35 Times Stubborn Kids Proved That Their Parents Can’t Make Them Eat Anything They Don’t Want To

When I turned 5, my favorite film was The Wizard of Oz. I was obsessed with Dorothy and watched the movie on VHS every day. So for my birthday, my parents pulled out all the stops and got me a ruby red slipper cake. It was shaped like the famous shoes from the film, which I of course also had a pair of that I refused to take off, and was covered in red glittery frosting. After taking one bite, however, I had an absolute meltdown because I didn’t like the taste of the icing. I’m not sure if red food coloring actually has a strong taste or if it was all in my head, but looking back on that experience makes me cringe. I imagine that my parents had to use all their energy to stop themselves from smashing my face into the beautiful cake.

Preparing food for children can be a painful experience. What they devoured yesterday and said they wanted to eat every single day for the rest of their lives might be deemed disgusting today. The bread has to be cut exactly the right way, the butter has to be the perfect temperature because if it melts and can’t be seen it might as well have disappeared, the fruit can’t be ugly, and if the apple starts to turn brown several minutes after being cut, you might as well throw it in the trash. Kids’ preferences can change rapidly, but one thing is for sure: their preferences are powerful. 

If you have children, I’m sure you are familiar with the frustrating experience of finding the perfect recipe for dinner, getting it pre-approved by your little ones, having them help out in the kitchen, and then when it comes time to sit down for dinner, your kids refuse to try even one bite. I don’t have children of my own, but I have worked with many and lived with two as an au pair, and let me tell you: meal times could be incredibly stressful.

Sometimes kids just don’t know what they want. Whether they ask for a certain vegetable that they did not realize is green or they saw a food on a cartoon and requested it without realizing the real-life version could never live up to their expectations, children have no problem refusing foods. Picky eating is common among kids, as the unknown can be scary and if they are not introduced to certain foods early on they can seem unappealing, but the stories on this list are even funnier than outright denying a particular food. These kids got their parents’ hopes up only to squash them and leave them with a pot full of mushroom soup leftovers to eat the rest of the week. 

I have seen this happen many times with the children I have babysat and au paired for as well. “Mom, I really want broccoli!” He then would proceed to eat one nibble off the top of a piece. And honestly, calling it a nibble is being generous. “Adelaide, can you make me a cheese sandwich?” I would then present what I would consider a stunning sandwich only to be met with, “No! It’s UGLY! Throw it in the trash and make another!” Having kids is certainly no walk in the park. 

To gain some insight from an expert on why it can be so challenging to get kids to eat sometimes, we reached out to Sarah Remmer's lead counselling dietician, Lesley Langille, MS, RD. "Feeding kids is tough," Lesley told Bored Panda. "The foods they love on Tuesday can equally go untouched on Thursday. As a pediatric dietitian, I am not immune to the challenges of picky eating. I have two very different eaters although they were offered the same foods and same mealtime rules. I think what’s important to remember is that as a parent it’s not actually my job to get my kids to eat. Whether my kids eat (and how much they eat) is completely up to them!"

"The method of feeding kids we teach within the counselling practice (The Centre for Family Nutrition) and use in feeding our own kids is called Ellyn Satter’s Division of Responsibility (sDOR)," Lesley shared. "This feeding approach is built on loving boundaries. Kids thrive on structure, but they also need to develop the ability to become independent and to learn competence (and confidence) in eating. According to the sDOR, parents are responsible for the feeding environment, regulating timing of meals and snacks, and deciding what foods to purchase, prepare and offer," Lesley explained. "Kids on the other hand, are responsible for if and how much they eat! Which is completely different from the way we were often fed! No more 'take a bite' or 'finish your plate' mentality. If your kid is requesting a specific meal or snack, I think it’s okay to offer, remembering that what foods are offered in your household are ultimately your choice. If they decide that they don’t want to eat what they requested that’s okay too. As frustrating as it is, remind yourself that your job in the feeding relationship is done once food has been offered."

We were also curious if picky eating is something parents should be concerned about or if it's usually a passing phase. "Picky eating is something every parent will eventually experience," Lesley says. "At around age two-years we tend to see picky eating habits increase as this is when, developmentally, kids become a bit more independent and start to understand and assign fear. That safe and familiar food that they used to love might become a bit scarier with green spots or a burnt edge. Or they might get frustrated with spooning their own yogurt and not eat as much."

"What we need to do as parents is to keep practicing the sDOR and let our kids learn," Lesley told Bored Panda. "The more kids practice eating and exploring foods the more their confidence grows. It’s this confidence that helps kids break through the picky eating phases. However, for some kids picky eating can be extreme and require intervention from a dietitian. If your child has developed food anxiety or eats fewer than 2-3 foods per food group, I would recommend seeking help from a pediatric dietitian."

When it comes to her tips for getting picky kids eating more, Lesley told Bored Panda, "Motivation to eat really needs to be internal (I want to eat) versus external (please eat your veggies). One of the best things you can do to help a stubborn eater gain the motivation is to ask for their help! Help in the kitchen such as washing veggies or mixing ingredients will allow your stubborn eater to explore food in a pressure-free way. The bonus is that kids who have a hand in the food being made are more likely to consume it. Kids can also help decide their food choices with a structured choice – for example, would you like an apple or banana with your cookie. This helps kids gain confidence and feel like they have a voice in their own consumption."

"As a mom to a stubborn eater, I would say my biggest tip would be to remain calm," Lesley shared. "When kids reject food, it can be frustrating and the desire to scream 'just eat it' can bubble to the surface. I get it. But that one-bite of broccoli mixed with toddler tears is not going to add a whole lot of nutritional value. What’s more important is that kids learn to explore food at their own pace and that as parents we help create the opportunities for them to do so."

Lastly, Lesley shared, "What I love about the sDOR is that it is built on trust – my kids are trusting me to provide them with everything they need to grow and thrive, while at the same time learning to trust what their bodies are telling them. This is what helps them develop a healthy and long-term relationship with food – which is the ultimate wish for my kids."

If you're interested in gaining more expertise from Lesley, you can check out Sarah Remmer's website right here and her Instagram right here.

The thing is, it can be impossible to get kids to do things they don’t want to do. Regardless of how impressionable they may be, they can also be incredibly stubborn. And considering that children’s personalities really start showing between the ages of 3 and 5, if they have made their minds up about a certain food or meal, it can be extremely hard to change it. You might be thinking that a kid will always eat a food if they help with the preparation because they want to enjoy the fruits of their labor, but sadly, it’s not that easy.

As Lucy’s tweet goes to show, being involved can mean nothing to a child. And I can vouch with personal stories as well. I have helped a child prepare a salad that he was thrilled to make, as he chose all of the ingredients and cut them up while I supervised, and he still wanted no part in eating it. His job was to make it and serve it to others, apparently. And it does not only happen with vegetables. This same child would request that we make cupcakes, brownies and pies and then proceed to ask for ice cream or the cookies from the store instead while everyone else was trying his creation. Kids can be impossible to understand.