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Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Have Always Wanted To Ask The Opposite Gender? (Closed)
What is something you have always wanted to ask the oppostite gender?
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Gentlemen, how often do you *really* think about the Roman empire?
Why do you guys pee while standing? Its more mess, less convinent, so why? If you can sit and poo, why not just sit and pee?
If there's a normal toilet AND some a*****e hasn't peed on the seat AND it is not a public toilet (e.g. a friend's house, family member house, etc) I always sit to pee. It makes less mess. However, if it's a public toilet, the risk of contacting a pee puddle or a poop smear or some other grossness doesn't make it worthwhile. ALSO, probably TMI, but the thing on the front often touches the porcelain which grosses me out.
How do y'all just decide how to greet each other? Like the thing where you grab hands and pat each other on the back-it seems to just be an instinct.
Easy. Business acquaintance that you want to get money out of : handshake. Business acquaintance that you barely know and don't give a rats about, nod. Buddy/friend : two hand handshake, high five, or hug. Also, the hug must have two pats to indicate how long it lasts. More than two pats is gay. <- humour
what is it like having to deal with so called "alphas"
Alphas are normally the most "beta" people you will ever meet. Best to ignore them.
What do you (non-women) think is the best and worst part about being a woman
I am a girl. I know this gay sixth grader who doesn't want to be in the boy's locker room because he is uncomfortable and is now in the girl's locker room during P.E. I don't feel comfortable at all that a boy is in a GIRL's locker room. So, I ask the males here if it is okay to have a gay sixth grader in your locker room. Like, for real, I don't feel safe when a male is in a female locker room just because they are gay and don't feel comfortable around boys.
People with genders, what is a gender? Please, I don’t understand, I must know.
Unless I’m actively seeking a sexual relationship with someone, it doesn’t enter my head. Not my business and I’m puzzled why some people are so keen to tell me when it’s entirely irrelevant to our interaction. It’s not like I go to the grocer’s shop and say “Morning! 2 lb of oranges please and I’m heterosexual” 🙂
I would like my son to be more confident with the girls. I don't want him to act like an alpha or pretend he's somebody he's not. Just to feel accepted when he tries to be his best self, because it never worked for me. What should I teach him?
To be nice to EVERYONE nd you will find yourself with friends and don't worry about popularity. Just find a few friends you have things in common with and you will enjoy high school
For my friend she says: what happens in the boys locker room or gym room that most girls will probably not want to know
I don't wear make up myself, but do men actually like when women wear make up???
Makeup done right, yes. Overdone makeup, NO no NO. I don't want your make up to rub off on me when we hug. But a girl without makeup in the morning... ooofh dead gorgeous 😘
Women, why you you need to go to the bathroom with a friend when in a social setting?
Bc I'm scared to go alone idk why it's just how it is. Nice to have someone to talk to but it could also be cuz I'm an introvert. And Ginny Weasley almost died in the bathroom so yk....
Of the ( very ) few women who's bras I have ever removed, only one ever wore a front hook type. As someone who really struggles to scratch itches in the middle of my back, it seems like this would be more convenient, but the vast majority of bras on the market hook in the back. Is there a really significant reason for this, or is it just "tradition"?
Bras have two or three "settings" in their hooks, this is useful for fat days, for when the bra starts to get old and stretched, and also means that the manufacturer doesn't have to make bras with back sizes one centimetre difference, they can make one size that can accommodate three centimetres difference. If you had multiple hooks at the front, it wouldn't work. It's not difficult to do them up at the back, and many people do them up at the front at waist level then turn them round to the back and raise them to chesties height, then wriggle arms into the straps
1: do you guys actually like beards or is it just something you think is cool
2: is your life sad
3?
I'm a female so males how do you guys put up with each other every day? im a middle schooler and i cant put up with the guys who are even my friends
It's not about gender - it's about people and who they are. Some I like, some I can't stand, and that goes for males, females, gender, trans, whatever - one just clicks with some and not others. Partly it's to do with common interest - and in the UK, sport's a pretty common ground. Depending on age and situation, discussing girls too...
Women, I have sOOOOOooooo many questions.
1. Do you accept "trans" women as women, or do you think, "nah"? Can you tell? Have you ever met a trans person? (I have, three times, it's pretty rare in Africa.).
2. Do you find men confusing? If so, happy to explain why we aren't. (Really: we want to do our hobby, have food, sex, and short convos on non-emotion topics. We are primitive). Phrases like "do you think you should" are red capes to bulls. Never ever use that phrase. It implies incompetence.
3. Do you really like marriage and housemaking or is it just a western trope? ("lived happily ever after")
4. On a scale of 1-10 , please rate the following features in a partner: (a) looks, (b) money, (c) humour, (d) "spiritual connection", (e) intelligence, (f) ability to hold a conversation (g) great family (h) car/house quality (i) hobby compatibility? Men mostly believe money (b) is the key to finding a mate. I believe (c), (d), (f) are the most important? Am I right?
5. Do you actually like sex or is it meh? Like, if you have to choose something to do, like say watch a romcom, have a great meal, or have sex, which is top priority? Men are under the impression y'all don't care much for it and that food is top priority.
6. Is it a stereotype or do you really hate action films? Eg. I find James Bond to be barbarically patriarchal and s**t. Do you agree? However, it is true that men despise romcoms. They are awful and predictable.
7. Is it a stereotype or do you really not "get" computer games? I know several exceptions, I'm asking for GENERAL opinions (statistical majorities).
8. If a guy is bi does this make him extremely unattractive or are you ok with it? My impression is women talk left and date right.
I like action films, but mostly those that include science fiction or fantasy elements. And I've played computer games since their inception (by which I mean Zork), although I dislike FPS because I find them stressful.
awesome, I have precisely two friends who are women who also are gamers, but the majority of my women friends, including trans persons, do not game.
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1. Transwomen are women, and yes, I've met a few. 2. I don't like to think in stereotypes like these, but of the few friends I have most are men, and we get along really well, nothing confusing there. No confusion in relationships either. 3. Haha, no I don't!!! 4. I can't do this hierarchically because several aspects are equally important/unimportant, so the most important five in no specific order: e, d, f, c, a. I don't really care about the others. 5. Food, of course! :D 6. I don't really like action films, but I really don't like romcoms! 7. I've never tried a computer game, so I don't know. 8. I'd be completely fine with a bi boyfriend.
great reply and clarifies a lot, thanks!
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1) of course I accept trans women, but there will always be a difference and I think that's important. I also don't like being refferd to as "person with uterus" or "person who menstruates" or that kind of nonsense. I think people should be able to determine the meaning of "woman" in the context that it's used in and not take it personal. 2) the men I know are not confusing and just very very normal and similar to me. No major differences. 3) lol, no. Snow White is a fairy tale. 4) this question is just too elaborate and has little relevance. 5) sex is good. And it is not a priority list, but an order. First food, then nice romantic movie, then hot sex on the couch with some good music. 6) I love James Bond and everything it comes with. Generally dislike USA movies. 7) it is a stereotype 8) never met a bi man, so no idea. I guess it doesn't really matter when you're in love.
1. It's not up to me or anyone else to gatekeep "being a woman", so yes. I've met one trans person, didn't really notice it, don't care afterwards. 2. Men are confusing as heck. Like, why do y'all just choose to not use your brain? If I ask you to do something and you say 'sure I'll do that', why do you then still not do it? Do you not care? If your boss asks you to do something, you do it, but if I ask you, you just conventiently forget (yes this annoys the s**t out of me). 3. Nah, marriage is a trope and housemaking is overrated. That's just me, though. 4. (c), (e), (f) and (i) is a nice to have. 5. Yes I like sex, but depending on how much I enjoy it with someone in particular, I'll either choose to have sex over the rest, or I'd rather just do something else. I can't speak for other women or people in general, but if your collective assumption is women don't care much for sex, then the take-home message for you blokes is to help make it more enjoyable for her.
6. Don't care much for action movies, I think they're boring. Don't like romcoms either. Gimme horror and fantasy. 7. Love games. 8. I don't care if you're bi, but I suppose it does kinda mean that now I have to compete with both men and women for you :')
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1. Yes, I do. I've met a few and they're nice people! 2. Yes, but that's just my general lack of social skills. 3. No. I don't like it. 6. Never seen a lot of them, so idk. 8. No? I might be biased since I'm not straight, but it's just part of a personality. Plus, you can talk about fictional guys together /j
interesting, great variety of answer so breaks my stereotypes! thanks!
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1. Yes 2. Not really, I have friends that are guys 3. Definitely not 4. c,f,a,e,g,h,b,d 5. meh. I don't actually really like romcoms, so I would choose food 6. I don't really care about the patriarchy stuff, I just find them cringey 7. I "get" them, I just don't play them as often 8. I'm kinda biased because I'm bi but I am ok with it
Regarding movies, I don't see the appeal of dismissing an entire genre of movies, or of any art form. There are higher and lower quality examples of every genre. "Jaws," for example, is a high quality action movie with a wide fan base. "White House Down" less so. Similarly, the 90s BBC production of "Pride and Prejudice" is widely acknowledged as a good quality mini-series. And, personally, I think "Bridesmaids" was awesome. It was used in a writing class I took as a good example of internal versus external conflict. Nobody likes too much predictability in fiction, but we do like some. In most action movies, the good guys beat the bad guys. In most romance, the main characters fall in love. But how the story reaches that end point can be interesting and surprising.
I'll answer all 8 with one question in return: Do you only know shallow silly women? As a woman, I like sex, don't care about money/status symbols/blah blah blah, action films need a plot beyond "bang bang bang! Boom!" (they're about as quality as romcoms, IMO)... of course we get com;uter games, why would I care if someone is bi, or anything else in the LGBTQA community. Of course, no one will get past me saying I like sex, b/c that makes me a sl*t, and that's bad, but a guy can adore it and that's fine, so, y'know, you decide. Oh, and all humanity is confusing. It's nto gendered. There are women who prefer to just do their hobby, keep it light, and so forth. (Ah, almost forgot: Men "nest", too, so it's not a woman thing.)
1. Trans women are women. It says so in the name. And I've met a few at my school. 2. Yes, but only because humans are just confusing in general and men are humans soooo… 3. I…wouldn't know as I'm a teen, but I'd say that's not true 4. I find c, d, e, and f to be most important 5. As I said above, I'm a younger teen with no current desire for sex, so I can't answer that one 6. I like action films 7. Love computer games 8. Why would it be unattractive, ofc I'd date a bi guy
1. Yes, and you can tell a lot of the time but not always, depending on when they transitioned and what they looked like to start with. 2. No, in general they are pretty straightforward, but everyone is an individual and should be treated as such. 3. No, I decided as a child marriage and motherhood were not for me. I am in my 50s now and no regrets. 4. Pass. The various boyfriends I had came down to two things: proximity (they were there) and the fact I liked them. That's it. 5. It was OK but there were a lot of things I liked more. I don't miss it now. Some women really like sex, though, so don't generalise. 6. I love action films. I dislike romcoms. 7. Hah! I was a computer games journalist in the 90s. I frickin' love games. I still game now. 8. I'd have been fine with it. Also great opportunity for a threesome, which is something I never got to experience. Heh.
1. If they're not in the stage of passing as a female yet, it's hard for me to remember to refer to them as she/her. I work with one on my team. She's very open about being trans and her transitioning journey. Everyone's generally supportive. Full to near finished trans females I can't tell unless I knew they're trans. For example, Britney Manson. Other than that, I just view them as people. 2) I find men less confusing than women, in general. I can tell when they're lying, but really men just say what's on their mind and don't play the stupid mind games some other women tend to play. 3) That will depend on the individual and situation. Personally, I enjoyed being a stay-at-home mom. But I also love the freedom in earning my own money. 4) For me, c, f, g, i are most important to me, now. A romcom and food will come before most things. 5) After having a baby long ago it's still painful, my muscles and joints are not as flexible and limber as they used to be, and less energy. Rather relax.
Plus my ex was really suffocating and needy. I love my space, now. 6) It depends on the action movie. They're not my go-to genres but I'll sit and watch if it's on and not too gory and violent. 7) That is definitely a stereotype. There are a lot of really good female gamers. I don't play much. Just don't have the time and they're so expensive now. 8) Anybody you're with can be a closet bi and you'll never know unless they tell you.
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1. I met a few transwomen. It does not bother me. If it makes them happy to be a woman, why not? 2. It's not men who are confusing: it's the human race in general. 3. I don't like marriage and don't want to get married. And I'll probably get bored staying at home. 4. You forgot kindness and honesty. Combine that with c, d, e, f and i, and you get the ideal man: my boyfriend! Contrary to popular belief, not all women are attracted to money. Having a good job and not being lazy is enough. 5. I HATE romcom. And I'm too prudish to answer the question in general. 😅 6. Die Hard is one of my favorite Christmas movies. I also like the first Rambo, Slap Shot (as a good Quebecer), horror films and science fiction films. 7. I play video games with my boyfriend. But on consoles, not on the computer. 8. I accept bisexuality, but I wouldn't want to date one. I am open to others, but conservative in my own life.
1: yes and I have 3 trans friends. 2: No. 3: Absolutely not. I hate housekeeping with a passion and I love my single life. 4: I don't rate people. 5: I like sex but if he sugests a romcom to watch I'm out of the door. This c**p is annoying 6: I love action movies. Give me an 80s action flick like Lethal Weapon, Die Hard etc and I'm happy and yes that includes James Bond even if the Sean Connery ones are a bit cringeworthy in todays time. 7: I play video games longer than many of the current players are alive or even their parents. I started gaming in 1979. 8: Tbh, it is about the guy. If i like him I don't care, if he is a friend I care even less.
D,C, and E are all equally important in my opinion. Next would be G. Then lastly A,F, H and B. I’m not sure what hobby compatibility is. I for one love action films. Marriage is something I want, housemaking would get boring if it’s the only thing I do, but I don’t mind a bit of it.
1. No opinion, and yes 2. Yes, and quiet a few of them are idiotic a******s, but there are real ones out there 3. No 4. Not qualified to do so 5. NOT QUALIFIED TO DO SO 6. No...they might be, but I don't pay as much attention to that in an action movie 7. We do, but I'm not a hardcore gamer, I just play stardew valley. I don't get shooter/violent games bc im a wimp, but there is a large population of women who do! 8. Not qualified to respooooonnnnnnndddddddd
Transwomen are women. | Men can be confusing, but so can all humans. | I don't dream of fairytale weddings or familial bliss. Me and my partner plan on getting married, but it's more out of practicality and we are NOT gonna spend thousands of euros to do it. And it has nothing to do with church and religion, let's make that clear too. | From any potential partners, I look for the connection. They must "get" me, and be willing to put the same amount of work into connecting with me as I'm putting into connecting with them. Sense of humour ranks very high, too, as well as having similar interests and hobbies. We must be friends along with sexual and romantic partners to make it last. | I sadly have some illnesses that not only smother my sex drive but make intercourse painful too (even when I AM fully into it), but I used love sex, and by sex I mean the stereotypical penetration. I still do, but without proper understanding of my limitations, other stuff comes first kind of bc it has to.
I love good movies regardless of the genre, emphasis on the GOOD. Die Hard? The Rock? Hell yeaahhhh. But the mediocre stuff is meh. Same applies to romcoms. | I get video games just fine. Been pouring hundreds of hours into BG3 lately, and am not close to being finished. I like rpg, jrpg, survival games, farming games, life sims, visual novels, anything with good story and characters and/or mechanics that make me think creatively (but are not TOO big brain in the sense that I need Excel to figure s**t out). And I don't think I'm an exception of any kind, to be honest. | Why on earth would being bi be an issue???
Load More Replies... 1) I've met some, but didn't consider them to be women at all. (I used their preferred names & pronouns out of courtesy, though.) 2) Nope, I don't find men confusing at all. 3) I've never wanted to be a home-maker; marriage might be nice with the right guy, but it's never been a priority. 4) Humor, ability to hold a conversation, intelligence, hobby compatibility are among the most important for me. Looks & nice family are far secondary. As long as the guy does have a decent job and a working car he drives regularly, that's enough. 5-7) I enjoy sex, action films, and love computer/video games. 8) I'd likely be okay with it, but that's one of those "you don't know how you'll react until you're in that situation" sort of things, I suspect.
1. Trans women are just as much of a woman as I am in my opinion. Some even more. 2. I find some people confusing. like mean, selfish and rude people but not just men. Women too. 3. I'm personally not that bothered if i get married or not. Would love to have someone to share my life with but as equals. I am not going to be the one doing all the chores while my partner (man or woman) sits on the sofa all day. 4.- 5. It depends on the mood and the sex. And ow good is the meal were talking about. 6. I hate romcoms but also do not like most action films. I find them pointless.
1. Transwomen are women and will be women unless they feel otherwise later on 2. A little if I'm being honest 3. God no that sounds dull as f**k 4. A. 6/10 B. 3/10 C. 9/10 D. Tf is a spiritual connection E. 8/10 F. 8/10 G. 9/10 (I want to feel accepted) H. 6/10 (I'm not picky about cars) I. 7/10 (I'm going to skip 5 cuz idk what to say about that) 6. Depends on the film 7. I LOVE computer games. Def. A stereotype. 8. I'm bi too! :D bi bestiessss I don't give a s**t if ur bi, Trans, gay, whatever, as long as ur nice and ur not one of those made up ones that us (gen z) have made up. (It pisses me off to no end when I see these made up genders and sexualities. It makes it even more confusing for people trying to figure things out)
I am on the app so I can't type as I read the questions but yes I consider trans women as real women whether they have had surgery or not. I do not like action films unless there is a really interesting plot line... like Gone, Baby Gone or Pearl Harbor. I love computer games so that is a stereotype. I also love sex WHEN i am in the mood...if I'm not in the mood, don't try to "get me there". Just do your thing and be done with it... if I want to get off too I will make sure you know. But its definitely not like the romcoms those are complete BS. All women are different so just get to know what the person likes that you are dating and don't lump them in with other people or stereotypes
As a dude, I take exception to #6. The Roscommon, like any movie, cab vary in quality. If it's mostly about the comedy, I know many men who like the movie. Grumpy and Grumpier Old Men are great examples. I loved Sleepless in Seattle, have a soft spot for Runaway Bride, and Notting Hill surprised the heck out of me (normally can't stand Hufh Grant).
1. Trans women are definitely real women and I've met several 2. Yes, but I find all people confusing regardless of gender 3. I do believe in marriage, if that's what you're asking, but complete "happily ever afters" are not really a thing in my opinion 6. I do not hate action films, and neither do most of the women I know. I hate action films that are misogynistic and sexist 7. I do "get" computer and video games. It's not, like, my favorite thing to do, but im pretty decent at them and I definitely understand how they generally work. 8. As a pansexual, I would be totally fine dating anyone who was bi
A guy I dated told me that a soft "ball tap" could sometimes be more painful than being hit in the balls. Do you find that to be true?
Guys...what are good/cute nicknames for ya'll?
Girls get called sweetie and princess and queen, but I can't think of many that work for guys. Especially if they aren't your boyfriend or husband, but they are still your bestie or crush.
I gave my husband the choice of Cupcake or Porkchop as a nickname. He chose Porkchop. Lol! Of course I was kidding though, we're not the cutesy nickname kind of people.
What's the biggest stereotype you deal with for your gender? (Ik this was for the opposite gender but I feel like everyone can answer this.)
That girls/women are catty with each other, or on the opposite end, that there's a "sisterhood". There are bad and good women. It's not an all or nothing situation.
For the guys, what do you think abt makeup?
it can be cool but most of us dont care, we 100% make fun of oversized lashes though
A guy here,
what's it like to have boobs?
Annoying, mostly. Squishy bags of flesh that get in the way of stuff.
To people with peens - do you ever actually helicopter it or is that an urban myth?
Most of the time, it's us girls that want to see it coz we think it's funny.
Why do guys often spend so long in showers? Women often get the rap but I've known a lot of guys who take 15m plus to shower. I've got an idea and I suspect it has a similar answer to why it takes guys so long to have a c**p...
What's wrong with a long shower? Also not only men do it I do it as well and it is SO relaxing. Sometimes you just need to let the inner kid out and make potions while pretending you are a water-bender
Guy here.
Is it true for ladies that matching underwear is hard to find?
Just out of curiosity because most times I see them sold in pairs (top and bottom) but I've heard complains within earshot that even those don't pair well with what they have (or something similar).
Is there something I'm missing out because as far as I know, those aren't supposed to be seen by anyone else unless intended to?
Just a thought, peace.
I like matching sets, but it can get expensive and it's hard to manage the laundry logistics of things.
why are women more comfortable expressing their emotions and such?
Not all women are comfortable expressing their emotions because they've been taught to act like "little ladies" all their life and to remain "pleasant" in society. The ones who do just don't give a damn. They're past caring what others think.
I always felt that I earned men's respect and that it wasn't automatically given to me because of my gender.
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I always felt that I earned men's respect and that it wasn't automatically given to me because of my gender.
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