33 Relationship A-Ha Moments When People Knew This Was The Real Deal

My mother was in the hospital, everything was looking grim. She'd had several strokes after heart surgery, doctors were pretty baffled. My girlfriend at the time stood beside me through all of it. No one had ever done that before. My dad left when I was two, mom was always away, had substance problems. I'm not used to intimacy or anyone looking out for me, but she was.
So I put a ring on it.

It was really early on in our relationship, I think around the fourth date or so. It'd been a while since we'd seen each other due to conflicting work/study schedules, and it was going to be a while after that before we'd be together again. I got sick the night before our date, a really bad flu, and while I tried to ignore it and dosed up on flu meds so I could pretend to myself that I was fine, I had to cancel. He showed up half an hour later with tea, a mountain of kleenex and some awesome trashy DVDs, and he insisted on staying with my gross still-in-pyjamas self, making me tea and ordering food for us. tldr: IT IS THE MUCUS THAT BINDS US.

We started long distance. My aha moment was when he left to go back to his hometown the third time he visited me. I cried and felt empty and yet the relationship was still fairly new. One year and a bit later, I moved to his hometown, bought a condo he moved in and we've been nothing but smiles and laughs. He treats me like a queen and I try to spoil him as often as I can.

When I was fumbling with the words to tell him I loved him. It was something like "well...idk...you know..." All he said was "I love you too"

Our first time spending the night together. There was something deeply comforting about waking up next to her, as though I knew the rest of the day was going to be alright.

She wanted to surprise me with warm pudding when I came home, but I was running late and she kept warming it up a few times just so I can come home to warm cup of pudding.

I was having a bad panic attack and on skype with her just crying and shaking and being a gross emotional mess. She asked me if I needed her and I responded with the typical panic attack rebuff "no I don't want to be a burden". She kept insisting though and asked if I would be better if she were there. I begrudgingly said yes. She was at my house within five minutes and proceeded to hold me and play with my hair for hours to calm me down. No one had ever done anything like that for me before and the fact that she treated me with such tender kindness rather than running away or calling me crazy made me realize that she was the one.

He took my hand in his and interlocked our fingers when he kissed me goodbye after our 4th date. I'd never had a guy do that before, it felt truly intimate and loving.

This may sound odd, but I actually knew well before we even dated or really knew each other. We are high school sweet hearts. We started dating while I was in twelfth grade and she was in tenth. I distinctly remember riding the bus home one day when I was in ninth grade (she in seventh) and telling my friend that I would marry her some day. We had never spoken before this and she only knew of me. Coincidentally, she even wrote in her diary when she was in eighth grade (we barely knew each other at this point) that I seemed like the type of guy she would want to marry. We started dating two years later around 2010 and married in August of 2014. Things couldn't be better. She is far more than I deserve.

When he left on a motorcycle trip for a week and I couldn't sleep without him. Had a panic attack at the thought of never seeing him again. I love that man. Marrying him in August after 8 amazing years!

When I realized that he thinks I have a great sense of humor and always laughs at my jokes :)

It was definitely the day we got together. I mean, realising he was The One in the flurry of emotions that followed was something completely new to me. But in that moment I ended up having it click. He said he felt it too. And I confessed my love to him.

He kissed me goodbye as he was heading to class, after he left I stood up and almost fell over because I was literally weak in the knees. I had never had that sensation before and knew it was something special. I just remember thinking I was on to something good with this one.

I knew I had feelings for him for a while, and I was just getting to the point where I felt like dating again (several months after a bad relationship ended). I didn't really know how to bring it up or anything, though. Meanwhile, two other guys were showing interest and implying they wanted to date me. The thought of being with either of those two guys and missing my chance to be with my now husband literally made me feel sick to my stomach. That's how I knew that I didn't just want anyone; it had to be him.

I remember the the day I told my girlfriend I love her and the day I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. We went out to dinner one night and I looked deeply into her eyes and I knew I was falling for her. So I came out and said I love you, it just felt natural I mean we were not dating that long I would say maybe 3 months in but I just knew she was the one, when she said it back to me I felt so over come with joy and happiness because I honestly didn't know how she was gonna react.

After our third date, I received the most sincere hand-written letter. In it was an invitation to dinner and this: "I hope this dinner is the first of those we'll be sharing for the rest of our lives together."
That did it! (I still have the letter, too.)

I think I knew he was the one from the first moment I saw him. We talked for a month before we met in person, and when I saw him that first time, I knew he was the one I'd been waiting for. I was head over heels. Just goes to show that online dating DOES work!

This is gonna sound really cheesy, but this was it. I was struggling with a decision, and I heard the song "Let Her Go" on the radio. Then I proposed a few days later.

When I see what a great dad he is, how he balances me out, laughs at my jokes, makes me laugh and I know he'd do anything for me.

When I revealed the worst of my past, she responded with love and compassion. When I felt like a monster, she helped me feel human and worthy of love. She still does, all the time. Ring shopping now.

Funny enough it was when I caught him lying to me. I busted him on something and he came clean. He admitted to what I had just busted him on, admitted to having done it before and how often (not cheating, just a bad habit). It doesn't sound like the best start to a life together but I'd been with guys before who would try to convince me that I just imagined what I witnessed or that the whole world was out to get them. Seeing him admit his failings, expose himself to me and be honest instead of trying to flip it around and blame me showed me that we could work things out.
That was probably 10 years ago, been married for 5 and going strong.

After a long hike up to the top of a rocky outcrop, we sat together in silence and just looked out over the view and felt the wind blowing. I just had this overwhelming sense of timeless peace and belonging....Aaaaand he says it was when I made him my spicy Thai peanut pasta for the first time.

We started of with great, fiery passion, as is common with teenagers. Both kept saying "It won't last longer than a month," then making plans for 2 months down the road and joking "If we even make it that far!"
We went on a camping trip with my family and had to take turns washing dishes and other camp chores. It was when I realized how much I loved doing these chores with him, and brushing our teeth together, that I realized I wanted to brush my teeth next to him every time for the rest of my life. Almost 7 years now.

When everything I was imagining myself doing in the future, he was right there with me. Trying to think of a scenario where he wasn't there just made me really, really sad. Also, he makes me feel like I am the most amazing lady on the planet, and the prettiest girl in the room, no matter where we are.

When, as a 30 year old guy, I broke down in tears when I couldn't figure out where she was at 2:00 am one night. Probably only took me 10 seconds to check for text messages on my phone, but it felt like an eternity.

There was no future for myself that I could dream of which was not better by her being in it.

You know how sometimes you have a big bowl of macaroni and cheese and you can't get enough of it? You eat and eat and even after you're full you keep eating? And then you get so sad when it's gone? And you look forward to when you get to eat macaroni and cheese next? One day, I noticed I loved him more than macaroni and cheese. Being with him was like eating the macaroni and cheese and you don't notice you get full until it's too late, but even then it's totally worth it. And not being with him (loooooong distance for 4 years) was like having constant "just finished all my macaroni and cheese" disappointment. So it was like that.

It's kind of hard to say... I think I knew it for a long time, but didn't really know how to accept it. It was just this feeling I had, that I couldn't have it any other way.
I really knew I loved him when we had our first Christmas, I think. We had already been together for a few months and committed our "I love you's" and relationship and all that, but when he rode the bus two and a half hours to my house from 30 miles away (neither of us had cars at the time), when he was sick because he wanted to give me my Christmas gifts on Christmas Eve, I knew. He means the world to me.

I saw her playing with the kids she babysat while they were still around the infant/toddler age and it was just so freaking adorable, I just thought that this is going to be the mother of my children and my heart melted and I knew that was it.

First time I went to her house. Walked up the stairs and at the top of the bannister was her copy of Lord of the Rings. She's not from an English speaking country so it was doubly suprising. I remember thinking 'that's cool' then we dated for 4 more years and are now married.

I knew I wanted to marry my boyfriend about six months into the relationship. I went to an out of state college our first year. When my best friend came to visit me, he enlisted her to bring me two Tupperware containers full of chocolate covered pretzels because he knew they were my favorite. But I knew he was the one when he made a third batch for my friend because he knew she would sneak some on the drive there.
A few weeks ago at rush hour about eight two-by-fours fell out of some random guys truck. My response was how are you going to drive around that. He jumped out of the car and helped the guy load his truck back up. Once he got back in the car he said "those f*****s are heavy" and then drove off without another thought.
It's been three years and I continually find new things that make me realize he's the one.

We were in a fight, I don't remember what it was about, but I didn't want to run away I just wanted to lay next to him and be angry. As I was laying there angry I broke the silence by telling him I loved him for the first time. It's nice when you have someone you can be with through all the emotions and issues life has to bring and still want to be next to them the whole time.

I was laying in bed, looking and smelling like crap the evening after a heavy night of drinking.
I told him that I was sorry, but I couldn't get out of bed to brush my teeth. 1 minute after he comes in, kiss me despite my horrible breath and started brushing my teeth. I thought it was cute. I asked him why the hell he did that and he told me that I was the most beautiful girl and he would do anything for me. I love him.