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People are not always as great and amazing as they might seem at first. At one point or another, we are bound to see the person's true colors and intent. More often than not, it's not that bad, and we learn to live with our differences. However, this online thread is not dedicated to those types of stories.
After this Redditor asked, "What's the fastest you've ever gone from caring about someone to straight up loathing them?" people swarmed to share their experiences, which range from sad to absolutely bonkers. So if you're missing some drama in your life, this is the article for you. And if you have your own stories to share, please do so in the comment section below.
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#1
Had a male bestie for more than 10 years... One night I was upset and crying cause I witnessed my friends die at the beach a few weeks earlier. He stays over to comfort me and suggests he sleep over so I wouldn't be alone. He promised he wouldn't do anything. I believed him. So he held me while I cried myself to sleep. I wake up to him fingring me... Without my consent obviously I lost my mind. And told him off and kicked him out my house... He came nack a few days later to apologise but I was so disgusted with him I told him to f**k off and never talk to me again. I blocked him... I felt so disgusted and betrayed...
Susie Elle 3 years ago
Yup. Honestly I can't believe how some people are apparently this sick in the head.
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KombatBunni 3 years ago
I would have broken both hands in as many places as possible and then thrown him out. What a f*cking a*****e
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 3 years ago
You seem like a fellow violent hedgehog brethren… where should I hide the body? Just throw it into outer space, or turn it into ashes and hide it in my spaceship?
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Aniviel 3 years ago
"Not all men" they cry, but how the f**k are we supposed to know which are the genuinely good ones?
nuberiffic 3 years ago
Doesn't that apply to everything and everyone though?
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Helen Jane Witten 3 years ago
When I was younger and in share houses etc and if there was a male in the house I pretty much always slept with one eye open because of this sort of s**t.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It's disturbingly sad how often people will take advantage of someone in their weakest moments, leaving them people even more devastated than they initially were. It's gutwretching to witness the predators that do these things.
CatWoman312 3 years ago
He never was your friend. Men who do this are predators. They need to see themselves for what they really are.
Rose 3 years ago
Is anyone else confused by the comment "he promised he wouldn't do anything"? Normal friends don't have say this... (not trying to undermine OP at all, just confused!)
Brazen 3 years ago
That's the first thought I had. If you have to say it, it's definitely on your mind....what a jerk.
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#2
The first girl I ever dated died unexpectedly on my then current gf and my's 3 year anniversary. My then gf stated she was pissed because my ex had "Died on purpose that day because it was our anniversary". I was utterly disgusted and it completely changed how I viewed her all together. Things fell apart shortly after and we broke up
Pittsburgh rare 3 years ago
Suuuure the other girl was keeping track of their anniversaries to ruin it with....her dead. Some people are so self centered they even spin in circles. HOWEVER, l was in a relationship with someone whose exes always came first, and he'd drop any plans if one of them "needed" him. If your SO doesn't prioritise you over their exes, they're not the right match for you.
Lee 3 years ago
Not necessarily self centered...some people are just that dumb
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Lavendar rose 3 years ago
Good call. She obviously wasn't mature enough to be in a relationship.
Dan Bexell 3 years ago
You were right to stop dating that first girl. So self centered, she died on your "anniversary".
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
What a deluded hussy. She's so full of shît her breath stinks...
We asked Dr. Claudia Brumbaugh some questions about this topic, and she shared some amazing insights. We asked her if she thinks cutting people out of your life is a good thing: "When people are a negative influence on your life it might make sense for your own well-being to cut people out. For instance, Eisenkraft & Elfenbein (2010) identified 'negative affective presence' in some people. They found that certain other people accounted for 23% of the variance of one's own negative emotions.
And one's own trait affect accounted for 19% of the variance in one's own negative emotions, which means that others are just as responsible for your negative emotions as you are. This shows some people have a negative presence that affects one's own emotions in a negative way. If you keep these people in your life, they will have an ongoing negative impact on your emotional state."
#3
friend at a bar tells some people we just met how her mother died, later in the night i express my sympathy -- now she's without parents. she'd told me hush-hush a few years prior about how father had passed.
"wait did i tell you back then my dad died? i thought i told you it was my mum! no, both my parents are still alive; when we were in uni **i just read in a book telling people a parent has died is an good way to get sympathy, ha ha!**"
f*****g sociopath
Blaze Fitzwater 3 years ago
I hate this so much! Both of my parents really are dead. This girl is such a c*** nugget. 😤
Debrina Blackmoon 3 years ago (edited)
Right?! *Adds "cuntnugget" to vocab*
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Sami-Jo Ross 3 years ago
And now when her parents actually do die no one will believe her because she screwed up.
CatWoman312 3 years ago
I would never make up something like that as I’d be afraid it would really happen
Artsy Bookworm 3 years ago
I recently watched a movie with practically the same plot. A guy living with his friends says he loved his mom, had no dad and his mom recently died of cancer. In the end they learnt he had up and left his mom and she thought he had been dead for years. Proper sociopath
deanna woods 3 years ago
People that fake losing a loved one are so incredibly cruel and awful. In one year, I lost four family members. I would love to say that that never happened.
GenericPanda09 3 years ago
Reminds me of one of my ex's - when we got together she told me all about her ex husband and all the nasty things he did to her including controlling her by locking her in the house whilst he was at work with VHS's recording what she did during the day there. After we split up someone asked me how I could do those sorts of things and basically called me out for all the things she told me he'd done to her - After being puzzled for a few minutes until I realised they weren't confusing me for her other ex it turned out that she just had this whole made up fantasy victimhood thing and whichever was her most recent ex became the villain in her narrative using the same stories over and over, just to different audiences. All for a bit of sympathy and attention. She also now works with real abused women and steals their stories as her own. Absolute nutcase.
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
My ex was doing everything possible to get back in my life. He told me his Dad died, which really upset me because his Dad and I had been pretty close. So, I called his sister to give her my sympathies and offer the ginger jar that matched the one his Moms ashes had been put into. His Dad answered the phone. I've rarely wanted to cause serious physical harm to another human being as much as I did him right then. Yeah, leaving him was one of the best decisions I ever made.
Christina R 3 years ago
Did you tell his dad why you were calling? What did he say (about not being dead)?
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Little_Red 3 years ago
Wow what a lowlife. As somebody that lost most of their loved ones before turning 30, I hate that people take their family for granted and make up BS about them.
#4
I kinda like you.
"Your autism is probably caused by vaccines"
Okay, I kinda liked you ten seconds ago.
Dan Bexell 3 years ago
People will apparently believe anything nowadays. I just found out that Humpty Didn't fall, he was pushed!
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
oh jesus what will the illuminati hide from us next? clearly it is a plan by the global elites /s
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DrGirlfriend 3 years ago
As someone who has twins on the spectrum and who has taught kids on the spectrum. The only correlation is that autism is noticed when kids are not hitting milestones which happens when you go for check ups. When a baby goes for check ups they get vaccines that is the only correlation the timing only because a professional is looking over your kid.. stop it people please stop making up sht you have zero knowledge about. Hearing a podcast don't make you an expert on this.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
How (bleep) long is it going to take for word to get out that that was debunked so hard that the "doctor" in question lost his license to practice medicine? Eleven years isn't long enough? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3136032/
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MimSorensson 3 years ago (edited)
FAIL. Total fail. If you connect autism to vaccines, we can’t be friends ever.
GenericPanda09 3 years ago
pmsl... went on a date once with a woman who spent half an hour showing me pictures of 'chemtrails' ....... e.g. normal planes flying. We did not have a 2nd date xd
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
Thank Jenny McCarthy for that bit of bullsh*t. But then, doesn't everyone get their medical advice from former Playboy bunnies?
Lucky2BAlive 3 years ago
I would have been what now a days they call “snarky” and said maybe so, but that explains my hanging around with you. There is no vaccine for the highly contagious stupidity pandemic.
We also wondered why people pretend to be someone else in the first place: "Because everyone basically knows what is attractive. For hetero women that is easier to know since men have more consensus in what they are looking for in a female partner (e.g., femininity, curvaceousness, seductive qualities). Women are much more variable in what they are looking for.
Also, stereotypes are partially true. Evolutionary theory provides explanations and cross-cultural data showing that men care more about beauty and youth, and women care more about status and earning power. To 'pretend,' women could do something like wear makeup to look more flawless/youthful, and men could pretend by renting a luxury car for a day.
And finally, narcissists are charming and attractive on first impression. They're not really 'pretending' though, that's just how they come off at first. Later, upon getting to know them better, their arrogance and manipulative nature often damage the relationship beyond repair."
#5
One summer back in high school years, I had a crush on this girl and we'd hang out when we weren't working together. A friend of mine would keep insisting that I should just ask her out. So I mustered my courage and asked her out. Yeah - it was a glorious fail. I still remember when she smiled and told me the truth.
That was when I found out that they had been secretly dating for a year and thought it would be a "lark" to just f**k with me.
100 to 0 in a few words and a vicious smile.
SheamusFanFrom1987 3 years ago
That guy ain't a friend, he's a scumbucket that needs to be dropped liked he's 100 degrees Celsius hot. Smh...
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
That's just a cruel joke between two pieces of dog shît. That's some punk âss bîtch thing to do to someone.
#6
When the guy I'd been *really* into got a little tipsy and confessed to me he'd had an affair with a married woman. Ok, he was young and it's not that uncommon when we're immature, overly emotional and idealistic and selfish. It had been off and on for 20 years. And possibly produced 2 children. Who they just let her husband raise no matter whose they were because Guy I'd Been Seeing "just wouldn't be a good father". I have never, before or since, experienced such a moment of instant shock, disgust, and loathing. I was just like "Hey, thanks for telling me you're trash early on. Saved me a lot of time", left him at the restaurant and took a Lyft home. He called me for 2 days wanting to "explain". There would be a possible explanation for a short fling when young and dumb. There is nothing that explains THAT. Edit, since no one can do math. The affair started when this man was in his 20s. He and I were both in our 40s when we briefly dated. Some people on Reddit are above the age of 20.
Lianna Bolt 3 years ago
I don’t understand ppl sometimes. When I was 21 & at work, I went out for a smoke as the next shift was taking over. This shift included a girl who was dating this dude. As I’m having my smoke, her bf comes up to me & tells me he’s only with her out of convenience. I was stunned…I even asked him, “WHY ARE TOU TELLING ME THIS??”
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
He was probably hoping you'd be amenable to being the side piece.
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My goodness you had to explain the math here? Come on kids us millennials and x’ use social media too, our generation invented it.
jaysko 3 years ago
Coulda done without the tude tho! (not you, the OP!) I'm in my mid 30s, and while yes I do still consider 40s to be young, when I see "he was young" I'm def thinking like 20s
Load More Replies... Susan Widomski 3 years ago
I am tired of hearing someone would not be a good parent and use that excuse forever. Birth control or abstinence. There are too many unwanted children in most of the world.
Doctor Claudia Brumbaugh shared if there are any telltale signs to show someone's faking: "There are many ways to be 'fake,' so that's a tough question. People are pretty good at reading others' personalities though, even within a couple of minutes. Evolutionary theorists say we have a 'cheater detection mechanism.'"
#7
Uh, I have a two-for-one deal here:
Walking in on my now ex-boyfriend having sex with my ex-best friend in my own room on my birthday party.
Edit:
Since that's a lot of comments to reply to individually (I'm very sorry) , here are some FAQs answered:
It was my 19th birthday.
I did throw the bed out afterwards just because it reminded me of it daily.
When I walked in, I was shocked, told him that it's over, kicked both of them out into 2°C weather while they were still half-naked, and then did tequila shots with my other, non-a*****e friends.
I don't know what happened to them but I really don't care.
It took some time to trust people again but I'm much better now
Carol Emory 3 years ago (edited)
My cousin said her friend from school was visiting her and my cousins boyfriend. She came home early from work to find the two of them in bed. Kicked them both out and called his mother. (Cousin worked at the mom's boutique and wanted to retain her job. His mom understood and refused to help him find a new apartment.) She said a month later, she found out that her former best friend had gotten into a car accident and had to have her jaw wired shut. And I said "And you don't feel the least bit sorry for her." She replied with "Karma is a Byotch."
Potato 3 years ago
No. Just no. Never try to use this excuse, it will NOT work for you. I've been black out drunk more than once, and NEVER mistook my SOs identity. They'd have to be identical twins.
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2 minutes, he pranked me by making me think he was gonna kill himself, then he got a friend to text me that he did and that I was my fault for not responding sooner. When I was having a full on panic attack and almost killing myself out of guilt he told me it was a prank and the two friends asked me if I wanted to have a threesome. (I have depression, suicidal thoughts and yes he knew that.)
BlackestDawn 3 years ago
If you think of it as the "friends" and their GF's or other friends celebrating the "prank" then it's fitting, disgusting but fitting.
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Rahul Pawa 3 years ago
It's even worse when you consider the friend: "he killed himself and it's your fault! Lol jk he's alive, wanna bang both of us?"
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S Mi 3 years ago
This is not a prank even if OP didn't experience suicidal thoughts. It's emotional abuse.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
I wouldn't dignify these creeps by calling them "people".
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 3 years ago
I'd happily take three shots to this moron's neither regions instead. These aren't friends, just scummy miscreants... -_-
Asphalt Bubblegum 3 years ago
If anyone ever deserved to be SWAT-ted, it would being this "pranking" douche canoe.
And lastly, we wondered if it's easy to go from loving someone to absolutely hating them: "True love/attachment would be unlikely to turn to loathing quickly. Love develops over time and fosters commitment and pair-bonding. However, lust could turn to loathing since perhaps one didn't have enough time to really get to know who the person was during those early lustful days/weeks."
#9
As fast as it took for his wife to call me at work to tell me that he was not only married, but had three children including a newborn.
Tinu 3 years ago (edited)
How hard is it to not cheat on your wife? People out here are acting like it's a deadly challenge to be a decent person with love and respect for their spouses.
Pittsburgh rare 3 years ago (edited)
He's also cheating on the other woman and she also deserves sympathy. The number of side pieces who don't know they are is incredible.
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CatWoman312 3 years ago
Had a first date with a guy once and at the last minute he changed where we’d eat. He blamed lack of parking (he drove a truck with a trailer) but now I know that was a lie. Well I get to where he wanted to meet and this car pulls up next to me, a woman with some young children in the back. She asked if I was there to meet the guy and I said yes. She said she was his wife and those were his kids. I told her I was so sorry I had no idea and she should leave him. I never drove off somewhere so fast!
NasiGorengPete Telor 3 years ago (edited)
Bruh you're in a romantic relationship, that includes your SO's feelings so ffs please, if you no longer have feelings for your current SO then PLEASE break up peacefully, it might be hard, it might be hurting your SO too, but at least you're not hurting them by breaking their trust, YOUR SO'S FEELINGS ALSO MATTER GODDAMNIT
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
Not to mention the risk of STDs, massive financial strain when the side piece needs child support, etc.
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I love it when my former SIL had an affair with a guy that was married and had 2 kids with a baby on the way. When my BIL found out, she told him the marriage was over and she was running off to be with her boyfriend. Problem was, she sabotaged his ability to stay where he was by threatening the landlord (got them evicted,) tried to take off with everything her daughters owned so that they would be forced to come stay with her (that got blocked,) but then goes three states away to be with her boyfriend only for him to tell her "I have no intention of leaving my wife for you." He had fessed up to the wife about the affair and she agreed to work through the betrayal for the sake of the kids. When I found out SIL had been ditched with no going back, I laughed.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
Napalming her bridges really didn't work out for her. Good. She deserved it.
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Abner_Mality 3 years ago
On top of all the "how hard is it to not cheat..." How these people find the time to cheat? I find it incredibly difficult to find 15 minutes for myself...
#10
My mother fought cancer for 5 years. My father let my sister and I do 95% of the work/caregiving and after her death expected us to step into her place and take care of him. The man I used to love and respect is gone and I can't stand to be around him anymore.
Carol Emory 3 years ago (edited)
My friends mother died from breast cancer. She said her father had taken every picture of her mother and destroyed it because seeing her face only brought pain. My friend managed to save one picture from destruction and hates her father for trying to wipe out her memories of her mother.
Laroo 3 years ago
My mother did this after she divorced my father. Hundreds of pics lost because she couldn’t stand to look at him. My siblings and I now have no baby pictures because we were in those pictures too.* (*obviously not the same as someone dying but the loss of those pictures is keenly felt)
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Potato 3 years ago
And some people just want a mother or maid instead of a wife.
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Icecream Sarang 3 years ago
My husbands father had a stroke and passed away. My MIL assumed he’s step up and take care of her, and flat out said “Family first.” When he explained his wife and children were his no 1 priority m, she said “That’s not family! I’m your family!!!” We moved 4 states away. No more drama.
Isaac Harvey 3 years ago
As a brain cancer survivor of 9 years, this disgusts me more than anything else on this list.
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
Family counseling. There but for the luck of fate, will we all be one day.
Damitria 3 years ago
Same thing happened to me. Mom died if cancer when I was 14 and I was oldest girl. That plus abuse made me go NC with him. Still suffer from psychological problems. Paents need to parent not make children step in and take a parental role.
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I loved (still love) playing Pokémon and I had no female friends with the same interest. Found out about this group of guys that played it after school. Got really excited and made plans with them. I waited for hours and they never showed up... next day I overhear my best childhood friend laughing about how annoying I was and that they had to hide from me to play in peace. That really hurt
Mrs.Pugh 3 years ago
People can actually be really annoying. They can, it's like they were just born that way and you may not like them. But if someone you don't like asks to hang out with you, say no. Say no. If they ask, you can tell them what's up and it may hurt their feelings, but getting invited to something and no one else showing up and then being told it's because you're annoying, will hurt more. So just say no, be honest and don't be messy.
Tan 3 years ago
What do you do if they still follow you though? There's this girl who keeps asking us (my friend group) out for lunch, and every time we keep declining. She never gets the message though, because yesterday she texted again asking to hang out. This has been going on for a year almost. Really the most annoying person I've met.
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Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
I don't even know how to play that game, but maybe they could teach me.
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SobyKay 3 years ago
Never ceases to amaze me how ppl we trust and sincerely think are friends are actually the opposite. I thought I was the only one who got duped like this. Its a little comforting knowing other have been in similar situations, even though it makes me really sad & angry that this happens 😢
#12
My father abandoned me and my ill mother. He just, ran away.
I am a single child so I had to take care of her on my own. It was hard.
I loathed him, hated him. I no longer hate him, just fogot about him. Hating someone for too long takes a heavy toll. I am grateful to have had the chance to take care of my mother and help her get well.
KBT 3 years ago
It's so disgustingly common for men to just up and leave their sick wives. Despicable.
Brandi Delph 3 years ago
My dad stayed with my mom through her long decline in health. She passed when the were both in their mid 40s. The number of people who praised him for NOT leaving her was shocking, like leaving her was the expected thing.
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Carol Emory 3 years ago
I was listening to a radio show about "when did you meet the person of your dreams." One woman said she was married when she got into an accident in which the tailgate of her truck flew up and hit the cab of the truck breaking her back. She was in the hospital facing the knowledge that she'd never walk again. Her husband walked in...took one look at her and said "I can't do this" and left, never to return. Everyone on the radio gasped in disgust. She said it was the best thing to ever happen to her because, after the divorce, she met a man going to the same physical therapy facility she was going to and he was an angel. They'd been married for several years.
Akshara Panduga 3 years ago
the father is a twatbucket. you did not deserve this pain and I am glad you are doing well now❤️
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
Some people simply cannot deal with someone who needs care. They are either too lazy or not committed enough or never expected to happen in their life. In general we need to have a circle of love that extends to all in that circle, because it is inevitable that we will need care ourselves one day and you don't want it from someone that hates you,
CatWoman312 3 years ago
I don’t know if this really applies to the post, but it’s nice to hear the person was able to heal and move on
GoGoPDX 3 years ago
PSA about down votes. Down votes get people banned or suspended. They are not supposed to be used as dislike buttons, they are a reporting tool for spam, harassment and hate. BP does not review the comments, and if you get down votes over 10, you will get a message that you account has been suspended for suspicious activity. 3 suspensions equal a permanent ban. That is also why down votes comments are hidden. If someone has a different opinion or point of view and it doesn't fall into harassment, hate, or spam, scroll on by or comment. But let's not get people banned or suspended unless they really need to be.
Piper 3 years ago
They are mostly sociopaths who have no ability to feel anything. Not love, not guilt. My exhusband is a textbook narcissist. He abandoned my special needs child at the age of 6. Walked out on her birthday and hasn’t spoken to her since. She hates her birthday, it’s so heartbreaking and as her mama, I want to fix it, but I can’t. He is now married to my ex best friend. Analyze that one…if he can do this to his children, what do you think he is capable of doing to you? I don’t know that I will trust anyone ever again, honestly.
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Debrina Blackmoon 3 years ago (edited)
There are many "people" I will always hate for perfectly legit reasons unless I forget they exist. Nothing will ever change my mind.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
What a selfish piece of garbage. I'm so glad that her and her mom are doing better now.
#13
When my grandfather screamed at my mother that she had ruined his life by being born. Never spoke to him again after that.
Kim Shannon 3 years ago
Like she had any choice in the matter!? If she'd had a choice, I'm sure she'd have chosen a decent father!
D Peterson 3 years ago
My mother once told me that having me ruined her life. I think I was in my late teens. I've never forgotten. This was only one of many unforgivable things she did or said to me that I overlooked for years. It wasn't just me she did this to but my siblings, too. Finally when I was in my early 30s I'd had enough & couldn't be around her anymore. It's been over 30 years since we've seen each other or spoken. Sometimes the memories are still painful but I'm better without the relationship. Not everyone should have children regardless what some extremists believe.
Piper 3 years ago
I had my oldest child at 20. I told her she saved my life- I got it all together, got through college and grad school because she needed me. She is now 30.
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JuniorCJ82 3 years ago
He ruined his own life by not pulling out. What a d**k. So glad OP went NC.
Phoebe Moon 3 years ago
My dad said this to me when I was 18 while drunk. Not something I like to remember.
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
Because obviously that was all HER fault. My Grandmother was like that with my Mom. Yeah, it's all Mom's fault that you couldn't keep your legs closed.
#14
Ex and I dated off and on for 5 years. Birth control failed and I wound up pregnant. The minute I told him he completely changed - called me every name in the book. Threatened to beat the sh*t out of me so I would miscarry. After he ordered me to abort/adopt her out I said that I wanted to keep her but would leave his name off the birth certificate. He said "No, if you have her then I want her. I'll fight you for her and make your life miserable." And even though she's a teenager, he's still trying to get full custody and take her away.
Minath 3 years ago
A 13+ year custody battle must be awful how on earth can you live your life with that hanging over your head for your daughter's entire life.
Elladine DesIsles 3 years ago
I lived for many years raising my ex-partner's biological child, without ever having legal custody. Ex never wanted her, but used the threat of taking her away to control and abuse me for years after we'd broken up. Then, tried to take custody of our grandson whom I've raised from birth, because a new partner wanted another child. I won that one, easily (though the court process is long and painful), after which ex immediately lost interest in maintaining a relationship with my (grand)son.. But yeah, it was a horrible way to live for a very long time. And my daughter is still very much suffering the damage their terrible relationship caused.
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deathrose 3 years ago
I'm having a lot of trouble wrapping my head around this. He doesn't want the kid but wants the kid, but solely so the mom can't have the kid, if the mom wants the kid? I just really can't understand this man's brain.
V Martinez 3 years ago
Sometimes people just want to punish/hurt the other to spite them. Especially if they don't do what they want. Like: don't have that baby, I don't want that. She decides to have it. Oh, won't listen to me and do as I say? Fine! I'll take the baby from you and you can't have it. (Like a punishment.) chances are, he wouldn't like or take care of the child or even love it. Many times he won't get the child, but can get visitation. Which he then might use to say bad things to the child about the mom. He generally doesn't want to pay support also. People can have a messed up way of thinking and doing things. I do agree though, I don't understand this dude either. Short answer, maybe he's just short-circuited in the brain department.
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GamerChick5567 3 years ago
And a gun or knife. Women have a right to defend themselves from creeps like that!
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Anna Bremmer 3 years ago
This lady should have lied, said she had an abortion, and skipped town. Or the country, whatever.
Jon Steensen 3 years ago
Ok... so his way of avoiding an unwanted child is to get custody of said child, got it.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago (edited)
So wait, he wanted to get rid of the child, but he's fighting to KEEP her?
Azure Adams 3 years ago
The reason you don't do on/ off with people. There is always a reason. She learned the tough way
#15
My husband adopted my son when he was 3 after being in his life since he was 1. Gave him his last name the whole nine yards. When we had a child of our own (who was a girl) and decided we were done having kids; His mother said to me it’s a-shame we aren’t having more kids, As she would have liked someone to carry on the family name. I have only tolerated her at holidays ever since.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago
Hilarious because it’s not even the mother’s “family name”. SHE married into the family and took OP’s father’s last name herself. Secondly, there IS someone to carry on the family name — OP’s husband’s son. Oh, he’s not genetically the husband’s child? As an adopted person myself, that’s the vilest thing a grandparent could say.
Sue User 3 years ago
The vilest thing a grandparent can say is " you cant come in the house, you have to play on the porch" . Because my friend was the wrong color.
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Robert Trebor 3 years ago
When someone I know was a teenager and they'd go to his stepmother's parents' for Christmas they'd have gifts for his little brothers but none for him because he wasn't their family.
Yeah, okay. 3 years ago
I just... wow, that's levels of cruel. How do you forget the point of Christmas that badly?
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Jon Steensen 3 years ago
I think that in this day and age, it is not that uncommon that women keep their family name after being married, especially if what the man has to contribute with is something "borring" like Jones, Smidth or something very common. Another alternative is to make some kind of hybrid name.
AJJ 3 years ago
My last name was super complicated, often misspelled, even spaces in different places and caused issues with my passport and driver's license. I happily took my husband's "boring" last name of Jones.
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Joe Standford 2 years ago (edited)
I'm confused if your husband adopted your son didn't he get your husband's last name?
Lianna Bolt 3 years ago
When I was engaged my Opa asked me if I was taking my further husband’s last name. I told him I was, (cause honestly it doesn’t really matter to me). His response, “Good! That’s the way it should be.” 😳
#16
I worked for my step mom with the intent that I would take over the business when she retired in a few years. I took more than a 50% pay cut and left my career of 10 years of managing and leading organizations to come work for her.
Those few years came and went with her unable to even talk about a timeline for retirement. I spent years trying to fix processes and procedures around the office to make her life easier and to make the general workflow easier for all employees, but she was completely resistant to any change from the status quo while simultaneously always complaining about how busy she was and how we just didn’t have any good processes in place.
I finally confronted her about her retirement timeline and putting it in writing that I would be her succession plan. She balked at even putting together a plan for her retirement. I let her know that I really couldn’t hang around if there weren’t any prospects for advancement or pay increases.
My wife secured a job in a new town and I gave my step mom a six-month notice that we would be moving. I explained that I would be more than willing to help hire and train my replacement and finish formalizing all of the procedures I had developed in my time there.
She fired me the next business day.
F**k that b***h.
Paulo Freitas 3 years ago
NEVER EVER work with family, 1st cardinal rule, NEVER EVER date coworkers 2nd cardinal rule. Like my old manager use to say ( and he was right ), you don't s**t on the plate you eat.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago (edited)
Can confirm the first rule. My parents had a family business and I worked there from age 12 to age 37. It effed me up in more ways than I can count. I finally got a “real” job working retail when I couldn’t handle living AND working with my family any more. Now at 40 I’m finally going to try to pursue MY dreams.
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Lesley Zed 3 years ago
Being a decent person doesn’t always work out well in life unfortunately. I have trouble trusting anyone anymore. 😞
Monica Sargent 3 years ago
Why is it more often than not, people in power have no scruples? They seem to think that shows strong business acumen.
#17
A co-worker was talking to me about the issues he was having with his 12 year old step-daughter. Another co-worker sitting by us asked; "have you tried raping her?". Thought he was an OK guy, but not after that line. The day he was fired was a good day. Follow up: He had only worked there about 2 months, didn't talk much, so that was a pretty messed up first comment to a private conversation. I think (or hope) he was trying to be funny. He was fired about 9 days later, no reason was given to the rest of the crew, boss just said "Greg has been let go".
Paulo Freitas 3 years ago
Yea......jocking about raping a woman, its not only not funny, its f*****g creepy as hell, jocking about raping a 12 year old os just sick, that dude hás serious mental isues.
Akshara Panduga 3 years ago
rape is not a thing you can joke about. It is a thing that can cause lifelong trauma to anyone. raping your twelve year daughter is a messed up thing to do and even suggesting to someone it is just really really really messed up. I hope he burns in hell
BetterBitterButter 3 years ago
Never in a million years I would expect this response to solve a problem anyone is having with anyone. And this response was for a child?
Phobrek Taz 3 years ago
"Greg has been let go... from the roof of the building. Sorry not sorry"
deanna woods 3 years ago
My mom was molested as a child, so this hit me real hard. Rape is not, was not, and will never be funny, especially when the victim is a child. To joke about something like that, makes you nothing short of a sociopath.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
I'd be horrified if HR had not been informed.
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In a split-second. My husband (at the time) and I were physically separated. I was pregnant with our second child. And *I* was under the impression we were working things out to ultimately get our family back together in the same household (that whole part is a long, long story). Needless to say ... my ex-husband DID NOT come to the birth of our son. And his mother had to tell him when I went into labor and had the child. When he finally called me (hours upon hours later) he asked me what I named our son ... when he found out I did NOT name him a "junior" but instead gave him his OWN name that didn't have any relation to my ex-husband or his family ... well, he told me it was a 'gay-a*s Christian name for someone not even a Christian' then hung up on me and refused to answer for days. On top of the total disrespect and display of selfish pouting...a family member finally disclosed to me after my son was born that he (my ex-husband) spent the entire year milking me for money to finance an affair that resulted in him; moving in with the chick, getting her name tattooed on his arm and using MY money to pay for groceries and other household essentials. After all that ... I was done. I called him out on his affair which shocked him and resulted in him freaking out and stalking me for weeks to "find out who told me!!!??!" I filed for divorce while on maternity leave and cut his a*s all the way off. Of course he tried arguing that by NOT helping him I was hurting my kids 'cause, you know, according to him .. how was he supposed to help his kids if I didn't first help him (with money, his car payment, insurance, etc.)?!? UGH. Such a low-life bum! And in one split second ...I despised everything he was, would be and had been ...I wish him ill-will and the truest form of karma. I don't 'feel sorry' for him and I have zero concern for his life.
WonderWoman 3 years ago
Took that OP a really really really long time to FINALLY have that split second of reality.
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 3 years ago (edited)
Tell me his address. I shall punch him in the face and then dial the hospital number for him viciously.
Debrina Blackmoon 3 years ago (edited)
So what makes any name/thing "gay(as if that were SO BAD)a*s"?! Oxygen-stealing shitpile waste of atoms bitchvirus dickfungus+!!! Oh, and since when are some names just "christian"???
Sergio Bicerra Descalzi 3 years ago
I hope the ap was called something like Youniqwe and he has that s**t tattooed in his arm forever.
#19
When i was younger I found out one of my childhood friends was stealing from me and the friendship group. Every so often we would 'lose' a phone or Ipod then said friend would have conveniently got the same model but beat it up a bit with his initials in tipex or something stupid. Being a good friend we didnt want to believe it but we started putting distinct markings on our items. Low and behold my phone goes missing and he turns up with the same one a few weeks later with the markings. We brought him up on it but he just lost his temper and stormed off. 15 years later hes in prison for armed robbery....
Edit: Obligatory 'that blew up/RIP inbox'
Beeps 3 years ago (edited)
I actually went to school with a girl in school who did that. The lost and found at our school had a window, so she would look through the window, pick an item she wanted and then go and describe the item “she had lost”. There was at least one occasion that I witnessed where someone recognised their item, so she quickly disappeared behind a locker and wrote her initials on it with a Sharpie pen. I told on her, and I think she stopped doing it after that, or maybe she just got better at hiding it, but the main reason I’m posting this here is: guess what she does for work now? She’s a police officer!
Bec 3 years ago
I've just had a student caught cheating, like 100% copied a paper. Student vehemently denies wrongdoing... Criminal justice major.
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Donna Peluda 3 years ago
My nephew stole money from my mothers purse when they cam for her funeral, he was 12 at the time. When my mum was rushed to hospital it was left in her handbag on the coffee table. She as ill for 6 weeks before she past I hadn't even noticed her handbag. Now I can't trust the kid.
DC 3 years ago (edited)
I've had a classmate of that kind. Showed up uninvited and unwanted, but as you're supposed to be a decent classmate, let that POS in anyway. He stole a watch from my Dad and didn't even wait one day to start bragging about his new watch in school, but did so the very next day. Earlier, he had stolen a public transport ticket that was completely useless to him, but had different colours - the adults' ones had blue print on them, the childrens' red, and the basic colour was yellow instead of white, indicating it was for a longer travel through 2 or 3 zones. Even with that - a ticket for the bus - he bragged. TBH, I knew he was an AH the first day I went to that school, in 2nd grade, and ... well, I was right. He wasn't allowed in anymore after the watch incident, and got to the point no classmate would have him over anymore. Then, that school (the 2nd one we were classmates in - "Orientierungsstufe" = Stage of Orientation) ended (everyone went to one of three branches after 6th grade - we were classmates from 2nd to 6th), and he got a new set of classmates to steal, betray, snitch out, beat up, and eventually got beat up himself more regularly, surprisingly without anybody even trying to help him out.
CatWoman312 3 years ago
I had a “friend” who use to do this. She grew up to be a crackhead with 5 kids from multiple men.
tweeve 3 years ago
I had a very good friend, who had just moved into a new apartment and didnt have much. He asked if he could borrow one of my older game systems. I said sure as I wasnt really using the system. So I loaned him my SNES. About a year or so later I heard from another friend that the first friend had pawned my system and all my games several months back. I was pissed. We are no longer friends.
GamerChick5567 3 years ago
Same thing happened to me in middle school. These sisters that were supposed to be my friends stole a bunch of makeup, items, ds and gameboy games etc. My parents didnt have a lot of money so they weren't replaced. The final straw was when they stole a mini eiffel tower that my aunt gave me from her trip to paris. She died of breast cancer. After that i stole a few things back. Eventually it got to the point where they were doing other sketchy stuff like stealing from stores and bullying me and other people so eventually i told one of them to f right off. That was satisfying. I still remember that like 17 years later lol.
#20
When he found out my ex was black and was disgusted by that. Went from a nice guy who I could maybe see a future with to complete racist pos who I never wanted to see again.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago (edited)
I don’t even get this. Are racists SO hateful that they don’t even want to date someone who has (in the past) dated people of other races? Are they tainted?? Has “the brown” rubbed off on them and now it might GET ALL OVER the racist too if they date that person?! I’m white af, am adopted into a family of Mexicans, and have a Chinese significant other. I cannot comprehend hating another person for their skin color.
BlackestDawn 3 years ago
I don't think it's so much that they are "tainted" but rather that they don't share those racist believes, and a mindset of "if you're not with us you're against us".
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Carol Emory 3 years ago
That was what made me nope out of a friendship. Was driving a friend home when she saw a black guy and a white girl in a truck together. She said "I don't believe in that." I said "what?" She said "A black guy and white girl dating." She knew my parents were divorced. I said "Don't tell my mother...she's dating a black guy right now." She got real quiet. When she called the next day to "hang out," I said "nope." She moved to Texas shortly after. A mutual friend said she's been trying to get in touch with me recently. I said "Nope...don't need racism in my life." When the mutual friend relayed my comment, the ex-friend had no idea what I was talking about. That's the problem......
Historyharlot93 3 years ago
Don’t you know if a white woman sleeps with a black man his DNA stays inside the woman forever and passes it on to her children? (Of all the crazy racist conspiracies I’ve read online, this has to be the craziest)
Vanessa Wanner 3 years ago
This happened to me. I told him had dated a black guy and he called me a mud shark. Racism is everywhere and it's so sad. Needless to say He never got to know me enough to learn my sister is biracial.
Michael Largey 3 years ago (edited)
Why am I getting the feeling that this guy has feelings of inadequacy about his .. you know?
Liz Orreo trex ago go 3 years ago (edited)
Flat earthers, racists, anti vaxxers and other purposely stupid(and proud of it) people believe in "contamination"
juice 3 years ago
your metaphor is different. it wasn't about his preference in women. it would be more like saying "i'd never date someone who's slept with a blonde" or "as a Baptist, i'd never date someone who has a Lutheran ex because that means they're [somehow] tainted". which is weird and wrong, and in the post's situation, pretty racist
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#21
I’m so late, but I have a story that isn’t if the cheating variety and made me lose any respect for three people at once. Late high school years. A “friend” in our group had invited everyone to hang out at his parent’s house. We were supposed to agree on a time the day of, but people weren’t answering my calls or messages or were really vague. It was almost seven pm which was a couple of hours later than I’d figured so I decided to drive over. Sent one guy a message saying no one’s really answering so I’ll just go ring the “friend’s” doorbell. So all of a sudden, the “friend” calls me and says he was caught up in something and the whole thing might be off, he’ll let me know. Thing is, he called me when I was just parking in front of his house, and had a clear view of almost everyone in my group in his house. I let the call go on for several minutes watching him motion people to be quiet, doing the talking hand “yadda yadda” gesture etc. without letting him know I was watching him, until the dude finally spotted my car. He then - very obviously - told everyone to hide because he thought I’d just pulled up, and one guy who also pretended to be my friend actually hit the ground together with his girlfriend to avoid being seen from the window. So those three people - two “friends” and the gf of one - I have absolutely zero respect for. Also, I have nothing to do with any of them anymore, so that’s nice. Then again I also very clearly saw one real friend tell the “friend” off. He also called me immediately and said to wait up, he’d rather hang out with me than those a******s. 20 years later we’re still very close and effectively formed a new group of friends. So big silver lining.
Monica Sargent 3 years ago
That friend that stood up for you is literally worth more than gold.
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For a while, it sounded like they were staging a surprise party for you. In a way, sadly, they were.
Lesley Zed 3 years ago
Sometimes I am in total amazement at how ignorant and unnecessarily cruel people can be. Lucky you found out who your real friend was.👍🏻👍🏻
#22
My, at the time girlfriend, had a little sister. She was graduating from college, and her college was not close by. It was a few states away, and at least a 5hr drive. We both loved the sister, but we weren't going to make it to her graduation. We couldn't afford a hotel for the weekend, and we couldn't take off from work to get there on time.
She FREAKED out on us. It was the biggest tantrum I've seen an adult make. My GF and I both assumed it wasn't that big of a deal, but seeing how much her sister freaked out, we re-evaluated the situation. So, we packed up quickly, and drove through the night to get there. She told us we could sleep in her apartment that night, but that we'd need to get a hotel the following night. That was fine, we found something online for like $100/night.
We got to her place in record time. It was not even midnight. We felt like heroes for making up so quickly. We get to her apartment - and she won't let us in. She says she's already in bed, and we should have gotten there earlier if we wanted to take her up on her offer. So, we're both exhausted, and we have nowhere to stay. I wanted to just turn around and go back home, but my GF was a better person than me. Luckily we had other friends in the city, and one was nice enough to give us their couches for the night.
It's been like 15 years, and I assume the sister was getting one last lay with a college hook-up, because I could not imagine any other scenario where she couldn't simply walk down 2 flights of stairs to open the door for us.
I ended up marrying the GF, and still bring up this situation anytime she gets in a fight with her sister. It's usually 'I can't believe how selfish my sister is being.' and I go 'you can't!? remember that time we drove to her college gra...' and she cuts me off. of course she also remembers it.
Lilla Ontherun 3 years ago
My husband has a same "friend" who invited us to their home, but they told us after 4 hours of driving, they won't let us in so late (5-6 hours driving, we could not depart earlier because of work) . We slept in a parking lot in the car, because we didn't bring sleeping bags, because we thought we could sleep inside their house. I still hate them for this selfishness.
ChingoChango 3 years ago
I don't understand this? Who does this? Are you in the US? They wouldn't even do this here in Sweden
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the quickening 3 years ago
I moved out to live together with my then-boyfriend in the middle of high school (at 17) and graduated about 5 hrs from home. I still kinda expected parents would've wanted to be there to see me get my stipend and all, but nothing. It hurt so much... so I kinda sympathised with this story's little sister... up until she wouldn't host them. What kind of person does that?? If she really wanted them there for her, she would've opened the door before they even managed to ring the doorbell.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
What a horrid thing to do to them after pitching a fit until they decided to drive hours to get to her. She's a giant âsshole, smdh.
deanna woods 3 years ago
I had an opposite situation happen to me. I was the graduate and my uncle chose to attend a customer appreciation event at our local pharmacy rather than watch me graduate with a bachelor's degree. I still love the man, but that will always hurt. I was the second person in our family to get a bachelor's degree, the first wa my mom.
#23
There’s an older woman at work who seemed pretty ok. Then I overheard her talking about her toddler granddaughter, saying that she’s “a little hooker” and “shakes her booty at any man” and that sexualizing of a kid creeped me right out. Edit: spelling
Asphalt Bubblegum 3 years ago
Talk to Child Protective Services about this woman. Male child predators will marry women like these knowing their wives will not only condone their rapes, but actually enable them too.
barn owls ️ 3 years ago
my sister has been told stuff like that since she was tiny. she is super uncomfortable with it but no one listens to her.
Jane Cortez 3 years ago
That woman is clearly deranged. I hope that she kicks the bucket. People like that doesn’t deserve to exist.
#24
When my best friend of 10 years slept with my boyfriend of 2 years. I was so crushed but to be honest was more angry with the friend. I truly did believe that I was deeply in love with the boyfriend but he was kind of a s**t head to begin with....I saw my friend as a sister and her betrayal left longer lasting impact and hurt way more. I hated her in a violent way for a very long time...fast forward 11 years and now I am to a point where I have forgiven her and wish her well but would never let her back into my life again.
Minath 3 years ago
In my experience a betrayal by a friend hurts more and for longer than a betrayal by a partner.
Mary Kelly 3 years ago
i know it hurt, but silver lining is that the sooner you learn someone's true nature, the sooner you can stop wasting yourself on them...
Lonecia R C Fearneyhough 3 years ago
Lovers are orgasms, a friend is a constant, like your heart's steady beat.
Monica Sargent 3 years ago
I love how, over time, we grow to love and value ourselves enough to withhold our friendship. It's like "I gave you this gift once and you smashed it, I'm not fool".
#25
1990’s China. I (white teen) get invited to a girls birthday party out in the burbs. I get to the party and find out there is another white dude there. Wow. In those days that is like 1 in a million chance. We play the name game and find out not only are we from the same country and area, but in fact went to the same tiny elementary school together. After about 10 minutes of "wow, we have so much in common" he drops that he is mostly there to bang the girls and mostly tries to bang the married ones because they are less likely to want to want to stick around. F****r. Back then, getting caught having a n affair with a foreigner was instant family/social death and a likely mandatory 7 year sentence for "prostitution".
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
That's at least a month of conversation there.
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N J 3 years ago
I was in China in the 90s and never heard of any problems with anyone having an affair with a foreigner. Only army people were not allowed because you might be a spy, otherwise no issues. Even now the 'bang the girls' crowd still head to China, but the girls are bit more discriminating these days
#26
1yr friendship with this girl. I invited her over to my new apartment. She came over and wanted to gossip about her coworkers. When she paused, I tried to add in to the conversation (make a joke, give reassurance, add a comment, etc) but she would immediately raise her voice and start talking over me. I kept getting angrier every time it happened until I was actually loathing her internally. She was so self absorbed that she didn't notice I went from smiling & engaged to frowning while staring off into space. After 2+ hours of not being allowed to talk, I made up an excuse to kick her out of the apartment and then vowed to never see her again.
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
One of the main reasons I no longer speak to my youngest sister. People who constantly interrupt or talk over you are the worst types of narcissist. It is a very blatant way of letting them know they have no respect for you.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
hmm this kind of thing is also an ASD symptom... also could be narcissism...
Sue User 3 years ago
God, my ex has that. Could talk for hours. Any attempt to actually have a conversation was impossible. Just had to interject some hmms and occasionally repeat a point " yes zebras are scary".
Load More Replies... Paulo Freitas 3 years ago
Yea, i wouldn't do that, 1st maybe She was nervous and that was her way to Cope with the nerves, maybe She was lonely and took that chance to unwind, there are a pletora of reasons to behave like that, and honestly i would give her the chance to say all She needed or wanted to say, and invite her some other day, if the behaviour continued, ok, but if not..... In this case i dunno who's more self absorved here...
Monday 3 years ago
Yeah I was like that when I was younger. Terrified that there would be an uncomfortable silence so I'd just ...talk. On and on and on and on....I must have been a very annoying teenager.
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diana king 3 years ago
I wish I could ask the OP if the person's name was Kathleen/Kat Mandrick Yeah, I put her whole name up there. Doesn't even slightly scratch the surface of the awful sh*t she did to me.
ThreeAngryLlamas 3 years ago
My mother in law to a T. Such an obnoxious woman who hates to hear anyone else speak.
#27
A former friend bailed on me when we were supposed to hang out and so I called my then girlfriend to see what she was doing and I could hear him talking to her parents in the background...
Bob La Capra 3 years ago
I had a similar experience in my teens. Was supposed to hang out with a buddy who canceled, said he was sicker than a dog. I went for a walk, ended up on a bridge over water. Was just watching the fish and ducks, a boat passed under the bridge and there was my buddy with some other guys. I never said anything and we were still friends but it wasn't the same.
brandyy17 3 years ago
better then finding out ur gf is cheating on u with ur best friend
Load More Replies... Joe Standford 2 years ago
So then you drive straight over there and confront them in front of her parents
#28
Talking to my then gf about her cheating on me. Explaining I couldn't ever possibly trust her again, and she replied "But do you really need to trust me?"
Clearly had different ideas on what's required for a healthy relationship.
EDIT: For context. Relationship was 6 years long. We had been talking about marriage. We owned a dog together. This was the second instance of cheating. This conversation was what pushed me over the edge into the territory of self respect.
Broke up with her the next day. Much happier since.
Lace Neil 3 years ago
Same. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
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Paulo Freitas 3 years ago
I know of a couple, married with a child, where something similar happen, She cheated him once, he forgave her, She cheated on him a second time, again dude was crazy for her... Forgave her, maybe 1 year later She asks for the divorce because he was a " mama's Boy " lol, his dad had died earlier that year his Mother hás a crônic illness, and his brother is a drug addict..... My respect for her went downhill Faster than a car widout brakes down a cliff.... ( Oh, btw whe we're friend for Over a decade, and She always told me She was not gonna spend the rest of her life with him, because he was " boring " )
MarchingBanda786 3 years ago
Is there more behind this? Not that it makes this okay, but what in the world would make her respond that way?
#29
My ex girlfriend. We were childhood sweethearts. Dated from 17 to 25. Found out she was cheating on me with her boss, who was more than twice our age.
Then proceeded to find out there was many more occurrences and she was a very different person than the person I'd been dating. Shattered.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
Another friend did this to a long time boyfriend that she swore she loved. When her boyfriend called me looking for her, I said "Oh..she's out with Tracy" when in fact I knew she was out on a date with one of her other boyfriends. He said "Stop lying. I already called Tracy and she said she was with you." This girl had stabbed me in the back so many times, stolen from my family and her boyfriend was such a good guy, I finally said "This is BS" and told him everything. He ghosted her for months but then eventually took her back. I ditched both of them as I lost respect for both of them. They just seemed to suck the life out of the people around them.
Steve Robert 3 years ago
You have just described my ex-wife to a T. Except she lied to me that she had never cheated so I would marry her. Two weeks after the marriage, she told me the truth. Of course my first words after she told me was I want a divorce. Why have a relationship if you're going to cheat? Never could understand that
Lesley Zed 3 years ago
Better to find out then than after 10-20 years of marriage and a few kids.
#30
When he straight up denied my existence in front of his friends.
Dolly_of TheCowboy 3 years ago (edited)
Had a partner been with them for almost 18months and we happened to go to one of their best friend's milestone birthday party weekend. It was pretty involved and we had booked a hotel room for the weekend like most guests. We had been mingling and eventually one of my (then) partner's friends asked "so who is she?" they introduced me by the wrong name and told them I was their "carer". They may as well have thrown ice water over me. I walked out of the party and got the hotel we had been staying at to ring for a taxi and charge it to the room bill. By the time they bothered to call me to see where I was I had already called mates to help me get all my stuff out of our flat before they got back
Sue User 3 years ago
No, more like Dollys answer. The deny any relationship / connection.
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Lene 3 years ago
There was a guy who often came to the same bar as I used to hang out. Since he saw me the first time he was pretty much head over heels for me and at first I was like... nah, not interested. But it continued and eventually we ended up together. On the way to my place he informed me that he already had a gf. Funny how the only condom I had suddenly disappeared. Years later we end up together again. The day after we went to get some breakfast with some mates of his. He left me walking behind them and didn't even introduce me to the friends. So... I left them at the place they were going for breakfast and walked home. Never hooked up with him again. We're still on good terms and have a beer together and talk when we meet at concerts. He's a fun and cool dude... but not as more than friends.
#31
I had a friend a while back. Neat guy. Liked videogames, anime. One of the few people willing to go in on a pen and paper rpg. Didnt interact with him outside of these sorts of events. One time, a bunch of us went to grab dinner before seeing a limited run anime movie. This guy special orders absolutely everything. Wont pick something on the menu. (standard grill fair) doesnt just ask for special order, DEMANDS it. Calls the waitress names and is just a total d**k. When I confronted him about it he started shouting and making a huge scene in the restaurant. The rest of the night was massively awkward. After that, I just ghosted him. People who treat others poorly like that have no place in my life. You can tell the character of a person based on how they treat someone they dont have to be kind or nice to.
Bluetoyou 3 years ago
They don't have to be kind or nice to? Wow. Maybe you meant treat everyone with respect regardless.
Charlotte Sandoval 3 years ago
I think what was meant was there are people you "have" to be nice to (family, boss, etc) because you benefit from being nice to them. You don't necessarily benefit from being nice to strangers or servers etc, and that's where some show their true colors. They stop being fake nice when there's nothing in it for them
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and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 3 years ago
People who treat servers/waiters/assistants like s**t will probably treat YOU like s**t.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
This is absolutely true. A person of this character is a waste of space in my life.
#32
When I told my mom we were adopting a baby, she asked,"Don't you want to have a real baby?" I'm adopted.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago (edited)
I’m adopted. Apparently this means that I was a “fake baby”. That explains a lot!
AnnwylTheBloodyLovesFerghus 3 years ago
But I bet it was an awesome cabbage patch they took you from!
Load More Replies... Idostuff Foraliving 3 years ago
"Don't you want to have a real baby?" what an *sshole. I'm adopted too so i feel that too
#33
I was doing online dating which really sucked. But, I met a guy that I really liked. I was cautious and tried to be careful and take it slow. We dated for a few months. No sex. Lots of making out, but as yet no sex. I finally felt safe enough to start thinking about sex with him. He was very good to me and I felt like we could be a good fit. So, one day he asks me to take the afternoon off and meet him for lunch. Fun! I say. So we have a lovely lunch and he asks if I'd like to get a hotel room. I was caught quite off guard by this, but eventually agreed to it. We hope to the room and things progress nicely. He's very sweet, gentle and loving. I felt very happy. We start having sex and he's on top. He starts talking to me saying how this is going to be the best revenge on his girlfriend. WTF?? I froze up. I literally froze. I couldn't move or respond or anything. I know I should have just thrown his a*s to the floor, but I was just numb. He finished his business (used a condom thank god). We got dressed and left. Never spoke to him again.
Zedrapazia 3 years ago
If that was me, that fūcker would be searching the pieces of his d**k in the swine porch next to the highway.
Rahul Pawa 3 years ago
I'm curious to know what a "swine porch" is. I tried Google and did not get an answer.
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Carol Emory 3 years ago
I'm wondering if it was his way to make sure you never called him again. Some guys do pull the long con. Wonder if he was doing this to all the women he met on the dating site. Not your fault the guy was scum...but like other posters...if it were me, the guy would have left with a high pitched voice and a serious limp in his walk.
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 3 years ago
It that was me, the guy would be screaming his head off while butt naked about me beating him up and threatening to call his girlfriend and tell her to dump him quickly.
WonderWoman 3 years ago
Imagine going through the time and energy - months - to revenge your girlfriend? That is insanity!
KBT 3 years ago
Imagine reading this story and thinking the woman is somehow at fault.
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#34
My best friend back in school got a F from the teacher. Me and him asked if we can go to the toilet. I go to the toilet to text a bit with friends from other school, he goes to the parking lot and scratches the teachers car. School break and the teacher finds his car, we both get called to the director etc etc. Friend said that we both scratched the car. Í showed the teacher my phone to show him I was texting and couldnt have scratches his car, told friend to f**k off and went out.
DC 3 years ago
Friends do not do such. If you really do any stupid revenge together ... you're in it together, but still, snitching isn't right even if it doesn't include any lies, but this is next level.
Rahul Pawa 3 years ago
Gave you an upvote because I don't understand why people downvoted you. Maybe people thought you were saying that OP snitched by proving that they weren't involved. I assumed you meant the friend snitched on themselves and lied to bring OP down with them.
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When he convinced his wife to kick her young kids out because they (the husband and wife) were finally having a child together. He was very open about hating his step-kids.
Edit: Grammar.
Angela B 3 years ago
Edit addition, they are both a@#ehats and should rot slowly in heaps of pain.
Thomas Bentley 3 years ago
i would recommend acute radiation poisoning. most schools with GCSE level physics departments will have an alpha source. grate finely, and sprinkle on foods that will normally have silver leaf, like cakes or alcoholic drinks. this will kill them slowly, and pain killers will not help them.
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#36
Was at my wife's family Christmas gift exchange. My wife is estranged from her direct family, so this was all of the uncles, aunties and cousins. There were multiple nieces and nephews running around having a good time. We all agreed to a white elephant exchange for the adults so we didn't have to buy a lot of gifts, we did that the night before and did the gifts for the kids in there morning.
Morning rolls around and all the kids are opening gifts... except my son. None of those entitled a*s hats got him anything. He sat there and watched everyone else open multiple gifts and it broke my heart to see him sitting there with nothing. F**k those people right up their stupid a******s.
Alex Martin 3 years ago
I had that happen to me with my step dad's family. Stuck in the back seat for two hours of driving through traffic and second hand smoke on Christmas Eve to then be ignored by my new step family and then completely forgotten when gifts were opened. I think I was 10 or 11. I feel for that kid. It just tells him that he's not valued.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
A good opportunity to show your son how to value his self worth over the small minds of individuals that shouldn't matter to him. Show him that, just because you are related to someone by blood, doesn't mean you have to put up with their petty behavior. You are free to walk away because you know you deserve better than what they can offer. I'm sorry he had to endure that, but there was a reason your wife was estranged from her family...and I'm guessing it has less to do with her and more to do with them. Let them take those gifts and stuff them where the sun don't shine.
Kattenkinders 3 years ago
Hopefully she's estranged from the rest of the family as well. Sounds like my family.
#37
When my mom defended her daughter's rapist (who was my mom's then fiance) and told us not to tell anyone it happened. Yes, I contacted the proper authorities. Yes, he is in the courts and going to be imprisoned. EDIT: For those of you who want the full story, here is the first post I wrote about it in May: [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/brx6b4/update_the_fiance_33_of_my_mom_34_raped_my_14yo/)
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago (edited)
One of my dad’s nighttime caregivers used to sneak around the house and try to peek in on me playing computer games (my room had no AC, so I often played pantsless, but with undies still on.) He also videotaped me in the shower twice. My sister SAW the videotape. My mom didn’t want to hear about it and refused to fire the caregiver. She still talks to the caregiver, a year after my dad died. If I ever try to bring up how he videotaped me, she basically goes “La la la I’m not listening!”
Artsy Bookworm 3 years ago
Ok there is something seriously wrong with your mom, I'm sorry to say
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Marie Dahme 3 years ago
I just read this entire post on Reddit. This mother did not protect her 14 year old daughter. On top of that, OP has a 12 year old sister to think of! Both Kyle and mom should get locked up. In Florida mom can be charged as an accessory after the fact. I’m so sorry OP that this happened in your family. Hopefully you have grandparents or aunts or uncles you can turn to. Pandas this whole story is just heart breaking as the OP is only 17 and she was traumatized by listening to an audio recording of the rape which the mother dismissed. I just wanna smack the snot out of the mom.
#38
"you're not like other black people, you're smart." And that's how I lost all sexual interest in a 10/10 Russian chick.
Aboredpanda 3 years ago
She clearly wasn't 10/10. And that is a r******d and degrading way of "categorizing" other humans.
Sergio Bicerra Descalzi 3 years ago
Saying r*****d IS a degrading way of categorizing humans.
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Joe Standford 2 years ago (edited)
Well, being Russian I can see if all they spoke was so called ebonics why she would think that.
Ray Heap 3 years ago
And she probably truly meant it as a complement and without any concept of the offense it can cause an American. You lost a good time with a 10/10.
Bob La Capra 3 years ago
I doubt English is her first language. It's very possible that what she said was not at all what she meant.
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#39
Gave my roommate an envelope with a money order for bills in it, to drop in the mail. He got arrested. While looking for some of his documents to take to him I found the opened, empty envelope in his closet. Peace out.
#40
My childhood friend he lived pretty close to me and seemed like a nice dude until he stole my GoldenEye and moved to Minnesota. F**k you Derrick!
ProudHamsterOwner 3 years ago
What is a goldeneye? Google says it's a type of duck, did he steal your pet or am I missing something?
Jonn Thundergun 3 years ago
Goldeneye!? Oh yeah F*k right off Derrick! You don't steal a kid's Goldeneye!
#41
When he started being condescending to me in almost every conversation we have, in about almost every topic we talked about, then him complaining to me that some people can’t handle him having such strong opinions on topics he’s “passionate about”.
Susie Elle 3 years ago (edited)
Oh I love it when people label their dickishness with 'being passionate'. F**k you Jim you're just an asshat (sorry to any Jims).
#42
My ex was severely depressed and drinking at my place one night. I own a lot of knives and guns because 'Murica. I wanted to make my bedroom as safe as possible so I was taking everything pointy, shooty, or ligature like and giving it to my roommate to keep safe as I would stay with my ex in my room, bathroom was attached. I handed off stuff to my roommate and heard a commotion in my room, found my ex on the edge of my bed with the gun I kept at bedside. It had been the last thing I needed to get past him and didn't think he knew about. He went from pointing it at himself to pointing it at me. I talked him down from that and told him I wouldn't call the cops if he stayed in the room until sober and called a therapist in the morning. He physically fought me to try to get out but was drunk and tired and eventually laid in bed and cried himself to sleep. I slept by the door until morning. I woke up covered in bruises to a nightmare about him shooting me. I recognized he was sick but also he was capable and willing to kill me. I never saw him the same way again, we no longer speak. There had been a lot of red flags before this point but I was far too blind and far too lonely to recognize them.
Idostuff Foraliving 3 years ago
sad story but "I own a lot of knives and guns because 'Murica." keeps cracking me up XD
#43
Had made some plans with the g/f at the time for Valentines-Day. This was back in late HS.
Had called her on the phone a few hours before to re-confirm details, and she abruptly begged off cause supposedly her parents were going to be having a date of their own later that evening, and so she was being assigned to take care of her grandma for the day. (Her grandmother needed constant care, so it wasn’t especially unusual for one of her parents to be taking a day to stay with her). She was supposed to leave pretty early in the afternoon and be with her all evening.
So I decided that the least I could do was maybe drop off some flowers and chocolates in basket & stuff so she’d have something nice waiting when she got back. Spent a bunch of money on getting something nice, showed up at her place around 5, expecting just her parents to be there, and not only was *she* the one to answer the door, I could clearly hear both her parents chatting away in the background and there was no grandmother to be seen.
Turned out, she just didn’t have the guts to bite the bullet and properly break up with me, she was just going to keep canceling until I got the picture or something.
Paulo Freitas 3 years ago
Well lol, my case was a lot cheaper, She just got a picture of her hugging some other dude in her messanger profile lol.
Kate Haslam 3 years ago
Wow. So your girlfriends aren't allowed to have any contact with other males, hm? Sounds like she dodged a bullet there.
Load More Replies... J-Stryker666 3 years ago
Woah what a b***h move. If you don't want to be with someone just say so. Craptactis like this only make the pain way worse
#44
I had this teammate who was such a good athlete but he was not starting or even playing in any of our games . Naturally I was sad and curious as to why coach would hold out on playing this guy
As he was running routes and I was throwing him the football , he accidentally bumped one of our assistant helpers as coach would like to call them
Instead of apologizing , he shouted “ watch where you’re walking n***** . Damn you blind as f**k “ . Right then and there I stopped the drill and walked out
EDIT : I did not expect this to blow up and for those asking did I get in trouble , I did not the play the first drive of the game and that’s my consequence
Also for those asking if he was black or white , he was black
#45
In April I went on my yearly 3 day trip with my mom to Las Vegas. In that time, my ex moved out of my apartment. I found out because the landlord called, concerned I was moving. I knew nothing about it. I then called my ex, to ask what on Earth was going on, and she didn't pick up. She left furniture that im still trying to get her to take, and took s**t of mine that she won't give back. Now in stuck in an apartment I can barely afford, struggling to survive. I can't move because my rent is cheaper than anything else in my city. It's been tough. Really made me lose all respect for her.
#46
Found out this girl I was getting close to had been lying about her ex being a deadbeat dad and well, her ex. He wasn't just still in the picture, they lived together. I should have guessed after the third or fourth time she made an excuse to not go to her place. Never ended something so quick.
#47
Was dating a girl for a few months and things were going great until somehow Jews came up in conversation. She went full 'Jews control the world' and wouldn't accept that non-jews take any responsibility for anything that ever went wrong in the ME. I just saw her in a whole new light.
Anonymouse 3 years ago
Wait, but what about our space lasers? (I am Jewish :) )
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Partner of 3 years broke up with me via text while I was at work... I lost my job by leaving work immediately to go home (a complete wreck) to discover he had given his friends a months notice so they all helped him move, and I was literally the last one to know. When he left suddenly like this, he had in his account the money I had raised for charity by shaving my head because of my father's terminal illness. Went from upset to level 1,000 rage as soon as I realised this. Edit: wow I didn't really expect this to get much attention (thanks for the silver) To answer questions... I am in Australia, I was a casual worker for a photography business, when I read the text I told my boss through tears that I had to go immediately. I left before being asked questions. They tried to call me a few times but I was too upset to try and explain. I was not put back on the roster after this and can understand why, the "losing my job" part of this story is the part that hurt the least really but seems to be the part everyone is focused on. No, it was not an emergency that I needed to leave for, but after the text my ex would not respond at all and I needed answers as to what was happening because this came out of nowhere. By the time I got home I only just managed to get there in time to actually speak to him about what was going on. No I never got the money back, I contacted police who said that because I had it in his account (because bills automatically came from my account and I didn't want any of the $2,000 taken out) it wasn't something they could do anything about. It was raised independently so it's not something that I can contact the charity over either. No this was not an abusive relationship, on his part or mine, and no I did not deserve to be left suddenly like this. As for why he had a whole plan on how to leave in place before doing it and why he waited until I was at work, all I can say is I guess he knew how upset I would be to find out he suddenly didn't want to be around anymore. I was in the middle of a very rough patch and already handling things badly, I think he didn't want to face the results of what he wanted to do so he kept it secret and avoided dealing with me in person. I am doing much better now, the thing that still hurts is not that it ended so suddenly and badly but that he took that money- it took me two years to raise it and felt like the only thing I could do for my terminally ill father.
Widdershins66 3 years ago
Utter, utter, scumbag shister on soooo many levels. I feel for you! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
#49
My mother was an alcoholic growing up. I used to take her side in all the fights she had with my dad. When I was at an older age I realised she was using my dad. She had no job and my dad who was 64 was working his a*s off to pay for my sister, me and my parents. Then my dad said we didn't have enough money for something and basically my Mum said "So.. We're poor?" My parents later split up and she found another boyfriend almost instantly. She still didn't have a job. So I figured out that she used my dad, then was using her boyfriend. Yeah, it was messed the up. Edit: Thank you everyone for all the love and support. I hope you get through your sad times too!
Jon Steensen 3 years ago
Alcoholics can be really good at manipulating people and make them doubt whether their observations are true or if it is just them being paranoid and misinterpretating what goes on. It is easier for them to twist the truth, and guilt trip people around them, than admit the chaos they are creating.
JF 3 years ago
Narcissics do that, i'm a functional alcoholic and don't use people like that.... Maybe a full blown then......
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#50
I loved my aunt with all my heart and i had a genuine connection with my uncle. That all changed when he murdered her so that she wouldn't report him to the police. He killed himself 3 days later because he knew they would find out it was him. I just wish i could've been the one to kill him.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago
How awful. I seriously hope OP is in a better place emotionally nowadays :( I wish I could reach out and send them a hug and my support.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
This is such a heartbreaking and traumatizing incident to experience for any person. Hoping that OP has much better days coming their way and sending them thoughts of strength, courage, and peace, to fill their journey.
#51
Had a really great friend in high school. He was cool but he’s always be trying to sell stuff to people in the hallways, like video games or pocket knives or sunglasses. After over a year of being friends with him he came over to my house to hang out and when he left a bunch of my favorite video games were missing. I realized what was happening, and I had plans on forgiving him if he just fessed up and apologized. Instead he got super defensive and angry, and I instantly lost any respect I had for the guy.
Zedrapazia 3 years ago
I once, as a kid, had a "friend" called Ricardo. Took my Gameboy and some old games I owned - we had a fight after I noticed the things missing and beat him up, getting back the games. But I've never seen the Gameboy again because his family moved to Spain. F**k you, Ricardo!
SheamusFanFrom1987 3 years ago
Should have reported the miscreant to the authorities for theft instead of just losing respect for him. Smh...
#52
Well... when i found out my crush is actually racist against romanians, chinese, and so on.. and that she is very different from what i expected her to be.. Edit: sorry just a grammar fix.
T'Mar of Vulcan 3 years ago
Romanians? Like Sebastian Stan? She deserves the worst for that one!!!
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 3 years ago
I’m guessing she meant Romani (what a lot of people think as ‘Gypsy’ but that term is very offensive), but it might be romanian
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My best friend who I considered a brother was working for me, I called him to talk about the next job(construction) and he Informed me that he had started his own company and taken my other full time employee with him (who was working with me that day). Yeah needless to say that one stung for a bit. We're cordial now but it will never be the same after that. Its been 3 years.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
If they'll act underhanded to do something like that, they'll continue to underhanded in all things that they do. It's just a matter of character.
Joe Standford 2 years ago
Get out the list of clients and inform ALL of them what friend and employee did, effectively black balling them.
#54
When my ex told me that she was cheating on me. That type of betrayal hits you hard, especially in this case because she was one of my closest friends before we started dating. Edit: Just to clarify a bit, a guy I befriended when visiting her at college sent me a Facebook message after hanging out because he felt bad since apparently she didn't even try to hide it there and he thought I deserved better. When I asked her about it was when she finally told me. She didn't just decide to tell me out of the goodness of her heart, she was just caught and was tired of lying.
Idostuff Foraliving 3 years ago
The ex didn't even confess out of shame. She just was straight up a liar and tired of it. That's not even a real confession. Kudos to the college friend for stepping up and telling him.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
People just deserve to be throat punched for some of the unnecessary pain they cause others. 😒
#55
I worked for a small company, for the first few years my boss and I got along really well to the point that we would eat dinner together regularly, I hung out with his son quite a bit, we even vacationed together twice. We went really well together, I was good at what he wasn’t and he was good at what I wasn’t. Over those years we were able to really grow the company to the point that we needed to grow. We had two ladies in the office that were family to the boss, one was an 80 year old woman and the other was her granddaughter who was grossly incompetent. The only reason the granddaughter was there was because she had never been able to hold a job anywhere else. One night while I’m eating dinner with my boss he comes in and has this whole pitch about how he wants to bring my wife onboard and let her run our marketing and kind of fill in the gaps on what the secretary was supposed to be doing but wasn’t because of laziness. Offered to pay her more money than what she was making, said she could work from home most of the time. Sounded great. First day she works the secretary has a huge problem with her being there because she had a complex about someone coming in and doing more than her. Her and the grandma both are rude, the secretary posts very thinly veiled comments on Facebook directed at my wife, she even lied and said my wife tried opening charge accounts up to make personal purchases. While all this was happening my boss never said a word to intervene, he simply let it happen. My wife worked there less than 2 months before she couldn’t take it anymore and had to leave, rightfully so. And my boss let it all happen even though it was his idea to bring her onboard. I went from having a deep respect for that man and considered him a father figure to not even being able to stand to watch him chew his food.
ChingoChango 3 years ago
I thought it was going to go to he put my wife on to put it to my wife 🤣 but no it didn't go that way
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
I've experienced similar issues with someone who I thought I highly respected and held in high regard until they instantly turned into a spineless meatbag were immediately unworthy of any sort of consideration.
Joe Standford 2 years ago
Why did you not call your boss out and say if you want.me to continue working here get your house in order?
#56
Decided to get into online Dungeons and Dragons. Got in with a group who was running a homebrew delve into a mindflayer hideout. Things were going great for the first few sessions until one encounter with a mindflayer: Player 1: "i wanna give the mindflayer headpats" Me: "lol what?" DM: "the ilithids tentacled faces begins to writhe in pleasure" Player 2: "I walk over and sniff the mindflayers crotch and then wag my tail at him" Me: "guys what the f**k lets just kill it" DM: "the wretched beast is becoming quite aroused. He extends his boney hands" 20 minutes of extremely graphic furry sexual roleplay later I had to leave the group. I just wanted to play D&D, man. Edit: for those asking, I just downloaded an app off google play called mRPG. Ive been using it for awhile now and havent had any problems since! And yes 20 minutes is a long time however we were playing in a text based format(thankfully) so you can imagine my shock when I check my phone after awhile to find 8 full scrolls of furry smut.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago
Did the players just magically suddenly become furries? It’s be pretty hard for OP not to notice that they’d joined a furry D&D group from the outset. And disclaimer: MOST furries aren’t like this. Most furries don’t want to yiff everything they see. Please do not think all furries are like this :(
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 3 years ago
Not everyone does a ‘furry’ character because they’re a furry. I personally LOVE Tabaxi because of how overpowered they are (20ft climb speed and 1d4 slashing damage on unarmed strikes!!!) and I’m not a furry. Shifters and some others are also really powerful.
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Paulo Freitas 3 years ago
Lol, screw it, id get in to the action, just " roll the Dice " and lets see what happens nex lol, of all the s**t and Injustice in the world and in this thread, this is actually kind of funny.
Ches Yamada 3 years ago
"No D&D is better than bad D&D". I might add I echo Well-Dressed Wolf's sentiments as well. Only a small percent of any major group are the ones that do things like this.
#57
At an event I walked up on two of my "friends" talking complete s**t about me. Cut them both out of my life at that moment, and have not looked back.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It is kind of shocking to walk up on or overhear when people talking shît about you, when they know you're very near in proximity, but nipping it in the bud and moving on with your life is the best way to deal with it. If they can't human, to hêll with them.
#58
when she told me she didn't believe me after I told her that I was sexually assaulted by her boyfriend
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
He's a disgusting piece of garbage and she'll likely regret not listening, because he'll probably repeat his behavior or even get worse. So sorry this happened to OP.
Wreathy 3 years ago
BP must be stretching for content today, given this is all pulled from a three year old, archived Reddit thread.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago
Heck, I’ve followed the Reddit links back sometimes to find that BP scavenged 6 or 7-year old posts XD
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#59
When my friend lied and went behind my back to date the guy I was interested in, and then started sleeping around behind his back. I wasn't interested in dating him, I just had a crush, and if she'd told me, I'd be fine with it. But lying to the both of us, straight to our faces, and asking the both of us to not tell the other one was f****d up (she told me about all her tinder hookups and asked me to keep it a secret because she 'didn't want anyone else to know'). I mean, I had my suspicions of what was going on, but once it was confirmed that she'd even lied to me about what had happened, it was straight over for me. You don't lie to me and expect me to stick around. Edit: YES, I told him about her sleeping around, once he told me the truth about their relationship. I didn't tell him before because I didn't know for sure they were dating behind my back. :) I'm not about that starting-up-drama-without-proof life <3
Paulo Freitas 3 years ago (edited)
This kind of reminds me of a story about two coworkers i had lol, though mine is not a betrail story, its more of a " há há got you " story, these two kids ( Early 20s, Im on my mid 40s and my other coworker in her late 30s ), só my other coworker found out One of the kids had a crush on the other, and She decided to play cupid, i had no idea about what was going on, mostly because i didn't care, One day Said coworker, told me She tried to match kid 1 and kid 2, and they ended up fighting, and now they can't even stand each other, i say ok and i still didn't care lol, later that week i had to go to the storage Room in the badement, and as i was coming up to the Office 3rd floor, i see the two little buggers hiding in a corner " sucking eachothers face " lol, só i Also hide, and as a joke i start coffing, they imidiately Pull apart from each other not to get caught, i just continue going to the Office like nothing happened, and when i got close to him i just wispered, " to late ".
#60
Two leap to kind. Guy I was friends with at school. We hung out a lot, but I didn’t drink or anything, so it was usually gaming and stuff. We arranged a meet-up at mine. He sent me a text saying “see you at 7:30” (about 45 minutes later). He never turned up, I texted, called for a while, then shrugged. Assumed some emergency had come up and I’d hear from him later or the next day. Never heard from him again. Only interaction we’ve had since was bumping into him in the street. I got a “how you doing, it’s been ages”. I just said “yeah, last time we spoke you said “see you in 45””. He got a bit embarrassed looking and admitted that another guy he was friends with (who I couldn’t stand) had turned up at his door after the text and gone “wanna go clubbing?”. And he’d gone. He didn’t even apologise, literally told me that going out and getting drunk was the more fun choice. Now I concede, I wasn’t the most outgoing fun type. Clubs are my nightmare. But I always tried to be a good friend. Hell, one time when we were 16 my parents drove us to a hospital 45 minutes away and gave us taxi money to get back at 11pm because his girlfriend had tried to overdose, and his parents refused to take him or give him the cash. But apparently it’s better than ghost me in favour of the alcohol. I would have been pissed but decided it wasn’t worth the effort and just carried on walking. The other was a jackass I went to uni with. I made friends with him in the first year. Seemed an ok guy, similar interests. He tended to overplay his epilepsy to get stuff he probably wasn’t entitled to, but that wasn’t my business. Moved in with him, his fiancé, and another friend from out course. Worst mistake I made. He was a pig, didn’t pay his rent and lied that he had, stole, literally left a full pot of rice and another of curry sauce on the oven he left for 6 weeks over summer (the other guy and I were a week gone by then). I came back to more flies than I’ve ever seen in one place (and before I switched, I’d studied forensic science). The tipping point was when I booted my PC and found he’d put a bios password on my PC so I couldn’t turn it on to get my assignments. He blocked my calls, and when my mother called him to get round the block, he hung up on her and text me “don’t set your b***h on me”. I ended up moving out that day, called the police (which spurred him to suddenly text me the password), and reported him to the uni for breach of standards. I don’t think they did much but I didn’t care by then. The worst bit was that about a year after that, the other housemate, who he was just about on speaking terms with, took his own life. The jackass couldn’t even be bothered to show up to the funeral (then again, no one from the uni did, no message of condolence to his mother from the staff, nothing).
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
#2 definitely sounds like a jackâss and just a user in general. OP has just had a shîtty run of luck with some friends.
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Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago (edited)
I have one! My best friend in childhood. We were BFFs for years. I was the first person he came out to, and I went to Pride events with him. I even tagged along on his first date because he was worried that something might happen (this was in the 90s, when gay people were often still publicly attacked.) I thought we’d be friends for our entire lives. Then I started dating a Chinese guy and my BFF says, “I can’t believe you’re dating a CHlNK.” Yep, that was it, a decade of soul-deep friendship axed with a single sentence that revealed that my BFF was a raging racist.
Zedrapazia 3 years ago
What an irony. Being a minority that gets attacked for who he is in public, then doing the exact same thing to someone else. One could think he'd learn from his own experiences that it's wrong to blame people for who and what they are.
Load More Replies... DC 3 years ago (edited)
A girlfriend and I shared a few friends, male as well as female. One of said friends had PE with her in school, and after finishing, she took my gf's clothes and threw them out of the locker room's window, both her sports clothes and her usual clothes. Thing is, said girlfriend was incontinent and wearing a diaper constantly, which was broadly known anyway (in the nineties, a pad or a diaper that makes it through a schoolday without needing to be changed wasn't really hidable ... there had been accidents, so it wasn't hard to find out about it), everyone already knew - there was nothing new to expose, but it was meant to make her go around the school in just her underwear. Completely unprovoked, another friend went out to retrieve her stuff (I'd have, too, of course, but wasn't present at that time because we weren't classmates). Neither GF nor I would accept this, because - regardless of everybody knowing or not - this was just downright evil, an attempt to embarass her deeply and lasting. People making fun of her already was an issue, although she didn't take anybody's BS for that, it took a toll on her that it was a person she saw as a friend doing this to her. Well ... former friend, then, of course.
Bluetoyou 3 years ago
I had some girlfriends in 6th grade who I hung out with all the time until I found out they brought a package of dog candy kisses and shared them with friends just to laugh after they bit into them. I turned them in and didn't look back.
Load More Replies... WonderWoman 3 years ago
One friend was in a physically abusive relationship and after telling us, another "friend" says that we attract what we want and all our actions cause others to react to it. She blamed the friend for being abused. D.O.N.E.
WonderWoman 3 years ago
BP - ENOUGH of having the original number of posts to only a few hours later CUT it down - then everyone suffered through ALL of them can't see what people responded without jumping through hoops. JUST ALLOW ONLY 30 from the get-go and force the "author" to resubmit another thread!!!!!!
ObsidianAce_ 3 years ago
I tried to tell my dad (divorced, lived in an apartment I slept at on weekends) that his alcohol addiction was making me uncomfortable due to how often he was drunk while I was there, that I feared for his life, and that I didn’t want to be around him until he got help. Ended up getting screamed at for not respecting him, “never speak to me that way again” all that. I was 8.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
gross, alcoholics suck. They think it's a life choice and it is ok, but they're basically just drug addicts.
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DuchessDegu 3 years ago
My ex got married to his "ex" while I was working abroad FOR ONE MONTH. Tried to convince me he wasn't actually seeing both of us for the whole time, then proposed a threesome. I hope he rots in hell.
Mad McQueen 3 years ago
My 25tg bday. All my friends were like yeah let's pick you up an go to the local bar and celebrate. I just wanted to be with them. Didn't care about partying but that was cool. So I got dressed. Called them I was ready. They were like cool on the way. Waited two hours til about 930-10 pm an called. They never answered. I called the bar we were going to go to as I knew the people. And they said yeah they here laughing the ditched you. I said oh ok. Tell them thanks and hung up. Went to bed crying. Woke up to knowing I didn't want them anymore as friends and never took any calls. Land line so unplugged it for a day. No cells back then. Lol. Still never spoke to them again an never went back to that bar.
Black Pearl 3 years ago
There was a guy I had known in middle school that was kind of annoying, but at the start of high school I saw how much he actually changed and developed s crush. We would sit together at lunch and cl sometimes after school, then one day he made s super sexist joke, but I let it slide because it was probably just a slip up. It wasn't. Turns out he was super sexist, kinda racist, absolutely in love with guns and things like that, s hardcore Trumper, and to top it all off he wanted ELON MUSK to be the next president. All he would ever talk about later on was politics and if I ever tried to say something about my beliefs he would immediately dismiss me and just straight up tell me I was wrong while trying to act like he was curious too. I couldn't stand to be around him anymore and had to just ghost him. I still see him at school and I can't feel anything but anger looking at him.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
Anyone who makes any kind of favourable reference to Peterson, Rogan, Musk, Shapiro, etc., must be shunned. They basically hate the poor.
Load More Replies... Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago (edited)
I have one! My best friend in childhood. We were BFFs for years. I was the first person he came out to, and I went to Pride events with him. I even tagged along on his first date because he was worried that something might happen (this was in the 90s, when gay people were often still publicly attacked.) I thought we’d be friends for our entire lives. Then I started dating a Chinese guy and my BFF says, “I can’t believe you’re dating a CHlNK.” Yep, that was it, a decade of soul-deep friendship axed with a single sentence that revealed that my BFF was a raging racist.
Zedrapazia 3 years ago
What an irony. Being a minority that gets attacked for who he is in public, then doing the exact same thing to someone else. One could think he'd learn from his own experiences that it's wrong to blame people for who and what they are.
Load More Replies... DC 3 years ago (edited)
A girlfriend and I shared a few friends, male as well as female. One of said friends had PE with her in school, and after finishing, she took my gf's clothes and threw them out of the locker room's window, both her sports clothes and her usual clothes. Thing is, said girlfriend was incontinent and wearing a diaper constantly, which was broadly known anyway (in the nineties, a pad or a diaper that makes it through a schoolday without needing to be changed wasn't really hidable ... there had been accidents, so it wasn't hard to find out about it), everyone already knew - there was nothing new to expose, but it was meant to make her go around the school in just her underwear. Completely unprovoked, another friend went out to retrieve her stuff (I'd have, too, of course, but wasn't present at that time because we weren't classmates). Neither GF nor I would accept this, because - regardless of everybody knowing or not - this was just downright evil, an attempt to embarass her deeply and lasting. People making fun of her already was an issue, although she didn't take anybody's BS for that, it took a toll on her that it was a person she saw as a friend doing this to her. Well ... former friend, then, of course.
Bluetoyou 3 years ago
I had some girlfriends in 6th grade who I hung out with all the time until I found out they brought a package of dog candy kisses and shared them with friends just to laugh after they bit into them. I turned them in and didn't look back.
Load More Replies... WonderWoman 3 years ago
One friend was in a physically abusive relationship and after telling us, another "friend" says that we attract what we want and all our actions cause others to react to it. She blamed the friend for being abused. D.O.N.E.
WonderWoman 3 years ago
BP - ENOUGH of having the original number of posts to only a few hours later CUT it down - then everyone suffered through ALL of them can't see what people responded without jumping through hoops. JUST ALLOW ONLY 30 from the get-go and force the "author" to resubmit another thread!!!!!!
ObsidianAce_ 3 years ago
I tried to tell my dad (divorced, lived in an apartment I slept at on weekends) that his alcohol addiction was making me uncomfortable due to how often he was drunk while I was there, that I feared for his life, and that I didn’t want to be around him until he got help. Ended up getting screamed at for not respecting him, “never speak to me that way again” all that. I was 8.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
gross, alcoholics suck. They think it's a life choice and it is ok, but they're basically just drug addicts.
Load More Replies... DuchessDegu 3 years ago
My ex got married to his "ex" while I was working abroad FOR ONE MONTH. Tried to convince me he wasn't actually seeing both of us for the whole time, then proposed a threesome. I hope he rots in hell.
Mad McQueen 3 years ago
My 25tg bday. All my friends were like yeah let's pick you up an go to the local bar and celebrate. I just wanted to be with them. Didn't care about partying but that was cool. So I got dressed. Called them I was ready. They were like cool on the way. Waited two hours til about 930-10 pm an called. They never answered. I called the bar we were going to go to as I knew the people. And they said yeah they here laughing the ditched you. I said oh ok. Tell them thanks and hung up. Went to bed crying. Woke up to knowing I didn't want them anymore as friends and never took any calls. Land line so unplugged it for a day. No cells back then. Lol. Still never spoke to them again an never went back to that bar.
Black Pearl 3 years ago
There was a guy I had known in middle school that was kind of annoying, but at the start of high school I saw how much he actually changed and developed s crush. We would sit together at lunch and cl sometimes after school, then one day he made s super sexist joke, but I let it slide because it was probably just a slip up. It wasn't. Turns out he was super sexist, kinda racist, absolutely in love with guns and things like that, s hardcore Trumper, and to top it all off he wanted ELON MUSK to be the next president. All he would ever talk about later on was politics and if I ever tried to say something about my beliefs he would immediately dismiss me and just straight up tell me I was wrong while trying to act like he was curious too. I couldn't stand to be around him anymore and had to just ghost him. I still see him at school and I can't feel anything but anger looking at him.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
Anyone who makes any kind of favourable reference to Peterson, Rogan, Musk, Shapiro, etc., must be shunned. They basically hate the poor.
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