Whether we're talking about romantic partners or just really good friends, moving in with someone can dramatically change a relationship. The two of you not only get to lower living costs, but also spend way more time in each other's company.

Sure, with all the socks laying around the house, there's a chance you'll exchange a few cold stares and words. But there are also plenty of opportunities to bond and even learn from one another.

A recent Reddit post by user Gerdaandemail is an excellent example of that—he submitted a question to the 'Ask Men' community, trying to learn what guys hadn't known or realized until only after living with a woman and got plenty of interesting replies.

From organizing your wardrobe to proper self-care, continue scrolling and check out some of the most popular ones.

#1

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman ALWAYS HELP WITHOUT ASKING. It’ll save your entire relationship/sex life/cuddle life etc. If you say “Do you need help?”(chores etc) she’ll say “No I got it” and it’s logged as the first resentment cut of a thousand. Don’t ask because you think it’s polite, just do it. There, saved you a divorce.

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Andy Acceber
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4 months ago

Just a reminder: It's also a lot of work and mental stress to plan chores. If you're constantly asking your partner "Can I help?" or "What can I do?," that means you've already tasked them with organizing and managing the projects. "Sometimes" is nice. "Always" becomes overwhelming fast. Relieve some of that stress. Without asking, figure out what needs doing and do it.

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#2

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Joking aside I’ve learnt a lot of good stuff, like caring for various things. For example how to properly store fruits and vegetables so that they don’t go bad, how to take care of textiles/clothes so that they can be used for longer etc. Also that I didn’t eat nearly enough fiber before. Loads of things. People say that their girlfriends nag a lot but honestly there’s a lot of good stuff to be learnt if you just listen.

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K8 T
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4 months ago

I learnt this from my husband! Its not always women who are good with stuff like that.

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After Bored Panda reached out to Gerdaandemail for a comment, the author of the viral post agreed to take some time out of his day for a quick chat about what inspired him to explore this topic.

"I was taking care of some household chores when it struck me that several of the things I did, my wife had taught me or helped me improve," the Redditor recalled.

"Specifically, I was doing laundry and got thinking about how I used to ruin my clothes by ignoring the laundry instructions. My wife has helped me take care of myself in so many ways, both mentally, physically and practically, and I was wondering if anybody else had the same experience."

#3

Lived with a girl who did the whole toilet seat thing

So, I'm a boy and lazily left the seat up.

She told me that I needed to leave the seat down (and lid up). She was adamant that this was the right way of doing it. But she is wrong

Let's get this absolutely clear: the lid needs to be down at all times, when not in use

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BC_Animus
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4 months ago

The lid needs to be down at all time folks, to stop the sewer alligators from climbing up - it's a home safety thing.

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#4

Cheap toilet paper is unacceptable

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Kristof De Smet
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4 months ago

you like sanding paper?

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Even though more couples are living together than ever before, according to one study that took a closer look at 192 young people in their late twenties, the motivation for men and women to share a place are different.

"We found that responses varied by gender much more than they did by race or ethnicity, suggesting a substantial gender gap in the perceived role of cohabitation in the union formation process," said Pamela Smock, a sociologist who directs the University of Michigan Population Studies Center, part of the U-M Institute for Social Research (ISR).

She conducted the study with Penelope Huang of the University of California Hastings College of the Law, Wendy Manning of Bowling Green State University, and Cara Bergstrom-Lynch of East Connecticut State University, and discovered that overall, three key reasons for living together emerged: wanting to spend more time with one's partner, wanting to share life's financial burdens, and wanting to test compatibility.

#5

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Skin. Care. My friends all laugh at me for derma rolling, beard oiling, clay mask in the shower, special serums for my under eyes, lotions & creams etc… smooth, soft skin, & (soon) softer beard.

I dont flake, I dont itch, & I look youthful. Meanwhile my friends are endlessly picking at their faces and complaining about beard itch.

Skin care, lads

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Iggy
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4 months ago

And especially sun cream!

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#6

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Can't just use towels for generic tasks, specific towels have specific purposes. Failure to comply is sacrilege and punishable by immediate scolding.

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Roxy Eastland
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4 months ago

Don't use the effing hand towel to wipe up spillages when for the sake of two seconds, and the effort of opening a cupboard door, you could get out a floor cloth

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But the way men and women put forth these three goals differed quite a lot. Women highlighted "love" as a reason to live together three times as often as men did, while men cited "sex" as a reason to live together four times as often as women did.

Both men and women saw cohabitation as a temporary state in which to gauge compatibility, but women saw it as a transitional arrangement preceding marriage, while men tended to see it as a convenient, low-risk way to see if a relationship had longer-term potential, using terms like "test drive" to describe the arrangement.

The strongest gender differences, however, emerged in the perceived disadvantages of cohabitation. Women believed that living together meant less commitment and legitimacy than marriage, while men saw the greatest disadvantage as their shrunken freedom.

Despite the mismatches in motives and expectations, Smock noted that young adults appear to see cohabitation as an expected part of life. "Ultimately, the clearest message was that living together is very much taken for granted. As a result, the upward climb in the proportion of young adults who cohabit is likely to continue for some time," she explained.

#7

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman I never learned how to pay attention to, comprehend and express my feelings. Especially the emotional-gooey-feely ones, but also when things would bother me, so I wouldn't work on things when they'd bother me, I'd just...leave. As in, the relationship. So through many years of ruining things, much heartache, and painful growth, she had the love and patience to not only see that there was potential in me, but also to not give up on me. I had the emotional tenderness of a brick basically. It took hitting rock bottom to understand that if I didn't learn to do those things, Id lose the best thing that ever happened to me. If it wasn't for her, I'd be in a drunk in a ditch somewhere, probably alone. Now I'm only sometimes drunk, completely happy and in love in a functional relationship. She's basically a Saint for putting up with me having been emotionally disabled. And the gift thing: well, there is joy in giving to others and seeing how much happiness she would get from seeing people's reaction to gifts made me stop wanting to keep her from doing so, stop being selfish and lean to take joy also in making my friends and loved ones happy about a thoughtful gift. I was an emotionally dysfunctional man, after living with her, I'm less like an actual porcupine and more like a plush toy porcupine.

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Richard Portman
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4 months ago

Oh, here's another one, they always say this. Women are supposed to have the golden key to emotional understanding. I have met a lot of confused frightened women and men. It is not gender specific.

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#8

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Bed Sheets. I used to cheap out, but pampering yourself in nice bed sheets makes it feel like you're staying at a fancy hotel every night.

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Monday
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4 months ago

You spend a very large chunk of your life sleeping in that bed. It's worth the extra money.

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Returning to our topic, Gerdaandemail thinks that men learning something from a woman isn't necessarily a question about genders "but rather how one relates to new information from a person who is different from oneself."

"Chances are that your partner and you have different interests that have generated different pools of knowledge that can be used to contribute to the relationship," he said.

"As someone who has vastly better conversations" with his wife than with most men, the Redditor also believes that men and women can definitely "speak the same language" and understand each other.

"In my opinion, good communication has its roots in mutual respect, interest, and willingness to learn and listen. Gender is far too blunt a tool to distinguish between good or bad conversationalists," he added. Which is a perfect reminder that if you've been with someone who you feel didn't really get you, it wasn't proof that you can't find common ground with the opposite gender. Maybe you just weren't compatible.

#9

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman How good it feels to keep my home organized and clean. After living with my now ex-wife for six years, I can’t help but do deep cleans for my mental health.

I really appreciate a solid vacuum cleaner, I feel better keeping wires off the floor, I’m proud of my undersink collection of cleaners and spare sponges (change out your dishwashing sponges 🧽 regularly!), I loaded up on 30+ microfiber cloths from Home Depot so I’m never without a way to clean up dust/messes, and I Konmari the sh*t out of my belongings on a regular basis for great relief. 😮‍💨

Also I appreciate:

tissue boxes in every room

Rugs next to the bed

Every thing must have a home

Matching furniture has a subtle but powerful effect

Art on the walls does look nicer in frames, even dirt cheap frames from IKEA

Hiding cords feels good (combined with easy access for inevitable fiddling)

Taking out the trash feels as good as pooping

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NsG
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4 months ago

There's a thought process that states something along the lines of men don't appreciate (or see the need) for the comforts of a home until they marry (it's an *old* thought). Basically, men see their house as a functional place only. As long as it has a roof and a bed, the rest are fripperies. And then he gets married and his wife turns the house into a home, full of creature comforts (this also often comes across as the "nesting" that many women do in their eighth month of pregnancy). And now men understand the importance of rugs, and artwork. This still plays out in the stereotypes of bachelor pads. While 4+ extra pillows on beds (nope, no idea what that's about) are also the source of satire and parody, soft furnishings DO have a positive impact on the emotions. Their function is often overlooked, and I can't help think it's related to the "men can't be soft" idiocy.

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#10

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman When I get into bed, I lie down too hard, causing the bed to shake violently. I have since learned to lie down more gently.

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Kristof De Smet
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4 months ago

apparently, you also need to move more gently when you're sleeping.

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#11

The act of doing laundry is not 3 separate chores (washing, drying, folding & putting away.) It is one chore and you either did it or not.

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LuckyL
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4 months ago

Of couse it's three different things. There is so much time in between. And it doesn't have to be done by the same person.

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#12

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Sooo much hair.

It looks like I pull a beaver out of the drain every two months.

Ps- fun fact, adding daughters to the mix does not double the hair. Somehow it’s actually squared. I don’t get it either.

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Lakota Wolf
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4 months ago

I have long hair. Boyfriend’s hair is longer than mine. I have two cats. One is long-haired. I just got a new puppy. My entire world is made of shed hair and fur. XD

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#13

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Hygiene.

Before her, all I did was brush my teeth and shower daily.

I watched this woman wake up earlier to do a whole skin care routine every day on top of showering and doing her make-up.

Every inch of her always smelled so good and her skin so soft, I didn't even say anything about it. I just thought to myself, "she does this and I appreciate it, let me repay the favor."

We're not together anymore, but I stole her hygiene routine without her even knowing

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Saint Thomas
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4 months ago

Brushing and washing daily is already a good routine. The rest is just cosmetic IMO...

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#14

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Giving her space while giving her affection. Apparently, when she says all she wants to do is sit down and watch her novelas in peace. She actually means she wants me to sit down with her. But not for too long. Just long enough.

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Crease Almighty
Community Member
4 months ago

Yeah, I found out that saying I love you 100 times in a row at the beginning of the month (like Will Farrell from Elf) is not a way around saying it at key moments during the month.

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#15

Putting out fires, thankfully! We had a little grease fire and I came running in with a bucket of water and she grabbed me by the arm and handed me a blanket instead, I almost f*ckin killed us both by being an idiot.

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The only Plueschopossum
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4 months ago

Ok, but this one's common sense. It has nothing to do with one's gender...

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#16

Putting raw meat at the top of the fridge and cooked meat under. She was like your gonna give us all food poisoning. If that meat juice lands on the cooked meat your gonna make us all I'll af.

So yeah, cooked meat at the top, raw on the bottom.

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Martha Goodridge-Kelly
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4 months ago

Or use containers do the meat juice doesn’t drip all over your fridge!

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#17

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman That I was damaging my pans by rinsing and soaking them right after using them.

Now I just let them sit on the stove for a week so they are nice and cool before I might wash them.

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Caro Caro
Community Member
4 months ago

Do I detect a hint of sarcasm here? Hahaha

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#18

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Apparently there is no acceptable place to trim my toenails, so I just have to wait for when she’s not home.

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Dani M
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4 months ago

There is! The bathroom!

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#19

I never got in trouble for being unfaithful in someone else’s dreams until I lived with a woman.

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Julia Odom
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4 months ago (edited)

Its not just women. A few weeks ago SO seemed like he woke up on the wrong side if the bed so I eventually asked him what was wrong. He had dreamed that I cheated on him. He knew it was irrational but he was still very cranky all day (which is very unlike him).

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#20

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Folding towels. I’ve lived with 3 women and they all insist that hot dog style with a tri-fold is the correct way. Apparently my hamburger style is for Neanderthals.

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NsG
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4 months ago

I have no idea what "hotdog style with a tri-fold" means (sounds like either a sex position or an Olympic winning gymnastic move). The correct way to fold towels depends on where they are stored and how they are accessed - oh, and actually *folded*; a rumpled towel takes up space, folded is efficient.

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#21

Apparently I'm supposed to go to the doctor every now and then.

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Robert T
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4 months ago

Has it fallen off yet? No. Is it a funny colour and starting to smell? No. Leave it alone and don't bother the doctor. ;-)

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#22

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman the bucket of water after mopping shouldn't go on the sink, it should go on the toilet.

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Commander OwO
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4 months ago

Why in the world would you dump it into the SINK?! How long would it take for the water to all go down the drain?

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#23

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman I didn't actually know how to communicate my feelings. Also, I learned how to give gifts that are meaningful.

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Llewella
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4 months ago

A simple handwritten note in my lunchbox when I'm having a rough day at work means so much more then flowers on Valentine's Day!

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#24

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Apparently shampoo goes on the scalp and conditioner goes on the loose hair, not the other way around!

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BC_Animus
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4 months ago

What exactly are "loose hairs"?

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#25

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Folding panties. I swear it's so pointless

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MarmotArchivist
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4 months ago

More efficient storage.

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#26

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman The bathroom trash can is only used for bathroom trash

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Evelyn Ann
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4 months ago

I throw anything in my hand while walking past in there but this is something i could see my sister enforcing xD the bathroom garbage is smaller, idk

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#27

Pretty much how to take care of my hair and skin better. Also made me better at taking care of myself in general.

For example I put coconut oil in my hair before I go swimming. I learned this from a girlfriend I had in Hawaii.

Apparently it helps seal moisture in as well as protect your hair from damage. Whatever it does, my hair gets softer, smoother and bigger after it dries. I swear it never looked so fabulous in my life.

Edit: After reading some comments, I just want to clarify.

It's not like a shampoo or styling product. You don't need that much.

Too much going down the drains can mess up your pipes. So please don't pour goops of it over your head.

I just rub a few drops between my hands then tousled my hair until it has a nice sheen.

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Susan Kiser
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4 months ago

Awesome tip

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#28

I thought my clean clothes went in the clean pile on one side of the room, and the dirty clothes went under the bed. Boy did I get that one wrong...

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Iggy
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4 months ago

The room must have smelled like an old sock!

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#29

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Not drying off in the shower before stepping on the bath mat, therefore minimizing how wet the bath mat gets.

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Dani M
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4 months ago

Funny, I do that but just because the shower keeps the warm air in! going out of the shower without toweling off means blast of cold :)

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#30

Seasoning meat. And damn was she right, it needs some spices on it.

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Monday
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4 months ago

A matter of taste. The more spices you put on something the less likely I am to enjoy it.

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#31

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman That my bed can't have just the one pillow. Apparently I need a million of them.

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Roxy Eastland
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4 months ago

As a woman I've no idea what this heaping of a hundred cushions on a bed thing is.

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#32

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Apparently one does not drink wine directly from the bottle.

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Caro Caro
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4 months ago (edited)

NO, ONLY when the cheese is room temperature, then you pour the wine in a wineglass and enjoy.

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#33

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman I didn’t know that I can be wrong just because of my tone but if I said something, and my tone was not right, I am wrong

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Monday
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4 months ago

Well there is certainly a difference in saying "Great job" with and without sarcasm.

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#34

Apparently my farts will make a room uninhabitable. My buddies and I are all industrial workers and have generally lost or sense of smell. She is still quite capable of smelling

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Robert T
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4 months ago

When I fart, it is disgusting and I am a "skunk". When she farts, it's funny. And yes, hers do smell!

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#35

35 Men Share Things They Didn't Know They Were Doing Wrong Until They Started Living With A Woman Everything. I do everything wrong.

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Caro Caro
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4 months ago

Aw, this is sad.

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