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People Online Recall Debunked Advice And “Facts” From Parents During Their Childhood (32 Stories)
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When I was a child, I was given a lot of advice, both useful and not so, from parents and adult relatives. About how one should or shouldn’t behave in different life situations, about what would be right and what would be wrong, and even if some advice looked completely strange in my eyes, I trusted the life experience of adults. As it turns out, I trusted in vain.
Years and decades have passed, and now, looking back at everything I was told, I am well aware that many of these pieces of "worldly wisdom" were, in fact, either completely wrong or simply manipulative. However, as we can see from this list of ours, I was not the only one...
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#1
Eat everything on your plate because there's starving children in Africa. Also had to sit at the table until everything was eaten off your plate.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
... researches stamps needed to send Granny's Irish Stew to Africa ...
Blondie23 5 months ago
This! I was taught this too.... my husband and I have taught our three girls to just eat until they are full and if there is food left over they each have a container they can put it in so that if they get hungry later they can eat it. All three are healthy and a perfect weight for their height and they don't even have to try.... this was the worst advise I ever got!
Bored Sailor 5 months ago
My dad now with the added dementia mom has to be careful with what she puts on his plate because this is so ingrained in him, he gets stomach pains if not controlled as he cannot eat the same now at his age. The added dementia means no matter how often we tell him he needs to be regularly reminded.
Gingersnap In Iowa 5 months ago
My sister has a coffee cup that says; Drink your coffee, there's kids asleep in India.
KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
I got this. And we were in Africa. Saying "send to them then" got me in trouble...
Learner Panda 5 months ago
When there was famine in Biafra, my parents would say the same. I eventually broke and said "well send it to them, then."
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#2
'Boys are mean to you because they like you.’ Great, thanks for normalizing toxic relationships early.
Huddo's sister 5 months ago
Because I heard this when I was young, I thought that the way I had to show a boy I liked him was to make fun of him, which is something I will always regret. So glad I grew out of that faily quickly.
Miss Ann Thrope 5 months ago
My mother floated this on me. It wasn't until I was well into adulthood I realized how stupid that was. So, if my husband smacks me around it's because he really, really loves me? If I had daughters, I would teach them to punch kids like this in the throat.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
And, equally bad, it taught us boys to mistreat girls we were attracted to.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
Also the whole "It is wrong now and it was wrong then" army. Apparently, this year is special and has the right to judge all past behaviour by the flickering light of its own watchfires; and, also, this will not be the case in the future because, er, reasons ... "It is a truth universally acknowledged that shouting an opinion louder than everyone else, makes it true for all time".
#3
If a girl won’t go out with you, keep trying. I think that’s a huge part of why women are getting sick of men that won’t take no for an answer.
KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
Yeah, keep not accepting no for an answer until you finally break her resolve - GREAT ADVICE!!!!!
Jaya 5 months ago (edited)
And to make matters even worse: girls taught each other that you shouldn't just say yes the first time, that you should make him work for it, to prove that he really wants you and to prove that he is worthy. The combination of the "wisdom" boys and girls were taught, have made for disastrous results.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
I had so little self-confidence as a teenager, I had a great deal of difficulty accepting yes as an answer from a woman.
So, a few days ago, a very interesting thread appeared online, the author of which, the user u/Independent_Pear8404, asked netizens the question: "What's a piece of advice you were given as a child that seemed completely innocent at the time, but as an adult, you realize how messed up or manipulative it actually was?"
The resulting thread collected over 2.1K upvotes, and the number of comments is already approaching a thousand.
And I'll tell you what - to be honest, I didn't even guess that so many examples of "wise advice" from our childhood would actually turn out to be not only completely inappropriate in modern conditions, but also simply often harmful. So please welcome to this selection, made for you by Bored Panda!
#4
When my brother would bully me, my parents always told me “well, don’t react to it and he won’t do it!!” And they wondered why I used to have anger issues.
Julia Mckinney 5 months ago
The worst advice is to ignore bullies. Frankly, nothing really worked for me. Fighting back verbally didn't, i got a broken arm that way. Ignoring them didn't work, I've still got some scars, decades later, from people who didn't like to be ignored. Reporting them didn't work, school authorities & parents never did anything. Bullying gave me a wonderful inferiority complex but that's also the reason why I did a lot of volunteer work outside of my school starting in junior high.
Catherina Thijs 5 months ago
Yea my dad's advice on me being bullied. I tell my kids now, if you ever keep getting bullied, you have my permission to hit them
Linley Lou 5 months ago
Back in the 80s we fought it out down on the field, they left me alone. It's the only thing bullies understand
#5
I’ve always been chubby/fat. My best friends mom (who was a nurse) told me the best flavor to throw up was grape. Said if I ever had to throw up to have grape flavoring beforehand and it would taste better. Didn’t realize until recently she was trying to encourage bulimia. All of her kids look like skeletons.
#6
"Don't talk back to adults" now I see how that conditioned me to accept authority without question, even when it was harmful.
K_Tx 5 months ago
I think this one still hold true EXCEPT when responding, respond respectfully and calmly. If you start getting riled up, acknowledge what they said and walk away or whatever is the next step to take. Find someone who can help you understand, respond, move it upward. Sassing or rudeness are just not going to help.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
My parents taught me not to talk back to adults. So I learned to do it sideways.
Miss Ann Thrope 5 months ago
Child psychologists now recognized the need for children's feelings to be acknowledged and not just dismissed.
Blondie23 5 months ago
Boomer parents didn't really want to raise kids... that's why a lot of their advice is to put kids in a place where they don't really have to deal with them. I am glad that my husband and I have provided a safe space for our kids to talk to us and question stuff. Gives us a chance to educate them on life.. you know... parenting!
Rick Murray 5 months ago
Downvote because "children should be seen and not heard" is probably something the boomers had to deal with, so the whole "shut up and do what you're told" goes WAY back.
Load More Replies...Perhaps the largest category to which the advice listed in our selection can be attributed is simply outdated recommendations. Outdated for many reasons - our society has started to react differently to these life situations, or something has become a 'new normal' among people. Accordingly, completely sincere life advice from parents no longer works as it used to.
Or, the second option - the norms of behavior have changed, and what was considered commonplace a couple of decades ago is today perceived as toxic behavior. For example, advice to boys "not to give up" if a girl refuses an offer to go on a date. Just agree that today it looks at least ambiguous!
After all, I was told the same thing in my teenage years, but when my son grows up, I will definitely not give him the same advice. At least, in the same wording that I once heard it.
#7
My mom would tell me multiple times a day that "beauty is pain ." Making us pretty was her top priority, and the way she'd do my hair, the heels she'd put on my feet, being kept skinny, the tight little dresses and tights I couldnt play in, the way she'd put on mascara: all hurt. She wanted me to have her body dysmorphia so bad, she'd call me her barbie but I was never a doll, just a micromanaged child.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
Eventually, all parents will understand that their child's life belongs to their child, and not to themselves. It's not catching on too fast in some families, though. Unfortunately.
Colleen Glim 5 months ago
Reasons why beauty pageants, especially child beauty pageants, should be banned
Lara Verne 5 months ago
One of my high school classmates has a mother like this. Mom always told her that she must be pretty no matter what, becuse otherwise men wouldn't like her. Gues who don't speak to her mother now.....
Emilu 5 months ago
Me too. This makes me furious. A child is their own person, not their mother's real life Barbie.
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My mom used to tell me, “when something bad happens that upsets you close your eyes and put it in a box and put that box in the top shelf of your mind and never open it again” lol lol.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 5 months ago
I… do that sometimes. If I have an upsetting thought I imagine putting it in a box and methodically sealing the box as thoroughly as possible.
April Pickett 5 months ago
I've always thought that's what you do. You can't deal with it, the hurt is too big, etc., put it in that box up on the shelf and close the door.
KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
I used to bury s**t until it finally came back to bite me in the a*s. As my therapist said, weeds break through concrete so matter how firmly you think you have buried something, it won't stay there. And then you are going to have to open "pandora's box" and relive all of that s**t which will f**k you up again for a while... Deal with stuff when it happens and prevent an episode later. I concede this might be hard for a child.
Not-a-Clue (she/her) 5 months ago
Therapist here. I agree, things often do come back to bite you, but sometimes putting something away is all someone (child or adult) can manage at the time.
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"OK mom. When you fall down the stairs and break your leg, and you call out for help shrieking in pain, that would be bad and upset me. So I'll do exactly what you just said.
#9
That my attitude was the reason my dad was dying.
I was 8.
He died earlier this year though so I guess I was being an awful child again. Oops.
Miss Ann Thrope 5 months ago
Reminds me of bad book titles. "Daddy drinks because you're bad."
"The public attitude to certain moral standards, despite the fact that the main, most important pillars of it have been unshakable for several millennia, still changes over time," says Maria Kryvosheeva, a psychologist and NLP coach, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment on this topic.
"Some of the 19th-century philosophers noted that being determines consciousness - and this is largely true. On the other hand, in the modern world, the opposite is sometimes true as well - when consciousness forms and changes reality."
"How does it work? Well, quite simply - sooner or later, society, under the influence of active people, realizes that certain moral standards, previously considered generally accepted, are no longer so. Accordingly, the assessment of people who act this way changes, the whole existence of people changes - and advice that was previously useful becomes, at the very least, toxic," Maria sums up.
#10
"Be careful when you hit 35, that's when your mom went mad. It ruined our whole family." My dad even warned my husband about it. I was already diagnosed with MDD and now feared turning 35. Fast forward to me being unhappy in my marriage at age 37 and when I asked for a divorce my spouse said "your dad called it, you lost your mind just like your mom".
ArchangelLoki 5 months ago
Major Depressive Disorder, I'm guessing from context.
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#11
"If you tell anyone about what happens at home, they will take you away and you will have to live with strangers"
Edit: since this is blowing up I wanted to provide context. Alcoholic dad used a sharp weapon to almost end my mom. I remember slamming my head against the door multiple times at 8 years old to zone out the noise. For the next 25 years he continued this in different forms, enabling mom forced us to keep saving him every time. He had moments of good parenting, but couldn't control his own demons.
Moved out and doing better now - but still dealing with the demons. Hoping to fix this trauma in me and change things for my children.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
I'm sorry for your suffering, but by understanding the demons you ae well on the way to controlling them.
#12
Nobody likes a crybaby.
Okay I won’t cry. I’ll just have hangups about expressing emotions in front of others instead.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
I hypothesise that there are two main groups of humans - those who repress their emotions, and those who express them at every opportunity and expect star treatment for doing so.
By the way, parenting standards are also changing - what was completely okay before, today seems completely unacceptable. Thus, some of the advice parents gave, which actually manipulated their children's minds, forcing them to perceive their own ugly actions as a desire for the good of their kids, is no longer relevant today and is perceived as what, in fact, it is - manipulation.
#13
That you must respect your parents no matter what and forgive them for what they’ve done.
I actually don’t owe anyone respect, and I don’t have to associate with people who don’t respect me. I also don’t have to forgive someone just because they’re family. That just leads to cycles letting someone talk down to you and put you down.
Colleen Glim 5 months ago
I’ve had this argument with my husband more times than I want to count. Respect has to be earned. Children deserve respect too.
Lady Eowyn 5 months ago
My dad, when I was about 12, as he was "spanking" me with his belt: I am your father and I don't care if you love me but by God you will respect me. That was almost 60 years ago.
Lady Chelsea (LadyChelseaoftheVoid) 5 months ago
Those kinds of parents forget that children turn into adults someday who can move out and never talk to them again.
Maren Villadsen 5 months ago
It has been 19 years since i saw or spoke to my parent, for this exact reason
KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
Absolutely not. Even my father got on board with this when I finally gave him the low down on what my mother, his first wife, had done to me and how it had destroyed our relationship. He knew she was a s****y person but not the depth of it.
#14
Not really advice, but something "innocent" that I was told constantly. Parents used to say to me "it's a good thing you're pretty" as a joke whenever I did or said something stupid. I thought I was stupid for years, and hated only being seen as "the pretty one".
Pretty much the primary reason I decided to live my life putting my intelligence and personality first. Got two degrees, multiple professors called me brilliant. Almost went for a PhD but too much uncertainty in the job market around that. Have moved up quickly in my career after my degrees.
Still pretty, but f*****g smart too. Who would have thought?
Michael Largey 5 months ago
When we were young, my mother warned my little brother, who was quite cute, not to go anywhere with a strange man. Then she turned to me and said "On the other hand, your face will be your chaperone." (Four or five years later, I learned what a chaperone was.)
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
You need to be smart to realise that you need to be smart ... everything else (apart from an iron self-judgement) is just window-dressing.
#15
At a young age, I was very interested in being a lawyer. I don't remember why anymore, but I remember that I thought I'd be really good at it and would pretend to be one from time to time. A close family member asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up and I told him. He leaned in close and said "lawyers have to read a lot, I mean REALLY a lot." And then gave me such a discerning warning look that I then became sure I wasn't cut out to be a lawyer. Even though I was very high in my reading scores at school.
It very likely changed the trajectory of my life. I've learned to never ever do that to any kid. If they tell you their dreams, tell them how awesome it's going to be.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
"I have a dream..." sometimes, a dream changes the world. Never give up on your dreams !
Lara Verne 5 months ago
I wanted to get Humanitarian education, and I was told "Don't you ever try, you're too selfish to be a humanitarian." Courtesy of my grandmother
In this regard, the evolution of society's perception of male tears and the manifestation of emotions on the part of men is rather interesting. In the era of antiquity, this was considered absolutely normal - even the greatest heroes of ancient myths, like Hercules or Odysseus, are not at all embarrassed by their tears.
Later, in the Middle Ages, it began to be considered that it is appropriate for a man to cry only in connection with issues related to religion and the church. During the Renaissance, however, it became appropriate for men to cry and show their emotions in every possible way, demonstrating the openness of their souls - and only in the era of industrial development did society put a taboo on men's tears.
For almost two centuries, a man was perceived like an unbending granite statue, so tears and bright emotions were, if not shameful, then simply inappropriate. So only today do we again perceive men's tears and other emotional situations as a given. Accordingly, our parents' advice like "boys don't cry" is already perceived differently. So such pieces of advice rightfully get into this selection.
#16
Don't engage with a bully. They'll get bored and leave you alone. Oh, the hell they will.
Lady Chelsea (LadyChelseaoftheVoid) 5 months ago
Thats kind of impossible when the bully is your own parent.
Nikki Sevven 5 months ago
I had two childhood bullies, both boys. Both stopped immediately after I physically hurt them. Not that two pieces of data constitute a statistical universe, but...
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
One difficulty is, that 'engaging' with a bully seems to encourage you to take up violence yourself. Congratulations, you are now a bully ! An alternative, if you have a quick mind, is to use subtle language to mock them; if the bully doesn't understand / can't cap your quips, you're a local winner. But this puts you in a high-wire situation ...
Rick Murray 5 months ago
Problem is, if a bully doesn't understand your words, they'll respond the only way they know how - with their fists. Oh, and if one engages with a bully and punches a dragon (because most people starting that fight will likely lose it), guess who gets called to the head's office for a bollocking. Yeah, that's right. Life lesson learned: The bad guy wins.
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"Girls aren't usually good at this, but you're special.".
Julia Mckinney 5 months ago
That was one thing i didn't have a complex about. My dad let us do anything we wanted within reason and without regards to "girls don't do that". Our mom on the other hand, had a running battle with me about being ladylike. She softened her position closer to the end of the 70's.
Huddo's sister 5 months ago
I remember my grandma telling me not to sit a certain way because it was unladylike. In her later years, her dementia lowered her inhibitions (many I am sure she had because of my grandad) and she didn't care about being 'lady like' anymore.
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#18
“Blood is thicker than water” or “be the bigger person” - as the oldest child, I was always told to be the bigger person even when my sister was doing crazy s**t like telling my parents I hit her when I didn’t, when she was stealing expensive stuff from me (like my camera in middle school) and they didn’t believe me for a while, and or just being a bully. Yes, I’m five years older and I shouldn’t stoop to a younger level. But it wasn’t like that - I was always being told to be the bigger person and meanwhile her therapist refused to see her anymore after her day-long psych test results were returned to the therapist and she wouldn’t disclose why. Obviously this wasn’t a normal situation. Family members seem to often tell someone to be the bigger person or let something go when the other family member in the dispute is so exhausting from ongoing problematic behaviors that no one seems to want to deal with them. It’s like it’s easier to not get into it with that person and therefore the strong recommendation to others is to be the bigger person… make it make sense!
Michael Largey 5 months ago
"Be the bigger person" = "It would be more convenient for me personally if you would just accept being the victim here."
OneHappyPuppy 5 months ago
Oh God the "be the bigger person" is my childhood nemesis - and I'm the younger sibling. The expression riles me up even today
Miss Ann Thrope 5 months ago
Their were rules for me, but not my younger brother because she "expected more from me." But nothing from the little t***p who started everthing?
Jan 5 months ago
And again the full saying is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Meaning that our chosen relationships through shared experiences or other means are stronger than those determined by birth so the next time a family member tries to guilt you with that one just tell them they are right and walk away.
Aileen Grist 5 months ago
Nobody ever reads the whole blood is thicker than water quote. It's actually the opposite of what parents mean. The quote is - The blood of the covenant (friends) is thicker than the waters of the womb (family).
Colleen Glim 5 months ago
Please get the quote right for once. The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. Which boils down to you get to pick your friends but not your family
Be that as it may, in our world, there’s nothing unshakable and established so much that it would be impossible to question it. So after reading this selection to the very end, please take part in the discussion in the comments - if something seems strange to you here, or you, on the contrary, completely agree with everything.
Who knows, maybe as a result of our new debate, consciousness will change existence again?
#19
God and Jesus are in heaven and watching your every move and listening to your every thought. They are recording it and will play it back for you after you die. You will have to explain yourself or burn in HELL!
It was an attempt to control my behaviors, mostly it made me mad that they were spying!
Nicole Weymann 5 months ago
🎶 Every breath you take, every move you make...🎶
Load More Replies... Lady Chelsea (LadyChelseaoftheVoid) 5 months ago
honestly, that just makes hell more preferable
royal crablets 5 months ago
God and Jesus need to be put on some lists for watching teenage me, then.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
People like that never seem to get that God and Jesus will be doing the exact same thing to them.
Colleen Glim 5 months ago
Not religious. Never have been. Never will be. Religion is a plague on modern society
K_Tx 5 months ago
I have not been "religious" in at least thirty years. Faithful, yes.
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#20
As a teenager, I told my mom I was pretty sure I had an anxiety disorder, and she told me "let's pray about it". She didn't reach out to my school counselor, or follow up with anything after.
#21
“Girls don’t like that”. I didn’t realize my only purpose in life is being attractive to women. I guess I’ll just give up everything I enjoy until I find a mate and she approves it. .
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
I suspect that the 'females make the decisions' view inherent in this is equally as bad as the previous 'men make the decisions' ruling. And, possibly, equally as damaging to the human race.
#22
"Stop eating so much you're gonna get fat, and boys don't like fat girls." "Put some make-up on. You look like a boy." "Don't ever cut your beautiful hair! Men don't like short hair."
Thanks for all the body dysmorphia and teaching me my body belongs to men, I guess?
PS, I'M NOT STRAIGHT.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
Tell every child - their body belongs to them , and them alone. They may decide to share, but it's their decision, nobody else's.
#23
We were never to call an ambulance. Lived 15 miles out of town, do not call for an ambulance. Had a 2nd degree burn freshman year of college and just suffered the night away in bed before I begged to be taken to urgent care. Doctor asked why I didn't go to ER the night before and I said we are not allowed. My mother's face FELL, she was so upset. She didn't mean it like THAT. .
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
I don't mean to be snarky, but this could only have happened in a country where calling an ambulance and visiting ER was a major, possibly life-defining expense. The flip side of 'paying for other people's treatment' is that they pay for yours. Via taxes.
#24
You have to forgive to move on.’ I tried, but some people don’t deserve forgiveness tbh.🥲.
Squirrelly Panda 5 months ago
To forgive means they aren't living rent free in your mind, so don't steal your joy anymore. The key is, you don't need to tell the person that you forgive them, nor need to let them stay in your life.
Aileen Grist 5 months ago
For me the key is to let it go - not forgiveness. Or forgive yourself for dealing with them.
Nikki Sevven 5 months ago
Forgiveness is for people who genuinely apologize for their behavior and make amends. Otherwise, I move on by reflecting on the lesson I learned and cutting their toxicity out of my life.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
"Forgive your enemy, but remember the b*****d's name." - John F. Kennedy
#25
“If a boy picks on you it means he likes you.”
Worst advice ever.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
Bullying is the antithesis of love - it is 'evol'. 'Heads' is not 'tails'. And 'no' is never 'yes'. Know this, or know nothing.
#26
If something bad happens, just trust that it’s gods plan and be thankful it happened.
Colleen Glim 5 months ago
Bullsh*t!!! Sometimes things just happen. It’s hard. Life doesn’t come with a guarantee. But it also doesn’t come with an overseer
Lady Chelsea (LadyChelseaoftheVoid) 5 months ago
if gods plan was to have a gov't full of pdf files, he's a sh!tty god
#27
'I know you want to live with me now that I've left your dad, but he is sad and needs you to keep him happy'.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
Telling a child that they are needed can bring out the best in them. Telling them that they 'must' do something will be resented for life. The difference is, who chooses ?
Squirrelly Panda 5 months ago
But putting on a child that it is their responsibility to "keep dad happy" is bleeping wrong. I'm iffy about saying "dad needs to know you love him" but at least it isn't making the kid responsible for dad's emotional health.
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
Dad should not rely on children to keep him happy. That's unfair on them.
Michael Largey 5 months ago
There are no really good explanations to a child at a time like this.
#28
Studying makes you rich and independent and successful though!
amy lee 5 months ago
It gives options... It gives the ability to walk away from redundancy more easily. It's empowering children to take hold of their own future.
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Rachel Reynolds 5 months ago
Followed by "you need a college degree to be successful". My handful of community college certifications make more money than my university degree.
KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
It helps but it's largely dependent on what you study and the job you qualify for and get after.
#29
Ooohhhhhhhh... my time to shine....
1. Bully's are jealous of you
2. Ignore the bully's
3. Turn the other cheak
4. Only your mummy will ever really love you
5. Children should be sen and not heard
So much more.. all from a narcissistic mother. Father did nothing to defend and was horribly henpecked and manipulated himself.
F**k you Danuta.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
Some parents don't deserve children. Some children deserve better parents.
#30
Either
"If your mother won't act like a mature adult, you need to."
Or
"Take care of your mother!".
Michael Largey 5 months ago
Acting like a mature adult may sometimes indeed involve taking care of your mother.
Amy S 5 months ago
Sometimes, sometimes being a mature adult means realising you are not responsible for other adults lives.
Load More Replies... Andrew Keir 5 months ago
After puberty, this might work as advice - or, at least , as a call to arms. But before the child has realised that it is the ruler of its own life, that first saying is pure insult, and even the second could be interpreted badly. Rudeness is rarely effective at changing behaviour.
#31
“Don’t judge a book by its cover”
Why? You can tell a s**t ton about a book by its cover. You should just be open to having that judgment changed.
My parents suck at nuance though so I had to figure that out on my own.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
Being open to having our judgement questioned - and, occasionally,changed - may be the key to maturity. It's definitely the best I can manage, so far.
Emilu 5 months ago
I agree. The working relationship of someone that became one of my closest work friends (who has since passed away, RIP) started with me thinking he was sexually harassing me due to a past incident in which someone *was* sexually harassing me and approaching me in a similar way. He apologised, as did I, and we became friends. If I'd judged him on his 'cover' I'd just have labelled him as a creep and missed out on a wonderful, highly intelligent, brilliantly witty and quietly caring friend. I also think he was incredibly gracious given the circumstances, as he could have -- fairly -- judged me harshly for what I originally thought about him. He was a good guy.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 5 months ago
If a cover tells you nothing about the book, why did they design one?
#32
No criticism to my mom, I still think it’s a silly bit in a lot of ways, but any time I’d get hurt and start crying she’d joke: “Do you need to go to the hospital? Do you need something amputated?” and it would get me to stop crying.
I think, among many other things, that helped teach me to really expertly suppress my emotions. Now, in my 30’s, I’m trying very hard to try to understand what I’m feeling and letting that exist so that I’m not just anxious and stressed every moment of the day.
Andrew Keir 5 months ago
Threatening a child - someone who is still coming to terms with the ide of their body as the place where they live - with amputation, is not helpful. IMO your Mum may have thought she was joking but that wasn't a joke. Best case, it was a distraction.
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TheElderNom 5 months ago
"If you can wiggle your toes your leg isn't broken." I could wiggle my toes fine after both times I broke my leg as an adult. Second break the bones had even slid put of place but no issues wiggling my toes.
TheElderNom 5 months ago
"If you can wiggle your toes your leg isn't broken." I could wiggle my toes fine after both times I broke my leg as an adult. Second break the bones had even slid put of place but no issues wiggling my toes.
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