This Instagram Page Shares Fascinating Psychological Facts And Here’re 50 Of The Most Interesting Ones
InterviewThe focus on mental health is on the rise. People want to know more about the dos and don'ts when it comes to psychology-related matters. This is due to a mental health crisis that largely accelerated during the last couple of years.
The Instagram account 'Psychology Posts' provides insight and advice on the aforementioned topic. It shares tips ranging from minimizing anxiety to dopamine-inducing activities. It also distinguishes certain types of interpersonal communication and emphasizes how to best handle them. By raising awareness, this and similar pages create a positive attitude toward mental health and encourage individuals to seek help if needed.
Here we have gathered some interesting facts about mental health and psychology, shared by 'Psychology Posts'. Continue reading to gain more knowledge on these subjects. Or some interesting conversation starters!
Bored Panda has reached out to 'Psychology Posts'. They were kind enough to answer a few of our questions. Scroll down for our full interview with them.
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True, but what they mean is that it isn't ALWAYS those things. And that's the point. People stereotype depression as though dark rooms and crying is the ONLY thing it is.
Load More Replies...Depression is learning to fight through the pain alone so nobody knows anything’s wrong
Depression is strong feelings of black despair and hopelessness for the future. Wanting to change things in your life but not having the energy and strength to make the change.
This perfectly describes depression. Also not knowing how to even start to change
Load More Replies...Oh, this post is here again. I will share something new that you might not know then. There is something called high-functioning depression, which might be what this post is referring to. You can go to work. You might even do well objectively, but deep down, in the back of your mind, there is that sense of emptiness. Depression is not always crippling, intense sadness. Sometimes it is just that sense of emptiness and dullness that never quite go away. It is not usually intense enough that you can't go about your daily life. It is nevertheless tiresome, as there is no respite from it. Those feelings are always there. If you feel like this, I suggest you should see a doctor about it. You may be depressed.
And, sometimes, high-functional depressed people tend to overdo, to fill themselves with things/duties/work to do because if they stop... So, burnouts sometimes are a hint of depression, since are the natural consequence of a highly-functional one :/
Load More Replies...It *becomes* dark rooms and endless crying after the 100th time you hear "You don't seem depressed at all, just a bad day maybe?"
"Try a walk in nature?!?, going out with friends?!, having your hair done?!" Yep, of course it'll work /s
Load More Replies...Sometimes its "Im fine" and lauhter. Depression doesn't have a look
Mental illness is not as uncommon as you might think. Recent data shows that nearly 25% of adults in the US are affected by mental health-related problems. This type of a problem was also one of the main driving forces for creating 'Psychology Posts'. The founder told Bored Panda: “My reason for starting a psychology-related account on Instagram was a combination of personal mental health issues and an overall interest in psychology.”
“I got tinnitus at 18 years old. For those who don’t know what tinnitus is, it’s a constant ringing or buzzing sound in your ear that’s always there. The first three months after I got tinnitus, I felt like I just couldn’t rest, concentrate, or do anything but focus on the constant ringing sound in my ear. This led me to quite a dark place in my head. I wasn’t happy at all and I was struggling with the acceptance of my tinnitus at this young age.”
“This got me interested in learning how the brain works and in understanding why I was feeling the way I did. I started reading research articles and became fascinated by psychological research, and felt like more people needed to see this information.”
“When I was 19 years old, I decided to start posting these research findings on Instagram in a way that was short and easy to understand,” they added. Fast forward four years and now the account 'Psychology Posts' is one of the largest psychology communities online.
My BFF got the starving children in Africa speech. . She could be a real smarta$$. She told her mother to box it up and mail it to Africa. A comment like that will definitely get you grounded. She was. For a long time.
I never understood the logic of the starving children in Africa speech.
Load More Replies..."How can you be sad? There's so much good in the world!" "How can you have asthma, there's so much air in the world"
I was very tempted to text this to my dad the second I read it because it is 100% true. Yes, others may have it worse than I did growing up, but he was still physically and emotionally abusive. No child should ever have to experience what I did.
People like that... 🤬 Would he get it? Though he doesn't sound worth keeping in contact with in any form IMO. I'm sorry you suffered at his hands and hope you are doing okay. You are 100% correct, no child should suffer at the hands of anyone but especially not the very people who are supposed to love and care for them. It is, horrifyingly, more common than people realise. That does not invalidate anyone's suffering, each case is terrible in its own right and so heart-breaking.
Load More Replies...And we need to stop judging everyone else's methods of dealing with their depression (as long as they aren't harmful). If i want to fill my life with music and activities and sunshine and fragrances, that's okay. I'm not making you do the same things.
I agree. On the same thread, some of us deal with our depression and anxiety by putting our problems in perspective to how much worse it could be, or how much worse some have it. Just as it doesn't work for many...it does work for some and whatever works, right?
Load More Replies...This is an ongoing mind bender for depressed people when others cannot grasp what depression is. To tell someone to "be happy it could be worse" have no clue how damaging that statement can be.
Nobody says it to me, but I say it to myself. It sometimes helps. But not always
Load More Replies...I’ve always subscribed to the it could be worse theory because if you follow it down the train of thought of exactly how worse it could be in painful detail it put’s things into perspective for how it is not that and really makes it much easier to overcome the now, because there is relief it’s not worse. It’s not about under validating the current struggle but more of defining what it actually effects and how to change it. I think.
I know. But that doesn't mean one person's problems are any lesser. That's all.
Load More Replies..."Cheer up! /Drop the attitude! /Calm down!/ Relax!" FUQ OFF!
Someone once said to me "Struggling isn't a competition" and I really looked at it different after that
I have done it 2 times before (16yo, 32yo, now 46yo). So I know I can do it. But it's so damn hard this time.
Done it twice as well. Wishing you all the strength you need.
Load More Replies...This is why if someone tells. You they need help, get them the f*****g help. I told my parents three years ago I was suicidal, and genuinely scared for my life and asked for therapy and tbeh said no, i can have mom therapy (talking to my mom abt problems and ussually she just gets mad at me) and that I shouldn’t be thinking those things. Took me way longer to get into a better mental state then if they had beleived me and helped me properly.
Yeah, my parents sent me to therapy after a suicide attempt. Every time I'd come home, they'd ask "Are you better yet? You know, this is costing us a lot of money." Therapy didn't last long after that. I told them "Yeah, I'm all better. No need to go back." Neary 40 years later, I'm still depressed.
Load More Replies...Just a little over a year ago I had to force myself out of a dark place because I realized I wasn't strong enough to end it. I decided if I wasn't strong enough to end my life, then I'd find the strength to change it instead. A year later and I promise that 2022 was actually a very good year for me. I just wish I wasn't celebrating new years eve with the flu.
i know i have done it before but it's such a distant memory, i can barely recall it.
'Psychology Posts' covers a variety of topics. The informative uploads not only reveal signs of certain disorders, but also provide valuable tips and surprising facts. This way, the page brings attention to the many faces of mental health struggles.
The founder of the Instagram account said: “Raising awareness reduces the stigma around mental health and makes more people comfortable about opening up, and also encourages people to seek help if they feel like they need it. Whether this is with a friend, someone they trust, or a therapist. Opening up and talking about how you’re feeling is so important, and raising awareness stimulates this.”
“Raising awareness about mental health is more important than ever because of the mental health crisis we’re currently in. More people than ever are struggling with depression and anxiety, which is why I’ve recently co-founded Neurify, where we teach people to mentally thrive in our modern world,” they added.
For reasons not really understandable to my parents, I have serious mental disturbance everytime i have to be around or hear about my uncle and his wife. I have decided to cut off from them for most parts after marriage but parents resent me for this bit. They want me to be cordial to them but I just revolt. Its easier for me but i end up hurting my extremely loving parents.
Load More Replies...It takes a long time. I had to remind myself, for about 2 years, that I was missing the sister that I wished I could have had (before drug addiction). Look after yourself.
Load More Replies..."Because they're FAMILY" is not a good reason for perpetual abuse. Nothing is.
I have reluctantly cut off my brother for this very reason - haven’t seen him since 2006 and all the better for it.
My sister. It hurts my parents, and my extended family, but it's far healthier than seeing her.
Load More Replies...I have a problem like this that I need help with. (trigger warning suicide, sexual assault ) I have this ‘friend’ who is head over heels for me but I can’t handle their personality and have told them so many times I don’t want to date them. They are severely depressed and while I realise as a friend I should be there for them I can’t handle that and they need to go get preffesional help. They also are very toxic and are physically stronger than me and give me sexual assault-y vibes. I don’t feel comfortable alone with them. I told them I can’t be their friend and they attempted to kil themself. Wtf do I do I can’t handle this anymore.
Hey Random Frog, I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't have all the answers, but I do know the importance of setting boundaries, and getting boundaries set. It is your right and your responsibility to set and defend clear boundaries. No need to be rude or cruel, set them with compassion. You can acknowledge your own suffering and the suffering of those around you, and at the same time acknowledge that it is not your responsibility, duty or right (!) to relieve this suffering. So take a look inside, and feel (don't reason) where your boundaries lie. Don't base yourself on what you think you could do, but on what you wish for yourself in the long run. Next step is to compassionately communicate your boundaries with your peer. Their reaction is not your responsibility, even though it may feel as though it is. Better to end this kind of dependence quickly, so both of you can learn to better take care of yourselves. I wish you well!
Load More Replies...I wish I could stop feeling guilty, I recently cut off a friend who was toxic, emotionally manipulating, and a big, fat liar. He would threaten self-unalivement if we didn't pay 101% of our attention to them. They also copy everything I did. I come out as a demigirl, guess what they are, I show them my artstyle, theirs becomes very similar, I start commissions, so do they. It was hard to let them go but my other friend let go first, and it helped me a lot. My parents aren't helping, and telling me to stay friends with them. It just makes me feel bad.
Working on it. I don't feel guilty till they start messaging me endlessly about how you shouldn't turn your back on family no matter what they do to you and that I'm a horrible person for not wanting to spend time with them. Then I ignore them for a while some more.
Sometimes you're so used to it you don't even realize: it took my psychologist asking me "are you aware that you physically flinch every time you or I bring up your brother?" Which inspired a conversation where they basically had to give me the psych breakdown of "if it hurts, don't go there."
I have ME (chronic fatigue) I really need to give myself a break sometimes and remember this.
I'm still recovering from Christmas. I'm trying to take the tree down but I'm going to wait and try to not feel bad about it 🤷♀️
Load More Replies...I fall asleep at the slightest moment of rest. It's bloody annoying. I can sleep for 12 hours and it still happens.
Your energy balance is disturbed. Mentaly or physical or both.
Load More Replies...I'm discovering that ADD and OCD can have elements which present as laziness. I'm hoping that treatment for the ADD/OCD will help the laziness.
Yup. I got diagnosed with OCD as a teenager, and I have several risk factors for it, anyway. I might also have ADHD due to that same combination of risk factors (primarily family history and birth circumstances). I’m pretty sure there is a connection, as you suggest, and I’m definitely going to mention it when I have made an appointment to do so in the near future!
Load More Replies...Multiple sclerosis kicks my a*s a lot. Before I got a diagnosis, I asked myself this question a *lot*.
I have never thought about asking myself this question, and I think I’m going to start doing that. The difference between simply feeling lazy and legitimately needing rest is something to consider, anyway!
Instead of looking at it as being lazy (a personal flaw), look at it as a health issue (why do I need to rest in the middle of the day all the time?).
Load More Replies...We've long been aware of mental hygiene and its effect on our overall well-being. Even the Romans talked about it. In the first century AD, poet Juvenal famously wrote: Mens sana in corpore sano, which roughly translates to “a healthy mind in a healthy body”. Sadly, that's often easier said than done, but good physical health can help maintain a healthy headspace.
In addition to seeking professional help, 'Psychology Posts' emphasized five mental health fundamentals you could focus on: “1. Sleep. Lack of sleep is a leading cause of poor focus and anxiety, prioritizing time away from your phone and increasing your time spent asleep is key.”
“2. Exercise. Movement is a must, many of us could benefit from going for more walks, runs, and gym sessions."
"3. Nutrition. 95% of your serotonin is produced in your gut, so eat good quality foods.”
“4. Relationships. Relationships are what make us human. Intimate, in-person social experiences are vital."
"5. Progress. Our ancestors had to constantly be making progress to survive, our brains are wired for progression and love when we align with it.”
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Not surprising! Pets sense when you are distressed and can be of great comfort. They also don't open their mouths and put their foot (or paw) in it by saying something tactless
My dog saved me from my suicidal thoughts many times (I’m fine now)
Load More Replies...I can believe this. Pets don't immediately start responding with "Well, you should try..." or... "Why didn't you..." or... "This worked for [someone else], why don't you try hustling?"
Look at the comments, not only in this particular enrty but in the whole post, people suck, but they are clearly outnumbered by the people who don't, let's just keep together.
Load More Replies...my cat sighs a bit as she lets me hug her relentlessly when I'm sad. I appreciate her for coming over and letting herself be hugged
Pets don't say to you "but there's people who are having it worse than you"
Sadly... this is how I realized I had around... let's see... zero real friends about... 13 years ago. When you tell a friend "I was really hurt when..." and they start laying the smack down on YOU for daring to find their actions hurtful - not a great feeling.
That is certainly true for me - glad I no longer see a 'friend' who used to use me to make herself feel better by always trying to take me down with unkind comments or disparaging things I said.
The hard part is it's usually someone you've gotten to care a lot about, so extracting them from your heart can feel like ripping a tree out by its roots, or going over your heartstrings with a lice comb.
Yes my “bestie” is toxic but idk what to do, I wanna hang out without toxic people, but our moms are besties and that would be awkward r/teen drama (her moms rude too)
yeah I notice your posts revolve around laziness. You should rename your account Apathyist
Load More Replies...im lazy and mentally unhealthy nothing even happened to me bro im just a mess. all my problems are self inflicted. who else can relate?
I just have executive dysfunction. I want to do the things, I just can't make myself do them :(
It is crucial to attend to your mental well-being. However, sometimes handling certain situations or feelings can become overwhelming. Most people are not qualified to know exactly how to tackle them properly. That is why it is important to seek professional help as well.
When asked what advice they would give to people dealing with psychological difficulties, the 'Psychology Posts' creator said: “It’s hard to give psychological advice to everyone since everyone requires different solutions to their problems. But my first piece of advice would be to never self-diagnose. Try to seek out professional help instead. A therapist or counselor can help you identify the root causes of your difficulties and develop strategies to cope with them.”
hmmmm. THAT is very familiar and i wish i could have said it so concisely all those times i'd get s**t for saying no to going out.
I love listening to the rain when it's gently falling - last night's storm just had me worried about which of my trees might come down!
Makes me think of Eddie Rabbit's "I Love A Rainy Night". Good song!
Load More Replies...Mentally, I'm happiest on cold, dark, wet or snowy days. The only time I enjoy the sun is in the summer, either very early in the morning or very late in the day and even then, I have to be in the right frame of mind. There are also times when the way the sun is lighting the sky actually makes me ill at ease, like I've seen this lighting before and nothing good was happening at that time. I guess it's like a strong feeling of deja vu. I can't explain it very well, but it happens quite a bit and I've never known anyone who gets like this.
Something traumatic happened on a day with the lighting like that???
Load More Replies...The best thing is when you don’t have to go out to do anything in the rain. Also being in bed at night when you can hear the rain on the roof, and count 1 Mississippi 2 Mississippi between the lightning nd thunder to figure out how far away it is. And all of the above are the absolute best when you know everyone you love is home and safe and warm and dry, and not outside in the awful weather.
This is me! :D I LOVE the rain. I live in the worst place for enjoying rain, though - Southern California XD
I live in a rainforest where it sometimes rains for a month or more without stopping. I'm adapted to the rain but people who romanticize about going for walks in the rain confuse me.
Ha! I grew up in a place like that. I definitely romanticize it more now that I'm in a desert than I did before. But I definitely WAS the type of person to walk outside in wind and downpour just because it was "fun".
Load More Replies...Only when I don’t have to go to school. A smelly cinder block box without windows kinda ruins the mood
Or, as my overthinking a**e would say, “they hate me, they hate me, they are pissed, they hate me”
Lol mood but I doubt they hate you, just remember this post
Load More Replies...But what if they’re taking downtime from me? Why? What did I do? Are they talking about the reason that person is having to take downtime from me? (See “overthinking”)
I was just about to call you a silly sausage, then I remembered your name 🤣
Load More Replies...What if they got 44 texts and yours just got lost in the middle? No biggy. If it's important, text them again. If it's not, just give them time.
Also - they may have NOT SEEN YOUR TEXT. I usually have multiple tabs open. Facebook will show me 'online' but doesn't mean I saw a message. My phone is always on but I do not check it constantly. If the text sound happened while I was off doing something else I may not see I have a text until later. I have watched (paranoid relative) obsess over (SO) not responding to her texts and creating all kinds of negative assumptions in her head when the reality was a phone that needed charging / got left at home etc. If they don't want to talk to you right now that is their right. But also, they may not even know you are trying to talk to them.
One of my best friends: I read your text, but wanted to dedicate quality time to you, so now that I'm totally distraction free, i'm all yours, what's up?" I love her.
Yes, but if I see them on social profiles going out with multiple ppl who aren't me when they decline my invitations, well... I'm not "entitled" to anything but they can go f**k themselves
High levels of stress can also negatively affect your mental well-being. In the current fast-paced environment, work is often a major cause of this negative feeling. Therefore, it is essential to try and create a healthy work-life balance. Doing this would not only benefit your personal life but give you more time for the aforementioned activities, such as exercise or sleep.
Just like an annual physical or bi-annual teeth cleaning, therapy should be in there with regular checkups.
Not a bad idea, actually. My only qualm would be to wonder if exposure to psychological testing makes it less effective; do you develop a sense of what you're SUPPOSED to say that can make it more difficult to answer candidly?
Load More Replies...At least tell the GP's this plan please because they don't seem to have got this message. Over the years I have been given a leaflet on stress when I had severe post partum depression, told to google anxiety instead of wasting a doctors time and told off for bookinng an appointment when I asked for help with bulemia as it's "not a problem for most people".
I'm sorry you were mistreated. How awful! I hope you are feeling better.
Load More Replies...The therapists I've met seem naive and totally incompetent. How can you be 100% truthful with someone like that?
I was told that just like dating, the first one isn’t always the one. You may have to “date” quite a few therapists to find the right one. 😜
Load More Replies...But what if you don't go to the doctor when you are physically ill either?
2 years?! How are people supposed to wait 2 years for help? 😥 I feel so bad for anyone who has to wait like that!
Load More Replies...Absolutely the truth. I didn't initially think so, until my psychologist asked me straight up if I thought that my then - husband, now ex-husband, could be a big part of my problems... we had some different suggestions for treatment at that point.
Load More Replies...And that is the exact reason I am so f*****g mad I have to go to therapy! Again! Because I have to learn how to cope with the s**t show this family is pulling off! Insteas of them learning how to be decent human beings!
Hahaha there is truth in this. I've been in therapy because of my family for years.
Saw a quote recently saying that something that's never talked about but should be is how hard it is to be the only person in your family going to therapy. I felt that deeply!
Having grown up in that environment, it’s about having to figure out a strategy about the simplest things so as to avoid getting in trouble/making things worse than they already are. Should I say that or not? Maybe I should just be quiet and not say it, but then I get bullied by my mom for being too quiet. Overthinking can stem from a childhood survival mechanism.
Hear hear. It's shocking how many people with "normal" parents/childhood DON'T do this. I wonder what it's like to just live - without an annoying inner voice always talking
Load More Replies...I remember reading that children of strict parents become fluent liars. I don't mean pathological liars, but otherwise just good at telling smooth little lies better than children of more permissive parents.
That's exactly what happened to me, sometimes I might be talking to someone and they ask me something and I just accidentally lie because they just come out so naturally
Load More Replies...This is accurate. I had great parents, but they were strict. I never realized how that affected me until I moved out and still called them for permission to order a pizza. After the first few times, my mom said I was on my own and could make my own choices. But I didn't know how. To this day, I freak out about making a choice on my own.
Whoa. Hadn't even thought about this angle. I also wasn't allowed to make my own decisions (even getting a glass of milk from the fridge) growing up. So THAT'S how I can be simultaneously a chronic overthinker and yet impaired at decision making... Thank you for sharing that!
Load More Replies...True! Over-strict parents ( especially mom ) got grounded for getting home 5 minutes late and goodness gracious if I happened to have a boyfriend!! I was one sneaky kid.... And yes, guilty of overthinking....
I was the Queen of coming home on time for my ridiculously early curfews only to jump out my window the second my parents were in bed! I then made sure my children's rooms were on the 2nd floor so they couldn't do it too
Load More Replies...Studies have proven the strong connection between stress and sleep. According to the American Psychological Association, people who spend less time resting feel more irritable and overwhelmed. They also show higher levels of stress. Some people feel it because they can’t get enough sleep; others can’t get enough sleep because they already feel stressed. This vicious circle demonstrates how crucial it is to follow a regular sleep schedule.
Hahaha, oh I already have lost myself through people pleasing
Load More Replies...You can’t please everyone, though, and pushing people away more often than not may lead to isolation and loneliness. The best bet is to be careful about who you trust and how you are to other people.
That’s exactly what stood out to me too. Cheers
Load More Replies...But sometimes DO take it personally when you are told you are beautiful, smart, an amazing friend, and a good person!! Believe the GOOD things people say to you! (Within reason of course ie Elon Musk)
One of my ex friends told me this, and my first reaction was: b***h you made it personal by going after my insecurities
so TRUE. My mother taught me the phrase "More to be Pitied than Censured". Originally from a song about an unwed mother, but my mom applied it to people who are some version of human trash. As in, they are bad, but we should pity them because we can distance ourselves and they have to be around themselves all the time and are usually ruining their own lives with the stuff they are doing.
I tried to teach my children (now adults) that there will be people in their lives who won't like them without a reason, and not to let it get to them. I had kids in high school that didn't like me, and there was never a reason for it. They just didn't like me. I learned to just not care about those people.
I disagree it’s not a positive trait, you can have a very discerning mind but sarcasm is usually directed at a person, and at that person’s expense.
I think you can also be sarcastic in a funny way about other things, like world events or human behavior for example. Thst's the type of sarcasm I thought of when reading the post. I agree it's rude to be sarcastic directly to a person about that person though.
Load More Replies...This one is kinda iffy. Sometimes it's not a friend doing this, it's an acquaintance being passive aggressive and flat out toxic. "Bro it was just a joke! Why you mad bruh?"
I think there's a difference between sarcastic and cynical though.
Load More Replies...... and hence why so many past 'friends' thought it best to constantly shame and humiliate me - funny enough, EXACTLY when I'd hit on a truth about them.
Smartphones are another cause of stress relating to a negative state of mind. This especially affects the younger generation because of the usage of social media. It creates social stress, which makes their mental well-being deteriorate.
Hahahahahaha, that's me also. You know, sometimes I think I got fat or get fat to "pad" myself againstl bruises. But they are emotional bruises, not physical ones.
Load More Replies...That's easy for you to say if you don't live with a depressed bully twice your size.
Does it count as just to keep the peace, if you don't speak because it won't help? It won't change anything
I did it for years. All saying something did was to cause me grief. When my stepson was killed & my son was in serious condition following a car wreck Mom wanted all the attention. Told her I needed love & support right now & if you can't do that for me & these boys, then leave. She refused. Told her not to come to the funeral, nor tell people her grandson died for pity. I didn't talk to her for over 6 mo.
Load More Replies...I don't completely agree with this one. It needs more detail. I absolutely do not engage with the drama queens and kings in my life. So long as thier bullock isn't affecting me, I just choose not to participate.
I have been doing this all my life and have only just finally figured out that it only gets worse, never better. We just had a major holiday blow out and this will either be the beginning of healing or the end of things. Either way, it will be better than it was.
Truthfully, things only got really better when all the "trouble makers" got too old to argue/travel for holidays or died. All the relatives who made my life hell- who put me down, ridiculed me, disliked me for no reason other than I had an opinion & spoke it.
Load More Replies...Speaking up...then going insane at the response and ending up in a mental institution.
but then i get cut off and i wonder how toxic i am. (see overthinking and obsessive thinking) 🥺
I am yet to be cut off but people I care about think I am too selfish for not accepting and adjusting to certain people and it hurts
Load More Replies...this actually really helped. I was going through some sh!t with two people but I'm gonna cut them off now :) their loss
My (possibly, I’m not really sure) toxic friends cut ME off and do all the work for me
see, this is what i was trying to say ^^^back up the page. I'm glad I'm not the only one, but also, 🫂💙
Load More Replies...I feel that if someone actually cares, they would take spacefrom you, but not just abandon the relationship. At least try to talk it out before you cut the cord....
I can think of ... oh... let's see ALL my Asian peepz (especially the female ones, myself included) who were raised by 'traditionalist' parents... who need to hear this.
This is a hard pill for me to swallow. I do things for people because I want to, but I also hope they will be there for me if I need a shoulder to cry on.
this. i have felt so isolated during my mental health struggles. i actually DO have a lot of people that care about me, but i was so damaged and insecure that i felt like i needed constant checks (to make sure i was ok) in order to be ..worthy? On the other hand, the constant barrage of messages was exhausting. 💔 ..
Load More Replies...I learned this one the hard way - and have now been more aware of "maybe they don't need to be there for me in the same capacity... but they still don't get to mistreat me". All too often, the fact that I'll care, or reach out is not only taken for granted, but interpreted as a carte blanche to treat me poorly.
However, it is always good to remember that people have a tendency to mentally over-inflate what they do for others and to downplay what others do for them. So people should be honest with themselves about how much they give and how much they get. Second, many people who are "givers" also tend to try to hide and downplay what they do to help others. They then get upset when these things are overlooked.
I thought that people would be at least nice to me, but I got pissed when they didn't.
I gave heaps of presents to my girlfriend whenever I felt like there was something going on in our relationship and she never gave anything back except for Macca's and now she's moved and is dating one of my friends
Luckily, there are ways to ameliorate your mental health. In addition to the aforementioned fundamentals, each person can find methods to induce happiness that works best for them. For some, it might be spending time with their families, while others might find peace in knitting. Traveling is also a popular activity that boosts serotonin.
Childhood trauma is not an excuse to do bad things. I know from intimate experience we can choose to be better human beings. It seems to be the norm for criminals to blame childhood trauma for their bahaviour. They should throw that defense tactic right out the window at the get go. NO EXCUSE period,
Until you’ve had extreme trauma you really can’t understand why we have chosen to do bad things! I’m not saying it’s an excuse but you can’t comprehend what it does to you..
Load More Replies...Childhood trauma isn't always about bad or neglectful behavior by others. My childhood trauma was the sudden death of my father, of natural causes (a brain aneurism).
We were dirt-poor when mom’s boyfriend started molesting me. I was only four and didn't know how poor we were until my 2nd-grade teacher, Mrs. Hill, asked us to draw a picture of our homes. I drew our travel trailer with its five inhabitants. Fortunately, Mrs. Hill lost some people’s projects to a coffee spill on the day we were to show them to the class. She randomly picked a handful of people to present. I know she did that to protect me. She saved me from so much ridicule. I’ll never forget that. And, I’ll never forget her.
So true. I wish more peopel would understand this, it would make asking for help a lot easier
I would be suprised if there is a one person on earth that doesn't have some kind of trauma... Is it normal then?
It is. What makes the difference is the kind of resources that are available in a person's life to mitigate it. In childhood having a reliable adult is a big one. There's a specific checklist for childhood trauma and positive factors that's used to measure overall resiliency. Trauma has a huge affect on long term health though. Not just mental health but things like heart health etc
Load More Replies...And those aren't its limits. I'd classify my two significant diagnoses as trauma-inducing, as well.
"Sorry losers and haters, but my IQ is one of the highest - and you all know it! Please don't feel so stupid or insecure, it's not your fault." Donald Trump 5/8/2013
Yet, the more I learn about life, the more I realise I know nothing. It's like learning more, makes me more aware of how little I know.
Load More Replies...“The problem with stupid people is that they are to dumb to understand just how stupid they are” (John Cleese from memory).
"The problem is that the fools are full of certainty, while the wise are full of doubt." - Bertrand Russejj
“The more I know, the less I understand.” Humility, in short, matters as well.
When you’re young you think you know everything, as you grow up you realize you know nothing.
Also school only really test and records a very specific type of intelligence, which for a lot of neurodivergent people, including myself is very hard to be good at. Your not stupid if you have Ds and Fs, as long as your trying.
This one weirds me out because I sometimes think I'm stupid and sometimes I'm like Wow I'm actually kinda smart huh but most of these are determined by my test results. So maybe I'm just average. But then again, by saying that, am I actually smart because I'm denying my own ability? And by saying THAT, am I just stupid? and on and on
And turning 18 doesn't magically change the responses and habits you formed during your childhood. If I hear one more person say 'they're an adult they should know better' about someone struggling with poverty or other life struggles, I'm going to lose it. It is way easier to learn coping mechanisms, healthy habits and priorities as a child than to unlearn everything you know and rewrite it as an adult. I work around people on a serious high-horse who have no idea what struggle actually is, and they just sit around judging people.
It sure doesn't. That most basic part of your brain, the amygdala, sometimes called the "lizard brain," is a very hard thing to retrain once it's "learned" what the world is. At its most basic function, it "learns" what to move toward and what to move away from. It's not smart and it's basic purpose is to keep you alive. If it learns that it cannot trust people because caregivers neglected or invalidated or shamed or hurt it and made it feel bad, it's pretty committed to that outlook to keep you safe from harm. Thankfully it is possible to rewire it (neuroplasticity), but it isn't easy.
Load More Replies...AMEN!!!! Children are resilient, because they have no other choice, stop thinking they are going to forget the trauma they went through just because they stop talking about it. Remember, they don't always have the verbal skills to express those feelings.
It is a fallacy to say that children are resilient, they are NOT! They lack the vocabulary, and the maturity to adequately express how they feel and that is the reason ignorant adults think their kids are doing just fine. Believe me they are not. They may seem happy to please you but the negative experiences go very deep with no way to express themselves.
All the adults with trauma from childhood should be more than enough evidence that children don't just absorb and adapt without consequence. It's weird that people believe that. If they do respond with resilience it's usually because they have safe adults around them so the resilience comes from parents, family, community not the child themselves.
Music is also a great stress reliever and a source of positive emotions. Whether it’s Bach you enjoy or singing your heart out to the Beatles, music stimulates your brain in the right way. White noise machines are also helpful to some people looking for a way to relax.
Reading this on the phone while eating, laying on my couch, on Bored Panda. One check out of 4.
But eventually you will need to get up to go to the bathroom. So, 4/4
Load More Replies...Kind of an ironically hilarious quote to have on Bored Panda XD which exists purely on the value of meaningless pap distractions for us to consume mindlessly while we're on the porcelain throne!
I found bp when I had to sit in the bus and train back from work 1,5 hours. I Googled bored.
Load More Replies...Hi, i noticed your pronouns. Do you mind explaining? I recently saw these for first time and do not know what they stand for. (Seen on an an application for medical providers to fill out for them to be contracted with BCBS a health insurance plan). I thought it was pretty cool!
Load More Replies...I'm a guy and can't think of nothing. Where can I claim mine?
Load More Replies...A minute or two downtime... to fill your head with depressing a*s s**t and make your will to start to dwindle..
Might be hard. I used to keep a collection of reading materials in the bathroom for many years
Why would I worship my husband for having basic life skills? Appreciation? Sure. Worship? No.
Load More Replies...After all, the Husband's Code quite explicitly says "If you don't want to do something, do it badly."
Load More Replies...Yes, as a daughter of a father who can take care of himself and help around the house
Not when your mom has an untreated personality disorder. Then it doesn't matter how amazing your dad is. 🙁
My impacts on others tend to be more negative than positive. I hope people forget me.
WHAT?! NO!!!!!! everyone is useful in one way or another! Don't demotivate yourself! You're important no matter what!
Load More Replies...This kinda conflicts with the other one that said “people don’t think about you as much as you think they do. They think more about themselves”.
I guess one message is for the people who think no one cares that they exist and one is for people who have a problem with excessively worrying about mistakes they made in front of other people.
Load More Replies...Contradicts the notion that people generally aren't thinking about you. .. just me? Ok.
Some people need to hear that others aren't dwelling on the mistakes they've made in front of them the way they dwell on them, so it's true for those people that others generally aren't thinking about them, or at least not to the extent they fear. Some people need to hear that they matter to other people and people do sometimes think about them in a positive way, so it's true that they're thought of more than they fear.
Load More Replies...Bro so many people hate me for complimenting them but I have fallen down every stair I have been on so I guess they could laugh at that
I really don't believe this one.. Everyone keeps talking over me, they're not listening...
A lady came to my work with a scratch but she was acting as though she was dying. A co-worker told me after that 'she (the co-worker) had a bigger scratch on her a*se. Now whenever I write a report involving a small cut I think of that co-worker' s comment and smile to myself!
Spending time with the ones you love can also help your mental well-being. Socializing reduces stress and, according to research in the US, people are happiest when they do it for 6-7 hours a day.
Yes, yes it is. I was in a relationship where he began just outright not caring about my feelings. I loved him very much, it was super painful and I had so many digestive issues and even developed a psoriasis spot on my arm. The stress and pain was so much. I finally got out of that relationship while simultaneously moving to another country and starting a graduate program. I also have mental health issues that react horribly to rejection/abandonment. I dealt with all that for months after being out of the relationship ... but it turns out this pain is actually less than being in that relationship. My digestive issues have lessened significantly and the spot on my arm healed. I had no idea I was under such an emotional toll that it created physical problems. It's pretty mind blowing.
It's not psychobabble. They did an fMRI study.
Load More Replies...Anyone who's had their heart broken knows that it IS physically painful. There's literal hurt. In your heart.
I've often said I think I could take a physical beating easier than mental/psychological abuse
You are worth putting your time where it is appreciated and reciprocated.
About a month or two ago, I wan in a fight with some close friends and all the people who didn't witness what actually happened (me getting treated like s**t) fell for the lies of the "friend" who was doing the hurting. They all ignored me for weeks. That was the first time in my life I was actually depressed. It does hurt, and it made everything so much worse that the only people who believed me were the people who actually knew what was going on.
It is causing me pain to have this validated. This is happening to me right now by a close family member who has a history of doing it to me. She and I have had many conversations about how painful this is to me. She did it again and I confronted her on it via text. Nothing. I decided to block her. Today, for some stupid reason, I decided to look at my blocked messages and she actually texted me Thursday to ask me A FAVOR!!! The absolute nerve. I'm so glad I didn't see it when it arrived.
It's really hard to go through that. Keep fighting! You got this!
Load More Replies...We need to normalize paid mental health days like we've been doing with paid sick days, perhaps. (Recognizing the "paid" part is a privilege that unfortunately not everyone has.)
Load More Replies...Yeah, but my kids can't. If there is nobody to help me in such situations, I enter the survival mode.
Agreed from someone who experiences these (but really feels guilty saying I have an addiction)
Everyone can fall into the addiction trap, so please don’t feel too guilty. Do try to find help, there are probably anonymous groups and helplines to get you started.
Load More Replies...Man I have these but my worst fear is that people think I think it’s “quirky or cute” I hate having them because I don’t want people to think I’m faking because I’m a exciting person around them
Yup. To this day, I do feel at least a little bit upset when I hear people joke about “being so OCD about that,” whatever the thing may be, such as having an organized desk, the way one washes dishes, bedtime rituals, etc. As a sufferer since adolescence, are used to get angry, but not feel more pity, because the very people whom I’ve known to do this or otherwise, some of the kindest and most compassionate people I’ve known altogether. It’s simply a lack of understanding for the most part that OCD isn’t just a quirk.
And please, for the love of all that is holy, please stop throwing around the word “depressed” when you’re bummed that Starbucks ran out of pumpkin spice. It completely trivializes the feelings of people who truly are suffering from depression. Just stop, pull up your Uggs, and get over it.
Especially the Anxiety one, I have had my social Anxiety downplayed by people saying it's 'cute or quirky'
Load More Replies...*is reminded of those fnaf-related michaelxennard gacha videos and cringes*
i feel like a lot of us who sort of low-key romanticized mental illnesses as kids now have developed some kind of mental health issue and are looking back like "what the f**k was i thinking" yk? wanting to self destruct is usually a root cause for romanticizing mental illness (as long as you're not doing it for attention) and i think it's important to realize this
bonus points if you now have imposter syndrome :/
Load More Replies...These interesting facts only begin to describe the wonders of our mind. They also accentuate how important it is to take proper care of it. Make sure to pay close attention to your mental well-being and feel free to share how you look after it in the comments.
Easier said than done. I realise way too late and all I do is lay in bed
Don't rush youself, that's fine. Just try. One day you'll do it, one day you wont. One step at a time.
Load More Replies...This could be rephrased as....If you feel low, partake in some form of self care. Don't forget the things that can make even a small difference.
That shower really does make a significant difference in how you're feeling, even if getting yourself there took every ounce of energy and effort you had. That show you decided to start watching after endless hours of not having the energy or motivation to consume any media...even that makes a difference, when you can get yourself to.
I am so depressed that I can barely shower. It is so exhausting and dread the thought of it. Much less CLEAN!!! , text or walk anywhere.
Cleaning my room takes too long. But I've often had a bath when I just needed to do so. Usually to wind down at the end of the day or to start the day if I have time. But never underestimate the power of one in the middle of the afternoon.
I find that creativity in small doses dies wonders! In my case it's drawing and I'm good at it, but you may enjoy mindless coloring or knitting... whatever works for you, no one has to see it to benefit you, just the joy of doing! Hugs if you need one!
No, apologizing all the time comes from constantly believing your always in the wrong.....
To me, apologizing often can also be a sign of someone trying to manage how other people feel about them.
Load More Replies...Honestly wondering, when everyone says you did something you know you didn't do or something that wasn't a bad thing, in my case standing up for myself after being treated like f*****g trash, was I right to not apologize? Context: I tried confronting a friend because she kept making really offensive jokes about me, but a few of our mutual friends took it badly and kept telling me I had unrealistic standards in friends and I expected everyone to be perfect. They kept demanding me to apologize but I refused. Was I right in doing so?
True apologizing is the willingness to grow and is difficult... not "I'm sorry for everything, I'm sorry for breathing!!!" - true apologies are the ones that are rarely heard, because they involve understanding, relaying and empathizing with the hurtful action. Knee-jerk "I'm sorry!" isn't it.
A true, sincere apology for hurting someone is very important. If you have hurt someone who has never done anything to deserve it, and refuse to say sorry, then that person is very likely to resent you and lose every bit of respect they ever had for you. I had a friend who refused to say sorry for making me cry and talking to me like I am less than. That person is no longer my friend, and now I see never was really my friend, because they refused to say one simple word, even after I had confronted and asked for an apology. They are just "too good" for that.
I have a feeling that almost everyone reading this is nodding their heads and saying, "me."
Yeah. I'm taking screenshots to send to friends and thinking "Wow, BP poached some great content today!"
Load More Replies...I have NO IDEA what people mean when they say they wake up refreshed. That absolutely never happened to me going as far back as childhood. No matter how many or few hours I sleep, I might not feel tired but I definitely don't have a spring on my step and it takes a good couple of hours until the brain gets into gear
It only happened to me like once to feel 'refreshed' after waking up. It was after a one week school break and I only slept like 6 hours that night. It was extremely weird to me to actually have energy for once
Load More Replies...Idiopathic hypersomnia is a b!tch, please don't belittle it by saying something like, "Oooh, I wish *I* could sleep all the time!" No. No, you don't. Imagine being MORE tired when you wake in the morning than you were the night before when you went to sleep. Imagine skipping lunch so you can go to your car and sleep to try to make it to the end of the workday.
I've had so many car naps. I used to use my free period before lunch and the lunch period to sleep during highschool and that's continued into my 40's during college or work.
Load More Replies...There were times I would sleep 16+ hours every day, without waking up once. And even then I would literally start nodding off half an hour later. But after treating/managing depression and ADHD better, it's so much better! So if you're suffering from hypersomnia, look into possible causes/triggers. It might get better!
That's encouraging, I have an appointment in March for a ADHD review/diagnosis/test, basically as a last ditch attempt to get my IH under control.
Load More Replies...I've been diagnosed with hypersomnia. It sucks. I spend most of my sleep in stage 2 and I never feel not-tired. I can't drive because I fall asleep quickly and unexpectedly. I get sleep drunk and have sleep paralysis. 0/10 do not recommend lol
Definitely me, does anyone over 10 NOT experience this?
I would describe it some times as not just being tire or sleepy but actually being not fully awake. Like have you ever seen those sound boards music producers use, it's like when all the little slides are at the bottom you are fully asleep and when they are all at the top you are fully awake. for some people when they get up in the morning those slides travel to the top really fast for other people its really slow, if you have a Hypersomnia they might get stuck half way or some slides go to the top while others stay at the bottom. So there are times when I will be walking around talking to people, so my motor skills and language slides are at the top but my pain slide and my common sense slide is still almost at the bottom so I will be walking around telling people to punch me because I think it's bloody hilarious I can't feel it. People will tell me to have a cold shower to wake up but that doesn't work because it doesn't feel cold.
Load More Replies...This is me today. Slept like 13 hours and woke up with a headache and more tired than before I went to sleep
I was like this for a few years. I thought it was just how I was. I would literally ask friends to leave me in the car when we went somewhere so I could sleep instead of participating. 15 hours a day of sleep. Ends up it was an inadequately treated mood disorder. Got better meds and it's gone.
Ok, but now I’m going to overthink the fact that my overthinking may or may not stop me from having these personality traits. What have you done to me?
Strict parents => overthinking; Overthinking => high verbal intelligence; So strict parents => high verbal intelligence? 🤔
That’s cause you’re constantly trying to figure out every possible worst-case scenario. Mentally exhausting. I want off this ride.
I thought it was blue because if it was green, we would not know when to mow the lawn.
Load More Replies...Green and blue both have that effect. Probably because it’s similar to clear summer skies and green plants, things that seem to relax most mammals.
Load More Replies...This may be why I hate blue: I grew up on eggshells; people's moods had nothing to do with reason, so relaxing and taking your guard down was a death sentence. When I finally got out of that house, I used to self-sabotage because I was so terrified by things going smoothly: I didn't know how to deal with healthy people.
The whole "how colors affect brain" is an interesting rabbit hole. There are reasons you see certain color schemes over and over. Blue for things like bank logos because invokes sense of security and calm. Oranges and browns for restaurants / fast foods because supposedly makes you hungry. Certain colors in prisons and mental wards because invokes calmness.
So what you're saying is you've got a gangrene thumb!
Load More Replies...Oh so y’all don’t dig it up like twentie times that makes more sense to why I’m SHORT AS HELL
And becoming a cat lady like i am aspiring to be, reduces even more!
Load More Replies...This just makes sense to me, for intuitive reasons - you marry someone because you love them romantically, but you should ask yourself if you also like them. I think a lot of people end up hating their spouse because they don't truly have much in common. My husband and I have spent many a Christmas break just chilling on the couch playing video games together. "House parties" with just the two of us are now a weekly event as well. There's no one else I can just sit and talk with for hours like I can with him, about anything. Our last date night involved me asking him a bunch of questions about how dimming smart lights works as compared to how a dimmer switch works (he's an electrician and he just bought some Bluetooth connected bulbs for our kitchen). I find him generally interesting and enjoy learning anything he can teach me, even if some of it is really technical. He's very good at explaining things in a way a layperson can understand.
Nope. Friends come and go. Love is when you both agree to accept your flaws and hold them tightly because of them.
That’s what my BFF did for 52 years until she died early this year. What we had been through would rival any married couple. If I could find someone who could be that kind of husband, I might actually marry them.
Load More Replies...That's funny. I thought I did marry my best friend. But as it turns out, his best friend was alcohol.
Yes. And it is probably no surprise that self-deprecating humor is my #1 coping mechanism IRL! XD
Load More Replies...Unless you’ve just had abdominal surgery. In that case a good belly laugh will definitely affect your pain tolerance.
Proverbs 17:22 A cheerful heart is a good medicine; But a broken spirit drieth up the bones.
As a nurse I have noticed that anxious people experience much more pain than non-anxious people. It's interesting.
Physical pain and stress certainly seem to be linked.
Load More Replies...or maybe it's just that people who laugh more have better support systems to help them through the low spots
Everytime my closest people have said me "but everything is great in your life." O have felt guilty for being a 'imposter'
Ong yes. Having things and money does not mean you are happy. My friend who works remotely and travels the world always tells me how lucky I am. I’m like girl, do you realize that you are also lucky? Freedom is true happiness.
Load More Replies...Appreciate the struggle, you still love yourself enough not to give up.
I am about to make a playlist called 'Remember When You Were Happy?' Give that a go...
REPAIR brain damage??? aw man i was tryna knock off sum iq points
Or, and hear me out, we know that their beliefs are causing them to do stupid things like elect leaders who ban abortions or tank economies or cause millions to die when they don't listen to health officials. I'm secure in my beliefs and one of them is if your beliefs are causing you to take action that leads to a detrimental interference in the lives of those around you, you need to be called to the carpet.
I don't think it is so much their beliefs but rather their desire to control other people and they have been groomed for years by churches, political leaders and entertainment networks.
Load More Replies...Well that should have put an end to those **missions** churches send their youth on, but alas.... and the JWs who knock on your door, did anyone tell them?
Not forcing, no. But if you're secure in your beliefs and choices and they're benefitting you or improving your life in a tangible way, it's natural to want to share them with people you care about. So while I definitely believe we should allow others their own choices, I don't think there's anything wrong with introducing them to things you believe and care about as a natural part of your relationship. Especially if you're willing to hear from them in return
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh, is that why some religious people force religion on others?
I am always unusually silent when in a bad mood. I appreciate that a part of me learned to do this.
i tend to take out my anger on myself and i sometimes wish i could make it clear that im not taking anybody's s**t
When my husband & I were first married & argued (something we have rarely done in 14yrs) I always told him to leave me alone & let me cool down before I say something I regret. I know I have a very sharp tongue & I don't want to hurt him on anger.
https://www.cnn.com/2021/01/26/health/swearing-benefits-wellness/index.html
Load More Replies...This is so very, very true....and I regretfully admit I was the one to say those unkind words
If you have a stable way to cope with it go for it. If not looking for a new job may be a good idea
Load More Replies...Geez.. is this wise advice when the subects of concern are family? I mean if your wife brings her mother to come and live with you in the house, how to apply the above advice without ending up ruining your marriage?
Well, I assume you get a say in the situation, and if you know her bringing her mother to live with you is going to create a toxic environment, say something. Come to a compromise. Can you help her mom pay to rent a smaller place close by, for instance? Or pay for housekeeping to come once every so often? A major lifestyle change like that should absolutely never be a unilateral decision.
Load More Replies...what if the thing that makes me happy robs me of my peace? ill answer that. Y O U T R A N S C E N D P E A C E /j
Pursuing people you would like to be friends is fruitless. Friends come together like magnets.
I have absence of beauty, nature,play, fun, and socializing but sadly I laugh at everything even when it’s not that funny
Don't confuse shyness with being an introvert. Shyness lends itself to anxiety in social situations. Introversion is more the active choice to be socially distant. Less speaking means more seeing and listening.
Is that why other coworkers suggested me to be the HR representative for my region....
Yep, me too, I constantly crave new music as well as old...... It's the one thing that keeps me going..... Music is life!!!
Load More Replies...I'm fine stagnating in the cheesy 80's and the dancy 90's thank you very much! 😃
I don't know, I like to find out new music, some new artists are very good, and now I appreciate classical music a lot more then when I was younger.
I find it's not stagnation, but refinement of taste. I know what I like now and it's usually made by people who have been perfecting their music for years.
How much older?? Nearing the end of the 40s here and still like new music....
I listen to Spotify all day every day. I'm 52yo and cut my teeth on Dad's soft rock- Neil Diamond, Fleetwood Mac. I discovered alternative music in middle school when you used to have to buy the right magazines and inquire about the band at your local record store. I have just never stagnated and open myself up to new music all the time so it almost kind of irritates me when people get stuck in the past music wise. I feel nostalgia when I listen to The Cure, but I don't want to live there.
you know what's funny, as a 15 yr old, you'd expect me to like Drake, Bieber, etc. but no. I like Metallica, Nirvana, Korn, etc
Haha adhd here too, but the only way I’m creative is coming up with excuses to get out of doing things, lol.
Load More Replies...The best teacher is one who is up on the subject, and willing to go down rabbit-trails. Amazing how much useful information is disseminated on rabbit-trails.
Could an explanation be that beachfront properties are expensive, therefore people living near the ocean tend to have more money and less existential worries
Yes. But it's both. I live in a lower-income area on the coast. It's still healing to go to the beach.
Load More Replies...Unless you're in the south pacific..... Cause the next couple of decades are gonna suck, when the sea swallows your homes.... ( just an edit, I'm Australian so I know my region, we're all gonna burn or drown down here, so enjoy your SUVs ok?)
I live in NZ so we’ll drown before you do, but it’s time we started targeting the real problem, not pretending the average joe can have that much impact. We should absolutely change, but it’ll make almost zero impact as we’re not the largest percentage of the problem, even all added up. It’s not not driving the SUVs that will save us, it’s cracking down on the mass pollution caused by the commercial industries we have come to rely on, the fast fashion, the toys and gadgets etc. focus your anger there.
Load More Replies...I've lived in a beach town for my entire life. It has INCREASED my psychological stress, because tons of tourists want to come to the nice beach town and see the ocean/beaches XD
I wonder if this is an elevation thing. My health and mood have always been significantly better at lower elevations. I have so much more energy than when I live at 4200 feet.Plus people in coastal areas are more likely to eat seafood/fish. Higher omega 3 is linked to a plethora of health benefits including mood and there are also benefits from better iodine intake
After a childhood of reading, writing stories and diaries I can conclude this tweet is a pile of c**p. It's like saying jogging protects you from breaking a bone because you can name your muscles and control your running pace.
Maybe for some. But for me, it really helps to name the things I am feeling to help me deal with it. For example, instead of just feeling "meh," I can feel powerless to help, frustrated about the monotony in my life while being apathetic about doing anything about it. It doesn't make it go away, but for me it helps with understanding. And naming stuff, like "perceived inadequacy" can help me sort out what's based on a lie.
Load More Replies...Nope. It just means you know 50 synonyms for "depressed", 30 for "miserable", and 2 for "suicidal". Granted, one of those last ones you learned on BP since we have to write it "unalived" on here. XD
ok, this may be true. I have a big vocabulary from doing a whole thing about it in school, and I am very in touch with what I'm feeling
Maybe I'll be the odd one out for saying this. I agree with this post. Learning more words to properly express how I feel has helped me to process my emotions instead of ignoring them. Ignoring my emotions led to a long list of addictive behaviors and substances. Talking about my emotions doesn't necessarily prevent me from getting depressed, but it does help me to accept my feelings and move on.
lol no. As a person who is in the process of learning a couple of languages, I have seen no change in my ability to control my emotions.
bull-s**t. i talk so much and end up saying so little. nothing can express my feelings better than literal screaming
I call BS on this one too. I'm a reader and have a high emotional IQ and a big vocabulary. I know what I'm feeling but that doesn't mean I can control it. Therapy, medication and good coping mechanisms help but there's no cure.
Or I fkn hate other men and have only had close female friends, so where do I fit?
It's almost as if there's more than two types of people, isn't it?
Load More Replies...Nonbinary people rarely get included in any studies unfortunately.
Load More Replies...kind of unrelated but the other day I was talking about some of my guy friends and my sister was like "oh yeah, I forget you were friends with the male population"
Hilariously, major depression often causes you to sleep/stay in bed all day! That's me!
I have faith that you'll get through this. Remember - the only way out is through!
Load More Replies...I'm sorry, that must really suck :( It's almost 5am for me and I haven't been able to even fall asleep yet, myself.
Load More Replies...From this article: "Prioritize sleep!" "If you're exhausted, you're not lazy, you're recuperating!" Also this article: "Get up an hour earlier and you'll be less depressed!"
Are you sure? Hedgehoggy aliens tend to be more grumpy if get up early, even if gone to sleep really early.
I won't lie - I don't understand this one. Does it mean that I should go to bed an hour earlier, too? Or just trim an hour off my normal night?
This post is entirely misleading. Read abhinc's explanation of the study that this is from. It shows that those whose natural body clocks lead them to wake up an hour earlier are 23% less likely to be depressed. Shifting your schedule to get up an hour earlier may or may not make a difference.
i can’t find abhinc’s explanation, did their account get deleted? @waite forit’s description says they got abhinc banned, but that doesn’t explain why i haven’t been able to find any of abhinc’s comments..
Load More Replies...Yep, that's why kids get insulted for having s**t mental health
I have a friend who is borderline suicidal (they've told me some things they've thought... it was dark...) and they actively approached a few teachers in their school and told them that their mental health is struggling. All the teachers blew them off. (Edit: They have an abusive and ignorant mother, and a supportive father)
Load More Replies...The people who try to block mental health education in schools are the same ones who try to block sex education. And for essentially the same reasons.
They try to but the videos they have are so cringey that no one cares
Long time out of school for me but I do not recall being taught physical health either. Yes to the obvious basics like sex ed and brush your teeth and bathe. But nothing about the bigger picture of health care and actual health issues beyond the most basic of adulting skills.
Also, teaching others something you have recently learned helps to reinforce it and is easier to remember.
I always tell my cat what I have recently learned. He is very sophisti-cat-ed by now.
Load More Replies...Oh, now I get it! Those kids in the back of my 1st period Algebra 2 class were just trying to retain the knowledge.
I do this. I get tired after getting home and fall asleep
In 90 % of time sarcasm is just waste of effort since most people are too dumb to understand it anyways
Ahh... but ... what if you're forced to respond in your head - because the moment you say it out loud, you're punished (because, oh no... you were sarcastic to the popular person, the 'cool-guy/chick').
Knowing to NOT instantly respond with sarcasm every time your witty brain thinks of some is also a sign of a healthy brain. I had to work on that one. Thinking of something funny (to you) does not mean you have to verbalize it.
There is also a fine line to walk with sarcasm! Our extended family is always sarcastic, but outsiders think we are putting each other down... idk. Different people take sarcasm differently!
Load More Replies...I think you'd call it self-care (ignoring the way that term is now being exploited to sell people - primarily women - expensive cosmetics and stuff).
Load More Replies...Ok no one has messenger me today but I’m going to text everyone the same messege and see how many people respond
I don’t want to text everyone so I just did the ones that are at the top
Load More Replies...**thinking about the person I'm kind of in love with** PLEASE I'm desperate
The key part of this is being alone without loneliness. Many people are not comfortable with being alone and therefore seek out relationships, these relationships don't stop the loneliness.
I've been married for 25 years, all I want is alone time. Being alone is so underrated.
I feel you. I need a lot of alone time to recharge and function properly!
Load More Replies...I like being alone. Not lonely, but alone. I mean, I adore hanging out with people, but I very much cherish my alone time :)
I posted this earlier, but it fits here too. A story that illustrates this perfectly: A teacher and a student are on a hill. The student points to the sky and says "Look! That bird is flying toward me!" The teacher slaps the hand away and says "That bird is not flying toward you - that bird is just flying!"
Is that story supposed to be a good story? Is that supposed to illustrate that we shouldn’t be self-centered? Because I see a lesson that says teachers are allowed to hit children for being children who don’t know any better, instead of a teacher gently guiding the child into learning that the world doesn’t revolve around them. Incidentally, both the child AND the teacher are correct. The bird is just flying, but it also IS flying “towards” the child. That is factual, not subjective. The bird is not doing it on purpose, but its flight path is still “towards” the child.
Load More Replies......oh. So that's what it is. I didn't know there was a word for this, but pretty much every night now?
Yes! I left a friend group recently and got a lot of shame for it, but my mental health is much better now that they’re out of my life.
It's not really that healthy of a sentiment. Anger is natural and healthy in a lot of situations. Plus it's putting that person's "reasons" above your own emotions or body reactions. I'm not saying understanding psychological motivations isn't helpful, I'm saying it's not a good replacement for healthy emotional functioning.
Load More Replies...Ehh... doesn't stop you from being disappointed or hurt from the path they chose to respond to that 'reason'.
Hearing voices in your head is normal. Listening to them is quite common. Arguing with them... acceptable. It is only when you lose that argument that you are in trouble.
Here we are again. Headless Roach is giving life tips for people who do indeed have a head /s
Load More Replies...Donald Trump being the obvious exception. (If you're old enough to remember who the politician Harold Stassen was. Insert his name instea. It s a much better post that way.)
Hearing your name being called with no one around is a sort of auditory memory that is activated and replayed in your brain. Cocktail party syndrome is the inability to differentiate sound from background noise.
Load More Replies...This is not good advice for people in the midst of trauma. Kind of the point of it is that you can't always control how your brain or body reacts. Obviously it's good to be proactive but I've seen this sort of advice make so many people feel guilty. You have to be in the right place for this advice to relevant.
If you have a sleeping pet on your lap you can't move. That's the law!
Load More Replies...This is such a misleading statement that it is almost meaningless. Basically everything enjoyable - from eating food you like to smoking crack - triggers dopamine release. It's why replacing a bad habit with a good one is more effective than just trying to quit a bad habit - the idea is to find something that gives you that dopamine hit in a healthy way that you can turn to instead of the unhealthy one.
Surely 'a key' to happiness. Not THE key. Different people enjoy doing different things. I like travelling but one of my sisters does not. She's a home-body, that's her comfort zone.
no. sorry. the internet says your sister is unhappy. so it has to be true. sorry for her.
Load More Replies...Do you know what you need to travel? Money. You need money. So I guess money CAN buy happiness.
Let those studies wait until they're 72 years old, and then ask them what they think.
Or taint those beautiful happy moments so you start associate them with stress...
That was my first thought as well. Kind of like using the same alarm clock song. I woke up to the same song for years (first song on a CD) and now it is cringe for me hearing that song because I associate it with being jolted out of my slumber.
Load More Replies...I really don't get this? Is it a good thing or a bad thing to tell your goals?
It's a bad thing cause you feel satisfied without even doing it, you just forget it like that lost toy you never found ever again.
Load More Replies...I think the truth of this depends on whether the person you're telling your goals to is going to hold you accountable or not for completing them. Like, when we did goal setting in school, they usually made us also check in a couple of times a year to see how they were coming along. My stepson's elementary school did that with goal-setting nights, where parents go and meet with the teacher and discuss what we all thought my stepson's goals should be for the term. I think it works when there's accountability behind it.
Load More Replies...Absolutely. Half the reason I run is to make the rounds to visit with my neighborhood canine friends. 🥰
Load More Replies...Can we do this in terms of every 60 minutes instead of every 69 minutes? Or maybe i should set my phone alarm.
Im waiting the moment where i could sleep and relax without getting disturb
A few years back I had to do this with a long time friend who became too abusive. For a while she was very hurt and mad at me. But she had time to consider things and she stopped drinking and we are back to being friends. And without the alcohol the abusive aspects stopped.
Did you try your best? Works wonders for getting your child to self-reflect. They know if they did and it holds them responsible, even if they don't share the answer with you.
Alternate thought - just be honest with kids overall. Praise them for wherever they excelled be it intelligence or effort and help them learn from where they failed / didn't do as well. I have attended school events with my grandkids where every child was praised equally just for showing up and not being a corpse. I do not feel that helps children prepare for life in the real world.
I hate it when people do that. I know the difference of a little kid and a teen is dramatic, but when people praise me for effort, it feels like they're saying "You couldn't do well enough to actually acomplish something, but I feel bad for you so here."
That is some straight up malarkey. Poverty has nothing to do with gratitude. Not that gratitude isn't healthy (it is), but it cannot fix poverty, income inequality, chronic health issues, crappy families, abusive relationships, nutritional deficiencies, and a lack of government or social supports. Further having abundance has more to do with where and who you were born to and gratitude or lack of doesn't take that away.
Im not content with all that I have but I do realize how blessed I am. I live in a tiny cucoon, protected from alot of harm. I WILL GROW THOUGH, THIS IS NOT THE END OF ME.
Yeah, being financial independent, making your goals/dreams come true, being able to travel and so on, really makes life less worth living. 🤦♀️ Having two jobs, picking up the kids but hardly have any time to spend with them, not afford xmas presents and vacations is the answer. 😊 I get that being famous may suck, but a lot of problem people have day to day can be solved by money: going to collage, going to the doctor/therapy (if in the US) not being to leave an abusive SO, spend more time with family and so on.
Video call, and scream F-YOU!!!! Whilst flipping the bird.. just to avoid any confusion 😁
And it doesn't just apply to humans, but to animals as well. My dad had a pair of albino German shepherds who were mirror images of each other but otherwise identical. When one died because he was poisoned, the other died less than six hours later from the grief (the vet had checked both and only found poison in the first one).
Change is scary. Even good change. I take solace in the familiar, no matter how uncomfortable (MOST of the time)
I think maybe it depends on the person. When I'm burnt out from socialising I hate showers, but when I'm lonely I love them, and some people I know just hate showers no matter what.
Load More Replies...When you're depressed.. you're lucky if you can even make it into the damn shower 🚿
Lonely people are more likely to have TIME to take a longer bath because they don't have toddlers and a husband banging on the door saying they need to use the bathroom NOW and oh by the way the dog threw up on the sofa and Timmy is using it to finger paint on the walls.
I think there are plenty of people who have kids or significant others who are still lonely. But I agree about the interruption thing. It's not even worth it to relax in a bath if my kid is at home. He's either asking me unnecessary questions or he and the corgi are fighting like siblings.
Load More Replies...You can be busy without socialising tho! I love to do stuff, but at home :D
Load More Replies...Tell that to nurses when there aren't enough staff, and you literally don't sit down for the entire 8 or 12 hour shift (except to use the bathroom . . . if you're lucky).
Define "attractive".. to you? Or to a baby? For the first weeks babies cant see well.. what difference does that make?
Babies tend to look longer at things that are symmetrical. People tend to think those with more symmetrical faces are more attractive.
Load More Replies...And normalise being childfree too. 👍 I read to many posts about how horrible people are to both single and/or childfree people.
Load More Replies...I learned very late in life that mind-breaking anxiety I feel whenever someone isn't following "the rules" or is doing something that will make someone in authority unhappy, was a reaction to growing up in a somewhat volatile environment in which, if someone made the parent unhappy, we were ALL in trouble.
Yes, everything wrong with anyone can be helped universally by this OP. Nice to know they have everything figured out. I feel 100% better already!! Wow!! Why didn't I read this before?? I'm cured!!!
I learned very late in life that mind-breaking anxiety I feel whenever someone isn't following "the rules" or is doing something that will make someone in authority unhappy, was a reaction to growing up in a somewhat volatile environment in which, if someone made the parent unhappy, we were ALL in trouble.
Yes, everything wrong with anyone can be helped universally by this OP. Nice to know they have everything figured out. I feel 100% better already!! Wow!! Why didn't I read this before?? I'm cured!!!
