62 Men Reveal How Women Abuse Them, And You Might Be Doing It Too

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This makes me so sad. I'm sorry you have to experience this Jordan

Often people with low self-esteem treat other people bad to feel better them-self. It's just sad.

Any abuse in any form of relationship, regardless of sexual orientation and gender, is just plain wrong. I pity this poor dude and all of abuse victims.

That is emotional abuse. Happens both ways.

she's a b***h... you aren't Lucky at all

My husband's girlfriend before me did that to him. She actually slit her wrists (in an undeadly way) just to prove her point. I had to pick up the pieces and worked really hard to assure him that it is okay for him to have an own opinion different to mine...

My ex used this one on me. Many years later I decided I could barely handle being responsible for ONE adult (ME), much less TWO and told him I hoped he wouldn't do it, but it he did, that I couldn't carry that weight anymore and that he was an a$$hole for trying to put it on me. I gave him the number to counseling. While he went through many more tactics before I had the courage to leave, I didn't let him dig that one back up.

What if she has legitimate mental health issues. 1 in 4 people do. Maybe she is expressing serious ideations of suicide. Why are you talking c**p about her online and not taking her to the E.R.? If her limb was cut off would you say she was abusing you then? Not likely. Get her help and stop threatening to leave every time you have a fight.

This is emotional blackmail and the sign of someone very controlling. Contact a health professional and try to extricate yourself from this relationship--this is blackmail

I'm writing my comments on this one as hopefully men will see it. I am a woman and have to say after reading these my husband is the luckiest man on earth, i encourage him to see his friends, go out without me, we have our lives and separate bedrooms, we still snuggle, go on dates etc but no emotional blackmail at all. We rarely argue, we discuss everything, we even have a chore system, we didn't sit and discuss it it just kinda happened. Men, don't let yourself be manipulated, if she threatens suicide, let her get on with it, don't let her take your dog out, go out with your friends, to beat an enemy take away the weapon or the goal. Seriously you deserve better , you are in a game you can't win. you act manly to her standards you're a thug, you stand back and do nothing you re a wimp. Do as you feel and don't be sucked in , before dating look at her friends you can tell what type of person she is by the company she keeps.

Being told to 'man up' is very hurtful, especially when you're just trying to communicate.

Why is it that when a man is having a weak moment, he just has to "man up", but when a girl is having one, most expect people to drop everything and pity them? Even though I am a girl, I refuse to be one of "those" girls. If that makes sense

This is emotional abuse. It is unacceptable and both men and women do it. Unfortunately, on average, men find less emotional support when abused. I've noticed it for years. I posted on a forum once about that, and was told I sounded like that men's rights movement (can't remember the acronym). It made me sick that people wouldn't listen to the fact that men get so little support, even from their friends and family, much of the time.

ANGRY, ANGRY, AND ANGRY AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's so wrong on multiple levels. And it's even the exact same thing many males do to their girlfriends too. Furthermore, with her logic, if "she's more manly than you", as she says, then joke's on her.

This happened to my son. His girlfriend had him falsely arrested, came to my home and spinned me a story and when I stood by my son she kept my granddaughter away. When it got to court the judge asked questions that my sons lawyer hadn't asked and she admitted she lied. It absolutely broke my son. He's never been the same since. I hate her!

Fiancee is going through this with his 20 yr old daughter. She came to pick up her 4 yr old sister on her birthday...3 hrs later the cops knock on our door, saying he assaulted her. She was acting funny when I went her place of work, when she saw me she practically hid in the backroom. Right now she has moved back in with my fiancee's sister...20 feet from the back of my car to hers walking distance. This could all go away if my fiancee would tell them about the time our daughter was not even a month old and his sister told him to come over and get leftover thanksgiving food while she was at work, just tell his daughter they were coming. So him and our roommate drive to their house...and they find his daughter with the door open standing in the doorway of her room...NAKED. 0_o too shocked to tell anyone...perhaps we should have. And then there's the time she overdosed on pills and was found to have slits across her wrists.

Jezebel spirit is at work, get out of her.

That's horrifying!

Hate is a very powerful word, and action. Sorta like taking poison and hoping it will kill the other person.

Isn't particular a gender thing, anyway experienced this and it melts your self esteem like global warming the ice. Once you reach the point where you believe your are entirely wrong, gonna have a bad time.

Could be abuse, could be she just wants to talk things through and you're taking it as a personal attack. We don't know who's at fault just because you tell us, need more information. Sorry, but I couldn't have an honest conversation with my ex about something that was bothering me without him taking it as a personal attack. Needless to say we were both miserable and he'll always think it was all my fault. 🙄

Sounds like my mum.

thats called gaslightning...

It is not a gender thing, it is a mean thing, just a very mean person will do this.

happens to me a lot :/

'If you think that, we should break up' 'That might be a good idea' 'OMG!!!! I didn't mean it!!! I was just testing you' 'K bye'

Yeah, Lesson is that you have to treat people the way you wanted to be treated and not like a child. She breaks up with again. say fine and walk away.

Walk away. She's not mature enough to be in a relationship

And it's stupid and passive aggressive. I hate that whole 'Well, you should already know why I'm upset' b******t.

Because you aren't helping pay the bills or to take care of her? If the first, find a new job, the second - find a new girlfriend.

First find a new girlfriend, then don't leave a job just because you do not make as much money as she does. Only if you are happy in your job keep it, if not then find a new job you love.

Currently I earn more than my husband does, but we agreed to this previously. We were both students when we started living together, and he was supporting me all the time. Now it's my turn.

Leave and don't look back.

Because you aren't pulling your weight and in a partnership household it's fair to want both partners providing equally?

I've dealt with gaslighting from both (sic) genders, including a parent. I was told, in a rare moment of honesty, that if I could be made to doubt myself for one second, they then had complete control of the dialogue and me.