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63 People Share Small Harmless Things Their Partners Do That They Just Can’t Stand
Once the honeymoon phase of a relationship (sometimes literally the honeymoon) ends, people quickly discover that their partner might have questionable ideas about how to stack the dishwasher, or they might snore like a woodchipper working overtime. For some, this is just a new hurdle to overcome, but others struggle to get over it.
People online share the “harmless” and downright normal things their partners do that they find disproportionately annoying. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own stories and examples in the comments section down below.
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#1
Talks when I am listening to my audiobook - so I pause it and let him finish - hit play and then he starts to talk again
Huddo's sister 23 hours ago
I had my sister staying with me for about 6 six weeks recently. She would sleep all day, then just as my dad and I were sitting down to watch tv, she would wake up and not stop talking! (Sorry if she's reading this, but it's true!) Even worse when my mum also stopped in! We always watch the news live first, so can't pause.
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#2
When he gets sick he refuses to take medicine and then complains about how he doesn’t feel good
Little Bit 1 day ago
And he dismisses everything you suggest to try and help him feel better. So eventually you just give up trying and then he complains that you don’t care.
#3
I can only ask one question at a time while texting because he only responds to the most recent thing I send
#4
absolutely no sense of urgency
#6
he constantly asks me questions he could easily figure out the answer to. like he’ll be holding a box of pasta and ask me how long he’s supposed to cook it for
Little Bit 20 hours ago
My hubby one phoned me to say that he couldn't access his Microsoft account. I was on the bus on the way to work at the time. Then he dismissed all the solutions I could give him at the time then got mad with me because I didn't know HIS passwords.
#7
Literally zero phone volume awareness. Like why is your volume all the way up constantly
Huddo's sister 23 hours ago
My mum does this! And it's on speaker because she says she can't hear properly otherwise. When she talks, I have to hold the phone away from my ear even though I don't have it on speaker, because she is so loud! Yet she also reckons her hearing aids were a scam and don't help her at all.
#9
we both will make our room messy but his mess annoys me more
#10
She wears socks to bed and then in the middle of the night will take the socks off and leave them there at the end of the bed under the covers. I call it her sock graveyard.
Rick Murray 12 hours ago
I sometimes do this. I think my feet change or stretch or something during the night. So a sock that feels okay at 11pm will be awful at 3am.
#11
When I’m cooking and he goes over and stirs something.
#13
He gives himself noooo wiggle room. If the destination says 27 minutes he will leave 28 minutes before
#15
Sneezing SO LOUDLY like why are you screaming
Lewis KR 13 hours ago
You can control the volume of the sneeze but you decide whether or not to engage your vocal cords. Some people literally shout achoo when they sneeze.
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Upstaged75 4 hours ago
My dad blows his nose like a fog horn. I've never heard anyone else do it so loudly before. It used to embarrass me a lot as a kid. He says he just can't do it without honking. 🤷♀️😂
Julie S 17 hours ago
I'm a loud sneezer and if I do 3 in a row they get louder the last one shatters glass.
Otto Katz 11 hours ago
My husband squeezes his nose shut when he sneezes, I've told him it's very bad for him to do that. But does he listen? Nooooo00000OOOOOOOoooooooooo!
Load More Replies... Jaya 6 hours ago
When we got together in our 20s, my boyfriend had a normal sneezing volume. But now that we're in our 40s, his sneezes are SO LOUD! It's like he's shouting really hard. I always feel a bit shaken afterwards. I can sorta control my sneezes, by letting it go more through my nose than my mouth (not because of my sneeze volume but because it hurts when it goes more through my mouth). But he has absolutely no idea what I'm talking about, to him it's like when someone tries to explain that you can wiggle your ears.
#16
takes the toilet roll off the holder when he uses it and NEVER puts it back on. just leaves it on the counter.
#17
Watches the same shows everyday. We’ve been together 10 years. He’s watched every episode of My Wife and Kids and Everybody Hates Chris over a dozen times by now. I think he’s acoustic
#18
When he says, what do you mean? When I said exactly what I meant and it couldn’t mean anything else.
#19
Saying he is not sleeping , while he is snoring ( after I push him not to snore) . Irritating!
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 day ago
Well, he's not now, is he? My wife used to shake me when i snored. I'd turn over away from her. My guts would rearrange themselves. Then I'd fart at her. Made me smile every time 🙂
#20
He puts the toothpaste on his front teeth to then put the brush in his mouth
#21
says he slept terrible but every time I woke up in the middle of the night he was sleeping like a rock
#24
He waits until I’m completely ready before he starts getting ready and will complain how long I take
#25
Do i need to explain?
Bartlet for world domination 21 hours ago
I do this, but European eggs are in a carton and not refrigerated. Balancing the load so you know how the carton will behave without opening it.
#27
Gets mad when I don’t pay attention to a movie I never said I wanted to watch
Michael Largey 14 hours ago (edited)
My wife loves to watch college basketball on TV, and I have no interest. But I still keep half an eye on the game (Ok, maybe an eighth of an eye) so I can respond to what she has to say. (Remember, guys, brownie points earned before your s***w up are counted three times as much as the ones earned after.)
#28
Gives me appropriate advice & solutions when I just wanna be irrational.
Doug Moyer 15 hours ago
It took years before my wife learned that our (adult) children often just wanted a shoulder to cry on, not a solution.
#29
he says “i dont think so” instead of no. im like “did you let the dog out?” and he says i dont think so when he knows he didnt. like just say no
Huddo's sister 23 hours ago
That sounds like me. More and more I notice I don't give definite answers for things. Sometimes it's because my memory is that bad, sometimes I think it's just because I subconsciously don't want to be judged for being wrong.
#30
Has the worst windshield wiper timing management
#31
Doesn’t always respond when I talk bc “there was no response to what you said” idc if I say I just farted at least say something anything
#33
Doesn’t immediately look when I say ‘look’ makes me so mad
#34
He stops everything he’s doing when he talks
Michael Largey 11 hours ago
So he engages himself in the conversation, the rude mannerless b*****d!
#35
Using the biggest cutting board for cutting one small tomato
Jeremy James 17 hours ago (edited)
Mine uses my good knives inappropriately. Need a pat of butter? Grab a chef's knife! That way, instead of just tossing a regular knife in the dishwasher after you, I get to carefully hand-wash and hand-dry a knife that never stays sharp because you also don't use cutting boards or know what you're doing.
#36
In the car park drives past all the good spots and parks as far as he can away from the shop that we mayswell of walked from home
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 day ago (edited)
Good for getting exercise, and less chance of dimwits dinging your car.
#37
This is how he cuts bags open
Rick Murray 11 hours ago
Cut off a corner, then you can use a little plastic clip to fold it over and seal it up. I'd post a photo of this on a bag of chips but these days BP frowns on pictures that aren't stock images or reddit screenshots...
#40
When I say I have a headache he tells me to take paracetamol…I wasn’t looking for a solution I was looking for sympathy
LakotaWolf (she/her) 20 hours ago
Sympathy doesn't make a headache go away. Take your paracetamol.
#41
everything he does is so slow, he takes his time with EVERYTHING. no sense of urgency
#43
Noises, I just can’t with unnecessary noises
Serena Myers 12 hours ago
Misophonia again? Yes folks, it is very real. Slurping, sniffing, whistling through teeth, rubbing hands together, chewing, etc etc etc. Can induce rage/panic/fear if condition is not recognised and controlled. Nowadays, having tinnitus is a blessing rather than a curse!
#44
Sighs really loud and I ask what’s wrong and he’s say “nothing I just took a breath”
Huddo's sister 23 hours ago
I do that when my brain forgets to breathe. I don't realise I was holding my breath until I start breathing again.
#45
he will use a different cup everytime he has a drink. just get a waterbottle like me, whats with all the cups.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 20 hours ago
Waterbottles can harbor bacteria, especially if they're plastic. If he washes the cups or at least loads them in the dishwasher, this gripe is idiotic.
#47
Gulps when drinking something
#48
Falls asleep when we are watching a series together
#49
He licks his fingers after eating something with his hands 😭😭 like it’s harmless to use a napkin I promise
#50
Has all the juicy tea but is missing details
#51
Falls asleep the second his head hits the pillow leaving me to deal with my brain myself
#52
Any time he coughs, I can feel my blood boiling
#53
When I’m telling him something and he’s on his phone. I know he’s listening, but I just want him to look at me.
#54
He doesn’t push the kettle back against the wall once he’s done so it’s left halfway across the counter. Fries my brain!!
Rick Murray 11 hours ago
I'm British. I drink ungodly amounts of tea. If you tried pushing my kettle..... "Nobody puts Baby in the corner".
#55
we both leave our shoes lying around but his are bigger and that's annoying
#56
Tells me he’s not sleeping when I SEE HIM SLEEEPING
#57
He lets the rain collect on his windshield twice as long as I would before it wipes
#58
Not immediately running to the table when I say dinner is ready
#60
He’s too calm.. why don’t you have anxiety or panic about anything? Why are you so relaxed? Why don’t you freak out about time or anything at all????
Michael Largey 14 hours ago
A man who can remain calm and unruffled with someone like this OP in his life is either a Buddhist monk or three months dead.
#62
goes to the shop and gets exactly what we need, no this looked nice or a surprise item
What do you think ?
Mike F 1 day ago
This was just a bit©hfest. Most of these people need to be single or live alone.
Ace 21 hours ago
Yeah, I think they know, which is why they're posting them on the "harmless but" thread.
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Otto Katz 17 hours ago
We make the shopping list every week, and every week it turns into a 'discussion'. I don't understand it. He asks 'what do you want?' I answer, then he comes up with a reason why that can't happen. every d****d week for 20 years.
Jaya 2 hours ago
Now I'm kinda curious what it is you want on the grocery list that gets rejected every week for 20 years. I like to imagine that you're fighting about whether you can go buy the sun, or a hippopotamus 😄
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Joe Publique 3 hours ago
So much here is simply the narcissism of small differences. The rest sound petty and insecure.
Rick Murray 11 hours ago
Wow, that was a lot of really petty nonsense. Guess what, maybe (s)he doesn't like that you fárt in bed but doesn't whinge on antisocial media about it.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 11 hours ago
Some of these complaints feel like hanging around people i know
JSL 18 hours ago
I realize this list is harmless things that annoy the partner, but as others said....if it's really that annoying, become or stay single. Does my husband do things that annoy me? Yes. Do I get on the internet and b***h about it? No. I put on my big girl pants and talk with him about it if it's so annoying I think about it for longer than 2 seconds.
Jeolas1 18 hours ago
They weren't b******g about it though. They were just stating that something their partner does annoys them.
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Daya 18 hours ago
All of them? Really? Even those who eventually will cruise you around in a wheelchair and cutting the hard bits of your meals into tiny cubes?
Load More Replies... Mike F 1 day ago
This was just a bit©hfest. Most of these people need to be single or live alone.
Ace 21 hours ago
Yeah, I think they know, which is why they're posting them on the "harmless but" thread.
Load More Replies... Otto Katz 17 hours ago
We make the shopping list every week, and every week it turns into a 'discussion'. I don't understand it. He asks 'what do you want?' I answer, then he comes up with a reason why that can't happen. every d****d week for 20 years.
Jaya 2 hours ago
Now I'm kinda curious what it is you want on the grocery list that gets rejected every week for 20 years. I like to imagine that you're fighting about whether you can go buy the sun, or a hippopotamus 😄
Load More Replies... Joe Publique 3 hours ago
So much here is simply the narcissism of small differences. The rest sound petty and insecure.
Rick Murray 11 hours ago
Wow, that was a lot of really petty nonsense. Guess what, maybe (s)he doesn't like that you fárt in bed but doesn't whinge on antisocial media about it.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 11 hours ago
Some of these complaints feel like hanging around people i know
JSL 18 hours ago
I realize this list is harmless things that annoy the partner, but as others said....if it's really that annoying, become or stay single. Does my husband do things that annoy me? Yes. Do I get on the internet and b***h about it? No. I put on my big girl pants and talk with him about it if it's so annoying I think about it for longer than 2 seconds.
Jeolas1 18 hours ago
They weren't b******g about it though. They were just stating that something their partner does annoys them.
Load More Replies... Daya 18 hours ago
All of them? Really? Even those who eventually will cruise you around in a wheelchair and cutting the hard bits of your meals into tiny cubes?
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