“What Fact Are You Just Tired Of Explaining To People?”: 40 Things These People Wish Others Would Finally Understand
We live in a world where, whether we like it or not, we run into people with different views of the world, beliefs, and opinions.
Every now and then, we realize that not all of their claims are equally legit. That became especially true in the times of the coronavirus pandemic when anti-vaxxers and conspiracy theory believers were on the rise.
So imagine when someone asked a seemingly simple question “What fact are you just tired of explaining to people?” on Ask Reddit. It hit a soft spot for too many people and you could see that sheer fatigue left by making sure people get their facts straight is a real thing. Below we wrapped up the most interesting responses.
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Stella Liebeck, the woman who won a lawsuit against McDonald's over hot coffee, had every right to sue them. It's been mocked so many times over the past 20 years with people ridiculing this woman and making it out like she's some idiot who was surprised that coffee was actually hot and she was just attempting a money grab or something. In reality, the temperature of the coffee was f*****g ridiculous and there was no reason for it to be hot enough to cause 3rd degree burns on her legs when she spilled it. She had to have multiple skin graft surgeries and spent 8 days in the hospital where she lost 20 pounds. After that, she needed additional care at home and was partially disabled for the next two years. She had no choice but to sue to cover the cost of her surgeries. This happened a long time ago, but to this day, I still overhear people mocking this case or making references to it in jest.
I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I cannot just decide to not be anxious about stuff. I take medication because I can’t stop. Telling me to just “not worry about it” and “mind over matter” is not going to work. This is a medical issue I am actively being treated for. If I could just choose to stop I would.
Telling me “it’s all in your head” is also useless; of course it’s in my head. It’s a brain problem. Where else is it going to be.
Unfortunately many think that anxiety is "just being scared" and that you can switch it off like a tv when there's a horror movie or something. I wish it was true that it could be switched off. People with this disorder have trouble just getting through the day and need medication. It's sad and I can't imagine what it's like - must be really horrible.
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Mind over matter is literally the problem with anxiety. Your mind is overriding reality. Reality says "this is perfectly safe" but your mind says "WTF NO IT'S NOT AAAAAAAH". So I really don't understand how people can use "mind over matter" as some kind of advice there.
Reality says "This banana is perfectly ripe, let's eat it" your mind says "but there's only one banana, what if someone was saving that? What if something's wrong with it? Does everyone else know something about this banana that I don't?"
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I have GAD and honestly know my brain isn't reacting the way it should. I have no control over it. I see my brain and me as two separate beings. My anxiety flares up, I blame my idiot lizard brain. "No brain, I don't think the dentist is the same as being chased by a sabre tooth tiger, chill the fúck out".
Me too Dan, I've had this shxt for over 10 years and if i had a euro for everyone that says "it"s all in yer head" well i fxkin know that! ffs. I stopped drinking, smoking, started eating healthy, took certain meds that made it worse so now i just drink, smoke and eat what i want but it is a daily struggle. I've decided to say fxk it and just try and deal with it and if it's a problem or is going to be a future problem i tell my brain to fxck off and do something i want to do instead. Peace out to all who have this stupid fxcking disease. x
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The problem is people that are neurotypical really do not - and can not -- understand what it's like. I remember awhile ago on a forum I used to frequent someone was shocked after a new medication started working for them. They posted something along the lines of "is THIS what 'normal' is like? You can just...go DO things?" It was a revelation that neurotypical people can't imagine the pain a "simple" task can bring others bevause they don't feel it. My family was the same, telling me I was lazy, etc, until they see me now at age 46, still the same from back when I was a kid. I've got better coping mechanisms, but I still struggle. My mom finally admitted I was "different", even if she didn't understand.
Oh damn do I ever feel this ... Only now at 38 years old are ppl starting to understand that my depression is an illness! An illness that i didn't choose and that i need help for. As weird as it sounds it's a relief to know that it is indeed an illness, not just a character flaw or lack of self control.
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"its all in your head", really, where else it would be? in my balls? you expect my mental illness to be located in my balls?
Apparently this also applies to debilitating physical illnesses, if your doctor is a useless asshat who decides that it's easier to use your mental health issues against you; rather than actually try to figure out why you suddenly can't walk, have complete peripheral numbness, aside from your bones feeling like they're on fire 24/7, seizures, TIA's, chronic insomnia, etc; must be psychosomatic, couldn't possibly be due to anything else. Sorry for the run on sentence there.
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I think it should be located in the gallbladder (which I had surgically removed in February 2019). Or in the toenails, which get trimmed regularly.
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At the risk of being absolutely skewered... I've suffered from anxiety since I was a teenager, 20+ years. After years of talk therapy and various medications, I've got it mostly under control and no longer require medication. That being said, there actually is an element of truth to this. Learning to recognize that your mind and body's reaction to a given situation is an irrational response is an important skill. Over time, you'll develop the coping skills to recognize what's going on, take a step back, center yourself, and reframe the situation in your mind. Normalizing an anxious reaction within oneself typically leads to avoidance of situations and a lack of personal growth and development.
This is true to a point. I was able to control mine with logic and coping skills until a few years ago when my husband died and I witnessed the accident. My anxiety went to a point that was debilitating, constant, and completely unmanageable. I thank a wonderful doctor and good drugs every day for giving me my life back. I do still use logic and when I'm in a good place I can typically "talk myself down" from most random attacks, but without the drugs doing the heavy lifting there's no way I would have the tools needed to do that.
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Same; so sick of hearing people say "Just let it go" or "Just relax". Not helpful.
Yup, know the felling, although i assume my case is not as serious as this One, however my felling of impending Doom, and Loss, does not go away, because you f*****g told me its all in my head... NEWS FLASH i know its in my f*****g head, doesn't Change a thing though.
This is me! When I have a panic attack from my generalized anxiety disorder, my husband tells me "just to clam down". Novel idea.
“Take a deep breath,” “Calm down,” “It’s all in your head,” etc. Yeah, just f**k right off. So sorry about your husband kelly he sounds s****y.
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I'm reading lots of comments from people who aren't neuro-typical, and because I don't have the mental energy to say it to everyone individually, I am doing it this way instead. I feel solidarity with you all; and whilst I don't know how each of you personally feel, I know what it's like to have mental health conditions, and how difficult it makes daily life. I am sending you all hugs, and hoping your tomorrow is better than today. And to the people who don't suffer from mental health conditions, but are supportive and kind towards those who do; thank you for your compassion and making us feel seen.
What a lovely message SaneMinotaur (She/her) x I've never had any anxiety disorders nor any other type of mental health issue so I cannot even begin to imagine what some of you go through each day. Yes I get stressed over things but certainly not to the point where I feel like I need meds or counselling. I wish I could make you all feel better with a chat and a cuppa but I know it's not that easy. Like SaneMinotaur (she/her), I send you all big hugs and please remember, you ARE loved, you ARE cared for and you ARE worthy - good luck with your journeys xox
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Of course it's all happening inside your head, but why on earth should that mean it isn't real - Albus Dumbledore
Wife has this too. When it's really bad I've learned to ask if I can help, and when she tells me no I just make a pot of tea, get the heating pad out, and get the kids out of the house for a bit
You're an amazing partner. Random hugs can also help even if she says that there's nothing you can do. If she's the type that is. Unsolicited hugs to someone who doesn't want them right now will only make it worse. 🙃
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Oh, I had a therapist who said paper binders and meditation(I've got GAD, Depression and ADHD) would 'fix' my brain. This was like 2007, since then I've found out guided meditation can sort of work if I'm in the right headspace. I still have no idea why she thought paper binders would 'fix' me. I asked for a change in therapist and was lucky to get switched. (Sorry, had to share)
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Same diagnosis as me. I'm also on methadone for substance abuse disorder (in recovery from opiate addiction, clean for a few years) and hoo boy, let me tell ya, it's been so rough trying to find someone, ANYONE, who was willing to treat me with medication. I was so very lucky to have found a doctor right here in my little township that was willing to work with me and I thank my lucky stars for her every single day. Even though I am getting a prescription for Klonopin from an actual psychiatrist, who sees and treats me on a regular basis, my clinic was pretty unwilling to "verify" my script so that I could get take home privileges and not have to come in to dose every single day. I hadn't even tried to seek out treatment for my anxiety for YEARS because it was well known that the doctor at my clinic didn't believe that people on methadone should use any other medications and would refuse to allow take homes for anyone who did. Well, things change! I just got verified 🤗
How does preventing someone from being able to have even the slightest part of their lives in their own control help anyone?
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Same! Of course I TRY not to worry, it's not like I enjoy feeling terrified all the time. It's that my brain literally can not NOT worry without help.
Its the flight or fight response and in someone like me it is switched on even by simple everyday tasks like making a phone call. It is ridiculous and no one would ever purposely want to be like this every waking moment. Oh and sleeping doesn't turn it off either
This is the reason that my phone is on do not disturb 24/7. It's bad enough having to make a phonecall, but even worse if you receive one unexpectedly.
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Similar with stress and insomnia triggered epilepsy. Nobody can understand how thi is ruining your life. Why don’t you just have a good long sleep? If sb. asks (unfortunately doctors too!), I want to scream
I’ve never been diagnosed, but ainxiety runs in my family. Some days it gets so bad that I can barely walk becuase my brain overthinks/ get anxious about too much stuff to the point where my motor functions don’t work. Most days it’s just constant guilt and worrying, normal symptoms, but it gets like that every once in a while. I also have really really bad intrusive thoughts. Hoping to get a diagnosis once I’m old enough to get it without parent permission.
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with it alone and without treatment, it has to be worse because your parents are either unable to recognize the problem or are unwilling to deal with it. Please do seek it out help as soon as you're able to, even your regular general practitioner can prescribe anti-anxiety medications.
Load More Replies... God, this drives me nuts. I have severe generalized anxiety and a few people in my life have started rolling their eyes when I "overreact" to something ir express fear of something because I overthink outcomes. I frequently get told "now don't panic about this, but" or "stop freaking out" when I'm not even expressing a fear. I get told negative interactions are my fault alot because I "worried to much". Like, that's great that you don't have anxiety like this, but you're also not recognizing how much better my anxiety is now vs years ago. It's an ongoing struggle.
They need to learn to appreciate the fact that you aren't currently curled up in a ball in your bed, with every single light source extinguished.
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The best part is when you go to the doctor for a very real, very bad physical health issue, and they see the anxiety diagnosis and send you off with some scolding and a higher dose of anxiety meds.
Tbh i know this is a serious illness but i dont know what to say to calm down a friend during such moments and therefore these seemingly comforting words come out🙂
People really need to be more knowledgeable before they speak. Of course it’s a brain problem. The neurotransmitters in the brain that help regulate us are chemically off. Sometimes people need medications to adjust serotonin or dopamine or norepinephrine in their neural pathways. Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it isn’t real.
"Nothing to be nervous about, just relax." That's the one I hear ad nauseum. I'm at the point where my reply is a salty, "Do you tell paraplegics to just get up and walk, it's easy?".
YES I have depression but I haven’t been diagnosed or treated or had a therapist (I need therapy though) but I often get told to just “have a positive attitude and you’ll be fine.” Like sheesh if I could I would, I don’t want to stay depressed!! :’(
so many people have trouble understanding mental illnesses. it happens when the brain isn’t working, not when the sufferer is dramatic. therapy helps the way physical therapy can help injuries. medication helps the same way antibiotics help infections. you can literally see mental illness on a brain scan so no it’s not imaginary.
Yes! Mental illnesses are physical diseases. I wish I understood that about myself earlier. I spent so many years thinking I was lazy and unmotivated and beating myself up about it. 7 years ago I began recognizing that those were just symptoms of my depression and had no bearing on my character or worth.
Mental health, if possible, is more important than physical health, and they're both reliant on each other.
I feel for you, I get this too - "I feel anxious" - "What about?" - "nothing, just anxious" - they look at you funny, like you're making it up. I won't try and give advice, I'm sure what works for me you already know or won't work for you. I will say it got better as I got older, but I still get it a few times a month.
I have suffered from anxiety, depression and OCD my whole life; I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder when I had a breakdown; and I finally found out in my 40's that I have Asperger's syndrome/ASD. I'm so glad that I have my diagnoses because it answered so many questions for me.
Might be worth at least doing a self diagnosis screening for ADHD as well, if you haven't already.
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When my husband and I started dating he did not understand why he wasn't "enough" to end all my anxiety/depression. Any time it came up I said, "google it. look it up. read about it. etc..." Once he finally did that, he understood, as best as someone who doesn't suffer can anyway. He is my biggest supporter and knows exactly what to do/say and what not to do/say when attacks happen. I love him.
Yep, wish people understood this, and depression, so hard. Hope the medication helps with the spiralling out of control thoughts...it is so hard
I have just a tiny bone to pick with this one. all of what is said is true, but at the same time, you still need to use your head to sort through the emotions and make a reasonable decision. my dad has Generalized Anxiety Disorder and he constantly projects his anxiety onto everyone else, to the point it's overbearing and it feels like I can't do anything because "that makes me anxious. I know it's probably not going to happen, but it could." just be careful how it affects you and other people (as someone who also has General Anxiety Disorder.)
Of course it is happenjng in your head. But why should it mean it is not real?
Thank you, thank you so much for this very important, essential posting! I too suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder I had it first diagnosed 20 years ago; it made me an introvert in “real life”. With some “sane” people I can’t help the feeling that _any_ understandig of psychological issues (as far as I can tell, this also applies to major depression) is completely beyond them. I try to avoid contact with such ignorant folks whenever it’s possible – they’re bad for my health, they make matters worse. Again, a heartfelt big thank you!
I have it documented that I have an anxiety disorder as well as generalized social phobia. I mask it well at work because of my medications, but without them I can't function in public without having a severe anxiety attack that makes me feel like I'm dying. (I've had breakdowns in the middle of a Walmart before I was on medication because I couldn't find my parents. That bad.)
I'm Bipolar and people think I'm faking but its a serious issue.
I wish my parents understood this. Instead of telling me I was lazy/faking it, or I needed to go to church and pray.
'Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?'
Reminds me of a TikTok sound : I hate when people say 'your mental illness is all in your head, you know'. Like yeah, where else is it supposed to be, my balls? Mental illness is stored in the balls
Agreed. I have panic disorder and high anxiety, and GAD, it sucks. I'm on medication and in therapy for it.
Same here, GAD is one of those invisible things people don't get are horrible and can really mess you up. You're not just a "little scared and should just push trough". Those seemingly "silly little things, nothing to worry about" that trigger it can put the sufferer in a very real world of hurt. Sometimes, it literally feels like you are going to die of a heart attack or aneurism.
I too have GAD, my ex used to tell me all the time it was all in my head. Everyday is a battle
I also have GAD and telling people with it to "just relax" is not helpful at all. Actually most things well-meaning people say aren't helpful
I just came out today from visiting my pharmacy and my pharmacist told me about 10 times to call 911 if this or that happens with my new meds about a temporary problem I have and kept telling me not to overstress over these precautions. I'm overly anxious and take meds for that already (but I don't have panic attacks) and he knows it. *sigh*
That's super helpful. I hope that you're okay at the moment.
Load More Replies... Yes but too many people proffer this as ‘advice,’ out of ignorance, sheer stupidity or because they are mean!!! The person that offers this doesn’t care to educate themselves by learning on what areas of the brain are responsible for emotions, fight or flight and the causes that create anxiety, eg like growing up being raised bf critical, abusive parents, parents with addictions or psychiatric disorders, being sexually abused… Being bullied at school, feeling inadequate, there are many, many root causes. One out of four people currently have a mental illness!!! Imagine how many are parents, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Teachers, or anyone who influences, or has the opportunity to damage a child emotionally, physically or mentally.
My favourite part about it is when it comes out of nowhere and you become powerless for however many hours, days, weeks, and even months it can take for it to calm down again.
I experienced panic attacks after becoming anesthesia aware during ear surgery. Panic attacks have a “shelf life” of approximately 20 minutes. Then you have a period of recovery. My recovery period barely happened before another one would hit. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. When I go to sleep really bad things happen. I started at 110lbs and dropped to 85lbs because I couldn’t eat. 2 weeks of this and my BFF contacted my psychiatrist thinking there may be an answer there. There was. He figured it out. I had decided if this is what the rest of my life is going to be like this, I’m not doing it. It took a year to recover. Still can have extreme anxiety. I have learned how to deal with it, but if I can’t, it takes medications. Yes, it is “in your head”, but the physical manifestations are pure suffering.
Kind of like having depression and people asking why you would be depressed
I suffer with severe anxiety. Mostly daily, sometimes, I can go maybe 5 days without it, but that's considered a miracle week. I had 'friends' who would tell me to stop worrying so much and let things go. The level of tension I would feel in my stomach at these words would add to my anxiety that evening causing my anxiety to last days longer. It is no one's business to tell someone who suffers this agony to calm down and stop worrying. It is for other people to learn to sit still with us, accept this is our pain and to maybe just listen and say nothing. We don't need sympathy. We just need patience.
RIGHT?! How about throwing in some PTSD, OCD, Panic Disorder and MDD??? "Calm down!" "Get over it!" Just get over yourself and fuq off!
When I hear the phrase "it's all in your head," I always think of what Dumbledore told Harry in Deathly Hallows: "Of course it's all in your head, but why should that mean it isn't real?"
As someone who also suffers chronic anxiety (due to ptsd), grounding by resourcing and affirmations (in that order) has helped a lot. It is a hard skill to learn and it doesn't stop the anxiety from happening, but helps get it under control.
Use a memory or place that make you feel safe. (For me, it is a specific memory from when I was in Japan). Specifically imagine the things you saw, the smells, where you were, who you were with (what were they wearing, what were you wearing?). If possible, have your eyes closed and be sitting, check in with your body, is there anywhere that feels tight? Relax those parts. Anywhere feel neutral or good? Focus on those parts. If your feet, are they sinking into the floor? Is your back relaxed against the chair? And deep slow breaths (6 counts in, hold for 4, out for 6). When ready, say affirmations, "I am safe", "I am valuable", "I am kind" , "I am capable" (whatever affirmations are needed for you at the time for the situation). It can be hard to ground at first, especially if you're really worked up, but you really gotta lean into. Can take awhile so be patient and kind with yourself. It is literally rewiring your brain and your brain will want to resist, but it's possible! Hope this helps!
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A dance teacher told me to calm down so I did after telling her thats not how it works grabbing my stuff and leaving in the middle of class.
I've actually been wondering about this. GAD panda's, help me out here! I understand that an emotion that is 'just there' can attach itself to any random thing in the world, and I get how this would colour your perception. The thing that eludes me however, is how or why you allow your emotions to guide (aggressive or avoidant) behavior. Could you enlighten me?
If you were standing 2 metres away from a black bear and your fight or flight reaction is to run, is that an emotion? No. It's a life and death situation that your mind and body is trying to save you from. I'm sh*t at explaining depression/anxiety let's just say if you've never experienced them count yourself fuggin' lucky. But please be nice to ppl even if you don't understand what they are going through 🤗
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That giving people rights does not remove your rights. You don't get a free right to suppress people who are not like you.
BuT I dOn'T wAnT gAyS tO mArRy... Then don't marry someone of your gender. You can still freely stay married to your opposite gendered spouse. It isn't infringing on your rights. It bugs you that you can't force other people to do what you want.
Someone asked me why I WASN'T opposed to gay marriage because in their minds it diminished my het marriage. I just asked 'how so?' and watched then struggle. This is so silly. A modern relationship is about two people deciding to spend life together because it's easier than being alone and hopefully because they love each other, but in my mind that's optional. Marriage means taking responsibility for the well being of your spouse and making a commitment to each other to care for each other and help each other out. That's it. Another couple marrying has no impact whatsoever on my marriage and vice versa. Marriage is only between those married to each other
Many of our problems, whether at work or in relationships, stem back to communication issues. In fact, this Preply survey showed that Americans are becoming less effective communicators, and respondents say that being interrupted is the biggest communication problem of all.
Other communication problems that drive Americans crazy are being talked over (19%) and having to repeat themselves (18%). So why do people get so miserably frustrated when they are asked to repeat themselves? Well, apparently, it has to do with implying that the listener wasn’t paying attention to what they’re saying and as a result, that makes the speaker feel underappreciated and like they're wasting their time.
When out in public, I am not BABYSITTING my kids or GIVING MOM A BREAK. I am a dad and they are my kids. WTF is wrong with women over the age of 40 who say this s**t to men?
Its not a 'women over 40 issue'. It's an every demographic issue. When I go out without the kids I get asked if my husband is 'babysitting' or I get asked 'who?' is babysitting. The question is posed by young women, old women, middle aged women, young men, old men and middle aged men alike. When I reply that yes, my husband is at home PARENTING his children they usually reply how "lucky" I am.
Everything is made of chemicals. Not everything “natural” is good and not everything “man made” is bad.
Poison ivy is natural but I'm not going to rub it all over my body. Natural can be dangerous too.
Your opinion does not carry the same weight as an expert who has spent their entire life working on an issue.
Repeating yourself is far from the only annoying thing people experience while communicating. Many people are also guilty of giving unsolicited advice, guidance or information that wasn't asked for. Not only is it considered disrespectful and presumptuous to insert your opinions and ideas when they may not be wanted. It can also communicate a sort of superiority, since it assumes the advice-giver knows what's right or best for the listener.
Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Audrey Tang, a chartered psychologist and author of multiple books, including "Be A Great Manager Now", "The Leader's Guide to Mindfulness," and "The Leader's Guide to Resilience” who said that the one and only person we have a right to manage is our own self.
Being an introvert doesn’t mean I’m shy. It means having a social battery which gets run down and sometimes becomes empty if I don’t have enough peaceful alone time to recharge it.
My job is peopley enough but at least I’m paid to be there. I actively avoid crowds on my time off.
That migrants can't all be here to BOTH steal our jobs AND claim unemployment benefits.
That my lifelong history of depression has little to nothing to do with my relatively stress-free life. People are always saying, "What do you have to be depressed about?" Believe me, I wish it were that simple.
"Depression isn't real. There's nothing wrong with people who are depressed. They just want attention." -my mother to me whenever I try to explain my actual diagnosed depression
What’s worse, if you offer advice, Dr. Tang argues, the person takes it and it all goes wrong, they may blame you. “Or if you offer advice and they don't take it and it still all goes wrong, they may feel they cannot come to you.”
“Sometimes the best thing you can do is be a friend and wait to pick up the pieces,” Dr. Tang argues. In fact, Dr. Tang reminds us that this also applies to explaining truths you are tired of repeating: “You cannot save people from themselves.” Dr. Tang added that if you are trying to do so, then it’s fair to ask yourself “what are you avoiding looking at in YOUR OWN life?”
I'm a male and a nurse. No I don't want to be a doctor. No I'm not going to school to be a doctor. No I don't feel like less of a man because I'm a nurse and not a doctor. And stop calling me doc and doctor. I've told you 5 times I'm your nurse and my badge says NURSE in big letters.
"I'm just being honest" is not an acceptable excuse for being an a*****e.
It's couldn't care less, not could care less unless you mean to say you do care
Wish I could upvote this more. I see this written into films etc. Seems more of an issue in the USA.
While communicating with people, it often happens that people ask for advice, but that doesn’t mean they want to hear the truth. Dr. Tang explained that in these instances, they actually just want validation.
“And sometimes I feel the most empowering thing to do is to ask - what do you want me to say - do you actually want my advice or someone to agree with you?” Dr. Tang said. She argues that this will save you time in giving advice to someone who doesn't actually want it.
Dr. Tang concluded that ultimately, every person needs to make their decisions on their own. We can try to prove them wrong or repeat ourselves indefinitely, but at some point, all our effort becomes nothing more than just a waste of time.
How evolution works. Giraffes didn't stretch their necks. All the ones with short necks repeatedly died before reproducing. Evolutionary filters require mass death and/or overpowering reproduction of a mutation.
Also, science isn't a belief system. Its a method of repeatable testing.
Still there's sadly a growing crowd that treats science like religion and get really angry if you dispute anything that's 'scientifically proven' even when the last study is from the 70s and newer knowledge makes it very likely it might be obsolete and needs retesting or there was already an attempt to recreate the study that failed. One study can't 'prove' anything. It takes at least several studies to show if something is valid or not. One study with 30 participants is not statistically relevant and cannot make predictions for the whole world.
That disagreeing with someone's opinion isn't an attack on them.
THE AIR IS IN THE BAG TO PROTECT THE CHIPS.
YOU ARE BUYING WEIGHT, NOT VOLUME.
Yes BUT that doesn't change the fact that there's still less weight and same package size so more air than needed. It's called Shrinkflation and it's well documented. When I was younger there were 200g chps in the bag. The bag was full to two thirds when opened. Today there are 125g content in the bag, the bag is even bigger though and so it's barely half full. And no, you don't need THAT many air in the bag!
Don't get your mental health information from TikTok, facebook, or self proclaimed experts who aren't professionally licensed.
I no longer offer a professional opinion anywhere outside of work, and that includes reddit. I've learned that 95% of the time, people don't want to hear the facts, they just want to circle jerk about whatever reality they've conjured up in their heads, and if you correct them, they'll be pissed off and then it's a bad time for everyone
signed,
a psychiatrist
People HATE being corrected. People do not wish to have new information from which they may alter their views. Much of what people think about life and politics comes from a split in the population they decided to join waaay back. Since then they have looked for information to justify that decision..
Antibiotics will not help your virus. Even if you feel really crappy.
Just because someone doesn't always need their disability aids, that doesn't mean they're not disabled and faking it. Someone who needs a wheelchair to get around doesn't always mean they can't use their legs. They can still walk short distances.
I have a cane and no I don't use it all the time. When I do people tell me ai am too young to need it. I calmly reply that dieing twice and a back full of steel make it a necessity sometimes.
That Depression is a real disease
Yes, it is! And no i don't know what I'm depressed about. And I agree i have nothing to be depressed about. And both those facts are depressing. #ViciousCircle
Maintaining a safe following distance is the easiest thing to do to avoid accidents and yet most people aren’t doing it. It’s basically impossible to react in time to avoid an accident if you’re following less than two seconds behind someone. It doesn’t get you where you’re going faster. The accident will always be your fault. And finally, two seconds is way longer than most people think, most will count one second.
I'm a programmer. I write programs. I don't know why your computer won't turn on
We had a genius programmer in our company once (genius as in "needed a few days to completely program a new shop system, database interface and merchandise managing system FROM SCRATCH without using existing ones"). A real code wizard. He was helpless as a toddler if he had any computer problems. One time he called in an external computer technician because his laptop would not start (he had forgotten to charge it).
My adhd is an explanation, not an excuse
ADHD in the USA would be an interesting sociological topic. Diagnosed juvenile ADHD incidence is over 5 times the global average. For every medically diagnosed case there are up to three people who self-diagnosed ADHD, most of the times without any real basis. Why is it so prevalent in the USA vs the world, and why so much people who do not have it think they do?
Airplanes don't fall out of the sky when they lose an engine. A 747 can glide nearly 100 miles after losing all engines at cruise.
That just because I am bisexual doesn't mean I will have sex with anyone.
If I'm working at **night**, I need to *sleep* during some portion of the **day**
Hate against any race is hate; though not always systematic.
Hate against any sex is hate; though not always systematic.
If hate makes you feel good, you are part of the problem.
Yes, libraries still exist, and yes people still use them, and yes we have things other than print books. Like free covid tests! A weekly vaccine clinic! Classes that are free!
That I really don’t want to eat meat. I’m not against it. Really, eat all you want. I just don’t like it anymore.
I feel this. Sometimes I go on a no meat kick. I love meat but for months on end, I can't eat it. Don't give a crãp if you want to eat every cow in existence.
A hour long youtube video about something does not mean that it is true. It could just mean that some crazy or stupid person posted a hour long video about nothing and you are now dumber for having listened to it and may god have mercy on your soul.
The difference between type I and II diabetes, two completely different diseases
Being a healthcare worker and sometimes even having to explain it to my coworkers is tiring
Or the idea that diabetes is something you do to yourself. While being overweight is a risk factor (for type 2), so are a lot of other things like genetics.
Harsh sentencing doesn’t deter crime. Study after study, decade after decade, this has been confirmed.
The most significant effect on deterring criminal activity is likelihood of being caught. Harsh punishment has a negligible effect.
Also, education is usually the best way out of situations that are conducive to crime. So the money used on the "war on drugs" would have been better spent in the education sector.
You cannot reduce fat in a specific part of your body - none of those fitness influencer exercises to 'burn belly fat' or 'kill your love handles' do anything - to lose fat you must reduce your overall body fat % with a caloric deficit
That because i can usually figure out how to fix most things does NOT mean i want to fix everything that breaks for anyone else.
My dad worked for IBM, so he was the "fixit" for the entire family. After my dad's accident, I inherited the "fixit" position because I'm "just like him", apparently XD
Historic life expectancy is heavily skewed by high infant mortality. If you got past 4 or 5 years old you had a good chance of making old age. People weren't just dropping dead at 35!
Child bearing women also had very high mortality. But yes, living 60-80 years was not at all unusual as far back as roman times. Of course infections, violence and disease were very real killers so it was also common for people to die much earlier in life. People frequently had multiple spouses because they were widowed more than once. The big false narrative is that the regular life span was 30ish and that was considered old and that is just not true at all. There are a lot of ways to die which have been more or less erradicated in the modern world but anyone who avoided those things had about the same lifespan as we do today.
You cannot get a raise and wind up with a lower net income because of taxes.
Income taxes are *progressive*. The higher bracket does not apply to the money you make under the threshold.
(This is different from the welfare cliff, which is very real.)
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Here's another one: Most homeless people aren't mentally-ill or addicts. The methodology used to count the homeless population is horribly flawed (mostly due to politics) and has been criticized for years. Also, there are a hell of a lot more homeless people in the USA than most people think (and that number is only increasing).
Thank you! We were homeless because my ex refused to pay cs after he threatened us when he found us at a Dv shelter- we had to get out because it brought possible danger to everyone living there- and I couldn't find a job because I had no address
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That asexuality is real. And being aromantic. And agender while we're at it. Really people seem to have difficulties with A's.
That weather and climate aren't the same thing. Batman-Cli...b40a65.jpg 
Moving on is not the same as getting over. You never get over the loss of a child or pregnancy. My family has experienced both. Children have been born since then, but the loss of my nephew to SIDS, and my own child to miscarriage still haunts everyone of us, years later. And for the love of ice cream, don’t say “You can always try again.” Yeah, we can and did. We still notice the ones that are missing.
My daughter told me about a recent miscarriage and I cried. She said it was early and they didn't want to upset me. I'm sitting here crying for my little grandchild.
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How vaccines work. Why homeopathy/chiropractice/snake oil doesn't. That the bible isn't evidence of anything. Taking vitamin C will not prevent colds or flu. There's no such thing as "stomach flu".
I guess I'm sick of explaining the difference between a "fact" and an "opinion," which is something this article mixes up on multiple occasions.
I'll add that people also confuse an opinion with dogmatic belief. Flat Earth isn't an opinion, it's dogmatic belief. It is a held belief in something for which there is ZERO evidence. This is also the case with believing that Jesus is a god, or that there is a heaven, or that American cheese tastes good. I don't have a problem with what dogma you choose to believe, and which you don't, but they don't even really count as opinions.
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In most cases, hiring someone based on their gender/racist/sexuality is just as racists as not hiring them. Either way you are not basing it on the persons skills/experience. Exception would be support groups. Also why do we need to have a Mr/Miss/Ms/Mrs anymore.
I would prefer to have none of them, but I will still choose Miss over Ms, because Ms just hurts my ears to hear lol
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I feel like everyone would benefit from an Adam Ruins Everything marathon
That the bag of chips might be half full of air but is sold based on the weight of the chips. The air is trapped intentionally to minimize crushing of the chips during transport.
There is actually a right and a wrong way to coil a cable or power cord. I am a theatre and events technician and cable management is a big part of my job. Most people are never taught how to properly treat a cable (you should never wrap it around your arm). That is why you see so many extension cords and such in people's homes that have kinks and bends all over the place and do not lay nice and flat. Now you know.
It will be easier for me to maintain a healthy eating pattern and to drink more water once my school (where I spend almost half of my waking hours) starts providing clean water, sanitary bathrooms, and food that's safe to eat
Another: The best experts on a group are always the people in that group. The people who know the most about neurodivergent people are neurodivergent people. The people who know the most about queer people are queer people. You can´t be more knowledgeable about the experiences and traits of a specific type of people then those people.
I agree. But it’s also important to realize that no group is a monolith, and one person’s opinion is just one person’s opinion. To understand a group and the variance within it you need N > 1.
Load More Replies... "Theory" versus "Hypothesis", women don't pee out of our vaginas, childfree doesn't mean child-hater, polyamory isn't cheating, the right to free speech doesn't mean the right to an opinion. You can say any stupid thing. You only have the right to an informed opinion.
"yearly a flu" is not the same as "influenza", as a junior doctor: yes i had a first look at you, no i cant influence how fast i have your blood result and when you ct scan is done
It’s in the very first post, you are wrong and people are tired of explaining it to you.
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Here's another one: Most homeless people aren't mentally-ill or addicts. The methodology used to count the homeless population is horribly flawed (mostly due to politics) and has been criticized for years. Also, there are a hell of a lot more homeless people in the USA than most people think (and that number is only increasing).
Thank you! We were homeless because my ex refused to pay cs after he threatened us when he found us at a Dv shelter- we had to get out because it brought possible danger to everyone living there- and I couldn't find a job because I had no address
Load More Replies... That asexuality is real. And being aromantic. And agender while we're at it. Really people seem to have difficulties with A's.
That weather and climate aren't the same thing. Batman-Cli...b40a65.jpg
Moving on is not the same as getting over. You never get over the loss of a child or pregnancy. My family has experienced both. Children have been born since then, but the loss of my nephew to SIDS, and my own child to miscarriage still haunts everyone of us, years later. And for the love of ice cream, don’t say “You can always try again.” Yeah, we can and did. We still notice the ones that are missing.
My daughter told me about a recent miscarriage and I cried. She said it was early and they didn't want to upset me. I'm sitting here crying for my little grandchild.
Load More Replies... How vaccines work. Why homeopathy/chiropractice/snake oil doesn't. That the bible isn't evidence of anything. Taking vitamin C will not prevent colds or flu. There's no such thing as "stomach flu".
I guess I'm sick of explaining the difference between a "fact" and an "opinion," which is something this article mixes up on multiple occasions.
I'll add that people also confuse an opinion with dogmatic belief. Flat Earth isn't an opinion, it's dogmatic belief. It is a held belief in something for which there is ZERO evidence. This is also the case with believing that Jesus is a god, or that there is a heaven, or that American cheese tastes good. I don't have a problem with what dogma you choose to believe, and which you don't, but they don't even really count as opinions.
Load More Replies... In most cases, hiring someone based on their gender/racist/sexuality is just as racists as not hiring them. Either way you are not basing it on the persons skills/experience. Exception would be support groups. Also why do we need to have a Mr/Miss/Ms/Mrs anymore.
I would prefer to have none of them, but I will still choose Miss over Ms, because Ms just hurts my ears to hear lol
Load More Replies... I feel like everyone would benefit from an Adam Ruins Everything marathon
That the bag of chips might be half full of air but is sold based on the weight of the chips. The air is trapped intentionally to minimize crushing of the chips during transport.
There is actually a right and a wrong way to coil a cable or power cord. I am a theatre and events technician and cable management is a big part of my job. Most people are never taught how to properly treat a cable (you should never wrap it around your arm). That is why you see so many extension cords and such in people's homes that have kinks and bends all over the place and do not lay nice and flat. Now you know.
It will be easier for me to maintain a healthy eating pattern and to drink more water once my school (where I spend almost half of my waking hours) starts providing clean water, sanitary bathrooms, and food that's safe to eat
Another: The best experts on a group are always the people in that group. The people who know the most about neurodivergent people are neurodivergent people. The people who know the most about queer people are queer people. You can´t be more knowledgeable about the experiences and traits of a specific type of people then those people.
I agree. But it’s also important to realize that no group is a monolith, and one person’s opinion is just one person’s opinion. To understand a group and the variance within it you need N > 1.
Load More Replies... "Theory" versus "Hypothesis", women don't pee out of our vaginas, childfree doesn't mean child-hater, polyamory isn't cheating, the right to free speech doesn't mean the right to an opinion. You can say any stupid thing. You only have the right to an informed opinion.
"yearly a flu" is not the same as "influenza", as a junior doctor: yes i had a first look at you, no i cant influence how fast i have your blood result and when you ct scan is done
It’s in the very first post, you are wrong and people are tired of explaining it to you.
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