30 Awful Beauty Standards That Probably Shouldn’t Have Existed In The First Place
Interview With ExpertHearing the words ‘beauty standards’, we can already assume that it will be something totally unnatural and not great for health both physically and mentally. As years go by, they change (at least a little bit), and most cultures have their own, but probably most of us can agree that when we hear beauty standards, we imagine that to fit in, we must be slim with pouty lips and pointy noses.
Well, one Reddit user recently started a thread asking people online to share the dumbest beauty standards that they have heard of. I think it’s safe to say that most of them are actually insane. So scroll through them and share your thoughts!
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The huge, ridiculous swollen lips--good gawd it looks silly.
Thanks. Mine look like that naturally and kids used to make fun of me for it.
Load More Replies...Some women look like they have a cats bum attached to their face. It's hoerible
As someone who has an ex friend addicted to plastic surgery and fillers - I honestly wonder what will be the fate of said sausage lips when they get to an age where they can’t have any anymore but still want it
When combined with botox on their brow and everywhere, the look like a fish stuck in mid suck
Or that classic internet oldie 🎵 duck face, duck face 🎵
Load More Replies...They remind me of suction cups. Wet them and push them onto a flat surface where they stick.
Huge [butts]. So many women look like bumble bees now.
Booty implants are the dumbest things. They look ridiculous. Like I can't even look at Nicki Minaj without laughing
I worked in a hospital when we had a young woman admitted due to an infection from butt implants. It wasn't pretty.
Load More Replies...I'm old enough to remember when the correct answer to "Does this outfit make my rear look big" was "No."
Women or men with large bottoms shouldn't be shamed but this trend is awful; it looks so unnatural.
It's so funny how it cycled all the way back to fat shaming (yes, saying that someone looks like two volkswagons parked together is indeed fat shaming) people with curvy body types. How about we just don't insult people for their bodies??? I naturally have a comically proportioned hourglass figure that nowadays everyone just calls fat and repulsive.
Hmm...they could have chosen a different picture. Maybe pick a group that doesn't usually have any a*s, and not one that most likely was born with an a*s. Same with the lips.
It’s one thing if you have a flat butt and want a little shape….but when you can balance a food tray on tour butt, then something is way too much
Bored Panda got in touch with Valerie Monroe, who writes the popular newsletter How Not to F*ck Up Your Face, and she kindly agreed to share her insights regarding this topic.
To begin with, she noted that in her opinion, beauty standards have evolved surprisingly little over time. “What we see in the West is mostly a Eurocentric beauty standard, which, for women, prizes light, clear skin, long hair, light, wide-set eyes, a small nose and chin, and a small, full mouth. Interestingly, it mimics the features of a baby,” she emphasized.
Valerie added that despite some recent changes to incorporate more ethnically varied features and darker skin tones, the previous standards still stand.
Men who say body hair is unhygienic... and don't shave their own pits.
Imagine writing, “I MADE my GF…..”anything”. People would lose their fúcking minds
Load More Replies...Professional swimmers (mostly male) shave their whole bodies. It reduces drag in the water. Others like feeling smooth all over. To each their own, whatever flips your switch. But don't impose your own beauty standards on others, and sacrifice your self-esteem for someone else's pleasure.
My daughter goes all natural with her body. She loves it more that way. But her grandpa, upon seeing her hairy legs, has made comments about her "forgetting to shave her legs". We both feel that's way out of line. So, I told her next time her grandpa says something mysogynistic and snide, do an Uno reverso back at him. "I see you forgot to shave your legs, too."
I can see the point of shaving pits bc it makes my deodorant take better. The rest of it I don't see the reason
A women here ( gasp we exist), I honestly don't shave, I just don't see the need for it, but I do wash those parts exceptionally fine :)
Women here. I dont shave in the fall winter time. Im wearing long sleves n jeans for 1. For 2. Im skinny so any extra layer from the cold is helpful to me
I shave every part of my body that has hair. Its just my pit hair grows so fast...
And want a shaved pubis telling you they are really attracted to children, not adult women.
at this phase in my life I'm discovering a dislike for pit hair on anyone.
White people want to be tanned, people with high skin pigmentation want to be pale. It's completely idiotic how we each want what the others have.
What I find idiotic is when we argue that the other is appropriating their culture.
Yeh, heaven forbid we see something from another culture and think wow, that is so cool. I mean let's just put life in amber and halt evolution right here right now cos learning and engaging and appreciating is now a big fat no no.
Load More Replies...Same with straight vs. naturally curly hair. I've heard so many with either wish they had the other.
Everyone should love the color they are. All colors are equally beautiful.
Years ago I was (half) listening to some awful morning show (with the usual insipid host) when I heard a classic comment from (and he looked bored out of his tree) Australian skin doctor. "So today we have Dr xxx from the Sydney institute of skin whatever. Tell me Dr xxx, what advice would you give to our viewers about the best way to tan?" "Don't" "Oh, and but what tan colour is best?" "Pasty white" I still remember the idiots interviewing him looking even more stupid than normal...
He's right. That gorgeous St. Tropez tan isn't worth the consequences.
Load More Replies...I'm Caucasian and I'm REALLY white. I'm also anaemic which makes it worse. Eh, I embrace the whiteness! And, while I don't actually care about this personally, my old (extensive) faded SH scars, being silvery, are much less visible than when I'm more tanned, and they can discomfit strangers.
Yeah as someone addicted to fake tan (I’m getting better and it was from work in entertainment 😂 and I’m already dark so it is silly). It shows the scars up more in merium tones but the darkest tan, which you probably wouldn’t be able to do, does lessen it, it’s probably why I went so dark an overboard on it. I hate the silvery sheen to it, you’re the first person to mention that that I’ve seen ❤️
Load More Replies...Isn't it a cultural quirk showing or aiming for similar things? Asians want to be white smooth pale skin because it denotes a certain amount of wealth, where you show that you don't have to work hard labour or outdoor jobs. While Caucasians want to show to show that they have time to go on holidays and get themselves tanned? So it's basically a wealth thing no?
The trend to get a tan was made popular by Coco Chanel here in Europe, before that white skin was popular for the same reason it is in Asia
Load More Replies...What's completely idiotic is that skin lighteners are a multi-billion dollar a year industry and the products sometimes contain mercury and arsenic.
Indeed. Even though tanning is bad for the skin, it’s still a natural process that we can cope up to a certain standard. Accidental tanning, just because you live in a sunny area, won’t cause you cancer if you use properly sunscreen. On the other hand, no natural process can bleach your skin. You have to resort to product such as hydroquinone which can cause cancer. So it’s not exactly the same to me.
Load More Replies...I don't find tanning is trying to become another race. That is rarely the case. Pale skin will tan just being out in the sun and not trying. If anything, I hate tan lines. It makes me look dirty but it has to fade out, because no matter how much I scrub the lines remain.
I sun topless on vacation about 10% of the time just because I hate the severe tan lines
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Thigh gaps. No offence to anyone who has one naturally but it's just odd to me that this was a literally beauty standard for a good half a decade when, unlike a lot of other beauty standards that can be achieved either through weight-loss/gain, cosmetic surgery or makeup, this one relied purely on genetics.
Glad this one is mentioned. Always found it a stupid beauty standard for the very reason that it completely has to do with bone structure.
Not sure about bone structure, but I do know it's possible to fake having a gap: with feet firmly planted at shoulder width, try to turn your knees inward & arch your lower back/push your booty outwards. I can easily get a gap that way, and I'm at least 30 pounds overweight. YMMV of course.
Load More Replies...I really try not to be judgeful and such, but I always pity girls who are really skinny. I see tons of girls at my school who have huge thigh gaps and are extremely skinny to the point their stomach doesn't leave a tiny bump, sometimes it even dips in. like babies please, please, please eat some food, you're not fat please
I would say women carry these ridiculous standards trend to trend. Natural beauty is easy to spot!
Load More Replies...I've often thought that 'thigh gaps', which clearly outline the location of female genitalia, were popular with men who had trouble finding said location.
Its precisely that attribute that attracts and informs on how to perfectly service your beautiful partner for a lifetime of pleasure
Load More Replies...For decades and the decades the "gappers" have been the epitome of female sexuality. NOTHING can make this red blooded mans' motor hum more than that. Beautys everywhere, if you got 'em flaunt 'em
In the 20th century, thigh gaps were considered ugly. I can't believe that attitudes can change like this.
Because the line between thight gap and been bow legged is suoer thin.
Load More Replies...I think genetic trends are ok, insecure people just need to stop following along. I wish people loved themselves more. The problem with the thigh gap trend, was the disgusting cringe behaviour it came with, with guys, I still remember comments…. Sorry grunts? Moans? Whatever sound they do that’s just gross. And sometimes the photos were a tad skanky, it could have been a classier trend. I have the gap and I hated the trend when people brought it up to me or did the weird moan sounds
Now, speaking about whether it is possible for society to move towards a more inclusive and diverse set of beauty standards, she pointed out that she believes it’s possible to move towards them, but that’s probably not going to happen, at least in the U.S. “The majority of our population no longer reflects Eurocentric standards. (In other words, the population includes fewer white people than people of color.) That time is coming, so we'll see.”
We also asked Valerie if it’s possible to ‘remove’ beauty standards at all, but she noted that it’s not going to happen. “How else will the Big Beauty companies make money? They thrive off our yearning to look a certain way: youthful, sexual, an impossible ideal. There's an enormous capital that goes into supporting our discontent!”
That having a disability means you can't be beautiful
Yeah, eww, your legs don't work! You're so ugly! Never mind your beautiful face and body, but non-functioning legs are soöoo icky. (/s)
People tend to think that immobile legs equate to s*xual dysfunction, but it entirely depends on what caused the disability and what nerves/muscles are affected. Just more lack of education :P
Load More Replies...And I can still rock those heels in a wheelchair....without hurting my feet too ! Neener needed haters!
Exactly! I've been using a chair for a little over 6 years now, and my boyfriend approves of the cute summer footwear. Cute heels are a lot better if you're not expected to walk on them! 😉
Load More Replies...Ever had a complete stranger walk up to you with the message: "You're so lucky that your partner is still with you!"? Welcome to the disability experience! ▪️▪️▪️ The worst thing: these people are fully convinced that it's an uplifting message, and that it's their duty to cheer you on... 🤢▪️▪️▪️ I get it that many people don't have experience with people with a disability, but there's a really simple guideline. Would it be inappropriate or just plain bloody weird towards someone without a disability? Then it's inappropriate or plain bloody weird towards someone WITH a disability.▪️▪️▪️ Strangers suddenly ask you about your medical conditions too. I've stopped responding to that, and say: "Medical questions are for the doctor ". Everybody else gets their privacy, and so should I.▪️▪️▪️ After all: if you want to learn something about pregnancy, you wouldn't accost the first pregnant person you saw on the street. Don't turn people with a disability into exhibit A either. I'm just there for my shopping, not to be a spokesperson or a sideshow on wheels.
I’ve never understood how anyone can look at someone else with a disability and think that those people with disabilities are somehow less human than those who don’t have disabilities are.
Freckle tattoos. Natural freckles can be gorgeous, but it is so ridiculous to see young women actually getting some tattooed on, eithet with henna or permanent ink. Yes, it is noticeable that they're fake.
For centuries women did everything they could to get rid of freckles.
I've hated my freckles for years (natural) the last few years I'm finally coming to terms with them being a part of me. I never understood tattooing freckles on. We should each find ways to be comfortable in our own skin... freckles or sans freckles and all.
Load More Replies...It can look natural. That is a bad example. They did different sizes, but all the same colour which is also too dark for her colouring.
It’s a weird trend, I’ve never heard anyone say they are into freckles but I also haven’t heard anyone say they hate freckles, aside from extremely freckled friends hating their own
Aw, there is a former coworker I had who used a freckle pen. It 100% looks like makeup, but it was cute. I'm going to have to agree on the tattoo though, sounds like a bad idea.
That you shouldn't have long hair if you are 40+ years old.
Mines goes down to just below the bra strap and I'm 57.
Load More Replies...I get this a lot. I am 46 and have been asked if I am going to go shorter now that I am middle age and when I will remove my piercings. The answer is never
65. My hair is only down to my shoulder blades but I'm seeing how far it will grow before it gets thin
Load More Replies...I know many older women with longhair. What ages it right it wrong is how they wear it. Pulled back, piled high, braided, etc. looks great. Rats nest unkempt hair? Not so much.
Whatever. Mine is to the middle of my back. I'm 49. I'm still waiting for it to turn gray so I have the whole old witchy vibe going on. I hate any rules based around age. I'll be 50 this year and my go to outfit is still jeans, band tee, and converse. That will never change. I will be 80, wearing the same thing.
I will die with my long hair, I never understood this one either, and constantly still I’m told I’ll cut it off when I’m old, wtf would I though
Finally, it’s obvious that due to the advancement of technology, social media and photoshop, more and more people feel pressure to fit these beauty standards. Valerie shared: “I've said it before and I'll say it again: Social media, filters, and photo-editing technology have had a hellish impact on our yearning to conform to unrealistic beauty standards.”
She also highlighted that what we see on social media is fiction presented as fact and even when we're aware that the images are unrealistic and impossible to replicate, their impact is still deleterious to our well-being. “Why? Because they suggest that unrealistic standards are possible, and if we don't or can't conform to them, we've failed.”
“Boys don’t make passes at girls who wear glasses”
Every man I’ve dated has LOST THEIR MIND whenever I take out my contacts and put on my glasses
Me too. My husband flirted with the idea of getting contacts (he never did). I didn't want him to.
Load More Replies...A lovely woman is a lovely woman no matter whether they wear glasses or not.
I have noticed the opposite. After I got rid of my glasses I had much more positive attention.
I know! People were like “oh your eyes are so pretty/im glad we can see your eyes now!” I think it just relates to the change of appearance. Like people are more likely to notice something looks nice if it’s the first time you’re wearing it because it’s different to how you usually look. I’m sure it would be the same way if you wore no glasses for a long time and then put them on. I’ve also found that it’s a matter of beauty standards between generations. Older generations tend to lean towards no glasses, younger generations tend to not mind glasses. This is my experience, yours may be different, I’m not an expert, this is just my opinion/educated guess
Load More Replies...They know you are getting serious when you take off your glasses. ;)
Exactly, it’s basically the ‘oh the nerdy person was hot the whole time’ theme. Yes they were, and why exactly couldn’t you see that? Because of some glasses? Some people need them, what’s wrong with that?
In my defense, I am much less squinty and can showcase my big green eyes when I wear glasses.
Im the opposite. I look better without my glasses because Im near sighted and my thick lenses make my eyes look squinty
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no SMILE LINES??? back in the day we were told we were prettier if we smiled and now its UGLY???
The only people saying smile lines are ugly are the people selling Botox and the people addicted to Botox.
And those who will go out of their way to nitpick about anyone they think is more attractive than they are. It's the voice of insecurity.
Load More Replies...Huh aren't smile lines part of the micro expression needed to show genuine laughter or happiness?
I’ll take someone with smile lines and laugh lines over some Botoxed mannequin any day.
I didn't know about this one. When she smiles and gets the crinkly eye corners I think it's amazingly cute.
Crinkly eye corners are the cutest :) I love smiley eyes
Load More Replies...You're gonna get some smile lines when you smile and it is much, much better than frown lines.
That apparently none of us should have pores at all, god forbid a blemish.
Being unattractive is somewhat liberating. I don't have to freak out over every single imperfection on my face since it's not gonna make things much worse anyway.
Same. And while I sometimes wish I were somewhat of a looker, the fact that I'm not means no catcalls, no flirting by some weirdo who just happens to fancy you...
Load More Replies...It makes me sad because I see young teens following every single beauty trend. They're buying expensive retinols and really harsh Vitamic-C serums that just aren't made for their skin. It's fine to love skincare and makeup as a teen, but teens should not feel pressured to buy expensive products that aren't even made for them just to fit in a school with their peers.
Through ages mankind learns that blemishes etc. = illness, mostly lethal. It is an instinkt to avoid people with them.
I have cystic acne, if I had a shoot and some were off the rails sore and prominent 😂 I’d glue diamontes to them and we’d either use them as ‘fake dermal s’ or edit them out if they looked silly, but I just wanted to make my acne more fun sometimes
I've numerous facial scars from my violent ex boyfriend... And if you've a problem with that? Then you can always avert your eyes!
So, guys, if you want to hear more from Valerie on this topic, check out her newsletter, How Not to F*ck Up Your Face!
And what do you think about these beauty standards? What, in your opinion, is the most ridiculous? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Foot binding
WAS. It's been outlawed, and the last company that made the shoes shut down with the proviso that they would still make bespoke shoes for older ladies with bound feet who needed them.
Load More Replies...Yes, barbaric. Well, it hasn't been done for a century (as far as I know) but yes it was. I've seen the shoes. Fit in the palm of your hand.
This was such a vile and inhumane practice forced upon women. Women would speak of the unbearable pain and how they were told by family members not to cry during the process.
Not to mention how many died from infections, when the broken bones went through the skin and it was unnoticed until too late.
Load More Replies...I saw images of lotus feet. Poor ladies had their toes rolled under rest of their feet and on x-ray their bones were bent like an accordion. It must have been incredibly painful.
It was. The bones in the arch of the foot were broken and the heel bone was broken.
Load More Replies...They had a pair of these shoes in the museum in Cheltenham. I thought I was going to be sick.
I’m glad that is no longer in practice……but sad that a few elderly ladies still have to do it.
Yes, and not because of the culture, but out of necessity. After all those years, their feet cannot be straightened any more
Load More Replies...Missionaries, Chinese reformers and various government have succeeded is ALMOST exterminating the practice, which is still perpetuated by a few backward groups. Related: British rule in India wasn';t ALL bad: it resulted in the end of suttee (sati), the pratice of widows (supposedly voluntarily) committing suicide on their late husbands' funeral pyres. havainmg
The hourglass figure. How are you meant to have a small waist/flat stomach but still be fuller of both sides of that waist unless it's genetic? For most women, this is unachievable!
I agree with this one. I think so many women who are overly concerned about their weight are often really more concerned about their SHAPE. And they try to lose weight, but that doesn't and can't solve the "problem", so they are never happy. When was the last time you saw a woman who was portrayed as attractive in a show who had even the slightest bit of stomach, or had a bit of fold when they sat down? Last time I saw that was in a 1960s beach party movie.
It’s not even just about weight. Being thin with narrow hips or a flat chest is probably even less represented or more frowned upon than just being fat / bigger with an hourglass shape.
Load More Replies...How we've demonised not having a perfectly flat belly even after having children is both stupid and infuriating
This comes from trying to look like a Victorian picture with modern clothing. And I'm not talking corsets here! Women's clothes wasn't so much relying on chinching, but used various shaping methods to give a woman the desired silhouette. Like wearing ruffles on the skirt and shoulders to make them appear wider and wearing layers that were worn lose at the bust and bottom but skin tight around the waist. Sashes and v-shaped seams added to the illusion of tiny waists, and yes, painted portraits were definitely drawn more flattering to look better. Also the beginning of photography was also the beginning of retouching. They used backgrounds and black cloth pieces to retouch the models and sometimes simply painted on the photo itself. But still people believe it was corsets and cinching that gave women this unattainable hourglass silhouette.
i'm a trans man, and unfortunately have an hourglass figure. i hate it and never wear anything that reveals it lol. my best friend tells me that once I transition, I get to have a "Sl utty little man waist" lol.
That is awesome! A sl*tty little man waist! Would the hormons help changing your figure? I'm sorry if my question is rude, i am generally being curious!
Load More Replies...I hate the way clothes fit me. I have high hips with a small waist and a large bust. When I am wearing a loose fitting top that passes just past my belt line, I look larger.
I had a similar shape!! It was so frustrating. I built a lotttt of a*s and outer thigh / hip in the gym.
Load More Replies...Oh to be young and slim. Most of what we carry extra is merely bad nutritional choices
I'm an hourglass but due to the fact I have a big bust and big hips, the plus size version is actually called The Cello. We're still hourglasses, we just have more sand in the bulbs :D
I know a young woman with that kind of perfect figure. She does bikini modeling on the side. I asked her what her secret is. Nothing. No gym & pizza & soda for her diet.
Well soo I know for some situations its a godsend that this is available.. but generally it currently fashionable and considered beautiful, to get veneers, on healthy teeth.
The process of shaving down natural healthy teeth to glue prettier teeth on, is strange.
Like I have one, my tooth broke, they cut it down and fitted it with a veneer. It was to fix a problem. But now cause that happen i know the new tooth is not as strong, they break they fall off, they are weaker. And the real tooth underneath has been compromised, its nerve is not as protected, it can’t handle temp as well, it is less strong.
To do this to every tooth.. when they look five anyway, just so they look perfect.. it’s shocking. Its also So painful to do it. And if you don’t have a real artist doing it they could mess up and make it look like you are wearing dentures! And really you are Not not!
The glaring white perfect teeth look super creepy. Especially when they're too big and people can't close their mouths over them (looking at you Miley Cyrus)
okay so I have a bad over/under? bite, whatever the one is where your lower jaw is like behind your upper jaw, and my jaw is a wee bit crooked. But it's never effected me negatively, I speak, eat and breathe just fine, and more importantly to me, I've never been self conscious about it. Yet my orthodontist is determined i get it fixed LITERALLY saying no joke: We'll fix that bite so that you can finally be happy with your smile. excuse me??
Ugh! I once went to a dermatologist for a routine cancer screening, and she told me they could take care of the mole on my face. It wasn't cancerous, she just thought it didn't look good. And insurance wouldn't cover it because it would be cosmetic. I had never even considered being self conscious about that mole!! Rude.
Load More Replies...The whole idea is preposterous to me. I can't even fathom considering this. I would rather wear dentures.
I really didn’t like my smile. Rounded chipped teeth with a bit of a gap. I got resin veneers and paid about $100 out of pocket for each of my four upper front teeth. Such a huge confidence boost. They’ve lasted 15 years so far and only had to replace 1. One of the best decisions I’ve made.
This! I hate to think what dental pain and expense they’re going to have in later life, particularly when they’ve had it done abroad eg “Turkey Teeth” and they don’t know the skills/qualifications of the person doing it.
I have a naturally really tiny tooth. My dentist always said she'd veneer it just before I turned 18 (I'm in the UK, and until 18 dental treatment is free on the NHS). I realise now that she waited that long because, at 17, I could process the fact that having the veneer replaced every few years was going to be consistently pricey. And painful. You know what? I grew to love my little peg tooth.
I have two peg teeth, one on either side of my two front teeth. I had both veneered when I was about 14, then I had both veneers replaced in my late 20s. I don't remember the process being painful, but the new veneers do feel weird for a few days. I'm 52 now and both veneers still look and function perfectly! I'm not sure why your dentist was trying to steer you away from getting the veneer. You may want to get an opinion from another dentist. You probably won't have to replace them as often as you think.
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Skin bleaching. It's dumb and it's scary. I know that in some cultures having lighter or fairer skin is deemed "attractive" and some girls and women will shun the sun as much as possible, but smearing on chemicals to bleach your skin's natural colour? Not cool, especially since a friend of mine showed me videos of the after-effects of skin lightening "treatments" that left some pretty nasty side-effects.
All skin colors are equally beautiful. There's no necessity in trying to change them.
Yet tanning is still so acceptable... I get sick of people telling me I look sick and should get a tan. I'm naturally pale, you are asking me to burn or use a chemical to change the colour of my skin. How is that right?
I burn easy even with sunblock so I avoid the sun. More than 10 minutes and I start to burn
I am the lightest skinned person in my family, so I don’t know what that’s like, but ew.
We have Nigerian women (among others) who have migrated here, and they are BEAUTIFUL!
Women need long hair to be considered feminine.
Blows my mind when women make a big deal about cutting their hair "short" and its shoulder length (which isn't short)
I've had every length between waist-length and crew cut, it's amazing when you change your hair and people you barely know go crazy about it. Or one guy said, "your husband must be sad that you wear your hair so short" (it's currently in an angled bob). Haha, old man, jokes on you, my husband thinks I'm hot no matter how I wear my hair- because I am.
You should have said, “Your wife must be sad to be married you.”
Load More Replies...Those shoulder-long bobs are insanely attractive to me. But the most attractive haircut is one that makes its wearer happy, no matter if butt-long or buzz cut :)
Its purely a control thing, because a lot of people look terrible with long hair, it gets stringy and damaged.
I used to have long curly hair and was recommended to cut it short because it was getting so damaged by sports. Fitting hair past my shoulders into a swim cap was next to impossible. Now I’m rocking a fauxhawk.
Load More Replies...I have had Very Long Hair most of my life and, off-my-shoulders-short hair sometimes. The ease of short hair depends on how much styling you choose vs. how easy it is. Long hair is just plain easy. Takes longer to dry but, otherwise, much easier.
Load More Replies...a few months ago, i cut my hair(which at the time was at my lower back) to shoulder length. it was so it would be easier for me to maintain my hair cuz i joined my schools swim team. i didn't mind at all, i actually was kinda digging the look.
Excellent! Hopefully you have a good time on the swim team and keep feeling good about yourself.
Load More Replies...My sister and (sexist) father were much more upset than I was when I chopped off my ponytail (this was back before the Navy did away with the mandatory haircut in boot camp) up to my jaw. It's ridiculous how wrapped up we as a society get in women's hair. I have a pixie cut these days, I still feel feminine but it's so much less work, product and weight.
I always feel the same way, my hair is really fine and if it gets much less more than my jaw it just pulls my whole face down.
Load More Replies...Whenever I want more than a few centimeters off my hair the hairdressers get anxious and keep asking if that's what I really want, then try to get me to change my mind and not want to cut it too short. It's so annoying.
I agree, I said Right under my ears, and she did it 2 inches under my ears and sent me home. This is total bull sh**
Load More Replies...It makes me sad how men always tell me how I was prettier with longer hair. Sigh...
They sure do love having opinions on how we look, don't they?
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There once was a post on here about how women who don't paint their toenails are ugly... Like lmao what?
Who wants to see someone's feet anyway. Feet are gross.
Load More Replies...Nail paint used to turn your nails a nasty yellowish/orange color. I stopped then and realized how stupid the standard was.
I was told that I have nice nails and that they could tell that I rarely used nail polish.
Load More Replies...I always hide my feet, so no need to paint their nails anyway. (Why? Well, for one, I don't really like bare feet, and secondly, ever since I've learned there is such a thing as a foot fetish I've become paranoid about showing them; never mind that they're not pretty anyway...)
I must admit I find unpainted nails with open toe shoes ugly, and I will never wear sandals without painted toe nails. I have fallen for the myth. It is especially sad because my nails do not cope well with nail polish, but I just cannot not do it. :(
Maybe I’m weird but unless the great are really dirty, brightly painted, or unkept, I don’t notice. (I’m not a foot fetish guy and never understood how that became a thing.) so unless you are rocking some sparkly or neon nail polish or your toenails are overgrown thick and yellow, I wouldn’t notice. I might notice cool or unique shoes though. Converse Chucks, Adidas shell toes, Vans, John Fluevog, Fergammo, Danner, Asolo, Tod’s etc.
Load More Replies...I love a good pedicure but with no toenails painting... love how cute they are just natural and clean
I don't like feet out in public anyway. I don't care what you put on them.
As a POC I used to think having blonde hair and blue eyes would make me beautiful.
I love my dark hair and brown eyes now, but I had a rough time for a moment in puberty.
Yeah, when I was a kid, everyone was obsessed with blond hair. As a brunette, I never understood the fad. All eye and hair types and colors are beautiful.
I had the opposite problem oddly enough. Blonde hair and blue eyes surrounded by everyone with jet black or dark brown hair and dark eyes, got told a lot that I should dye my hair because blonde is ugly and plain. I even got told once that I should get colored contacts because blue eyes are less "mysterious" than dark eyes 🤷🏼♀️ doesn't matter how we look, I think other people will always find a way to try and make us feel bad about it.
They can't help themselves. They're jealous morons.
Load More Replies...The discrimination people of colour experience, just because of their hair is insane. We are so Eurocentric in our definition of beauty standards. The slave trade destroyed the language of hairstyles and their importance in person’s identity. Please, let’s embrace all types of hair textures and colours, they are all beautiful.
I am blonde and have blue eyes naturally and I don’t get why everyone wants it so bad.
Agreed. As a kid, I always drew myself with black hair, because that's what I wanted.
Load More Replies...As a blue eyed/brunette person I’ve always wanted brown eyes. They’re so gorgeous
Be proud of who God made you. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way. Yay God!!!!
Fake tans
The fact that people make an effort to change the color of their skin is sad to me. And I'm tired of people telling me I need a tan because I'm too pale. This is the skin I was born with. If it displeases them, too frickin bad.
People do a lot of things with their appearance. And as long as they do it because looking a certain way makes them feel happier (and not because someone told them what they should look like) and don't try to impose their own beauty standards on others, well, whatever works for them.
Load More Replies...I'm of almost 100% European ancestry (all my ancestors - bar one in the 1600s - were from Europe) and EXTREMELY pale. But South Africans still make remarks. "You need some COLOUR! Why don't you go in the sun for a bit?" etc. BECAUSE MY FATHER DIED FROM MELANOMA, THAT'S WHY.
Right? I used to tan and stopped...then I developed severe PMLE last spring, and can't even have five minutes of sun without breaking into a crazy rash. People now make fun of me constantly for being pale. You can't win.
Load More Replies...Honestly, if it's a spray tan, it's probably a lot healthier than a so-called natural tan (or one from the tanning booth). Though I wouldn't want to breathe in excess amounts of the tanning liquid, just to be on the safe side.
where to start. Trump your disgusting feminine makeup is as much a joke as you are. Your skin is an organ treat it with the respect it deserves
Hopefully, fake tans don't have the same skin cancer risk as sun exposure.
Whatever! If I’m out in the sun too long, I just start peeling. That ain’t exactly attractive.
I don't agree. Milky white skin in a bathing suit isn't ideal, and fake tan doesn't involve sun rays.
Ink, is a life long commitment to thoghts that usually do change. Temporary tats are a great answer.
Height being any indication of beauty or desire. It makes no difference to the average person in life.
I've always been given the impression that people think short girls are cute
Load More Replies...I always thought it meant you were good at reaching the high shelves in a supermarket?
No, I think they are referring to women who only will date men 6' and taller. The average height for men is 5' 9" in the USA. Statistically, a 6’0 man will be taller than around 85% of men that he encounters. So, it's pretty easy to see that women that insist on that attribute are leaving a LOT of possible matches out.
Idc I’m over it. My ex was 5’6” and pretty much every man I’ve dated since has been 6’ or more and I think it’s way more attractive.
Load More Replies...Many people think shorter people are younger than they are. As well, my tall friends tell me they are always thought to be older than they are - both are idiotic.
I keep seeing so many memes about tall guys being automatically sexy... I never understood this. But hey, more to choose from for me and my short king fanclub, hehe
yes it makes a difference. to women. some dont even date guys the same height let alone shorter. the audacity to say that it makes no difference to the average person, lol
All of my friends are always like I’ll never date someone shorter than me but like I don’t get it like they’re all attractive
Being 6’4” I do enjoy a woman who is tall. Sometimes I’ll be a little freaked out and enthralled when she is in high heels.
My daughter is 5ft and before she finally made it there she found out that if your shorter you can be considered a miget and you get handicap parking ;-}.
Having “pearly white teeth”
As someone with naturally yellowish enamel, l understand it. But l already have sensitive teeth so l'm not risking any whitening . Looking forward to being really old and wear white dentures 😂😂
I have the same exact issues. I take care of my teeth and just have naturally yellowish enamel. I would love to have the money for whitening, but it is so outrageously price where I live.
Load More Replies...Sometimes I actually have to talk my patients OUT of whitening their teeth. A NINE YEAR OLD BOY complained to me the other day that his teeth weren't white enough, it was really disturbing. I sincerely hope I got him to see his smile in a different way.
Honestly, the girl in the photo's teeth look fine. They're nowhere near the fluorescent white of the really bad examples.
Why do people want to look like they are wearing false teeth? "You never smile, you know it wouldn't look right, coz your dentures glow in ultraviolet light."
Buccal Fat Removal
I've been asked if I've had this done and I had no idea what it was. No, I'm just letting myself age naturally. If you want to mess up your face it's your face but leave me out of it. Bring on the wrinkles and grey hair
It'll likely diminish over time. Y'all look cute with the little baby fat. 🥺
Not to mention it harms your body in myriad ways we're just now beginning to understand
Done by an artistic component pro, can improve appearance. Be cautious on who does the operation.
20-something celebrities who get this done are going to look skeletal by the time they're 35.
Since when do older women not have buccal fat? Not everyone turns into an old raisin as they age. Some of us end up looking like Stay Puft marshmallow man lol
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Rib removal to get s smaller waist
Yes, unfortunately it is but many doctors will not do it because it is dangerous and stupid. Ribs are not decorative, they are there to protect the organs.
Load More Replies...Didn’t Armie Hammer want a girlfriend to do this so he could eat her rib?
Works, however do be careful as rib removal can disrupt organ placement. Also corset training for a smaller waist may do the same.
Leblouh - involves a girl of five, seven or nine being obliged to eat excessively to achieve female roundness and corpulence, so that she can be married off as young as possible. Girls from rural families are taken for leblouh at special "fattening farms" where older women, or the children's aunts or grandmothers, will administer pounded millet, camel's milk and water in quantities that make them ill.
Reminds me of what they do to geese to get foie gras
Load More Replies...Jesus. This is what’s done to ducks to make pâté for us: they’re force-fed so they’ll have tasty fatty livers. And it’s happening to little girls? So men can f**k them? I’m nearing the point where I’m sick to death of living anymore. It’s too barbaric for too many, and I’m a sensitive little bean. I can’t read much more of this s**t anymore.
Why did they put a photo of this princess in here, she was naturally just a bigger girl and not force fed and wearing multiple layers of thick clothes to appear rounder (ottoman fashion) 😂 at least get the places and people right.
I'm guessing they use AI and AI goes by keywords if they weren't specific enough.
Load More Replies...It’s literally a pic from the Wikipedia page so chill
Load More Replies...So they permit and engage in child abuse for the sake of physical beauty?? I don’t care who embraces that in what culture; that’s disgusting and my heart breaks for those little girls! I’m going to bet the women engaged in the practice were also most likely victims themselves. 💔
I had no idea this was a thing 😧 that's disgusting. Those poor little girls
I saw a documentary on this. Their fathers, or whomever, sit in a hut next to the girl and tell her if she doesn't keep eating he will beat her.
Barbaric. Im a fat and working on decades worth of unhealthy foods ( family wasn't educated enough on nutrition)... they do this to girls because extremely morbidly obese women because this is what MEN want. Very prevalent in Mauritania and N***r. The idea that a fat woman is wealthy if she can afford to eat to excess. A d only poor hungry women are thin. Many young men are STARTING to this as a negative practice but in rural areas... the obesity rate for women is trippled. Hey I'm all about accepting who you are but this is too much.
did... did BP censor the name of a country????
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The Mayan concept of beauty was wild. Long sloping foreheads, crossed eyes, pointed teeth and hooked noses. These features were achieved artificially starting in infancy.
The hung a Crystal or rock above the cradle close to the baby's nasal bridge. So the baby would constantly stare at it cross eyed. And hopefully that change would stick.
Load More Replies...Some ancient culture also wrapped infants' heads in bandages so they became elongated, similar to the crystal skull from the Indiana Jones movie.
Tall foreheads in many cultures were a sign of intelligence. In Africa having a skull that was elongated to the back was linked to kings and queens. In some areas of China having the back of your head flat was considered beautiful. I know these last two because of my kids. Our son is black as an infant we had a few older black people stroke his head and tell us the history. Our daughter we adopted in China. Older ladies would do the same thing stroke the back of her head and smile , nod. They didn't do this to the other babies in our group. Our translator explained what was going on. Mind you her head shape may have been from not being picked up enough. I've read that native Americans used to strap babies to boards to get the same profile.
Place a ball between a baby's eyes and they will go cross eyed trying to look at it.
I believe that these strange declarations of beauty came about when some powerful person or their child had a deformity or odd feature, (including speech), and rather than suffer redicule, declared it a beauty /nobility feature, and it stayed, culturally.
Wow. Here's the low down https://www.historyonthenet.com/the-maya-concept-of-beauty
Thats why they're referred to as "primitive people" they were not performing for anyone but themselves
Getting filler in your knees so they don’t look like they have faces in them… it’s a race to the bottom when it comes to cosmetic procedures
I have never heard of someone looking at a knee and thinking it looked like a face. I'm 50! This has got to be some kind of crazy joke.
My knees look like two trapped baby faces moaning in agony
Load More Replies...What next! people are just crazy, what is wrong with just being natural.
For a while on tiktok, they were promoting products to cure "strawberry legs". It's literally just having pores on your legs. So dumb.
Isn't it a form of a rash though? Keritosis pilaris, where your pores get clogged with keratin. It feels unpleasant and looks really bad if severe.
I mean I don’t know if I’d characterize it as a rash, I have “strawberry legs” and no irritation or anything. Maybe it’s like a spectrum?
Load More Replies...Yeah....this is about ingrown hairs, not pores. Maybe take the time to understand what's going on before trying to criticize it.
It’s actually about something called keritosis pilaris. Which makes your comment kind of ironic lol
Load More Replies...That was actually a “thing” tgat started decades before TikTok. Even before Internet back in the 80’s. Remember one could buy both a peeling cream with larger “peels” and instructions to rub it for firmly for up to 10 minutes! The skin didn’t agreed it was a good idea. And there were creams that came with rollers with nabbs for “massage” in this special wonder-cream. As I recall it was seaweed and algae in it.
Ahh... It's on Thick-clot so it must be right... ***rolls eyes at peoples stupidity***
Hip dips (the obsession to not have them).
I don't even know what it is. If we shouldn't be concerned about it, let's not give it a name.
I have stupidly small hips compared to the rest of me so my my legs go in at the hips then out again - hip dips - rather than it being a smooth curve from waist to thigh. I used to care greatly.
Load More Replies...Oooh I hate this one. Hip dips are because of how our muscles connect to our bones. You will see hip dips on female body builders because of that.
Largely determined by underlying bone structure. Consequently, it is usually paired with a flat and wide rear, also caused by that same bone structure. you can keep building butt muscle, but most muscle will be towards the bottom and the top will kind of just meld with your back in a super fun flat n wide. Half my family inherited the family bubble butt, the rest of us poor sods got the hip dips with the flat n wide.
I believe you that thats your shape, and its totally fine, but where have you learned that this comes with a flat and wide butt? Hip dips are caused by how your pelvis bone interacts with your thighs. I dont find any evidence of your theory anywhere (and my hip dips and round butt are anecdotal arguments against it).
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That large-chested women shouldn't wear sweaters because it gives them "monoboob"
Also known as uni-boob. Usually caused by a bad bra, not sweaters. Bonus points if the bra caused uni-boob and also squished half of them under your armpits in the name of 'minimizing' and now you're walking around with a uni-boob and a bulldog stance.
Any wire-free, sports-type bra will give a larger chest a uniboob. Bra shopping sucks. Bras suck. Large boobs suck. Anyone who wants larger boobs should try living a week with large breast simulator, much like the fake pregnancy bellies some men get to wear to gain some empathy.
Load More Replies...Women's boobs are never good enough - too small, too large, lopsided, too pointy, too flabby, too something. It's insane!
If we all went by every beauty standard, nothing will ever be good enough. Let's all just enjoy what we have. Hakuna matata, everybody.
Load More Replies...No way to keep my megamamas apart. To separate and lift would seriously inhibit arm mobility. Hubby never mentions it. I don't tell him how to pack his jewels and he minds his own beeswax.
And if I don't wear an underwire bra, I feel like it's more difficult for me to move.
Load More Replies...Trendy, but not realistic. To me, it's a body, I don't fixate on anything, but it's impossible to single out body parts and "keep your eyes off of it/them". That's not reality. You look at everything, that's just how we are as humans/animals. Now starting, fixating etc. is something else altogether.
Load More Replies...So long as I've got a bra on and it's not on my head? Who cares? 😜
Or a comfy, non pain inducing undergarment. Life is too short for punitive underwear
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Canthal tilt
I had no idea what this is, so: “ A canthal tilt, also known as the fox-eyed look, describes the angle between your inner eye and your outer eye. A positive canthal tint is when the outer corner of the eye is five to eight degrees higher than the inside corner.”
Ugh, first they hit us with unreasonable beauty standards and then they also enter MATH? Who decides these things? Can I speak to a manager?
Load More Replies...I've seen this mostly applied to men- in the 'sigma' and 'looksmaxxing' trend where dudes will basically tell each other to off themselves if they have a negative canthal tilt :)
Load More Replies...I have that on one eye, naturally. It's not what it's hyped up to be. I appreciate eyes that are the opposite because they appear wider. I always have an issue with looking drunk, sleepy, non-chalant, indifferent or not amused at all because the upper half of my eyes are usually covered.
I am deeply saddened that gen*tal mut*lation is not mentioned here. Surely one of the most heinous crimes visited upon children.
Maybe because its not a beauty thing, its to limit sexual pleasure as an expression of misogyny.
Load More Replies...Noone, who tells you your look is not ok, should get your energy. They either make money of it or they want some kind of trophywife to raise their own selfesteem. Just love who you are and wear what you like and appreciate your body doing hard work daily to stay healthy and alive
I'm glad that *most* of these are about actual harmful/wildly unrealistic standards and not just bashing trends that just may not be for the person complaining about them.
I'm a redhead with green eyes, and skin so pale you can almost see through it. For YEARS I tried to tan. I quit trying after getting sunstroke and being hospitalized. Now, if I get comments I just say "why is it important to you that I be tan?" Or I tell them, if it upsets you so much, why are you looking at me? Schmucks.
Number one: extremely narrow, almost ridge-like noses. Coming up in second: Overly "perfect" teeth. That's a second place because no-one looks bad per se with overly perfect teeth, but when you see a TV show or movie and every last person has EXACTLY the same teeth, it's enough to make British actresses look hot just because they DON'T have overly perfect teeth (although that trend is overtaking Britain.) I remember when "Jar of Hearts" came out and I was trying to think what made Christina Perri look so appealingly real, and I realized it was (partly) that she had "bad" teeth!!! (Alas, the space aliens got her, too.)
A few years ago I started to notice mentions of how "difficult" it was to do make-up on hooded eyes, and how it was so much better not to have them. First of all, racist. Secondly, believe it or not, the only value of my eyes is not how much of my eyeshadow you can see.
I always had hooded eyes, my eyelids are invisible unless I close them. The only problem I have with that, except my mascara gets smudged very often (but that's not serious) is that my eyes, especially the left one, with aging are getting more and more covered by excess skin over them. That's not beauty issue, that's more like future vision impairment. I have eyes like Charlotte Rampling.
Load More Replies...I am deeply saddened that gen*tal mut*lation is not mentioned here. Surely one of the most heinous crimes visited upon children.
Maybe because its not a beauty thing, its to limit sexual pleasure as an expression of misogyny.
Load More Replies...Noone, who tells you your look is not ok, should get your energy. They either make money of it or they want some kind of trophywife to raise their own selfesteem. Just love who you are and wear what you like and appreciate your body doing hard work daily to stay healthy and alive
I'm glad that *most* of these are about actual harmful/wildly unrealistic standards and not just bashing trends that just may not be for the person complaining about them.
I'm a redhead with green eyes, and skin so pale you can almost see through it. For YEARS I tried to tan. I quit trying after getting sunstroke and being hospitalized. Now, if I get comments I just say "why is it important to you that I be tan?" Or I tell them, if it upsets you so much, why are you looking at me? Schmucks.
Number one: extremely narrow, almost ridge-like noses. Coming up in second: Overly "perfect" teeth. That's a second place because no-one looks bad per se with overly perfect teeth, but when you see a TV show or movie and every last person has EXACTLY the same teeth, it's enough to make British actresses look hot just because they DON'T have overly perfect teeth (although that trend is overtaking Britain.) I remember when "Jar of Hearts" came out and I was trying to think what made Christina Perri look so appealingly real, and I realized it was (partly) that she had "bad" teeth!!! (Alas, the space aliens got her, too.)
A few years ago I started to notice mentions of how "difficult" it was to do make-up on hooded eyes, and how it was so much better not to have them. First of all, racist. Secondly, believe it or not, the only value of my eyes is not how much of my eyeshadow you can see.
I always had hooded eyes, my eyelids are invisible unless I close them. The only problem I have with that, except my mascara gets smudged very often (but that's not serious) is that my eyes, especially the left one, with aging are getting more and more covered by excess skin over them. That's not beauty issue, that's more like future vision impairment. I have eyes like Charlotte Rampling.
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