30 Hard-To-Swallow Life Lessons Shared By People Online Who Are Over 25 Y.O.

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Lost my sister unexpectedly and suddenly in August. Hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my life. Just want to get to next year. Her birthday was New Year's Eve

And give out hugs generously!

This is a truth. Last spring my 98 year old aunt passed away, then a couple of months later her son (my cousin) had a fatal heart attack aged just 60.

doesnt mean it was a waste of time though.

YUP... and to rub salt in the wound... if you happen to know people who do everything wrong, treat everyone wrong... and yet... SOMEHOW - they get the big gig, they get the promotion, they get to scapegoat on **you** and everyone believes them, no questions asked.

Doing everything right includes planning for failure.

Except school

If you're communicating by email, blind copy your personal email.

Also Never do anything for an officer of the company on their last day. Whatever it is, can wait until monday.

It's even better to bring someone with you - your union representative, a lawyer, and a newspaper reporter.

Yeah, pretty sure he must have known my Grandmother (Mom's side). She was the most horrible, bitter old lady I've ever met. I hated that b*tch - and basically told her so on one of our "mandatory" Sunday dinners. I think I was about 12. I was told not to come back, which was cool by me, but that meant I didn't get to hang out in the workshop with Grandpa anymore. We got around it though - Mom would pack me a lunch & drop me off about 1/2 block from the farm & I'd sneak in the side door. Gramps always acted like he was so surprised to see me, but I did notice he started keeping the bay doors shut & had the west door open. He was cool.

It's hard to believe but there are many people, they look ordinary, who take joy in the pain they cause for everyone around them. Often they'll seem like the nicest people in the world..

And then they become president and have a cult following.

These people are called psychopaths.

Never make somebody a priority if all you are to them is an option.

The more you squeeze, the more it slips away...🧼💔🤝🏽

Animals are the only ones who will love you back if you love them first.

Amen

But they also get upset when u take away what they don't appreciate...

There is something called the Peter Principle where people are promoted to positions just beyond their ability to do the job. And somehow they stay there doing a poor job.

They are often just long-time employees. Many corporations, particularly in the U.S., often promote people until they reach a level of incompetence. They aren't returned to the position at which they were successful, along with the raise, so they become worthless or worse.

Painfully true, and to the organization's detriment. Promote based on leadership skills and how they treat others, NOT just because because they were the most skilled salesperson/programmer/been there the longest, or risk losing the people they manage.

Of the various supervisors, team leads, and managers I've worked with over the past 25 years or so around 99.999% of them I wouldn't trust to organise a child's birthday party.

Last job, coworker asked "Do you quit because of 'insert team leaders name'?" "No 🤞" (well it had its moments, good colleagues but no inspirational management).

It's easy to get things done when you feel motivated. It's when you're not motivated that those things are difficult and when it's even more important to do them anyway. If you wait for motivation, you'll be waiting forever.

angel of self-discipline = ritalin/adderal/vyvance Because no amount of 'self-discipline' is going to make me remember it exists (let alone do it)

If you are really struggling a lot with the "actually doing the things you know you should" this could be executive disfunction from ADHD or depression. Talk to your doctor about it, and ask if they recommend medication. Medication can get you to the point where you are able to engage with the behavioural techniques and tools to help you manage it. No Shame in asking for help.

Start off with something simple - like cleaning out the dishwasher or clean one room at a time

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This. This is the most important lesson.

“I’d always end up broken down on the highway. When I stood there trying to flag someone down, nobody stopped. But when I pushed my own car, other drivers would get out and push with me. If you want help, help yourself – people like to see that.” - Chris Rock

Same goes for humanity. No magic entity is coming from the clouds to save us from ourselves.

There are times that reaching out for help is the right thing and necessary. Sometimes we need help to save ourselves.

This reminds me of the song "Die Flut" by Witt. If you are too happy and want to sadden yourself up, this is the song to do it. You can get the English translation pretty easily.

Fire departments motto?

I always think the problem is me.

If you have a problem with EVERYONE, the problem is you.

nah. Im perfect. my mom said so.

Well, as we are at least 50% part of whatever situation we find ourselves, yes. Good news: We can change that, once realized.

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If you start to notice a pattern in your job or relationships where similar situations end up happening, like getting pushed out of jobs repeatedly and feeling like everyone there hates you... It's probably more a you problem. Best to explore the why so you can work on improving yourself... Odds are if you discover what you're doing that's driving people away, it'll be something you also would find annoying in other people... At least that's what happened for me.