Let’s face it, parenting is one of the biggest challenges that we’ll ever have to face in our lives. It’s right up there alongside fighting off an alien invasion, surviving a zombie apocalypse, rocket science, and plugging in a USB cable on the first try. So it’s no wonder that most parents are less than perfect. In fact, it’s pretty much the norm.

However, they’re nowhere near the level that some of the parents featured on the ‘Parents Are Effing Dumb’ subreddit are. There, you’ll find some of the biggest fails that will make you gasp, shout “think of the children!”, and think about taking these people’s parenting license away. Remember to buckle up and upvote the pics that made your jaw drop as you scroll down the rollercoaster that is this descent into parenting weirdness.

When it comes to parenting, both extremes—absolute perfectionism/trying to be a ‘perfect’ parent and not trying hard enough—can be harmful to the family. And while it’s very clear what bad parenting is, perfectionism is more insidious and sneaky and can actually end up being just as harmful as actual neglect or ignorance, though in a very different way. We spoke about the pitfalls of this with an expert in the field of psychology.

#1

I'm Sorry, What??

I'm Sorry, What??

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Eslamala
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4 months ago

Be a fckn parent and educate your kid, maybe?

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#2

He’s Not Wrong

He’s Not Wrong

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Just a girl with a brain
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4 months ago

Get roasted Karen!

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#3

My Family Does This To Me All The Time, And Each Time I Tell Them It Discourages Me But They Still Do It

My Family Does This To Me All The Time, And Each Time I Tell Them It Discourages Me But They Still Do It

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Konpat
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4 months ago

My parents excelled at this behaviour. Makes you feel that nothing you ever do is right or good enough

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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, explained to Bored Panda the pitfalls of perfectionist thinking and how it spreads to many areas of a person’s life, contributing to poor mental health and even depression.

Believing that you should (or even that you can) be a so-called ‘perfect’ parent is actually detrimental to your health. What’s more, the belief that you can control every single outcome can spread to other areas of your life, not just parenting.

#4

How Could She Not Know How Antlers Work?

How Could She Not Know How Antlers Work?

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Konpat
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4 months ago

This one's funny 😂

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#5

And I Know That From Home

And I Know That From Home

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Ryan Deschanel
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4 months ago

And how to use your mother's makeup to hide the bruises

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#6

Me Getting My Vaccinations After My Mother Refused For Me To Have Them

Me Getting My Vaccinations After My Mother Refused For Me To Have Them

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If I could I would live under water
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4 months ago

I love when teenagers actually start to think for themselves, and not just repeating what they parents think

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“When we set excessive and inflexible high standards for ourselves and become self-critical about not meeting those, perfectionism can become a problem for our mental health and potentially contribute to depression or suicidal thoughts,” researcher Morton said.

#7

Actually What The F**k

Actually What The F**k

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Sam Kunz
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4 months ago

Stop the planet, I want to get off. That's the worst thing I've ever read.

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#8

She Is Insane

She Is Insane

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achilles get down from there
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4 months ago

That’s just the same as smashing down a Lego set, or destroying paintings, or any other project. It’s destroying property! And hours and hours of care and passion.

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#9

Very Not Cool

Very Not Cool

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Eslamala
Community Member
4 months ago

Addiction is a disease, and it's NEVER compatible with kids in the house. Downvote all you want, but people with that kind of problems should never be the caretakers of kids. Ever.

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“Perfectionism is a very insidious problem—even if someone achieves great success in their personal or professional life, negative thinking patterns lead them to be highly self-critical, focus on perceived mistakes, or mentally discount their achievements,” Morton detailed that a perfectionist mindset dims even the biggest victories when we tend to laser-in on the various real and imagined flaws.

#10

Oh Dear Mom

Oh Dear Mom

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Sue Hazlewood
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4 months ago

Move out

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#11

Tweet Says It All

Tweet Says It All

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TmKhr
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4 months ago

It's sad when people who really want children can't have them, and then horrible people like these have kids. Not fair.

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#12

What If The Neighbors Had Dogs

What If The Neighbors Had Dogs

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Ryan Deschanel
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4 months ago

I hope the neighbors are away...

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The anxiety surrounding perfectionism is just as much about personal pride as it is about the desire to be respected and liked by others. “People who struggle with perfectionism may worry that they will be judged for their perceived failures, feel that they are inadequate for needing help, or assume they will be a burden on their family and friends,” she said, adding that this can make perfectionists especially vulnerable mentally and emotionally.

#13

Please Show Support To The Op On His Post Since His Parents Surely Won't

Please Show Support To The Op On His Post Since His Parents Surely Won't

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ZeroHargreeves057
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4 months ago

Tell someone or something! FILE FOR CHILD ABUSE!

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#14

Can’t Imagine What That Kid Has To Deal With

Can’t Imagine What That Kid Has To Deal With

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River Webb
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4 months ago

F*ck this mother

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#15

Wow Just Wow

Wow Just Wow

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Konpat
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4 months ago

I never understood what's so wrong about consensual sex

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As such, it’s very important that parents who make mistakes with their kids don’t overcorrect and land in the ‘perfectionist’ zone. Similarly, any parents who realize that they’re being inflexible with their standards and are overly critical of their and their kids’ (real or perceived) faults need to learn to hold back and allow room for (at least some) failure. After all, learning to deal with failure and drawing wisdom from our mistakes is what being human is all about. One thing's for sure, though: nobody wants to be that parent who ends up on 'Parents Are Effing Dumb.'

#16

Drip Or Drown

Drip Or Drown

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ZeroHargreeves057
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4 months ago

That is so bad! STERILIZE THESE PEOPLE!

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#17

Imagine... Uggh

Imagine... Uggh

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Little Wonder
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4 months ago

Oh god, there should be laws against this sort of "family youtube" thing. Using your kids for views and cash is revolting.

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#18

Parents Theory

Parents Theory

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Ryan Deschanel
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4 months ago

"Those Japanese cartoons are too violent. Here, watch this documentary about the genocide in Vendée on the French-German channel."

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#19

Bad Parenting

Bad Parenting

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Eslamala
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4 months ago

Some people should be sterilized.

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#20

Florida Teen Dies From Covid-19 After Mom Takes Her To Church “Covid Party”

Florida Teen Dies From Covid-19 After Mom Takes Her To Church “Covid Party”

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Konpat
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4 months ago (edited)

I hope Mum is going to jail for murdering her daughter!

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#21

Atleast One Person In The Comments Had The Sense To Tell Her To Call A Doctor! This Is Too Much

Atleast One Person In The Comments Had The Sense To Tell Her To Call A Doctor! This Is Too Much

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Fxnglhl
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4 months ago

we have witnessed a karen that's obsessed with essential oils

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#22

Taking A Picture Instead Of Saving Your Child

Taking A Picture Instead Of Saving Your Child

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Konpat
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4 months ago

Child abuse.

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#23

Mum Is Angry At Her Child For Growing

Mum Is Angry At Her Child For Growing

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Ryan Deschanel
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4 months ago

Can't you just make an effort and control yourself?

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#24

Another Great Example Of Dumb Parents

Another Great Example Of Dumb Parents

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Abhinc
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4 months ago

whaaaat ??? he clearly doesn't deserve to be called a dad anymore !!! call the cops !!!

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#25

Wtf

Wtf

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Ryan Deschanel
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4 months ago (edited)

Old people think they are gods, they always think they are always right about everything. Edit : not all of them, obviously, but it is more like a general tendency.

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#26

Big Brain Logic

Big Brain Logic

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Lauren Caswell
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4 months ago

I can see the composite in my head now from all I've seen that I couldn't stop: "how many times must I tell you *name*?! We *smack* don't *smack* hit *smack* people *wrenches kid away by the arm*

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#27

Mint Drugs

Mint Drugs

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Ryan Deschanel
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4 months ago

At least she apologized. Most parents would never do that.

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#28

Family Had Symptoms Of Covid But Sent Child To School Regardless

Family Had Symptoms Of Covid But Sent Child To School Regardless

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Eslamala
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4 months ago

Those people should be fined, and do community service by volunteering at hospitals.

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#29

My Parents Think This Is A Cute Decoration

My Parents Think This Is A Cute Decoration

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Donkey boi
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4 months ago

My MIL collects golli-dolls. I asked her mother (my wife's grandmother) about it a few years back. She told me that after the war, they were left with nothing, rationing was the only thing keeping them fed. She was out begging one day with her infant child (my MIL) and someone gave her a golli doll and she has kept it ever since. The doll, to my MIL, was the first and only gift she would receive as a child and holds huge sentimentality, if her house caught fire, she would try to save them, before her husband. She knows and understands why they are racist, but for her, they represent something else, kindness, charity, safety and childhood.

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#30

Found This On Facebook

Found This On Facebook

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Sue Hazlewood
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4 months ago

Disgusting parent

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#31

Woke Up And Saw My Door Removed By My Parents. I Asked Them "Why?" And They Replied With "Privacy Isn't Necessary"

Woke Up And Saw My Door Removed By My Parents. I Asked Them "Why?" And They Replied With "Privacy Isn't Necessary"

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Little Wonder
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4 months ago

My parents didn't take my door, but they had the same attitude to privacy. They still do.

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#32

Tell Me Why

Tell Me Why

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achilles get down from there
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4 months ago

“Oh”

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#33

Sorry If Repost

Sorry If Repost

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Konpat
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4 months ago

Poor son. I hope he can move out of there soon!

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#34

Let Me Just Punish My Kid For Being Depressed Instead Of Trying To Deal With It

Let Me Just Punish My Kid For Being Depressed Instead Of Trying To Deal With It

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Eslamala
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4 months ago

Be a fckn parent, maybe?

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#35

It's A Repost

It's A Repost

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Ryan Deschanel
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4 months ago

That's one more proof the judge was right.

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#36

Everyone Is Fine Today And No Bad Habits Were Formed

Everyone Is Fine Today And No Bad Habits Were Formed

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Konpat
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4 months ago

You may as well inject your child poison

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#37

Well, He Tried

Well, He Tried

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Chillace
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4 months ago

not really a bad parent, more like a bad explianer

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#38

My Dad Needs To Stay Off The Internet

My Dad Needs To Stay Off The Internet

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Vorknkx
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4 months ago

Has to be QAnon. The greatest mass delusion of our time.

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#39

We Know Everything About You

We Know Everything About You

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Sasy
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4 months ago

A Mothers love and pride can be a wonderful thing.

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#40

That Kid Is Like 1

That Kid Is Like 1

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Andrew Gibb
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4 months ago

Cement burns and irritates skin- the kid needs to be washed off immediately. Whoever took the photo and/or stood watching this is a nunt

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#41

I Did It

I Did It

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Sasy
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4 months ago

Times were different. Usually the owner of store knew parents smoked etc.

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#42

Modern Names From Modern Parents... Parent Stupidity

Modern Names From Modern Parents... Parent Stupidity

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Some Cool Guy
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4 months ago

Holy shiet

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#43

7yo Gets Bullied At School For Sitting In A Car Seat, So Mom Waits Until He's Asleep, Takes A Photo Of Him, And Posts It On The Official Parents Magazine Instagram Page (855k Followers)

7yo Gets Bullied At School For Sitting In A Car Seat, So Mom Waits Until He's Asleep, Takes A Photo Of Him, And Posts It On The Official Parents Magazine Instagram Page (855k Followers)

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Ryan Deschanel
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4 months ago

I think this person is actually evil. Maybe she will learn her lesson when she is not invited to his wedding, never meets her grandchildren, and is cremated in the cheapest casket and thrown away in the nearest lake with just a small prayer and two flowers.

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#44

We’re In A Crowded Terminal And This Toddler Wouldn’t Stop Crying And Screaming, So Her Mom Gave Her A Whistle To Play With

We’re In A Crowded Terminal And This Toddler Wouldn’t Stop Crying And Screaming, So Her Mom Gave Her A Whistle To Play With

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TmKhr
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4 months ago

I bet the others enjoy it as much as she does *facepalm*

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#45

Yes, The Problem Is Definitely Not That You Gave A Phone To A 2 Year Old!

Yes, The Problem Is Definitely Not That You Gave A Phone To A 2 Year Old!

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Bumble
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4 months ago

You took away your 2 year old's IPhone? That is beyond cruel! How will he text his friends?

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#46

Ou Mama!

Ou Mama!

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Konpat
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4 months ago

Priorities

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#47

Sad We Have To Create Something So We Don’t Forget Children

Sad We Have To Create Something So We Don’t Forget Children

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Katherine Boag
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4 months ago

If you 'never understand' why people make mistakes, you're another reason why people think they could never make a mistake, don't use any kind of failsafe, make a mistake, and have dire consequences.

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#48

My Son Likes To Do Something He Likes And He Deserves It, But Doesn't Need It. What Should I Do?

My Son Likes To Do Something He Likes And He Deserves It, But Doesn't Need It. What Should I Do?

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Blakkur Sverrir
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4 months ago (edited)

You could teach him the valuable lesson that, no matter how hard he works and how good he follows rules, people with power (you in that case) will never let him see a reward for it, let alone have some time to relax and recharge. That will teach him a lot about life. Or push him to burnout/suicide and stuff.

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#49

Nice Name

Nice Name

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F. H.
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4 months ago

I don't think I would be able to hold myself back and not call my child Cash if my last name was money. I would have to rely on my wife as the voice of reason.

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#50

This Mom Be Like "I Wonder Why My Kids Don't Confide In Me For Anything?"

This Mom Be Like "I Wonder Why My Kids Don't Confide In Me For Anything?"

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Šimon Špaček
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4 months ago

Hey, can I get one with "office suggestion box"?

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