50 Hard Truths People Learned Later In Life That They Believe They Should’ve Been Told About Earlier

Also, you're free to speak your mind, but no one is obligated to provide you a stage from which to speak or even listen to what you say.

Being unusual or weird or queer, etc, does not mean someone is wrong or broken or abnormal. Normal is often not one single thing, normal can be a spectrum of things, some of those things very infrequent.

And when that happens it's not necessarily about you. Often it's a them thing.

As long as these two paradigms are in the minority, we're, as a whole, doing OK. When bad things happen more often to good people than bad people, that's oppression. When Good things happen to bad people on the regular, that's corruption.

Yes, because, in the last analysis, you have only very limited control over your life.

That's true. At the same time you should be aware of the fact that you do so and realise that looks can be very deceptive.

You are the only person you spend 24/7 with so learn to like this person you can't escape :)

Don't believe the stories you tell yourself, especially in times of sadness or depression.

True, but has nothing to do with religion. If religion makes you happy then you are doing it right. People who do not believe in any religion can be miserable too.

How does OP know that consciousness ends with death? It's not provable just as the idea that we go on after death cannot be proven beyond doubt. There are people who have medically died, are resuscitated and share their experiences afterwards and convincingly I might add. Belief and faith are important to some of us.

No one knows this. What dead person told you?

The general basis and understanding of religion would tend to point to the opposite - those who have a strong faith in their religion are usually much happier and at peace

Never in the history of ever have either athiests or religious folks argued the other side out of their position. So leave the other side be and don't try to provoke arguments.

Why do you have to be religious to believe that there's something after death?

So much of unhappiness and discontent, especially in the later years, is due to people feeling that they still need to leave a mark on the world, to accomplish something. The more you can let go of that need, the more contentment and peace you'll have. Then death won't frighten you, and you can instead focus on the life you do have. Besides, when you die, you won't be around to care after that, so why should you worry about it now?

If you speak ill about the opium of the masses, they will target you.

Why can't it just be "Make the most of the time you have, life is short"? Atheists always have to make it about religion, or their lack there of.

One day you will die, and this life will end. It doesn't t matter if you go to heaven, or hell, or just to dust, you won't t be living this life. The people you love, the places you like to go, the dreams for your future, the lover you take for granted, all gone. Religion won't t change that fact. Unless you believe in Eternal Return, this life is a one shot deal. Make the best of it.

No one has absolute proof of whether or not gods exist. The lack of prrof is not a proof itself, right? Always be respectful and let people be happy with what they want.

The BIG problem fo you is that you have zero proof that you are right.

Hahahaha! I just saw a YouTube video of Steve Martin's banjo band singing "Athiests Ain't Got No Song". It's hilarious.

I would say pray as much as you want as long as it makes you happy. But I think God has to say no more than he can say yes

A person's true happiness is communion with god

I'd like to give you an upvote, but the counter is at 42 & I think it needs to stay there.

It varies, they have the companies best interests at heart but that does not mean that they can't be friendly and even handed with you. As in everything your own judgement of people is paramount. In the twenty years I worked for a company with an HR department they had a turnaround of about ten people, with four or five employed at any one time. A couple were just the nicest people you could meet. four or five, nice, and a couple I would trust as far as I could throw them.

I was 35 when I realized everyone, everyone, EVERYONE is just making it up as they go along. Some try harder than others, but we're all just trying to figure it out as we go

Finance's, education, circumstances, who you know ( it's true, we all know it ) all play a part of that, you may be want to be a cop for instance, however, if you're colourblind, you can't ( UK ) so that statement is true, up to a point....

Oooorr - you are unique, just like everyone else in the world ☺️

That should be taught in school

"If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice." ~ Rush

LOL I had a principal who paddled me and locked me in a supply closet. My teachers sucked. Thank god kids today are treated better than I was.

Wow I never thought of it this way, great advice 👍

I'm 70, when I was sixteen a guy knocked me off my Lambretta Scooter, I was only doing twenty tops. Helmet had a gouge out of it, 9 inches long about a quarter of an inch deep, down the side. The injury would have stretched from the top of my head to the middle of my jaw. I just came away with a couple of bruises. Wear your helmet!

Under promise, over deliver.

The greatest wisdom achievable, is the ability to say, "I know nothing".

This hit home, especially if the ones you trusted are family members 😔

"...If you choose not to decide You still have made a choice..." RUSH 1980

Fair enough, i dont like most people either

It's absolutely true. At my workplace we had a cis-het short blond girl who sat around doodling and not working most of the day. The cis-het men in the office fawned over her and let her get away with it. But we had a neuro-divergent trans girl who wasn't traditionally attractive that would finish her work and then relax. The trans girl was fired for being lazy. The cis girl was promoted and given mentorship to "greater realize her potential". Many people only care if you're pretty and "normal". I sat near both of them and have access to the metrics. The trans girl did literally 5x the work of the cis

Sometimes it isn't even 1% about you.

But, again: It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose.

Yep. One big indication of emotional maturity is accepting the consequences of our actions.

Some wounds never heal completely.

but if you try sometimes, you might find...

I may be the main character in my life, but the dressing room I've been assigned does not reflect that.

Baz Lurhmannn!!! 💜💜💜

The fact that someone has it worse doesn't make your problems less important. And, the fact that someone has it better doesn't make your happiness less deserved. You have a right to be happy and to be sad. Both are part of life.

My father worked for a major corporation for over 25 years and suddenly died. The corporation took his pension and put it in its pocket, telling my mother "Sorry, mam, you have to live to collect a pension." They can't do that today because of what companies call "Intrusive government regulations." Pickpockets, pimps, and pushers resent government interference in their professions as well. And for the same reason.

If at first you don't succeed, don't take up skydiving.

An addendum: Also realize that even the people who are there for you will have their limits. (I found this out when I lost my job a few years back, and had to bounce around a bit because I hit those limits with a few family members and friends.) But that's fine. If the tables were turned, you'd probably be the same. So be grateful for what you get, even if it's not as much as what you were hoping for.

The last part I'd modify to say, "Learn the difference between friends and acquaintances." There's nothing wrong with someone "just" being an acquaintance but don't place friend level expectations on them. Also, some people are there for a phase of life and then the friendship fades as situations, locations, people, etc... change/grow. That's okay too. It doesn't necessarily mean they weren't a friend.

People who are good with "X" tend to have better lives than people who are terrible with "X. Being good at something is usually better than being terrible at it.

We've isolated and insulated ourselves from death. People died at home more often, then had viewings or the like at home, and were sometimes even buried on the homestead. Now its hospitals and the predatory funeral home industry.

Not only this, but watch out for pink/green/rainbow/inclusiveness washing at work. They will use the "affirmed company values" that they display on the website/employee handbook as a way to claim they are inclusive. But at the end of the day, they will promote their buddies over anyone who doesn't look/act like them

This is a legit confession

Fair does not mean "all things equal", fair means "all things considered".

You can't change others, you can only change yourself.

If only it were that easy - there are some regrets that weld themselves to the heart.

The night my ex boyfriend attacked me? Leaving me disabled for life etc, I had done nothing to him btw first, not physically or verbally, he started it out of nowhere......... I fought back. I bit his ankle just after he had stomped, kicked etc me and then I reached up and pulled and twisted his balls hard. He had loose jeans on. His scream from that? I still hear it sometimes in nightmare dreams but it's the most satisfying sound that I keep hold of. Those were the only two things I physically did in retaliation that night.... And I'm glad that I did.

"If I was wrong.. wouldn't I know it?" - Sheldon Cooper...The Big Bang Theory

This should be higher, much higher.

Use love and people things?