We’ve never had it easier when it comes to buying and selling secondhand stuff. That unworn top gathering dust in your closet? Someone out there wants it. Looking for a cute bag without the boutique price tag? A few clicks online and it’s yours. At least, that’s the theory.
In practice, anything involving other humans is destined to go sideways. Which is why both buyers and sellers regularly find themselves in increasingly unhinged DM exchanges that would make Tarantino dialogue look reasonable.
The Instagram account DM Drama captures these gloriously painful conversations in all their chaotic glory. We’ve rounded up the best of them below.
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Why would you order if the reviews seem to have a recurring theme of her lying?
The ferocity in some of these DMs makes you wonder if people think they’re wrestling over the last discounted flatscreen on Black Friday instead of a used sundress.
The haggling, the indignation, the dramatic standoffs over a $15 shirt would make a medieval marketplace merchant proud. It’s absurd, and yet completely entertaining to witness strangers go to war over secondhand clothes.
The word “thrift” itself dates back to 1300s Middle English, meaning “fact or condition of thriving” and “prosperity, savings.” The concept grew not from desperation but from using resources carefully to prosper.
According to Dennita Sewell, professor of practice and fashion expert at Arizona State University’s Herberger Institute for Design and the Arts, “The secondhand trade is one of the oldest forms of clothing for the common man. Every era it comes to provides a reflection of the ideals of that period.”
Much rather have the baked beans than any association with the UK's home-grown MAGA wannabes.
This trade has ancient roots. Piles of used clothes appeared in market squares across Europe as early as the 1300s. As society modernized, secondhand clothing operated as a bartering system, serving low income communities during the Middle Ages. The practice was practical and unremarkable for centuries.
The Industrial Revolution changed everything. Mass production made clothing more affordable and disposable, which sounds positive until you consider what it did to perceptions of secondhand goods.
As Sewell told The State Press, economic divides widened and classism became more rampant. Secondhand consumption became stigmatized, particularly targeting immigrant communities and fostering xenophobia.
The modern idea of thrifting as we know it emerged between the mid 1800s and early 1900s with organizations like the Salvation Army and Goodwill.
“The popularity of thrifting has come and gone throughout the years,” Sewell explained. “Sometimes it represented something greater than itself, other times it represented staying in the past. It all has to do with the culture of the time.”
The early 1900s carried that unjust stigma until the Great Depression hit and consumer demand for secondhand clothes exceeded supply. Suddenly, thrifting wasn’t shameful anymore.
The later half of the 20th century proved more open minded. The 1970s in particular sparked a new wave of thrifting tied directly to counterculture movements.
“The 1970s was all about expressing individuality to the youth counterculture,” Sewell said. “Thrifting represented freedom for them. The hippie movement allowed secondhand clothing to have more value and become chic again.”
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Today, the secondhand clothing market is massive. According to ThredUp’s 2025 Resale Report, the global secondhand apparel market is expected to reach $367 billion by 2029, more than double its size from 2023.
Online platforms have supercharged this growth, making it easier than ever to buy and sell used clothes from your couch.
Take Vinted, one of Europe’s largest secondhand fashion platforms. The company has 80 million registered members across 18 countries as of 2023. That’s a staggering number of people actively buying, selling, and browsing used clothing.
In the UK alone, one in three people bought secondhand fashion in 2023, a trend driven largely by younger shoppers.
The business model behind these platforms is straightforward but effective. Sellers list items, set their own prices, and ship directly to buyers. The platforms typically take a small commission or service fee.
Vinted operates slightly differently by charging buyers a protection fee instead of taking commission from sellers, while Depop and Poshmark take a percentage of each sale. This peer-to-peer model eliminates the middleman of traditional retail.
So she's selling on a website, and he can't find any other way of contacting her (cos he's blocked) so uses her selling page to communicate. Clunky but enterprising.
What’s driving this boom isn’t just affordability. A McKinsey report on fashion found that sustainability concerns are increasingly influencing purchase decisions, particularly among younger, urban consumers.
The fashion industry is one of the world’s biggest polluters, and buying secondhand is one tangible way people can reduce their environmental impact. Fast fashion’s overproduction has created mountains of waste, and secondhand markets help extend the life of garments that might otherwise end up in landfills.
Totally reasonable, theres just no possible way to take that extremely robust can apart to free his very definitely stuck finger without going to A&E.
But beneath all the environmental virtue and economic sense, there’s something delightfully chaotic about the human element. The platforms are smooth, the algorithms are smart, but the actual interactions between buyers and sellers remain wonderfully, messily human.
Which brings us back to those DMs, where someone’s offering $3 for a vintage leather jacket and acting personally victimized when it gets declined.
Magaluf is a resort town in Spain. I had to look it up to understand this one.
tbf this does seem like quite a rude reaction when it wasn’t being messed around that much tbf. like i had to put a pic up of a dress to reserve it seperate and got no response and was unbothered. didn’t lose much from it cept five mins on my phone 🤷♀️ seems like they was gonna buy - no proof of lie
Evri has to the one of the worst delivery firms in the UK. Last weekend found one ferreting around in my basement light well. Told me he could read the note on my front door from his van saying I was in. Took a lid from my recycling bin. Refused to give me the parcel. Came back with it 20 mins later. Then put his foot in my door. Needless to say no response from Evri customer service or the CEO. Unfortunately Evri is the default option for many EBay sellers.
It's the speeling on sum of theese wot is making my teef hitch! Yikes!
It's the speeling on sum of theese wot is making my teef hitch! Yikes!
