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When two people are trying to hit it off, everything kind of... depends. If they operate on different frequencies, small habits and weird personal quirks can quickly reduce attraction to cringe.
TikTok user Samantha Ouellette recently asked everyone to share their biggest turn offs — or "icks," as some call them now — and the examples she received range from obsessing over money to idolizing questionable characters, reminding us that if it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be. At least these folks found out sooner rather than later.
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#1
Being mean to my cat
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#2
I lost our baby due to a miscarriage. I told him. He said oh I’m sorry and kept playing PlayStation. He was in his 30s and we were married with a child already. Now I’m happily divorced.
If you're interested in how these experiences fit into the bigger picture, we can take a look at a survey of 2,000 adults commissioned by the dating site Seeking and conducted by OnePoll.
According to its results, more than half (65%) have ended a relationship because of an ick, and 88% of them have ghosted someone completely.
Smelling bad turned out to be the top ick, selected by 24% of respondents. This was followed by pretending to be more knowledgeable about something than you really are and being rude to a waiter (both 21%).
#4
Came over to my house for the first time and actually yelled at my dog when it barked… like who is you
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Yell at my dogs n it won’t end well for you !! same if u harm them !
Other notable selections were living in a mess, being overbearing, having dirty fingernails, being too clingy, having bad teeth, double texting (sending a secondary text if you're not getting a response to the first one), talking too loudly, chewing with their mouth open, and oversharing on social media.
The survey also found that an eighth of men (14%) would happily break it off with someone who wanted to share food on a first date, and 6% of women find wearing a tacky watch to be an "ick."
#5
This might sound wierd but he was mean to my childhood stuffed animal- like punching it and kicking it around my room. Lost feelings right there and told him to leave.
#6
we were eating in his car, asked if I was done & I said yes & proceeded to throw all the trash outside the car window 😭
#7
He went out his way to try to end a grasshopper that wasn’t bothering him 🚩
Four in nine (44%) respondents described themselves as at least somewhat picky when it comes to finding a partner, with 33% saying they are “very picky.”
The vast majority (79%) also believe they deserve the best, so they try to raise their standards when looking for a partner—a phenomenon known as “dating up.”
That being said, 40% agree that dating gets harder as you age, so it’s not surprising that only 37% insist on going out exclusively with someone who matches their preferences exactly.
#9
He said “your best friend has eyes on me, seems like you have competition” i ended it right away
#10
he would send me pictures of models he followed on insta and said he wished I looked like that
#12
He told me I’m high maintenance when it was 95 degrees out and I wanted water which was like a dollar
#13
He was rude to our waitress and didn’t tip. I went back and tipped her and apologized for his behaviour. That was our first and last date.
#14
I am a home health CNA and I said that I cook and clean for my patients and he said, “so everything a typical woman should do.” Bye bye
#15
he sent me $20 and said you never had a real man that’ll send you money. mind u he was paying me back…
#16
He ate chicken wings and then touched my hair with his fingers
#17
A few years after my mom died I was having a really bad day were grief was overwhelming. I told my husband "I miss my mom so bad". He responded, "I miss mine too". She lived 25 mins away. I'm now happily divorced.
#21
Said “A degree is just a piece of paper” right before my masters program graduation
#22
he told me MY body "belongs" to HIM...
#25
He opened my fridge on his own accord without asking and started to critique my fridge organisation then started to critique my parking, my clothes, my dishwasher staking ability
#26
He told me his mom was coming over shortly to do his laundry
winterwidow87 1 week ago (edited)
The mum here is also the problem. Tell your adult son to grow the fûck up and learn to do laundry, your 45 year old son is not a baby.
#27
Wouldn’t accept the answer “no”
#29
Asked me if I would ever get the same haircut as his mom.
#30
he told me he has never finished reading a book in his life.. he was 32. haven't seen him since.
Colleen Glim 1 week ago
The first book my husband read for his own enjoyment was Silence of the Lambs. Because I encouraged him to try reading what interests you instead of what school requires. He still reads very slowly but at least he’s reading
#31
“Our options are to either get engaged and married asap or breakup” absolutely not sir (I was 18 yrs old)
Babs Ishkabibble 1 week ago
Same. My boyfriend of one year (first love) handed me a ring and said 'Marry me or you'll never see me again.' Wow. I'm still traumatized. And no, I didn't marry him.
#32
Had a full back tattoo of himself as a gladiator.
#33
he ate an entire tub of tiramisu i’d made for my friends when i told him to take ONE portion 😭
#35
I was blonde at the time, he said “you shoULD go back to brunette like my mum, you’d look hotter” BOY BYE
#37
Making baby noises when he wanted to cuddle 😂😂😭😭😭
Nik Odongray 1 week ago
I had a woman start using baby talk while we were in bed. Couldn’t get out of there fast enough.
#38
He only washed his hair once a month and would ask me to do it for him when he would come over because he just “didn’t know how”
#39
My ex used to wipe his teeth with his shirt because he forgot to brush his teeth every day
#40
pumping my own gas at 9 months pregnant while he sat in the passenger seat on his phone (:
#41
Anytime he’d mention my apartment he’d say as “ours”.
#42
Tried to control what I posted online, while simultaneously liking photos of women doing the same thing I was doing
#43
His mom came in his room to clean it. He’s 24.
#45
He told me he didn’t wash his hands after he took a poo, because it was “not like he got anything on his hands”
#46
Told me he was "so happy to finally be dating someone in his league" because "all his other past crushes were above him"
Veronica Jean 1 week ago
I once had a guy tell me that I was the first woman he dated that he felt was actually" worthy of him". He was a serial cheater, did d***s, s*x a****t, could not hold a job, with ADHD and oppositional defiance disorder, neither one of which he attempted to keep in check. I have no problem with people with either condition but he made a sport out of trying to make me cry. That statement still makes me heave
#47
when they try to correct you but they're wrong and won't let you explain why because they're convinced YOU'RE wrong.
#48
He said “pweaseeeee” and put his hands like this 🙏. Never felt instant, primal rage like that before
Mark Alexander 1 week ago
If you're going to say "pweaseeeee" you can ONLY say it in Roger Rabbit's voice.
#49
he missed his doctors appointment because i didn’t remind him
winterwidow87 1 week ago
I mean this one depends on context. My wife needs me to remind her stuff including doctors appointments because of ADHD.
#51
his mom would come over every week and clean his house and do all his laundry while he gamed, before she left she’d leave a note saying how much she loved him and kiss it with LIPSTICK, he’s 26
#52
“Rule number one, stay off your phone” LIKE YES ABSOLUTELY! But who are YOUUUU to tell me what I can and can not do??? Mind you this was the very FIRST day we went on a “date”
#53
called me “expensive” when I ordered a mixed drink…. never ran away so fast!
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Define a mixed drink ? mega pricy cocktail? Or a simple voddy n tonic ?
#54
Casually kept saying “wyd” every 5 freaking minutes
#55
Him telling me to lower my voice when I was just telling him about something I was passionate about.
#56
When they send a sad face when I don't respond right away, biggest ick everrr for me
#57
he tries to act “tough” in front of his friends
#59
Spelled beautiful as “beutifal”
Babs Ishkabibble 1 week ago
I'm a grammar and spelling stickler and ended up marrying someone who can't spell his way out of a paper bag. For example, he writes things like 'supe' on our grocery list. I could have easily written him off, but I'm glad I didn't. He had dyslexia before anybody knew it was a thing!
#61
"I know you miss me" I never did, the audacity was too much.
#62
Long nails
kissmychakram 1 week ago
Knew a guitarist who kept his nails fairly long. They were very well taken care of though.
#63
my fat golden retriever we lovingly called a potato passed away, and the very next day he said he was now a baked potato because he got cremated.
#64
not knowing how to hold a conversation.
#66
he didn’t remember things i told him over and over again
#67
it was like 3pm i was fully at work and he texted me “goodmorning i just woke up” he had been playing video games all night. instantly blocked
#68
Avoidant attachment style 😒
#69
spelled “cough” like “colph” and he was in his mid twenties.
#70
Walk into his room and he has 8 Spider-Man posters and a Spider-Man bed spread
#71
he did the duke dennis hug not even a week into talking.
#72
Didn’t know the different between accept and except
#74
When he told me I paid for dinner last night you pay for breakfast today
Sara Frazer 1 week ago
Seems reasonable, I like treating my partner, it's unfair to expect men to pay for everything
#75
imagine him chasing after a ping pong ball during a game and not being able to pick it up
#76
a guy saying "hehe" in a message
#78
Drove a PT Cruiser! 😳
KindaSketchy 1 week ago
Any clean, well maintaineded car > "Cool car" that looks like a trash can
#79
When he made me pay for dinner
#80
he asked for split bills on the first date🙃
What do you think ?
Mimi M 1 week ago
I was prepping to go on a date with someone for the first time - someone who really seemed good 'on paper'. Grown man, academic job, intelligent, well spoken. Right before our date I texted to say I was getting ready and would be leaving soon. He made a very vulgar joke (I won't repeat it). I told him that I was not comfortable and would be bowing out of the date. The level of disrespect was just off the charts - I can't imagine that a grown man would think that a woman would find that appealing - the solipsism and lack of awareness of the perceptions of others was mind-boggling.
TheOGpandaHavana 1 week ago
I honestly wish you'd either share the joke or not share the story at all because we all perceive things differently so vulgar to one is nbd for another. Not saying I wouldn't agree with you on your assessment but when left to the imagination, I can't imagine what he would've said to you. 🤔
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Helena 1 week ago
The ick is usually defined something like, less than a red flag, but now you know you never want to touch this person ever again. A guy who scratches his balls and sniffs his fingers in front of you, that's the ick.
Load More Replies... Mimi M 1 week ago
I was prepping to go on a date with someone for the first time - someone who really seemed good 'on paper'. Grown man, academic job, intelligent, well spoken. Right before our date I texted to say I was getting ready and would be leaving soon. He made a very vulgar joke (I won't repeat it). I told him that I was not comfortable and would be bowing out of the date. The level of disrespect was just off the charts - I can't imagine that a grown man would think that a woman would find that appealing - the solipsism and lack of awareness of the perceptions of others was mind-boggling.
TheOGpandaHavana 1 week ago
I honestly wish you'd either share the joke or not share the story at all because we all perceive things differently so vulgar to one is nbd for another. Not saying I wouldn't agree with you on your assessment but when left to the imagination, I can't imagine what he would've said to you. 🤔
Load More Replies... Helena 1 week ago
The ick is usually defined something like, less than a red flag, but now you know you never want to touch this person ever again. A guy who scratches his balls and sniffs his fingers in front of you, that's the ick.
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