In a moment of frustration or confusion, every mom and dad has said and done things that they later regretted. But that doesn't make them bad. There's a difference between making a mistake and negligence. And the subreddit r/BadParents is trying to find this.
"From naughty moms to drunk-in-public dads, if they are being idiots or crazy irresponsible, we want to see it," the online community writes on its 'About' page, inviting people to share examples of how not to raise kids.
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Stupidity At Its Best
Taking an honest assessment of someone's parenting style isn’t always an easy task. That’s why it’s important to first separate the behavior from the person.
Calling a person a “bad parent” isn’t something to jump to based on a difference in beliefs or parenting style.
Losing your temper every once in a while is not the same as telling your child, "I'm right, you're wrong, and there's nothing you can do about it."
Although people might disagree on what is "good" or "bad" parenting, most parents have both positive and negative parenting traits.
What A Horrible Parent
That is abuse. Don't make this kid not feel like she is not good enough. Also, you are giving her self doubt and negatively. You need to be positive and have self confidence to be successful. That negative s**t is going to cause failure.
Not Following Medical Instructions
see this is why doctors must tell patients WHY they are given that instruction.
Raising Your Child Isn't Something They Have To Earn
Sorry to hear that. You deserved way better, I hope this realisation made it into your heart by now. If it helps, and if it's okay, feel hugged from a middle aged lady in Scotland.
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I always hated that. And being told I had to 'earn' my place in the house, along with the constant threat of being kicked out if I didn't 'earn my keep' daily.
I got that too. “If you don’t like it, leave.” Or “I’ll kick you out of this house so fast if you don’t do ___.” So I dropped out of high school and left 😅 they didn’t like that so much either haha
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You had me till "doing your laundry." At a certain age, certainly the teen years, you are capable of and should do at least some laundry. That way you will know how to do it yourself when you move out.
Hang on...how old are you? If you're over 18 and still living at home expecting this kind of treatment I think you need to think about that for a minute. If you're not contributing to the household in a positive or financial way, but living there and expecting your parent/s to do it all for you, as well as support you financially, then maybe that's why you feel guilty when your parent calls you out?
I have major existential guilt because of this. I feel like a waste of everything and that was a major part of my depression that started when I was 10 and is still happening.
I never felt guilt from parents saying this. It's true. And what wrong with this? Sometimes kids ask for too much stuff they don't need.
Her profile picture looks like late teens or older. If so she should be pulling her weight at home.
If you can Tweet and you own an iPhone you can do your own laundry at the very least.
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I'm probably going to upset a few people, but it depends on the individual situation. If the child is still living at home and are a working adult they should put their own weight and contribute to the household and clear up their own mess. I am 55and I have never asked my Mum for money and have never expected her to do my laundry ect I've been doing that since in was a child. I learned the hard way that some people are so mollicoddled that they cannot do anything for themselves. I fairly obvious clue is try to move in with you pretty much from the start and the place they're leaving is mummys house!
No child should ever be told they are unwanted. A friend found out as a child that she was the product of rape. One of her older siblings got drunk and told her that she had seen the father rape her mother. She was very distressed and confronted her mother who told her that was definitely not the case although it was and when I asked why the mother told me she could never tell her the truth although she was conceived that way she never wanted her child that she was not wanted. I'm so in awe of this woman she is a queen!
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Feeding and clothing your kid is the bare minimum and they didn't ask to be born. They can learn chores and stuff when they get older, but parents have to teach them. There were a decent number of people in the college dorms who didn't know how to do laundry or clean and their parents didn't teach them. It's like this isn't some Assassin's Creed genetic magic.
i grew up with a couple of friends that had parents like this. which is probably why some of my friends spent more time at my house than their own. the only thing my parents told me i was obligated to do was to contribute to the upkeep and care of the home as i lived there and was not a guest. a fair request.
When I tried to tell my mother that I didn’t want to go back to the expensive private school they picked for me because I was being badly bullied, she said “the only reason I’m still with your father is to send you to that school”. She wasn’t a bad parent. She wasn’t trying to be mean. It was a throw away comment she made when I obviously caught her at a bad time. But I never raised the issue again just in case I made my parents split up, and was therefore bullied for another 8 years.
I was always reminded I could have been left in a trashcan and she can leave anytime. She was trying to teach me to be grateful. I understand her now as she had a horrific childhood so she did her best and knows certain things should have not been said now. But it caused massive anxiety unknowingly since it rose it's ugly head up slowing into my life. Like boiling a frog.
This needs context. There are bad parents and bad children, damage and obligations can swing both ways. Can't tell who is the entitled one here.
How do we teach you how to do sh*t if we can’t ask you to start doing your own laundry etc…? I get there are parent out there that are extreme in this category, but getting you to do things so you learn how to do them is also our job.
I remember the first time I shot back at my mother during one of her daily tirades how I didn't ask to be born. It got me a crack upside my head, but we both knew we had entered into a new, turbulent territory.
My mother did this...added with the "If you don't like it, move out." Like I wouldn't if I had the chance? So glad when it swung the other way and she moved out and my Dad served her with divorce papers.
The problem is some people aren't meant to be parents. My weren't. I chose never to have kids either. I mean, when I do something dumb like get black out on accident and do crazy around the house and $#it I want to move on as quick as possible from that, not hear about how it ruined your life 15 years later. I don't need that karma.
This was my mom. Always made my brother me me feel guilty for needing or wanting anything from her..She never came to school functions that were important to us unless there was something in it for her.. One of the last conversations we had she talked about how she was glad when we were finally adults because she no longer had drive us or or do this for us or that for us. She acted like it was this job that she despised. I have been no-contact with her since last summer. It wasn't the sole reason I stopped talking to her but was knew of my breaking points.
And imagine being told “stop crying before I’m make you cry about something “ LIKE STFU IM ALREADY CRYING ABOUT SOMETHING NO NEED TO CRY EVEN MORE
Maybe, stop being an ungrateful child and show appreciation to your parents for taking care of you. You are not entitled to ANYTHING in life, even though you are the child, and must work to EARN all that you want. That is what's wrong with today's society and it is sickening to the highest degree.
Depends on how old the child is. What if the child is 37 and won't look for work and has been living in your garage with his girlfriend for the past 8 months and gets an attitude when you ask him to pick up the trash or pay for some groceries?
I would like to very slightly disagree with this. I'm a single dad with an 18yr old daughter. I pay for the roof over our head, all our bills like utilities, and food etc. I do everything, and pay for everything. But I can't get her to clean her damn room of rubbish, dirty clothes, the damp towels she refuses to hang up after a shower. I'm not making her feel guilty for all I do, but I do use it as a reason why I expect her to pull her weight at home. Fight me on this.
While it is true that you didnt ask to be here and it is your parents responsibility to care for you, there is nothing wrong with being grateful for what you are provided and not acting like an entitled little s**t. So many of this generation have no respect, decency, manners or appreciation for what their parents go through and sacrifice to give them a decent life. Showing gratitude and appreciation goes a long way and will take you a long way in life. I had parents who did not give to f***s about providing me with what I needed growing up and I spent my childhood and formative years living with whoever would have me so I didnt live on the streets. I work my a**e off every single day to give my children a better life than I had and while I understand better than most, that it is my responsibility as a parent to provide for my child, they should understand and appreciate and be grateful for what they have and receive. This mentality of entitlement is poisonous.
I agree, however there is nothing wrong with kids being grateful for what they have and grateful for what their parents provide them. Some kids are really entitled little shits.
I don't believe in guilting but she should do her own laundry and back in the 90s we had chores in general. When you show kids they are contributing members of the household it teaches them responsibility. And also you should definitely be grateful to your parents for their hard work giving you a safe and comfortable life.
There's parents who don't offer that to their children. And there's also children who beat, yell at and steal from their parents. So maybe the "poor" parents who spent 20 lei on snacks for their child should, in turn, be thankful their kid controls themselves and doesn't steal 200 lei to buy alcohol.
It's not about affordability, it's about parents making children feel guilty for literally existing. Money doesn't come into it
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To all of us who went through this c**p, hear this with all your hearts: children do not owe anything to their caregivers! We do not owe them basic needs stuff, we do not owe them affection, attention, anything! They were the adults responsible for us! There, now I’m better
I remember telling my mom (as an adult) when she would talk about what she did for me as a child and expected more appreciation...I said "Did I ask for that!?! Did I ask you to snatch my cherubic a$$ off that cloud I was relaxing on in the heavens to be birthed out of you clown hole and spend 18 years being judged, worked, and punished for your unreasonable expectations!?! I believe I should be appreciated you snatched me from paradise to your existence without asking me poo and still managed to be a great daughter" Last time that subject was brought up.
I cleaned the entire house while my parents were out drinking every week and if I dare asked for new shoes (my old ones were worn out) I got told this. Shut up
Load More Replies...According to Sharron Frederick, LCSW, a psychotherapist at Clarity Health Solutions, kids who have little or no discipline are left to fend for themselves, which can result in injuries and also creates a child who does not understand boundaries.
"Children look to parents to define what boundaries are and the consequences that can occur if the child crosses the boundaries," she told Healthline.
The System Doesn't Help The Child
How Many?
Found This On Gem On Instagram
Unlike parents who enforce little to no discipline, Frederick thinks parents who practice strict or rigid discipline (aka act like autocrats) do not allow their child to explore their world, which often leads to a child who becomes fearful and anxious or rebellious.
The Baby Is In There
When Your Son Is Smarter Than You Are
I guess Susan forgot she became anti-vaxx because of something she read on the internet.
This Is Awful
“Ignoring a child is telling them that your love is conditional,” Frederick said, adding that withdrawing affection because a child does not do what they are told causes similar harm.
“These types of behaviors can cause a child to have low self-esteem and low confidence, which can result in a child not expressing their wants and needs,” she said.
Quora Is Filled With S***ty Parents... This Is Just One Out Of Thousands
Don't Punish The Dog For Your Terrible Parenting
As time goes by, according to Frederick, this can lead to co-dependency, in which the child will adapt to how they feel a person wants them to act. "Many times, this can lead to relationships that are abusive," she explained.
Translation: “She Broke My Phone So I Made Her Eat A Hot Pepper”
Denying Daughter Therapy Because Of Grades. Like As If Mental Health Didn’t Affect Grades In The First Place?
Why do some people just not get it? Like really, who gives a flyingfuck what she gets
"I Hate Who My Child Is, How Can I Change It To Be Something I Like"
Frederick also said that children who experience overly rigid or strict discipline can have issues with control of others, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and other anxious behaviors, together with the mindset that the world is dangerous.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, there's the rebellious child who fights with their parents, breaks the rules, and engages in negative behaviors.
Using Your Child’s Educational Growth For Views
I'm normally against age-based restrictions (not everything, but some things are not thought through). Increasingly though, I feel that it should be illegal to produce online content with children outside of a professional labour contract and that there needs to be work done on creating internationally binding regulations on child labour in the enterainment industry
Just... Wow
Yeah And I'll Help Out By Posting This On Reddit
I don't get politics, but why would you take money out of your CHILDS COLLEGE FUND to support a guy? Like, why? It wasn't even your money
A 2014 study found that harsh parenting, which includes verbal or physical threats, frequent yelling, and hitting, along with immediate negative consequences for a specific behavior, can lead to children having emotional and behavioral issues, such as aggressiveness and following directions at school.
She Needs To Let Go
Tf
Excuse me, just because some of us have autism! I am genuinely shocked. I have so much love for that poor kid
May This Person Not Have A Daughter Ever
Most parents (62%) say that raising a child has been at least somewhat harder than they expected, with about a quarter (26%) saying it’s been a lot harder. This is especially true of mothers, 30% of whom say being a parent has been a lot harder than they expected (compared with 20% of fathers).
Not Sure If It Fits Here, But Here's A Mini Rant About My Mother Not Letting Me Choose How I Want My Hair
Sounds like my ex talking to our son. Wanna guess why we divorced and our son has seen him maybe a total of 6 times in a year with 2 of those times being from running into each other while out on errands and 2 being holidays? Those 6 times add up to around <5 hours. Our son is almost 19 now. I told his father years ago when we left, our son was 7 years old, that he made the difference then but one day our son would get to make it. Guess who regrets being an absolute 🐓🍭 to their only child now? Our son visits him about 2-3 hours every couple of months or so at his choice. I watched him cry as a child having to do court ordered visitation until the court finally allowed it to be no overnight stays about 5 months in. Then his father started skipping visits here and there for being "too tired to watch him" and "the race is on this weekend". Courts then let our son decide if he wanted to visit him and when. So thankful that the system worked for him as it tends to fail a lot of kids.
Took Me 27 Years To Finally Do It, And I Get This In Return As A Reply
Good for them! When I finally did this it was terrifying & cathartic.
When Your Dad(50) Gets His 21yo GF Pregnant And Then She Leaves Him. He Can’t Take The Rejection(And The Fact That She Won’t Get Back With Him) So Much So That He Would Rather Not Have Anything To Do With The Kid And Ropes You Into It
However, most parents give themselves high marks for it, with 64% believing they do an excellent or very good job as a parent (32% say they do a good job, while just 4% say they do a fair or poor job as a parent).
Mothers and fathers rate themselves similarly, but there are differences by income and by race and ethnicity (upper-income and Black and White parents are the most likely to say they do an excellent or very good job).
Wow
So Now The Animal Must Suffer Bc It Doesn’t “Like Your Daughter The Split Second It Meets Her”??
Wtf How Are You Gonna Let Your Daughter Do This
For the most part, kids agree. 67% of them say they get along well, or pretty well, with their parents. What's more, 85% say they have fun with their parents, and 79% of kids also feel close to their folks.
People Like This Just Shouldn't Leave Their House
This Mom
disable mom's tech in such a way that it looks plausible... and deny any knowledge of it... and let her go pay someone to get it fixed.
The Next Brad Mondo Right Here
Why Would You Give Ghost Pepper Sauce To 4 Year Olds?!
Question And Answer Found On Quora
What The Hell
I Found This On Instagram
For Stealing Food
Free Trampoline... Sure We Have Room For It
Maternal Instinct: -100
Mom Cuts Daughter’s Hair Because Dad Got It Done Without 'Permission'..."I Took My Boys To Get Their Hair Cut And Got My Bby Girl's Hair Done. Look What Her Momma Did Just Because I Got My Bby Hair Did"
Way to punish your kid for the other parents actions. Real parenting right there.
Why? Just...why?
I think Bugs Bunny had the right idea in sawing off Florida from the rest of the continent...
Just Found This
The Elders “Don’t Climb Our Rock” Mother “Lets Climb It Anyway”
I'm glad the day I went to Uluru it was too windy for us to climb because I was too young to understand the significance and make the choice myself at the time.
"Bubbles" Loses Child To Foster Care Then Posts This Shortly After. Never Getting Child Back According To Fam Svcs
This Is What My Dad Says To Me After Being Absolutely Miserable For The Past Week And Still Awaiting My Covid-19 Test Results
Baby Proofing? Nah... Darwin Award Maybe?
I Think This Meets The Criteria Of A Bad Parent?
Hmm, Yes, Checks Out
This Just Pissed Me Off
Why Though?
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Holy sh*t these people exist, procreate, and yet I was seen as an undesirable adopter because I was a single atheist.
Where are you from that being religious is a requirement for adoption?
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Some of these sound like my parents. They f****d me up so much growing up that now they wonder why I have a very hard time regulating my own emotions. I was once held over a balcony railing (from the fourth floor) because I disrespected my mother. I got threatened with a knife because my former friend told my parents that I was suicidal. I’m getting dreams of being killed or driven to insanity by my father. I want it all to just end, I’m tired of everything and how my life is going. I’ve been as good as I could be but only bad things keep happening, maybe I should start being the villain from now onwards, maybe then people will actually pay attention
Hey Stardust. I'm so sorry you are in this horrible abusive situation. Don't become like them tho. Do you have someone to talk to? I love you and am sending you an enormous Auntie Caro HUG.
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isnt it crazy how people need a licence to drive a car but not to have children? like to bring a living breathing being into this world.
That pregnant child situation is so tragic, as well as the comments with similar situations! Children should not be having children! Anyone who thinks children being pregnant is a good thing are pedophiles!
Well that's the new Republican platform, that 10-year-old rape victims make good mothers and it's an "opportunity".
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Not sure if my mom is bad but I’m still gonna say it. My mom will usually yell at me 5-7 days each week (because of 2 assignments from the beginning of the school year) and she will call me many names. I usually get anxiety attacks because of this and when that happens I tend to raise my voice on accident. My mom will scream at me then hit me or throw pencils at me saying “youre not allowed to yell at me”. And then she will call me a gaslighter if I ever try to talk about something she says. (One of these include when I told her I did not like the divorce schedule change and she said “your opinion doesnt matter.” Tried to talk to her and she said “I never said that youre a f***ing gaslighter”) this happens all the time. I’m not sure if this makes my mom a bad mom though.
I think you both need to sit down and have a good talk, maybe she's also stressed (since you mention divorcing) but hitting is never ok. Is there someone in school you can talk with, nurse, counselor etc?
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This is a generational problem in this country. People learn from their parents and then use the same child rearing tools they had used on them. There are some sick and twisted people out there for sure. This is how child abuse, racism, bigotry, hate and misogyny keep going.
Please assure me that there are still decent, child loving parents in the US.
There are. I'm not a parent, but have lived with some and been closely involved with some to see the truth behind the social masks. Mistakes are still made, but the best parents will own their mistakes, apologize to the kid, and, when needed/appropriate, work with the kid on how to make things right/better and follow through.
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People like this have children. Who then think that's how you raise children. World shitstorm explained.
How the heck do these people who does these things is ok? These people are NOT Okie Dokie on so many levels. Just why.
Couldn’t finish. I’m just so heart broken for all those kids…just feel very helpless
I feel better about my parenting now. What absolute garbage people.
I had to stop reading these. The texan couple that tied their child in a shed reminded me too much of some horrific murders that I read about where parents literally tortured their children to death, often drawn out over years. In my coutry there are at least obligatory doctor visits to check on children, but I wish there was a way to force parents into basic classes.
I had difficult childhood lives in the foster house for different countries. Because my parent are very young and unplanned. I’m foreign, later years. I was bullied and abused racism. My dream is became very good parent. I can see (not all) many of very bad, idiot and stupid parents.
Holy sh*t these people exist, procreate, and yet I was seen as an undesirable adopter because I was a single atheist.
Where are you from that being religious is a requirement for adoption?
Load More Replies... Some of these sound like my parents. They f****d me up so much growing up that now they wonder why I have a very hard time regulating my own emotions. I was once held over a balcony railing (from the fourth floor) because I disrespected my mother. I got threatened with a knife because my former friend told my parents that I was suicidal. I’m getting dreams of being killed or driven to insanity by my father. I want it all to just end, I’m tired of everything and how my life is going. I’ve been as good as I could be but only bad things keep happening, maybe I should start being the villain from now onwards, maybe then people will actually pay attention
Hey Stardust. I'm so sorry you are in this horrible abusive situation. Don't become like them tho. Do you have someone to talk to? I love you and am sending you an enormous Auntie Caro HUG.
Load More Replies... isnt it crazy how people need a licence to drive a car but not to have children? like to bring a living breathing being into this world.
That pregnant child situation is so tragic, as well as the comments with similar situations! Children should not be having children! Anyone who thinks children being pregnant is a good thing are pedophiles!
Well that's the new Republican platform, that 10-year-old rape victims make good mothers and it's an "opportunity".
Load More Replies... Not sure if my mom is bad but I’m still gonna say it. My mom will usually yell at me 5-7 days each week (because of 2 assignments from the beginning of the school year) and she will call me many names. I usually get anxiety attacks because of this and when that happens I tend to raise my voice on accident. My mom will scream at me then hit me or throw pencils at me saying “youre not allowed to yell at me”. And then she will call me a gaslighter if I ever try to talk about something she says. (One of these include when I told her I did not like the divorce schedule change and she said “your opinion doesnt matter.” Tried to talk to her and she said “I never said that youre a f***ing gaslighter”) this happens all the time. I’m not sure if this makes my mom a bad mom though.
I think you both need to sit down and have a good talk, maybe she's also stressed (since you mention divorcing) but hitting is never ok. Is there someone in school you can talk with, nurse, counselor etc?
Load More Replies... This is a generational problem in this country. People learn from their parents and then use the same child rearing tools they had used on them. There are some sick and twisted people out there for sure. This is how child abuse, racism, bigotry, hate and misogyny keep going.
Please assure me that there are still decent, child loving parents in the US.
There are. I'm not a parent, but have lived with some and been closely involved with some to see the truth behind the social masks. Mistakes are still made, but the best parents will own their mistakes, apologize to the kid, and, when needed/appropriate, work with the kid on how to make things right/better and follow through.
Load More Replies... People like this have children. Who then think that's how you raise children. World shitstorm explained.
How the heck do these people who does these things is ok? These people are NOT Okie Dokie on so many levels. Just why.
Couldn’t finish. I’m just so heart broken for all those kids…just feel very helpless
I feel better about my parenting now. What absolute garbage people.
I had to stop reading these. The texan couple that tied their child in a shed reminded me too much of some horrific murders that I read about where parents literally tortured their children to death, often drawn out over years. In my coutry there are at least obligatory doctor visits to check on children, but I wish there was a way to force parents into basic classes.
I had difficult childhood lives in the foster house for different countries. Because my parent are very young and unplanned. I’m foreign, later years. I was bullied and abused racism. My dream is became very good parent. I can see (not all) many of very bad, idiot and stupid parents.
