their secrets, and with 535K followers, it has become a viral online sensation.
Titled Fesshole, the account is the brainchild of Rob Manuel. Those of you that are well-versed in internet culture might know him from creating 'B3ta', a meme design website that famously sued Coca-Cola after they ripped off one of its viral animations for a TV ad.
Anyway, the "sins" on Fesshole range from the clumsily awkward (messing up a handshake) to the hilariously outrageous (hiring someone because they share your love for pro-wrestling), and, I guess, their popularity shows that in the age of social detachment, a little gossip can go a long way.
Continue scrolling to check out Fesshole's latest content, and don't miss out on the chat we had about secrets with Dr. Michael Slepian, the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School, spread out in between the pictures.
However, if you go through the entire thing and your curiosity wants more, fire up our earlier publication on Fesshole.
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Trisha Howson 3 years ago
I see nothing wrong with this at all. They wouldn't take care of her give her to someone that can and will
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To begin with, Dr. Slepian said when we keep a secret, we often mean to protect something. "Perhaps we believe that it protects our reputation, or our relationship with someone. And yet, our secrets tend to harm our well-being, and can harm our relationships too," the author of The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are told Bored Panda.
"When we choose to be alone with something, especially something important, we tend not to develop the healthiest way of thinking about it. It often takes another person to get the help that we need. Even a short conversation with a trusted person can offer so much. Emotional support and fresh perspectives can easily be offered by your confidant, but are hard to find on your own. This is why we often want to bring others in. We know that another person can prove helpful, and that having a conversation about the secret would be a healthy thing to do. To have a secret from everyone is to be alone with that thing, and we don't like to be alone. Your desire for help and social connection is in battle with your fear of how others will respond. When we let fear win, we hold the secret tight."
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April Caron 3 years ago (edited)
I had a 6 year old foster kid who was obsessed with wanting glasses like her older sister. Alas, she didn’t need them. :/ While her older sister walked around trying on various frames for her new glasses, she was trying to be supportive. I couldn’t bare to see her disappointed, so I told her to pick out whatever frames she also wanted. She was over-the-moon elated! We bought her “glasses” as-is without a prescription… just a clear lens. They were a hideous pink cat eye style. She wore them EVERYWHERE! And anytime she would get complimented on them, she’d tally up those compliments, “See? Another compliment!” It was ridiculously cute! :)
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James Morris 3 years ago
I always want to ask Alexa to end the simulation {like the Matrix} but don't. I'm afraid if it does life might be worst then it is.
With Edy Moulton-Tetlock, a doctoral student in management studying organizational behavior, Dr. Slepian asked more than 800 online participants to describe their personal secrets, using his list of 38 common categories of secrets as their guide.
The participants described more than 10,000 secrets, including both those they had shared with someone ("confided secrets") and the ones they had kept all to themselves ("total secrets").
The data revealed that confiding a secret predicted improved well-being. That's because the participant received social support and because the act of revealing the secret seemed to minimize the amount of time the person spent thinking about it.
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Dr. Slepian's research suggests that someone who is more secretive tends to be less extraverted and less emotionally stable, but more conscientious.
However, we also need to be aware of what it means to be "unloaded" on.
"When another person confides in us, this can be a boon but also a burden. When someone trusts us to the point of revealing a secret, we understand this is an act of intimacy, and often feel closer to the person as a result."
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Mathieu Brouwers 3 years ago
She is happy, he is married! Together it makes ´happily married´.
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Nadine Debard 3 years ago
My now husband did this one Christmas, and I had the good idea to ask if it was "just a nice ring" or not, even though I would have loved a proposal.
Ian Webling 3 years ago
Similar happened to me once. Luckily I came to my senses and called it off pre-wedding.
Lakota Wolf 3 years ago
Not every ring is an engagement ring; it also depends on OP's country/culture. It also depends on the emotional/relationship mental state of the GF - she was obviously very serious about the relationship - perhaps more serious at the time than OP was. If she were less serious, she may have simply realized the ring was a gift and not an engagement.
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Anikulapo 3 years ago
Who buys a ring for their gf at Xmas not meaning it as a proposal. Congratulations you big eejit 😁
Sebastian Köster 3 years ago
why not? it was surely just meant to show how much he loved her. its not his fault that she misunderstood it.
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Eighmy Lupin 3 years ago
So because he was trying to be nice to her, he deserves to be trapped in a marriage he didn't want??
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
My dad gave his girlfriend a ring too, not meaning it as an engagement ring. She understood it was a "regular" ring, but I'm told when relatives saw her wearing it there were raised eyebrows and "well when were you going to tell us??" stares. (They did ultimately get engaged for realsies and are now my parents, if you're wondering, and Mum still has the non-engagement ring. It's one of her favourite bits of jewellery!).
ThisIsNotTheOneYou'reLookinFor 3 years ago
Never told anyone. Young (18yrs) lady & I (21) had sex. She was late and I said I would marry her as the honorable thing. I did think a lot of her but love(?). She told everyone we were engaged. Her period came. We were married 25 years. Not all happy by any means. Especially the last 12 but got 2 great kids out of it. Waited until they graduated HS. They were smart enough to know things were bad and thanked me for waiting so both their parents could attend graduation. Two years after terrible nasty divorce with mental wife, found a truly wonderful woman. Now married 20 years and they have been happiest of my life.
Babysoup 3 years ago
Whoa. Manipulative much? Lucky you have 2 wonderful kids though.
Load More Replies... My Full Name Is Way Too Long 3 years ago
Plot twist: She knew it wasn't a marriage proposal, but she pretended to believe it was one anyway :).
Laris Mills Winchester 3 years ago
Why even say yes when he didn't say anythibg or even didn't go on he knee...
Susan Mercurio 3 years ago
If it's been 10 years, you must be happy. Both of you got a winner.
Louise Bernard 3 years ago
Maybe there is another confession that goes: "My boyfriend got me a ring for Christmas. I was not ready to get married but I didn't want to say no in front of everyone. I pretended to be touched and said yes. We have been married for 10 years..."
NicNor5560 3 years ago
I got a ring from my BF at Christmas too. And I screamed too. But he told me right away that it was just a friendship ring. OK. So I put it on my left hand anyways (and he told me it didn't go there...). The ring got switched sides. We didn't marry. I ended up with a colleague of his older brother. Love of my life.
Sinkvenice 3 years ago
The marriage is built on a lie, regardless of still being married 10 years later. Nice one bro, I hope she never finds out.
karl briggs 3 years ago
Shut the hell up!!!!!!! This actually happened to me about 15 years ago, I went along with it for 18 months and even moved across the country with her but thankfully managed to break up with her!
Kostas Tsen 3 years ago
Unless you were just outside the church, you could not find a wild animal to chew off one of your limbs before the actual day? A fair price for such a bad choice of gifts..
Sally Barry 3 years ago
There's the tv show, 'Mom', and the ex-husband who was a drunk and druggie and slacker all his life somehow got cleaned up. He married a lovely, but controlling rich woman whose father gave him a good job. They now lived in a nice house and had a nice middle class life. (the new wife made it happen.). He was now living the American dream. Was he happy? Did he WANT all this? It's hard to say. I think he did look back on his lost years as being hellla fun, and he probably misses it in a way. Now, he finds himself married, a dad, going to the country club, having some money....he enjoys that, too. Not what he expected to fall into, but he appreciates all of it. (even if he kind of does wonder how he got there and isn't really sure he deserves it or even wants it. But it turned out well! Everyone was happy, or at least, not unhappy,)
And yet, Dr. Slepian explained that if the secret is something we find troubling or surprising, we might find our thoughts returning to it again and again.
"The secret can weigh on our mind. And if the secret implicates someone you know, then you'll have to keep the secret from them, which will bring its own burden," he added.
While Dr. Slepian thinks it's possible for people to live like an open book, sharing everything with the world, he wouldn't advise it.
"There is a class of secrets that most everyone agrees is okay to keep. People often call these 'white lies,'" he clarified. "If you are just arriving at the party, and your friend asks you how their outfit looks, but it is too late to change, then most people agree that saying something positive is the kinder response ('You look great!'). If the truth needlessly hurts someone's feelings, holding back is often the more compassionate choice."
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DuchessDegu 3 years ago
I don't like the taste of beer, wine or spirits, I'm more than happy with a soft drink or juice. I've done it to stop people asking "but whyyyyyyy?" I don't drink and "just try this one".
There's no exact formula that tells Rob Manuel which submissions he needs to feature on Fesshole. His choices are based on simply going through the list and reading them. Everything depends on his judgment of what he thinks is funny or interesting. So if you send Rob something and it doesn't appear on the account, don't sweat it. There are other online "priests" you can share your secrets with. Like the subreddit r/confessions.
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April Caron 3 years ago
This is why I have a Furbo camera… so I can talk to my animals. My cat is too smart! When he wants my attention… he triggers the camera, so I’ll check on him and have a little chat with him. :)
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Paul C. 3 years ago
My brother-in-law, who is a right know it all, fitted his fridge freezer into his kitchen work tops. For years my sister-in-law complained nothing was ever cold and the freezer took an eternity to do basic freezing......he'd left the Styrofoam encasing the whole of the back.
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Trisha Howson 3 years ago
Well you told him. It on him should of listened sometimes that is what it takes and you can have a laugh about it
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Elizabeth Elliot 3 years ago
Shame on you! Think of all the jobs you're stealing from people with REAL interpretive dance degrees! :)
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Bec 3 years ago
That is really sweet and you'll treasure your time together. I know a family whose son's forced their father out of the business when he got older because he did make mistakes and they were frustrated, then when the older brother got older, the younger forced the older brother out too... karma
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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Well, you have to vent somewhere, and doing it in private, with others in the same shitty boat, is the best and most supportive place.
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Donkey boi 3 years ago
If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times... Humans should have hooves!
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Brad McCleary 3 years ago
I'm torn on this one. One one hand, it feels wrong to go that long without telling him you've cheated on him, but on the other hand, telling him could cause a permanent rift in your relationship, so keeping it secret is best
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Laura Ketteridge 3 years ago
Gross misconduct is gross misconduct. It doesn't matter if it was her birthday or not.
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SykesDaMan 3 years ago
What I got from this story is more in the line "B.S jobs" than working "smarter"...
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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Have to be honest. Real D**k Move, whoever the f**k you are.
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Panda Kicki 3 years ago
That was not OK. Every minute the bowel is left exposed increases the risk of infections and complications. Your embarrasment is rather unimportant compared to your parients health.
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SykesDaMan 3 years ago
Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
Toby Flenderson 3 years ago
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
Justme 3 years ago (edited)
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
Victoria Pitt 3 years ago
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Anita Marx 3 years ago
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Anita Marx 3 years ago
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
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deanna woods 3 years ago
I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
Unpluggedinspace 3 years ago
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
SykesDaMan 3 years ago
Some of these were sweet, but most are either sad or horrible (or both): Stealing! Yaaaaaaay!!!
Toby Flenderson 3 years ago
While I understand the urge, I just can’t get behind the theft and destruction of personal property some of these blithely retell.
Justme 3 years ago (edited)
My SO accidentally tripped me when I was 7 months pregnant. It was totally an accident and I said I was fine. My water broke and the baby died. They think these two events were unrelated. I understand there were a series of events that caused her death and not just this, but they would most certainly blame themselves. I never even told our doctor that I know why my water broke.
Victoria Pitt 3 years ago
I have a confession. When I was 22 I got my first full time design job with a marketing company. Shortly after I was hired, I discovered that the guy who sat at my computer before me (and no longer worked there) had left himself signed in to his ebay account. Because I was a very dumb young adult, I thought it would be funny to order something ridiculous and have it sent to his house. I ordered a blow up doll. Ha ha now at 39 it makes me chuckle but I do feel a little bad.
Anita Marx 3 years ago
Most of the stories are by one guy, so I guess, his life is so boring he fantasies about the life of 100 others summed up in his imaginary life.
Anita Marx 3 years ago
Sorry the guy is not one person, my fingers was faster than my head.
Load More Replies... deanna woods 3 years ago
I talk to my grandmother sometimes. I tell her about work and life. She died in 2003. I also still sleep with a stuffed animal. I am thirty six years old.
Unpluggedinspace 3 years ago
None of these are juicy. “My biggest secret is I love my dog” ….great.
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