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Confidence and ignorance are a dangerous mix, and it can be especially potent when it comes to men who feel that they have the right to tell women what to do. On the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit, moderators and contributors catalog the craziest cases of men (and, in odd cases, even women) sharing their most head-scratching takes on women’s minds, bodies and rights.

In the very best-case scenario, some of these might be ignorant but well-wishing ignorant men who are open to learning from their mistakes. In many cases, however, these may be representatives of darker online communities whose members can be affected by mental health issues and a downward spiral of hate against women.

We’ll break down what some of these communities are and the real-world dangers they may present to women below.

Incels (involuntary celibate) are one of the more hateful misogynistic communities online. Some members have even been involved in real-world violence against women. Unfortunately, they aren’t the only misogynistic online community. Other toxic communities in the broader “manosphere” - a coalition of sites online oriented towards men’s issues - include:

  • MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way): Men advocating their separation into a woman-less society;
  • The red-pill community: A broader online community that idolizes what it sees as traditional gender roles and masculine ideals. Many men in this community hold misogynistic beliefs about women’s familial responsibilities and roles.
  • MRA (Men’s Rights Activists): The men’s rights movement is a broader movement advocating a focus on numerous issues affecting men. Some members of this movement see women as adversaries in solving men’s issues, while others embrace feminism.
  • Pick-up artists: This is a community of men who see women primarily as objects of desire and believe that the use of specific algorithms or formulas - collectively called “game” - will help them attract women.

Read on for one professor’s insights into the problem of online misogyny.

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Pants Are Evil

Pants Are Evil

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No pants huh? Guess I'll just walk around in my undies then since I don't wear skirts or dresses

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What A Piece Of S***t!

What A Piece Of S***t!

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Why Aren't Women More Superficial?

Why Aren't Women More Superficial?

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Bored Panda reached out to Professor Chuka Nestor Emezue, Ph.D., MPH, MPA, CHES at Rush University for additional insights into the problem of misogynistic hate online. As an expert on children’s, women’s, and family health, Professor Emezue has conducted research into these hateful online communities and potential de-radicalization interventions.

For many of us, it seems like comments like these might be products of ignorance. Professor Emezue explained, however, that it’s not that simple: “I believe that ignorance is not the root cause of the issue at hand. It is too easy to just blame a lack of awareness of what is moral and sensible today. The current global climate surrounding masculinity has created a perfect storm - contributing to this rise in global misogyny. Factors such as unattended mental health problems, hopelessness, progress made by women in various fields, extremist political beliefs that reinforce male dominance, and poverty contribute to this phenomenon.”

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Another Alpha Male

Another Alpha Male

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hard pass. First he's getting rid of your guy friends, next it's your girl friends, next it's your family. Learned that one the hard way.

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Sir That Is Not How This Works

Sir That Is Not How This Works

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow what a concept. Thinking about it, boys shouldn't release sperm till they are 18. Just hold it in.

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The Ever-Confusing Hymen

The Ever-Confusing Hymen

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The hymen is not like one of those freshness seals! It may not even tear even after having sex many times. It can tear from running, stretching etc. Why can’t people just understand this?

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Leading social media platforms and online communities have taken steps to de-platform incels and other misogynistic communities, but they are certain to find places to congregate elsewhere. And even so, many of the comments mocked by the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit are found on mainstream platforms like Twitter.

Professor Emezue helped understand the importance of these communities to incels and others, who see them as a respite from what they perceive as unfair treatment by women or society at large: “I believe that these online channels provide a sense of belonging and companionship to many incels who may not have these connections in their daily lives. Young incels on these social media platforms egg each other on. You should expect many will double down on their beliefs and efforts to subjugate women.”

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“It's quite uncomplicated really,” Professor Emezue continued. “Nobody wants to lose. And when you allow yourself to be so convinced that others are to blame for your misplacement in society, anything that presents itself as a way out will suffice. In this case, as many boys and men grow hopeless, or feel like they cannot compete in the home, in the workplace, and elsewhere, they must find someone to blame. In this case, incels believe that females, feminism, and 'wokeness' are the culprits.”

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Apparently We’re Bonded To Everyone

Apparently We’re Bonded To Everyone

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How to say you've never given a woman sexual satisfaction, without etc

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Yes, Stick It Into My Urethra 😩

Yes, Stick It Into My Urethra 😩

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It still surprise me, how many people think - there is just one hole in the front yard - and that it is somehow pleasuring to put catheter or tampon...how.on earth. could that be pleasuring.

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Not How Abortions Work

Not How Abortions Work

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is exactly the crux of the matter. People (men) are making decisions about a woman’s right to an abortion when they have no idea what they’re talking about.

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Womens Bodies Aren’t Actually Theirs

Womens Bodies Aren’t Actually Theirs

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, then they should be taking better care of it. What's all this fat and wrinkles? Huh?

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I Don’t Think Any Of These People Ever Go Outside

I Don’t Think Any Of These People Ever Go Outside

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I Need .. I Need... A Mother

I Need .. I Need... A Mother

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"5min Of Continuons Sex"

"5min Of Continuons Sex"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

5 whole minutes of continuous sex? …and none of these women had an orgasm? You do surprise me…

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Women In Their 20’s-30’s = Old Chunky Milk

Women In Their 20’s-30’s = Old Chunky Milk

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Idiot wants a girl instead of a woman, he's a pedo. This ensures she can't compare him with other men. Probably the type that will groom her into submission and thinks he has the right to abuse her. Men like this need to be locked up.

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Attractive Girlfriends Have Literally Thousands Of Other Options And Therefore Won't Stay Faithful Apparently

Attractive Girlfriends Have Literally Thousands Of Other Options And Therefore Won't Stay Faithful Apparently

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#23

Of Course Some Men Think They Can Do This Better

Of Course Some Men Think They Can Do This Better

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#24

This Is Why We Need Sex Ed

This Is Why We Need Sex Ed

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's right. Remember everyone, hold it in till you are 18 and stop menstruating at 25. I'm learning so much today! 🤣

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Vito Barbieri Thinks The Vagina Can Be Accessed By The Mouth? An Old But Good One

Vito Barbieri Thinks The Vagina Can Be Accessed By The Mouth? An Old But Good One

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too funny. Yet he apparently ties his own shoes and go to the big boy bathroom by himself. 🤣

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Oh Yeah Women Are Only Here To Be The Beautiful Wifes Of Men

Oh Yeah Women Are Only Here To Be The Beautiful Wifes Of Men

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Phew lucky escape there! Quick marry each other! Lovely couple. Makes me smile everytime this comes up

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Somehow I Just *know* This Boy Needs All Women To Get 2 Or 3 Stitches 😬😆

Somehow I Just *know* This Boy Needs All Women To Get 2 Or 3 Stitches 😬😆

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Women Don't Use Computers

Women Don't Use Computers

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hahaha it's a f*****g Lenovo! I've had sewing machines that are more complicated.

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A Groundbreaking Discovery Of Gspot By This Bozo

A Groundbreaking Discovery Of Gspot By This Bozo

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's someone who not only doesn't know about human anatomy,but also only watches porn.

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I Just Don’t Think There’s Any Research Backing That Up

I Just Don’t Think There’s Any Research Backing That Up

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Bro What 😐

Bro What 😐

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In that case we should give it to the real real gamers, who spend no time streaming anything because they have better things to do

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I Have No Words

I Have No Words

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Women Can’t Be Software Engineers, Apparently

Women Can’t Be Software Engineers, Apparently

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#37

Another Guy Trying To Downplay Childbirth And Lying Horribly About It

Another Guy Trying To Downplay Childbirth And Lying Horribly About It

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I Love Being A Woman

I Love Being A Woman

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well then I have an interesting thought experiment for you. Let's say that all woman die shortly after 30. I bet men are thrilled to rise their kinds alone. And of course, children need a father figure, but a mother figure? For what?

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Why Is This Their First Thought ?!!

Why Is This Their First Thought ?!!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ffs I kinda want this to be a joke but even if it is I wanna burn this tweet down

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