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Confidence and ignorance are a dangerous mix, and it can be especially potent when it comes to men who feel that they have the right to tell women what to do. On the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit, moderators and contributors catalog the craziest cases of men (and, in odd cases, even women) sharing their most head-scratching takes on women’s minds, bodies and rights.
In the very best-case scenario, some of these might be ignorant but well-wishing ignorant men who are open to learning from their mistakes. In many cases, however, these may be representatives of darker online communities whose members can be affected by mental health issues and a downward spiral of hate against women.
We’ll break down what some of these communities are and the real-world dangers they may present to women below.
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#2
“Instagram Wisdom”
Incels (involuntary celibate) are one of the more hateful misogynistic communities online. Some members have even been involved in real-world violence against women. Unfortunately, they aren’t the only misogynistic online community. Other toxic communities in the broader “manosphere” - a coalition of sites online oriented towards men’s issues - include:
- MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way): Men advocating their separation into a woman-less society;
- The red-pill community: A broader online community that idolizes what it sees as traditional gender roles and masculine ideals. Many men in this community hold misogynistic beliefs about women’s familial responsibilities and roles.
- MRA (Men’s Rights Activists): The men’s rights movement is a broader movement advocating a focus on numerous issues affecting men. Some members of this movement see women as adversaries in solving men’s issues, while others embrace feminism.
- Pick-up artists: This is a community of men who see women primarily as objects of desire and believe that the use of specific algorithms or formulas - collectively called “game” - will help them attract women.
Read on for one professor’s insights into the problem of online misogyny.
#3
Pants Are Evil
The Doom Song 2 years ago
No pants huh? Guess I'll just walk around in my undies then since I don't wear skirts or dresses
#4
Sure You Did And The Roast Xd
#5
What A Piece Of S***t!
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
Sweetie, guess he doesn't understand how human beings work, he's a psycho
#6
Why Aren't Women More Superficial?
Bored Panda reached out to Professor Chuka Nestor Emezue, Ph.D., MPH, MPA, CHES at Rush University for additional insights into the problem of misogynistic hate online. As an expert on children’s, women’s, and family health, Professor Emezue has conducted research into these hateful online communities and potential de-radicalization interventions.
For many of us, it seems like comments like these might be products of ignorance. Professor Emezue explained, however, that it’s not that simple: “I believe that ignorance is not the root cause of the issue at hand. It is too easy to just blame a lack of awareness of what is moral and sensible today. The current global climate surrounding masculinity has created a perfect storm - contributing to this rise in global misogyny. Factors such as unattended mental health problems, hopelessness, progress made by women in various fields, extremist political beliefs that reinforce male dominance, and poverty contribute to this phenomenon.”
#7
Another Alpha Male
Awesome At Being Autistic 2 years ago
Hard pass. First he's getting rid of your guy friends, next it's your girl friends, next it's your family. Learned that one the hard way.
#8
Sir That Is Not How This Works
#9
What The F**k Does That Mean 😭
#10
Finally Found One In The Wild
#11
The Ever-Confusing Hymen
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
The hymen is not like one of those freshness seals! It may not even tear even after having sex many times. It can tear from running, stretching etc. Why can’t people just understand this?
Leading social media platforms and online communities have taken steps to de-platform incels and other misogynistic communities, but they are certain to find places to congregate elsewhere. And even so, many of the comments mocked by the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit are found on mainstream platforms like Twitter.
Professor Emezue helped understand the importance of these communities to incels and others, who see them as a respite from what they perceive as unfair treatment by women or society at large: “I believe that these online channels provide a sense of belonging and companionship to many incels who may not have these connections in their daily lives. Young incels on these social media platforms egg each other on. You should expect many will double down on their beliefs and efforts to subjugate women.”
“It's quite uncomplicated really,” Professor Emezue continued. “Nobody wants to lose. And when you allow yourself to be so convinced that others are to blame for your misplacement in society, anything that presents itself as a way out will suffice. In this case, as many boys and men grow hopeless, or feel like they cannot compete in the home, in the workplace, and elsewhere, they must find someone to blame. In this case, incels believe that females, feminism, and 'wokeness' are the culprits.”
#13
Don't Miss Out Your Biology Classes!
#14
Apparently We’re Bonded To Everyone
#15
Yes, Stick It Into My Urethra 😩
#16
Not How Abortions Work
#17
Womens Bodies Aren’t Actually Theirs
#18
I Don’t Think Any Of These People Ever Go Outside
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
I guess this proves the point that it's not about the clothes
#19
I Need .. I Need... A Mother
#20
"5min Of Continuons Sex"
#21
Women In Their 20’s-30’s = Old Chunky Milk
#22
Attractive Girlfriends Have Literally Thousands Of Other Options And Therefore Won't Stay Faithful Apparently
#23
Of Course Some Men Think They Can Do This Better
#24
This Is Why We Need Sex Ed
#25
Wow, And I Had No Idea
Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger 2 years ago
It's true! I am bisexual and we bisexuals always wear a purse and a backpack at the same time... 🙄
#26
Saw This Gem On Fb Today
#28
Vito Barbieri Thinks The Vagina Can Be Accessed By The Mouth? An Old But Good One
#29
Oh Yeah Women Are Only Here To Be The Beautiful Wifes Of Men
#30
Somehow I Just *know* This Boy Needs All Women To Get 2 Or 3 Stitches 😬😆
#31
Women Don't Use Computers
#32
A Groundbreaking Discovery Of Gspot By This Bozo
#33
I Just Don’t Think There’s Any Research Backing That Up
#34
Bro What 😐
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago (edited)
In that case we should give it to the real real gamers, who spend no time streaming anything because they have better things to do
#35
I Have No Words
#36
Women Can’t Be Software Engineers, Apparently
#37
Another Guy Trying To Downplay Childbirth And Lying Horribly About It
#38
I Love Being A Woman
#39
Why Is This Their First Thought ?!!
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
Ffs I kinda want this to be a joke but even if it is I wanna burn this tweet down
#40
Apparently Men Can't Control Themselves Around Women In College
#41
Eh What??
#42
Women And Their Ungrateful Expectations For Enjoying Sex
#43
Found This On Reddit
#44
Why Are Men
#45
How Lesbians Are Made
#46
I'm... At A Loss Of Words
#47
Found On Facebook. I... Have No Words
#48
If Men Biologically Hate Hair, Why Bald Women Aren't The Pinnacle Of Beauty For Them?
#49
Alright Buddy… It’s Definitely The Women…
#50
“Men Providing Basic Survival In Exchange For Sexual Favors Is So Interwoven Into The Fabric Of Our Society That It Would Collapse Without It.” Ffs 🤦♀️
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
Oh well, since I'm in the 70% of the female students I guess it's my time to say goodbye pandas
#51
Yikes 😬
#52
That's Just Beyond Insane
#53
Ah, Short Skirt... You Must Be Satan's Daughter!
cats_from_the_void 2 years ago
The last skirt- On her way to heaven cos she tripped over a combination of the skirt & your ego while on the stairs
#54
F**king Disgusting
#55
Umm... Who's Gonna Tell Him?
#56
Because Of Oxytocin Bonding Duh
#57
Sir, They Are Lesbians
#58
At Least Morbo Gets It
#59
Who Needs An Education When We Can Have This
#60
Orgasms And Cumming Are 2 Different Things Btw
#61
You Heard It Here Folks, Women Are "Denying" Men Marriage
#62
Line Up Ladies, This Guy's A Huge Catch. Happy International Women's Day!
#63
Being Single Or Childless Isn't That Bad As They Think
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
You're right, we don't! Now excuse me, I'm gonna go pet my two cats and then hug my puppy XD
#64
Women Being Turned On? Never Seen, So It Must Be A Lie
#65
Has Any Woman Ever Lactated Cause A Friend Was Pregnant?
#66
I’m Pretty Sure It’s Not How It Works
#67
Oh God
#68
Yeah Cuz Getting Creepy Men Sending You Sexual Messages Is Totally The Same As Finding Wholesome Relationships 🙄
#69
🤮🤮🤮
MellonCollie 2 years ago
The first comment under this Reddit post says it all: "What kind of pedo playground was this posted on?".
#70
Sure, Bro. You “Know” Women 🙄
#71
Women Love Getting Homework To Prove Their Worthiness
#72
The Incel Forum Describing Joan Of Arc’s Execution
#73
This Ad For A Mobile Game
#74
Real Women Make Ice Cream From Their Breast Milk
cats_from_the_void 2 years ago (edited)
...that might be just you... (but as a hive of sentient cat beings I can't tell, is that what humans are always like?)
#75
Women Are ...*checks Notes* F**k Sockets
#76
😬😬yikes
#78
"Women Will F*ck Anything" 🤦♀️
MonsterMum 2 years ago
Over 80% of hospital admissions due to objects stuck in the patients a**s are male.
#79
'hot Girl Schedule' 🤨
#80
Former Ufc Fighter Unable To Differentiate Between “Some Influencers” And “All Women”
#81
Tate Fanboy Explains Human Trafficking
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
He literally trafficked minors and women who didn’t consent you f*****g clowns!
#83
Girls Ignoring Messages Don’t Want *real* Men Lol
#84
Aint No Way 💀
#85
Seriously Don’t Get What’s Wrong With Flared Pants But Ok 👍🏻
#86
This Is The Book My Creepy Grampa Gave Me As A "Gift"
#87
Women Are Only Happy When Married
#89
Consent Sex Doesn't Mean Consent Pregnancy
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
Ah yes, how dare a woman enjoy sex WITHOUT wanting/intended to get pregnant!
#91
A Guy I Know Just Posted This. He’s Clearly Never Met A Latina Woman
#92
Yeah We Don't Know How Our Vagina Works
#93
Huh What ?
#94
That's Not How That Works
Purple light 2 years ago
Rape is not about getting every woman, it is about having power over someone else and abusing that power in one of the worst ways possible.
#95
The Wall Is Creeping Up On You!
#96
Sir I Think You Are Confused
#97
Got To Love A Meme That Forgets About Consent
#98
It's Not About That At All Is It :/
Feathered Dinosaur 2 years ago
Yep. Sounds about right, totally what I'd do when a hairy zombie tries to force roses on me
#100
I Think Most Fathers Would Disagree
#101
And She Wouldn't Be Wrong
#102
Please Go To Therapy
#103
Til That Hormonal Birth Control Corrodes My Femininity
#104
As A Fellow Female…
cats_from_the_void 2 years ago
THIS F*****G SUBREDDIT :( I can't believe it hasn't been banned yet... god
#105
Saw This On Another Sub. Gee I Wonder Who’s The Problem Here
Aboredpanda 2 years ago
... handy guys are practical spouses to have. Also who cares what their partner does for work if that person makes one happy?
#106
I Don't Even Know Where To Begin
#107
Oh Man Women Who Were Born Without Hymens Must Confuse This Man
#108
Why Just Why?
#109
Chores Are “Girls Work” Now.😒
#110
Idk If I'm Just Stupid But I Don't Get The Wall
Feathered Dinosaur 2 years ago
A woman who knows what she wants and sticks to it, to the pyre with her! /s
#111
Stupid Incel Meme
#112
Idiots When Women Aren’t Helpless And Wear Pants: 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
#113
Why ??
#114
Really?
#116
You Can Guess What Sub This Was From, I Don’t Even Know What Goes On Through Their Heads
cats_from_the_void 2 years ago (edited)
SHE'S NOT DRESSED LIKE A SL U T YOU JUST THINK LIKE A RAPIST.
#117
What Even?
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Crazy Meerkat Lady 2 years ago
I stopped at number 10. I can't. This is just too cringe and infuriating.
Adam Belaire 2 years ago
I got to 28 before I felt too many brain cells dying.
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Speedgoat 2 years ago
While I agree with that, I don't know if it would save some of these troglodytes.
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Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
"Not all men..." Dude, there should be ANY men like the ones in this article. If you are tolerating them instead of actively weeding them out, you can't say "not all men..." because you're complicit in allowing this subset of men to exist and promulgate their idiocy. Tolerating evil is just as evil as actually being evil.
OmMarol 2 years ago
I agree there shouldn't be any. But then THOSE men that show their idiocy like this are the ones that should be called out. No need to drag us all with them, as if this kind of idiocy was inherent to being male, or as if every other man agreed with the idiots from this list. What I mean is, if a man says a stupid thing, he should be called out for the stupid thing he said, not because of his gender. We could have an article about women saying dumb things too, and we're not gonna label all women as dumb because of 40 examples.
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censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Congratulate me, I made it to 14 before the urge to barf was overwhelmed by me bashing my head against the wall whilst simultaneously facepalming. What f*****g morons.
Daria 2 years ago
How do these people appear in the first place? I mean, they're obviously literate and have access to the Internet and all our knowledge. HOW did they manage to stay so criminally uninformed? 🙈
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
media bubble; they stay in the same FB/reddit group and discuss theories with equally moronic morons.
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XenoMurph 2 years ago
Thanks for putting "misogynist" at the top, and not "men", which sometimes happens. It means a lot that the majority of us are not lumped in with these ignorant a******s.
TMoxraaar 2 years ago
B******t. If the majority of you weren't like this you'd call the others out and they would cut it out in a heartbeat. You just don't want to call out other guys.
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Lana Lana Banana 2 years ago
No lucky stars. Sounds like you're smart and know what's good for you.
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Justine Palvadeau Merceron 2 years ago
Reading that on an already s****y Monday morning was not the smartest move. Made it to 42 and had to stop or I wouldn't be able to write this
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
WOW ... HOW?!? That's incredible. You must be SUPER tolerant , seriously.
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Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
Ohhh, lord. These people are just walking about free with as much voting power as I have. Ohhh, god...
Bonnie Buttons 2 years ago
I'm thinking of sharing this with my kids when they get older, so we can discuss why all the writers of the original posts are sociopaths.
Pan Narrans 2 years ago
Every time this subject pops up it's 99 percent (lack of) Education Education Education influenced by Religion Religion Religion.
allie 2 years ago
Good god, there are truly some misinformed unfortunately souls out there yeesh
P.A. Yearsley 2 years ago
I keep seeing them say imprint. In my head this dude is dating baby ducks and if he doesn't swoop in early the duck won't imprint him as it's mommy and the relationship will be ruined before it ever begins.
digitalin 2 years ago
I'm curious how common this mindset is. Like, does this level of ignorance and misogyny represent 20% of men, or a vocal .01%?
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
I've met several, sadly. I'd guess about half, based on a small sample size. You can tell in advance by whether they have a harley, a leather jacket, or a copy of anything by Jordan Peterson in their book collection.
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Ivy at Eve 2 years ago
I cling to the hope that these posters are unable to find a partner and thus are removed from the gene pool. What really disgusted me, was that at least one was by a woman... sigh...
SirWriteALot 2 years ago
Oh man, this is bad. Dear girls: you rule the world. If you team up and prevent apes like these to procreate, you'll have saved this planet within a generation. Seriously. This needs to stop.
Laughing Orc 2 years ago
I just can't with these people. Female-identifying pandas, I can't imagine how bloody terrible it must be too be on the receipt of this kind of ideology every single day.
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
... now that I feel rather nauseated... I realize... aaaall these individuals (if this is serious... I"m still finding it hard to believe this is real) - are up for a Darwin Award - we should give each of them one. Please. BIiiiiig ol' Darwin award...
sofacushionfort 2 years ago
These guys could get reincarnated millions of years from now into a world where preying mantises have evolved into the dominant species, and post how unfair it is they get eaten after sex. Some female preying mantis Jordan Petersen will reply how stupid they are not to understand the natural logic of the status quo
total1ty 2 years ago (edited)
As an actual man and not a whiny loser like the 110 or so guys posting up there, I have a few things to say. These boys don't represent all Men. Most of them have probably never had sex. The hatred they direct at all women is probably towards just 1 woman they found attractive and turned them down. They only seem to care about themselves and most of them apparently have never made a woman orgasm, probably because they thought doing what felt good to them should automatically make the women climax too. Lovely ladies, you have options. This is a great list of early warning signs. Boys think with their penises, Men have self control and care about the women they are with. And to the moron who can't find the clit, maybe you're secretly gay, because it's right there on every woman and they enjoy when you touch it gently, just not directly, stay on the hood. Also, there sure were a lot of pedos. I still don't get the shaved vagina intrigue, I prefer a lady with hair down there.
Lana Lana Banana 2 years ago (edited)
As an actual woman this comment doesn't reassure me of much, and for many reasons makes me feel rather uncomfortable...
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censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
You'll be excited to know that I find that many men here in SA are like this. IE stupid misogyny is not specifically a USA disease.
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Catastrophisticate 2 years ago
NO YOU CAN'T and women like you, voting for men with opinions on WOMBS THEY DON'T HAVE, are the reason countries are led by misogynistic, sexist, chauvinistic bigots.
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Crazy Meerkat Lady 2 years ago
I stopped at number 10. I can't. This is just too cringe and infuriating.
Adam Belaire 2 years ago
I got to 28 before I felt too many brain cells dying.
Load More Replies... Speedgoat 2 years ago
While I agree with that, I don't know if it would save some of these troglodytes.
Load More Replies... Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
"Not all men..." Dude, there should be ANY men like the ones in this article. If you are tolerating them instead of actively weeding them out, you can't say "not all men..." because you're complicit in allowing this subset of men to exist and promulgate their idiocy. Tolerating evil is just as evil as actually being evil.
OmMarol 2 years ago
I agree there shouldn't be any. But then THOSE men that show their idiocy like this are the ones that should be called out. No need to drag us all with them, as if this kind of idiocy was inherent to being male, or as if every other man agreed with the idiots from this list. What I mean is, if a man says a stupid thing, he should be called out for the stupid thing he said, not because of his gender. We could have an article about women saying dumb things too, and we're not gonna label all women as dumb because of 40 examples.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Congratulate me, I made it to 14 before the urge to barf was overwhelmed by me bashing my head against the wall whilst simultaneously facepalming. What f*****g morons.
Daria 2 years ago
How do these people appear in the first place? I mean, they're obviously literate and have access to the Internet and all our knowledge. HOW did they manage to stay so criminally uninformed? 🙈
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
media bubble; they stay in the same FB/reddit group and discuss theories with equally moronic morons.
Load More Replies... XenoMurph 2 years ago
Thanks for putting "misogynist" at the top, and not "men", which sometimes happens. It means a lot that the majority of us are not lumped in with these ignorant a******s.
TMoxraaar 2 years ago
B******t. If the majority of you weren't like this you'd call the others out and they would cut it out in a heartbeat. You just don't want to call out other guys.
Load More Replies... Lana Lana Banana 2 years ago
No lucky stars. Sounds like you're smart and know what's good for you.
Load More Replies... Justine Palvadeau Merceron 2 years ago
Reading that on an already s****y Monday morning was not the smartest move. Made it to 42 and had to stop or I wouldn't be able to write this
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
WOW ... HOW?!? That's incredible. You must be SUPER tolerant , seriously.
Load More Replies... Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
Ohhh, lord. These people are just walking about free with as much voting power as I have. Ohhh, god...
Bonnie Buttons 2 years ago
I'm thinking of sharing this with my kids when they get older, so we can discuss why all the writers of the original posts are sociopaths.
Pan Narrans 2 years ago
Every time this subject pops up it's 99 percent (lack of) Education Education Education influenced by Religion Religion Religion.
allie 2 years ago
Good god, there are truly some misinformed unfortunately souls out there yeesh
P.A. Yearsley 2 years ago
I keep seeing them say imprint. In my head this dude is dating baby ducks and if he doesn't swoop in early the duck won't imprint him as it's mommy and the relationship will be ruined before it ever begins.
digitalin 2 years ago
I'm curious how common this mindset is. Like, does this level of ignorance and misogyny represent 20% of men, or a vocal .01%?
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
I've met several, sadly. I'd guess about half, based on a small sample size. You can tell in advance by whether they have a harley, a leather jacket, or a copy of anything by Jordan Peterson in their book collection.
Load More Replies... Ivy at Eve 2 years ago
I cling to the hope that these posters are unable to find a partner and thus are removed from the gene pool. What really disgusted me, was that at least one was by a woman... sigh...
SirWriteALot 2 years ago
Oh man, this is bad. Dear girls: you rule the world. If you team up and prevent apes like these to procreate, you'll have saved this planet within a generation. Seriously. This needs to stop.
Laughing Orc 2 years ago
I just can't with these people. Female-identifying pandas, I can't imagine how bloody terrible it must be too be on the receipt of this kind of ideology every single day.
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
... now that I feel rather nauseated... I realize... aaaall these individuals (if this is serious... I"m still finding it hard to believe this is real) - are up for a Darwin Award - we should give each of them one. Please. BIiiiiig ol' Darwin award...
sofacushionfort 2 years ago
These guys could get reincarnated millions of years from now into a world where preying mantises have evolved into the dominant species, and post how unfair it is they get eaten after sex. Some female preying mantis Jordan Petersen will reply how stupid they are not to understand the natural logic of the status quo
total1ty 2 years ago (edited)
As an actual man and not a whiny loser like the 110 or so guys posting up there, I have a few things to say. These boys don't represent all Men. Most of them have probably never had sex. The hatred they direct at all women is probably towards just 1 woman they found attractive and turned them down. They only seem to care about themselves and most of them apparently have never made a woman orgasm, probably because they thought doing what felt good to them should automatically make the women climax too. Lovely ladies, you have options. This is a great list of early warning signs. Boys think with their penises, Men have self control and care about the women they are with. And to the moron who can't find the clit, maybe you're secretly gay, because it's right there on every woman and they enjoy when you touch it gently, just not directly, stay on the hood. Also, there sure were a lot of pedos. I still don't get the shaved vagina intrigue, I prefer a lady with hair down there.
Lana Lana Banana 2 years ago (edited)
As an actual woman this comment doesn't reassure me of much, and for many reasons makes me feel rather uncomfortable...
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
You'll be excited to know that I find that many men here in SA are like this. IE stupid misogyny is not specifically a USA disease.
Load More Replies... Catastrophisticate 2 years ago
NO YOU CAN'T and women like you, voting for men with opinions on WOMBS THEY DON'T HAVE, are the reason countries are led by misogynistic, sexist, chauvinistic bigots.
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