50 Self-Centered People That Deserved To Be Roasted For Their Tone-Deaf Posts
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People like to stand out from the crowd. Be unique and act differently. And it’s well and fine when you’re a teenager still building your personality and finding what you like and don’t like. But this struggle to not be like others to get attention gets stale really quickly when you’re an adult. You realize that the ‘not like other people’ phase is just that – a phase, and it seems pretty cringy in real life.
The I’m The Main Character community gives a pretty healthy dose of shaming to those guilty of constantly wanting to be the center of attention. It’s a subreddit with over 1.3 million members who like to roast self-absorbed people. I mean, if they were foolish enough to post their main character syndrome behavior, they need to be able to take the ridicule, right?
Bored Panda also reached out to Alexander Danvers, Ph.D., a social psychologist and Director of Treatment Outcomes at Sierra Tucson, who researches emotions and social interactions.
We asked him how professionals would describe 'Main Character Syndrome,' why some people act this way, and whether we all have some of that main character energy in us. After all, we're all the main characters of our lives, aren't we?
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Tesla Owner Thought They Were The Main Character…they Were Wrong
The popularity of the I'm The Main Character subreddit is a testament to how people detest those who publicly act like they're at the center of the world. The community also has one condition for its posts: they have to feature "deliberate attention-seeking behavior, entitlement, or individuals thinking they are more privileged than anyone else."
The subreddit is also against discrimination, harassment, racism, misogyny, bigotry, or personal attacks. Even if the main characters featured on the subreddit are extremely rude, the rules ask members not to harass them on their social media. The same goes for discussions among members: "There is always a real human with emotions behind the screen," the group cites Reddiquette.
Cat Thinks Its The Main Character
They Were Definitely Looking At Them
To learn more about 'Main Character Syndrome' from a psychology professional's perspective, we reached out to Dr. Alex Danvers. Because the term gets thrown around online quite frequently, we were curious to know whether psychologists and mental health experts characterize it as a medical diagnosis.
"'Main Character Syndrome' isn't a medical diagnosis," Danvers tells us. "It's a pop culture term, which means it has a looser definition, and people can use it in different ways. Typically, I see it used to mean that someone sees their life as a story—a TV drama or a romantic comedy—and puts themselves in the starring role."
Invading Someone's Privacy And Insulting Them
Oh dear. oh dear. But I am sure that it is something that a good therapist might be able to help you with :-)
“Not My Order?” I Don’t Know What That Even Means…
Thinks The World Stops For Him Because He Spent Too Much On His Truck
The wonderful thing about my car is it's so scratched up and dinged already, and also small, I would 100% do this.
Dr. Danvers says that such a mindset can change the way a person thinks. Sometimes in big ways, sometimes in small ways. "At the problematic end, it can make the person too focused on themselves, always trying to shift conversations and social situations to center around the drama of their personal story."
"This can cause someone to overlook other people’s thoughts or feelings, treating them as supporting characters. That can feel, to friends, like a lack of empathy or rudeness."
"But it can also lead to behaviors that are pretty common and less problematic," Danvers continues. "Like trying to present yourself as positively as possible or focusing on documenting your life on social media over engaging in the moment."
Who Does This?!
Starring: Yearbook's Photo Editor
Surely This Ain’t Real…
Danvers also notes that people engaging in narcissistic and entitled behavior might be masking other feelings, like feeling insecure or like they're not in control. "If someone is giving big main character energy, there's probably something deeper going on, and there are likely aspects of their life they aren't happy with," the social psychologist explains.
Main Character At Starbucks
What Kind Of Welcome Was He Expecting?
I mean what did you expect to happen? 10% Polish ancestry discount?
The Pic Really Emphasizes Her Point
The man in the rice field wonders why some creepy woman in her underwear is staring at him.
In recent years, there has been much discussion about how people do not know how to act in public spaces anymore. Concertgoers keep throwing things at celebrities during concerts, and kids are destroying testers and being mean to Sephora employees. Did we forget how to act when we're not at home?
"The pandemic made a lot of people feel more anxious and less connected," Alex Danvers says. Since unhappiness and anxiety in daily life can lead to narcissistic behavior, he agrees that the pandemic and social media play a role in how we conduct ourselves in public spaces.
The Bride Who's Wedding Cake Was A Life Size Version Of Herself Is Pretty Mc Behaviour
If that's all cake - the thought of cutting it up is pretty cringe. At some point you have to cut off her head. Someone with a few drinks in them is going to make a lame joke about "I'll have a piece of that a...ss" and so on. I can't think of a graceful way to cut up a cake that looks like a human being.
Couldn't Be Bothered
It's Like You're Obsessed With Me Or Something
"Depending on the way you use social media, it can be very anxiety-provoking," Danvers observes. "People do a lot of self-comparison there and can find themselves wanting. Becoming the main character of the story of your life is a way of using fantasy to cope with a harsh world."
"Right now, the world feels very uncertain and potentially dangerous to a lot of people," Dr. Danvers invites us to sympathize with the main characters. "There are wars, political instability, concerns about disease, and concerns about harms from climate change. These are real things that produce real anxiety, and in daily life, it often feels like we as individuals can't take action to meaningfully improve things."
Omg I Visibly Cringed
There is a huge difference between accepting children with disabilities... and PURPOSEFULLY trying to give birth to one.
I knew of a family where both parents had been diagnosed with Huntingtons and they decided in their wisdom to have children before they died. So 2 children, both tested positive for Huntingtons and by the time they reached their teens the mom had passed away from it and their dad did a couple of years later. Daughter decided she wasn't going to put any child of hers through it and got her tubes tied because she saw what happened to her parents and knew that it would happen to her. She died 2 years ago of it. The son on the other hand didn't care, 3 baby mamma's, didn't tell them about the Huntingtons beforehand and it wasn't until the sister began declining rapidly and his started manifesting. All 3 tested positive for the gene. Not sure what happened after that because he stopped being active on social media.
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Seriously. You would purposely condemn a child to a disability, just because you want to continue unhealthy habits??? You MONSTER.
Driving a car into a child might cause them to have disabilities. But it's ok to run them over because we shouldn't be scared of our child being disabled. It's just another way to control what people do with their cars
As yes, because who wouldn't WANT their child to suffer from crippling pain and whatnot their entire life?
"I don't mind you having a disability." "I mind that you gave me one."
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Because... You won't have any money to spend on your alcohol or cigarettes if your child is born with disabilities just because YOU did not give them a chance of being born without them. You'll have numerous extra costs on top of the usual cost of raising a child... And don't even bring Ableism into this. It dilutes the message and label of that word.
Not only treatment costs but the constant being pulled out of work to pick your kid up from school, work day meetings with the school, speech and developmental therapists, psychologists, counsellors. The risk of becoming unemployed from having all that work time missed. Strain on the extended family needing to consider extra accommodations and learning how to manage around a disabled child. It doesn't even have to be a severe disability. Sure you can get some government tax credits and carers income but that is not sufficient to live on.
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Being a parent is already a heavy burden in terms of commitment, responsibility, and finances. You worry about them when they are teens and adults. A child, who is a future adult, with disabilities is someone who will always need more effort, more time, more financial help. Some people are cut out for this, others are not. Ms. seems seriously misguieded.
Depending on the disability, they will never be able to live an independent life. What will happen to them when you die? Who will look after them?
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I'm pretty sure most disabled people don't want to be disabled. I know I wish I hadn't been born with bi polar disorder.
Do what you want with your own body, but you have no right imposing your habits onto another body, especially a defenseless one.
Ah, yes. But then there's the debate of when a baby has right to live and thrive, or even be considered human enough.
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My son is in his early 30s, and he's really scared that this type of mentality is taking hold and becoming the norm and influencing politicians, laws, company rules, etc.
This is what I think, too, and it's been going on for a long time. Doesn't matter if where you are has legal abortions or not. The mentality has become that an unborn child is not human and deemed an unwanted, leeching parasite that has no autonomy rights to live and thrive until out of the womb. (For some people, when the baby is born the cord is cut.) No matter anyone's stance, expecting a child is not a time to be selfish and reckless.
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If only services for children with disabilities/extra needs were affordable and available to all who needs them...
And people wonder why I call buttheads selfish. You should see their arrogant reactions to people with asthma and other conditions, asking them not to smoke in front of themselves or their kids. [ https://nypost.com/2023/03/29/canada-dad-paul-schmidt-fatally-stabbed-in-front-of-kid-fiancee-at-starbucks/ ] [ https://abc7ny.com/family-struck-by-car-at-7-eleven-parking-lot-accident-rockland-county/5147441/ ] [ https://www.nbcconnecticut.com/news/national-international/two-teens-injured-man-dead-in-watertown-shooting/2189883/ ]
I encounter those types far too often. I would even include how people react to students with severe perfume allergies. People think it's about the "smell". I could live with the fart of bad Mexican food. Heck, I can't remember one instance I've had to take out my Ventolin due to pungent pit sweat. But I fear for my lack of ability to breath when someone smokes in my vicinity, and the amount of times a smoker is offended when I move or ask them to move away is astounding.
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Another Darwinian reject.... egt back on the tree, dear, and start your sad lone evolutionary journey from square one :-)
i cant really say anything about drinking but smoking is bad if your pregnant or not-
I'm really, really, REALLY hoping that this post was sarcasm/satire.... Really.
Please feel free to insist on your God given right to have handicapped children.
It's also a sign of common sense! You would want a disabled child? I doubt the child would appreciate it
OMG ! Talk about self-centered ignorant.......who cares if baby is deformed, etc. as long as you have your smoke, drink, etc. Ought to be a permit to have children
As a former teacher I felt sorry for the students I had who were affected by fetal alcohol syndrome. Their lives were not easy and it was entirely preventable. This person is an idiot.
This must be a hoax to generate angry comments. I can’t imagine anyone really saying that.
Because maybe you’re not old enough or mature enough to just deal with a disabled child. There’s a lot that goes into it. So yeah, if you’re pregnant, don’t drink or smoke because if you have a disabled child, don’t think your parents are gonna take care of it or your grandparents. Because I’d be on you.
Something tells me that the person who posted that is not a mother, and has never been pregnant.
Huh ? I don't get this at all ... ? Is it saying that women can do anything they want with their bodies whilst pregnant ? If so, it's unbelievable arrogance to the detriment of the unborn child.
because having a disability isn't fun, or cool, and is a fast track to poverty, and if you could have prevented your child from having it, you absolutely should.
I f*****g hate when people hide behind actual issues in order to excuse their crappy behavior.
Some people should not have children...or do anything with their bodies
First, they came for the Karen's, and now it's going to be the Eugenes because of "eugenics."
I'm guessing she wouldn't mind me stabbing her eye out then - sounds like she won't miss it or mind being differently abled. And she has a perfectly good other eye, so. . . Anyone have a fork?
The text colours and background don't make it easy to read. I read it at first "Why are we scared of children having disabled children." ngl, that would make a heap of sense for this mindset.
Some people really see disabilities as a "quirk", just a fun little personality trait that gets you attention. They don't realize how much suffering you can cause your child...
I think this person would enjoy the excellent novel 'Geek Love' by Katherine* Dunn. *I believe Katherine was her first name.
Do whatever you want. They are just giving you sound advice. Whether or not you take the sound, advice, or not is up to you.
Born in the mid 60s to a mom that smoked throughout and drank the occasional Cape Codder, rationalizing that the vodka was for her and the cranberry juice was for the baby.
How Rude To Advertise Ice Cream In A Day I Can’t Eat It!
Lol
Take the bus next time, nobody on a bus feels like laughing. (Party bus excluded)
Danvers says that people's self-absorbed behavior can become a way to deal with those problems. "That's when fantasy can come in as a protective measure—you might want to imagine that you're the hero in a scripted story because things always work out for them. What becomes important is the drama and learning the life lesson that the 'episode' was meant to teach."
That said, Dr. Danvers cautions against losing yourself in that kind of fantasy. "Of course, life doesn't come in episodes with conflicts that neatly resolve themselves, and this worldview can mess up people's real relationships with their real friends and family."
Nipsey Hussle, Main Character
I Thought Of You People!
Tour Guide Has The Spotlight😄
This is a hilarious photo. I'd print it and frame it. I doubt he realized the camera would focus on him and not the group. Also, if you have someone take your picture, check the results before you leave.
The term 'Main Character Syndrome' is weird in a way. Because, when you think about it, aren't we all the main characters of our story? "In a general sense, we are the main characters of our lives," Danvers somewhat agrees. "Like a novel written from the first-person perspective, we can only really know our own thoughts and experience our own lives."
The Bus Is Full And Multiple People Asked Her To Make Room And She Refused Because She Doesn’t Feel Safe Sitting Next To Other People
“Hate When People Don’t Recognize Me For How Much I Make”
people can't comprehend getting coffee? cause thats all i see u doing
Bro Thinks He's The CEO Of Gaming
But those with 'Main Character Syndrome' wish to be main characters not just in their lives. "When people are talking about 'Main Character Syndrome,' they're typically talking about something more extreme," Danvers notes. "They think of someone who is acting like social situations should be all about them, and a world where they are important to everyone around them."
Omg So Deep
In A Post About Airport Health Hacks While Traveling With A Baby
Why would you want your bare skin touching the gross airport carpet? 🤮
The Dress The Hair & Make Up Girl Wore To My Friends Beach Wedding
Ooh, I'll dress up as the bouquet, and you can toss me after the ceremony.
"They think about someone who is more focused on crafting their own personal story than on paying attention to what's going on with their friends and communities," Dr. Danvers explains the difference. "This can lead to selfish or entitled behavior, and that is the type of thing that people can learn to—and be expected to—change."
Posted Some Pics Of My Fiancé And Dogs, This Karen Who I Hadn’t Talked To In Over A Year Just Had To Make It About Her. And No I Did Not See Her Post
Entitlement
you should have asked in the first-place idiot, maybe that guy was really nice and you just ruined it. :<
Imagine Being So Entitled That You Make Everyone Drive 20mph Because That's What You Want
On the other hand, Dr. Danvers also says that thinking of yourself as a main character can certainly be empowering. "If you see yourself as important, you might be more willing to take good care of yourself and treat your values as important. That can be a positive change, especially for people who might otherwise feel depressed."
"The key is balancing a healthy confidence in yourself against the need to be aware of how much space you're taking up and making sure you leave room for others in your story."
Signs Are Not For Me
He Is Just Built Different
"Or I escape just in time through a crease and swim up quickly." A perfect example of why schools need to teach critical thinking skills. Water pressure strong enough to crunch a submarine will certainly tenderize his majestic smugness. The Titan submarine was approximately 9000 ft/3000m down, approaching 300 times air pressure at sea level.
She's Two Main Characters
Do You Say Something If You’re Sitting There?
Yes You Went To The Store In A Dress And Everyone Stopped Their Shopping To Stare At You. Right
They glare because you are blocking the aisle and probably preaching to people about your supposed superiority after you left those fake Christian dollars at Denny's as a tip. That smug smile doesn't help much either. P.S. That's one ugly dress.
Jerk Tourists In Rosslyn Near Dc. Emergency Stopped Very Long Escalator With People On It During Rush Hour To Take Group Photo, Then Moved To Working Escalator. Needed Transit Worker To Explain Why That Was Wrong
"You Know What To Do Reddit. 🤓"
Mc Wants To Host A Real-Life "The Bachelorette"
Tell me you are a narcissist without telling me you are a narcissist 🏆
This Is Perpetually-Online Behavior If I've Ever Seen One
Just The Worst
Gym Rules Don’t Apply
Well she did wait until nobody else was there. Dumb but not worth angst dum
It’s Almost As If Women Only Spaces Are Made For This Very Reason
This Girl At The Airport Waits Until The Queue Moves All The Way Forward To Move. People Confronted Her And She Said “It’s The Same If I Move Now Or Later”
Person At Airport Unplugs ATM To Charge Their Phone
My Experience At The Taylor Swift Movie
Next time take a squirt gun and pretend you didn't see anything when they turn around.
It's Restricted For A Reason
Gonna Be Funny Watching Them Get Fired
Instagram User Trying To Beg For A Ferrari 😭
She’s Literally The Main Character
Shirtless, Childless Man Grunts And Exercises At A Playground In The Middle Of A Group Of Girls Eating Right After School
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Main characters just need to be told they're not main characters in public so they get the humiliation they need. Preferably from an ooooold lady with a handbag.
Lmao literally thought the poll question was another post because it sounded so cringe
After reading these posts I got the epiphany there's only one me and lots of lots of others. Does it mean suddenly I got the Main Character Syndrome?
You should probably only start to worry if there are more than one of you.
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I may be the main character in my own life, but the dressing room I've been assigned fails to reflect this.
We need more squirt guns. Like gentle ones, not super-soakers. Instagram lady being a brat? Squirt gun to the face to ruin hours of makeup work. Man exercising in your area? Squirt gun to the crotch to make it look like he peed. Nothing heavily violent, just shocking and humiliating enough to give the scene they so desperately want, just not the terms they want.
I was not able to read all entries due to the rage and stress of these entitled wastes of flesh. Their parents should be embarrassed. I would have a hard time not stupid slapping them. I kept thinking, Life has a way of handing out karma. They will all would turtle up and scream for saving if, god forbid, their world literally explodes. This made me so sad for the future.
Pity about the poll, I would have liked to click "society should be more punitive to narcissists"
I don't understand this. Many of these behaviors are rudeness and lack of consideration and respect for others. A main character is merely the focus of the story, the lead. They can be any kind of person. Why would anyone live their life as if they are secondary? Aren't we all the main character of our life? I can't live anyone's else's experiences except in books. And living with society as the sole focus of my life would be unhealthy. So I don't think I understand the expectation we have for others. People should be themselves but strive to be the kindest version of themselves. Kindness and respect benefit the giver and recipient.
There’s a difference between being the protagonist of your own life, or having main character syndrome. People with main character syndrome are 100% convinced they are the most important person alive at all times in any situation, as a protagonist you can be the main focus of your own life, but still recognize that at some points, other people might matter just as much or sometimes even a little more. An easy example: throwing a birthday party for your kid/friend/cat/dog and presenting a cake you know only you like (main character syndrome), vs presenting a cake your kid/friend/cat/dog likes.
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Main characters just need to be told they're not main characters in public so they get the humiliation they need. Preferably from an ooooold lady with a handbag.
Lmao literally thought the poll question was another post because it sounded so cringe
After reading these posts I got the epiphany there's only one me and lots of lots of others. Does it mean suddenly I got the Main Character Syndrome?
You should probably only start to worry if there are more than one of you.
Load More Replies... I may be the main character in my own life, but the dressing room I've been assigned fails to reflect this.
We need more squirt guns. Like gentle ones, not super-soakers. Instagram lady being a brat? Squirt gun to the face to ruin hours of makeup work. Man exercising in your area? Squirt gun to the crotch to make it look like he peed. Nothing heavily violent, just shocking and humiliating enough to give the scene they so desperately want, just not the terms they want.
I was not able to read all entries due to the rage and stress of these entitled wastes of flesh. Their parents should be embarrassed. I would have a hard time not stupid slapping them. I kept thinking, Life has a way of handing out karma. They will all would turtle up and scream for saving if, god forbid, their world literally explodes. This made me so sad for the future.
Pity about the poll, I would have liked to click "society should be more punitive to narcissists"
I don't understand this. Many of these behaviors are rudeness and lack of consideration and respect for others. A main character is merely the focus of the story, the lead. They can be any kind of person. Why would anyone live their life as if they are secondary? Aren't we all the main character of our life? I can't live anyone's else's experiences except in books. And living with society as the sole focus of my life would be unhealthy. So I don't think I understand the expectation we have for others. People should be themselves but strive to be the kindest version of themselves. Kindness and respect benefit the giver and recipient.
There’s a difference between being the protagonist of your own life, or having main character syndrome. People with main character syndrome are 100% convinced they are the most important person alive at all times in any situation, as a protagonist you can be the main focus of your own life, but still recognize that at some points, other people might matter just as much or sometimes even a little more. An easy example: throwing a birthday party for your kid/friend/cat/dog and presenting a cake you know only you like (main character syndrome), vs presenting a cake your kid/friend/cat/dog likes.
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