30 Times When People Received Hate For The Weirdest Things Ever, As Shared In This Online Community
Michael Corleone once said in The Godfather 3: "Never hate your enemies. It affects your judgment." If you change "enemies" to "people" in this quote, then you get, perhaps, perfect advice for behavior in any society. The problem is that no matter how perfect the advice is, few people really follow it.
In fact, people love to hate and express their hatred - even if this feeling is fleeting, and tomorrow they will forget what or whom they hated. Often behind this hatred is just fear. Fear of what seems too different from the usual things, of opinions that are incomprehensible, of decisions that one does not share. So hatred is incredibly often expressed for reasons that are not really worth a damn.
Recently, a thread appeared in the AskReddit community, where a topic starter asked just one question: "What is the dumbest thing you've ever received hate for?" Right now, the thread has nearly 19K upvotes and about 15.5K comments with tales ranging from funny and absurd to bitter and hurtful.
Bored Panda compiled for you a selection of the most popular comments from this thread, a real quintessence of human stupidity, proof that one can literally hurt a person just for nothing. So read these stories, scroll to the very end, share your opinions in the comments... and please try to just love, and not hate!
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Not me, but my husband. He has a fondness for BRIGHT NEON COLORS. Which is so opposite to his quiet, reserved personality that it tickles me to death.
So, he came home from work. We spent an hour of, “No, what do YOU want for dinner?” He ran and threw some non-work clothes on… NEON YELLOW-GREEN shirt and navy shorts and his NEON ORANGE sneakers and ran to get takeout. The lady in front of him in line, turned around, looked my husband up and down, and proceeded to excoriate him for his choice of clothing: How on earth could he go out in public like that? What was he thinking? That doesn’t match at all! Those colors are insulting and his wife should be ashamed of herself for letting him dress like that!
My husband, who is normally so polite, looked HER up and down and told her he could change clothes, but she’d always be an ugly b***h. I was SO proud of him! Though he may have had to convince me to not go driving to find this woman so I could punch her in the nose. 🤣
"Those colors are insulting..." um. To whom? Remember people - do not accept criticism from someone you would NOT go to for advice.
I mean, to my eyes, but I know how to look away from that (and not make rudeass comments about what other people wear, what was that lady thinking?). Like, neons hurt my eyes but people love them and that's perfectly okay. I have the ability to not have to look directly at them and mind my own business 🤣
Load More Replies...Winston Churchill to Lady Astor when she accused him of being drunk: 'My dear you are ugly, but tomorrow I shall be sober and you will still be ugly'. Probably apocryphal but makes a good story!
There's another Churchill anecdote in which a disgusted lady says: "If you were my husband I would put poison in your coffee" and he replies: "And if you were my wife I would drink it."
Load More Replies...The thing that stands out to me is acting like his wife is responsible for his clothes. Insulting to both of them
to be honest, I am a bit of a nut for matching colors. wearing a neon yellow shirt with orange shoe would annoy me too, but I would never even think of saying it out loud. I mean, mind your own business, lady!
OOOOH. A lovely and well done burn, we must refer to it as "seared."
I have questions. (1) How exactly are colors "insulting?" (2) Why would his outfits require his wife's approval?
Like the quote from Winston Churchill quote to, I think, Lady Astor or someone who had told him he was disgustingly drunk, “My dear you are ugly, but tomorrow I shall be sober. You will still be ugly”.
i love mixing black with neons. like a neon goth look is that a thing?
Load More Replies...Don't you just love unsolicited advice from the self-appointed fashion police? I think he was still very polite, considering the circumstances...
Having a very old , sick cat put to sleep instead of just letting her slowly die. She had stopped eating and wouldn't move. She just sat in the same spot dying. I took her to thr vet and we wound up euthanizing her.
Apparently I am an evil b***h for not just letting her starve herself to death.
She was 15 years old.
You did good, how could anyone think leaving the poor cat to die in pain is somehow better?
So many humans would think the same about ending their life
Load More Replies...As a responsible, loving cat owner/cat parent/person owned by the cat, you absolutely did the right thing and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I know it was mentally and emotionally painful for you to have to make that choice, but you made the responsible and loving decision to not prolong your pet's suffering and it was unbelievably cruel of someone to tell you what they did.
Many long-term animal lovers, like myself, have had to do this, and it sucks beyond most levels of suckiness. However, nobody should leave an animal to suffer. I was always under the impression that I had to be a manly man, but I bawled like a child when I was forced to put one of my kitties down.
So someone has lost their pet after 15 years of love and people in her lives are calling her names? How terrible is that. My childhood dog lived till almost 20 - he did not appear to be in pain at the end, but it was heart braking talking to my parents who struggled to accept the poor thing had gone far passed quality of life. My cat is 15, he had an accident last year - luckily he made a full recovery, but we must be strong for our furry loved ones. If they will not recover and are distressed, you cant explain it to them, so only one right choice - however hard.
Had to say goodbye to two 17-year olds, 6 months apart, this year. There’s no greater love nor a more selfless action than to willingly take on that grief rather than let them suffer. You did the right thing!
My heart goes out to you. I dread the day I have to make that decision.
Load More Replies...We had to make that extremely gut-wrenching decision earlier this year for our 18 yr feline furbaby. It was emotionally devastating for us, but it was the right thing to do...we could prolong her suffering to spare ours. (RIP: Greystoke aka The Great Grey Ghost: Fur-Ironside)
My heart goes out to you. I dread the day I have to do it for my dog.
Load More Replies...This is a very hard decision to make, which I completely understand after having gone through it personally, but end of the day, you gotta do what's best for your animal's quality of life. Not being able to move or eat sounds like a hellish existence and it's better to say goodbye to them before their pain becomes too excruciating
I have a 21 year old dog. If he has a bad day we go to the vet. Have an agreement with her that she will tell us when it is time as long as we take him for every bad day. 9 times out of 10 she doesn't even charge us.
So good you have a trustworthy vet, it makes such a difference
Load More Replies...You are 100% in the right. I have had to do this several times over and it's heartbreaking, but you are making the kindest, most loving choice for your cat. I had a vet a few years back question as to why I didn't want treat my 18yr old cat for bowel cancer. He had stopped eating, had blood in his stool and was hiding under furniture in the house. When he was initially sedated for euthanization, he purred and purred and rubbed agaist our hands. He left this world loved.
I painted my nursery with an under the sea theme and then was told the blue would make my daughter a lesbian.
I had clown decorations in my nursery as a child, but I never grew up to be a politician.
This is so stupid 🙄. Fashion is always changing, blue used to be considered a girl's color.
My bestie had a neighbor who flipped the eff out when she dressed her son in his girl-cousin's hand-me-downs. A pink t-shirt?! A lavender button-down shirt? I swear, this dumb, nosy a*****e actually thought wearing a plain shirt in a certain shade would somehow turn a toddler gay. I honestly want to know what they think happens?
Load More Replies...Can we take a poll on how many of us on bp became lesbians because of blue? I had strawberry shortcake (80's) so not sure what that did to me but I can bake though not partial to sweets.
I don’t have one particular fave colour, but there was a rainbow right above where my head would be when I sleep. Maybe that has something to do with me being lgbtq
Load More Replies...Because, yes, all gendered female newborns see a color and are (heart broken sigh and tear dropping down my face) instantaneously attracted to vagina. This comment will likely be deleted by someone stupid.
"Reading too much" my mom used to get mad at me, an elementary school kid, for going to the library and getting a big stack of books and reading through them all in a day. And I mean she was PISSED, she'd kick me out to go play and I would just sit outside in the grass for a few hours and wait to go back to reading lol
I got in trouble for bringing books into the primary school canteen because the teachers said I should be "engaging with other people, not sitting with my face stuck in a book." Ma'am, I've been engaging with people all day in the classroom? I'd like some time to myself, please? There's also the fact that no one would sit with me so who was I supposed to engage with in the canteen?
My mom encouraged me to read. I was reading before preschool. I still love reading
Same, I spent my weekends and summers reading as a child. This is so sad.
Load More Replies...When I was a kid, I would always read on public transport. If I were traveling with my grandma, she'd always make me put my book away because "...it's embarrassing and indecent to read on a train!" I still can't see how it could be those things 🤷♀️
Indecent? Grandma, what kind of books do YOU read...?
Load More Replies...I once had someone tell me “Every time I see you, you’re reading a different book. Like I was committing a crime or something.
The one time my cousins visited me in my home, one of them looked around in open disgust and sneered, "Do you REALLY read... ALL those books?!" I said a lot were for research, so I have a bunch of theoretical stuff. She made one of those "tch" sounds with her teeth and said "Well, *I* only read magazines, and I think I turned out fine!" Um... okay? She was literally offended by the books in my home, and took them as a personal affront. That's some serious insecurity.
Load More Replies...I got this, too. "Quit sticking your nose in a book...and go outside!" Little did she know that I'd just go up in my brother's treehouse and read there...
I used to get interrupted in public all the time by people telling me to "go play" when I was just reading. Most girls/women have these stories. I was once made to apologize to an adult man at a family gathering who was so deeply offended by my "snobbery" for reading during a pool party that he spent the whole time complaining about what "a b***h" and "snot" I was until my mother finally came and got me to apologize to him and "not be so unfriendly." I was ten or eleven.
My mother was the same way. So I’d just take my book with me and read it outside. Killed two birds with one stone.
Impressive that you found those hunting skills without putting down the book!
Load More Replies...I got detention once for finishing a book before the rest of the class. My superpower was reading. I did the same thing as OP. The Book Mobile was my favourite place to be.
I loved book mobile visits too! Pro: Each kid could pick out a book and all thirty books would be placed on a shelf in the classroom so that you could read all of them if you wanted to. Con: The bookmobile only came once a month. As a teacher later on I bought books and also checked out as many as possible from the school library as well as the town one. Because of the bookmobile experience as a kid a recognized the benefits of having books of all reading levels and covering a variety of interests! Lot if good readers came out of my class!
Load More Replies...I would think most parents would be happy to have a quiet, thoughtful reader for a child. Maybe she was afraid you'd end up smarter than her by the age of 8.
Growing up in a Conservative family, I can assure you this is exactly what one of the primary fears is.
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Not being able to have children. A guy took it upon himself to “introduce” me to concepts such as IVF and surrogacy. When I told him those wouldn’t work, he basically told me, “well, it’s no wonder you have no children if you won’t even consider the most basic of options.”
My eggs work perfectly fine, as far as I know. But pregnancy would literally kill me, and I’m on life-saving medications that would cause severe birth defects. But f**k me, amirite? Just a choosy beggar, a wannabe victim.
ETA before someone tells me “just adopt/get a cat” because *someone always does,* you’re not nearly as helpful as you think you are.
Mansplaining should actually mean "Having to explain it to a man." XD (To men: It's a joke, alrighty?)
Load More Replies...It is shocking how people on hearing you cant have children try and give you advice. Like you have not gone through your options.
I honestly don't know why people can't just mind their own f*****g business.
99% of problems in America could be solved by "Conservatives/Christians mind their own f*****g business," from genitals to reproductive choices.
Load More Replies...Also, IVF and surrogacy are expensive AF, as is adoption. Not everyone is going to be a parent or even wants to be, why can't people just except that?
I love my kids but next time around hubby and I are going the fun route. No kids. Next time round means next life.
Load More Replies...While I, personally, very much agree with you I would suggest to definitely never ever say that to somebody longing for a child of their own - not even as a joke. They will not find it funny.
Load More Replies...We don't have kids because it would damage my health too much and possibly kill me. I was told once by a SIL that my parenting advice couldn't be right since I didn't have children. Note to self, don't talk to her about parenting ever again.
We!!, you may not be a parent, but you were a kid, and can still see things from a kid's point of view, which a lot of parents choose to think unimportant.
Load More Replies...i tell people i can't have kids, and they say the most idiotic comments. they think they're funny, but they don't realize how much it hurts.
I don't drink alcohol, not preachy about it, I just don't like the taste or the effect.
I get this all the time. I actually have a very strong skin reaction to alcohol, I can't even have chocolates with alcohol, yet people get really upset by it. I've been called a child. Ironically, by a low-key alcoholic.
I feel you, there's a weird peer pressuring culture around drinking alcohol. My medication reacts badly to alcohol, and I can't even taste anything beyond the alcohol for the most point anyway. On top of that, I get a hangover maybe half an hour later. Pretty pointless for me.
Load More Replies...I'm a non-drinker in a country where alcohol makes about 85% of the culture... definitely not easy
I feel this OP. I am a binge alcoholic, i dont have that limit switch. Every single time i drank to excess, aka black out drunk. Every single time. The irony, I hate the taste and the hangovers where brutal. I havent drank since 08 and still get people trying to convenience to just have one. I dont care if you drink, i just dont like it and i know i have the limit issues. Its some kind of weird peer pressure that you'd think people in my age range wouldnt have (late 40s).
Oh yeah. Definitely something wrong with you if you don't like the feel of mind altering substances. I drink and I will never understand why people give non drinkers a hard time.
Me too. I don’t drink, smoke or do drugs and people are just floored by this. Like, I’m perfectly capable of enjoying myself without drugs or alcohol and I’m the one in the wrong here?
Sad when people think a glass of amber liquid is the most important thing in the world.
There are people who seem to take it as a personal insult when another refuses a drink. It's as if they perceive the refusal as slap in the face, or being called out for excessive drinking, etc. If you want a drink, have a drink. It doesn't bother me, but I don't like it. The same is true for beef, olives and mushrooms. I don't like them, but if you like them, that's fine.
This!!!!!! I hate the taste and smell! In my country (Australia), everything is celebrated with booze! Ugh - I've left dinner parties because I've been pestered to have a glass of wine, one won't hurt you - just try it you"ll like this ....erm NO and Byeeeeeeeeee!
For putting pink or pastel rainbow fleeces in with my male guinea pigs. They’re guinea pigs…they literally don’t care. They want lettuce.
I used to work at a pet store and people would get SO WEIRD about gendering leash colors and styles of dog clothes 🙄 Though I remember one lady dressed her boy dog in pink and told me it was because he was secure in himself lmfao
I have a service dog, and I hate pink personally so she has alot of purple.. mainly because I get tired of people assuming she's a he. They still do, so now I make a lot of her vests and I use fun Disney themed fabrics.
Load More Replies...You're right - they don't care. I've owned several and they're wonderful pets! Reminds me of the meme (sorry I can't figure out who started it, but it genuinely made me lol! (Might be Cliff Jerrison on Twitter?) It's easy to have the courage of a lion, they're gigantic and have claws and no natural predators Have the courage of the guinea pig, a two pound meat potato with zero offensive or defensive abilities, that will scream at an ape 100 times its size if their lettuce is too wilty
Oh, man this is brilliant, because he 100% will! He will also throw a tantrum if he isn't given his veggies fast enough in the morning. He gives zero effs about my coffee.. lol.. It's a good thing he's adorable.
Load More Replies...I'd add that to my resume, I turned a guinea pig gay. If I were the hiring manager, you'd be granted an interview simply because I want the story.
Yes. All my piggie wants or cares about or complains about is food constantly. He’s our little fat potato.
Btw, did anyone here know that before the 1950s, pink was a boys color and blue was for girls. An article in some 50s housewife home magazine switched it. It stuck and now it's some gender inducing magic
For not being gay enough. Apparently having sex with guys doesn't make you gay. You also have to mirror whatever the gay club's current fashions are, down to acting like a diva with an attitude problem to be accepted.
Gay sex with gay guys is not gay enough. Did you even go to see Gay! The Gay Musical?
Yup I've been accused of this too, because instead of dancing, knowing how to do fashion, going out to clubs etc.. im a gamer, whose idea of a fun time is to sit at home, read a book, and kill some people in fire emblem, so apparently im not "gay enough" even though your going out to the clubs to look for guys, and I'm married so I have a perm one at home with no effort 🤣🤣
there's a weird attitude about being bisexual. kind of you're not really gay or you are confused. it's like you have to pick a team. it's called loving people for who they are and not what they are. it's not a team sport.
I've actually had to file complaints about lesbians who are bi-phobic to queer women in relationships with men. The women will claim that the bi women are "performing heteronormativity" and are "taking away queer spaces." I can't believe I have to actually f*****g protest for bi people to have equal rights *to actual gay people* but here we are. Guess what, queer people? Even if someone else isn't queer like how you are queer, they're still queer, too! F**k gatekeeping.
Load More Replies...As I bi person in a straight relationship (I'm a trans guy dating a cis girl) my friends tease me for being the "token straight"
Been married to a cis guy for nearly 20 years - according to the LGBTQ society at work I can’t claim to be bisexual because of that. It’s just daft how they think.
Load More Replies...Pansexual woman.....told not to fly my pride flag because I married a man LMAO
I feel you. I'm bi but was told not to say that when I was with a woman for 3 years whitch made me a lesbian. And I apparently became hetero now that my partner is a man. Who is allowed to be bi then?
Load More Replies...Ugh... as a bi woman, I have been told I'm not really bi because I married a man. I knew I wanted to go into the ministry... I knew being openly bi would ruin all that. I went out with women. I had HUGE crushes. But I ended up falling for a man. Been in a loving relationship for over 18 yrs (married for 12). Why is that a bad thing? I don't care these days about who knows I'm bi, but things were very different just 20 yrs ago. And I love my husband. We have a great life. And he accepts that I'm bi.
For talking to a guy I met on a dating site not knowing he was in a relationship.
Dude was messaging me on a dating app, we met up and he seemed cool. We hung out once, he wasn’t my type and we parted on good terms and then his fiancé called me.
I said I was sorry, I had no idea. I stopped talking to the guy instantly but I still faced 6-8 months of harassment from this woman and her friends. I got told I wouldn’t live to see my next birthday, I got told I was fat and a s**t, they called me non stop they said that they knew where I lived, where I went to uni.. I even got threats on my blog that I had set up for uni. It was intense. I ended up getting the police involved.
From what I know she stayed with him but somehow I was in the wrong even though I had no idea she existed. He did nothing wrong, it was all me…f*****g ridiculous.
Why are people always taking it out on the other person? They usually don't know they're work someone in a relationship, and even they do, it's not nice but they didn't promise you anything. Your partner did
She just don't wanna accept the fact her fiance would cheat unless it was another woman's fault
Load More Replies...It pains me that so many women would still rather blame "the other woman" instead of blaming the person who should get the blame: the scumbag guy who cheated on her. Because if he cheated once, chances are he's going to cheat again. Ladies, he betrayed you, he betrayed your trust, dump him like the garbage he is.
Exactly! He's the one in a relationship, not the other person. And even if the other person knew, it is up to the person in a relationship to put a stop to it.
Load More Replies...Ok, so the only way I can get this to make any kind of sense in my head is that these women so insecure that it's not that their man cheats because he's a b@stard who bears at least 50% of the responsibility for cheating (100% in this case since "the other woman" was oblivious to her status), it has to be entirely the fault of the other woman for being prettier, more fun, insert-positive-quality-the-jealous-woman-knows-she-lacks, so *of course* her man strayed the second someone better comes along. This is such a blow to the woman's already fragile self-image that she has to tear down her rival with all venom to make herself feel better. Or, as @GVL puts it "people can be idiots"
Doesn't matter, she broke it off immediately when she found out he was attached. She did not deserve months and months of harassment long after it was over.
Load More Replies...He is 100% to blame for this. The only thing I can think of about the fiancé was she had it in your head you were one of those predatory "If I can take your guy, I will" types we see much too often. *Those* women deserve all of the nasty vitriol on the planet.. and still, it's his choice to fall into that trap.
You do realize that he told her that you are the one who initiated things because you have an obsession on him...
I've gotten hate just for getting into a relationship with an available guy. People are just the worst sometimes.
The exact same thing happened to me! After getting harrassed for weeks, I finally figured out that the guy was lying to his girlfriend, telling her he and I were having sex (ewww, never), just to get his kicks having women fighting over him.
I was just friends with a guy and didn't know he wanted to date me. He was in a relationship with someone, but he broke up with her. She was so nasty to me. What's her problem? Oh, he said, ehm, he lied to her that he was in a relationship with me, to get rid of her. My goodness.
Load More Replies...I don't care if the "other woman" knows our anniversary date and what we ate at brunch last week. It's still ON HIM!!!! I'm out and she can have the loser.
Being introvert. Got a looooooooooot of hate for that.
A lot of people automatically assume that introverts are snobbish or arrogant just because they are quiet. I think they take it as a personal insult when an introvert is not all that interested in engaging.
I get that quite a bit. I can be social and funny but I take a long time to warm up to a group of people and will do my utmost to avoid social situations if possible. It doesn't help that I have an accent that is perceived as "posh" in my country and some people are very judgmental about it. Ironically, I have also been told off for being too vocal because I will speak up if there's something I feel strongly about and will be critical (politely) if the situation calls for it.
Load More Replies...There's this weird idea that introverts need to be "fixed". That there's something wrong with us because we're not like extroverts. Society needs introverts just as much as extroverts.
they're still trying to fix us, as to.. nowadays :( they have.."treatments"
Load More Replies...Introverts observe, listen and think before they talk. While others just like the sound of their voice.
And it burns me up when people thinks this means I'm not strong! I am strong af, I just don't need to prove it to everyone at all times.
Load More Replies...A woman whom I'd just met sneered at me "You're very quiet." I said, "Yes, and you like making personal remarks at short acquaintance."
yup...I'm the anti social, arrogant and snobbish girl in the office. (I just don't want to be overly friendly with people from workplace...i love to keep my circle small and preferably away from office)
Ignore them oh wait, you did! Sorry, I just had to. Anyone not willing to let you be yourself isn't worth the effort.
Yep. I always end up being friends with extroverts. After a couple years, they end up dropping me because I can't keep up with their socializing requirements and they hate to be alone.
People don't realize that giving introverts hate is not going to make them want to be around people more. We enjoy socializing but it takes a lot out of us and we are more comfortable and happy with our own company.
Being black and enjoying heavy metal 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Making music about race is ridiculous. I like old blues songs, I am not old black man, I am a white guy a million miles away from the world the blues singers experienced, but does that mean I am not allowed to like it? Hell no.
Yeah! I’m a white girl and 90s hip hop/rap and grunge/rock is my favorite. Music doesn’t have a race or gender.
Load More Replies...But black means you must only like rap, hip hop, r&b.... yeah I don't get it. Why do people think this way? It's music and anyone can like anything that appeals to them.
Metalheads of all races, genders, orientations and ethnicities are welcome in my heavy metal world. Especially Black folks; there would be no metal, punk or rock without Black musicians. 🤘
Funny story. GF runs karaoke at a local bar. Have one regular (very skinny, short, older black man) routinely singing country. Usually followed by a glow in the dark white guy singing Motown or rap
Charley Pride was one of the most famous country singers of my day.
Load More Replies...Not so much metal, but Living Colour is a very good band nonetheless.
Load More Replies...I love Reggae. And I will not lie. Old white woman needs to hear Bob Marley tell me every little thing is gonna be all right.
No cry Maggie! And I was on the doorstep with my two great nieces wearing flamingo sunglasses, dancing three little birds
Load More Replies...God Forbid, Sevendust, Soul Glo (hardcore), Killswitch Engage, Creeping Death, Suffocation... need I go on?
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Being a boy and liking horse riding. It's a frickin hobby people?
Military cavalry all through history until the 20th century
Load More Replies...They're just jealous because deep down they know how badass horses are.
Pls tell that to my extremely shy and antisocial horse. He needs it Lol 😆
Load More Replies...People need to stop gender gatekeeping things and animals. It's not the 1960's ppl!
For centuries horse riding was a "manly" thing (probably because of the very real dangers, especially before the invention of helmets, and that it was probably mainly for hunting)
Not smiling. F**k off
Yep. All the time. I have resting b***h face. I’m happy on the inside.
Load More Replies..."It's takes less muscles to smile than to frown". Takes less muscles for me to extend my arm and slap you than to smile
Honestly, this. I'm a teenager and I have to deal with my mother's nonstop sh*t about how I should smile more and look happy. F*ck her, she's half the cause of my depression what with forcing me to change schools, leave all my friends behind and she knows I'm being bullied at my new school as well. edit: damn yall in the comments are nice /gen
Mom's can suck. Lotsa hugs for you🫂 ~fellow teen in a similar situation❤
Load More Replies...Omg bitchcakes killed me. I'm stealing it and using it every day. Thank you.
Load More Replies...My teeth ain't great....lotta drugs before....get hate when I do smile...😳
It's rough. Would you like a virtual hug?
Load More Replies...Thank you! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qORYO0atB6g
Load More Replies..."I'm functional, not decorative," was my pat response.
Load More Replies...I HATE my smile. One side of my face is partially paralyzed since birth, so my smile is messed up. I'm very self-conscious about it and hate taking pictures. People who tell me to smile more are the worst.
I can't imagine dealing with that level of BS. I hope you know that you're amazing, anyway
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For having lunch with my grandma on my lunch break at work. Not joking. I serve a wide area of my state and when I’m in her part of the state, which was historically underserved by the person in my position before I was, I eat lunch with her during my lunch break. The other administrators I work with in parts of the state that I serve are now complaining that the only reason that part of the state is getting more attention (ie. Equal treatment to them rather than being neglected) is because I like to have lunch with my grandmother.
So you think it's ok to eat on your lunch break? Seriously? My grandma is in heaven now. Enjoy yours.
This is lovely. I'm sure she's the envy of all her friends, and you'll have so many great memories.
one of the reasons my big burly bearded son of 43 is so precious to me is that throughout his life - even as a teen - he would get comments about how close we are and called names. including 'mama's boy'. to which he would reply - 'damn right - how sad it is that you can't admit that you love your mom openly' and, we are still close and we better be - he lives right next door. but, we handle this well. it's called boundaries. in the 9 yrs he has lived there i have been in their home maybe 7 times. they usually come over to my place to visit. oh, and btw, my dad lives on the other side. same thing with him with the exception that he will eat dinner with me many night. started out after mom passed and i wanted to make sure he was eating well. now, we just enjoy dinner and actually share recipes he finds on the food network
Your son is the good version of a mama’s boy. It’s the bad versions (men who always do what their mothers want, don’t have balls to stand up to a controlling mother, etc) that give guys like your son a bad name.
Load More Replies...Well done you. Sorry about the backbiting. Enjoy your lovely lunches. X
For making hot chocolate last year's Christmas some lady was criticizing me for being a adult making hot chocolate saying that's for children.i was having a nice romantic Christmas dinner with my fiance so I wanted to make a Dutch hot chocolate with a chocolate liqueur whipped topping. I just looked at her like she was crazy.
Edit this happened at a store I was telling my fiance what we needed to make dinner and dessert and the lady was eavesdropping. I needed the hot cocoa so we could have cookies and cocoa and watch some Christmas movies together.
What has your Christmas drink got to do with the cranky bat? She was probably just jealous.
Maybe the cranky bat was afraid she'd fall into the hot chocolate and all her cranky would melt away.
Load More Replies...I don't drink coffee, so hot chocolate is an anytime it's cold drink for me, what a witch!
Same here. Coffee smell makes me physically sick, so, hot chocolate all the way. Mint chocolate with "smarshmellows"- as the kids call them.
Load More Replies...Um correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't most of the hot cocoa marketing directed towards adults? I mean in the US I feel it is.
Yo ima make coco until I'm ded and ur invited... no Karen's or haters allowed
When and where Donut?! I'll bring all different kinds of marshmallows!
Load More Replies...Free-range Karens are behind most tacky & intrusive behavior listed here so don't let those turkeys get you down! 💗 Your romantic Christmas sounds great & hope you have a wonderful one this year, too!
Sounds lovely!! A very nice idea. Make it a tradition..... bc it's cool AND to spite that weirdo
During my early days of the internet, there was a post on a livejournal page about some woman who still breastfed her kid until he was like, 5. i commented on it saying “i didn’t even know that was possible” and boy did people come at me. calling me a troll just trying to rile people up, saying it was offensive.. like dude, i was just 15 and honestly had no idea it was possible to breastfeed a child for that long.
I'm pretty sure at 15 I wouldn't have either. I was quite surprised when I found out. It makes sense, but it seems a bit weird to me.
I have to agree. I knew someone who kept nursing her child way into toddlerhood. If the kids can say 'other side, mom' I figure that's a good indication it's time to quit the nursing. I'm just an old-fashioned fart.
Load More Replies...We're talking about this like it doesn't happen now. Every day right here on BP people get chastized, downvoted, suspended or banned for posting unpopular opinions. Sometimes they are haters or trolls, but often they are just folks who see things differently. BP is not a model of tolerance or acceptance.
This bothers me too. People being suspended for an opinion or even a question, which by definition can't be wrong, stifles conversations. In my view, BP needs to do better at differentiating trolls and people with different opinions to the majority. Otherwise this will just end up becoming another echo chamber.
Load More Replies...If your kid is over 2 and still breast feeding it's a you thing. Kid is way past needing it.
Not necessarily.. my DIL had a very difficult time weaning her youngest and had to resort to duct tape to prevent her toddler from nursing during the night.
Load More Replies...If you don't ask questions, you will never find out. I hate it when someone is made to feel stupid for asking questions. It's really the others who are stupid.
This! Every time a new person at work asks me a question at work i thank them for asking. You don't know til you ask or observe something yourself.
Load More Replies...Yeah, nursing a 5 yr old has nothing to do with the child's health but the mothers need. I nursed 2 children and remember a cousin in law nursing 2 at the same time. Newborn and 4 yr old. When the baby was fed the 4 yr old demanded it as well. Never understood why she didn't wean him him while she was pregnant for the next one.
Unfortunately they still are; so scared of being trolled when some people are just trying to ask and understand something.
Load More Replies...Anger has become a fad and an addiction. People are looking for ways to be victimized and triggered nowadays. It's a symptom of having complex monkeys living in a space age world. The peace and civility we struggled for for a million years is intolerable to the conflict oriented human mind. The more comfortable humanity gets, the harder it will look to manifest struggle. It's as ironic as it is annoying.
I saw a documentary of a woman in England who was still breastfeeding her right year old daughter.
Some folks have an issue with others asking for clarification (because we all think the same way and know the same stuff /s). Others are just complying with a religiously defined point of view. If there weren’t so many real examples that directly contradict all current religions, I’d give them a chance to convince me. Stick to your questions, I’ve yet to find a religion beyond Christianity that will damn you, no questions asked. Oh! Yeah… avoid Christianity. It’s only been a couple thousand years, they still figuring it out.
Let's look at what you are saying another way. You are knocking replies that imply religious concepts. People need to be able to also point out that there are those who automatically criticize anyone with a religious point of view. Look at everything with an open mind.
Load More Replies...It's actually possible to breastfeed until you're in your nineties and beyond! If you never stop breastfeeding after you give birth, you just keep producing milk, even past menopause. This would happen with professional wet nurses in the old days, who would nurse the babies of people who couldn't produce milk/the mother had died/etc. I only learned this a couple years ago, and I'm well into adulthood. I always assumed the breasts just stopped making milk after a few months.
Getting the side eye for holding my gfs hand in public (we're interracial).
It's just so silly. It wasn't even someone of our races being all "stop stealing our people." It was another minority!
Interracial is nonsense, we are all the same race, the human race. Skin colour or ethnicity should not come into it.
Exactly - all it means is that someone in their past lived closer to or farther from the equator. Hardy something to be judgmental about.
Load More Replies...I got this, too, and thought it was so weird! We got the "what are you trying to prove?" argument. Um. I didn't realize our relationship had to "prove" something to anyone, for starters.
Load More Replies...I witnessed on the bus an Indigenous lady got on the bus, noticed a Caucasian girl with an Indigenous guy. The Indigenous girl sat right next to the guy (they were sitting at the back on a 5 seater.) and started heavily flirting with the boyfriend, making comments like "Why are you with some white colonist?" among other comments. The guy was trying to tell her off and leave them alone. They got up. As soon as they did the Indigenous girl pushed the guy's girlfriend into one of the seats. They went to the bus driver to complain. The now-assaulter, also left the bus and walked away when she found out the bus driver called the police. This happens so often.
Skin color discrimination is just stupid. Seriously, ask any social scientist, or biologist, or geneticist, et cetera...it's total nonsensical fabrication. People aren't even different colors, they are different tones of brown/beige.
That's still a thing? I thought everyone finally got over the whole interracial thing. I mean you can't throw a rock in most places without hitting a mixed couple or person. I just don't get it. How does it affect you if someone loves who they love.
You'd be surprised at the number of people in America who don't seem to understand that others' choices don't affect them and are none of their business. No one got over anything, and now a bunch of racist and homophobes are angrier than ever.
Load More Replies...Race is only a cultural construct... Simply nonsense used to divide people
Video games back when I was a teen, so about 10-15 years ago.
My parents did not know jack s**t about it, so they chose to tried to squash it out of me instead of understanding it. Sucks when all you want to do on your free time as a teen was play with the boys.
Today I am still very much a gamer, and they kinda accepted it. Just last week my Mom asked me why I didn't pursue a career in video games because I love it so much.
I simply answered: You never supported my love for it, and since you paid for my college I never thought you would have approved.
The look of guilt and realization on my mother's face was kinda bittersweet.
Few months back, my mum looked disapprovingly at me - mid 40's- settling down some some gaming. She said she couldn't believe I had not grown out of games yet. As she sat there with her Suduko, Wordle, crosswords - and still stopping every few minutes to check out her FB and what's app.
My 71 year old teacher talks about sitting down at the PS4 to play some hunting games, that's like saying reading is only for schoolchildren
I am 69. Up until about 6 years ago I was totally addicted to World of War craft.
Load More Replies...Also: don't hate on people for the types of games they play!! Just because I prefer animal crossing, Cuphead, and Mario games over CoD or such, DOES NOT mean I'm not a gamer!! I'm allowed to nerd out over things, even thought I don't play forrtnite, I'm allowed to express the difficulties of a game without having to play something colorless and violent! The less real the better imo. I like my games to be silly and sweet. But I'm still a gamer!
Maybe they hide their games in DVD cases to avoid being shamed...
Load More Replies...43 year old gamer here!! didn't even get into gaming until my 30's! let's go adult gamers!! LET'S GO!! see y'all in someone's twitch!
My mom did a similar thing re: my music. She'd constantly mock my music and my favorite bands growing up. My then-stepfather used to punish me for listening to non-American/non-country music. Thing is, Mom loves music, and there are a ton of links between my favorites and hers. If she'd spent some time just not being a complete a*****e putting down everything I loved as "stupid," we might've actually bonded over music and had a whole mode of communication and sharing over it through decades. The last time I saw her, she made an aside re: seeing some doc with my favorite band and "I never realized that they ___ and ____!" And I said "No s**t. Imagine if you had actually talked to me about them at the time instead of just making fun of me for liking them and telling me how stupid they were?" She, too, had that look of guilty realization. But back then, it was more important to her to feel special and gain her friends'/men's approval by being a "mean girl" about what I loved. WTG, Mom!
Told my son l enjoyed most music, he wasn't sure but his chin hit the floor when he got outta bed & found me rocking out to his heavy metal in d loungeroom one night...lol
Load More Replies...When I was about 15, I remember my mom coming into my room while I was reading a book. She asked me if I was done with my homework yet. I said 'no'. She she told me to hurry up and do my homework, so that she could watch me play computer games. Hehehehe. She loved watching me play. She would get so over-excited and yell advice at me.
For being 5’9. Someone at work mentioned me being tall for a woman and I said that 5’9 isn’t super tall and they called me a liar and got pissed at me because obviously I was at least six feet tall because he was 5’11 and I’m taller than him. Buddy, I know how tall I am and it ain’t 6’.
Sounds like the man was adding an inch or two to his height, probably did it about other areas of his anatomy.
My brother is exactly 6' and gets that all the time. "You can't be 6'. I'm 6', and you're taller than me." The weird thing is that even though height is not a matter of opinion, it seems that they genuinely believe that they are 6'.
Load More Replies...To her: embrace your height. I used to work with two chauvinist p!gs who were about my height (5' 8"). The day they gave me a hard time for my height was the day I started wearing 3" heals. Every day after that, I was taller than they were.
Brava. I was tall for a girl and hated high heels, lo these many many years ago. I've shrunk in my old age but wish I'd had your guts when I was young and insecure, and tall. 😘
Load More Replies...I’m over 6 foot 2, and I wear high heels frequently. The people who feel intimidated by my height? Are not worth my notice.
i’m 5’11’’, and not in the working world yet so i appear to have that to look forward to ☹️
Be proud and own it. Get you some comfy heels and walk in confidence. If they feel small beside you, it's a them problem, not a you problem❤
Load More Replies...As a female who is 5'10, I have encountered this before too.
it depends what country you live in and what the average height is there, but it doesn't matter, embrace your height no matter what it is!
I'm 5'10" and get men all the time saying that I'm not that tall because they're 6' and I'm the same height or taller. I guess you're NOT 6' guy.
For being autistic.
Erm.. how is that your fault? Or should you have just tried harder? FFS.
When I was in prison, my autistic friend (also on prison) had to have an operation. They botched it. She got an infection. When she showed it to me, it was the size of a chicken leg. She went to sick call over and over. The nurses didn't like her because she was socially inept. They'd tell her to go away, never let her be seen. A half-year later, the infection was the size of a
I don't mind it when people make fun of me but as soon as they say one wrong thing about my Autistic brother it is over. I fights about to happen.
Okay folks, we're not allowed to be autistic anymore. Pack it up. We still have a shot at PTSD if we move to a different website. /s
WHAT!??!!?! Yo sry for wht ever they said... honestly they prob jelly that they'll never be as cool as u 😎
I'm a parent of an autistic child and he will now be a senior in high school. I get super worried and angry at the thought that students and teachers alike will not understand his condition and either bully or avoid him altogether because of it. He just wants to have friends and belong.
For telling someone that I’m allergic to a certain food. (I extremely allergic to it).
How dare you inconvenience someone with your desire to live! What a moron that person was.
Why am I such a killjoy wanting to live while they just want to enjoy a peanut?
I can't help but feel that this stems from the idiots who tell people they are allergic to things when in reality they just don't like them and don't want to explain. If you are allergic to something it can KILL you. This means no mucking around saying things like "a little bit won't hurt you".
Yeah but that doesn't mean that people should decide that everyone who says they have an allergy is lying. Some people may not die from eating a certain food but would have a bad day with their digestive system and want to avoid it.
Load More Replies...I also get this a lot. For some reason people are offended when I ask for the content of food being served. Like, hello, it would be even more uncomfortable for everyone if I died in front of you all.
I have a really severe pollen allergy (like EpiPen severe) and I get made fun of as well.
It's like that "alpha" guy who says if someone says they can't have gluten to just punch them in the face...dude, it's called celiac and that's not how you treat it. 10 out of 10 doctors would disagree with you.
My best friend is allergic, very allergic, to dairy.. not lacrosse intolerant.. allergic. She's in her 40s and still gets mansplained by total strangers about how it's in her head or she's eating wrong and things are imbalanced and that she's not REALLY allergic to milk and should be able to eat cheese and ice cream. Not like she's been dealing with this issue her entire life or anything. SMH
Back during the height of the pandemic, I had my kid on the back of my bike. It was a little on the chilly side so he wanted to wear his mask. Some f*****g moron yelled at me that it was child abuse. We were stuck at the lights so he gave me the beans for a red hot minute. Told him I’d consider his parenting advice in the same way I do all the advice I get from crazy people screaming on the street.
Ok, but was he mad at the mask or the bike? The title says bike, but like why was mask mentioned there? Please help I'm confused XD
The mask. Maybe it's a US thing; there's a segment of the population that thinks surgical masks are harmful or even deadly.
Load More Replies...Somebody snapped at me, "why are you wearing a mask outside?!" at the botanical park last spring. I just answered, "pollen". I have pretty bad allergies, but I still like the flowers. It would be great if people could just mind their own business.
Before Covid I wore a mask when visiting London. I hated sneezing out black gunk and coughing for days just because I was breathing in a city.
Load More Replies...Oh no. A mask. I don't recall anyone having an issue with the scarves we wrap around our heads in the middle of winter where it's just our eyes exposed. The layers and thick scarves didn't suffocate us. Cloth masks are far less thick and restrictive.
I hate this. Scaring the child saying it's for it's own safety. What an absolutely idiotic twat. Too many of them out there. Good response OP.
Was at a green light when a man dragged his child out into traffic while holding up his hand and yelling "are you really going to run over a child?" I told him I was not the one who dragged the child out into the middle of traffic.
I don't think many people actually change their opinions based on someone screaming angrily at them. (IRL or online.)
Oh, they do change their opinion - about the person screaming at them!
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Scoring good marks in an exam.
In one of my college classes, some fellow students loudly complained (in class with the teacher present) that my high exam scores were "ruining the grading curve for everyone else" My teacher snapped back immediately that they're just mad because it means they need to step up their game and stop phoning it in. She also said to me directly: "Don't ever play dumb just because someone else can't handle it." That is excellent advice!
At the age of 12 my teacher was presenting certificates to the class for top marks and I got quite a few. My "friends" hissed each time I got one and when I came to school the next day they had moved their desks away from mine, leaving my desk stranded alone in the middle of the classroom. All the other girls already had their cliques so the remaining 4 months of the year were pretty uncomfortable. Took quite a few years to get over that one.
You are SUPPOSED to get everything correct. That's why you study and learn the stuff. Every question you get wrong is a failure on your part. Imagine having a plumber or electrician or dentist who only got 85% of the things he/she does correct. Would you be ok with them getting a "B" on your water heater hookup, your ceiling fans install, or your root canal? If you didn't get 100%, go back and figure out why. Do Better!!!
Some people just can't do well on tests for whatever reason, but has the knowledge down 100%.
Load More Replies...Dean of women at my small town high school wanted me to drop trigonometry because there was only one class offered with a max of 30 kids and I was taking the place of a boy who needed it for college.
I feel you. I was the first in five generations to be accepted to university. Most of my family were so effing PROUD. But, one of my grandads straight up asked, “Why are you going to university? You’re going to get married, have children and stop working! Why waste that place a young man needs to get an education to support his family?” Welp, I have three degrees, no children, no husband (got rid of him!) and a career I love. Some of this is thanks to that misogynistic twerp, who never even finished school, telling me my first degree was wasted on a woman.
Load More Replies...Or for taking an exam. One group of students needed a large bell curve (just google that) and demanded I fail a test to inflate that curve. They did not pass that class.
I was in a class with the majority of the HS football team, and the coach was the teacher. He graded on a curve to insure his players were eligible. I started in that class in October, and on the first test, I got a perfect score. That blew the bell curve and a bunch of the football players had to miss the next game. So I got stuffed in a locker. I learned to take the test, then go back and deliberately change answers so I wouldn't blow the bell curve. I left the eraser marks of the right answers on the test forms, and I would tell the teacher "I got a 78".
Funny how it never occurred to the coach to do a little extra coaching (i.e. tutoring) with the team. I hope you didn't damage your GPA.
Load More Replies...It's only annoying if you keep saying you're so dumb and for sure failed when then you get an A+.
I was called a nerd too but this nurd graduated a year early while they was still stuck in school. So I'll gladly be a NERD!
I don’t like many sweets, I’m more of a carbs and lasagna person.
Try telling people you don’t like cake when it’s offered. Just f*****g try it. It’ll be a 19 minute back and forth where they refuse to believe you, and the 5 variations of “just take a bite”.
I don’t care if this is your nans famous recipe or if this is your personal favorite cake. I’m going to hate it.
Smt like that happened to me. I mentioned that I didn't care much about chocolate, and the guy just went nuts. "Seriously?? What the hell is wrong with you?? You gotta be some kind of psychopath not to like chocolate!!111" I said, "As a matter of fact, I AM a kind of psychopath, and it's not very smart to talk to us this way. That's how people vanish into thin air with nobody being able to ever find their bodies..." He stormed off.
Yeahhh. I don't like chocolate. And I'm a woman, which makes people roll their eyes like that's impossible. I hate stereotypes.
I wish I’d had your strength in my youth. Took until I was 19 to confess to an adored granny “I don’t like birthday cake”. That conversation was only out-shadowed by the one where I admitted “I’ve thrown away every bar of soap you ever gave me because soap gives me hives”…. “HOW DO YOU WASH AND KEEP CLEAN????”
I am not a sugar person. I like salt and sour. Sweet stuff grosses me out.
There are many reasons to decline something offered. If you're polite in declining, why can't the offerer be gracious and accept it? Have never figured that out.
Kind of like liver and onions. I don't care who made it, it still taste like sh it to me.
Not going to a birthday party.
I know this sounds rude of me, and I did feel bad. But, I had my reasons. Back in high school, my friend was having a birthday party. At the time my dad was really ill, he was in the hospital and I wanted to be by his side.
I told her my reason and that I wouldn’t be able to make it, but once my dad was better, I would celebrate with her in a different way. She didn’t like this, and threw a fit about it.
To this day, I still don’t understand why. But, we’re no longer in contact.
Um, no, do NOT feel bad for this. You had a LEGIT reason to not go and she had a pity party over ONE person not showing up. Maybe if it was a just a one-on-one outing together, I'd somewhat understand her disappointment, but throwing a fit when ONE person has a sick family member in the hospital? You were better off.
My grandmother passed. We were really close. A friend was having her wedding the next day. She completely understood I did not want to attend such a happy occasion while I was so sad, and drag everyone down with me.
Because she was a selfish twat. You are better off without people like that in your life.
You dodged a bullet, she sounds like a real b***h and it's good that you're no longer in contact, instead you'll get to make real friends who aren't so rude and ignorant about something like that.
Sure hope the contact was cut off immediately or very shortly thereafter.
My really good memory. Like, people don't believe it so much that they think I lie and make up things.
Mooooom! He's lying again! Seriously, though, remember not to argue with an idiot. You can't win.
Never argue with an idiot, they'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
Load More Replies...Same here. I can remember very far back in my life, including my babyhood. People will tell me they're false memories. These are not memories I just started remembering. They're memories I've held onto since babyhood. There are nightmares I've had that I still remember. Sesame Street muppets scared me.
Did you ever watch 'Jeopardy' and try to beat the contestants to the right answer? I did, and it ticked-off my parents. Then, later, it ticked-off my Wife. And various friends. My brain just pops out these random facts. Dunno how they got there....
Oof. I have a good memory, but always being accused of lying makes me second guess every human interaction. I can remember all kinds of weird facts, but the conversation I just had? I've already re worded the whole thing 6 times wondering if that's actually what I said. Thanks for supporting me mom😠
i get this. also makes me dangerous in games like trivial pursuit
I totally get this. I don't have a so-called photographic memory, but I have an excellent memory for certain things that have struck me as memorable events or facts. Folks think I'm lying or bluffing if I bring them up in conversation. If it's publicly verifiable, I always get my karma points back when I push the doubter to Google it!
I wish I did. My mom just told me the other day that a bookmark I gave her for a birthday present literally fell out of a closet while she was rummaging around. I have no memory of this bookmark gift, but she says I signed it so it must be true.
No two people will ever perceive the same event in the same way. It's literally not possible. But yeah, some pmemories are far more objective and accurate than others.
Being a working actor. There’s a whole Reddit thread about how ugly and stupid I am in r/commercialsihate…. Making fun of the way I’m dressed (I didn’t get to pick it out, that’s the wardrobe person), my hair (same, hair person), and how dumb “I” am…someone even said I looked like I was having a stroke. I was literally doing my job.
In a world full of so many cool things, why would people spend their time this way? Seems to say a lot about them - none of it good.
There was an actress in my country once who was famous for playing villainess.. the cheater, the other women.. as her got older - the evil mother in laws, cruel stepmom.. she got so much hate in real life.. not only people talk s**t about her, some people threw stone at her, threw a glass of water at her.. this is in the 50-60's i think.. i read her interview once - she said she was so proud & take those things as a compliment.. she said, "that means i acted very well & that they really belief that i was that evil person" yes, her acting was that good..
Keep going! Go win an Oscar and tell the evil redditors to go pound sand in your oscar acceptance speech!
When I decided to become a film and TV makeup artist, every single person I grew up with told me that it wasn't a real career, that I shouldn't waste my time on a stupid "hobby". With this "hobby" I was able to do what I love, travel on their dime, join a union, get full medical coverage and a pension, make people happy, buy a home, meet my husband, and I still love it 30 years later. I'm so glad I didn't let the haters discourage me.
Load More Replies...Just think of it that you did an excellent acting job as you have people convinced it was really you.... Only the great actors can pull that off.... Keep up the good work and enjoy it ;)
People who do not understand the concept of acting are not really worth arguing with. You can't fix stupid.
Crazy what people will do to make themselves feel more important than someone with an actual career in acting.
People are stupid, all they actually see is that they’re failures.
Ask yourself why you would need the approval of people like this? Rejection always hurts, but past the initial sting, put it in perspective by asking how much *real* impact it would have on your quality of life.
As a former people pleaser, making my own life choices instead of following others' pushy advice... Life choices that only concern me.
That's called taking responsibility. I rather thought it was a major goal.
For some things it's considered "taking responsibility", but for most things with people who use people pleasers it's "being selfish" and "but family"
Load More Replies...Some people get so upset if you don't mirror their life choices, or think that something else might be a better option. Go look at any childfree comment here where all of the parents just can't f*****g stop butting in and going "You're so hateful, MY kids are the light of my life!"
As a former people pleaser myself...once I took charge of my life, I'm a far happier person. Now "because I don't want to" is a perfectly good response.
No one, absolutely NO ONE, tells ME what to do. Several disowned family members and a-hole friends can attest to that fact. My life = MY CHOICE. Everyone else can use their opinions to FK themselves dry. Downvote me if you want. I don't give a FK.
Not me but my dad. So my dad used to have trouble remembering names so he would call people Boss. Some dude went up to him one day and got really mad at this nickname. When my dad asks why the dude no joke says: “Boss backwards means Sorry Son Of a B***h.” And that is the most pathetic cry for attention I’ve ever heard. This was in a bar to so maybe the dude was drunk but still that was a hilarious story.
Edit: I edited for the typo but also to say what my dad did after: he just laughed which further pissed the guy off but he really couldn’t help it. Dude wanted to fight my dad and my dad was just laughing, imagine how embarrassing that would be.
Me when I was in 4th grade! But likely no one else :)
Load More Replies...Updoot cause same and I hadn't come across that one yet.
Load More Replies...I’m terrible with people’s names; found out in my 20’s it’s another symptom of my dyscalculia.
some foreign lady (i say this because maybe it makes sense in a different country), got absolutely livid when i referred to her as "ma'am". in the USA. in Georgia. not a gender thing, either- she was in the ladies fitting room. said, "stop calling me ma'am, i'm not your ma'am!" i have no idea what else i was supposed to call her- she didn't introduce herself, and "hey lady" or "you" seems disrespectful.
I had explained to someone that nurses are mandatory reporters
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Not wanting children
It's true I don't want kids and am gay. Then you get people talking about adoption and it's like no way really, even though I'm a grown adult I've never heard of the idea before.
Load More Replies...Join the club lol, neither me, my brother nor my sister in law want kids, i'm sorry there is no way in frikking hell that i Will spent 2 or 3 years of my life listening to tantrums and whiping s**t, ppl hwo wants kids more power to you, just keep them the f**k away from me
Absolutely nothing wrong with not having kids, regardless of why. Kudos to you for being honest with yourself instead of knuckling under just to conform.
Load More Replies...Or not demanding granchildren. Neither of my daughters want children. One might, but we'll see. I'm fine with that, and they know it. I get so much hate for that. 'You had children, you should want grandchildren!'
Do you know how many of your daughters' peers are overjoyed, though?!? I swear, the brigading from our moms' friends' about giving them grandkids is just another pile of b******t in an already steaming pile. Thank you for not adding to it! Hopefully a few of your peers will think about things differently as a result.
Load More Replies...Apparently we live in an age where everyone minds everyone else's business, and if you don't conform to their ideas, you must be convinced to do what they want. This is one great big reason that this country is such a mess. No respect for others, and must convert to their narrow ways so they can justify their hatred, I guess. I cannot imagine butting in to a person's personal business. Take a long look at yourselves, you fascists! SORRY, I RAMBLED A BIT.
Technically everyone is a mandated reporter. If you don't report obvious abuse/neglect, or call for a wellness check if you suspect something wrong, then you're part of the problem.
I have kids myself because I wanted to. My best friend has none because that's what she wanted. I get mad when people bug her about it.
Yep. My in-laws don't speak to us and, while they won't admit it, we suspect it's because we didn't have children. I've been told I'd regret it someday. Well, I'm 56 and have ZERO regrets. Who will take care of me when I get old? Probably someone professional I PAY to take care of me. Quit having kids to be your caretakers. Ok, off my soapbox now. Thanks for reading.
Every year, I am more and more glad that I chose not to have kids, and am increasingly grateful for my experience with unplanned pregnancy and abortion that gave me the opportunity to face those issues early on. My life is awesome without kids. I am forever grateful that I didn't fall for my family's crazy, religious, sexist pressures that you HAVE to have kids. Instead of being another teen mom, I became the first person in my family, on both sides, to get a PhD. A MUCH better and healthier decision in my case!
(Now. Can we PLEASE have a space where those of us who chose to be childfree can discuss the reasoning and results without a pile of parents jumping in to tell us "But I had kids, so-" or "You can still ___ with kids!"? Great. Not what this topic is about.) Oh, good, judging from the downvotes, apparently that was too much to ask. Thanks for making our point!
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I made a comment on Reddit saying “Letting a dog lick your mouth is gross” and people got mad. The most memorable response was “Your pets must have never really loved you”… Because I don’t let them lick my mouth. I didn’t even think it was that hot of a take, but I guess people take swapping saliva with their pets very seriously.
I once accidentally bit a dog's tongue. I was on one knee giving her pets while looking at and explaining something to her owner She went in for the kisses the same instant I said something with an S. Completely lost my train of thought, and surprised the heck out of the doggo
Thanks for sharing. I think I'll go try to rinse the taste of vomit from my mouth.
Load More Replies...I’m fine with my cat licking my cheek or even my lips, but inside my moth? Eck
Load More Replies...I grew up on the farm and seeing the amount of dead animals they find in the woods and bring back not to mention what you didn't see them eat, I'll pass.
Once a neighbors dog licked my mouth and i am still scarred (i still love dogs tho)
My dog loves me, how does she show it? She gives my a couple links on the end of my nose👃
I am someone who will cut a b***h if they even slightly upset my pups, but I still tuck in my lips if one of my dogs even tries. They seem to (mostly) understand and lick my nose instead.
For wearing heels. I'm 5'10" but look taller. So wearing heels..
A boss once to,d me that because the rest of the department were all men under 5 foot 6 that I had to stop wearing 4 inch heels (I’m 6 foot 2) because it was ‘making them feel intimidated’. I came into work the next day in 6 inch platform heels :p
Everyone is allowed an opinion on heels (I think they're ridiculous and probably not worth the pain) but nobody has the right to tell you not to wear them.
For being too polite.
As I get older, I believe there is a time to be kind and polite - and there is a time to say "enough is enough."
Load More Replies...Too bad. United States could take a few cues from Canada. I LOVE Canadians and their manners.
Load More Replies...Well, I must admit there are times when being polite can be subtle, or not so subtle, sarcasm. Don't ask me how I know. I'm Canadian and it's a secret. 🍁
I also get this. I was called 'PC Lesley" at my old job because I wasn't rude and I didn't let anyone get away with any discriminatory language. When I told them I didn't care what someone looked like, it was kindness that mattered to me, I was ridiculed. When a colleague showed me a pic of his girlfriend and I said how beautiful she was, I was ridiculed. I got out of there as quickly as I could.
Lately, being too helpful and accommodating to others as a manager. Apparently, some of my employees don’t respect that about me, so that’s not cool
I need more context on this. There are some managers that micro manage and no one likes that. But then there are the good managers that encourage employees to think for themselves and learn.
So stop being accommodating and helpful to just the employees that don't respect you. Treat them the way they want to be treated. Ignore them, string them along then dash their hopes for vacation time, deny requests for anything and treat them like c**p. Disrespect can go both ways
So they're basically asking for a boss from hell? Like f*****g morons?
Not liking football (soccer for the US people). Where I live in the Netherlands there is/was a huge football influence. It is way less now, but everyone footballed, everyone was part of a football club and followed everything with the local club and national. Both girls and boys. I just simply didn't like it (still don't). Both grown adult people and childeren could get so petty about it. Even my teacher was petty about it. Even gave me a bloody time out in the hall way as a punishment when I wasn't participating with enthusiasm in the classroom about football and couldn't admit I liked one football team. I just needed to admit it, because it made the whole class mad and 'ruinend the mood for everyone'. Dude was weird, because he even gave a punishment when I wouldn't pray in class. I live in a country with religious freedom... My parents were not happy with the dude. Never made the punishment homework
Britisher here from the United Kingdom of UK here. I never liked football growing up, I was the "odd" one because of it at school. I got a lot of flak over it. I remember another lad who did not like football, he became a Manchester United fan to try and fit in. Man U being the most popular team at the time. He had to live a lie to try to fit in. Peer pressure is a b***h.
I've gotten hate for not liking hockey. I'm Canadian. Not every Canadian enjoys it.
I don't mind watching football matches, but like I'd never use my free time for that- but I remember it was hilarious in primary school, some girls were talking about football (the league with man united, etc), and when asked about my team I just agreed with the girl I heard talking most about it, so said that I'd be rooting for liverpool XD But luckily never pretended to watch football, just didn't talk about it
Got permabanned from r/space for explaining the surprisingly true fact that you can safely view a solar eclipse through a telescope during totality. Everyone including the mods refused to believe that I'd actually done it on an eclipse cruise along with a couple thousand amateur astronomers and the sight is unbelievably amazing. They all called me a liar because their elementary school teachers didn't know either, and they accused me of trying to blind children (why?). Eventually a mod said I *might* be right but the ban would stand because it would be a dangerous fact that could cause people to look at the sun outside of totality. Sheesh
My nephew has a telescope with a special lens just for looking at the sun ☀
Isn't there a point in the eclipse where you can look at the sun without any kind of protection?
I wouldn't exactly call the organisers of a cruise, or a bunch of amature astronomers, a reliable source. Also, just because you've done it, doesn't mean you should have. I believe you can technically look directly at the sun without causing permanent damage (the damage will often heal), but if you do it too much you can go permanently blind.
Upvoting because it's just an opinion that shouldn't be downvoted
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My extra finger on my right hand
Probably has something to do with killing Inigo Montoya's father, tbh. /j
ooh you put a /j meaning joke ( I think ) i'll have to start doing that as people take me too seriously on here :D
Load More Replies...I met a girl who had a baby with an extra thumb. She's Mongolian and said it was a genetic thing. I told my mom this and she didn't believe it was a genetic condition, and said it was likely the mom's fault for not eating right while pregnant. My mom made similar comments and lectures to me while I was pregnant, saying if anything was wrong it will be my fault. I had anxiety throughout my whole pregnancy because of her.
Cool! Like my cat, only she has thumbs and is plotting to take over the world! (Now trying to imagine having a whole extra finger, the mind boggles!)
Polydactyls will take over the world I have no doubt, i'm so jealous, extra big peets and more beanies <3
Load More Replies...I thought these were usually removed at birth, but if not, what's the big deal?
I owned up to a mistake I made in a post on Reddit yesterday, I apologised to the only person who bothered to actually explain why half the people commenting were annoyed, and got loads of downvotes and called “pathetic” etc…. From apologising!
Went to his account. He misunderstood the meaning of trypophobia and made jokes about ‘imagine being afraid of birds’. That’s what was (rightfully) downvoted. His apology had no downvotes and no one called him pathetic.
Load More Replies...Hmmm. I have NO IDEA why people would downvote things just because they don't agree with them. It's almost as if these people just feel like punishing those who have a different life's view. "How dare everyone else not agree with me because I'm perfect? Downvote to you. You should take your suspension time to think about just how right I am."
It's more annoying when you get suspended because of it on BP. I will never understand that logic.
Load More Replies...I saw one funny downvoted guy. He was hilarious. I read all his comments of the day and couldn't stop laughing. He was just joking, but most didn't get it. Then one said to him: Are you kidding me?? He said yes LOL.
Load More Replies...I shared a post from another group on Facebook that was saying happy birthday to Wendie Malick with 6 photos of her to my Frasier group. I instantly got attacked by multiple people because one of the 6 photos was actually someone else and I hadn't realised before I shared it. Personally attacked for it even though I hadn't written the article, just shared it.
I was selling British VHS tapes on eBay.co.uk They were listed on eBay in PAL video tapes. I had an American buyer leave negative feedback as it wasn't clear that his low quality NTSC only VCR would not play the tape. They left negative feedback and said my listing was misleading I added a disclaimer for all subsequent listings. I still had another American message me complaining. When I said that one of his "fellow countrymen" had encountered a similar problem he thought I was calling him a hillbilly and left hateful negative feedback too.
I knew dvds had country codes, but didn't know that there was a difference between vhs tapes in different countries.
Believing in evolution. At a college. Edit - For context, this was at a Christian college during the first week of living in the dorms, before classes started. Many of the other students there had been homeschooled or went to very conservative, private high schools where evolution may have been taught to some degree, but human evolution was treated as “just a theory” if taught at all. As such, they had a very limited and flawed understanding of the science and obviously there was a lot of familial/communal baggage that encouraged them to reject it as well. Years later, all of them (or at least the ones I still see on Facebook) have changed their tune on the matter. The school in question actually had a very good medical science department, for a school of its pedigree and size, so I suppose being exposed to a less biased version of the science made it easier for them to accept, and being away from their family/etc also removed some of that pressure or burst their bubble a bit. I still resent how they treated me for not being a “good Christian,” but ultimately it had little effect on the course of my life.
Yeah I can appreciate the Christian view that incorporates science (im not Christian). Like they say God still made it so but created the factors for it to occur and didn't create directly or wasn't so hands on and did the "let's see where this goes" approach.
Micro-evolution is proven. Animals and Humans have adapted to their environments. I personally do not agree with Macro-Evolution but I'm not going to hate you for it.
Is just me or do a lot of so called "Religious" folks totally forget the "Judge not lest ye be judged" business? Just askin...🙄
The people who only believe in the bible are going to have a hard row to hoe in real life.
Using the "christian" bible to teach history is very unfair to sheltered children who will presumably have to live in a secular world. I'm not knocking the bible, koran or torah, but they are not scientifically sound.
I once got threats for having a gaming PC. Because I’m a woman and…apparently that was taking a graphics card away from a ‘proper’ gamer (aka male). Definitely the most bizarre.
I too am a woman gamer. Hearing that almost makes me want to collect graphic cards just for fun.
Load More Replies...A guy at work helped me with a flat tire. I'm a crafter so I made him a crochet hat as thank you. He returned it with a note from his wife saying it was inappropriate. What?? I didn't crochet a thong for heavens sake!
Strangely enough it was on here for Thanking an American pilot for his service, i've never seen so much hate from other people
Made a joke once that referenced America, got jumped on by the 'Murican populace of BP for being part of the supposed Anti American hate group that exists on BP. The joke did not even insult America, it made reference to it. Got some love from the American's that understood the joke and also understand the cross cultural banter and taking the p!ss that exists between countries on BP.
On an online game I was playing, someone shamed me for not answering a question. They started spamming the chat wanting to know my name, age, address, etc., And apparently if I didn't answer, I would be a fat ugly bald black 60 year old man, that spent all of my time playing that game because I didn't have a life. The one thing they didn't know was that I was an admin...
For knowing the names of "unusual" plants and flowers. It was on a Girls scouts jamboree, I was a (quite bratty) leader's kid but took part in most activities with the scouts that were 2-3 years older than me. One of the activities included listing plants and flowers found in the neighbouring fields and woods. Most got somewhere between five and fifteen plants, we (I) got close to fifty. The reason I knew so many flowers was that I used to hang around with my grandmother and I "collected" nice sounding words like latin names
That brought back memories of o level biology. A lot of wild plants pressed and identified etc. in a binder as part of the required practical. 1961. I missed the written exam because i got ill from wandering around the countryside in a heat wave with my friend when there was nothing new in bloom to find. We were reduced to roaming a dehydrated cracked bare field in the end. And that was the best part of biology for me. 😉
Load More Replies...One time I told somebody on here that the foam on beer was natural... I got downvoted to hell and back haha
The site needs active moderators, that monitor listings and not rely on a 10 downvote instaban
Load More Replies...For not wanting or having kids. I'm 36, I was diagnosed with JRA at 3. My coworker was brave enough to ask well are your parts still work right? Dumb for not wanting kids. I clapped back said I had a hip replacement at 33, and it's none of your business. With you being a female you should know and understand that you should never ask another woman about kids because you don't know their health. She hasn't spoken to me since 😆.
I was the relief carrier (T-6) for this one guy. He HATED me AND WOULD NOT LET ME KNOW WHY! Turns out, the costumers committed to him how I delivered the mail so much earlier than him and it drove him crazy. He would call me b***h, pig ,etc. When I complained to management they told me he can hate who ever he wants. Makes for a shitty work environment.🙄
I was once called a lier and a "showoff" 🤔 for answering why I was so happy by saying I was on my period. 🤷♀️ I don't know why, but before my period I always get in a good mood and are almost silly happy. Not when I'm in pain obviously, but other days. I have never met anyone that feels like that. BUT instead when I ovulates I want to eat lots of sweets and feel sad and depressed. It's weird.
Lol I used to take antidepressant for the 2 days before getting my period and after that I was just happy again, especially the first two weeks, during and after my period.
Load More Replies...I once got threats for having a gaming PC. Because I’m a woman and…apparently that was taking a graphics card away from a ‘proper’ gamer (aka male). Definitely the most bizarre.
I too am a woman gamer. Hearing that almost makes me want to collect graphic cards just for fun.
Load More Replies...A guy at work helped me with a flat tire. I'm a crafter so I made him a crochet hat as thank you. He returned it with a note from his wife saying it was inappropriate. What?? I didn't crochet a thong for heavens sake!
Strangely enough it was on here for Thanking an American pilot for his service, i've never seen so much hate from other people
Made a joke once that referenced America, got jumped on by the 'Murican populace of BP for being part of the supposed Anti American hate group that exists on BP. The joke did not even insult America, it made reference to it. Got some love from the American's that understood the joke and also understand the cross cultural banter and taking the p!ss that exists between countries on BP.
On an online game I was playing, someone shamed me for not answering a question. They started spamming the chat wanting to know my name, age, address, etc., And apparently if I didn't answer, I would be a fat ugly bald black 60 year old man, that spent all of my time playing that game because I didn't have a life. The one thing they didn't know was that I was an admin...
For knowing the names of "unusual" plants and flowers. It was on a Girls scouts jamboree, I was a (quite bratty) leader's kid but took part in most activities with the scouts that were 2-3 years older than me. One of the activities included listing plants and flowers found in the neighbouring fields and woods. Most got somewhere between five and fifteen plants, we (I) got close to fifty. The reason I knew so many flowers was that I used to hang around with my grandmother and I "collected" nice sounding words like latin names
That brought back memories of o level biology. A lot of wild plants pressed and identified etc. in a binder as part of the required practical. 1961. I missed the written exam because i got ill from wandering around the countryside in a heat wave with my friend when there was nothing new in bloom to find. We were reduced to roaming a dehydrated cracked bare field in the end. And that was the best part of biology for me. 😉
Load More Replies...One time I told somebody on here that the foam on beer was natural... I got downvoted to hell and back haha
The site needs active moderators, that monitor listings and not rely on a 10 downvote instaban
Load More Replies...For not wanting or having kids. I'm 36, I was diagnosed with JRA at 3. My coworker was brave enough to ask well are your parts still work right? Dumb for not wanting kids. I clapped back said I had a hip replacement at 33, and it's none of your business. With you being a female you should know and understand that you should never ask another woman about kids because you don't know their health. She hasn't spoken to me since 😆.
I was the relief carrier (T-6) for this one guy. He HATED me AND WOULD NOT LET ME KNOW WHY! Turns out, the costumers committed to him how I delivered the mail so much earlier than him and it drove him crazy. He would call me b***h, pig ,etc. When I complained to management they told me he can hate who ever he wants. Makes for a shitty work environment.🙄
I was once called a lier and a "showoff" 🤔 for answering why I was so happy by saying I was on my period. 🤷♀️ I don't know why, but before my period I always get in a good mood and are almost silly happy. Not when I'm in pain obviously, but other days. I have never met anyone that feels like that. BUT instead when I ovulates I want to eat lots of sweets and feel sad and depressed. It's weird.
Lol I used to take antidepressant for the 2 days before getting my period and after that I was just happy again, especially the first two weeks, during and after my period.
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