You can't please everyone. Especially the Internet.
There's a subreddit called r/WeddingShaming and as the name suggests, it's a place where people trash everything from brides and grooms, in-laws and outlaws to venues and menus as well as decor and Uncle Bob's armpit odor.
Of course, it's not all out of spite. Some posts that get a ton of attention are funny and lighthearted. Like the one where a bride shows off her mom's dress, a white gown, way fancier than her own (12,000 upvotes).
But as you might've already noticed in Bored Panda's earlier piece on the subreddit, it's the juicy stuff that gets its 189,000 members riled up. So continue scrolling and join the judging team: upvote the pics that deserve criticism or tell us in the comments if they should be rehabilitated.
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Shaming These Awful Parents, While The Siblings Rock
An engaged couple makes a lot of big decisions about their special day that not only impact them but also their guests; while they want to stay true to their own desires, they also have to consider what their guests might enjoy. After all, everyone's a part of the ride. "Financial worries are usually forefront for most couples," wedding planner Lisa Burton told Bored Panda.
"The worry is they can't afford the wedding day they want and might have to compromise too much. With the couple's expectations being so high, they worry the reality won't live up to the dream."
This Is A Whole New Level Of Bridezilla
Bride Claims “No Masks Allowed” At Her Wedding
Burton, who has over 14 years of experience throwing weddings abroad, said another worry for her destination wedding couples is that the expectations of the guests — who have spent money flying across the world to attend their wedding — will not be met. "There's a lot of pressure to provide the 'perfect' wedding experience. I try to reassure them that guests are on holiday first and foremost so they are in a more carefree state of mind. Most, if not all guests will not have attended a wedding abroad before, and certainly not at the same venue so they have nothing to compare it to. Even if your day is perfectly simple and intimate they’ll still be experiencing something they’ve never experienced before. This usually helps to calm the bride and groom."
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
Newly Engaged Dependa (Not My Story)
But some things can make the guests leave with bitter memories. "Family dynamics can be hard to balance at a wedding," Lisa Burton said. "It's one of the main things a couple can struggle with, especially if the family doesn't get on."
The seating arrangement, for example, can be enough to set off a conflict. "If a family member ends up being seated next to someone they don't like, it can affect the atmosphere at the reception. We once planned an intimate wedding of 16 people and they had 6 tables at the reception (instead of the usual one or two). This was because family members did not speak and refused to sit next to each other at dinner," Burton recalled.
Bruno Mars Disapproves. Probably
Double-Shame? Moh Knew She Had Been Exposed Before The Pandemic Wedding
According to her, expense is another possible issue. "If a couple is marrying at a luxury venue, this typically means the costs of drinks will be high. If the bride and groom don't offer an open bar then guests may have to 'dig deep' if they want a few rounds of drinks. This can often lead to disgruntled 'sober' guests."
Venue accessibility can also cause a few headaches. "If you know your venues has difficult access or steep entryways then make sure your guests are prepared. Less able guests may need help and negotiating steep cobbled pathways is no fun in stiletto heels!" Burton said.
Just Saw This On Facebook... Eek
Went To A Wedding And The Mil Wore This... Would You Be Okay With It?
I saw a photo similar to this one (with a similar story, no doubt), and the bride actually got sneaky and paid a server to "accidentally" spill wine on the MIL's "not a wedding dress" dress. I gotta say, I'd be tempted to do something like that if someone was that disrespectful at my wedding.
I spilled wine on my sisters mother in law and I made sure she knew it was not an accident! :)
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Back story: the bride knew the MIL got this dress - super cheap from a thriftstore and it fit (as you can see) and she was so happy with it, the bride approved!
If it was so, then no problem! If my nice MIL was so child like excited and asked, I would say yes, too.
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It's an unwritten rule that people who wear white to a wedding who aren't the bride gets red wine dumped on them. Usually one of the bridal party will do it with an 'Oops!'
Our wedding had to be "dry", and no one told me about that rule, dang it
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"Congratulations on marrying this young man!" - - "Oh, he is your son?" - - "Oh, you're not the bride at all?? Just dressed like a bride? Okay, sorry for confusion, madam."
GROSS! GROSS! GROSS! The very visual definition of a doomed marriage.
I'm tempted to bring a regular dress when i have a wedding so if someone shows up like this I'm like here go change
Mothers who were white to their child’s wedding is low key creepy. Sends off bad vibes ...like they wish they were marrying the groom . Sorry, it’s just creepy
I think people who dress to purposefully upstage the bride are just making fools of themselves. If someone came to my wedding dressed in white, I'd laugh at them, and let everyone else feel free to laugh at them too... them just ignore them like they don't matter.
What is it with MsIL and wearing wedding dresses to their son's wedding? This one looks especially whorish.
NO! White is reserved for the bride! My husband invited this friend of his. I didn’t like her much since I could tell she was in love with him. She constantly kept up this “compatition” for his attention. But you know just under the radar so this sweet but sometimes clueless man I married wouldn’t pick up on it. So at our wedding she wore a thight red dress because as she said my husband had always said he loved her in red.. held this speech which was kind of a quiz of how much my husband and I knew eachother and ofcourse all my answers was wrong because “she knew him better” and she looked so pissed off during the entire evening. She ended up yelling at the best man. Who just laughed at her. On the day I didn’t care. Because no matter what I was the one getting married to my husband so f*** you! I never understood this need to outstage the bride whether from mother, friend, sister or anyone else. It’s their freaking wedding day! You lost!
You have GOT to be kidding!!! They should put that devil emoji on her face for ALL of the pictures!!!
Wearing white a someone else wedding is the worst...There is just ONE dress color you're not allowed. And there is so many beautiful dresses of so many colors and patterns, don't tell me all she could find was a white one.
Hilary Mol, Love the idea, but next time you really should ask a relative or friend to do that. The server would lose her job and have a hard time getting another one in the same field.
If this was a serious question: judging by the skin's complexion, I'd say left (from our point of view) is bride, right is Momzilla
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I'm not, but there's nothing we can do to change it. She thinks it's ok because I didn't tell her what color to wear. Wedding was near Christmas, so the colors were red, black and white. I told all the gals to wear red. She doesn't wear it apparently. It's not the etof the world, esp since hers was a tasteful suit, not a dress to rival mine, as in this pic
If you saw me mother in law, you'd want her in a mask too. Now i'm wonder'n if me own wife might need a mask.
And THAT'S why every gal should have a gallon jug of grape juice in the trunk of her car at ALL TIMES. Never know when you'll need some MIL ammunition
Every troll just needs a reaction. If you don't give them the attention they crave, they wither. Pretend like you don't notice. Treat her like the 3-year old she is having a temper tantrum in the grocery store. Once they realize the behavior doesn't get the reaction they want, it stops. Once you get home, choose a punishment to fit the crime. After the honeymoon, the hubby should tell mom she isn't welcome in the new home until she apologizes - to every guest.
Event planner, life coach, and author Amanda Hudes thinks that this type of wedding shaming is childish. In her opinion, complete strangers stalking a ceremony via the Internet just to criticize it is akin to talking behind someone's back in high school.
"Shaming comes from a place of insecurity and almost never about the person who is being shamed, but rather the person shaming," Hudes told BRIDES.
Ooooo Yikes
Spotted On Facebook
The bride needs to conspire with her bridesmaids to stick a "I'm not the bride" sign on the MIL's back.
I Feel So Bad For This Bride (Groom's Family Poses For Photos Without The Bride)
Has Any Other Country Had People Wear Their Flag As A Wedding Dress? No? Just... Ew
How Dare People Be Offended When I Want A Giant Wedding In So. California Where Someone Dies From Covid Every 6 Minutes! Muh Freedumb Of Speech!
Man Proposes To Woman After Which She Grabs Her Phone To Upload A Picture On Instagram
Sounds Like It’ll Be A Healthy Marriage!
Sounds Like A Great Idea To Save A Few Cents! May Save Even More When The Twin And His New Bride Don’t Come To Your Wedding!
Look, if you write in your post "I don't want to seem rude" you have already given yourself the answer. Deep inside you know this is not the right thing to do, so don't be an a**.
There’s Still Time To Change Your Decor
i don't get themes like this. i know if i married the love of my life i would do it because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone. but these kinds of jokes imply it's more of an obligation by society. you don't even have to marry anyone!
Starting Off Marriage By Secretly Going Against Your Fiancé’s Wishes... Yikes
Is It Possible To Get Married To A Cop Without Theming Your Entire Wedding Around His Job? Extra Sensitivity Points For “Stop Resisting” Being Used In Reference To Donuts, Instead As The Usual Excuse To Kill Black People
I don't agree with the Stop Resisting wall of Donuts. You could have put a sign up that said "Police tactical supplies, require equipment!"
Engagement Photo Shaming
Wedding Shaming Myself A Bit... I Would Personally Recommend To Ask Your Pastor/Celebrant To Step To The Side When The Kiss Takes Place. All Personal Preference Ofcourse. Although Hubby’s Hair Does Smell Good
Even Outdoors, A 500-Person Wedding Feels A Bit Out Of Touch Right Now, Doesn’t It?
Groom’s Mother Hospitalized With Covid And Pneumonia 2 Weeks After Mask-Less Wedding In Florida
The photographer and I were the only two people of 60 that wore a mask at my sister’s wedding. None of events staff wore one. We were in the middle of Arizona’s 3rd wave. My BIL’s family took COVID back to their hometown which had been completely untouched by the virus up to that point. Two people died within the first 10 days the ILs return home. Oh, and BIL’s brother made national news because he was dragged off the plane after refusing to wear his mask on the return flight. Not to mention, my long-COVID (I was not contagious the day of the wedding) became active and I developed pneumonia, again.
My Free Photographer Is So Much More Important Than My Sister’s Well-Being And Happiness!
My First In The Wild Spotting! Same Person. I’ll Just Pay Everyone In Experience!
Don’t All Good Wedding Proposals Start With Being Pressured To Continue An Unwanted Pregnancy? But Seriously, This Is A Terrible Thing To Do
Another Bride Comparing Her Wedding To Protests
What people must understand, is that arguing with idiots is just pointless...
Wedding In Madrid (Spain) Last Week, A City That Most Definitely Do Not Have The Virus Under Control
Damn... That Was Pretty Sudden
Meh...It can happen. On our first date,I told my (future) wife I was going to marry her, and told her so...Looking back,that's really weird, I know. But here we are 20+ years together closer than ever.
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During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
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My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
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If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
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One of my older relatives told me a bride-zilla story that happened when I was a kid. I don't remember this even though I was a ring bearer. Bride had a effing melt down because one of the guests was wearing white. Yes, a woman other than the bride wore a white gown - she was a Catholic Nun, and this is in the days when they still were wearing bizarre habits, hers was white with a red cross down the front. My cousin got rid of her really quickly.
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
Load More Replies... My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
Load More Replies... If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
Load More Replies... One of my older relatives told me a bride-zilla story that happened when I was a kid. I don't remember this even though I was a ring bearer. Bride had a effing melt down because one of the guests was wearing white. Yes, a woman other than the bride wore a white gown - she was a Catholic Nun, and this is in the days when they still were wearing bizarre habits, hers was white with a red cross down the front. My cousin got rid of her really quickly.
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
