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40 Examples Of How People Handled Neighbors That Would Only Interact With Their Partners
While everyone in life does their best to pick and choose who they hang out with, the folks who happen to live next door are generally out of your control. So most people do their best to be polite and cordial, when possible. However, there are always somewhat rude and often strange people out there.
A netizen asked “How do you handle a female neighbor who doesn't greet you but greets your husband?” and people shared their perspectives. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to detail your own thoughts in the comments below.
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#1
Your husband should say, “you know my wife?” While putting his arm around you. This is more about how he handles it.
TheReader19 11 months ago
Now, that's what I call a good response. Let's see how she reacts to that 🤔
PeepPeep the duck 11 months ago (edited)
Depends, I had (key word is had) a friend who would deliberately do it to stir up issues, even did the hose in garden with micro mini hot pants (google micro mini demon shorts, you’ll be like wttttffff). It was her idea of fun aparently
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Orange Mum 11 months ago
Decades ago we had a neighbour that just about fell over herself trying to get outside to the fence whenever my heavily tattooed husband was in the back yard, our yards are all about half acre and only sheep mesh as fencing, so you could always see what was going on. Her husband, when outside, couldnt speak around me (probably my H cup breasts left him speechless) and both my husband and I were young and fit and they were probably ten years older. It was always so funny because her flirting was completely out in the open but my husband, always polite, had no idea she was flirting until I told him. I would encourage him to work in the back yard with his shirt off, sometimes I'd see her rush inside and emerge twenty minutes later fully done up and twaddle over to the fence in her heels. It was probably mean of us at the time but when you're young you do silly things.
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#2
I'd reply as though she greeted me and ask follow up questions. Make her talk. Make her uncomfortable.
#3
Tell your husband to stop responding. F*ck that. Your husband should’ve already stopped on his own.
Subaru645 11 months ago
My ex wife had hungry wolves that did the same, she acted as though it was no biggie…until women would do the same to me, then they were 304s
Lyoness 11 months ago
If you're wondering (I was) a 304 is a hoe ("promiscuous person"). It's the whole typing the numbers into a calculator and turning it upside down.
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BrownEyedPanda 11 months ago
Type the numbers on a pocket calcculator, then turn it upside down. Get it?
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My husband would just ignore her. He don’t acknowledge anyone who don’t acknowledge me. Nothing to do, just let her keep talking to herself until she gets the message. She will either starting greeting us both or none of us. And it wouldn’t matter to us either way.
#5
Only greet her pets and kids
#6
Have your husband ignore her like she ignores you. If he doesn't see she is purposefully disrespectful, have a sit down and figure if he too should be your neighbor.
#7
Just ignore her/it, not a big deal at all. I trust my husband and honestly I find it flattering she finds him attractive and amusing that’s she’s so petty to greet him and not me. Not something to get upset about or react to at all.
Lyoness 11 months ago
Love this. If you aren't secure enough in your relationship to let it go there's something wrong. IMHO it's not about your neighbour "disrespecting" you, it's about trusting your partner.
Belle_Pandamonium🇧🇻l 11 months ago
Well.. so partner deserves a hallo while she not? You re dumb?
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Belle_Pandamonium🇧🇻l 11 months ago
I do not agree. I would greet bouth persons bc, u know, they are people. Thats all! ....
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Little Bit 11 months ago
This. I couldn't really care less if my neighbour greets my hubby and not me and i have no issueswith him talking to her in return. If she chooses to be ignorant then that's on her. People like that are not worth your time or energy.
#8
Say hi. When she says hi to your husband simply call her tf out . “Why you always saying hi to my husband and not me?”
Dee Rutherford 11 months ago
I say hi also and start a conversation they can’t ignore. Than sit back and
#9
Your husband is supposed to check her. Y’all are supposed to be a team. One band, one sound.
Ria C. 11 months ago
I'm going to be nice and not downvote but explain...I think. It's a quote from a movie called Drumline.
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That’s when your Husband steps in and say “I’m not sure if you have met my wife …”
#11
I’d go out of my way to interact with her and brag about my husband constantly with a big smile on my face.
#12
You ignore her existence and keep it moving. Who cares laugh at her for seeking male validation.
#13
Hubs needs to dead that immediately. “I appreciate you greeting me, however, it makes me uncomfortable that my wife isn’t included. Since we’re a unit, my greetings will stop after today. Should you want to revisit this conversation in the future, you know how to find us. We both wish you well.”
#14
Possible she knows his name and not yours? I wouldn’t go ballistic until I was sure it wasn’t something innocuous like that.
Binky Melnik 11 months ago
I say “Hello” to people whose names I don’t know. I also say “Merry Christmas,” “Happy New Year,” and so on to strangers. I don’t need a name to talk to them. I doubt most people do. I think this one doesn't understand the assignment.
Crystalwitch60 11 months ago
In that case you hi I’m n tell her your name I see you’ve met MY HUSBAND how are you doing lol watch her face
#15
My parents have a neighbor like that. She doesn’t say hi to my mom or me but will break her neck to speak to my dad. My mama and I just laugh because lady…it’s never that serious. Since moving out I don’t really stop by my parents since having two toddlers. She hasn’t seen either until I came over with them. The girls yelled to my mama, “grandma!!!” She made sure to speak that day. Yeah, I know my babies are cute. Move along.
#16
What I did with a male neighbor that kept on hitting me, while me having a partner and expressing that. || We bumped into him together in the hall way. When we were past him I said: yess that’s him, about what I was telling you… in my whisper voice just hard enough. Let her know you guys are a team and talk about everything! She will feel that she doesn’t stand a chance and prolly feel shame that she got caught by doing what she does.
#17
I would simply ask her . Why you always speak to husband and not me ??? If you can't speak to us both then don't speak to us at all !!
#18
I would step in front of my husband in a heartbeat, wave my arms in her face and say hello hello! 😂
#19
Nothing. Your husband should be the one to just ignore her. You don’t acknowledge my wife, i don’t acknowledge you. Simple
#20
I don’t like to ever seem like the insecure gal- so I always choose to have a talk with MY HUSBAND how it makes me feel, or that as women WE KNOW the BS…. And ask him to be the sarcastic one… tell next time she does it to ask if she’s met his wife.. “have you met my wife let me go get her so y’all can talk” or tell him act Iike he ain’t see or hear her. It’s up to him to respect you and honor your feelings and boundaries not the ‘stranger’, because some females have no respect for themselves.
#21
Make sure that your husband ignores her. He will have to set the tone for how she treats you. And if he is a good husband, he will ignore her until he greets his wife
#22
Have your husband make her feel awkward the way she made you feel. Have him just be blunt and tactless and in front of you say... hey neighbor why do you always only say hello to me and not my wife? That's weird? Then just stand there in awkward silence staring at her while she tries to squirm away. 🤣 Bet she won't do it again lmao.
#23
Ask him if he has ever noticed that she usually greets him but not you and see how he responds. If the next time she does it and he doesn’t correct her or if he speaks then you have your answer. Don’t do anything because he will say you’re over reacting. But if he does correct her then you don’t have to say anything then either because he has established a boundary and denied her access.
Lyoness 11 months ago
This is nice (asking the partner if they notice) but also passive aggressive (wait and see what she does and how he reacts). Why not ask if he notices, then tell him how it makes you feel? And discuss how you'll both handle it next time? The conversation should be about your relationship, not how some random neighbour greets you.
#24
Sounds to me She definitely wants your husband. I’m that woman that would confront her because that is a major form of disrespect. When it comes to men, women will throw another woman under the bus for a man, even if that man belongs to you. I say confront her set your boundaries and if she do it again just simply embarrass her in front of everyone. You don’t even gotta put hands on her unless she test you.
Ru Bee 11 months ago
This is worrying, people do not belong to people. I do not OWN my husband.
#25
Give her an over the top greeting, make it obvious “yeah I see you and yeah I’m talkin to you and yeah don’t even try it.” Every time.
#26
Maybe your husband shouldn’t greet her back. Not suggesting anything, just maybe if he stops greeting her back and ignores her she will stop all together.
#27
Tell HIM to stop responding to ppl who don't respect you also answer for the both of yall saying "WE said goodmorning " "WE said have a nice day " ..these harlots know what they be doing but ya husband should respect you enough to not respond to someone who does that 🤷🏽♀️
Lyoness 11 months ago
We shouldn't have to TELL him how to react. If your partner isn't shutting them down on his own you have more than a neighbour problem.
Nichole Harris 11 months ago
Hmmm.... IDK about that. Maybe it's just me, I'm very introverted and have social anxiety.... But it wouldn't even register to my hubby that she didn't greet me.... He'd stand there and be friendly, notice I wandered off and come find me and I love it like that
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#29
Look honey… Thank you but no thanks. He’s happy here & you should go & do the same.. And tell your husband to be present when you say it so they both can be reassured & everything is understood.
#30
She probably thinks you didn't like her, but your husband has always been friendly to her.
Ambrosius 11 months ago
Oh i know right! My husband is very polite and charming and there is this little old lady neighbour who adores him and ignores me completely for some reason. And she is not the only person doing that. And I don't mind at all. Perhaps I just look unfriendly or something. 😄
#31
Handle? I would be so happy to be left alone. Let my husband deal with her!
Also, I would say “neighbour who’s a woman.” “Female,” is used for animals that arn’t human.
“How do you deal with a female dog who doesn’t greet you but greets your husband?”
And in that case I would be really upset!!! Why doesn’t she like me!?!?
Apatheist Account2 11 months ago
Indeed...and there's a word for a female dog that can also be used for a person, apparently beyond the pale for Americans, yet this person find it's preferable to "female". That's probably answered her own last question.
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#32
Print all of this out and just hand it to her. “Hellllur ole raggedy a*s. I know you don’t like to talk much so here’s something to read tonight before bed. I would say have a good one, however, I don’t like to lie.”
#33
You answer for your husband. Don’t break eye contact with her. I’m not even joking. I did this to a waitress one time. Be a sl*t but not around me because I WILL check you.
#34
You do what I did. I told her in front of my husband and our daughter she is not to direspect me by speaking to my family and not me. I know exactly what she was doing and it was childish and petty behavior for a supposed grown ass woman. I guess that what she saw her mama do. I also told her I was only going to tell her once. She does it again, and she’ll have probablems with breathing properly for the rest of her life. If she didn’t belive me, I had references. She never did it again.
#35
I'm not handling anyone but my husband. The question to my husband would be, why is she so comfortable speaking to you? No matter his answer, I would ask him to make it uncomfortable, please.
#37
I used to greet my ex in the driveway when he got home. Give that man of yours a huge sloppy kiss on that face as soon as he gets out of his car! Make sure you are wearing something sexy too! Your neighbor will hate it, but your husband will love it!
DeeDee M 11 months ago
This would be viewed as pathetic and desperate. Don't do this, unless you want to look ridiculous. Real life isnt an episode of Desperate Housewives, tell your husband to wave politely, but otherwise ignore her. She'll go away, trust me.
Nichole Harris 11 months ago
I greet and kiss my hubby in my driveway everyday and send him to work the same way.... But I'm usually wearing pajamas not sexy at all
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Make your husband remain quiet once she decides to greet him and then respond for him by saying he's fine, thanks for asking. As a matted of fact, we're both fine. Have a nice day. And make SURE that man DO NOT play with your presence when he is NOT in It! Keep Him aware that that woman has a JEZEBEL spirit and he is Never to engage conversation with her!
Binky Melnik 11 months ago
I understand it perfectly. What do you need help with?
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What do you think ?
DeeDee M 11 months ago
This is one of the worst threads I've seen on BP with the worst advice. First question, why is this woman comfortable talking to your husband and not you? Are you standoff-ish, or unfriendly? Is your husband an extrovert while you're more of an introvert? Because people feel very comfortable conversing with me, whilst my bald, handsome, brooding husband who would rather have his toenails pulled out than socialize and is like my own personal social anthrax. I've also been blocked recently by a man who I've been friends with for years (not close, but friends), and I'm 99% sure it has something to do with his wife being a jealous insecure stinker. I always went out of my way to be kind and speak to her, but the hositility from her was palpable so I just gave up. It broke my heart, but what can you do? Women need to remember this; he's married to you for a reason. What are you REALLY worried about? It's probably not the slutty neighbor, I'm just sayin'.
Ru Bee 11 months ago
Completely agree, all the women in this post have bigger problems than their husbands speaking to neighbours.
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Je souhaite 11 months ago
This is dumb who really cares maybe the husband and neighbour have a better rapport and the wifey doesn't really fit into the conversation
Vermonta 11 months ago
then maybe the conversation shouldn't be taking place
Load More Replies... Little Bit 11 months ago
I really couldn't care less if a neighbour speaks to my husband and not me. My hubby is an adult and can speak to whoever he chooses. If I speak to them and they ignore me then that's fine too. If they want to be ignorant then it's on them. People like that are not worth your time or energy.
Belle_Pandamonium🇧🇻l 11 months ago
100% agreed. From the outside, they are a c ouple.
Load More Replies... Lyoness 11 months ago
I find it sad how many people want to tell the husband how to handle it. He should already be stepping up and shutting it down. If not you need to tell him why it bothers you, because he may not even have noticed (I know mine is clueless when it comes to women flirting with him). And then agree on how to handle it going forward. If the partner denies what's happening and you can't talk about how you feel, you have a bigger problem than someone greeting your husband and not you. (PS to clarify, this post is all about how these people feel when a neighbour greets their partner and not them. Whether there are sketchy intentions or not, they feel this way and it needs to be addressed).
Lew k 11 months ago
I think if you can't handle your husband talking to other people it says more about you and your level of trust than him. My wife is a grown woman who makes her own choices. I don't own her. If I can't trust her to handle herself talking to another man why would I be married?
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AMaureen Dance 11 months ago
I have a neighbour who would only talk to my husband. Even if I answered the door, she'd ask for him. I knew the reason, he's a damn people pleaser, and she's a mooch. After a while when giving her what she asked for, he'd say, "But this is the last time" Then he'd close the door and I'd say "Until the next time?" Now that I'm retired and home all day, I answer the door. When she asks to talk to my husband, I just say "Nope" and leave her out there yelling for the whole building to hear. Been a few months. I think she got the message. So I guess the first thing to do, is figure out why they only talk to one spouse. That will tell you how to proceed.
Lew k 11 months ago
Based off the post an answers, maybe the husband doesn't have a terrible attitude. Honestly threats of violence for talking to your husband? My wife has spoken to the husband next door multiple times and me and him mostly just nod to each other and I don't think we've ever shared more than a handful of words in 5 years. She made friends with our old neighbor (male) and we all ended up being friends for the last 10-12 years. Neither were hitting on her, she's just much more outgoing than me and I've been told I come off as unapproachable. I can recognize my faults and not go off beating up our neighbor because my wife is friendly. I trust her not to run off and sleep with the guy just because he says hello.
Clare Moore 11 months ago
I have this exact thing in my town. There's a women with special needs who always says hello to my husband when we are out in the local pubs, I just laugh it off when I see her heading our way, tell him his girlfriend is here, cause I'm not insecure in our relationship. We find it hilarious.
Nice Beast Ludo 11 months ago
Thank you for 40 ways to say the same thing in different sentences. This was not interesting. I skipped the middle 30
DeeDee M 11 months ago
This is one of the worst threads I've seen on BP with the worst advice. First question, why is this woman comfortable talking to your husband and not you? Are you standoff-ish, or unfriendly? Is your husband an extrovert while you're more of an introvert? Because people feel very comfortable conversing with me, whilst my bald, handsome, brooding husband who would rather have his toenails pulled out than socialize and is like my own personal social anthrax. I've also been blocked recently by a man who I've been friends with for years (not close, but friends), and I'm 99% sure it has something to do with his wife being a jealous insecure stinker. I always went out of my way to be kind and speak to her, but the hositility from her was palpable so I just gave up. It broke my heart, but what can you do? Women need to remember this; he's married to you for a reason. What are you REALLY worried about? It's probably not the slutty neighbor, I'm just sayin'.
Ru Bee 11 months ago
Completely agree, all the women in this post have bigger problems than their husbands speaking to neighbours.
Load More Replies... Je souhaite 11 months ago
This is dumb who really cares maybe the husband and neighbour have a better rapport and the wifey doesn't really fit into the conversation
Vermonta 11 months ago
then maybe the conversation shouldn't be taking place
Load More Replies... Little Bit 11 months ago
I really couldn't care less if a neighbour speaks to my husband and not me. My hubby is an adult and can speak to whoever he chooses. If I speak to them and they ignore me then that's fine too. If they want to be ignorant then it's on them. People like that are not worth your time or energy.
Belle_Pandamonium🇧🇻l 11 months ago
100% agreed. From the outside, they are a c ouple.
Load More Replies... Lyoness 11 months ago
I find it sad how many people want to tell the husband how to handle it. He should already be stepping up and shutting it down. If not you need to tell him why it bothers you, because he may not even have noticed (I know mine is clueless when it comes to women flirting with him). And then agree on how to handle it going forward. If the partner denies what's happening and you can't talk about how you feel, you have a bigger problem than someone greeting your husband and not you. (PS to clarify, this post is all about how these people feel when a neighbour greets their partner and not them. Whether there are sketchy intentions or not, they feel this way and it needs to be addressed).
Lew k 11 months ago
I think if you can't handle your husband talking to other people it says more about you and your level of trust than him. My wife is a grown woman who makes her own choices. I don't own her. If I can't trust her to handle herself talking to another man why would I be married?
Load More Replies... AMaureen Dance 11 months ago
I have a neighbour who would only talk to my husband. Even if I answered the door, she'd ask for him. I knew the reason, he's a damn people pleaser, and she's a mooch. After a while when giving her what she asked for, he'd say, "But this is the last time" Then he'd close the door and I'd say "Until the next time?" Now that I'm retired and home all day, I answer the door. When she asks to talk to my husband, I just say "Nope" and leave her out there yelling for the whole building to hear. Been a few months. I think she got the message. So I guess the first thing to do, is figure out why they only talk to one spouse. That will tell you how to proceed.
Lew k 11 months ago
Based off the post an answers, maybe the husband doesn't have a terrible attitude. Honestly threats of violence for talking to your husband? My wife has spoken to the husband next door multiple times and me and him mostly just nod to each other and I don't think we've ever shared more than a handful of words in 5 years. She made friends with our old neighbor (male) and we all ended up being friends for the last 10-12 years. Neither were hitting on her, she's just much more outgoing than me and I've been told I come off as unapproachable. I can recognize my faults and not go off beating up our neighbor because my wife is friendly. I trust her not to run off and sleep with the guy just because he says hello.
Clare Moore 11 months ago
I have this exact thing in my town. There's a women with special needs who always says hello to my husband when we are out in the local pubs, I just laugh it off when I see her heading our way, tell him his girlfriend is here, cause I'm not insecure in our relationship. We find it hilarious.
Nice Beast Ludo 11 months ago
Thank you for 40 ways to say the same thing in different sentences. This was not interesting. I skipped the middle 30
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