Domestic abuse and violence against women are rightfully condemned, loudly and publicly, as utterly criminal and wrong under any circumstances. However abuse doesn’t stop there. There are countless forms of less obvious, insidious abuse that affects people of both genders, non-physical abuse that most of us are kinda expected to just put up with. Especially men.

The hashtag #maybeshedoesnthityou is trending on Twitter, and it’s a real eye-opener. Men are sharing their personal stories of manipulation and emotional abuse, and it’s highlighting all kinds of problematic behavior. Perhaps instead of being told to just “suck it up and take it like a man,” guys will be able to express their emotions more honestly, and learn that being treated like crap is not ‘normal.’

Scroll down to check out some examples below, and let us know what you think in the comments.

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My O My 1 year ago

This makes me so sad. I'm sorry you have to experience this Jordan

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Tiari 1 year ago

My husband's girlfriend before me did that to him. She actually slit her wrists (in an undeadly way) just to prove her point. I had to pick up the pieces and worked really hard to assure him that it is okay for him to have an own opinion different to mine...

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#3

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Darryl Kerrigan 1 year ago

Being told to 'man up' is very hurtful, especially when you're just trying to communicate.

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#4

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Elaine Scott 1 year ago

This happened to my son. His girlfriend had him falsely arrested, came to my home and spinned me a story and when I stood by my son she kept my granddaughter away. When it got to court the judge asked questions that my sons lawyer hadn't asked and she admitted she lied. It absolutely broke my son. He's never been the same since. I hate her!

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#5

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DannyG 1 year ago

Isn't particular a gender thing, anyway experienced this and it melts your self esteem like global warming the ice. Once you reach the point where you believe your are entirely wrong, gonna have a bad time.

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#6

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Carlos Hernandez 1 year ago

happens to me a lot :/

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#7

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Erin Sheppard 1 year ago

Because you aren't helping pay the bills or to take care of her? If the first, find a new job, the second - find a new girlfriend.

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#8

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La Petite Morte 1 year ago

I've dealt with gaslighting from both (sic) genders, including a parent. I was told, in a rare moment of honesty, that if I could be made to doubt myself for one second, they then had complete control of the dialogue and me.

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#9

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Caitlyn McCracken 1 year ago

that's pathetic

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#10

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Maike 1 year ago

that just is blackmailing, i once had a friend doing that, in the end i had to end our friendship, after alerting their Family and making sure she is beeing surrounded by People that are actually trained in helping unstabel People, not me.

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#11

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A S Koziol 1 year ago

No one gets through life without being emotionally damaged in some way. It's part of "life experience".

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#12

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Lulik 1 year ago

The worst. My fiance's exgirlfriend cut off his friendship with his bf. It was hard to make them up

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#13

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La Petite Morte 1 year ago

Or subjected to weeks of guilt tripping, cold shoulder, and 'Nothings wrong, you should know why I'm upset' because you went out to coffee with a friend while they were at work.

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#14

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Agnes Jekyll 1 year ago

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Your heart is precious. I hope you have lots of friends who can help you--family? There are also many support groups. I also hope she is no longer in your life.

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#15

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Agnes Jekyll 1 year ago

I promise you there are many people who will be kind and treat you with the respect you deserve. You never have to accept cruelty. You deserve to be happy. Being alone is better than this. I promise you.

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#16

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Maike 1 year ago

uuuuuuuu nope! please get tons of distance from such a Person!!!! Talk to People you need to know the truth and you can trust. get help if you need to. Do not give her more power.

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#17

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Cookie 1 year ago

Rage attackS, plural? Anything more than one means you've stuck around too long.

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#18

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Rafaella Bueno 1 year ago

And then later she'll complain that you're a bad father that does nothing and doesn't care about his kids... I've seen it happen.

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#19

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Maike 1 year ago

- you are though... don`t believe her.

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#20

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Abigail Clark 1 year ago

Why isn't she allowed to come along with you? I'd have a BIG problem if my significant other's family said I wasn't allowed to come to holidays. My significant other should also be pissed for me if that were the case. If he isn't, he isn't worth keeping.

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#21

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Daniel Mallory 1 year ago

as soon as you stop lying to your self that you need her or even want her you will be fine that being said i know it is not easy just try to stay mentally sound till you gain the courage

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#22

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Sardonic Scribe 1 year ago

Women don't hold a monopoly on emotions. It's so sad to see that many women are stuck in the middle ages when it comes to perceived gender norms.

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#23

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A S Koziol 1 year ago

Oh please leave, you deserve better than this. Always remember, dating is like a car test-drive. Not every car will be your best fit, but every car is someone's best fit. If you don't like the car for your life, it doesn't mean that the car isn't a good car or a valuable car, it's just not "your" car. Go find your Porsche.

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#24

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Maike 1 year ago

A lot of mentaly ill People, rope in the People arround them like that. They maybe can not help it or just won`t, but just know, you are a free Person, everything you do is voluntarily done, you can leave in an instance, you can demand, you can lead the way, you can be strong, you can make your voice be heard.

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Lena Carson 1 year ago

i think this one needs a bit more context, what if she's mentally ill, and starving herself not to guilt trip you, but because she's genuinely depressed, and her friends are concerned. what if she's unstable and couldn't handle the breakup? what if you're ignoring her and blocking her out without telling her why? then again she could just be a snake but ya know, we need context

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#26

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Just JoLynn 1 year ago

If a friend of mine tried to commit suicide and blamed the SO I would NOT support them staying in the relationship. This whole situation is messed up.

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#27

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Agnes Jekyll 1 year ago

Red flags. Pay attention to them.

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#28

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athornedrose 1 year ago

my heart reaches out to you, hon. keep feeling. <3

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#29

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Cookie 1 year ago

You deserve better, Jake.

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#30

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Sardonic Scribe 1 year ago

It is beyond sad that she received no consequences for physically abusing you, and utterly sick that people laughed it off. The system needs to change, now.

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#31

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Benjamin Shade 1 year ago

Oh this is a big one I deal with on a constant basis especially when she throws out "You had all the free time after work to yourself and then you want to go out away from me on the weekend??" Mine you I get home real late and many times only have a few hours at most to get dinner and try relaxing before heading to bed to start another extremely stressful day of non stop work without a real lunch break sometimes (Walking around the office with a cup of noodles going to client desks to work on computer issues so they can go on lunch). Being part of a paintball team kind of requires some weekends that I have to be away and she has been invited, and showed interest, but has a hatred of a friend that has no real good reason behind it outside of he wouldn't let her become a roommate again because of tensions between the other roommates causing issues that would cause her PTSD issues to flare up.

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#32

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Kjorn 1 year ago

at that point, it's not friendship that's slavery

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#33

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anarkzie 1 year ago

If you have any feeling for her you need to get out of there, she does not care about you, you're a tool to get back at her ex. If you're just in it for the sex then carry on.

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Christine M Quigley 11 months ago

My son is currently in a abusive marriage, though I'm not sure he sees it that way. My DIL has made certain that his family doesn't see their baby boy. Now they're moving. He'll never know how much we love our only grandchild. So sad. All to appease her fragile ego.

#35

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Maike 1 year ago

maybe it is not about still loving her? Maybe It is about you saying when- when it is finally enough to leave an unhealthy relationship, sometimes love just is not enough and sometimes that hurts the most. Still, better by yourself, than beeing constantly distanced from yourself for the sake of said relationship. Maybe you are worth more?

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#36

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BarryAllenTheFlash 1 year ago

Something like that is never out of love

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#37

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Sofie Agni 1 year ago

THAT IS HORRIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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#38

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Cookie 1 year ago

Toootally.

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#39

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Cookie 1 year ago

You've been in that relationship far too long.

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#40

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Joe Reaves 1 year ago

I hate people who make false accusations. They are so vastly out numbered by people making real accusations and often not receiving any justice but they draw all the attention and make it even harder for real victims to be believed.

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#41

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Cookie 1 year ago

Maybe she should just find someone else.

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#42

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Marie-Louise Chenois 1 year ago

She's not meant to say it but to be it...and then you tell it to her...

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#43

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Benjamin Shade 1 year ago

Been there, had it happen, council people who are now going through it after learning how to detect it.

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#44

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Menno van Oosten 1 year ago

Her relationship with me ended about 4 years ago. My relationship with her ended 6 months ago, when she told me she made an offer on a house.

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#45

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Sophster 1 year ago

our golden retriever used to do that

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#46

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Cookie 1 year ago

That's an abuser's first tactic - isolate you.

#47

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Corinne Stephan 1 year ago

Next time , you end it and walk away ... don’t make it a threat, make it a promise

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#49

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Josh McAllister 1 year ago

The spelling is correct, they just missed the apostrophe, it should be "you're".

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#50

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Cookie 1 year ago

What a sad sack.

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#52

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#53

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#54

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Cookie 1 year ago

It never ends well.

#55

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La Petite Morte 1 year ago

I am so sorry. Run. Run fast and far. Find people who celebrate you, not ignore your journey and struggles to get to a place where you can be you.

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A S Koziol 1 year ago

I think this is a common way of letting someone know you aren't interested in a romantic relationship anymore, and it sucks because it's not clear words presented with the respect of a face-to-face conversation. It's the coward's way out. Sorry this happened to you.

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#58

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Mohd Sharif 1 year ago

Thats a long twitter name

#59

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Daniel Fleming 1 year ago

I kind of want to see the hastags

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Nanni 17 1 year ago

Are you locked in a basement for fuck's sake mate?

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#62

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Fredrik Westerlund 1 year ago

Who the fuck cares about the care? The car is a tool, not a measurement of "manliness".

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