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Man Opens His Home To GF’s Parents, Hits The Brakes When They Claim His Bedroom And Eye His Cars
Elderly couple in bed smiling at each other during a visit, highlighting suite bedroom and relationship challenges.

Man Opens His Home To GF’s Parents, Hits The Brakes When They Claim His Bedroom And Eye His Cars

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Hosting family can be a rewarding experience, but it can also quickly become stressful when boundaries are ignored. Inviting guests into your home comes with unspoken rules, and when those rules are disregarded, tension can rise, sometimes within hours of their arrival.

This was the situation today’s Original Poster (OP) found himself when his girlfriend’s came to spend some time with them due to a snowstorm. Just within a few days, their actions left him counting down to the day when they would leave.

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    Elderly couple in a suite bedroom smiling and relaxing together during a visit, highlighting family and accommodation issues.

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    The author’s girlfriend’s parents visited from the Midwest, bringing cold attitudes and critical opinions about California and Los Angeles

    Girlfriend’s parents visit, insist on using boyfriend’s car and staying in master suite instead of guest room.

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    Text describing problems with girlfriend’s parents insisting on suite bedroom and issues with boyfriend’s car during visit.

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    Upon arrival, they took over the master bedroom for a nap and complained about where they all went to eat out for dinner

    Young couple faces problems as girlfriend’s parents insist on suite bedroom and borrowing boyfriend’s car during their visit.

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    Text describing problems when GF’s parents visit, insisting on suite bedroom and driving a classic 1967 Pontiac GTO car.

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    The next morning, they asked to drive his high-performance Ford Focus RS and later demanded his classic 1967 Pontiac GTO, despite inexperience

    Parents visiting insist on suite bedroom and boyfriend’s car, causing problems during their stay.

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    Couple looking worried as GF’s parents arrive, causing tension over suite bedroom and boyfriend’s car use.

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    He strongly refused and rented them a safer car which they begrudgingly accepted, and this left him looking forward to the day they would leave

    The OP shared that he and his girlfriend have been together for nearly two and a half years, even though her parents have never warmed up to him. Living in the Midwest, they never really liked California, especially Los Angeles, and views it as a waste of space.

    However, a looming snowstorm convinced them that staying with the OP and the girlfriend near the ocean would be better for them. First off, the OP returned from work and found out that his girlfriend’s parents had helped themselves to the master bedroom for a nap and reacted poorly when told to move to the guest room.

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    Having dinner out didn’t help. In fact, they complained about food quality and rather praised Taco Bell and Chipotle, which left the OP mentally exhausted and causing him to tune them out. The next day, the parents then asked to borrow his modified, 500-horsepower Ford Focus RS with a manual transmission.

    With neither parent having driven stick in decades, the OP refused and offered a rental car at a discounted rate which was reasonable, but they rejected the offer. Instead, they then requested his 1967 Pontiac GTO convertible, stating they had a lifelong dream of cruising the Pacific Coast Highway. When the OP refused again, they begrudgingly settled for a rented Toyota Camry.

    Classic red Pontiac car at an outdoor show, illustrating issues with BF’s car during GF’s parents visit.

    Image credits: Joe Ross / Flicker (not the actual photo)

    When hosting guests, respecting boundaries is crucial, and disregarding them can quickly sour a visit. Veranda notes that entering unassigned rooms, going through personal items, or overstaying your welcome are all surefire ways to create tension.

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    For the OP, the situation escalated when his girlfriend’s parents requested to drive high-performance and classic cars. Car Vertical explains that lending powerful vehicles to inexperienced drivers is statistically risky, as their capabilities can far exceed a driver’s skill, increasing the likelihood of accidents.

    Adding another layer, Marsh McLennan Agency highlights that classic, valuable, or fragile cars carry both financial and emotional investment, and lending them exposes owners to damage, depreciation, and liability. Most owners prefer to keep such vehicles off-limits, protecting their prized possessions and peace of mind.

    Netizens mostly expressed shock and frustration at the parents’ behavior, with many emphasizing the importance of boundaries. They also encouraged standing firm and letting the in-laws know the limits. What do you think about this situation? Do you think the OP handled the situation with his girlfriend’s parents well, or would you have done something differently? We would love to know your thoughts!

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    Netizens stressed that setting boundaries early is crucial, and reminded the author that marrying his girlfriend may also mean navigating her family’s behavior long-term

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    Monika Pašukonytė

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    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because OP seems to think it's a cultural difference, this is not normal Midwesterner behavior. But where is gf in all this? Handle your parents, help your partner. She's the one who will known how to get the info through to their addled brains, or who will know it won't reach them. She should be talking to OP and easing tension/making plans, laughing about how entitled her parents are and how she's come out ok despite being raised by AH. If it's that important, have gf drive them up the PCT, it could be financial issues that are keeping them from renting.

    Dusty's mom
    Community Member
    21 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in Indiana. Sadly, the in-laws behave like way too many people around me. But maybe those kind of people are endemic everywhere?

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    Paul C
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First comment was spot on - this is GF's problem to deal with. Her job to say no. And not to blame it on OP either. Plus they should d**n well hire their own car if they want to drive.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These is the first Midwestern guests I've ever heard of where you don't have to argue them into staying in the master bedroom or driving the nicer car. It's a cliche for a reason.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because OP seems to think it's a cultural difference, this is not normal Midwesterner behavior. But where is gf in all this? Handle your parents, help your partner. She's the one who will known how to get the info through to their addled brains, or who will know it won't reach them. She should be talking to OP and easing tension/making plans, laughing about how entitled her parents are and how she's come out ok despite being raised by AH. If it's that important, have gf drive them up the PCT, it could be financial issues that are keeping them from renting.

    Dusty's mom
    Community Member
    21 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in Indiana. Sadly, the in-laws behave like way too many people around me. But maybe those kind of people are endemic everywhere?

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    Paul C
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First comment was spot on - this is GF's problem to deal with. Her job to say no. And not to blame it on OP either. Plus they should d**n well hire their own car if they want to drive.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These is the first Midwestern guests I've ever heard of where you don't have to argue them into staying in the master bedroom or driving the nicer car. It's a cliche for a reason.

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