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“What Have You Seen Inside Someone’s Home That Made You View Them Differently?” (30 Answers)
Humans are built to size each other up quickly. These first impressions are influenced by a number of factors, including facial features, vocal inflection, and general emotional state. Often people get attached to their initial opinions of others and find it difficult to change their minds.
But every now and then we are presented with such convincing evidence to the contrary that we just have to. For example, when we visit the place that they live in! From cleanliness and colors to photos and decor, it can convey a lot of information.
A few days ago, Reddit user WANACWaac asked everyone on the platform to describe the moment they saw something in another person's home that made them view the owner of the space in a completely new light.
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#1
Trick or treating as a kid we were always scared to go to one neighbor’s house. The yard, nor home, was well kept. Stories circulated the neighborhood for years that he was a mean man, had killed his family, etc. As a dare I ran up and rang the doorbell and as I tried to run away an older gentleman opened the door..he said ‘I don’t get many kids nowadays, Happy Halloween!’ and held out a bowl of yummy candy bars. I peeked in and it was a meticulously kept home on the inside. A little candle lit, neatly folded blankets and magazines next to his lazy boy chair. He was so kind. I believe his kids were grown and had moved away, wife had passed away years ago. Made me not believe the rumors that get started about people.
sbj 1 year ago
Just because people keep themselves to themselves doesn't make them weird or mean
Zoey Bear 1 year ago
I keep to myself, I am weird, but I'm not mean...I don't think at least... 🤔
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Taco doggo 1 year ago
Awe that makes me kinda sad for the man. I bet he had candy ready every year just in case 🙁
Nitka Tsar 1 year ago (edited)
Is that thing in the middle how US smarties look? I think I‘ve never seen them before. I knew they looked different to ours though. Ours are basically like M&Ms. Flat, round chocolate, covered in a colorfull shell.
Rinso The Red 1 year ago
We should all learn the lesson of the "Scary German Guy" from Monster Squad.
Bored Trash Panda 1 year ago
We had someone like that in our neighborhood, but the inside of his house was cluttered. I went in with my mom one time for something, don't remember what. But he was a hoarder, but a neat hoarder, as in super clean house, just nicely put stacks everywhere, stuff in labeled boxed ext. And it was a huge 3 story house. His kids were also grown and had moved away and his wife passed a long time ago. He was such a sweet man. He gave really good candy for Halloween and always let us take some flowers when he was trimming the bushes. It was really sad when he passed away.
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#2
I'm a CSI. I went to a residential burglary when I used to work at an agency in North Carolina. The homeowners were in their 70s. Their house was your typical grandparent's place with lace doilies everywhere, flowers, and photos all over the walls of the entire extended family. A table near his chair with hunting and fishing magazines. A table near her chair with knitting needles and yarn. The whole 9 yards you'd expect to see at grandma and grandpa's house. As the lady was showing me around with the officer to tell me what was stolen or moved I came to a slightly ajar door next to the master bedroom suite. I asked her if anything had been moved in there. She said she wasn't sure since she had called the police the moment they had gotten home from church and realized their house had been broken into. I elbowed open the door. Full on sex dungeon room. We're talking sex swing, hooks on the ceilings with ropes, restraints on boards nailed to the wall, cuffs, paddles, floggers, strapon harnesses on hooks, ball gags of various sizes, video camera on a tripod, you name it. She looked around, put her hand on her chest and with what seemed a sigh of relief said "No. Thank you lawd! It looks like nothing was touched in here." I will never look at an old woman in a peter pan collar and flower patterned dress the same now.
Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)
Because they're the people who need the sound-proofed room.
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Taco doggo 1 year ago
Hahah, burglar was probably too afraid to go in there to even look for anything valuable
Charles McChristy 1 year ago
I had something similar happen when I was doing repairs on some high tower condos, *shudder*
#3
Woman I nannied for had a very messy house but she always looked so put together in public. She had 6 kids and always said “don’t judge me, our house is ‘lived in’”. Made me realize it was ok not to ruin your life over a perfect image house as long as everyone and everything was functioning.
badger 1 year ago
no-one ever said their childhood was wonderful because the bathroom was always spotless.
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)
My mom’s home, the family home I grew up in with 5 half/stepbrothers & 4 foster-to-adoption siblings, is called “Frog Hollow.” It was very lived in & full of life. A family friend has a sister who is really close with Mia Farrow. The one time that sister had visited, she said the interior (of our much smaller) and motley crew of whirling activity & energy reminded her of her friend Mia’s home, which was called “Frog Hollow.” So we adopted the name. First “Frog Hollow West,” then “FH” and now so many of us, family or not, refer to it as “The Hollow.” Even tho my mom is alone now, it’s still full of books, board games, kids stuff for the grandkids. It was always clean & never overly cluttered, but always always messy from so much life-living.
The Original Bruno 1 year ago
I'm just afraid it'll take me months to realize if anything was taken.
Trillian 1 year ago
"very messy" is not the same as "lived in". And it is a looooong way to "perfect image house". You don't need that, but very messy is gross.
#4
One family I went to visit had a room in their house that was set up for a college kid. Posters, tv, some weights, computer desk, even a half empty cologne bottle on the desk. I asked them what college their son went to and they immediately changed the subject and the mom looked down and away. They said the room is rented out. I later found out their son could not get into the college he wanted and decided to take his own life. They left his room exactly as it last was.
I still think about them.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
One of my high school students was determined to go to her dream college and didn't want her parents to force her to go anywhere else. Her genius plan was to apply only to her dream college. You guessed it - her dream college didn't take her. We had to work much of the summer to find a school to accept her.
Jeevesssssss 1 year ago
That's heartbreaking. Apart from the devastation of the loss, there must have been so many regrets and 'if only's. Jeez.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
Losing af child is terrible but losing a child by suicide must be the worst.
#5
A girl I hung out with in college had me over to study together. We didn't have dorms, we lived close enough to just walk to college, so it was at her house. I saw this little colorful urn on her tv stand and I said "oh, thats a pretty pot", she got this really sad smile and replied "thanks...that's my daughter." I felt so bad.
Joen Chau 1 year ago (edited)
That's sad Edit:Thanks for the upvotes that's the most I ever got!
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
When my husband died I learnt that it is not allowed to keep the ashes of humans in your house. I think I now understand that rule.
#6
I did home visits for students from poverty. Some were refugees, others were here on asylum, or farm work programs. Wow. Were their houses clean. Mopped and dusted daily. Gardens were immaculate. Kitchens well organized. I guess I expected their homes to look like the homes of poor Americans, but nope. They treated their new homes in America like castles and welcomed our visits.
flower petals 1 year ago
I’ve seen this often. People who have been through really bad things are so grateful for what they have now. It always reminds me to never take what we have for granted.
Wm Paul Robinson 1 year ago
Many refugees and immigrants have had good qualifications, and well paying jobs before émigration, but many qualifications not recognized by the country they arrive in. Use to have a lovely couple from the Congo, who virtually started from scratch. She was a qualified specialist nurse, he was in his last stage before qualifying as a solicitor/avocat. Both nearly back to the accepted level for France, by the time we moved away.
Kayleigh haigh 1 year ago
Not here in uk where i live SOME have totally trashed the area they flytip down alleys smash windows police called regular and even see them take a dump down alleys its discusting
Hodge Elmwood 1 year ago
Ok so poor Americans typically have messy, disorganized homes? Stereotype much?
Hannah Taylor 1 year ago (edited)
Not necessarily. Usually, low-income families don't have the means to properly organize a home. Not everyone can shop at Ethan Allen, hire a gardener, or have their house professionally painted. Often, you take what you can get: old appliances, used furniture, yard sale items. That's how it was for my family in high school, and we survived. The place was kept clean, but my dad's Social Security check went only so far.
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Uncle Schmickle 1 year ago
I've seen this on my several visits to Africa. The Africans may live in an impoverished " township ", but are neat and clean and even the kids have clean, pressed clothes.
Tim Callahan 1 year ago
My wife came from a very poor family (whole fam was college educated but dad had left) in Latin America. Her motto was always “just because you’re poor doesn’t mean you have to live in a pig-sty.”
Jay Cee 5 days ago
From a Discworld book by Sir Terry Pratchett: When had he last come down here? He couldn’t remember. It was beyond the Shades, and up until quite recently the Watch had tended to leave that area to its own unspeakable devices. Unlike the Shades, though, Cockbill Street was clean, with the haunting, empty cleanliness you get when people can’t afford to waste dirt. For Cockbill Street was where people lived who were worse than poor, because they didn’t know how poor they were. If you asked them they would probably say something like “mustn’t grumble” or “there’s far worse off than us” or “we’ve always kept uz heads above water and we don’t owe no-body nowt.” He could hear his granny speaking. “No one’s too poor to buy soap.” Of course, many people were. But in Cockbill Street they bought soap just the same. The table might not have any food on it but, by gods, it was well scrubbed. That was Cockbill Street, where what you mainly ate was your pride.
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Was dating a girl for a couple of weeks and went to hang out with a couple she was close friends with. We are at their house, hanging out, and having a pretty good time. They seemed pretty cool. The guy starts talking about the iguanas they have and asked if i wanted to see them. They had a separate room for them. We go in there, see the big cages with lizards. They were very impressive. And the big f*****g Ku Klux Klan posters on the wall next to them. I made an excuse to leave their home soon after. My girlfriend asked what was wrong, and I explained what I saw. She knew and didn't think it was any big deal. It ended that relationship as well.
Joanne Earle 1 year ago
Bet anything that the guy really wanted to show off the posters, not the lizards, to see what the reaction would be.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
The KKK were conservatives - like you (in so many ways).
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Their Labrador in a crate so small it could only turn around with great difficulty. The crate was anchored to the wall, because otherwise the dog would thrash around in the crate until it shook and moved across the floor.
I asked if the dog had done something wrong to be put in timeout in the crate, like chewing up some shoes? My(ex) friend said no, that’s just where the dog lived for the most part. It got out every so often to eat or toilet in the yard, but all other times of day and night it was crated. Their reasoning was that when they let it out the crate, it was too hyper and destructive. Probably cause it spent its whole life stuck in a tiny f*****g box!
I argued with the friend and left the house on bad terms. I did phone an animal rights hotline but was told there wasn’t anything they could do. Since the dog was technically provided food, shelter, and decently hygienic conditions it wasn’t illegal to crate them near constantly, even though the org agreed it was neglectful/abusive.
Ghostpotato 1 year ago
That sucks, I'm so glad it's illegal in my country to keep dogs in crates like this. (It's actually illegal to have a crate for your dog in your home unless it has the door removed. The law is mostly there to make it easier to take away abused dogs from their owner, if you have a happy healthy pup no ones going to care if you have a crate with a door in your home. We have a few such laws about animal care that may sound extreme but they are only enforced if the animal is abused, just to avoid situations like the one above where "technically they're not breaking any laws")
Marla Moops 1 year ago
I rescued a dog in this exact same situation. She lived the best life. Never once had to go near a crate and was treated like the queen she was. I had her 13 years and last week she lost her battle with Cancer. I am sickened with grief to this very moment but knowing I gave her the best life possible and she never had to fear being locked up 23 hours a day means the world to me. Miss you Marla Beans, there will never be another like you.
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ADZ 1 year ago
You have to be really f*cked up to look at them every day and let them suffer like this. Honestly they should be punished the same.
flower petals 1 year ago
People who tie up and abandon dogs and leave them alone without food or water, sometimes for weeks, should have the same done to them.
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Upstaged75 1 year ago
I have a friend who stole a dog that was being abused. Too bad no one stole that poor dog. :(
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)
Same same. I stole a dog I’d seen tied to a fence everyday on my daily walk to school. I was heading to the little commuter airport by campus to head home for the summer. The flight was delayed a few hours. I hatched a plan & spoke with the gate agent about buying the dog a ticket. She said I’d also need an airline approved crate. I left the airport with a friend and we kidnapped the dog then running out of time went back to the airport. While I was waiting, he was going to go buy a crate at a box pet store. The people working for the airline had heard about my plan from the gate agent and they were able to find a used one somewhere on the property. When I asked how much the ticket was going to be, the gate agent just told me that it would be comped. My folks gave the little guy a great life for 12 more years.
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Lyoness 1 year ago
Our cat came into our lives when my husband heard mewing in a client's basement. He went around a corner and found a sweet little old lass in a cage. She had food and water and a litter box but very little room to move in. The family kept her caged because they just couldn't deal with one more pet (they had 2 dogs and assorted rats/hamsters) along with all their other struggles (long story). The moment the cat saw my husband she started purring and rubbing her head on the bars. I got a picture about 4 minutes later with one line of text - "Want a cat?" The family was glad to give her up and we've had her 3 three years. The limp she had from getting so little exercise is almost gone. Needless to say my husband will never work for them again.
Ronna Black 1 year ago
When did crating dogs become a thing? Seriously, growing up for me, dogs were not in crates, they roamed the house, slept in dog beds (and the occasional kid bed). Me and my friends would walk our dogs before school/work, then again when we got home. The rest of the time they ran with us or hung out looking hopeful for snacks. I lived in a city.
Sahitya Madhavan 1 year ago
This is cruel. I rescued a dog who was in a similar situation. He's a lab-hound mix and was kept in the crate. Same reason, 'hyperactive'. He was in the crate his entire first year of his life and wouldn't even respond to the name they addressed him with. Now, he's my boy, Sam, named after Samwise Gamgee. Never leaves my side. He took time to get used to us and his two lab sisters here. And now he's a happy 5 year old and plays with his younger Indie brother throughout the day. I wish I could post a picture of my 4 doggies here.
Hannah Taylor 1 year ago
So do I. They sound like one, big, happy family.
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Lee Banks 1 year ago
An ex friend of mine invited me to move in during some hard times. He was a complete jerk of a roommate, but I could tolerate it until he got a dog. Poor thing would spend twelve hours in a crate, and we were threatened with eviction if we let him out. Dog has since been seized, and homeboy has been blacklisted from local community.
Sahitya Madhavan 1 year ago
Also, where I live, this is illegal and we can get the authorities involved.
#9
When my friend and his wife could always afford new shoes/outfits and nights out with miscellaneous substances but their kids slept on a mattress on the floor with no sheets...like ... Where are your priorities?!
ZuriLovesYou 1 year ago
Anyone who doesn't take proper care of their children isn't what I'd consider a friend.
Red_panda 1 year ago
I don't know. When I first moved my kids into "big kid beds" my youngest would constantly roll off in the middle of the night, so I put her mattress on the floor. Just because the mattress is on the floor doesn't mean neglect.
Brooklyn 1 year ago
That's not what they mean... and they said there were no covers/blankets
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A dude I had a crush on didn’t put sheets on his bed. It was so gross and weird. His mattress was all dirty and I couldn’t imagine how it would ever get clean. I couldn’t get past it and it didn’t work out lol.
Pittsburgh rare 1 year ago
Hygiene is a dealbreaker for me. No matter what other qualities they have, there's no redeeming if they're not clean.
Gayle Owens 1 year ago
There is no reason to be a dirty person. To live in your own filth and expect visitors to sit in it. Have some pride.
Uncle Schmickle 1 year ago
Totally agree with comment below. A person may be poor financially, but there's no excuse for bad hygiene and cleanliness.
#11
A married couple, both medical doctors, with kids. They had one of those tall, giant outdoor propane heaters, in their living room. You know the kind they have for outdoor seating at restaurants? One of those. In their living room. Running on propane. No fans, no open windows. I told them they need to knock that s**t off.
geezeronthehill 1 year ago
Carbon monoxide detector, at very least. Smoke detectors, for sure. There are gas infrared heaters designed for indoor installation, but a patio heater is not, shall we say, an intelligent choice!
Hodge Elmwood 1 year ago
AT THE VERY LEAST it needs to go outside! That's a tragedy waiting to happen!
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Gayle Owens 1 year ago
Yes I knew a bloke who did this. Also no fans. The electrical wires were live exposed on the tv. He was an electrician with 4 young children. The laziest, entitled , self important, dirty male I have ever met.
SnackbarKaat 1 year ago
I was visiting a pre-kindergarden place for my baby and altho they were very kind, I didn't enroll my baby because of the small propane heather they put in the living room. I just.. it didn't feel ok
#12
A sandbox in the middle of the living room. There were Tonka Trucks and toys and cigarette butts in it. Then came the cat. Ugh.
Uncle Schmickle 1 year ago
I hope it was cleaned out regularly ! Certainly strange to have it in the living room .... ?
Dread Pirate Roberts 1 year ago
Ew....I know where this is going. Basically making their kids play in a giant cat box
#13
Super popular, rich kid in high school. Drove a BMW, had a huge house and both of his parents were doctors. Went to a party at his house one night and was absolutely horrified by the filth they lived in. There was dog s**t and p**s absolutely everywhere in the house and little chihuahuas running around. Then there were even more dogs stacked on top of each other in crates in the garage. I was so stunned and disgusted I couldn’t even have fun and was just horrified for the animals, and him because he obviously thought this was all normal. And because he was cool people weren’t saying anything. All I could think was “holy s**t if this is what his house looks like when he KNOWS people are coming over, what the f**k does it normally look like”?!? I still feel terrible for those dogs and wish I had told an adult who could have helped them 😔.
MacintoshID 1 year ago
Welcome to your first in house puppy mill/backyard breeder program. They use the dogs to make tons of money.
#14
Honestly? A big confederate flag hanging the entire span of their dining room wall. Their business, but I drew the line when they said the pledge of allegiance to it. Like?
robin aldrich 1 year ago
There's a lot of that in the South and banners that say, "heritage, not hate"...in reality, it's hateful heritage.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
"One nation under God." There is never any obligation to take any oath that requires you to endorse a religious belief you do not share. Or even one you do.
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Binky Melnik 1 year ago (edited)
If I entered someone’s home and found an insane flag (Confederate, KKK, Nazi, etc) I’d prolly have a silent panic attack because I’ve seen too many movies where people with those flags turned out to be insane cannibals/killers/scientists/etc and would smile like crazy while realizing I had a prior engagement, then bolt like the wind once I got outside and never, ever return. (Shiver!)
#15
I go into multiple homes every week. For the most part, people are clean and what I’d call normal. Then we have the people whose animals don’t get let outside often enough, or the litter boxes aren’t cleaned often enough. Or the children have the run of the home, and no one cleans for them. That’s all normal to some people. We also have a large group of people who collect odd things, or old things. They can’t let go of the past, or of great grandma’s tarnished brass. That’s also normal to some. The worst, to me, are the hoarders. With just a pathway leading to a tight space for one, they expect me to adapt to their living conditions while finding a place to sign multiple documents. Some claim to be remodeling. Others claim to be moving in or out. It’s obvious their claims are untrue. But what gets me about these hoarders, is that if they aren’t sick and in bed on the final days, they are business professionals who walk right next to others, looking tidy and clean. They are doctors and nurses, they are attorneys, accountants, and some even own multiple properties across the country. I’ve learned that we really don’t know a person until we’ve seen their home.
Ronna Black 1 year ago
Hoarding is a trauma reaction. Something happened in their life that will not allow them to let go of things. This is a mental health issue and should be treated as such, but for many people, a visible sign of mental illness is grounds for ridicule and derision. My niece is a hoarder due to childhood trauma. She is in therapy and occasionally needs help when she gets overwhelmed. Getting rid of something can cause a massive meltdown because there are memories attached to each thing, even if is broken, or hasn’t been seen in a long time. I don’t think people watching those hoarder shows on TV really understand how living like this takes a mental toll on the hoarders themselves, and the internalized shame they feel.
Marnie 1 year ago (edited)
I watched almost all of the Hoarders shows. For a while, I read the hoarderstv subreddit. Most of the people posting there seemed to understand it was a mental illness, and most (like me) learned that by watching the show. It didn't stop people from really disliking and even loathing some of them. A percentage were a******s. People with mental illnesses can also be a******s. What really made people mad were the hoarders who had pets or children in the house. Nobody got a pass on that.
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Jay Cee 5 days ago
My FIL settled in the UK in 1947 (ex Polish Army) with nothing but his uniform and some war souvenirs . Worked hard, bought a house and proceeded to fill it. When he died 45 years later the basement was full, the ground floor was full, the first floor was full and so was the attic. Clearing it all away took weeks. I found 12 pairs of pliers in various rooms around the house. I guess he'd lose one and go and buy a replacement. When you think about it he'd lost everything first to the Germans and then to the Russians (he was in an NKVD prison for a while) he'd even lost his country - where he was born is no longer Poland, it's Belarius.
Ormond Otvos 1 year ago
Another viewpoint. I'm an organizer, my wife likes mementos. We used to live on boats, offshore. You might think we're hoarders, but we're just very compact. We know where everything is, and it's all easy to hand. We have nothing we don't know about. Our house is 550 sq ft.
#16
They didn’t own soap, like, no soap at all anywhere in their house.
Robin Roper 1 year ago
A visitor would find an alternative at your house, it sounds like there was no conversation such as "We don't use commercial soap because we all have a crazy skin condition. We use this instead."
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#17
Once when I was a kid I was invited to stay over for dinner at a friend's house. My friend's mother poured a large quantity of ketchup into a cereal bowl, which the entire family all casually dipped their fingers into and licked throughout the meal.
Agfox 1 year ago
I stayed at a friends place overnight in Summer & there were dead flies in the orange juice in the fridge. My friend & his brother just pulled flies out of their glasses before drinking it - yuk!
Little Wonder 1 year ago
Yeah I remember my friend's mum tipping dead cockroaches out of the drinking glasses before pouring drinks. No thank you actually not thirsty.
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Pink kitty 1 year ago (edited)
A co-worker was taking me home one day and stopped at their friend's house on the way to pick up something. The friend's family were sitting around this table with a big plate of sandwiches on it and there were flies crawling all over them and the family kept offering them to me. It was summer and they were dried up too
My O My 1 year ago
As someone living on a farm. Not much you can do about flies everywhere but get used to it
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Some of the comments to this post make my skin crawl. This is child abuse.
#18
Pills.... all over the floor. Every room I went to had random pills on the ground. I picked them up and put them in a zip lock when I was watching their cats. I let them know and they didn't seem to care. Watched their cats again months later and again found pills all over the place. So bizarre.
rullyman 1 year ago
Have you ever tried getting a cat to take a worming pill? It's a mission
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Connie Hirsch 1 year ago
My roommate dropped pills all the time -- but her eyesight was so bad that she really didn't see them.
#19
Went over to my best (at the time) friend's house, hadn't been by in a while. She had two young children (I think they were both under 5). But she was a stay at home mom and her husband worked full time. I walked in the door and their house was COMPLETELY TRASHED. You could barely see the living room floor, there was a big box by the front door completely filled with dirty diapers. The wood floor was fully ruined. Dishes everywhere. Like, I get two kids is a lot of work, but what the f**k do you do all day? I'd known her since we were win elementary school. Her mom had THREE kids and their house was basically spotless, and her mom made them help clean so it wasn't like she had no idea how to clean or grew up around filth. I'd been best friends with this woman for over a decade at the time I was seeing her house like this, and I almost called CPS. That's how bad it was. While I sat on the fence debating whether or not to call CPS, her mother-in-law ended up doing it. CPS was involved in their lives for years after that, it was so sad to watch.
Lil Miss Hobbit 1 year ago
I was gonna say. Probably depression and with two kids it was probably too much.
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Charlotte Sandoval 1 year ago
With two kids under 5, my guess is major compounded postpartum depression. It's terrible her husband didn't see it and help.
Nano Iders 1 year ago
Maybe the guy had his own issues to deal with. Maybe both needed help.
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SillyPandaBunny 1 year ago
A best friend would have just started cleaning up the mess and then helped their friend make an appointment with a psychiatrist. Sometimes you need a clean slate to start the healing process.
Caessy Meschar 1 year ago
the poster doesn't sound like a best friend. a best friend would have asked if help was needed and what help was needed.
Peta Hurley-Hill 1 year ago
Take your pick,serious clutter problems "can be linked to underlying mental health conditions such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, hoarding disorder, major depressive disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety disorders, trauma,even autism and may,many others .Maybe you could have offered to help her instead of judging? Maybe her MIL could have done the same. "what the f**k do you do all day"? Probably just try to survive.
Uncle Schmickle 1 year ago
Agree with below comment. But the husband must have been useless too.
#20
A carpeted bathroom that also contains a gun safe, wine glasses, a wine fridge, board games and snacks.
PanPan124 1 year ago
hol’ up. a CARPETED bathroom? Yeah uhh, safe to say that bathroom ain’t staying mould/bad smell free
Violet Radar 1 year ago
My "parents" put white shag in the bathroom and never pulled it out. This was in about 1972. They thought it made them look rich. I stayed away from the house for about 18 years and went back about 5 years ago. I couldn't even stand to be inside because of the urine smell coming from that bathroom. And it's a big house. The carpet was brown around the toilet. My older brother had still been living there (at 55) and using that bathroom. Five decades of splashes. Absolutely foul. She prided herself on never leaving dishes in the sink, but never bothered to clean or remove that shag.
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Carbonel 1 year ago
My bathroom is carpeted… not my choice, there when we moved in but we’ve been there years and are only now getting round to re-doing the bathroom as other spaces were a priority. It doesn’t smell and there’s no mould. We use a bath mat, shower mat and toilet mat which are laundered very regularly. It’s a very low pile carpet and I remember as a small child in the 70s (UK) that carpeted bathrooms weren’t uncommon. I do hate it though, and can’t wait to see the back of it!
Historyharlot93 1 year ago
We had a carpeted bathroom while I was growing up. They really don’t smell or mold if you treat them properly with bathroom mats, and could be vacuumed clean. That being said, you HAD to keep them clean regularly. And I wouldn’t have one today. I’m not sure what people were thinking when they invented a carpeted bathroom
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Šimon Špaček 1 year ago
I can understand a gun safe at toilet (after all, if you are in "the middle of the business" during a break in, you don't really want to stop it). But wine glasses and wine fridge? Is there somebody with severe lactose intolerance or something like that that may cause them to stay there for two hours?
nottheactualphoto 1 year ago
I don't know about anyone else, but I've seen Pulp Fiction. Vincent's folly...
Load More Replies... Robin Roper 1 year ago
Party in the bathroom on the nasty carpeted floor! I rented a house with a carpeted kitchen; it was impossible to keep clean.
Wm Paul Robinson 1 year ago
All ready for a long stay on the throne. Some serious constipation, or where they hide from each other and the kids!
#21
I better appreciated that a friend of mine was badly depressed when I saw how messy his home was. I wanted to let him know if he needed anything Id do my best to help, but I dont wanna just say, "Hey sad-a*s, lemme help!".
Anne Roberts 1 year ago
Sometimes a person in distress needs someone to say, "let me help", and then do it. If you ask they might say, oh that's ok. Just do it
Load More Replies... Pittsburgh rare 1 year ago
I'm not.. subtle. I try to be tactful but not very successfully. So l just grabbed a backpack with cleaning supplies and rang on my friend's door. He thanked it. In all fairness, he had already admitted he was really depressed, so it was more like the answer to a cry for help.
Tessa 1 year ago
That is so sweet, I bet it was exactly what he needed, a true friend. ❤️
Load More Replies... SillyPandaBunny 1 year ago
Glad you didn’t say that to them since sad and depressed are not the same thing. When you are depressed it is like having an absence of feeling. Like there is no hope, no anything.
#22
Stayed the night at this girl's house and got up early to make some breakfast. I'm riffleing though the cabinets looking for salt and pepper to add to my eggs. Come to find out this lady has no spices in her house. None. Not even salt. Like what?!
Dragon mama 1 year ago
Oh man, can you imagine being the one to introduce someone to salt? You would be a hero.
Melanie Filmer 1 year ago
I will season my food as I cook it, I refuse to use condiments though as it just makes everything on the plate taste the same!
Sue User 1 year ago
Disagree. A small bit of mustard will elevate a ham sandwich.
Load More Replies... Uncle Schmickle 1 year ago
You really don't NEED spices, etc. Some people just prefer the natural taste of food.
Huddo's sister 1 year ago
I never used to have salt or pepper in my house when I lived alone, because I didn't use them. I used other spices instead. Now I have both because my dad lives with me- he only uses salt and pepper to season.
Dee Rutherford 1 year ago
Not everyone likes spices, and or salt and pepper. Salt is not good for high blood pressure and or maladies.
#23
I had a roommate once that went away for a bit, and while he was gone we went in the basement for something and discovered that he and his best friend were making paper mache molds of each other’s bodies… like… dozens of them. Full body casts all over the basement. It was very unsettling.
Caessy Meschar 1 year ago
for my cosplay masks i always made a papier-mâché mask first, on which i then modeled the cosplay mask. i had hundreds of masks, all neatly stacked in a closet. i couldn't just throw them away.
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Catlady6000 1 year ago
My daughter and I have done this. Works great once you get it put together. Better than store bought
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Lutz Herting 1 year ago
"...had ... once..." Sooo - it sounds as if this story happened YEARS ago ... and OP still calls them "best friends"? Is it really THAT complicated to figure out? ;)
Ann Turner-Drevalas 1 year ago
I made face molds in ceramic class out of plaster. I would make casts with porcelain slip and fire them. I knew others that made molds of other body parts. Artists are quite often a different breed.
#24
My husband’s aunt is white and is married to a black man. When you enter their house, there is an entire wall with a painted velvet canvas of a beautiful black woman in her full glory, boobs, pubic hair and all. When you sat in the living room, well, she was there.
BoredPossum 1 year ago
That's what some art looks like. Not every culture is horrified by nudity.
Marnie 1 year ago
Seems insulting to the wife. You may say, "Doesn't matter if she's fine with it." True, but was she fine with it? We'll never know. I certainly would not have been.
Bonkers & Curious Panda 1 year ago
I can't understand. The wife is white, but the canvases all show a naked black woman? How come?
weatherwitch 1 year ago
Because we pathetically associate nudity with sexual feelings and urges instead of enjoying the beautiful aesthetic of the naked human form. My mother had a gorgeous statue of a naked female and my father would always say that's her lesbian statue... 🙄
Caessy Meschar 1 year ago
to me it sounds like the aunt was the artist herself. otherwise it wouldn't have been so obvious in the house. but hidden in the man cave
ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago
Who painted the woman? Might it have been your husband's aunt? If I were the artist I'd hang it where everyone could see.
Uncle Schmickle 1 year ago
There's artistic nudity, and overwhelming nudity ... the " in your face " kind.
Alex Ruddies 1 year ago
Ah, glorious! Art is art folks, just like music. Also, why are people always weird when it comes to nudity?
#25
I was once a bartender in an affluent area. I would occasionally get invited to after parties with the regulars. More than once I saw a large home barely furnished as in multiple rooms we're completely empty and they just lived in maybe two rooms of the house. It appears that these people would buy and even rent the homes, to put on the look.
detective miller's hat 1 year ago
My mother's super rich long time friends are like this. Every time they move, they get an even bigger house. Their current home cost them $10 million. And just like with every other house, only half of the rooms have furniture in them, and they only use a bedroom, the kitchen, and the small living room nearest the kitchen. Such a waste.
Marnie 1 year ago
I was once invited to a party by a coworker who had immigrated from India. She had a fairly big suburban home - maybe 3000 sq ft or more. The party was in the living room, which had not a stick of furniture. It was simply empty. Everyone sat on the living room floor or directly on the floor of the balcony. Nobody said a word or explained. She was brilliant - one of the smartest people I've ever worked with. She was only in her late 20s, and she was like E. F. Hutton. When she spoke, people listened, which is unusual as she was Quality Assurance, and normally they are not given the respect they deserve. Maybe she just moved in, maybe they were not paying her what she was worth. In any case, it seemed odd that she didn't explain. I've always wondered.
geezeronthehill 1 year ago
We used to call this 'house rich, life poor' when I sold for a termite control company. Working folks would spend money to protect their homes, but the McMansion crowd would not or could not.
Pa Pa Panda 1 year ago
Back in the 80's in So Cal I saw this a lot we called it "house poor", people spent so much on the biggest house they could afford, then couldn't afford to furnish it.
#26
I did maintenance for apartments. One had crushed velvet everything. And a shrine to Tupac with the centerpiece being a statue of Tupac as Jesus.
Adrian 1 year ago
Why is this weird when worshipping Jesus is not? There's probably more evidence that Tupac existed...
weatherwitch 1 year ago
Misread that as Tubberware, a shrine to Tubberware as I'd never heard of Tupac before 🤣
#27
-The dirtiest bathroom I have ever seen. -The cleanest anything I have ever seen. Everything had plastic covers to keep it clean. The couch had plastic covers, the rugs, chairs in the kitchen, hand rails on the stairs. Everything. I was around 9 and went to dinner and watch TV at this kid's house. He asked his mom if 'we' could take the plastic off the couch to watch TV. Mom brought out clean pajamas for us both. Mom explained that everyone gets so dirty in that house. They have to wear pajamas mom has clean and ready if they want to sit on the couch. When dad came home and saw the cover off the couch, he got his clean pajamas too and joined us. Weirdest kcufing people! The older kids and dad all worked on cars and engines and were always covered in grease.
Me Oh My (He/They) 1 year ago
That last one seems reasonable. If the older kids and dad all worked on cars/engines, and were always covered in grease, it makes sense that everything would get dirty fast.
laura lee 1 year ago
Naw, multiple guys working on engines and such? Absolutely not overkill, just walking in like that tracks filth everywhere
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Lost Penny 1 year ago
I thought it was weird until I read the last sentence. Then I was like, 'Oh, okay, makes sense!'
weatherwitch 1 year ago
Mother had OCD probably brought on from the rest of the families mucky hobbies! Not easy for anyone there!
#28
Black mold in the shower. It was our fifth date, I think, he was a nice guy, very smart and kind, and I went to his apartment that he shared with a roommate. The whole place was a pit but when I saw that shower I knew I had to call things off. Luckily the Covid lockdown started a couple days later and we just stopped texting each other.
Comedy Clumbers 1 year ago
"Luckily the Covid lockdown started...." is not something I'm used to reading.
Lutz Herting 1 year ago
I assume you don't know any autistic people? For me, lockdown was HEAVEN. :P
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Robin Roper 1 year ago
This man should have been told, "Your house is filthy and I can't be in such a dirty place. There is an alternative, it's called clean."
talliloo 1 year ago
the way some people can just not see things like that amazes me. when the military transferred us we knew we would have to give up our housing prior to leaving so it could be inspected. a group of my husband's buddies lived together and offered to let us stay for a couple of nights before leaving. after cleaning the housing for inspection i was exhausted and all i wanted was a nice hot bath. the guys kept their living room and individual rooms spotless as well as the kitchen was was just refreshing since i had seen other guys living together like pigs. i go to the bathroom to take a bath and noticed that they even kept the toilet clean! then i pulled back the curtain to the tub. omg!!! it was grey with soap scum residue. i got my hands on some scrubbing powder and gave it a good clean so i could use it. after the first guy used the bathroom he came out and asked what i had done so i told him. apparently it was that grey color when they moved in so didn't realize how filthy.
Gayle Owens 1 year ago
I looked after a friends kids on Saturdays for a few weeks. House was a filthy mess. No one did any chores. Bathroom had black mould everywhere and the kids didn't even have tooth brushes. Animals would starve or die of thirst then they would just buy more. They were not poor people. Just disgusting.
#29
Went on a date with this smoking hot woman. We instantly hit it off and had a great night. She ended up inviting me back to her condo and when we sat down in her living room I noticed a set of binoculars on her side table so I asked what they were for. Her response was something like,
“Sometime I just like to look into peoples places and see what they’re up to.”
Completely weirded me out. Still smashed though.
New Everywhere 1 year ago
First part of this made me think of Ross at that model's filthy apartment
weatherwitch 1 year ago
I love guys like this who have no idea how bad they sound. Smoking hot woman, no other wonderful attributes like a sweet personality, lovely sense of humour.... He's completely weirded out by her binoculars and looking into other people's houses... But He doesn't ask if maybe she has good friends about or is lonely, he wanted to get his end away and gets Laid regardless.... He's no idea he's the weird one here!
Binky Melnik 1 year ago
In NYC, folks often have telescopes in their places for looking at neighbors. When I go to a friend’s penthouse, it’s REALLY difficult to pry me away from the telescope, because I find little as amusing as watching other expel doing their things, which are often some kinda sex. This doesn’t strike me as odd as all. Well, it’s odd in that they haven’t sprung for a telescope. ☺️
#30
Her toddler chewing on a used douche applicator.
Robin Roper 1 year ago (edited)
Let's all hope it was a baby nasal aspirator (we called them booger getters); they do sort of look like the image used.
laura lee 1 year ago
Up voted your down vote, bc you are absolutely correct.
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If I had not known my neighbor when I was growing up was a WW2 vet and the coat was a war trophy it would have been the SS officers jacket he had in his closet. Fresh and never worn he pulled it off a wagon somewhere in France. Without the context it would have been a massive red flag. Instead him and his wife were a sweet couple that were always happy to tell my brother and I stories from the war. He served in Europe, she served in the Pentagon writing letters to fallen soldiers' families. I miss them still 20+ years after they passed on.
#32
Neighbor has at least a dozen extremely high quality hand painted portraits of President Obama as an African king, high rolling gangster, Jesus, walking hand in hand with MLK, playing basketball on the streets, smoking weed by a burning trashcan, and other cray ones. It's been a few years since I saw them but wow, dude worships Obama and I had no idea. He never speaks a word of politics. He invited me over for dinner and told me all about the artist and how proud he was to have custom pieces by him. He never mentioned anything political, he just spoke about Obama like he was a sports or religious icon.
#33
Cat that was restricted to a basement. Granted the basement was pretty massive and smelled like they cleaned the litterbox, and it had food and a water fountain. But still the poor thing would spend all day meowing at the door, it needed love, and companionship.
#34
I drove nearly 5 hours to meet a guy that i had been talking to online for months. i get to his place and in the bathroom is an unflushed toilet with a #2 that has very clearly been soaking in there for awhile. Noped out of there so fast.
Bored Trash Panda 1 year ago
First, why would you drive 5 hours to meet a guy you met online and second why the F**K would you go to his house the first time you met in person...
#35
Hundreds and hundreds of nutcracker dolls. Every square inch of space had one.
EDIT: and not just at Christmas, this was in the middle of summer.
Nano Iders 1 year ago (edited)
Being in the southern hemisphere, Christmas and summer are the same thing to me.
Upstaged75 1 year ago
I have a friend who keeps her Xmas tree up year round. I think it's weird, but it's her house so whatever. :)
Michael Largey 1 year ago
My wife has whole cabinets full of Santa statues, all by the same artist (Pipka). They're on display all year round. And we used to have more.
#36
Lots and lots of stuff. I’ve met a few people who are hoarders. They didn’t strike me as hoarders and then I saw their house.
flower petals 1 year ago
It doesn’t always show. Some people are so put together and wear nice clothes and are tidy and clean but still live in what could best be described as garbage dumps. I know more than one person that lives like this.
Rinso The Red 1 year ago
Granted, my experience is mostly from the show Hoarders, but it seems there's often some underlying trauma that gets them to this point.
#37
Went to my supposedly straight brothers house when he wasnt there. He knew i was coming over but he was running late and told me to go on in. I turned on the tv, and grabbed his ps4 controller and decided to f**k up whatever game he was playing. Welp, it turned out to be gay porn. I guess I never really viewed him differently because hes my brother and I love him, i just have been keeping this secret and wanted to get it off my chest.
eric p 1 year ago
Do not be so quick to judgement. People watch all kinds of porn, and watching something does not mean that's your sexuality or their sexualiry could be fluid. There is more options than straight or gray and they are personal choices. Do not place him in an awkward situation because you have vanilla sensibilities and assumed something based off what you saw one time
Menacing Duck 1 year ago
I mean, if you're turned on by someone of your own gender....
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Sinead Kenny 1 year ago
Approach him, he could be dying inside not telling anyone. You could be the key to his acceptance in his own mind 😌
eric p 1 year ago
Do NOT do this. His sexuality is his thing, his interests are his own. Asking him if he is gay is like asking a woman if she is pregnant. Just DONT
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#38
When my wife used to work for a small company we would occasionally be “voluntold” to attend company get togethers One of them was at his house - a BBQ - not that strange, right? Well, what was strange was the 5 foot wide professionally painted picture of his wife, completely naked, on a beach in the living room.
#39
They had a bunch of framed pictures of family members on the wall, and among them was a picture of Ted Bundy. The black-and-white photo of him grinning at something off camera when he was on trial. It was an old lady's home, and it was otherwise nicely furnished. Not the roughest house I've been to for work but it definitely had me scratching my head.
ZuriLovesYou 1 year ago
Either she's related to Ted Bundy or she's one if those freaks who are attracted to serial killers.
#40
Pack of chicken breasts in the fridge. Except it was fully open and he leaves it there like that and just takes one when he needs to. But raw chicken open in the fridge made me question some things.
#41
Saw a relative’s new house. He showed me around, nice house until we got to his bedroom which was totally decorated with Jesus and Catholic saint tchotchkes. The kicker was the crucifix tucked into his bed on a pillow. I briefly considered pretending some force was not letting me into his holy room, but I didn’t want to be the subject of his prayers or his call to the Exorcist.
Me Oh My (He/They) 1 year ago
Depending on how much I liked/disliked that relative, I might have done it anyways.
#42
Went over to my mother-in-law's home-care nurse's 50th birthday, she invited the whole family over (among others, there were lotsa folks). Had to use the bathroom; she had left a**l beads out beside her bed. I was like damn girl, you're saucy.
HeavyMetalHeart 1 year ago
Probably an en-suite, so you would go through the bedroom to get to the bathroom.
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Naked photos of people on their walls. It didn't make me think any less of them, I just don't personally have the balls to invite a group of coworkers over knowing they'd walk into that. So I guess if anything I respect them more now.
#44
I worked on the outside of a house one time, working around a window and I could see 2 dead hummingbirds sitting in the window sill inside. Not taxidermy, just laying there dead. Horrible.
#45
Nothing on the walls, at all. Paintings and pictures were on the floor leaning against the wall. I thought perhaps they had just painted, but no. That's just the way it was. It's a very strange thing being in a house with nothing on the walls.
Herringbone 1 year ago
I knew a couple who were a ceramicist and a jeweller (so they appreciated art), and their house was like that: they just couldn't decide where they wanted to hang everything.
#46
My in-laws' place. It's not one thing I saw. It was the whole f*****g place. Hoarding like crazy. I wanted to impress them the first time I met them because I was looking to marry my now-partner. I was planning a salmon meal with a couple different courses leading to it. I ended up spending four hours cleaning and *then* I could finally prep a meal. It was horrid. And that smell isn't something I won't forget. They seemed noseblind to it. I've never set foot on that property again and never will.
#47
Their kids didn’t have top sheets, and their mattresses were grey. The rest of the house was a disaster as well, but to give someone a tour of your home when it looks like a pig stye? Thats a no from me, dog.
#48
My friends moved into an apartment in the complex about 6 months after me. They weren’t very organized but for the 2 years they lived there they had an Amazon box with a yellow hand towel over it and a 6 plug power strip inside. It was on the floor behind their table and I nearly tripped on it multiple times, but it was never moved. They (2 brothers) eventually bought a house and when I visited that box was sitting in their living room. I doubt they noticed and just thought it was a box to clean later but I bet it is still there, 7 years since I visited them last. What makes it weird is the older brother is a massive germaphobe, but they live in what I can only describe as “the enclave of the man-child”.
#49
Hoarding, and terrible food hygiene. Edit: Different people but I wish i used this as my original response. Wall to wall carpeting I'm the kitchen.
#50
No soap by the bathroom sink. None.
Babs Ishkabibble 1 year ago
My mother provides soap, but no hand towels. Had to dry my hands in her bath towel which cheesed me out also!!!
Rebecca A. Corvello 1 year ago
I take it she doesn't wash the bath towel after every use?
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Mr. Jones 1 year ago
I'm gay and my husband and I were friendly with a straight couple we'd see out every now and then. They live like a mile from us. They know we're gay. They know my husband is half black. One snowy night, they hit us up out of the blue to come over for an impromptu game night and drinks. Just the fours of us. So we head over and we're having a great time. I went to use the bathroom and it was near their bedroom. As I was walking out of the bathroom, the guy was walking into the bedroom and there was a wall size confederate flag that was basically the headboard to their bed. We live in New England. The guy looked back and realized I saw it. He quickly closed the door behind him. I went back into the bathroom and texted my husband about it and said when I come back out we're getting our s**t and leaving. I had a bad feeling about it and was wondering if they had lured us there. We bolted ASAP.
Mr. Jones 1 year ago
The kept texting us asking why we left. Finally my husband called the wife and told her. They both swore it was just a decoration to which my husband said, "It's a racist/homophobic symbol and people who believe in it don't believe my husband I are even human or have a right to exist. When that couple broke up, the wife confessed that her ex was both racist and homophobic, but he liked us because we come off more as tough guys than gay guys and we told her to f**k off and we've never spoken to either of them again.
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jasper 1 year ago
I had met his mother outside of the house, thought she was nice enough, she was a teacher and seemed to have it together. She invited us to dinner, which was generous. She had cats. There was cat hair in EVERYTHING, even the salad. I never ate there again.
Karen Bird 1 year ago
Going into a neighbours house with the police and paramedics to carry out a welfare check as he hasn't been seen for a while. He was in bed sick but every available place in his flat had a blow up dol sat or lay on it! He was lay on his bed with one at either side of him!
Mr. Jones 1 year ago
I'm gay and my husband and I were friendly with a straight couple we'd see out every now and then. They live like a mile from us. They know we're gay. They know my husband is half black. One snowy night, they hit us up out of the blue to come over for an impromptu game night and drinks. Just the fours of us. So we head over and we're having a great time. I went to use the bathroom and it was near their bedroom. As I was walking out of the bathroom, the guy was walking into the bedroom and there was a wall size confederate flag that was basically the headboard to their bed. We live in New England. The guy looked back and realized I saw it. He quickly closed the door behind him. I went back into the bathroom and texted my husband about it and said when I come back out we're getting our s**t and leaving. I had a bad feeling about it and was wondering if they had lured us there. We bolted ASAP.
Mr. Jones 1 year ago
The kept texting us asking why we left. Finally my husband called the wife and told her. They both swore it was just a decoration to which my husband said, "It's a racist/homophobic symbol and people who believe in it don't believe my husband I are even human or have a right to exist. When that couple broke up, the wife confessed that her ex was both racist and homophobic, but he liked us because we come off more as tough guys than gay guys and we told her to f**k off and we've never spoken to either of them again.
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I had met his mother outside of the house, thought she was nice enough, she was a teacher and seemed to have it together. She invited us to dinner, which was generous. She had cats. There was cat hair in EVERYTHING, even the salad. I never ate there again.
Karen Bird 1 year ago
Going into a neighbours house with the police and paramedics to carry out a welfare check as he hasn't been seen for a while. He was in bed sick but every available place in his flat had a blow up dol sat or lay on it! He was lay on his bed with one at either side of him!
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