40 “That’s Not How Women Work” Moments Shared In This Online Group (New Pics)
Confidence and ignorance are a dangerous mix, and it can be especially potent when it comes to men who feel that they have the right to tell women what to do. On the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit, moderators and contributors catalog the craziest cases of men (and, in odd cases, even women) sharing their most head-scratching takes on women’s minds, bodies and rights.
In the very best-case scenario, some of these might be ignorant but well-wishing ignorant men who are open to learning from their mistakes. In many cases, however, these may be representatives of darker online communities whose members can be affected by mental health issues and a downward spiral of hate against women.
We’ll break down what some of these communities are and the real-world dangers they may present to women below.
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An Oldie But Goodie
“Instagram Wisdom”
Incels (involuntary celibate) are one of the more hateful misogynistic communities online. Some members have even been involved in real-world violence against women. Unfortunately, they aren’t the only misogynistic online community. Other toxic communities in the broader “manosphere” - a coalition of sites online oriented towards men’s issues - include:
- MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way): Men advocating their separation into a woman-less society;
- The red-pill community: A broader online community that idolizes what it sees as traditional gender roles and masculine ideals. Many men in this community hold misogynistic beliefs about women’s familial responsibilities and roles.
- MRA (Men’s Rights Activists): The men’s rights movement is a broader movement advocating a focus on numerous issues affecting men. Some members of this movement see women as adversaries in solving men’s issues, while others embrace feminism.
- Pick-up artists: This is a community of men who see women primarily as objects of desire and believe that the use of specific algorithms or formulas - collectively called “game” - will help them attract women.
Read on for one professor’s insights into the problem of online misogyny.
Pants Are Evil
No pants huh? Guess I'll just walk around in my undies then since I don't wear skirts or dresses
Sure You Did And The Roast Xd
What A Piece Of S***t!
Sweetie, guess he doesn't understand how human beings work, he's a psycho
Why Aren't Women More Superficial?
Imagine that dude's personality... both dudes actually
Bored Panda reached out to Professor Chuka Nestor Emezue, Ph.D., MPH, MPA, CHES at Rush University for additional insights into the problem of misogynistic hate online. As an expert on children’s, women’s, and family health, Professor Emezue has conducted research into these hateful online communities and potential de-radicalization interventions.
For many of us, it seems like comments like these might be products of ignorance. Professor Emezue explained, however, that it’s not that simple: “I believe that ignorance is not the root cause of the issue at hand. It is too easy to just blame a lack of awareness of what is moral and sensible today. The current global climate surrounding masculinity has created a perfect storm - contributing to this rise in global misogyny. Factors such as unattended mental health problems, hopelessness, progress made by women in various fields, extremist political beliefs that reinforce male dominance, and poverty contribute to this phenomenon.”
Another Alpha Male
Hard pass. First he's getting rid of your guy friends, next it's your girl friends, next it's your family. Learned that one the hard way.
Sir That Is Not How This Works
What The F**k Does That Mean 😭
I had a cousin tell me that I should put my daughter on an olive oil diet to cure her autism. Oh, and never take her out in public. That I should put her in an institution. “People don’t want to see that!” Yeah. She’s my joy. I want to see that.
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The old problem: to misogynists women are not people, they're a half human subspecies that doesn't have issues, needs, pain or emotions. They don't have body functions or something like that. They're all just faking it. Didn't you know? /s tag to be clear but sadly that's exactly what those guys believe. That's also the reason why they're feeling entitled to sex whenever they treat you normally, firmly believing they're done a deed by treating you like a normal human being.
unfortunately we still don't know a lot abt autism and a lot of that research is biased towards men, so that's why ppl like this guy exist
I was just reading an article about autism in women. The author said they fear autism is very under diagnosed in women because current model of what autism is is very male biased. Said that autism presents differently in women a lot of times. If I can find it again I'll link it. Most of it was over my head so I don't know if it was bs or not
Very true. My bio female child wasn’t diagnosed until 14. Females present very differently than males and the diagnostic tests were written around male behavior. My child saw multiple therapists for years and none of them ever mentioned autism. It’s only been in the last 5-10 years that females on the spectrum have really been recognized, unless their symptoms are serious. Many females with ASD are misdiagnosed with other things, including borderline personality disorder.
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My doctors were wrong? That's so great, I'm not autistic any more. Whew, that was close...
Just because it is more prevalent and more easily diagnosed in men, doesn't mean women can't be autistic.
Heck, some people around me do not even think autism is real and I should just "man up", "Stop thinking in weird ways etc.
im afab, and i have autism. guess im appropriating (eyeroll)
Are you my child? Could be, and I didn’t know you were on BP! :)
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I'm surprised that someone this stupid knows what appropriate means.
Should I laugh or should I not? 'M so confused as to laugh or have pity on the person..
The sad thing is doctors believe this until relatively recently :(
One sad thing the internet have taught me: before, you knew there were some idiots around you. Now, you realize they're all around the world.
Things like ADHD, colorblindness, dyslexia and autism could be more common in men. But never unheard of in women. This is just simply untrue and stupid
Loll a lot of my autistic friends r afab- I'm also afab and think I might be autistic-
Finally Found One In The Wild
The Ever-Confusing Hymen
The hymen is not like one of those freshness seals! It may not even tear even after having sex many times. It can tear from running, stretching etc. Why can’t people just understand this?
Leading social media platforms and online communities have taken steps to de-platform incels and other misogynistic communities, but they are certain to find places to congregate elsewhere. And even so, many of the comments mocked by the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit are found on mainstream platforms like Twitter.
Professor Emezue helped understand the importance of these communities to incels and others, who see them as a respite from what they perceive as unfair treatment by women or society at large: “I believe that these online channels provide a sense of belonging and companionship to many incels who may not have these connections in their daily lives. Young incels on these social media platforms egg each other on. You should expect many will double down on their beliefs and efforts to subjugate women.”
“It's quite uncomplicated really,” Professor Emezue continued. “Nobody wants to lose. And when you allow yourself to be so convinced that others are to blame for your misplacement in society, anything that presents itself as a way out will suffice. In this case, as many boys and men grow hopeless, or feel like they cannot compete in the home, in the workplace, and elsewhere, they must find someone to blame. In this case, incels believe that females, feminism, and 'wokeness' are the culprits.”
Don't Miss Out Your Biology Classes!
Apparently We’re Bonded To Everyone
Yes, Stick It Into My Urethra 😩
Not How Abortions Work
This is exactly the crux of the matter. People (men) are making decisions about a woman’s right to an abortion when they have no idea what they’re talking about.
Womens Bodies Aren’t Actually Theirs
I Don’t Think Any Of These People Ever Go Outside
I guess this proves the point that it's not about the clothes
I Need .. I Need... A Mother
"5min Of Continuons Sex"
Women In Their 20’s-30’s = Old Chunky Milk
Attractive Girlfriends Have Literally Thousands Of Other Options And Therefore Won't Stay Faithful Apparently
Of Course Some Men Think They Can Do This Better
This Is Why We Need Sex Ed
Wow, And I Had No Idea
Saw This Gem On Fb Today
Found In The Wild
Vito Barbieri Thinks The Vagina Can Be Accessed By The Mouth? An Old But Good One
Oh Yeah Women Are Only Here To Be The Beautiful Wifes Of Men
Somehow I Just *know* This Boy Needs All Women To Get 2 Or 3 Stitches 😬😆
Women Don't Use Computers
A Groundbreaking Discovery Of Gspot By This Bozo
Is It Even More Painful To See Women Spreading This Type Of Nonsense?
I Just Don’t Think There’s Any Research Backing That Up
Bro What 😐
In that case we should give it to the real real gamers, who spend no time streaming anything because they have better things to do
I Have No Words
Women Can’t Be Software Engineers, Apparently
Another Guy Trying To Downplay Childbirth And Lying Horribly About It
I Love Being A Woman
Why Is This Their First Thought ?!!
Ffs I kinda want this to be a joke but even if it is I wanna burn this tweet down
Note: this post originally had 118 images. It’s been shortened to the top 40 images based on user votes.
I stopped at number 10. I can't. This is just too cringe and infuriating.
I got to 28 before I felt too many brain cells dying.
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While I agree with that, I don't know if it would save some of these troglodytes.
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SHE'S NOT DRESSED LIKE A SL U T YOU JUST THINK LIKE A RAPIST.
"Not all men..." Dude, there should be ANY men like the ones in this article. If you are tolerating them instead of actively weeding them out, you can't say "not all men..." because you're complicit in allowing this subset of men to exist and promulgate their idiocy. Tolerating evil is just as evil as actually being evil.
I agree there shouldn't be any. But then THOSE men that show their idiocy like this are the ones that should be called out. No need to drag us all with them, as if this kind of idiocy was inherent to being male, or as if every other man agreed with the idiots from this list. What I mean is, if a man says a stupid thing, he should be called out for the stupid thing he said, not because of his gender. We could have an article about women saying dumb things too, and we're not gonna label all women as dumb because of 40 examples.
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Congratulate me, I made it to 14 before the urge to barf was overwhelmed by me bashing my head against the wall whilst simultaneously facepalming. What f*****g morons.
How do these people appear in the first place? I mean, they're obviously literate and have access to the Internet and all our knowledge. HOW did they manage to stay so criminally uninformed? 🙈
media bubble; they stay in the same FB/reddit group and discuss theories with equally moronic morons.
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Thanks for putting "misogynist" at the top, and not "men", which sometimes happens. It means a lot that the majority of us are not lumped in with these ignorant a******s.
B******t. If the majority of you weren't like this you'd call the others out and they would cut it out in a heartbeat. You just don't want to call out other guys.
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No lucky stars. Sounds like you're smart and know what's good for you.
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Reading that on an already s****y Monday morning was not the smartest move. Made it to 42 and had to stop or I wouldn't be able to write this
WOW ... HOW?!? That's incredible. You must be SUPER tolerant , seriously.
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Ohhh, lord. These people are just walking about free with as much voting power as I have. Ohhh, god...
I'm thinking of sharing this with my kids when they get older, so we can discuss why all the writers of the original posts are sociopaths.
Every time this subject pops up it's 99 percent (lack of) Education Education Education influenced by Religion Religion Religion.
Good god, there are truly some misinformed unfortunately souls out there yeesh
I keep seeing them say imprint. In my head this dude is dating baby ducks and if he doesn't swoop in early the duck won't imprint him as it's mommy and the relationship will be ruined before it ever begins.
I'm curious how common this mindset is. Like, does this level of ignorance and misogyny represent 20% of men, or a vocal .01%?
I've met several, sadly. I'd guess about half, based on a small sample size. You can tell in advance by whether they have a harley, a leather jacket, or a copy of anything by Jordan Peterson in their book collection.
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yall we need to make a sex-ed part of bored panda for idiots
I cling to the hope that these posters are unable to find a partner and thus are removed from the gene pool. What really disgusted me, was that at least one was by a woman... sigh...
Oh man, this is bad. Dear girls: you rule the world. If you team up and prevent apes like these to procreate, you'll have saved this planet within a generation. Seriously. This needs to stop.
I just can't with these people. Female-identifying pandas, I can't imagine how bloody terrible it must be too be on the receipt of this kind of ideology every single day.
... now that I feel rather nauseated... I realize... aaaall these individuals (if this is serious... I"m still finding it hard to believe this is real) - are up for a Darwin Award - we should give each of them one. Please. BIiiiiig ol' Darwin award...
These guys could get reincarnated millions of years from now into a world where preying mantises have evolved into the dominant species, and post how unfair it is they get eaten after sex. Some female preying mantis Jordan Petersen will reply how stupid they are not to understand the natural logic of the status quo
As an actual man and not a whiny loser like the 110 or so guys posting up there, I have a few things to say. These boys don't represent all Men. Most of them have probably never had sex. The hatred they direct at all women is probably towards just 1 woman they found attractive and turned them down. They only seem to care about themselves and most of them apparently have never made a woman orgasm, probably because they thought doing what felt good to them should automatically make the women climax too. Lovely ladies, you have options. This is a great list of early warning signs. Boys think with their penises, Men have self control and care about the women they are with. And to the moron who can't find the clit, maybe you're secretly gay, because it's right there on every woman and they enjoy when you touch it gently, just not directly, stay on the hood. Also, there sure were a lot of pedos. I still don't get the shaved vagina intrigue, I prefer a lady with hair down there.
As an actual woman this comment doesn't reassure me of much, and for many reasons makes me feel rather uncomfortable...
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You'll be excited to know that I find that many men here in SA are like this. IE stupid misogyny is not specifically a USA disease.
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NO YOU CAN'T and women like you, voting for men with opinions on WOMBS THEY DON'T HAVE, are the reason countries are led by misogynistic, sexist, chauvinistic bigots.
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I stopped at number 10. I can't. This is just too cringe and infuriating.
I got to 28 before I felt too many brain cells dying.
Load More Replies... While I agree with that, I don't know if it would save some of these troglodytes.
Load More Replies... SHE'S NOT DRESSED LIKE A SL U T YOU JUST THINK LIKE A RAPIST.
"Not all men..." Dude, there should be ANY men like the ones in this article. If you are tolerating them instead of actively weeding them out, you can't say "not all men..." because you're complicit in allowing this subset of men to exist and promulgate their idiocy. Tolerating evil is just as evil as actually being evil.
I agree there shouldn't be any. But then THOSE men that show their idiocy like this are the ones that should be called out. No need to drag us all with them, as if this kind of idiocy was inherent to being male, or as if every other man agreed with the idiots from this list. What I mean is, if a man says a stupid thing, he should be called out for the stupid thing he said, not because of his gender. We could have an article about women saying dumb things too, and we're not gonna label all women as dumb because of 40 examples.
Load More Replies... Congratulate me, I made it to 14 before the urge to barf was overwhelmed by me bashing my head against the wall whilst simultaneously facepalming. What f*****g morons.
How do these people appear in the first place? I mean, they're obviously literate and have access to the Internet and all our knowledge. HOW did they manage to stay so criminally uninformed? 🙈
media bubble; they stay in the same FB/reddit group and discuss theories with equally moronic morons.
Load More Replies... Thanks for putting "misogynist" at the top, and not "men", which sometimes happens. It means a lot that the majority of us are not lumped in with these ignorant a******s.
B******t. If the majority of you weren't like this you'd call the others out and they would cut it out in a heartbeat. You just don't want to call out other guys.
Load More Replies... No lucky stars. Sounds like you're smart and know what's good for you.
Load More Replies... Reading that on an already s****y Monday morning was not the smartest move. Made it to 42 and had to stop or I wouldn't be able to write this
WOW ... HOW?!? That's incredible. You must be SUPER tolerant , seriously.
Load More Replies... Ohhh, lord. These people are just walking about free with as much voting power as I have. Ohhh, god...
I'm thinking of sharing this with my kids when they get older, so we can discuss why all the writers of the original posts are sociopaths.
Every time this subject pops up it's 99 percent (lack of) Education Education Education influenced by Religion Religion Religion.
Good god, there are truly some misinformed unfortunately souls out there yeesh
I keep seeing them say imprint. In my head this dude is dating baby ducks and if he doesn't swoop in early the duck won't imprint him as it's mommy and the relationship will be ruined before it ever begins.
I'm curious how common this mindset is. Like, does this level of ignorance and misogyny represent 20% of men, or a vocal .01%?
I've met several, sadly. I'd guess about half, based on a small sample size. You can tell in advance by whether they have a harley, a leather jacket, or a copy of anything by Jordan Peterson in their book collection.
Load More Replies... yall we need to make a sex-ed part of bored panda for idiots
I cling to the hope that these posters are unable to find a partner and thus are removed from the gene pool. What really disgusted me, was that at least one was by a woman... sigh...
Oh man, this is bad. Dear girls: you rule the world. If you team up and prevent apes like these to procreate, you'll have saved this planet within a generation. Seriously. This needs to stop.
I just can't with these people. Female-identifying pandas, I can't imagine how bloody terrible it must be too be on the receipt of this kind of ideology every single day.
... now that I feel rather nauseated... I realize... aaaall these individuals (if this is serious... I"m still finding it hard to believe this is real) - are up for a Darwin Award - we should give each of them one. Please. BIiiiiig ol' Darwin award...
These guys could get reincarnated millions of years from now into a world where preying mantises have evolved into the dominant species, and post how unfair it is they get eaten after sex. Some female preying mantis Jordan Petersen will reply how stupid they are not to understand the natural logic of the status quo
As an actual man and not a whiny loser like the 110 or so guys posting up there, I have a few things to say. These boys don't represent all Men. Most of them have probably never had sex. The hatred they direct at all women is probably towards just 1 woman they found attractive and turned them down. They only seem to care about themselves and most of them apparently have never made a woman orgasm, probably because they thought doing what felt good to them should automatically make the women climax too. Lovely ladies, you have options. This is a great list of early warning signs. Boys think with their penises, Men have self control and care about the women they are with. And to the moron who can't find the clit, maybe you're secretly gay, because it's right there on every woman and they enjoy when you touch it gently, just not directly, stay on the hood. Also, there sure were a lot of pedos. I still don't get the shaved vagina intrigue, I prefer a lady with hair down there.
As an actual woman this comment doesn't reassure me of much, and for many reasons makes me feel rather uncomfortable...
Load More Replies... You'll be excited to know that I find that many men here in SA are like this. IE stupid misogyny is not specifically a USA disease.
Load More Replies... NO YOU CAN'T and women like you, voting for men with opinions on WOMBS THEY DON'T HAVE, are the reason countries are led by misogynistic, sexist, chauvinistic bigots.
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