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“Reese we all know your an attention seeker,stop saying your trans”

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hyperunknown
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4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not to pile on but you posted about it, and your name is about it, and your profile description is also about it, so.. Not sure your friend was that wrong :)

R Carson
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good friends are honest with you.

Emery Walters
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Welcome to the family! Am trans as well. You do you; find new family if you have to. Don't keep toxic people in your life.

Shine Caramia
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so sorry that you had to learn which people in your life are s**t like this.

Viviane
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4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got a zillion down votes. So just to clarify, I do support calling people by their preferred name and pronoun(s) and respecting their identity. That includes not hiding their identity if they wish to be open about it.

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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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    #2

    Not a friend but my mother. I told her my boyfriend of 8 years had cheated on me and the other girl was now pregnant. This was after we had had two miscarriages, which my mum knew. Her response was “oh well, what do you expect”…because I was fat. She felt I deserved it. 18 years later and I can still hear it like it was yesterday.

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    Shine Caramia
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a miserable thing to say. I'm so sorry.

    Sufdar Khan Sufdar Khan
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    4 years ago

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    I basically make about $6,000-$8,000 a month online. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old jobs income, especially considering I only work about 10-13 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it….. ===))> 𝐖­𝐰­𝐰.𝐅­𝐮­𝐥­𝐰­𝐨­𝐫­𝐤.𝐂­𝐨­𝐦

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    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’d like to thank everyone who left a supportive message. I’ve often been made to feel that I was in the wrong or over sensitive in lots of situations with my Mum, who I now understand was a narcissist. Lots of therapy is happening! Thank you all and I hope you have people in your lives just as supportive as you are!

    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad you're taking care of yourself. You can't change your mother (narcissism is pretty much impossible to treat); you're changing yourself.

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    Sue Bradley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is very cruel and unnecessary, so sorry for you

    Alexia
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You didn't deserve it. You deserve to be loved for who you are, just the way you are. Hugs.

    Linda McGuigan
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A Mother's words cut the deepest I am so very sorry that you had this said to you

    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one deserves to be cheated on. If the cheater is that unhappy, then they should act like an adult and break up. And your mom of all people, to say an awful thing like that. I hope you protect yourself from her now.

    Franc Esca
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Narcissistic mothers don't get nicer with age

    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    With a mother like that she's not worthy to be called a friend anyway. Sheesh.

    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is absolutely heinous.

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    #3

    I was dating a new guy, and we were talking On the phone, but having a disagreement. It was the first disagreement we'd had. I said that I didn't want to argue, because he had become my best friend. His reply? You're a bitch, and you've always been a bitch. Huh, I said, I just called you my best friend and you call me a bitch? I hung up. Needless to say that was the end of the relationship! Thank goodness I found out early on, what an ah he was!

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    Jihana
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    4 years ago (edited)

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    To be honest no guy you are dating want's to be called a best friend. He might have thought you were leading him on and friendzoning him.

    RandomBeing
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Friendzoning isn't some sort of punishment. Saying ur S/O is like a best friend should be a compliment shouldn't it? It means you get along with them really well and really like them! I don't understand people acting like friendship is below romantic relationships.

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    #4

    19 years ago, my daughter was born with Down Syndrome. My best friend at the time told me she knew how i felt, her son was just diagnosed with Asthma.

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    Natalie
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know sometimes that sort of comment is about trying to connect and find common ground but phew, that's an impressive degree of insensitivity.

    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would bet my next paycheck this "best friend" is a natural "one-upper" and it's always about her. Competitive much? 🙄

    Ten G.
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean she was probably was just trying to be nice?

    sharron lynn parsons
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I only have one word for her, " clueless " !!!

    #5

    I had a lifelong best friend, over text, in a group message, tell me that I was mentally and emotionally exhausting and that she needed some space while I “got my act together”. I know that some of that might have been justified? But this is after I walked with her through her own struggles, cleared my schedule for her. I never really opened up in detail what I was going through to her, as I thought it would be a burden. Naturally, however, I wasn’t exactly “myself”. Later in the year after I’d almost reconciled everything, she called me and acted like everything was completely normal and nothing ever happened. Needless to say, that was it. I’m in a WAY better place now, but man that really sucked.

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    Natalie
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You made her feel like the universe might sometimes need to revolve around something other than her. The temerity!

    #6

    when i was stuff years old I was very happy because had finally found a friend in elementary school. it was the first friendship i ever had. Once I was at her house and a friend of her mom's asked "oh, you have someone visiting, are you two friends?" and I, enthusiastically, answered "Yes, we're best friends" and she answered "well sadly we are best friends. i don't like her." What made it worse was that the adults laughed about it and kept repeating it. The hours until my parents picked me up felt endless. Years later I understand that she didn't hurt me on purpose. her parents made her have play dates with me because i was considered a "good influence". It's not her fault, but it was painful anyway. And I still think the adults should not have made so much fun of it. I needed comfort but didn't even dare to cry and did my best to hide my pain.

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    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those adults were horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.

    Dorothy Parker
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's these dreadful adults who needed a good influence. Brave child not to cry.

    Miss Cris
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you allow yourself to cry now.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do. I just didn't back then, because everyone found it so funny.

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    #7

    Same "friend," the person I had known for 20 years. I helped her through her divorce, I was with her for every breakup with guys she dated, and I was the one she called in the middle of the night when she had to go to the emergency room. Someone in her life committed suicide when I was in the middle of a big crisis of my own and I dropped everything to run to her. 1. Four and a half months after my marriage broke up in a painful way, she told me to buy a ticket to a Valentine's Day Sweetheart's Dance with her and her new boyfriend. She thought I should go "because it was for a good charity." When I finally backed out, I told her that it would be too painful to be around a bunch of loving couples as a single person. Another friend, J, took my ticket. Later she complained to me that she didn't like J and I was selfish to make her put up with J. Later J told me that she said I should have just taken an anti-anxiety pill and sucked it up "because it was a good charity." 2. When I got breast cancer, she basically disappeared. She came with me to one chemotherapy when I was scared, and then left to go have lunch with somebody else as soon as the nurse took me back. I actually heard more from the nice little old man who ran the mailbox store I went to then I did from her. I wrote her an email to tell her that this hurt me and to ask why. She ghosted me. This led to some passive aggressive exchanges on Facebook (honestly from both of us, I did it too.) Finally she said, "Get down off the cross, someone needs to use the wood." I had never heard that saying before and I was devastated. I cried all night. The next morning I woke up and realized that she was right: I was making myself a martyr over a false friend. And that was that. Now my only regret is that I spent so much emotional energy on someone who was never really my friend.

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    Dina Simoné
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am sorry this happened to you.

    sharron lynn parsons
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people are users, sounds like her !!!

    Uncommon Boston
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The people who I have helped the most, disappeared the fastest.

    #8

    I had a friend that complained to me that she didn't have any friends. It made me feel like she was saying I wasn't her friend. Side note: I couldn't help but notice that you were posting a lot about bad experiences with friends, if you need any advice or support, I'm here to listen and help

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    MaggieWest
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once had a roommate who complained that nobody celebrated his birthday with him, even though me and his other roommate had taken time off work to be with him.

    sharron lynn parsons
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people, are so into themselves, it's always, poor me, don't waste your time !!!

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    Sue User
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex told me that nobody was there for him after I missed classes, and a midterm, to help him deal with a DUI.

    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people don't have the capacity to appreciate real friends. You learn to let go after multiple remarks that point to an ungrateful attitude.

    #9

    He didn't say anything. Just stopped talking to me completely.

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    Manndy Fisher
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We went on holidays to the sea side. I was with a gut for a year then and we shared the same "Best Friends". On the first night he slept with his ex girlfriend who worked in the same village as her father owned some apartment building there. I broke up with him and felt pretty sh***y, but had to stay for another week to not be forced to travel alone for 12h in the train (they were dangerous then where I came from). My "Best Friends" stopped to talk to me and took my ex's side commenting how "cute" he and the other girl looked together. When I asked why they basically abandoned me in the worst time, my BFF told me she thought I wanted be alone. FFS really? Like I was listening to her moaning after her break up for a month so how the F she got that idea? Dumped her too after few years, no regrets. Fun twist? The girl, who my ex was with back there, was engaged and her Fiancée came to her 2 days before my departure. They pretended nothing happened.

    Manndy Fisher
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    heh supposed to post that and not reply, sorry!

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    BrookieTheWookie
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This happed to me too boys can be jerks, at least ones like that, I'm sure all the boys that read this are very decent

    #10

    "You need to stop caring about what your parents think so much." B*tch we were in third grade! She wanted me to go over to her house after school, when my mom had already said no. She tried to convince me to run away from my mom when she came to pick me up after school. I was ten when I stopped talking to her, eleven when I told her to never speak to me again. She apparently didn't catch on the first time.

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    Lord Mysticlaw
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Good for you for not being easily influenced, though.

    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad you asserted yourself. What was her next bright idea - move out on your own and be roomies with some rats and pigeons?

    #11

    You’re no one

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    Corcaigh
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    4 years ago

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    Kai Scadden
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Literally my sister made her own nickname "nobody" so when I say something like NOBODY GETS ANY DONUTS she can get a donut

    #12

    “You know… none of us really like you”

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    R Carson
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My reply-Thanks for sharing.

    Natalie
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Your loss, losers", and sashay off with head high.

    RandomBeing
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh gosh thats my genuine RSD/middle child nightmare right there

    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Finally I can stop pretending I like all of you too!!!

    PixxelDust
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    response: "Well, I'll assume you're not part of 'us' anyway, seeing as you're so absorbed in taking the spotlight off yourself"

    sharron lynn parsons
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be a bully, it matters not, the age of a bully, or status, push it to the past, show them you are a better person than they are, push ahead, always do a kindness to someone, it feels good !!!

    Night Owl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “You know…I don't really like any of you either. Yet here we are.”

    #13

    I had just started dating a guy and he was on the cross country team. One day at the beach my friend turned to me and said, "I never thought you would be fatter than your boyfriend". I already had low self esteem previous to this, but it triggered many years battling eating disorders.

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    hellomynameisT
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg no! That's no friend!! I bet the 'friend' was jealous.. no excuse though

    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This best friend was clearly single.

    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As if all athletes can only be dating other athletes. There are plenty of couples with different physical looks. Personality, intelligence, and values are another draw.

    sharron lynn parsons
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It seems that the friend is envy of you, try to shed a few pounds, see if you feel better !!!

    malenchki
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry I don’t know how you meant to say this but it sounds really really bad

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    #14

    Background: she had been avoiding a real conversation with me for months, no matter how hard I tried. One day on the bus, I asked her if something was wrong at home and she said she didn’t want to be besties anymore. I was hurt but fine, until we had this conversation: “Isn’t it weird how we’ve been talking everyday for 2 weeks are I’m already sick of you?” I said “I’m sorry, but we didn’t have much conversation anyway.” Her: “well, I was doing that on purpose.” It might not seem like much, but I remember it word for word and it still hurts to think about.

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    R Carson
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cruel words seem to last forever.

    sharron lynn parsons
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When someone is hurtful, it usually means, they have low self esteem, they hurt others, to make them feel better, makes little sense, but it is true, but you are the better person !!!

    #15

    Nothing....never had one.

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    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago

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    #16

    My boyfriend cheated on me, and I was devastated. My friend if it was possible that he was emotionally attracted to me but physically attracted to her.

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    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dump both of them. True friends should have your best interest at heart.

    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This best friend was plotting their demise since the beginning of their relationship.

    #17

    After my ex dated me, he moved states and dated another girl for two years and then they broke up. He killed himself shortly afterwards. I cried for days. He was a sweet soul who meant so much to me. My friend asked me, “Do you think it’s partly your fault he killed him self?” He said we were soul mates after we broke up to her. I’ll never forgive her for asking that. I’ve since been putting distance between us.

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    hellomynameisT
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh wow. It's good you distance yourself from her. It is unacceptable what she said

    Shine Caramia
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Suicide is a symptom. You can't cause another person to commit suicide. Never. That was a cruel thing to ask.

    #18

    First told me that she'd always be there for me no matter WHAT and that i was incredible then a week later told me i was going to hell and ghosted me we aren't friends anymore and ik i shouldn't be hung up on it but i am

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    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She showed you her true nature: she lied and then was cruel. Whenever you think about it, remind yourself that she's not a good person and you don't deserve to be treated like that.

    Miss Cris
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend isn't a person you knew a week ago.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not sure I understand what you mean. She's been my friend for over three years then a couple months ago she ghosted me.

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    #19

    I don't like you anymore, but will you still be my friend? (What my sisters bestfriend/crush said to her)

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    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like a very immature person.

    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I don't like you as a person, but can I use you?"

    #20

    "I used to be selfish like you before I had children." Said to me after I'd spent many months supporting her through IVF treatments and had mentioned I was thinking about taking a trip to Nepal on my own. Because I was single. And had no kids.

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    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your friend sounds jealous. Don't stop doing things you enjoy just because she thinks the whole world has to stop for her sake. Or does she seriously expect you to take her kids and their father with you?     I had a good laugh years ago. A mother of two told me that she was going on vacation in Mexico. I asked her, "Are you taking the kids with you?" She said, "No, what kind of vacation would THAT be?"

    hellomynameisT
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Selfish because you want to travel? What?!

    Viviane
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People have strange criteria. I guess Mother Teresa, Clara Barton, Elizabeth I were horribly selfish.

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    #21

    Their gender fluid but refuses to use my name and pronouns

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    #23

    17 years my best friend. Her new boyfriend didn't like me. Always called her and demanded to come home for several reasons, when we were together. An she jumped immediately home to him. After a few months there were only short messages instead of calling or meeting. Last time I talked to her, she told me, her boyfriend thinks I would always try to manipulate her and I would be jealous of their perfect relationship. And SHE thinks, I would only be interested in myself, so in her opinion we have never been real friends. Thank God her boyfriend had openend her eyes... Didn't hear anything in the last 2 years and it still hurts.

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    Lord Mysticlaw
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not defending her but I am a bit worried that the boyfriend might be emotionally abusive – trying to keep her away from other people in her life might be a sign of that.

    Shine Caramia
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she reaches out, be open to her. This sounds like emotional abuse, which is extremely difficult to escape.

    Viviane
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isolating people from their friends is a sign of abuse. He's gaslighting her, telling her that you're jealous, self-centred and manipulative (he is, not you!) and that his relationship with her is perfect. Healthy people don't generally call their relationships "perfect" and they don't mind if their partner occasionally spends time with friends.

    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Sounds like those two deserve each other. They're both jerks.

    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, this sounds more like a controlling, abusive boyfriend then her being a bad person. Also it seems very out of character after 17 years. Abusers try to cut you off from friends and family so that you're dependent on them and isolated and estranged from everyone else. I hope if she ever contacts you and lets you know that that is what happened, that you can forgive her. It's so incredibly hard to escape from.

    #24

    This is less of what she said but more of what she and her friend did. So when I was in 2nd grade my "best friend" was teaching me how to do a handstand during recess. So I did a handstand and fell on my back (we were on soft grass so no injuries with that) So I thought my friend went to help me up, but instead she Stood on my stomach with one foot so her whole body weight was on me. My other friend with me didn't help me up but instead started laughing like it was the funniest thing alive.

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    #25

    “You know how it is! We all do it.” No, we do NOT all cheat on our partners

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    #26

    One of my ancient chums ask this likewise ancient ole' ME for a sizable loan. Both over 80 year old, widowed, living on Social Security. There is absolutely no way either of us could repay a loan. She was very angry with me for deny her a loan. I lost 50 to 75% of my esteem for her.

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    Viviane
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Better to lose a big chunk of esteem than a big chunk of cash!

    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder if she was the victim of a scam and was being pressured to come up with funds from the scammer. The romance scammers in particular will try to take advantage of older people that are alone.

    #27

    I had one write me and tell me we "were never friends", or he may have said best friends repeating what I had written. I had another who said (by her action technically) her relationship with my parents, which was a Christmas card exchange and nothing more, was more important than our 20 year friendship.

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    PiscesMama
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How did her actions tell you your parents were more important than you? I can’t think of how your friend had to pick between you and your parents? I’m a little confused???

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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I moved cross country and told my parents I was taking my car with me when I had actually donated it. I don't know why I lied but I told my friend not to tell them. It was the only thing I ever asked her not to repeat. Years later, after I moved back, my parents, just in conversation, mentioned that I hadn't taken the car with me. Obviously the only way they'd know is if she had told them & she admitted to it when I asked her.

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    Zoe's Mom
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That some people were just meant to be alone.

    Majid Hussain
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    I basically make about $6,000-$8,000 a month online. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old jobs income, especially considering I only work about 10-13 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it….. ===))> 𝐖­𝐰­𝐰.𝐅­𝐮­𝐥­𝐰­𝐨­𝐫­𝐤.𝐂­𝐨­𝐦

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    #28

    My mother, when I was 14 and told her I wanted to have a secondhand shop, said with disdain "you need to k.n.o.w somebody". Years later we bought a beautiful necklace at a secondhand shop run by a former classmate (I wonder who he knew). I never knew anyone I guess cause I never had a secondhand shop, but I have sold handcrafts at markets ...

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    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stomping on your child's dream is cruel.

    Viviane
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's pretty stupid to tell a 14-year-old they need connections. One of my teenage nephews wanted to open a cafe. His parents made him get a job in a cafe so that he could see if he liked it. He does other things for a living, but their "try-it-out" attitude made him unafraid of trying new things and learning on the job.

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    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounds as if you're running your own business. Did your mother run her own business or was she talking out of her ass? I don't know where you live, but in my town, what you would need is a good business plan. People in my town can get information, such as: databases with local information at the library; online courses with their library card (LinkedIn Learning at my library); local business associations. Would working at a second-hand shop give you experience?

    #29

    she pranked my about my dogs tails bleeding badly(I would do anything for my dogs btw)

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    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate "pranks" that make the victim upset. Not funny.

    tail_bite
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    shithead stupid ass motherfu- ok I'm going to stop before a diss them too hard but they deserver the diss

    2BX
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry they hurt the pup. They do say one sign of a sociopath is that they first enjoy hurting animals. Maybe you are better off without them

    #30

    I want to be popular and you're not thanks nancy

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    hellomynameisT
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ughhh ditch them! Those people will never be real friends

    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I want to be popular" - sounds like someone is just trying to boost their ego. Not really a people person if the snob appeal is all they want. Someone who genuinely likes being around people would be inclusive. One of my husband's friends loves having people over, all kinds, and likes introducing people to each other.

    #31

    Your face...you always look like a bull.

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    hellomynameisT
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would someone say that?! People really should stop making other people feel bad to make themself feel better!!

    Kai Scadden
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think bulls are cute(well younger ones)

    PixxelDust
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    just take it like this: bulls are strong, independent, and powerful. i get told all the time I have a baby face (i'm 14) and I just take that like a grandmother would. young face = good

    #32

    I have none. I am really happy I have the best friend I do!

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    #33

    When I was 16 my father told me no one would love me if I was fat This was after I put on a stone after struggling with and getting over an eating disorder. I can still Remember it like it was yesterday

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    hellomynameisT
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Noooo! Im so sorry. I hope you're not struggling anymore with the eating disorder.

    #34

    "what church do you go to?" "Actually, I'm Atheist." *Look of confusion* "But you're going to hell...."

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    Tom Jacobs
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find the classic "you're going to hell" threat a little redundant when you don't actually believe in such a place.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, but it still stings when someone you know and love tosses you away when they realize you aren't the same religion as them 😐😐

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    PixxelDust
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if people go to hell just for being atheist or gay, there's an entire corner of hell full of nice people. I'm headed straight there <3

    #35

    I've known her since we were about 6 years old, so over 30 years. After she had a child she sent me pictures of her son telling me that she loves to take funny and unflattering pictures. When I told her via Whatsapp the next day that my father also thought that one picture was funny she BLEW UP on me. Told me that she thought better of me than body-shaming a baby, and asked me if I ever looked into a mirror, and other things like that. I never commented on the looks of her baby, and quite frankly I didn't even care. I only said that that one funny picture she sent me after she told me she likes taking funny pictures, is actually funny. I was always insecure about my looks, and having my best (or so I thought) friend telling me that I am ugly completely broke me. I stopped texting her, because I physically just couldn't, and for over a year she did not reach out to me either. She texted me during the first Corona lockdown, and now we are writing back and forth about unimportant stuff, but for me, the friendship/connection is just gone. Also, she never apologized. I let some friends and even my therapist read that conversation, just to ask them if I said something wrong, but every single one of them said now, it was her who completely overreacted.

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    Alexia
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We were co-workers for several years, sharing the same office. I was her moral support after her fiance broke up with her just when they were planning the wedding. Comforted her and witnessed endless cries and complaints about her ex. Defended her when I heard others gossiping about her. Joined her in vacations and trips so she wouldn't be alone and miserable. Fast forward 3 years, she finds someone else and gets married. We went out at a restaurant one evening, and the owner casually asked her about me: "She is your best friend, right?" To which she replied bluntly: "No, she's not my friend." I was speechless. Later she tried to justify herself, telling me I shouldn't be upset, because in her opinion she really didn't have any true friends.

    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And now she can have an invisible one because I'd be ghost....

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    G
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really hope you cut her off. There is zero reason to maintain a relationship with somebody like that and waste more of your time.

    #36

    "You looked so much prettier when you were skinny." I was recovering from anorexia

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    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was a horrible thing to say. There's a line about a good way to lose weight: dump the asshole who bugs you about it.

    Lovin' Life
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Been there. Sorry this was said to you. People dont understand anorexia.

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    malenchki
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are an asshole who doesn’t deserve you one of my ‘friends’ told the entire class I was battling self harm and suicidal thoughts then proceeded to tell me to jump off a cliff and then when I gathered enough courage to tell on her (I was scared she would hurt me) she said she meant it all metaphorically since then she has proceeded even when we decided we would at least be civil to throw things at me whenever I get near her and treat me like s**t moral of the story if there is a toxic person in your life get rid of them before it gets to a dangerous level

    Antonia
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    oh wow, that is cruel ...

    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh my goodness! This is a TERRIBLE friend! I hope and pray you got away from this person.

    #37

    Sorry - not only something they said, but things they did all in one day - We planned a day together only to find out she double-booked herself, so she chose the other person ….. it was my birthday - Gave me a bday present she said she’d been looking forever for, it was a regift ….. that she showed me - Woke up with hives on my bday, she said oh okay

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    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My birthday is exactly 7 days after Valentine's Day. My ex best friend gave me old chocolate covered strawberries she got from some guy the week before. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a reason or a season; not a lifetime.

    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's disgusting. Strawberries go moldy very quickly. Maybe five days at the longest!

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    #38

    When I was 9 years old I was best friends with this boy. We both were in aftercare at school, as our parents worked late and could only fetch us from school late in the afternoon. My friend had fallen and skinned both his knees days before and he had thick scabs. One afternoon when his mother came to pick him up, she saw he had been picking at the scabs. He told his mother that I had been the one picking his scabs and eating them! She screamed at me before leaving. The next day there was an enquiry at school because of what happened. Luckily no one believed my now ex-bestfriend. The whole incident was traumatic and I still think about it to this day.

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    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eating someone else's scabs=Cannabilism

    Dpl do
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What are you eleven now?

    #39

    It was my sister. My husband and I get back from the hospital after he has had a radical prostatectomy due to having cancer. She calls and wakes us both up at midnight to tell me that if he can never “do it” again, it’s OK to get a lover. He does not speak to her anymore ( it’s been 20 years).

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    Carol Emory
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would have said "Any information on my sex life or lack there of is none of your damn business!!"

    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is just incredibly hurtful. Especially the timing of it and waking you both up.

    #40

    Sometimes my best friend glares at me. She uses me because no one else in our friendship group is in our class. She only talks to me cause she knows no one else. I’m friends with other girls in our class but I talk to everyone. Sometimes she just replaces me with them and if we’re in a group task she just disagrees with everything I say even if she knows I’m right.

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    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is "best friend" written in the present tense? She needs to be cut off immediately.

    G
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. Not a best friend. Not even a friend.

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    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And she’s always had a way of making me feel left out. In 5th grade she would be all like “ OMG this sleepover is going to be AMAZING, and we’re all going” then she’d look at me and just say, “oh but not you” she’d flap her hand then just go back to making me feel bad about having stricter parents than she did.

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    #41

    My mother told me no man would ever love me.

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    Carol Emory
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother told me that she gave my marriage a year. Happy to say she was wrong. My marriage has so far surpassed hers by 6 years (31 years and still going.)

    Lovin' Life
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the mother if the year award goes to....... not your mother! That is awful. I am so sorry.

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    #42

    "You may be the worst person I've ever known."

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    #43

    you cant be in the game you are banned

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    #44

    I was ill in hospital and my boyfriend dumped me. He didn’t even tell me, just refused to take my calls. My “friend” told me it was my fault for being ill and that he had her sympathies. At the time, because of my job, I was quite well connected. This woman was very keen to meet them. She was never a true friend. Dropped her like a hot potato.

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    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you for dumping her.

    #45

    At first I thought it was the most awful and hurtful thing you could say to someone, but it turned out that it was great advice. I wanted to leave my husband, but was worried the divorce would ruin is life and he would be forever alone. He was a good guy, just not good for me and I was awful for him. My friend said, "you're not that great, he'll be fine." And she was right. I wasn't so awesome that it ruined his life. He ended up re-marrying - a girl from his small hometown and they have kids now.

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    Viviane
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of my relatives achieved self-awareness and I've really come to admire her. She recounted that during her acrimonious divorce, her ex called her a bitch in front of their children. She said, "I AM a bitch, I was a bitch to him, but don't say that in front of the children!" (she's always been a very good mother). She's still tough, but only to people who truly deserve it (such as folks who don't pay what they owe her workplace).

    #46

    Childishly said that if I were friends with so and so that we couldn't be friends any more. This is so elementary. She would say that about people who didnt have a nice enough car or didnt wear up to date clothing and such. Just petty s**t. I am friends with everyone. I've never met a stranger. I love all people and am true to the end except with childish, petty people like her.

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    hellomynameisT
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate it when people only care about appearance and expensive stuff. I think they'll never learn what true friendship is.

    #47

    A woman I was in love with is fundamentalist Christian, but knew that I wasn't Christian. When I asked if she'd like to discuss it, she answered: "No thanks. I don't want to think about you going to hell."

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    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My response was: "if you could forgive me, don't you think god could?" I just hope she got out of that toxic-ass church.

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    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, at least she was honest. I'm assuming so anyway because if she is a fundamentalist then that's what she would believe.

    #48

    We went on holidays to the sea side. I was with a gut for a year then and we shared the same "Best Friends". On the first night he slept with his ex girlfriend who worked in the same village as her father owned some apartment building there. I broke up with him and felt pretty sh***y, but had to stay for another week to not be forced to travel alone for 12h in the train (they were dangerous then where I came from). My "Best Friends" stopped to talk to me and took my ex's side commenting how "cute" he and the other girl looked together. When I asked why they basically abandoned me in the worst time, my BFF told me she thought I wanted be alone. FFS really? Like I was listening to her moaning after her break up for a month so how the F she got that idea? Dumped her too after few years, no regrets. Fun twist? The girl, who my ex was with back there, was engaged and her Fiancée came to her 2 days before my departure. They pretended nothing happened.

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    #49

    You are being such a b****

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    #50

    My bestie said that I was a bich for having a boyfriend (she only started to like him after I started to date him)!!!!

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    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never be friends with someone who drops friends for a relationship. It's a bad sign about their personality.

    #51

    Literally nothing... :(

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    #52

    My friend and business partner told me that because she care too much about our relationship she would no longer be my business partner by sending me a Whatsapp message. She said she did that because she didn’t didn’t care much to talk on the phone. Just that. Out of the blue. For me, at least. She’s 54 for God’s sake, not 14, she used to come over to my place every single day to work and she didn’t have the guts to tell me that right to my face.

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    Helen Haley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i would've preferred hearing that over text.

    Viviane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I ended a friendship by letter. I had seriously considered talking on the phone, but our last phone call had left me feeling quite discouraged and overwhelmed. She later wrote to me, so I wrote that she was a good person (she is), but I've changed.

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    #53

    When I was in 6th grade, my friends and I were messing around with markers. I thought it would be funny to do some blue marker on my face (skin safe of course) we all laughed and made jokes out of it. Later I walked up to my friend who wasn't in that class with me. I asked her if I had anything on my face. She said "Yeah, pimples. It's not rude, it's the truth." Long story short, I ended up coming in for lunch that day and cried in front of my teacher.

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    Viviane
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope your teacher consoled you. I said something mean to another kid in Grade Two and the teacher let me have it. I'm glad she did - I'd rather have learned young and make it a habit to be considerate to others.

    #54

    My adult daughter told me I 'ruined her life' but I've never been able to get the where and when I did this. In support of her, my adult son said, 'I think you're mentally ill and need to be evaluated.'

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    R Carson
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Introspection is good-maybe they're on to something.

    RandomBeing
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would take the opportunity to ask them what happened and how you can do better

    Linda McGuigan
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    Omfg I am so sorry that your kids are total a@@holes what a terrible thing to say I hope you have put some distance between you and them

    #55

    “Don’t worry, I’ll save the top bunk.” So we were at a place called the landschool, where we slept over 1 night, twice a year. She did save the top bunk after pouring a gallon of water on it. Then she proceeded to tell me she was going to kill me. She’s in jail bc she accidentally cut me. DONT DO THAT CHARRLOTTE!

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    Blaze Fitzwater
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This went left very quickly sheesh...

    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, so many of these are clearly written by children. I'm not saying that children don't go through painful experiences, they certainly do, but is Bored Panda the appropriate forum for them to be expressing this? I really don't think so.

    #56

    “I’m not sure why I’m even friends with you.” My best friend didn’t say that, but my kinda toxic closest friend did. She literally wondered why we’re friends at a sleepover at my house. The rest of the night she got upset that I tap on random things (I have a hard time focusing so I make ASMR to calm myself), make several death threats (supposedly jokes, not like that stuff should be joked about) and was overall not the nicest. Both of us are stubborn but she’s the one who’s plain RUDE. She also knows I’m on this site sooo…Grammar Girl? If you’re reading this? I’m counting down your mistakes until I yeet you out of my life. :)

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    tail_bite
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YEEET THEM OUTA LIFE YEET THEM OUTA LIFE

    #57

    two days ago. I was on a call with my gf and friend, he(my friend) said (my name) faps to woman on the internet, you shouldnt do that you have a gf. I do not fap to woman on the internet btw. he kept on repeating this, it ended up in him being banned from my smp, me and my gf crying over a fake friend who was cool untill this, he was acting like the victim, I was the victim. eventualy I told him go f**k off and get a partner bcoz he had the time to mess with a couples feeling but not get a partner xd, I learned from it and am a better person now tho.

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    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This doesn't even make sense

    #58

    Anti-vaxers , anti-maskers and Covid deniers.

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    PixxelDust
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    best friend: "anti-vaxxers, anti-maskers, and COVID deniers." me: 😭😭😭😭

    #59

    My born-again bestie told me Im a sinner & going to hell after she talked about her infidelity.

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    #60

    i worked hard to lose 100+ pounds and she said "you need to eat a cheeseburger you look sick."

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    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She is probably jealous. Many women like to have a fat friend (because they think it makes them look better by comparison) and when the friend loses weight they get jealous because then they see the person as competition. It's really painful and I'm sorry that happened to you.

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    #63

    In response to #12 (initially tried to post as a comment): Wow this totally sucks. Went through a similar experience in terms of feeling betrayed and how they try to make you feel like you’re the problem (although they are) and to get you to blame yourself. I too felt like a martyr and kept giving chances to my so called best friend of 20 years after she let herself get more and more mean, rude and plain old shockingly inconsiderate and it was because she needed a scapegoat (me). I just posted as well and I related to your post because for me as well it wasn’t just one isolated incident, it was a series of them that had you questioning yourself. I get it. I hope you feel better now and that you have better friends since then. I have lost a lot of trust in people and I really trusted her so this is scary. When a best friend becomes the most monstrous, toxic person you’ve ever known. She made my life a living nightmare on top of knowing I have depression and anxiety, knowing I’d blame myself for her unhappiness if she manipulated and exploded on me. (end of original comment) // (Oh and in 2016 there was a traumatic incident to my vocal cords (I’m a singer), and I recorded a cover song and sent it to her - she already knew about the physical trauma and immediately said I was off key even though it later turned out she’d never heard the original before so how would she know which part of the melody was off or not? It wasn’t true, she was just threatened, jealous, small and insecure.) and although she knew about the trauma, she looked irritated and spat out “you just need to practice” when it’s not a matter of practicing, my God…) I distanced myself from her for about a year but eventually felt guilty and came back and she just kept treating me like s**t and manifested her jealousy into my life by inviting herself over to cities I’ve been living in but still saying she considers my experiences even if they were full of hardship and depression as “fun vacations” just because I branched out and am no longer in our hometown. It’s not about me at all, it’s all for her benefit. She’s regretting whatever it was that led her not to have as much travel experience in life and somehow even though I have nothing to do with it blaming me. And I’ve known her since high school and she used to be so kind and sweet and unconditionally supportive that to see her change into this murderous demon type person scares the s**t out of me. I feel so sad and lonely since to be fair, the times she has been kind and helpful and a hint of her old self, I held onto and hoped she’d see I’m not the problem here, I’m not the cause of whatever pain or misery (oh yes…do I dare mention her saying to me soooo flippantly, out of the blue as I was laughing with her, “because you’re MISERABLE every SECOND of every DAY” when her comment had no context at all…shocking as I have clinical depression, so to hear that was such a demoralizing and hurtful as well as inaccurate thing to say)…ugh I wish she would back off and give me my money back…I also wish she would stop obsessing about what I’m doing and where I am, she’s the only one making it a competition here and I have no interest. It’s also been revealed that she’s been very jealous of the relationships I’ve had (even though I confided all the troubles within them to her) as well as my artistic skills as well as my personality in general AND it was revealed that she even stole some of my smaller items while she was helping me out the items upstairs in storage on my birthday…she feels entitled to steal my things but gives away a favourite sweater from Harry Potter to a random junkie like it meant nothing to her…she seethes over what she sees is my good fortune and family money (we do not come from old money, family is self made immigrants who worked hard) and apparently feels entitled to it as well and doesn’t see the problem in her gaslighting and manipulating me to feel bad and blame myself so she can get it herself :(

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    #64

    When I was a film student at the top film school in India, my final project i.e. a short fiction film for which I did cinematography won a National Award!! The National Award is a HUGE HUGE thing!! It's given by Indian government and the director receives the award by the hands of our President!! Not even the Prime Minister!!! I was obviously super excited and I told this to my best friend (whom I considered best friend) her very FIRST reaction was - "how did your film get a National Award?" I was shocked beyond words!!!! I asked her to repeat what she said but she changed the topic and she cut the call in a haste!! Very soon after that I broke up very badly with her!! It was traumatic ... All the deep secrets I shared with her.. I considered her my sole mate and she turned out to be a REAL F*****G BITCH!! I She was still in touch with my elder sister and recently I was told that she was gone missing from all social media for 3months now. She's not answering anyone's calls or anything. Also her entire family was affected by Covid. Even after all this I cannot resist the very deep tiny voice that I should call her..may be she is in some bad state of mind and needs someone to call her... I don't know...

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    PixxelDust
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    why are there 5 blank entries?

    G
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's the same person. Not sure if they are trying to post or not but clearly having some sort of an issue.

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    #66

    “You always make me say what you want me to say! I’M NOT YOUR EGO FLUFFER!” Hands down the meanest thing she said to me (and a big part of why I cut her off). My so called best friend of nearly 20 years openly admitted how “jealous” she was of my life even though I struggle from severe depression and anxiety. She exploded this at me hours after I’d asked her on online chat to please let me that the abuse I was suffering was not my fault and that I didn’t deserve it, which I thought was reasonable to ask since she never told me she was sorry that was happening to me and acting like I had to toughen up. When she blew up I was shocked. She’s made a lot of other petty comments about my previous travel and my musical skills but since she was my best friend I always tried to consider her remarks and see if there was any truth to them (nope). Then I asked her if she could think of anything I “made” her say recently…I waited (because there was none), obviously she couldn’t think of any and looked embarrassed. She said a LOT of other crap as well (among many other things, she forbade me to ever travel internationally again…”stop rubbing off” she blew up in an irrationally angry, irritated voice) and I realized how manipulative, gaslighting, toxic and cruel she really was. She made me develop anxieties and guilt over her own dissatisfaction and unhappiness with life. I feel like she bound my soul and my feet so I can’t move. The other day I actually looked up how to do an exorcism because her rage filled, murderous, obsessive spirit following me to wherever I’ve lived and wanting to stop all I do has haunted my soul even after I cut her off. I’m sure there’s gonna be a character based on me in her horror stories she writes who is goaded to commit suicide so she’ll (I’ll) never do anything ever again…oh she also insulted my lack of work over the last few years (due to chronic pain and depression) and made assumptions blurting out I never deserved any of my previous trips and insulted my dad in the process too. And she knows I’ve been speaking French for 20 plus years but after witnessing a conversation I had with our Haitian Uber driver had the nerve to say, “Wow, you actually CAN hold a conversation in French” - excuse me, etc?! Trying to make me feel like I’m baseline idiotic but hey! Even though I have taught French and sing in French, wouldn’t it make less sense to not know how to hold a conversation in French? Oh and she tried to use my own Asian American “guilt” against me for not going into healthcare like my parents (I say that as a joke, I’m not serious) telling me I better be tied up in my previous job when I’ve told her sooo many times I want to work on a second artistic career and she knows this but keeps ignoring my wishes and pushing me (not for my sake but for hers, presumably to prevent me from ever traveling again - she doesn’t want me to have what she doesn’t have, I realized) and looking desperate to try to stop me by any means necessary when I said, “I’m not sure I want to return to teaching yet,” in a desperate voice she grasped for straws, “well, do it for you…” immediately turns around and gaslights me saying, “you know how you feel guilty for not going into medicine?” Wtf. And saying things are my fault and it’s “your own insecurities” when she’s the one projecting her insecurities - I don’t HAVE insecurities when it comes to solo international travel, it’s what makes me the happiest and the most comfortable and she knows this. And she blew up at me about this ig post about please don’t make assumptions about me COMPLETELY missing the point…calling me privilege blind, whining about having to work and that obviously the world owes me something - ummm noooo, the whole point of that post was that it’s no ones business what I do or where I travel and to combat assumptions that I travel all the time. She constantly bitched at me victim blaming me saying I “put myself” in bad situations, wow. However, she won’t win.

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    #67

    Sorry, regarding my entry #60, it should say she exploded, “stop running off” (ugh who does she think she is to dictate that?! I mean so what if I want to “run off,” geez…)…and one of the “etc” should be “wtf”…with friends like these who needs enemies? It’s hard enough feeling like she’s obsessed with me and my accomplishments or travels while trying to prevent me from doing anything ever again…it’s completely draining an exhausting even after a month of cutting her off…also long story but she guilted/gaslit me into sending her double the money (in the thousands) that I owed her, so freaking manipulative…it’s a process of trying to detox from her draining insidiousness and blame shifting but I hope to overcome all the damage she’s caused in me.

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    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's sounds like you're going through a manic episode here. This is the third post and they're not making much sense. Congratulations on your travels but perhaps you need to get away from this "so-called friend".

    #68

    when i was stuff years old I was very happy because had finally found a friend in elementary school. it was the first friendship i ever had. Once I was at her house and a friend of her mom's asked "oh, you have someone visiting, are you two friends?" and I, enthusiastically, answered "Yes, we're best friends" and she answered "well sadly we are best friends. i don't like her." What made it worse was that the adults laughed about it and kept repeating it. The hours until my parents picked me up felt endless. Years later I understand that she didn't hurt me on purpose. her parents made her have play dates with me because i was considered a "good influence". It's not her fault, but it was painful anyway. And I still think the adults should not have made so much fun of it. I needed comfort but didn't even dare to cry and did my best to hide my pain.

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    #69

    - Do you think I'm fat? -Honestly? -yeah. -well, your chubby, but it's cute. I have an eating disorder now.

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    #70

    I was in 5th grade, a fellow student told me my two "best friends" only hung out with me becaus

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    #73

    I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse". I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years. I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless. He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister." We haven't spoken since.

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    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    18 years of friendship because he wanted to f**k your sister? He must have wanted her really bad. That's a lot of effort!

    #74

    I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse". I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years. I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless. He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister." We haven't spoken since.

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    Joanne Hudson
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It took him 18 years to boff your sister? What was he hanging with you for for the other 17.5 years.

    #75

    I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse". I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years. I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless. He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister." We haven't spoken since.

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    #76

    I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse". I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years. I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless. He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister." We haven't spoken since.

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    #77

    I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse". I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years. I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless. He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister." We haven't spoken since.

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    Dpl do
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, this must have been the reason for all the empty posts. I'm pretty sure the duplicate posts for this entry match the blank posts from earlier.

    #78

    I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse". I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years. I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless. He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister." We haven't spoken since.

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