30 Entitled And Rude Relatives That Will Probably Make You Appreciate Your Family More By The End Of This List (New Pics)
Ah, family. Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without 'em, right? They’re supposed to be there to provide unconditional love and support us any time we need help, and in turn, we are expected to do the same. Sometimes, however, our relatives have a hard time understanding that just because we’re family does not mean that we can be taken advantage of.
Below, we’ve gathered some of the most obnoxious examples of family members being entitled, from the Choosing Beggars subreddit, that might make you appreciate your own family a whole lot more. Be sure to upvote the posts that you find particularly ridiculous, and let us know in the comments if any of your relatives have ever been choosy beggars.
Then if you’re interested in seeing even more of these annoying family members that you'll be thankful you don't have to celebrate the holidays with, you can find Bored Panda’s last article on the same topic right here.
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Choosing Beggar Shames Her Daughter In Law For Using A Gift Card She Gave Her To Make A Blanket For Them
As an avid knitter and crocheter, this makes me livid. The amount of time it takes to craft a bedspread is obviously not understood by this ignorant woman. I'm sure the DIL considered it a thoughtful gesture.
People who have never made anything in their lives have no idea how much time and energy it takes to do it.
Load More Replies...This was a letter to Dear Prudence on Slate. The LW got lambasted thoroughly, both by the columnist and by the people in the comments section
To the DIL, you're amazing! To the MIL, you're a narcissistic b***h.
Excuse me, Kayci, but get your damn wording right, she's not a narcissistic b***h, she's a narcissistic c**t.
Load More Replies...So the DIL used her birthday gift to purchase yarn and spent numerous hours making a "lovely bedspread" for this ungrateful twit? She didn't buy a bedspread, she made one! The audacity and entitlement has me livid. I hope Prudie responded accordingly.
To be honest it's the DIL the one who "got screwed" here. She used her own present (gift card for yarn) to buy the material for a present to someone else. Not only she spent her time and effort to make the present, she also "lost" her own present. It's a double lose, if you know what I mean. The mother-in-law should be nothing else but thankful. Also, a hand-made, unique-in-the-world present would be priceless to me. Everyone can go to the mall and buy the first thing they land their eyes upon, but people craft things only for the people they care about.
Emmy I think the son should figure out how many balls of yarn it took to do make the blanket and charge his mom for the extra money or give back the blanket!!LOL!! Maybe mama would realized that she got a present far more expensive then the money on the card! I just can't get over the gall of people. I 100% agree with you!!
Load More Replies...One year I offered a gift card to my daughter so she can get whatever please her for Christmas. She used those to purchase a watch she offered to me for Christmas. I was touched.
I'm hopeless with yarn, it defeats me. I do know it takes many, many hours and LOTS of yarn to make a bedspread. Good yarn is expensive. I can't imagine the heartbreak of having such a gift not only rejected but told *you* were rude for using a gift card to reduce the massive cost. I don't think I'd ever give a gift to my inlaws again, just a Hallmark card for them to criticize.
I wouldn't waste a hallmark card. I'd go to the dollar store and get the 2 cards for $1 kind of card
Load More Replies...Wow. The amount of time and effort the DIL put there to give a thoughtful gift and this MIL from hell taking offense. It blows my mind, what a horrible ungrateful person
In theory, our family members are the people we are closest to in the world. They have been there for us since day one, and we are tied to them for our entire lives. But for some reason, relatives sometimes assume that because we’re bonded by blood, they can get away with treating us horribly. Whether it’s feeling entitled to our time, money or things, the way family members often speak to one another would definitely not fly among friends or romantic partners.
But the love of our relatives is unconditional, right? Well, if you’re having trouble dealing with a difficult family member, have no fear. I’ve consulted Dr. Abigail Brenner’s list of strategies to deal with challenging family members on Psychology Today, to help you pandas know what to say the next time a relative comes knocking asking for a large pepperoni pizza, money for gambling or demanding that you pick up their children when you already had plans.
Mom Asked For 'Old Phone' As Temp For Uncle, Offered Old Phone, Can't Be Too Old Has To Be iPhone 6 Or Above
I desperately need a phone right now! Anyway here are my specs requirements:
I’ve got a spare Nokia 5110, I charged it about 15 years ago so it should be good to go with about 95% battery if that’s any good? 😀
Load More Replies...IPhone 6 or above because an IPhone 5 doesn't work on the towers anymore so the lady doesn't know...
The only way I see this being moderately ok is something like "hey my phone broke and they won't be able to replace it for another week. Do you have an old one that is os version x that I could use in the mean time? I need to be able to run something that won't work on older versions"
That’s the “Normal” today,special when it comes to Nursing/Helping Kids!! They can’t just have a thing that works fine! No!! It has to be the Best of the Best!!! This one is a Classic!👍
The phone isn't for a kid, it says it's for an UNCLE.
Load More Replies...Holy Cow, There Are Too Many Things Wrong With This
Devils advocate here but the caretaking of grandpa can have been forced onto them by their parents and they're just sick of it at this point. We also don't know the state and normal behavior of grandpa. While I would fully agree on that they should've phrased it much better I don't think we have enough info to genuinely say if this is entitled.
Load More Replies...Please leave grandparents out of this. Treat them kindly. They don't deserve this s**t.
I would give my eye teeth to have my grandparents back. More than 20 years and I still miss them.
That's because they were good, loving people. I wouldn't give the steam of my p**s to have two of my grandparents back. Family relationships are very complex, and we are much better off without certain people around.
Load More Replies..."in my days, we would have comited child abuse and thought it was totally fine"
Yeah I think that part was way too much, even if she said something bad, which honestly I would do the same if I had to take care of any of my grand ads, they are both assholes
Load More Replies...actually it sounds like she's being forced to. not everyone can handle dementia. ESH. Why are the parents dumping THEIR responsibility on a child anyway? can she even drive for help if he falls? is she being paid to babysit?
Yes, but that's not a nice way to refer to the situation. It is understandable to feel and express it but it was not a strange they are related. I would think it twice even if it was not a nice family member.
Load More Replies...I suspect his/her personality will always insure that.
Load More Replies..."Here's a job I can't stand doing and I think it's so horrible so will you please do it for me as a favour, for free?" Leaving aside everything else wrong with this post, all the missing context, that is one of the least persuasive pitches ever. Not sure how OP could actually think this would work
Imagine going through the life risking pain, a thousand sleepless nights, plus the expense of having a kid, and they turn out like this? Reason #322 why I prefer cats to kids.
Again, you don't know the situation. In general, selfish uncaring kids come from selfish uncaring families. Being an a*****e is a learnt behaviour.
Load More Replies...The first tip Dr. Brenner provides for dealing with difficult relatives is to resist the urge to try to fix them. As hard as it may be, we must accept our family members as they are. The problem with attempting to change them is that nobody can actually change without having the desire to do so themselves. If we try to force it onto them, we will only be causing a headache for ourselves and exerting time and energy unnecessarily. Dr. Brenner notes that, for the time being, we should assume that our family members are unable to change. We should base our knowledge of them on their actual behavior, rather than an optimistic belief that they will be better in the future. When we manage our expectations, we are less likely to be disappointed by them, and we can avoid wasting time and energy on “fixing” them.
Next, Dr. Brenner says that we should be present and direct with our relatives. Understand that if they are trying to get a rise out of you, you don’t have to give them that satisfaction. Stand your ground, and avoid getting into an argument. Stay present and focused, and don’t become defensive. Once a conversation has turned into a fight, it’s not possible to effectively communicate, as it simply becomes about winning. If it gets to that point, step back and walk away.
My Coworker Asked His Ex About Her Birthday... I Never Could Have Imagined How Selfish Some People Can Be. Her Sister Is Fine By The Way
so incosiderate i cant believe it couldnt she almost die later/s
Load More Replies...It's like the Bridezilla who cussed her brother or BIL for having a stroke during her ceremony. Who did he think he was, stealing the show like that?!
He probably wore a white shirt or tie also.
Load More Replies..."Let's see...how can I ruin my sister's birthday....mmm... I could give her a very expensive and thoughtful gift so everybody would think I'm such a good person 🤔 Or...I could plan an elaborate sing and dance performance that should celebrate my sister but in reality it would only show my amazing skills and talent... Mmm...Or...💡 EUREKA! I know what I'll do! I'll fall off a bridge, probably break some bones and suffer tremendously and possibly die! YES! That will make this day all about me! Ah, I'm do smart... " Yes. It absolutely went like that. The birthday girl is soooo right. 🤦♀️
Bratty Cousin Stole My Netflix Password And When I Changed It He Wants Me To Give It To Him
The cousin should really work as a police negotiator or something, his technique to try to convince are AMAZING. Demand and, when denied, immediately insult and curse. Wow.
Hello Emmydearest, this is Bored Retsuko, I need your credit card and pin please /jk
Load More Replies...If my cousin tried this stunt, his parents would find out fast and believe me, they don't take too well to rudeness ;-)
"You don't need all of it for yourself." No, and you don't need all of your money for yourself. Go spend some.
I do need it all for myself since I'm paying for it and will decide who to share it with. Get your own Netflix you brazen cheapskate password stealing thief!
Family Discounts
I’m the opposite. I’d give the discount if I didn’t have to go to the wedding.
Just looked it up. It seems to be some sort of fancy silky dress that is made in India.
Load More Replies...It's weird to see stuffs like this. Because in my family, if it's your family's or friend's business, we tend to give or buy extra because it'll help them.
Yeah, congratulations on the wedding. But still, NO discount! Good Day!
Another strategy that Dr. Brenner recommends is allowing difficult relatives the opportunity to fully express themselves. Let them state their point of view, and be sure to listen to them. Understand where they are coming from and why they feel judged, misunderstood or frustrated. You don’t have to agree, but let them know that you respect their opinion. After they get to release their thoughts, they may be much less confrontational and emotional.
Another thing to keep in mind is to watch out for trigger topics. You might need to avoid delicate issues altogether, or have a strategy for de-escalating the conversation if it becomes about a sensitive topic. For many people, avoiding hot topics like politics and religion with their relatives can help relationships run more smoothly, but you can't always control the conversation. “Be prepared to address these issues in a direct, non-confrontational way or to deflect the conflict if the atmosphere becomes too heated,” Dr. Brenner writes.
Cousin Who Has Owed Me $7k For Over 2 Years Suggests I Work As His Real Estate Agent To Get Paid Back
Never a lender or borrower be. I learnt this the hard way, someone took advantage of my mental breakdown and used me as their own personal cash machine.
That's a terrible struggle to go through. My best wishes for your future health and happiness
Load More Replies...Never ever lend family or friends money and expect to get it back. If I owe someone money, I tell them exactly when they're getting paid back, period. If I can't pay them back, I don't take the money from them.
My Nephew is just like this, owes me $20K and complains on FB about how he spends $50+ a week on Starbucks. smh
I Wouldn’t Let My Older Sister (Who Lives At Home) Eat My Food
Not sure why you got downvoted - but to clarify for others: there is a retro candy in the US called a Sugar Daddy. It is caramel on a stick
Load More Replies...I lived at home with my brothers and my stepfather is so disgusting that he used ALL the money meant to feed them (both under 18) on alcohol. I did EVERYTHING in my power to feed them. My brother was literally 15 and crying his eyes out to me because he was so hungry. I don't think I will EVER feel devastation like that ever again. I ended up finding some rice and made them and me some boiled rice with sour cream and sweet chilli sauce. It is STILL one of their favourite snacks to this day.
They were both under 18 but I was in my 20s. My mother worked but every single dollar that was supposed to feed them, my stepfather spent on alcohol and was physically and mentally abusing them every single day when he would get drunk.
Load More Replies...Grew up in extreme poverty, can feel the intensity behind all this. Being hungry is the worst.
I dont get the poverty vibe from this. I get the lazy vibe from the sister
Load More Replies...Insane Mom Thinks Mental Illness Deserves Not Having A Family
Yeah. Just because you have a disability doesn't mean you can't do normal things.
Load More Replies...Yep, like what my dad said when I was crying after losing my baby at 4 months pregnant. "You already have three; we're not animals you know". "you and mom got five" "yes, but they were all accidents and we didn't want you" "thanks for that, dad".
Hey, very sorry to hear that fellow panda. I hope you are better now.
Load More Replies...I'm not unsympathetic to this woman, but I have more sympathy for her children, who were left "screaming and screaming" with their mother shaking and crying on the floor having an anxiety attack so bad she "couldn't breathe". It may well be that her anxiety substantially worsened after having kids, or there was a major change in family circumstances that left her without support, and that it's not her fault, just a terrible situation. But if she was having incapacitating anxiety attacks on a regular basis, and deliberately chose to get pregnant anyway, with no childcare plan, then that is selfish and morally wrong. Kids are not supposed to be caring for their parents, or having to deal with the trauma of being left alone with someone in the throes of a crippling anxiety attack. It's not "mentally ill people don't deserve families" it's "don't *deliberately* bring children into this world *knowing* you lack the resources and support to care for them in the way they deserve."
Thank you. My mentally ill mother should never have had children. It was absolute HELL growing up with her psychotic mood swings and temper tantrums. She ruined my life and my brother's life.
Load More Replies...Wow .... Just wow. So according to this person if someone has mental illness they don't deserve happiness. Anxiety attacks are already bad enough, if you don't have something nice to say don't be mean. You never know how much the person suffers behind the screen.
You can be very happy without having kids. It’s irresponsible to bring children to this world knowing you won’t be fully capable of taking care of them. You are supposed to make your children happy, not the other way around.
Load More Replies...You have anxiety? How dare you get married, have kids and live a normal life like the rest of us!!
I had anxiety for a long time and it didn’t keep me from being a A/B honorable student, getting NJHS (National Junior Honors Society), supporting my parents in taking in their grandchild, going through fighting a “friend” who never really was a friend, sneezing (I sneezed a lot while making this post; I couldn’t help myself :>), supporting my brother, and many other things.
Load More Replies...I’ll have to be the bad guy here. I also live with anxiety and other physical and mental issues. I won’t have kids because I know I would struggle taking care of them properly. You are not entitled to have children for your own pleasure/gratification. However I would never call somebody out about it. It’s rude and useless. Your life choices aren’t my business although I certainly question them.
there is a possible chance she didn't have this disability BEFORE the children were born. There is alot of reasons a person gets anxiety attacks/depression.
Dr. Brenner goes on to note that some topics should actually be explicitly off-limits, if they only ever leave you feeling stressed, traumatized, or emotionally exhausted. It may be challenging, but you have the right to set boundaries with your relatives. And finally, she reminds readers that we are not responsible for our family members. If they are difficult, it is not our fault. When we can see a familiar pattern being carried out, it can be helpful to do everything in our power to avoid a conflict. But at the end of the day, people can be stubborn. Remember that your well-being comes first, and if it comes down to it, you can always cut a family member off. Whether that means financially or through all contact, you are allowed to have boundaries. And especially when you don’t feel supported by your family, it is more important to have people around who do support you, regardless of whether you’re related or not.
My Sister Wants Me And My Brother To Help Pay For Her And Her Kids To Swim At My Late Father's Pool
Why does she want to pay even $800 for her kids to swim. The public pool has got to be cheaper, and less hassle than maintaining a pool.
I guess she wanted them to have the privacy of that pool, instead of the public one. Obviously if you want luxury, you have to pay.
Load More Replies...It's even worse if you do the math. It's 2k total and she wants both of her relatives to pay 800. That leaves 400 left. She wants to pay half of what they're paying for something only she will use.
No, I think it was supposed to be $2500 or less, shared 3 ways, breaking down to $2000 for opening/closing/weekly maintenance and $500 or less for the heating. So that is why she said they'd be paying no more than $800 each (3x800=2400). But still very audacious to ask two siblings who won't use the facilities to subsidise her sessions in the private pool. If the pool needed maintenance work anyway to keep it in decent condition for viewings/sale, then they should look at sharing the maintenance costs but all costs over and above that (like the heating) she should foot the bill as the one benefitting.
Load More Replies...Dad died and she wants to use shared inheritance to pay for maintenance of his pool. Siblings see it as spending ‘their’ money and don’t feel it’s necessary because they will not use the pool. Honestly, sounds like there’s a deeper story here.
Load More Replies...These siblings don't get along very well. I wouldn't have a problem paying for my sisters kids to swim in my dads pool (if the situation presented itself). Weird vibe in this conversation.
Completely unrelated, but that phone is using Samsung's messaging app from Android 8. Just noticed it cause I just came from that lol
I don’t know if I’m still half asleep or what, but I’m not understanding this conversation at all.
It's a group text. Black is the sister. Orange and gray are the ones telling her to go to the public pool.
Load More Replies...The real question is whether it’s worth the cost to prove that the pool is functional and in good shape to prospective buyers in hopes of getting a higher price or faster sale. The property is gonna look a whole lot better with a clean, sparking, functioning pool. If it’s covered and closed, buyers won’t really know what they’re getting until they try to open it, themselves. The estate needs to consult with their realtor before making a decision. She’s way out of line with her request, but that doesn’t mean that opening the pool isn’t a good idea. And, they don’t have to turn the heat on. The pool will function just fine without heat & they can prove to buyers that it *can* be turned on.
My Aunt Asks Me To Pick Up My Cousin At Least 3 Times A Week From Work. Easily A Quarter Of A Gas Tank Every Time. This Was Her Reaction When I Said No Tonight
I love it when people decide that what I want to do with my free time is unimportant.
Yes, just tell her no, you don't owe her an explanation so that she can use it to try to change your mind and/or verbally attack you (same when dealing with your boss when asking for your earned day off)
Load More Replies...Bus, Uber, taxi, bike … oh, the shame of it all, I guess. Sounds like the cousin needs to move closer to work, or get a job closer to home.
THREE TIMES A WEEK? This falls way beyond the category of the occasional favor.
"No, can't make it." Or "I don't have enough gas, or enough free time, to collect him. I will only do it if you cover my hourly rate, + the cost of petrol. That works out as $X per trip. That's how much it costs me to collect him every time, and if you can't cover that, you need to arrange other transport." Helping family doesn't mean allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. If someone is working, they should be able to pay for transport, whether it's a bus, a bike, petrol contribution, or a taxi or uber. You should not have to subsidise them by providing transport for free, when it's costing you time and money. In an emergency, or occasionally, sure, but not as a regular thing.
a whole quarter of the gastank every time? Just how big are the distances?
Tax Season And Cb Sister
And demand her new employer give her a share of the profits.
Load More Replies...Oh my word…I don’t think they really understand what that check is actually for. It is literally temporary financial assistance so that parents/legal guardians can afford to feed and care for their child. It’s not to give out as an allowance, or spending money. This kid..🙄
My thing is, when did we start putting the $ sign after the amount?
I think it's a common thing in countries outside of North America. https://linguaholic.com/linguablog/dollar-sign-before-or-after-number/#:~:text=In%20the%20USA%2C%20the%20dollar,What%20is%20this%3F
Load More Replies...GET A JOB!!! Is the correct response to this. My parents were able to put the child benefits into savings bonds for us some years, once we were older and my dad was making more money. One year they weren’t eligible for the benefits, and they had to figure out how to pay the taxes they owed. We never actually got the cash though, the savings bonds were to pay for university.
Now, when it comes to which family members are demanding too much of us, it can come from anywhere. Siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and even our own parents. While parents are supposed to look out for their children and teach them how to be kind, well-adjusted individuals, sometimes they actually do more harm than good. Caroline Bologna wrote an article for the Huff Post breaking down the signs that you might have been raised by an entitled parent, or a Karent, and if you find any of this behavior to be familiar, just know that you don’t have to follow in your parents’ footsteps. According to psychotherapist Noel McDermott, entitled parents will make unreasonable demands of everyone, including their children.
I'd Be Happy If My Parents Got Me Anything
Send the MacBook back for a refund and question your parenting because she didn't start off spoilt.
“My teenager wants a Lamborghini but I couldn’t afford it so I bought her a 1999 Honda Civic and now she won’t speak to us. What should we do?” Don’t spoil your children pls I guess 🤦♀️ Is that the issue?
Load More Replies...Yep! If their daughter is old enough to stop talking to them over a laptop she felt she was entitled to, she's old enough to get a job.
Load More Replies...Depends on the age, but you might still be able to get some money selling the child
The local fish cannery is usually looking for more slave labourers.
Load More Replies...Ground her and take all electronics away for over a two months. And return the computer and don't get her one
Everyone in the comments is blaming the teen - where did she get this attitude from? And what were the reasons for wanting a specific computer? Would the Air not have been suitable for the purpose she wanted it (eg video editing or music production) and therefore a waste of money that could have gone towards, say a refurbished Pro?
$80 Cutlery Set Not Good Enough For This Father. Proceeds To Roast His Own Daughter
I hope the daughter saw this so she can know not to bother with her parents anymore.
If you don't like a gift and put it online to resell, then why do you have to vent and give the whole story, and in this case even shame your daughter online! smh
Or donate to Planned Parenthood in his name rather than give a gift.
Load More Replies...When I was in county jail, a friend bought me a subscription to Reader's Digest magazine. Every subscription came with a free set of Ginzu knives. Oddly enough, I never received the knives.
😂 Hmm. I wonder why the knives never came? I mean, you could have made a shank out of the magazine rolled up I bet! But for serious, that’s a really thoughtful gift for someone who’s locked up.
Load More Replies...Well...a guy that sounds this old-fashioned probably wouldn't appreciate colorful titanium silverware. I think this one's a badly chosen gift. Still, it's awful of him to insult her like this on the listing.
Exactly this. I too don't think that this is a very thoughtful gift. You use your cutlery every day and it's a bit odd to just givet such things without even talking about it beforehand and then a special kind like that one too... BUT the reaction of him was absolutely rude and uncalled for.
Load More Replies...The ingratitude. It is one thing to sell a gift that you don't need/want but to complain about the person who gave it and the gift in rant... I do wonder sometimes whether ads like this are written in jest just to attract interest, but unless this was done with complete agreement and encouragement from the daughter, he's an ungrateful jerk.
Walmart has a set I want to get :) Much cheaper then 80 bucks though.
Load More Replies...Olds is not a noun. The word should be elders
Load More Replies...My Brother Likes To Make Large Sum Bets And Thinks I'll Just Pull Out Of My Savings To Help Pay His Dues
Right, like that would ever get repaid. They'd just ask for more money instead of paying it back.
You're better off counting on the Cleveland Browns to win the Super Bowl than counting on this [bleep] to pay you back!
Load More Replies...A dangerous thing, being a compulsive gambler. He will take and take and take and never give back the money, because as soon as he has some, he gambles it away again. NEVER give money to these people. They are absolutely sure that the "big win" is just on the next bet.
So the dude lost another $1,000 within 6 minutes of begging for $2,000 to cover his losses?
Probably just got a call from the loanshark
Load More Replies...Never ever give money to anyone if they're in trouble after gambling. You're not helping them by giving them money, you're helping them destroy their lives. You're just pouring money into a bottomless pit, they're gonna be in the exact same trouble next time, they're gonna have to learn the lesson of really feeling the consequences of their actions, it's gonna be even more painful for them to learn that lesson next time, so they're better off learning it now. If you REALLY want to help them: let them deal with the financial consequences themselves, convince them to go to therapy/gamblers anonymous, and support them emotionally. But never "support" them financially, because that's not support, that's helping them in their destructive behaviour, because they will get into the same trouble next time (and next time and next time).
“The entitlement is projected onto the child as a set of expectations and belief in perfectionist views of the child,” Noel McDermott told the Huff Post. “Any criticism of the child will be a criticism of the parent. The parent will insist on special treatment for their child and remove their child from opportunities to socialize outside of their tightly controlled social circle.” Dealing with an entitled parent can be extremely challenging because they feel like the world owes them something, and they tend to assume they are the victim in any scenario. This can lead to embarrassment and shame in their children, if their parents are causing a scene at baseball practice, at school or when eating out at a restaurant.
My Stepmom Won Some Money From The Lottery Last Night, This Is What My Dad Had To Say
20k is a lot! Like pay my bills for half a year!
Load More Replies...Read it the same way, my dad would've say that while bursting out laughing
Load More Replies...We always want more. If I won the lottery I'd wish I'd won the euromillions but that's not to say I'd be extremely happy to have won the lottery. It also could be a joke.
Maybe he wanted more so he could do more good with it, like pay off everyone’s mortgages in his family, open an animal rescue shelter, etc etc?
My Sweet Little Brother Who Begs Me For Money Every Day
He is 30 and married and doesn’t talk to me about anything but borrowing money or getting handouts or asking if he can come for dinner. The vm after was “what kind of sister let’s their brother go hungry?” um, this one
...aaaand, which person marries such a manchild????
Load More Replies...Comic con is more important than food?? Well, suffer the natural consequences...maybe next time he'll rearrange his priorities.
So you go buy peanut butter, jelly and bread. You make 2 sandwiches. Then you go to his work and drop off his 2 sandwiches. Then you bring out the bag with the bread, peanut butter and jelly and say this is enough for him to eat lunch for a week. Then he will just need to buy bread for the next week and should only be $1. The other stuff should last for a month.
Brooo I thought this was a 14 year old with a first job and even then I was like, just teach him, but 30?!?!?!? I’m more responsible and I’m 16
His poor wife, she married a man child... thought d poor lil fella was about 15
You know what? I'm actually going to call BS on this one. I don't buy that the brother is 30 and married. This is a conversation between (probably) teenagers/young adults, but it's sensationalized by saying the younger brother is 30 and married. "I told Mom you need lunch and she said you have money" is a dead giveaway. That's about a sibling young enough to still live at home. Why would the sister need to tell their mother that the brother needs lunch if he's 30 and married? If that truly is the case, EVERYONE in this family needs help for enabling such a man baby to exist.
Family Member Wants Money. Doesn’t Like It When I Call Her Out
I'm reminded of an AITA where a woman had started dating a divorced guy with kids. He started out by hitting her up for small sums, which she was willing to give him because he always claimed it was "for his kids." Then he wanted her personal bank acct info so he could "buy his kids an Xbox," and he was very angry with her when she said, "I won't give you my banking info, but let's go pick out the Xbox together." He stopped speaking to her, and it turned out that the money wasn't "for an Xbox for his kids" after all, the money was because his "best mate" allegedly had car trouble, and the money was to fix Best Friend's car, "but if I'd told you that you wouldn't have given me the money, so of course I had to lie," like that made perfect sense. Eyeroll. I hope she dumped his lame a$$.
Wow, this could have been written by any of my family members. I'll get a phone call after months of silence and indifference, with the following: "Hey, how are you? (1second pause, because they really don't care about the answer, and then)...Hey, I need to borrow...xyz". People like this are financial and emotional black holes, and are incapable of participating in a healthy relationship. Cut them out of your life.
I hope this persons could cut out ties with this "relative" that's no nice asking always without giving something back. I have seen my father get in debt trying to help my older half siblings, they take for granted my dad's money because he could retired young due to neurological health issues. I see how my parents struggle with debt since I was 11 and it is not nice that my half- sibling don't give a thanks at least and take care of what my dad gives them. So disappointing to see a living being as a bank nor as someone supportive that help you, even being in debt :(
Well, since we ain't 12, you can WORK for your money as well because you ain't getting any from me! Smh...
It can also hinder a child’s understanding of empathy if their parent never teaches them to consider the perspectives of others. “It’s important for children to be raised to believe that other people’s needs are as important as their own,” Perri Shaw Borish, a psychotherapist and founder of Whole Heart Maternal Mental Health, told the Huff Post. “If a parent is entitled they are likely not modeling that for their children. Entitled parents may not be helping their children to understand their place in the larger community and world and their connectedness to those outside of themselves.” This can cause the cycle to repeat itself, as the apple doesn’t fall very far from the tree.
My 30 Y/O Sister Getting Mad That I Haven't Done Her Whole University Project When She Asked For Help
I can't comprehend how that sister is even in university! School requires work and effort!
I just found out what a type 5 is, and realized I might be a level 7 type 5 at that… :p
30 years old and can't even handle a university project... Did she think her degree/diploma would just materialize out of thin air?
I do no one's work but my own. I will help you with guidance, explaining concepts, problems, processes, but I will NOT do your work for you.
30-yr-old siblings asking for money seems to be a running theme here
Mother Demands You Only Buy Specific Gifts For Birthday And Holiday. For Context, The Child Is Like 4 Years Old
SIL once asked us to buy a $250 “art supplies kit” for her 5yo for Christmas. We had no kids and bought gifts for 18 nieces & nephews plus their 5 sets of parents. We rarely got anything in the way of gifts from any of them. That was the year we said screw it. We said thanks for the suggestion, gave every kid a $20 gift card to B&N, and announced that we’d no longer be buying for anyone over the age of 18.
There are much better ways of going about this, but the idea of requesting specific gifts so the child gets what they are interested in rather than something that will sit in a corner makes sense
I guess this year I'll just go shopping with my sister & her kid - by the time he will be around 5 months so if there is anything in the store he seems to like within my budget I'll get it. For the older kids my family usually gives the amount we are willing to spend to to parents - they buy whatever they think their child likes and we pick it up for wrapping and hiding from the kids. For example there was this big sensory play thing they really wanted - they bought that and it was a gift from all of us.
Load More Replies...She gets her pickiness from her mother, and she's only 4!!! She's going to become insufferable!!!
to be fair, it can be very annoying when kids receive duplicate gifts or a toy they already own. either it becomes another piece of junk that lays around, or the parent has to find the time to return or donate. coordinating different wishlists for different relatives makes it a lot easier for the parent. though it *is* a bit absurd to say the 4yo specifically requested each individual toy.
Or the kid plays with both, or you've got a replacement for when one breaks, or one for at home & one for at grandma's house...
Load More Replies...idk, I always prefer to ask people what they want. This way they're not disappointed, the item is liked and gets used and doesn't wind up being returned, regifted or left in a closet forever.
It makes sense, but this woman is not suggesting, she is bullying the whole family into buying what SHE wants.
Load More Replies...And I've made a list of all the stuff I'll get you for Christmas....What...It's a blank piece of paper?
And that child would get exactly nothing from me. Shame on anyone who acquiesces to this kind of manipulation.
My Unemployed Brother Asking Me To Order Him A Pizza
Lets maybe not downvote all the people who thought they meant bananas, they'll get banned and it's an easy mistake to make seeing the person didn't use commas lol
I've never heard of a banana pepper and I did a double take on that thinking what horror is that on a pizza. It just proves how much confusion incorrect (or no) punctuation can cause.
Load More Replies...The banana pepper (also known as the yellow wax pepper or banana chili) is a medium-sized member of the chili pepper family that has a mild, tangy taste. While typically bright yellow, it is possible for them to change to green, red, or orange as they ripen.[1] It is often pickled, stuffed or used as a raw ingredient in foods. It is a cultivar of the species Capsicum annuum. Its flavor is not very hot (0–500 Scoville units) and, as is the case with most peppers, its heat depends on the maturity of the pepper, with the ripest being sweeter than younger ones.
Banana peppers...I thinknits another name for the light green pepper. Maybe called a wax pepper?
Load More Replies...No lol. There’s a kind of pepper called banana peppers and they’re like a sweet tangy yellow pepper. They’re small and long tho
Load More Replies...People seriously don't know what a banana pepper is?!? How do you not know that in this day and age? No wonder the planet is doomed.
Entitled parents often have trouble with boundaries as well, as I’m sure you can see from some of the posts on this list. “Entitled parents often treat their child’s life as if it’s their own life,” licensed marriage and family therapist Becky Stuempfig told the Huff Post. “There’s not a healthy separation between parent and child.” This can be seen when a parent feels entitled to their child’s income, responsible for their child’s accomplishments, and more. And this lack of boundaries can be detrimental for a child. They may be unable to appropriately express themselves, which can lead to feeling like they are unimportant and developing low self-esteem.
My Sister Seems To Think I’m Selfish For Bringing My Controller, Which She Likes To Use Without Asking, With Me On A Couple Week Vacation. I Bought It With My Own Money
"Yeah, I'm doing nothing with my controller. Just like you're doing nothing with your money. But instead of buying a controller, you're just trying to be one."
If he doesn't use it anyways, what's the point in taking it with him? I mean yeah she should ask before using it but taking something with no intention of using it just so someone else can't is stupid imo...
He/she might have a good reason for taking it with them. Like a sibling who takes your stuff and possibly breaks/loses it.
Load More Replies...Reasons why I buy share size snacks and proceed to eat the entire thing w/o sharing it. I don’t like sharing my snacks/food….
Op Is Mad That Her Brother Only Spent $75 On A Gift For Her Kid
ESH, personally. I think the issue is that Eric was bragging about how he found it used and bought it so cheaply. For someone who makes a pretty cushy income, I think that’s kind of a crappy thing to consistently do to his nephew and loved ones. Fortunately the kid still loved it because kids don’t care, but yeah, the mother did react badly and she should’ve let it go. Edit: realized what bothers me so much about Eric. He’s basically advertising that he doesn’t think his nephew is worth a nice present. I’ve bought my nephew name brand toddler clothes from TJ Maxx, but I wouldn’t buy him something used and brag about how little I had to spend on him.
Load More Replies...I have a feeling that it's not about the child, totally thrilled to get the thing he wanted.... This reminds me of when my dad got laid off for several months. He and Mom explained to us that Christmas wasn't going to be much, because they just didn't have the money. This was the year Rubik's Cubes hit big in the States. I asked for a cube, and for an archery set. Even though I was really too old for it, I expected to get a child's plastic archery set, and I'd have been happy with it. Somehow Dad managed to get me a REAL short bow, and a quiver of arrows. He set up some bales of hay, and put up a police target on them. The bow and arrows well-used, and rather shoddy. That was the best Christmas of my life.
My dad got me an archery set when I was a kid too! I expected just a cheapo generic bow, but he bought me a real wooden recurve now that was made for left-handed people (I’m a leftie). It was magical. I’d been ready to learn to shoot right-handed, but my dad came through even though we weren’t well-off. Sometimes parents make actual miracles happen, and we’re thrilled even if the miracle is a used/pre-owned item XD (I’m 40 now, my dad passed away last year… but I still have that bow.)
Load More Replies...I think the important point here is that the 12-year-old "LOVES the truck, even though it wasn't brand new". This kid is more mature than the parent here.
YTA. He got the kid something the kid loves and wanted, and saved you from spending $200 on a toy that your son may tire of in a few weeks. Maybe Eric doesn't like people being mercenary and expecting expensive gifts from him? He went to the effort to find out what his nephew wanted, checked that you hadn't bought one already, and got him something he loves. Going used often means a higher spec, hardly used item at a massive discount, so this RC may actually be better quality than the Traxxas model. The kid is thrilled, be happy for him, instead of having a snit about how much someone else spent on a gift.
I have a real issue with people who don't give a damn about the actual gift, only how much was spent on it. Any person who pulls that with me gets nothing in future. The children will still get nice presents, but mom can stick her head where the sun don't shine.
I don't see the problem if the son loves it. It only proves that happiness doesn't depend on the price of something.
The Sense Of Entitlement Is Strong Here, Even With A Significant Portion Of Their Expenses Paid For By Family
A trend for the greedy people many of whom already have a house, cars, furniture, kids, etc, they want a fancy honeymoon courtesy of friends and family. Welcome to greedfest the wedding edition.
Load More Replies...Our wedding was at the courthouse with a few friends, who then took us to a fancy restaurant for a champagne bridal dinner. Our honeymoon was a weekend at a friend’s beach house (gave us the keys as their wedding present to us), and the rest of the week at home with the phone off the hook, because we had cats and didn’t want to leave them for a week. That was back in May 2001. We’ve been married ever since. Still have cats, plus a dog now too. The marriage is what’s important, not the wedding or the honeymoon.
That sounds lovely, I bet you had a blast!
Load More Replies...And no doubt this is after the engagement party gifts, bridal shower, bucks night, hen's night, wedding gift and God knows what other event these people plan.
Yep, I'm of the opinion you either give an engagement, bridal shower or wedding present, not both
Load More Replies...Ahhhh... There's only one really important thing on the honeymoon. And it requires no money.
Well, to be fair Michael, as a wise man, I mean a wise @$$ man once said, “you always pay for it one way or another”, that was my ex-husband & his Jewish granny told him that!
Load More Replies...This whole "the guests literally pay for my wedding" - trend is baffling to me. I have been to quite a few weddings and have never seen something like this. Maybe it's an american thing? Here (Germany) the couple mentions possible gifts they would love to have - which are mostly household items - but even that is not an obligation?! Demanding expensive gifts is very impolite. In many cases smaller groups of close friends collect some money and give it to the couple (often as part of a game during the wedding) so that they can buy something they like, the end?
It's not common in the US either. Just some assholes trying to be cheap.
Load More Replies...This new trend with weddings, destination weddings, girls bachelorette trip that bridesmaids are expected to pay for, expensive honeymoons that people invited to the wedding are expected to pay for, brides demanding maid of honor &/or bridesmaids pay for expensive dresses, lose weight, dye their hair a different color or not wear any make up so they don’t upstage the bride, wedding invites that tell people they have to pay $125 a plate for their dinner, invitations that say guests have to buy from this particular registry & gifts must cost AT LEAST $500 & up, on & on, all these I’ve heard. I would not go to any wedding that demanded I pay anything…period. Registry’s are fine, keeps you from getting 12 toasters, but you can’t put minimums on a gift! What the hell is wrong with people?
So, basically she's charging people to attend her after honeymoon party? Got it.
Another important trait that entitled parents, or entitled individuals in general, often lack is the ability to express gratitude. “Entitlement isn’t so much about actual position but more about relationship to position,” Noel McDermott explains. “Someone who is entitled will lack gratitude for their good fortune and view anyone who questions their position as bad.” As you can see from many of the photos on this list, an entitled person will not say thank you and appreciate someone going out of their way to help them. They simply assume that they deserve to be helped, and they feel free to ask for whatever they want. Thankfully, however, even if your parents raised you this way, you are not doomed to a life of entitlement. Being aware is the first step in correcting or preventing these unhealthy tendencies, so if you want to ensure that you don't end up too entitled, try to remember to practice gratitude whenever you can.
My Cousin Who Has No Concept Of Fuel Costs
Actually, taking this guy three miles out and dumping his sorry a*s off the boat sounds like a good plan.
What exposure is this person getting in this situation other than to the sun?
Exposure to the police? Because if that's not some sort of trafficking situation, it certainly sounds like it.
Load More Replies...Oh. My. Word. I'm so SICK of the "experience and exposure" nonsense! You're cheap and broke! And yet, spoiled and entitled! Just admit it!
Sooo, is the cousin being asked to be dumped 5km off shore in the ocean for some dump internet stunt? It's a more stupid idea than the ones other posters have come up with but when I see "pays nothing but you get experience and exposure" I think dumb a*s internet stuff.
What part of "it pays nothing" you don't understand?
Load More Replies...My Boyfriend Bought My Mom A Diet Coke, This Is What My Dad Had To Say
Whilst misguided, the dad thinks he is being hilarious. He may be annoying but it's hardly entitled
Agree - it reads more like lame dad joke than entitlement
Load More Replies...Take that dollar, buy a Sharpie, make a sign and stand on a corner making real money
My Cousin’s New So Wanted To Get His Hair Done With Me
I don't see how this one is entitled? They, politely asked. Now, if they responded badly, to a 'no' {which isn't even shown here), it could be a different situation.
I sincerely hope that these posts are not reminding you of your own relatives, but if they are, maybe this is a good reminder to set some healthy boundaries. Keep upvoting the pictures that you find most obnoxious, and then let us know in the comments if you've ever had to deal with a "choosy beggar" of a family member. And if you're interested in checking out even more of these posts, you can find Bored Panda's last article on the same topic right here.
I Hope Her Aunt Never Pays The Netflix
I think it’s in a foreign language….I don’t understand it
Load More Replies...Maybe if you watched a little less Netflix, you would have the time to learn to read and write properly...
My mother told me never to take candy from strangers! But I guess it's not candy, so... Thank you, kind stranger!
Load More Replies...Your aunt is paying her Netflix bill...you just don't have access to it
Auntie Whoever, please DO NOT pay your Netflix account!!! Let the lil' leech work for her series binges.
Cb Uncle Who Has No Job Asks For Help The One Time He Talked To Me This Year. Ungrateful When I Couldn’t Send Money A Few Hours Earlier
I Tried To Teach My Daughter Better Than This
Meh, all kids under age seven are psychopaths. They learn as they grow.
Yeah, dealing with them is like pulling teeth.
Load More Replies...I did this cause I wanted to keep my teeth when I was lil, I thought they were cool despite everyone saying they were scary {fanged shaped cause of disabilities and birthdefects}
so found out my mom used to tell my bro and sister to do this so she could keep their teeth for there birth books {i was adopted so i didn't have one }
Load More Replies...My 6 year old nephew accidentally swallowed his tooth when it fell out. So he left a note for the tooth fairy that said "I'm sorry but I lost my tooth that fell out. Can I still get money?" Kid's got priorities! :)
Hehehe... The first tooth they're usually good with giving up for the excitement -- the second? Naw, they wanna keep it AND get those coins!!! (Our "tooth fairy" usually give our Littles those gold $1 coins, it looks magical - plus a bit of ripped parchment paper with fancy writing and some glitter spread around thanking them for the teeth)
The bar for basic decency is so low that it is on the ground but this chucklefucks have brought shovels.
Remember Pandas, let's not downvote each other's comments, as it gets people suspended + banned. If you disagree with someone, just say so (or ignore). Use downvotes for hate speech/spam only.
It is ridiculous that the algorithm bp uses is to suspend and ban people automatically without ever reading the comment in question. Old account got suspended because people downvoted a comment that was clearly marked /s as sarcasm. BP needs to hire humans to make that decision. Thank you for reminding people not to downvote the comment unless it is hate speech or spam.
Load More Replies...Sounds like my family. Aunt guilted me into buying her groceries and dinner. She did this so often, I don't know why I was surprised at her new trick. She's never worked, and claimed she had nothing. Turned out she just didn't want to buy her groceries and guilted me into doing it, she had to add things she 'wanted' and wouldn't usually buy. We went back to hers and she puts all the groceries and food for dinner away. Brings out stuff from her freezer that was freezer burnt and that had just about gone off. The dinner we were supposed to eat was put away so she could eat it later. Well, my parents visit and I tell them aunts latest trick to get her groceries paid for by me. Dad decided we're going to visit aunt. Aunt drools over my Dad (much to his disgust) and invited us to lunch. Dad promptly ate most of the food she put out (it was everything I had bought for dinner the night before). Thanked her kindly and we left. I never bothered helping her again.
Entitled twat waffles always amaze me. How do they function in the rarified air up there? Narcissism and willful ignorance are no joke.
This makes me remember to what extent of how NOT TO BE -a}$hole- toxic with our "beloved ones" Sadly, I have been toxic too. Saly, many nice people have this kind of relatives. I hope the cycle ends one day, for God's sake!
Sounds like a former friend who claimed she was starving as she had no money or food and her abusive soon to be ex husband made her stay locked in her room. My husband and I decided to help her out by buying her groceries. We called her from the store to see if she had access to a stove, and she immediately began to dictate what we could and couldn't buy for her, no gratitude whatsoever for what we had already picked up. She only wanted name brand, no generic. I thought if you were starving you'd eat anything and be glad for it. Silly me.
The bar for basic decency is so low that it is on the ground but this chucklefucks have brought shovels.
Remember Pandas, let's not downvote each other's comments, as it gets people suspended + banned. If you disagree with someone, just say so (or ignore). Use downvotes for hate speech/spam only.
It is ridiculous that the algorithm bp uses is to suspend and ban people automatically without ever reading the comment in question. Old account got suspended because people downvoted a comment that was clearly marked /s as sarcasm. BP needs to hire humans to make that decision. Thank you for reminding people not to downvote the comment unless it is hate speech or spam.
Load More Replies...Sounds like my family. Aunt guilted me into buying her groceries and dinner. She did this so often, I don't know why I was surprised at her new trick. She's never worked, and claimed she had nothing. Turned out she just didn't want to buy her groceries and guilted me into doing it, she had to add things she 'wanted' and wouldn't usually buy. We went back to hers and she puts all the groceries and food for dinner away. Brings out stuff from her freezer that was freezer burnt and that had just about gone off. The dinner we were supposed to eat was put away so she could eat it later. Well, my parents visit and I tell them aunts latest trick to get her groceries paid for by me. Dad decided we're going to visit aunt. Aunt drools over my Dad (much to his disgust) and invited us to lunch. Dad promptly ate most of the food she put out (it was everything I had bought for dinner the night before). Thanked her kindly and we left. I never bothered helping her again.
Entitled twat waffles always amaze me. How do they function in the rarified air up there? Narcissism and willful ignorance are no joke.
This makes me remember to what extent of how NOT TO BE -a}$hole- toxic with our "beloved ones" Sadly, I have been toxic too. Saly, many nice people have this kind of relatives. I hope the cycle ends one day, for God's sake!
Sounds like a former friend who claimed she was starving as she had no money or food and her abusive soon to be ex husband made her stay locked in her room. My husband and I decided to help her out by buying her groceries. We called her from the store to see if she had access to a stove, and she immediately began to dictate what we could and couldn't buy for her, no gratitude whatsoever for what we had already picked up. She only wanted name brand, no generic. I thought if you were starving you'd eat anything and be glad for it. Silly me.
