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10 throw pillows on the couch and 15 on the bed. A dozen healthy plants scattered around the living room and trinkets and knick-knacks lining every shelf. The scent of a fresh, lemon candle burning in the entryway and banana bread baking in the oven. Does this sound like a bachelor pad to you?
Men and women are not monoliths, and there are plenty of guys who have cozy, welcoming homes. But there are also some men out there whose living spaces benefited greatly from “a woman’s touch,” so they've recently been sharing their experiences on Reddit. Below, you’ll find a variety of the ways having a woman move in transformed these guys’ homes, so enjoy reading these amusing responses and upvoting any you can relate to. And keep reading to find a conversation with home design expert Melanie Boyden of Melanie Jade Design!
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#1
I came home once from work. She’d made an awesome dinner. Put cut up strawberries in the salad.
Strawberries guys. It was game over.
Been married nine years now and she’s still doing everything on a strawberries-in-the-salad level.
François Bouzigues 2 years ago
My then not yet girlfriend made me dinner. She went from sweet girl i´d like to know better to I met the mommy of my kids. Three kids later, i am glad that things turned out for the better.
Astrophile 2 years ago
Game over. Sweet and savoury is the best and most underrated flavour combo.
Allen Packard 2 years ago
Gross. Not a fan but I just make my salad first and then add them for my wife. I guess blueberries taste good too but again, gross for me.
Crystal Ruiz 2 years ago
I love salads with strawberries in them... delicious and aesthetics❤️
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#2
Water glasses everywhere, bathrooms are now a disaster, lost my race tire storage room, and there's a cat, dog, and 4yr old running around now. (The last one is half my fault). Totally worth it, she's the best thing that's ever happened to me.
Astrophile 2 years ago
I grew up in a mechanic/drag race family, that’s a thing :) don’t even ask about the burnt clutch dungeon
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Bill Clinton 2 years ago
Indian girlfriend: metal glasses, so they never break. Talk about next level!
Susan Teter 2 years ago
Look in the mirror every morning and repeat 3 times...I'M LUCKY SHE PUTS UP WITH MY A*S"
#3
She changed the sheets. Like, what is this? Buckingham Palace?
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Well, if you insist that you want your old sheets back, you can find them standing up by themselves in the corner.
SirDigbyChickenCaesar 2 years ago (edited)
Some guy friends of mine recently told me they pretty much never change or wash their sheets. I honestly could not believe this is a common guy thing. That's DISGUSTING!!! I imagine their bedrooms. Smelling like a hamster cage.
Marcellus II 2 years ago
In totally unrelated news, someway somehow bed bugs are multiplying and nobody knows why.
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To learn more about the impact a woman's touch can have on a bachelor pad, we reached out to Melanie Boyden, creator of Melanie Jade Design. We were curious what differences the expert has observed between spaces that are occupied by single men and single women. "I am constantly looking at homes, reading about them in magazines, and helping people design their own spaces," Melanie shared.
"The main differences I have observed are en tend to gravitate towards neutral colours like blacks, greys, and browns with maybe a bold accent thrown in. They also prefer low-maintenance, durable and straightforward materials like leather, metal and dark wood," the design expert explained. "Women lean more towards a broader and sometimes more colorful palette, incorporating pastels, earth tones, or jewel tones more frequently. They might opt for a mix of textures like velvets, faux furs, and soft linens and go for a layered look. They also seem to be more open to adding plants and artwork into their homes."
#4
She always gets vanilla candles and now this house always smells like a bakery and GOD DAMMIT I LOVE IT
hitex 2 years ago
My favorites are Apple Custard candles...smell like pie & smell fantastic for all seasons of the year
Swoo 2 years ago
yeah yeah yeah, that's great, but what happens when there is no apple custard in the hoven to partake later????? I'd be so disappointed
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Garth 2 years ago
I had to give a buddy the "she moved in and you didn't notice" test... Are there scented candles? Yes but she said they smell nice. Are there more pillows on the bed ? Yes but she said that old ones were worn out. Are her clothes in the closet? Well she stays sometimes and needs to get ready for work. Is her toothbrush and beauty products all over the bathroom? Well yeah it's easier for her to get ready in get morning. Does she laugh at all your stupid jokes ? ... His eyes got big and he said.. OH MY GOD... she's living here !
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago
Right??? My wife did this and I asked her what is this sorcery?...Now you will find this big burly man typing this, happily skipping through aisles searching for candles!
Tracy Wallick 2 years ago
I have candle warmers instead of burning them, my bedroom smells like olive and citrus, office smells like peony <3
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My son's ex girlfriend has been an "almost" daughter to me for almost 30 years now. She told me recently that she'd gone to some shop and she almost started crying because it smelled like my house. Vanilla candles and something good on the stove. LOVE.
#5
She replaced my cardboard box with an end table. Unnecessarily.
Givemeabreak101 2 years ago
Replaced my old cable spool with a table. I did have a tablecloth on it.
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago (edited)
Ohhhh so the end table was IN the box...I thought the box WAS the end table /J
#6
A friend of mine -who grew up with his dad and two brothers- told me they found out his dad had a girlfriend when suddenly a candle appeared in the livingroom out of nowhere.
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago
I have this scene in my head of 3 boys staring at the candle, like 3 Neanderthals seeing fire for the first time lol
While Melanie notes that bachelor pads can be very stylish, she's noticed that they tend to miss elements that would enhance the comfort and appearance of their home. "Rooms can be a bit sparse and lacking items like layered lighting (floor and table lamps), softer textures like a plush rug or a blanket on their leather sofa (which can be cold and feel steril)," she explained. "And think about the walls! Does it need more personal artwork? A mirror? Most definitely a plant or two."
#7
Worked on a ship when a female cook-steward started working there, before the crew were all male. Within a couple of days the mess and galley were transformed. Tablecloths, curtains, coasters, it was really all new, the galley became a water-cooler kinda place where you always could go to have a chat and get a snack, the galley always smelled of cooking and she was listening to her radio. It was a real game changer from the former grumpy guy and sterile setting. Our skipper loved it.
Rojudrws 2 years ago
Men have something against decor I've noticed. I've seen guys spend their entire adult lives in a bare apartment with just a TV and a couch until they get a partner.
Christopher Rogers 2 years ago
Men typically care about function more than form. If an upside down box can hold a lamp, it's a table now. The couch is soft? It's also a bed now. Decor doesn't tend to factor in as having a purpose or much even cross your mind when you have this way of thinking.
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#8
My formerly pristine white walls suddenly had art on them.
My front door grew a doormat.
My bathroom got a wicker basket with cheesy slogans on the interior lining. "Home is where the heart is" and other such remarkable sayings.
The walls in my shower now contain, what I can only assume is also decorative in intent, long strands of hair.
The drain needs regular cleaning because it, too, is full of long hairs.
The kitchen is always clean and I have 12 different glasses for all kinds of beverages. And 8 cups for variations of coffee and soups.
The fridge keeps track of all the cards we received. Since she moved in, those are many. Before her, I received none.
Astrophile 2 years ago
So glad I have fine hair 😅 It’s thick as hell but baby fine and I’ve honestly never had an issue with hair in the shower *knocks on wood*
arthbach 2 years ago
I have a non-functioning brain today. Can you explain how you hair can be thick, but at the same time 'baby fine'? For me, 'thick' and 'baby fine' are describe the same characteristic, the width of the individual strands of hair.
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TheGoodBoi 2 years ago
When I was a young GoodBoi, my sister told me the hair strands were actually spiders. Yeah I was a dirty GoodBoi for a week or so...
Susan Teter 2 years ago
Well Well Well....like it or not, you just found your other. Suck it up...you just got owned.
#9
She stopped me from almost burning down my apartment when she pulled an entire stuffed animal worth of lint out of my drier. I didn't know that was a thing.
Laura Williams 2 years ago
Now you have enough for a toupee. That's a bonus.
Load More Replies... Astrophile 2 years ago
Stuff like this is honestly just things you need to know when you own a home with a dryer….genitals shouldn’t be a factor here
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago
Agreed. This should be taught, or maybe put on a sticker next to the On/Off button. Stuff is serious!
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Courtney 2 years ago
I had a friend in grad school who was living on his own for the first time. His family was super wealthy and had maids and servants his whole life. About 2 months in he was complaint that the dryer wasn’t drying his clothes and he was needing to run it several cycles. I asked about his lint trap and he had no clue what that was. Went over and showed him. The lint was so solid it felt like 3 inches of memory foam!
Autistic McWolferson the Forth 2 years ago (edited)
Okay now this one is more like "I know you're a guy, but if you're not a 10 year old you should still know what a lint trap is...". This guy needs to get it together because good god
Hamlets twin 2 years ago
To anyone who has a dryer in their living space, clean the dryer vent! It should be be done at least once a year to prevent fires. If you are just learning about this, don't wait, do it now. You can buy a kit online to do it your self or hire someone.
Rojudrws 2 years ago
Where was his father? It's not just up to the mother to teach him basic needs like cooking and laundry.
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WindySwede 2 years ago
that ironing board looks like it is put in a really bad place? Bending over really much?
As far as how couples can work together to create a space that feels like home for both of them, Melanie says the key is communication. "Before making any design decisions, couples need to discuss what they like and don't like and compromise. They need to start by taking an inventory of their belongings and deciding what will stay and what needs to go, as no one likes living in a cluttered home (and this can lead to arguments)," the expert notes.
#10
She made a raised flower bed in my backyard and planted a nice little vegetable garden.
Astrophile 2 years ago
Aww everyone should have a veggie garden! I don’t have the room or yard but I regrow my green onions/lettuces/herbs/celery on my apartment window sill in lil reused pasta sauce jars with a lil water :)
Desiree Meredith 2 years ago
Convenience. That's it. They're higher up and better on your back. They can also go just about anywhere and there is less weeding involved. I, however, hate them. I do raised beds now because I rent and can't put anything in the ground. They dry out much more quickly than in ground and the soil sucks in comparison. With in-ground gardening, you have the original "dirt," that is heavy in minerals. If you continue to layer on humic organic matter, the soil becomes rich in everything needed to grow beautiful veggies. I grew up on an organic farm, and our vegetables were always in ground. My experience with raised beds has left me bitter, lol.
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What's odd about this one is that 99.9% of the time its the guy that does stuff like this. So let me get this straight "she bought all the parts needed from home Depot, assembled them then planted all the seeds" Next thing I expect to hear from this guy is "...and then she used the buzzsaw in the garage to cut up a bunch of sheets of wood to make some shelves for the spare room". This is more like "A man's touch but from a woman" which is fair, but doesn't fit the theme of this thread at all
Samara Morgan 1 year ago
A lot of women use tools better than their husbands, there's no need to be sexist.
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My bed was a mattress in the floor for like 5 years, she bought a bed frame. Married her
Raumpfleger 2 years ago
That's the ONLY thing I still miss after 17 years: sleeping on a mattress on the floor. While I agree that a bed looks much better, don't ask me why, I just sleep so much better on the floor.
SolitaryIntrovert 2 years ago (edited)
That is because there can't be any monsters under the bed/mattress if it is on the floor. 😉😉😁😁
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Astrophile 2 years ago
Some of this stuff is cute and some of it is like…..just regular adult stuff 😅
Autistic McWolferson the Forth 2 years ago (edited)
Lol that takes some guts from her, being willing to marry a guy that doesn't understand the concept or importance of NOT sleeping on the floor or knowing what a bed-frame is. And it is clear he wasn't a Futon enjoyer based on how this was written so... Just... Gross....
Koko 2 years ago
The amount of nasties that stays in the bottom of the bed if not lifted up is just grosses me out, I can never sleep on the floor unless it's japanese style and you put it away every night and hang to Sun every so often. The average mattress gets heavier over the years due to dead skin and mite and dust and that's just gross.
Boop the Snoot. Pound the Paw. 2 years ago
My son slept in a dishwasher box on the floor for years. I mean pillow, head, torso in the box, waist down out of the box. At some point, he had to reinforce it w strapping tape and golf clubs.
#12
I work in a male dominated industry, and in a smaller office the women were the reason for the kitchen being clean, there being cake and cookies on birthdays or just for fun, for team picnics and fun activities being had. And finally bring on a team with a 50/50 gender ratio, the men even picked up on some of it, especially in terms of emotional ques. Compliments on a haircut, checking in when someone seemed down, a little 5-7 or gift when someone achieved something or like, had a baby. My own little women team were so close, none if us wirk together anymore, but we still talk all the time, we'd vompliment each other, tell each other we love them, always help one out. Emotional labour of women in companies is HUGE
Sebastian J. 2 years ago
As a result of hand-me-down beliefs that women should be the ones cleaning. It's very unfortunate that this is still a stereotype of women.
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Sunshine Lady 2 years ago
Probably getting together after work for 2 hours, that's how I understand it.
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Rojudrws 2 years ago
Notice how its men that are denying the wage gap. Hm. Wonder why that is.
Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
“There is no wage gap!” What? Globally? In every country and every company? That’s great. Because I have heard a ton of instances of men being promoted over more qualified women, and women whose ideas are being ignored by male management. I’m sure lesser qualified men are being paid in a higher level job over the women who aren’t getting promoted.
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sophiedumas1184@gmail.com 2 years ago
Sorry all......misread the sentence. Can't see how to remove my idiotic comment!! Duuuhhhhhhh!
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"Finally, consider neutral colours as this can act as a blank canvas, allowing both people to accessorise with their own items. If they do need to shop for the person moving in, make sure they shop together," the expert added. "That way, they can both voice opinions and find items that resonate with both."
#13
For myself, it is scented hand soaps. As a bachelor, I got whatever orange-looking cheapo bottle I could get. My girlfriend/wife moves in and loads up on bakery-scented hand soaps in the bathrooms. One day, when I got home, I told her we had to have a serious adult discussion. 'What scent to pick out next?' To this day, 'serious adult discussion' is code for 'Out of soap. What should we use next?'
Givemeabreak101 2 years ago
My now wife said my bar of Lave was disgusting and threw it out. After I ruined a "nice" hand towel it came back but stays in a soap container in the cabinet.
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago
It's the first day of fall here! Where's that Halloween themed candle, or that pumpkin whatever candle??
Susan Reid Smith 2 years ago
It is time to ask hubby to reach the pumpkin candle and the ceramic jack o lantern out of the high shelf in the cupboard.
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#14
You ever play a game you think you're doing pretty well with. I fought the minions. I explored the castle. I beat the boss. I saved the princess. I did all the stuff. I succeeded. I beat the game. In this analogy, I cooked, I vacuumed, I did laundry, I dusted here and there, and overall took good care of my home. I own my own little place, and I did what I could to make an old place look at least lived in and comfortable and clean. I organized it to the best of my own ability, taking time to map out the rooms and layout and all that. I really felt like I'd done a decent job. Friends often told me "I feel at home in your home." A girl I'd never met was the +1 of a dear friend for a New Year's party I hosted coming into 2020 (ah, innocent times) who told me she felt safe enough to have someone else make her drink for her at my party. That was an incredible compliment. I did the thing, ya know?
Then I met my fiance. She's finishing a degree in interior design, and when she moved in, worked with me (fully cooperative and communicated) to change the decor and layout of the house. Literally no issue whatsoever. Bachelor pad and "home we will share together" are dramatically different looks. Keep that in mind, fellas. It isn't YOUR way anymore. You blend and compromise and grow.
Anyway, wow.
My house looks so much nicer. Like, I thought I knew how to play this game. I beat the boss, lol. But man. She came in with the up up down down combo breaker b******t and turned my house into a home. We repainted the living room, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom. We've changed decor. We've added pictures and rugs and lights. I dunno, man. My house doesn't look like "MY" house anymore because of her... It looks so much better. We work really well together because we're both understanding that this is a home we SHARE, and so there are influences of my style, her style, all that. The office where I work was basically 100% my design because I'm the one primarily there. She wanted to do a room for herself, and we decided on the bedroom. We both felt fulfilled, respected, and heard. I know some guys don't like the idea of the lady's touch. Those guys either have ladies who don't listen to them or they don't listen to their ladies, because this whole mutual respect thing really worked out well for me, at least.
10/10, I advise getting yourself one of them there "lady's touch" designer gals. Mine is top notch :)
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 2 years ago
She's a keeper and the thankfully and respectfully way you speak about her, you are a keeper too.
Chelini Family 2 years ago
I love this so much!! That's our marriage and we are 20 years and going. We are deep in an amazing DND campaign of life and I couldn't be happier 💞
#15
A warmth and happiness I didn’t know I was missing and CERTAINLY didn’t know how to cultivate. Art, glassware style unity, refrigerator organization, multiple sets of sheets…
The list goes on. A million little touches that compile a happy home
Sara Wilson 2 years ago
And if we aren't treated right, it all goes away, and in the case of my ex husband, goes back to what life was like before me
"The best thing to do is to try and be respectful of each other's design choices," Melanie told Bored Panda. "It is really not worth fighting over an additional cushion on the sofa, or the boyfriend keeping his favorite painting of his childhood pet on the wall. And above all, communicate."
If you'd like to hear more words of wisdom and design tips from the expert, be sure to visit her website Melanie Jade Design!
#16
I couldn’t keep my motorcycle in the living room or my tools and parts in the kitchen cabinets anymore
Astrophile 2 years ago
Yeah keeping their bike stuff in the kitchen would have killed them long ago if this was the dark ages. JK my bf is teaching me to rebuild my own bike and we definitely occasionally have rags and parts and bits in the kitchen 😅 haven’t died yet!
Load More Replies... Garth 2 years ago
Wrenches are like fine silverware and belong in the silverware drawer.... right ?
Marcellus II 2 years ago
It's not much of a "living" without a bike, so yes, in the "living room" it must surely go.
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Inclusion2020 2 years ago (edited)
My fiancé works on cars and does leather work. We lived in a small trailer when we were first together, and you would have thought that this man had strewn about his tools with the intention of using them as decoration. The place was an absolute wreck lol.
Tim Douglass 2 years ago
Well, the tools cost more than the fine china and motorcycle parts cost like high-end crystal, so why not keep them in the kitchen?
Karen Philpott 2 years ago
That's what your workshop is for. The keeping of bikes, car parts and tools. Not to be kept in the lounge, kitchen or bathroom.
#17
Apparently I am supposed to have pictures of my loved ones in my house. Who knew?
Angi 2 years ago
Glad I'm not the only one. The only family pictures I have around the house were gifts from my mom.
Load More Replies... SirDigbyChickenCaesar 2 years ago
A tornado could take out my entire home and destroy all of my photos too. At least the ones on the computer have backups I can download and/or print again.
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SirDigbyChickenCaesar 2 years ago (edited)
I barely have any family photos. Have a few photos of my puppers that have passed away. But not many on display. I prefer art. I am not male.
Phoenix 2 years ago
Nope. I'm not having my parents, siblings, etc watching me in my own home. Creepy.
#18
My wife still tells the story. We've been together for 6 yrs. She said that when she first saw my place she immediately had fratboy/treehouse vibe to it. Bare room, Non-matching furniture. Nothing on the wall. She added pictures on the wall, made the balcony nicer and organized my kitchen so everything is easily accessible. When we moved into our house, she organized everything. Things did change a little after living in it for a year. She did realize how I wanted my kitchen (primary cook). I ended up putting stuff where I wanted it, so she made changes. I absolutely love our house now. We have friends come and hang out atleast twice a month. We've cooked and entertained for as many as 15 people, and it turned out great. Highly recommend a woman's touch to your treehouse/prison cell decor.
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
This story speaks about true partnership, not just bout "i was useless till she came into my life"
Nicole Weymann 2 years ago
Yea, well, many moms come with a woman's touch, too.
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Lisa Whipp Myhre 1 year ago
After reading all these comments, I'm thinking I may need to switch teams.
Jenny Hornig 2 years ago
Funny - my flat looked like this, just random Furniture, no deco, no plants. When I met my bf he changed everything. People often compliment ME how nice and Homely everything looks - only thanks to him.
michele mbennett101044@yahoo.c 2 years ago
Guys, beer cans and bar lights are not a “style “, just saying….
Susan Teter 2 years ago
Tree house/ prison cell.. your welcome...just shot coffee out my nose laughing 😃
#19
Pictures, curtains, cushions. Little tables to put your drinks on. Coasters! So much stuff, bless her.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
When I rented a house with my brother, my mom came over and told me "honey (which is the word that prefaced each time you were supposed to pay close attention) you got to have curtains in your house!". In each successive house I've made sure there's curtains, lol! RIP, mom.
Jude Laskowski 2 years ago
My ex-bf refused to let me add or move anything while we were dating. He didn't have a coffee table, so I bought a small one so I wouldn't have to hold my beverage in my lap. He put it in the garage. I took it back home and dumped him a while later. Turned out his ex-gf from many years ago, moved out and took her coffee table, so no other was good enough. Wish people would grow up.
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago
Oh my mother instilled the coaster thing into my brain. I got the "My sweet sweet child, PUT THAT DRINK ON A COASTER NOW!! ELBOWS OFF THE TABLE! SIT UP, YOU ARE NOT A SLOB!!". Amongst other lovely things. Thankfully she took it down a couple of notches now that I'm older but I do have to remind myself about that damned coaster while at her house :)...
GadgetGirl 2 years ago
My husband will set his drink down right next to the coaster. Every table he sits near has water spots.
#20
My house is plain as f**k. My ex had it looking like a home. Decor/rugs/wall hangings etc etc. It was 10x better. She took it all when she left and I never got around to trying it out myself. I should tho. It really looked so much better.
Astrophile 2 years ago
Amen, I decorated the heck out of my home and then got 2 kittens 😝 decor did not last long
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Winnie the Moo 2 years ago
Then make a collage of the ideas you like and step by step try to buy something of your idea-board en include it in your home. Or try adding accessories (like throw pillows or a couch blanket) in warm earthly tones, it will give a feel of warmth and cosiness. And plant also do a lot!
#21
Towels.
We have shower towels, hair drying towels, bathroom hand towels, kitchen hand towels and certain towels for wiping your mouth and then different towels to clean with
Never try to wipe your hands on the wrong kind of kitchen towel or to wipe up a spill with the wrong towel
SageHare37 2 years ago
I didn't want towels to be an issue when my husband and I moved in together. I decided to keep it as simple as possible. No scratchy embroidered towels that can't be used. Colored towels are for drying human parts in the bathroom or kitchen hand towels, white towels are for anything else (floor spills, dog baths, etc). Laundry is more simple too, as the white towels get washed on sanitizing heat with bleach, colored towels get a more color safe wash. And most important, no arguments over why a "nice" towel was used on something gross/staining.
Jude Laskowski 2 years ago
Don't forget the "rag" towels that are one step away from the trash.
Snowhater 2 years ago
My wife finds everything in the kitchen and know which towel to use for what. But she doesn't know where the tools are.
Nicole Weymann 2 years ago
My father finds every tool in the kitchen - particularly the sharpest knives, but also things like the sieve - and relocates it where nobody will find them unless looking for something completely different. That sieve has now been gone for about six weeks, the best peeler reappeared after three days with the blade broken off, and my mother regularly patrols his favourite working places around the house and garden foraging for lost pliers, kitchen knives, and tupperware (filled with an assortment of rusty screws).
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🩶🩷Marvin HoG🩷🩶 1 year ago
To be fair my husband will try to dry dishes with the same towel he just cleaned the stovetop with. I'm not missed about everything but please done dry the dishes with the same towel you cleaned up an oil spill with!
Chelini Family 2 years ago
I had that house before I was overrun by 3 sons lol I'll use my empty nester time refreshing our home. But 100% worth it wouldn't change it for anything. Keep in mind, today I'm hosting a sleepover of four more 13-year-old boys and two more just for dinner and cake. It's chaos right now. Lol 50
#22
Lots of plushies moved in with her, some of them now sleep on the bed.
Firstname Lastname 2 years ago
I admittedly have a lot of plushies, but anyone who I have shared a bed with has always made sure I'm tucked in with one, and then proceeds to steal it to cuddle with themselves when they go to bed.
Lucca Wenner 2 years ago
My hubby now uses one to hug while sleeping instead of a 2nd huge pillow!
Allison A 2 years ago
It's not bad to like plushies. Yes, it is possible to go overboard with it, but one or two plushies isn't bad.
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The million shampoo bottles and all the seasonings
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago
The seasonings I agree. Didn't take me long to just leave every single one of the shampoo bottles alone and not to question it. Learned that one the hard way when I thought I did something good by throwing most of them away 😅.
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KingsRaven 2 years ago
I'm not sure I like this one. I like having my shampoo that doubles as body wash and concrete mix.
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
none of them is ever finished! they keep accumulating and new ones keep being bought. welcome to the waste of money
iseefractals 2 years ago
Before my wife and i got together, for her first 22 years, the seasonings of her life were limited to salt and pepper. It's not her fault, she's Romanian and they just do not have a very wide variety of spice blends over here. Now, she lives a life that goes through 1000 grams of Old Bay, 1000g of Mesquite seasoning, 750g of cajun seasoning and 300g of celery seed in 6 months. Those are just the big ones...we've gotten our impending Amazon order down to $500...maybe.
#24
It was bare, terrible feng shui, random clutter, no decorations, no plants, dusty, bed mostly unmade. I had a massive wrap around couch in my bedroom that I salvaged from the street, which was quickly relocated.
Endless candles. New cooking utensils I’d never seen before in my life and didn’t know how to use. Toilet roll that used to last me years now lasts months. I eat more healthily, drink less, go on nice trips more. Generally massive improvements with minor drawbacks.
9/10 recommend.
Jihana 2 years ago
What unholy mutant abomination of a toilet roll does he use that lasts YEARS??
JoTheLizard(she/they) 2 years ago
I think he meant those jumbo packs with like 40 rolls
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Steven Raccoon 2 years ago
Probably used those giant 1 ply Scott toilet paper that you see at gas stations that are like razor blades. Or he used the toilet paper the military way. I'd explain but it will be censored.
#25
Different sizes of tea cups. I used to just make tea in a ceramic 1L beer stein.
Laugh or not 2 years ago
But if it is in one cup, it is tepid by the time you finished. I prefer a smaller cup and a teapot that keeps the rest warm/hot.
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iseefractals 2 years ago
My wife drinks so much tea that's the only way i'll serve it too her. She makes it herself often, but refers to my tea as the "special" tea.....because i put 4 tablespoons of honey, 2 lemons worth of juice and a concentrate from 4 bags worth of extract. It is one of her favorite things, and she has made me promise to never tell her how i make because she knows she won't drink it anymore if she knows how much honey actually goes into it.
Kathy Dragonfly 2 years ago
the beer stein tea mug is however a fantastic concept (that i might potentially steal)
Sunshine Lady 2 years ago
My husband is still drinking everything from 1 cup. Wine, coffee, water, tea, beer - why using more? And we have a lot of glasses, cups.
Oskar vanZandt 2 years ago
I make mine in a 0.5L glass mugs that I also drink soup out of... I have other glasses, cups and mugs, but I prefer the half litre mugs (and pint glasses).
#26
So many blankets everywhere.
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago
Yep. Had to buy a big seat cabinet thingy to stuff most of them in. Then there's three on the couch, won't mention the bed...Oh well 🤷♂️
ILoveMySon 2 years ago
To be comfy cozy; some people tend to get cold easily. Also, extra for guests.🙂
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Kerry Moore 2 years ago
My roommates get so frustrated with me every time I bring home a new blanket because they say we don't have room. Sorry, I need one for my shoulders and one for my lap in every room I frequent. This is not negotiable.
featherytoad 2 years ago
That's what my husband ( then boyfriend) liked about my apartment. Big floor pillow and blankets.
#27
my messy fridge turned into a very clean and organized *refrigeratohr*
afia kooma 2 years ago (edited)
If its not because you tend to leve food for to long (no jugment here) it could improve by cleaning it out with something that kills bacteria, and then cutting up a lemen or an onion and leave it it there for a few ways. It attracts moldspores and kills it. If your lemon or onion grts very moldy, do the prosess again. This also works for smelly rooms where mold or certain bacteria are a problem.
Load More Replies... JewishPunnyBunny 2 years ago
Before my husband and I married, his fridge was sparse. Now it's cluttered but at least there's plenty in there xD
Romek Vili 2 years ago
I do not agree. My fridge was full of beer and bacon. Now it is full of plants
#28
We now have, without exaggeration, 15 end tables in the house. 4 more in the attic just in case.
Astrophile 2 years ago
To be fair, you can use end tables for so many activities. Can never have enough.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
Boredom. When you get bored, you dust/polish the damned things, lol.
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#29
Lotions. For different seasons. She has a method to which ones she uses when. And they’re not cheap either.
Tiny Dynamine 2 years ago
Isn't it weird that men don't have to use any, but women have to use lots? It's almost as if they beauty industry has its hands around around women's throats.
lenka 2 years ago
I think lots of men do use lotions and lots of men who don't would benefit from using them, purely from a skin care perspective. They can be really beneficial for painful acne or dry itchy skin (for e.g.). You are right about the beauty industry though. Those btards target women to create fears about ageing and looking bad then sell products women dont need to fix 'problems' that dont exist.
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kaycee14 2 years ago
If you want your skin (the body's largest organ) to be healthy, use moisturizer and sunscreen.
naylene hess 2 years ago
We have been fine for thousands of years lol . I dont and my skin is perfectly fine and not wrinkly whatsoever
Load More Replies... Lady Lava 2 years ago (edited)
All bullsh*t from the beauty industry, and it got me allergies too. I don't fall for it anymore, a few years ago I quit all skincare creams etc., except for a lotion to get my eye make-up off (I already never did foundation and such stuff) and sunscreen when necessary. My skin looks fine, even less dry than before, and I save a lot of money!
featherytoad 2 years ago (edited)
There is so much stuff in skin care products that a lot of people wind up with allergies. Just because it says dermatologist developed/tested/approved, doesn't mean s**t. Everyone's skin is different. I can't use anything with niacinamide in it yet, it's in everything. Makes me itchy and gives me a red rash every time. I just went back to my old routine and my skin is much happier and clear.
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sherry powers 2 years ago
I don't do lotions, especially food scents. If I'm putting anything on my skin it's unscented and going to help my skin.
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
Same as with other bathroom products - she still doesn't know which one she wants to keep. Get on with your own grooming routine - you do have a smartphone, don't ya?
#30
I think for me the biggest difference is having a more well-stuffed fridge, and just in general having more fresh food and a more varied and healthy diet compared to when single. When living alone I just mostly stocked up on the bare minimum when it came to food, and could have the same type of meal for several days in a row.
I have actually always been very much into decorating and flowers and such - perhaps more so than my partner - so that part didn't really change much.
#31
There’s decorations and plants. The bedroom now looks like a human lives in it instead of a bear just using it for hibernation
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
That is what bedroom supposed to be used for - sleeping and other activities LOL
#32
It looks like a home rather than a place I live with my random things I like everywhere. It’s just put together. It’s not what I would have done but it just makes everything feel stable. There’s this nice a*s rug, throw pillows, shelves arranged certain ways. Idk but it’s nice. It makes me not want to f**k it up and keep it clean
Astrophile 2 years ago
When my last roommate moved in with me, she was the best homemaker - we made a lil painted sign that said “it’s not a whôre house, it’s a whôre home” and we totally had throw rugs. I miss her!
#33
Colour. I used to have just white, black and gray stuff, from clothes to bed sheets. She put color everywhere, I love it
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
there is nothing worse than colors that don't go together and make your house look like a circus
#34
Plants, lamps, blankets, food, hope. And many, many shoes.
#35
So, she didn’t move in, but we moved in together to a house I bought. Everything is ultimately more pleasant. Rooms are thoughtfully designed. The furniture is high-quality and comfortable. The dishes look good. It’s a pleasure to be in my office. My things are organized. Everything has a place. If I can’t find it, I check the place, and it’s there. Plus also I got a new cat friend or, honestly, after a week a potential cat friend.
Edward Treen 2 years ago
I'm lucky then: my three are friends 24/7. When I sit on the settee, they get up from wherever they are just to drape themselves on me. And purr - lots of purr.
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#36
Pillows.......
SO
MANY
PILLOWS
TheGoodBoi 2 years ago (edited)
There's show pillows and ones you can lay your head on and it not feel like a boulder. Heck we have some that have bells attached to the corners for the Christmas season that she can hear if I move them. I'll get a "PUT..THAT..BACK" from the other room ugh grumble grumble...
Load More Replies... Cat servant 2 years ago
Many women use throw pillows because they need them behind their back. A lot of furniture is deep enough that a shorter person needs the pillows behind them so their feet don't stick out in front of them when they try to rest their back against the the chair or sofa back. My mom needed them. If chairs are bought for a 6 + foot tall person then 5 and half foot tall person needs the pillows. They may as well be pretty.
Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
That make sense. As a 6ft women I never understood having a ton of pillows. A couple, yes, but not lots. But then I love my feet up, so I curl my legs up, sit sideways or need a footrest. I wouldn’t mind my legs not reaching the edge
Load More Replies... David A Paterson 2 years ago
Yes. I can't sit down any more. There's nowhere left to put the cushions I have to remove.
lawrence Andrew 2 years ago
Every day I stacked all the throw pillow in a corner until she gave up. The couch was mine again.
Load More Replies... Tiny Dynamine 2 years ago
It's the rule. Don't question it! She won't like to be questioned! She doesn't know the answer!
Astrophile 2 years ago (edited)
K but. Have you ever been relaxing in ultimate luxury and comfort, at home in your own lane and thought “you know what this moment needs? Less pillowy softness.” No? Exactly.
#37
A fridge with shelves, apparely plastic shopping bags sitting on the bottom of a fridge without shelfs is hilarious
Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
Wait. He bought a fridge without shelves or had shelves and threw them away? I’ve never seen a fridge without shelves before.
Tim Douglass 2 years ago
The last tenants stole them for something as they moved out. I've rented that apartment.
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I brought in tissue boxes I then watched a male roommate sneeze, get up, go to the bathroom to grab toilet paper, and bring it back to where he was to blow his nose The tissue box was right there - when I pointed that out, he said it didn’t even occur to him to use it
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
This. When allergy season hits I just grab a roll of TP and a plastic grocery bag. Typically, when the roll is empty, the bag is full and my nose is "normal" again.
Load More Replies... Lisa Myers 2 years ago
Men and women really are different from one another... Different lung capacity, muscle mass, brain chemistry, DNA... Just goes to show how nicely we can work together!
#39
Did you know that plates were made of a material other than paper?
#40
Blanket basket. You could have locked me in my apartment for 100 years thinking of upgrades and it would have never even crossed my mind.
ROSESARERED 2 years ago
Mine go in ao big old steamer trunk, but I need another to many blankets, and mice....mice can't chew through steel
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
it wouldn't cross anyone's mind either unless you have an insane amount of unnecessary blankets
Astrophile 2 years ago
That’s brilliant, I’m starting a blanket basket (and then i’m gonna sit in it)
#41
She completely redid my bed. It feels like sleeping on a cloud now!
Astrophile 2 years ago
Oh I did this recently! I splurged and bought a new mattress topper and 4 new pillows and new sheets at WalMart. My cats and I feel like princesses, I can’t believe I put this off for years 😊
#42
I stopped storing my winter truck tires in the spare bedroom.
Astrophile 2 years ago
*stares at my summers and new rims in my spare bedroom* 👀 “if they don’t find you handsome……”
#43
Photos on the wall. She said it was weird I had nothing on the walls but my TV. Within a year about 100 pictures of us, our families and friends were up on the walls. I still don't get it, but it makes her happy and I don't care so win win?
#44
So we did reverse… I moved into hers. For context I am a full blown adult. I’ve lived on my own for 17 years. I took great pride throughout my late 20s and into my 30s of not having a “boy” house. I kept it “clean”, I “decorated”, for the most part the soap was refilled… A week after moving in I learned the difference between a house and a home. Everything… and I mean everything … has it’s place. The sheet inconvenience of the conveniences brought on from living in adult home is exhausting. Hang this up, move that there, time to rearrange the bins, recycle this, throw out that… about to take a nap? Not with the grass like that we aren’t! Going to sit down? Why don’t we organize the dogs toys by most played with to least. I will say this though. I’ve lived a life where I answered to no one, was responsible to no one, and did how I pleased… it’s quite lonely. I’ll take getting yipped about not washing the knives the right way anyday. :)
Cat servant 2 years ago
I am female. I do not understand my sisters that just can't sit and relax. I know many that were raised like that. If you are awake you have to be productive. I find it exhausting. If you need to just sit and be still you ,ay need to discuss it with her.
#45
So many throw pillows. I can't sit on the couch without moving some. And then where am I supposed to put them? I'm ok with decorating, but not when it gets in the way of an object's function.
Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
I don’t understand having more than a couple of cushions. Somebody said on an earlier post that shorter females need them because they’re sitting too far back on the sofas designed for taller people. However, I like curling up / using a footrest and not putting my feet on the ground. So less cushions = more sofa space
Tiny Dynamine 2 years ago
She's not allowed to question the rationality of this. She's a woman owned by the patriarchy and has to do what she's told. Remember, big companies make a lot of money from this.
Mini grizzly 2 years ago (edited)
I love my pillows! All the 39 of them! ( not not joking I really have over 30 of them) they are like a fluffy, squashy companions I can hug while eat my chicken cup noodles.or watching Netflix. My favorite tough is Mifflin( yes from "the office" ) its teddy bear shaped white and fluffy. I take it everywhere when I'm travelling long distance. Respect our pillows! They are here for us when you aren't!!!
#46
My roommates kinda-sorta LD gf would stay with us for weeks at a time and she’d always buy us household stuff that stinky boys and bachelors neglect. Like decorative tissue boxes and foam rubber cozies for the remote, stuff like that. And holiday decor. I made sure to always thank her for “beautifying our home”. My sister who lives with us now is similar, but she’s more into the organizers and containers decluttering thing.
#47
The black accent wall I had in my living room no longer exists. I fought her on changing it. We painted it a regular white and it helped with the natural light. I liked the dark but after seeing how nice it is with light...she was right. Also got rid of some cheaper looking ikea furniture and replaced it with sturdier, newer looking stuff that worked with the rest of the apartment. Now everything looks nice and like it belongs together. Also got an actual bed instead of a floor mattress.
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
Black accent wall could be very classy of everything else there designed to highlight it. There is nothing wrong with white though, but it doesn't mean that her taste is better
Norm Gilmore 2 years ago
Find some wooden pallets for free to get the matress off the floor. Lets the air circulate..
#48
Plants. I went from zero to six.
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
That is a real good story, one of the very few listed in this article
#49
Hair literally everywhere
hitex 2 years ago
Yep. It's an unfortunate casualty of living w a lady! Our long hairs shed everywhere (& she's not losing her hair, that's how it always be)!
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
However, don’t let men forget that they’re way more covered in a multitude of shorter hairs than women are. Leg hair, armpit hair, chest hair, forearm hair, facial hair, and of course the short curlies. All of them shed just like head hair. It’s just that they’re shorter, so don’t stand out as much. But they clog drains just the same as the longer hairs.
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Mia Black 2 years ago
Jupp. My male partner's hair is a bit longer than mine and I am annoyed to find it in the sink nearly every day. I know my long hair is in the house too but not in the sink or near my toothbrush....
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New white sheets, a throw rug and she would cook a couple chickens with sides for me and my roommates. If she didn’t stab me with a pen while I was driving, I’d have married her. Dodged a bullet. In hindsight she came on waaayyy to strong.
hitex 2 years ago
Where did she stab him, why did she stab him & what kind of pen? So many questions I need answers!
Scotira 2 years ago
Here you go: "She flipped out on me while I was driving and started stabbing me with a ball point pen. Had to call an ambulance- she was definitely having a mental health crisis and we weren’t even arguing. She just flipped and started screaming, grabbing the steering wheel to wreck ny truck. Batshit crazy."
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Lisa Myers 2 years ago
Relationships are give and take. If he comes home late without calling, I forgive him... And if I get mad and throw a knife, he overlooks it. Give and take.
#51
This is embarrassing to admit but when my now wife moved in with me I didn’t really use sheets on the bed. She drove across the country to be with me and when she saw my room and the bed with blankets strewn about and no fitted sheet she just started crying. That was 25 years ago. I have since learned. But also just to answer the question these days it’s pillows. There are pillows everywhere. She buys them seasonally and we change them out. I really don’t understand but happy wife a happy life.
René Sauer 2 years ago
why did she started to cry just because OP didn´t have sheets? Kinda weird.
Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
Because she drove across the country, probably taking several days, to move in with him. She got there and learnt he was the kind of person to not have sheets on the bed. She was no doubt thinking that they might not work as a couple if their home style is so different. What other things is she going to discover about him whilst living together? It’s a pretty unusual thing and could indicate a lack of care or laziness. Fortunately it didn’t and they ended up happy and got married.
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Hair ties and bobby pins everywhere
Hannahar 2 years ago
Well there is a black hole into which hair ties and pins frequently disappear so it's essential to have supplies EVERYWHERE. (-Woman who needs many of these items.)
Scotira 2 years ago
And that's also the place where earplugs disappear to 😅🙈
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Do you have a cat? If you do, look under the sofa, the bed, and the refrigerator.
#53
Before my wife moved in (girlfriend at that time) I lived with a friend and our flat looked pretty bad, more like a university student flat than anything else. Zero decorations, old furniture from the landlord, horrible cream colour walls, etc. Since we were always at work and barely home it was not a problem for us. Living abroad I always considered it a temporary place and didn't have much attachment to it so didn't want to spend time and money to improve the space. Once she moved in we slowly started making it into a real home. We painted the walls, bought furniture, plants, hung some photos, bought a cat etc. It made such a huge difference and improved our quality of life tbh
Trish 2 years ago
You bought a cat? I thought cats just arrived, and decided they live with you.
Nay Wilson 2 years ago
Sometimes they do. But sometimes you buy them instead. The beauty of cats is they turn up in many unexpected ways 🙂
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I've always liked cacti and succulents, probably because they were satisfying to have and easy to keep alive, enter my girlfriend who is "obsessed" with plants. I dont live with her but since getting together, all of a sudden I have multiple non succulent plants I never planned on getting
Astrophile 2 years ago (edited)
Why wouldn’t you? Society telling men they can’t do fun things is so boring lol
#55
Apparently having a sports tv and a video game tv side by side in the living room is not what adults do
Astrophile 2 years ago
I mean nah but I’d be cool with that, esp if both TVs hook up to the console
Jinx (she/her) 2 years ago
I love having a gaming screen and a background noise/watching screen and I'm a 36 year old woman 😅
#56
I clean in the sense that I keep a place organized and clutter free, but I’ve never really had an eye for grease and deep-cleaning. My wife is the inverse and we have a well-run house because of it
#57
She made my house feel like a welcoming home.
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 2 years ago
Oooohhh, can you please borrow her to me just to do the same to my home?
#58
She buys a lot stuff for her many hobbies that only last a week 😂
Nicole Weymann 2 years ago
Yup. Spend months to assemble raw material for potential projects, do a handful of them and spend months again thinking where to put the results (friends and family can only use so many candles/birthday cards/necklaces/...). So far I'm refusing to stoop to key chains, coasters or ashtrays.
Load More Replies... #59
Tiny ankle socks everywhere. We broke up 7 years ago, and I still occasionally find one in some forgotten corner of the house.
For those saying I haven't deep cleaned, some explanation. After she moved out, I gave away or sold most of my things to get a fresh start, and I realized I only need about half the house. The bedrooms and family room in the basement are basically just storage that I literally might go into twice a year, and I haven't been into one of the bedrooms in about 3 years. For the rooms I do go into, I'll sometimes come across these tiny socks mistakenly got thrown into a tote with something I'm actually after.
Zoe Vokes 2 years ago
I have no idea why he wouldn’t downsize or turn the basement into an apartment and rent it out. To not go into one of your rooms for three years, and have a whole level of rooms you only go into twice yearly seems very strange to me. But I guess if it has a lovely garden and neighbourhood and he can afford it…
#61
Really nice decorations everywhere that gave it such a better feel and look. My house looked like a model home and she was amazing at it. Sadly, she left and took everything, so now it looks basic again.
#62
10+ half-baked and unfinished DIY projects such as the shelf that pushes against my shoulder when I sit on my toilet, the basket on the wall that falls down at the slightest gust of wind, and the stupid containers in our closets that take up way too much space and make her want to buy *more* cabinets so she can stuff *more* boxes into them.
#63
She turned my gym back into a living room
#64
F#$king shoes.....so goddamm many shoes that don't get worn, don't get donated but do get premium parking space 🙄
#65
A "Live, Laugh, Love" sign just appears on your wall without you realizing.
Arcady Royzen 2 years ago
Oh ... the cheesy signs in the house... how lovely and speaks highly of decorating skills...
ROSESARERED 2 years ago
Nice sentiment...but no signs on my walls.peeled off the ones here, house rules, toilet widdle rhyme wtc. Prefer to live it, instead of a sign to remind me to live it, or shout out to others that this is who we are
Vidas Zlioba 2 years ago
It's concerning, especially when the sign appears without warning. But "Die, Cry, Hate" would be worse.
Kristen Kircher 2 years ago
I got one that says, "live, fart, laugh." Took my husband two weeks to notice, but he loves it!
What do you think ?
Tracy Wallick 2 years ago (edited)
I'm in the military, which is a very male-dominated profession. My workplace is a gray cubicle farm, but you can tell even from a distance which desk is mine; I have no less than 8 live plants, pictures of my dogs, cute magnets on my metal cabinets, a Van Gogh desk mat and hand rest.... on the daily I get compliments for having turned my cubicle into a little green oasis. EDIT: I keep telling people when they come by, that if I'm gonna spend 40+ hours a week here, it doesn't have to be depressing!
mandy the capibara 2 years ago
I'm not sure if there are any men (or anyone) who need to hear this, but you are worthy of buying nice things for yourself. Investing in making a nice home for yourself is a bit like sporting or investing in social relationships, you may sometimes not like it, or feel like it is unnecessary, but it will make you feel better in the long run.
Appalachian Panda 2 years ago
Strangely enough, I'm a man and am capable of decorating, buying nice things, and cleaning up after myself. Am I the weird one?
Potato 2 years ago
No. Anyone can have a taste for decorating, regardless of gender. Women tend to decorate more because of nurture, not nature.
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David A Paterson 2 years ago
For me the real shocker was beds. I had a good quality queen size bed. She moves in and suddenly we have six more beds. Only two people in the house, two bedrooms, beds for eight. "Just in case someone wants to come and sleep over".
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 2 years ago
Sleep over in David A Paterson this weekend everyone!! They have space for 8. Who's with me? 😅😅
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Magazine 2 years ago
This was so sweet, it almost brought me to tears. Oh who am I kidding, I am crying
Lisa Myers 2 years ago
I agree! I love reading things like this, and it has brought tears to my eyes.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My husband loves our home, and tells me so constantly. I love interior design & have made every effort to create a warm, inviting & peaceful space for us. Vanilla candles are one of my "go-to's" for giving it that homey vibe. Oh - and the books. I collect hardbacks. When we moved from San Diego to Springfield, OR I donated about 600 to the library, but we still had 38 boxes (about 800). I just think books really make a home.
kath morgan 2 years ago
We don’t necessarily enjoy having to take responsibility for all this, you know.
ZGutr 2 years ago
I emigrated a few months ahead of my wife. Threw a mattress in the corner, dog bed close by and done. (I'm either working or out with the dog). During a visit the 2nd week she took us to Ikea for a dinner table + chairs, a comfy chair and some small stuff. Not much but made a *big* difference and added comfort and 'warmth' until she arrived with all our stuff.
Tracy Wallick 2 years ago (edited)
I'm in the military, which is a very male-dominated profession. My workplace is a gray cubicle farm, but you can tell even from a distance which desk is mine; I have no less than 8 live plants, pictures of my dogs, cute magnets on my metal cabinets, a Van Gogh desk mat and hand rest.... on the daily I get compliments for having turned my cubicle into a little green oasis. EDIT: I keep telling people when they come by, that if I'm gonna spend 40+ hours a week here, it doesn't have to be depressing!
mandy the capibara 2 years ago
I'm not sure if there are any men (or anyone) who need to hear this, but you are worthy of buying nice things for yourself. Investing in making a nice home for yourself is a bit like sporting or investing in social relationships, you may sometimes not like it, or feel like it is unnecessary, but it will make you feel better in the long run.
Appalachian Panda 2 years ago
Strangely enough, I'm a man and am capable of decorating, buying nice things, and cleaning up after myself. Am I the weird one?
Potato 2 years ago
No. Anyone can have a taste for decorating, regardless of gender. Women tend to decorate more because of nurture, not nature.
Load More Replies... David A Paterson 2 years ago
For me the real shocker was beds. I had a good quality queen size bed. She moves in and suddenly we have six more beds. Only two people in the house, two bedrooms, beds for eight. "Just in case someone wants to come and sleep over".
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 2 years ago
Sleep over in David A Paterson this weekend everyone!! They have space for 8. Who's with me? 😅😅
Load More Replies... Magazine 2 years ago
This was so sweet, it almost brought me to tears. Oh who am I kidding, I am crying
Lisa Myers 2 years ago
I agree! I love reading things like this, and it has brought tears to my eyes.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My husband loves our home, and tells me so constantly. I love interior design & have made every effort to create a warm, inviting & peaceful space for us. Vanilla candles are one of my "go-to's" for giving it that homey vibe. Oh - and the books. I collect hardbacks. When we moved from San Diego to Springfield, OR I donated about 600 to the library, but we still had 38 boxes (about 800). I just think books really make a home.
kath morgan 2 years ago
We don’t necessarily enjoy having to take responsibility for all this, you know.
ZGutr 2 years ago
I emigrated a few months ahead of my wife. Threw a mattress in the corner, dog bed close by and done. (I'm either working or out with the dog). During a visit the 2nd week she took us to Ikea for a dinner table + chairs, a comfy chair and some small stuff. Not much but made a *big* difference and added comfort and 'warmth' until she arrived with all our stuff.
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