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30 Of The Most Entertaining ‘Screw It, I’m Done Helping Others’ Stories Told In This Viral Reddit Post
It’s nice to see humans being bros and helping each other out, whether it’d be with minor things like helping someone move homes or something a bit more serious like long-term financial help to keep things afloat. Regardless, it’s a virtue that many of us adhere to because it’s the right thing to do and the world needs more positivity.
However, sometimes being nice turns against us because someone decides to take advantage of our benevolence. You know, like when a person who we’re helping tries to dupe or swindle us to maximize their own personal gain, which ends up being the straw that broke the camel’s back: we lose faith in humanity, and end up never helping anybody at all!
This is the situation that Reddit user u/mofoxx has recently set up for people to consider in his now-viral r/AskReddit post that asks the question “What was your 'F*** it, done helping others' moment?” Over 12,000 people responded to it, sharing stories of how they decided that they were done being Mr. Nice Guy or Gal.
Bored Panda has collected some of the best stories and turned them into a neat list that you can find below. Go check them out and vote and comment on the ones you liked the most. And while you’re down there, why not also share some of your stories, if you have any!
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#1
One day I found a puppy, dirty, hungry, and just scared and lost. I gave him a good meal, and some love, and went to drop him off at the address on his collar. The dude thanked me, then proceeded to beat the crap out of the dog (telling me to mind my own business when I tried to get him to stop), carried him by his collar to a 5 ft short chain in a muddy patch with a crappy broken 3-wall "doghouse" where im guessing the dog spent 100% of it's time. I called the cops, but they did nothing (the dog technically had shelter, which qualifies bc 3 walls and a roof, even if it was filled with holes and it gets 20° at night here.) ps. I stole the dog 3 weeks later.
MrLoufoque 5 years ago
Here's the follow-up from the OP on Reddit, and it's heart-warming: "This got popular! Thanks so much for silver! So update on the dog: This was years ago, but I took him home and taught him to live inside! He had a big learning curve, because he was scared and overwhelmed by every new thing. He learned to use stairs, and go through doorways, and got REALLY excited for car rides quickly (because that usually means we go to hiking trails/parks.) He learned about toys too! the squeaky ones were super scary lol. Potty training was the hardest, because he was so use to going where he ate and slept. That took only a couple weeks though. After getting acclimated to indoor life, he was adopted 3 months later by a vet-referenced family with two older kids."
real._.izuku 4 years ago
And some might be filed for theft but that's all right!
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#2
I was working at a fast food place when I was a student. I usually did overtime to help everyone clean up and close the restaurant until about 1am because we were so understaffed. I guess people got used to me staying late because one night when I was supposed to finish at 11, I overheard some of my colleagues (the stereotypical mean girls) say how bad the clients had cluttered everything tonight and how it was going to be a mess to clean up. Then they say 'but hey, [me] is gonna stay late tonight again, let's leave it to her, she always does the cleaning anyways', followed by laughing and some b****** about me. That night I clocked out at 11 after doing all of my tasks at the counter and left. The girls stared at me in shock and when I was outside I saw one of them standing in the middle of the restaurant with her hand on her forehead, looking at the mess she would have to clean before going home. Weirdly, after that day, they started cleaning earlier without waiting for me to do everything!
weatherwitch 5 years ago
Good for you, they needed that lesson and it also helped you down the line too 👍
Roxy Eastland 5 years ago
I don't think is so much about not helping people as learning to set boundaries at work. Repeatedly doing something that isn't your job, thus saving someone from having to do what they are paid to do, is not setting sensible and reasonable boundaries. Staying late once to help out in an unusual situation is helping someone.
Marsha Brown 5 years ago
Not so weird that they started cleaning earlier. If they didn't, *they'd* have to stay late and clean.
Janis Wise 5 years ago
Bravo. Don’t put up with bully’s in any situation. They need to learn a lesson.
#3
I was 17 and still in school. The corridors were empty as my teacher sent me out to go do her a job. So I was just walking down the corridor when this girl carrying a bunch of books bumped into me and she dropped the books (like you see in a movie) so I apologise because I wasn’t really paying attention and I bend down and get the books for her and hand them to her expecting at least a small thanks. But no. Instead this chick had to say “I have a boyfriend so never ever purposely bump into me just so I can talk to you. You should’ve walked away.” As she begins to turn away I grab her shoulder which makes her turn around and I knock the books out of her hand and say “now that was on purpose” and I walked away whilst she was stood there speechless. Some of you may think that was messed up but I don’t really regret a single bit of it as she got was she deserved.
Christian Bradshaw 5 years ago
Same here. She sounds like a... not ok person
Load More Replies... weatherwitch 5 years ago
Sounds like she's been watching too many movies and has a very high opinion of herself!!
Banjo Peppers 5 years ago
Or the guy who told the story has seen too many movies and made the whole thing up.
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IlovemydogShilo 5 years ago
When she said "I have a boyfriend You should have said "and he has my deepest sympathy."
CrunChewy McSandybutt 5 years ago
I don't believe this one. 1) dialogue was not at all realistic, 2) if you grab a girl's shoulder after an exchange like that, her immediate reaction will be to pull away and take a defensive stance.
Fake Haak 5 years ago
My thoughts exactly. This sounds like some “nice guy” fantasy.
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cybermerlin2000 5 years ago
F**k her! I had the "I have a boyfriend" line thrown at me and I just smiled and said "And I have a fiancée! I win!" after that I kept making out that she was trying it on with me and wouldn't take no for an answer as she kept following me around in an attempt to 'Get the last word in'
Mr. Whatshisface 5 years ago
(exists in the general location of a girl) Girl: i hAvE a BoYfRiEnD
#4
My mother and her new husband had moved into a new place and invited all the "kids" over for Christmas. In previous years we would buy a whole turkey dinner from somewhere so no one (me) had to cook, so imagine my surprise when my husband and I walk in, my mother walks out of the kitchen, hands me a spoon and says, "Good, you're finally here", and goes to sit down in the living room. After a quick and awkward conversation, it was determined that my job was to make sure everything currently in progress (or not even started) got to the table on time, while everyone else socialized. Basically, I was the help and should have realized that, so any feelings I had about that were my fault. I was a good cook, and my mother taught me everything (not) so I owed her. So I did, and not knowing the family dynamics, my new step siblings were very thankful and appreciative of all my efforts, which caused a meltdown from my mother about how we all should be thanking HER. That was the first time I used a phrase that has come in handy for these situations, "I'm so sorry, it will never happen again." And it never did. They weren't happy when they finally realized what that meant.
Teresa Taylor 5 years ago
I would have said, “Hell no” and left. Asking in advance for help in making the dinner is one thing. Assuming and expecting you to perform those hostess duties is calculating and controlling. As an adult, with a spouse of your own, you should have walked out the door and not looked back.
StealTheFruit 5 years ago
The writer was told to make Thanksgiving dinner, even though the family usually would order it from somewhere. The mother made the writer feel as though they couldn't voice any misgivings about it, and so they made the dinner while everyone else had fun. When dinner was served, the mother tried to take credit, even though she didn't do any work. The writer then said "I'm sorry, it won't happen again." The mother thought that meant "Sorry, I won't take credit again," but it actually meant "I won't make dinner again."
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Petrified Pigeon 5 years ago
Same thing happened to my poor mum when we went to visit the elderly relatives.
Purbasha Banai 5 years ago
I don't understand. So the mom threw all the work to her own biological daughter, when she arrived, and went ahead to "socialize" with her new family. When the daughter does all the hardwork (with heavy heart), the mother expects all the appreciation for herself, because .....why????
#5
Had a friend years ago who was a bit self centered & prone to stretching the truth, but he was a nice enough guy with a rough backstory and my friend group liked him, so I cut him a lot of slack. I like to host and I have friends staying over pretty regularly -- back then, I usually had one or two people spending the night on any given day. Anyhow, over the span of a couple of years this guy starts abusing that -- staying over for days or even weeks at a time, eating my food and drinking my liquor without contributing, that sort of thing ... While constantly talking about his grand plans and day dreams as if they'd already happened. A little sad, but also pretty annoying after a while. Anyhow, I sit him down one day and let him know he's gotta head home, and that he's free to come over and hang out but I'm not comfortable with him staying over for the time being. He leaves, I think it went remarkably well and head out to work...and it turns out that he broke in while I was away at work and stole a bunch of my sister's things because "his birthday was coming up and neither of us even thought to get him a gift." It takes a special person to rationalize how burglarizing someone is really their fault. Anyway, all slack and sympathy went out the window immediately ... Called the cops and he's dead to me.
Laura Thomas 5 years ago
Maybe, someday, he will realize your friendship. At least you exposed him to kindness even if it did not take right away. You did the right thing by trying.
#6
I used to frequently stay late at work for clients who showed up to the veterinary clinic last-minute with a non-emergency problem and no appointment. Then three times in a row, three different people were told up front about the after hours fee, agreed to pay it instead of scheduling an appointment for the next day, and all of them called back the next day fussing that they shouldn’t have been charged extra for keeping us 30-60 minutes past our scheduled hours and that we were terrible and trying to scam them by charging for our time (even though we told them up front and they had another option). It was exhausting and demoralizing- we did more than we had to for them after already working a full day because a desire to help is why we’re all here in the first place, and they responded by saying our time was worth nothing and we suck. The entire staff said “f*** that.” Now - unless it’s a literal life and death situation - if we can’t fit someone in before closing and they didn’t have an appointment it’s a firm no. I’m in this profession to help others and I still work late for real emergencies when they happen or if an appointment runs longer than expected, but I’m done sacrificing my personal time for entitled people who don’t actually need it.
Shannon Matthews 5 years ago
Always takes someone doing something horrible to ruin it for everyone else.
CrunChewy McSandybutt 5 years ago
I have never had a vet that would take walk-ins for non-emergencies. I don't know why anyone would assume vets did that.
#7
When a "good" friend of mine that I worked under had cancer and wasn't able to pay some bills I loaned her $200 just to help. I was only 18 at the time and felt bad because she had kids, it was right around the holidays and was I just wanted to help however I could and be a good person in life. She promised to pay me back when she could. Turns out she lied about having cancer, was stealing from the company I worked at, scammed my other co workers, and would come in after calling out of work for her chemo to make fraudulent returns while I was overseeing the store by myself because of her calling out. Got that b**** fired and got promoted to her position after
El Dee 5 years ago
Things I have learned - don't lend money to friends, people will lie about ANYTHING and don't expect your boss to be your friend..
Dynein 5 years ago
Lending money to friends and family is actually perfectly fine - if you follow a few rules: 1) never lend more money than you can afford to lose (even with honest and reliable people, freak incidents can happen), 2) scale the sum by how much you are ACTUALLY involved in each other's life (i.e. only lend large amounts of money to friends with cancer if you are among the people who'd drive them to hospital and help out with the household chores, or at least are involved enough in their friend group that you know the people who'd be doing this), 3) scale the sum by the track record they have with returning things and money; if there's no track record, start small.
Load More Replies... Marsha Brown 5 years ago
Anyone who would play on people's sympathies by lying about having cancer doesn't deserve sympathy -- much less help or money -- from anyone else.
aestheticaly_angelic 5 years ago
cancer is nothing to joke about. this is horrible. props for being a good person but like....really gurl?
#8
I had a 7' couch I didn't want to move, so I put it out on the front lawn with a sign that said "FREE." A guy came by and said, "I'll be right back to pick this up." I changed the sign to "SOLD" and he never came back. Hauled the couch back out to the front lawn next week with a "FREE" sign. Another guy came by and said he wanted the couch. I told him, "Give me $10 and I'll hold it for you." He handed me a $10 bill and was back in 15 minutes with a pickup truck. I gave him back his $10. People are nicer when they've got skin in the game.
weatherwitch 5 years ago
I've had that selling online! List something for Free and get totally messed around, even really late night, very early morning messages about it too. List something for minimal price and people actually turn up. It's bonkers!
Greg Mayman 5 years ago
A friend tried to give away a dining table, placed it out with a FREE notice. It was still there after a week, so on advice from someone he put a $100 sign on it. It was stolen the first night. At least he got rid of it.
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Laura Osborne 5 years ago
When my sister and I got new bikes, we put the old ones in the front garden with a notice saying they were free. No takers. We put a sign on saying £10 each (this was in the early 1980's) and five minutes later they were gone along with the sign!
Mercedes Olsen 5 years ago
I'm kind of thinking the person who thought it was free may have seen the "sold" sign and figured the couch was going to someone who gave the original owner money for it.
Philly Bob Squires 5 years ago
Caller: I saw you have a free couch? Me: Yes... Caller: Can you deliver it to...
#9
This is more specific to the teeny-tiny town I used to live in. Used to believe I was valued by the community. Used to actually believe in that community spirit, that soul, if you will. I had seen it and participated in it. When I left my marriage of almost 13 years, there had been about ten years of domestic violence. I well and truly thought the community would help me out if I needed it and reached out, as I had seen so many other times in the 15 years I had lived there. Nope, got quite the opposite. Nobody believed me. People who I thought were friends disappeared. People who I thought were friends played the, ‘It wasn’t really that bad was it?’ card. People that I thought I could trust to help keep me safe by not tell anyone where I was living went straight to my abuser with that info. Hardly anyone would even speak to me, even just to say hi, when I needed acknowledgement most. F*** all of those f****.
Sentinel 5 years ago
That is terrible. But its the same thing also with a dv victim in my own family. Everybody grouped against her n basically sided with the abuser, coddled him & stuff to avoid further conflict (he will hurt her in retaliation). Sad. I wish i can do more for her. I wish that this person is out of this negative environment for good &! Screw them
Ms LaDonna 5 years ago
Add the church saying it's your fault and you should just go back and "do better" and you have my sibling's story.
MaeRose 5 years ago
Also add, you've got kids to take care of, you don't have relatives around, so suck it up, and passive-aggressive insults, yelling and you've got my mom's story.
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Tonya Sweeten 5 years ago
I know how you feel, I never told anyone the horrible things my ex did. When I finally divorced him, even my family took his side because they thought he was such a nice guy...
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 5 years ago
Let me guess - the husband was from the local area, and you were not.
Marsha Brown 5 years ago
So sorry you went through both traumas, glad you finally got out and, I hope, got away. From the abuser and the abusive townspeople.
weatherwitch 5 years ago
I'm so sorry this happened to you 😔 I suffered domestic violence and controlling behaviour abuse, its so hard to escape but a huge number of people in my case believed me. They hadn't known what was going on but knew something was off about my now ex-husband. I hope things are much better for you now 💖
#10
We have helped out my sister n law a few times with money/bills. Never a lot, $50 here, $100 there. Usually for some bill to avoid services being cut off. I’m usually the more heartfelt one in my marriage, but I ended up being the one to put my foot down. Went over to her apartment once. She had two big flat screen TVs, new couch, new fridge, kids on PlayStation or whatever console she got them. It was all Rent-a-Center stuff, but that was the end for me. I didn’t have any of those things myself, not to mention the incredibly bad financial decision those things were with the high interest rate. Part of me felt like I was taking food out of her kids mouths, but realized that no, her poor decisions was doing that.
La Petite Morte 5 years ago
Rent-A- Center is evil and should be shut down. They knowingly charge people 3-5x what a thing is worth and have driven people into destitution. After all that they insist their prices are 'reasonable' and after you've already paid 2x the retail cost in 'rent' they repossess everything anyway. I watched a friend burn thousands with them over the course of a year, all so he could please his harpy of an ex-wife because she always 'had to have' the latest and newest whatevers. Thank the gods the divorce lawyer settled all that debt on her after she screwed him out of the house and everything in it. Took him 2 years to recover financially from her.
elfin 5 years ago
Better yet, kids should get a solid economics education throughout their school life. It might even make them smarter voters.
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Maureen Matthew 5 years ago
One year our workplace decided to adopt a family for christmas through one of the social service agenices. Actually we were able to adopt about five families. I and 2 other women organized all the food and gifts. We took a day from work to deliver the packages. Not one of the five families were really in need - all had big screen TV, the living rooms looked like an explosion at a toy factory. And to top it off NONE helped bring in the food or gifts - in all situations there were grown men in the house that could have helped three women up a couple of flights of stairs with packages. AND then they complained about the food that we had purchased. After all the deliveries, we were driving back to work and finally one of the women said "do you feel good about today" and the answer was NO. We reported back to our workplace but recommended that next year we exchange fun gifts with co-workers. I'm done with 'helping' the needy - the needy in Canada and the US are well taken care of
BusLady 5 years ago
I did this kind of work with my Church. We prepared meals for and provided temporary lodging for families who were homeless. You wouldn't believe how unappreciative some of them were. They complained about what we were serving, let their kids misbehave, and would sneak out for smokes and leave their kids for us to babysit. One toddler was found wandering the hallways. One time a smaller child hit a bigger kid, and that kid hit him back. The smaller child started crying and came to me, not his mother who was nearby and and not watching him. I was shocked. But most of the families, thankfully, were grateful.
Load More Replies... weatherwitch 5 years ago
Damn right it was Her bad decisions but yeah i get the feeling guilty part for not helping anymore.
Porto DaMartinica 5 years ago
Rent-a-everything ?? What is that ? Sounds like some John-Deere-Yee-Haw-Eagle-Screeching-Allegiance-Pledging fūckery tbh, never ever heard of anything like that over here
Romeo Wells 4 years ago
i dont even know what ent a centre is. anyone who knows, please comment.
Roxy Eastland 5 years ago
The problem with 'helping out' in this way is it is preventing someone with having to face up to the truth, and then put things in motion to sort the problem out. "Helping out' like this is actually the opposite. If someone can't basic bills, rent, etc then they need to change something so that they can. Otherwise they'll never be secure.
Uchman 5 years ago
We have the equipment in UK called Brighthouse. Absolutely hate those people and their pricing structure. Absolute vultures. I always feel like smashing up their shiny store every time I pass by. The one in my town just shut down completely due to covid and that was the only time I was happy to see a shop go out of business!
#11
Had a newish neighbor ask if he could borrow our lawn mower....sure. Well more or less every week he would come and get it out of our garage, use it to cut his grass, put it away without cleaning it or adding gas. In the fall we "mentioned" it was a good time to get deals on a new mower. He never talked to us again.
Suzanne Clark 5 years ago
You were lucky, if he had talked to you again he would have just taken advantage of you and "borrowed" more of your stuff.
weatherwitch 5 years ago
I would have hidden the spare fuel and have it run out when he borrowed it so the lawn would only be half done 😉
Philly Bob Squires 5 years ago
Like at least mow my lawn and fill it up too... I've done that with my neighbor's rider...
Sent From The Slytherin House 5 years ago
You guys should have just drained all the gas when you were done.
#12
Partner and I moved provinces, only family in our new area is partners aunt and uncle and their kids about an hour from us. They invited us down for Christmas a few years ago. Nothing too fancy, just family. Cool. They’re pretty religious and we’re pretty gay, so I’m always a touch hesitant spending a lot of time, but it was Christmas and family and yadda yadda yadda. We get there and I ask if they need any help with anything, just general good guest stuff. The aunt then reveals that the reason they invited us was for me to help in the cooking of the turkey and sides. I’m a good cook, and I don’t mind helping out and she’s not the most confident cook so it’s not a huge deal. So I follow her to the kitchen and nothing has been done. Like. Turkey is still in the plastic. She says the oven is a bit finicky and that she’ll leave me to it. Like. Literally expected me to come and cook them the whole Christmas dinner. My partner was out in the yard with his cousins playing on a frozen pond, his aunt and uncle were drinking in their living room, and I’m pretty well being treated as the help for the next few hours. Partner comes in and sees me in the kitchen, comes and chats and realizes the reason we got invited was for me to cook for them. He’s pissed. I’m just carrying on. I serve up dinner, we eat, and then we leave right away. A couple days later he chews his aunt out on the phone and we haven’t seen them since. Evidently in the call she had made some comment about not abiding by our “lifestyle choice” but made an exception cuz of the way my partners mother raved about my cooking.
Luther von Wolfen 5 years ago
This was handled exactly right. It was the partner's responsibility to handle his family.
weatherwitch 5 years ago
That's both really horrible for you and mighty impressive that they could overcome their homophobia as long as you could cook.....!!
Fire Breathing Queen 5 years ago
they are all idiots, but I nearly laughed when it said "and we're pretty gay"
Robin DJW 5 years ago
It's not. Or a good **pick any religion** way to behave. It's a s**tty way to behave no matter what your stripes are.
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#13
Was donating baby/toddler clothes to a mom in need through one of those Facebook donating pages. She didn't have a car, I did so I drove 30 minutes away to deliver the stuff all for free. Got in a bad accident less than 5 blocks from her house. So I texted her to see if she could come get what she was able to because my car was totaled. She wouldn't walk the 4 blocks then reported me to the group and got me kicked out for "not following through". I ended up with a fractured sternum, yeah F*** that s***, never again.
Suzanne Haigh 5 years ago
You really do not want to be on a group like that, they obviously did not even wait for your explanation, find better online friends.
#14
A “friend” of mine borrowed a game off me once. About month later I remembered an asked for it. he told me he couldn’t give it back because he gave it to his younger brother for his birthday ... would have asked for money but i knew it would have been difficult and the way I saw it, was easier to just lose him as a friend. His friendship was worth less than the value of a cheap game
Nikki Sevven 5 years ago
If a "friend" borrows $20 and you never see him again, it was worth the $20.
Laura Thomas 5 years ago
How amazing that he told you what he did. What did he expect you to do. Just tell him that was OK?
Roxy Eastland 5 years ago
Rule of thumb: only ever lend stuff or amounts of money that you can not get back without ruining the relationship. If you know it would damage the friendship don't lend it. Just be blunt "I don't lend stuff, I'm just funny that way".
#15
The day I realized that no one wanted to help me in return. Look it's not about doing something for someone to get something back and I will ALWAYS help whoever I can that needs it. But when the same people consistently ask for help or money or what have you, without actually wanting to help you when you need it, or just hang out or be friendly in general, it's a huge red flag.
lara 5 years ago
People who ASK for help, will NEVER "help you back." Trust me on this. ALL the people who have asked for help have NEVER paid me back [even after promising] or even asked to help me. And that includes family. However, I have four "best friends" whom I will always help and they never ask and they always do things for me. So I am blessed to have them in my life.
DKS 001 5 years ago
yes, that is what made me give up on helping. Me and my boyfriend were moving from Florida to another state about 10 years ago. He had known his friends for going on 20 years. Always helped them out when needed. We ended up homeless for a month - not a single one helped when we asked. Not even a dollar.
elfin 5 years ago
I have a sibling like this. If you do something to help him, he just figures you owe him more the next time. Ironically, this has destroyed his relationship with people who once wanted to help him. Since he didn't plan/work for his own future, he is not going to have a prosperous old age.
Robin DJW 5 years ago
It's especially tough when it's your own adult sibling or child that is always needy, is constitutionally unable to recognize the root of the problem (himself or herself), and is always certain that this time it will be different. We want so much to believe them, we give until our own well-being becomes compromised, and then, if we are lucky, we are strong enough to cut the strings. Can you hear my tears?
Rares Dumitrescu 5 years ago
it seems that we think we should help everyone because we expect them to return the favor sometimes in the future.
#16
Met a guy who had hit a rough patch. We had great chemistry and he made me laugh (ugh the bar was SO low). He gave me a sob story of why he was getting kicked out of his communal house and I offered to let him stay with me because I live alone and have my own place. HUGE MISTAKE! He hadn't hit a rough patch, he was the rough patch. Barely paid for anything and would get wasted while I was at work and be a total ass hole when I got home. Got fired from his job, ate all the food I'd buy and make excuses as to why he hadn't found another job yet. The absolute kicker was when I went home for my Nonna's funeral, he treated it like a mini vacation in my place. Invited friends over, played music so loud the cops got called and when he was supposed to pick me up from the airport, he was wasted at someone's house at 8 am. Never felt better than the day I kicked him out. No more financial and emotional abuse. Finally felt like my place was mine again. I've learned an expensive lesson. Don't help people that won't help themselves. When nothing is their fault, there's a serious issue. Run fast and far.
Meredith Gossland 5 years ago
SO true so true, when they tell a sob story and everything is someone elses fault you are in trouble.
cybermerlin2000 5 years ago
I had a 'friend' ask if he could move in because of neighbourhood problems where he lived. I called the others at the bedsit he was living at, and they all told me he kept playing loud music and threatening the neighbours. I told him no and his true colours came out. Sent him packing and not seen or heard anything from him since. That was about 15 years ago.
Flavia Slag 5 years ago
Had a guy give us a story about his job and he did his job but the other guys picked on him. Believe him and hired him for maintenance work. We now know why his other job was glad to get rid of him. He did what he wanted, when he wanted and did what he was told not to do. Including trying to kill some little screech owls that nest in the ground and are protected in our state.... Fired him! Like you, Lesson learned.
Dorothy Parker 5 years ago
You are lucky he didn't cry squatters ' rights. After someone stays with you a while they can say they live there as much as you do and you can't make them leave!
Laura Thomas 5 years ago
Wise words. Don't help people that won't help themselves. I must remember that.
#17
I'm a teacher. A parent of a former student contacted me in an emergency situation, couldn't afford to pay bills, and needed help. She was super helpful to me in my first year teaching, so I asked friends and family to help out and raised her about $2,000. Never again. She has contacted me every few weeks since then, always with a new reason why she needs more money (and when I offer food and clothing resources, she refuses it). It has placed me in such an awkward situation and I regret ever trying to help her out in the first place
Arctic Fox Lover 5 years ago
We probably know... Drugs and liquor, y'know, unhealthy person stuff.
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OhForSmegSake 5 years ago
Currently dealing with someone like that, a friend of my mother who is leeching around $150 a week off of her
#18
We were asleep one night with window open. We wake up bc there is a couple walking down the road arguing. The girl is closer than the guy. Next thing we know the girl is banging on door begging to come in. We call police. They get there and couple gone. They tell us that’s a common ruse being used in area to get you to open door so they can rob you.
Marsha Brown 5 years ago
Had just the opposite happen, and I'm glad I intervened. I was clearing out my late parents' house, very little furniture left. Late at night, I heard arguing, female voice repeatedly saying, "Give me my phone". Looked out, tall, well-dressed black couple are arguing. (The neighborhood is white and Asian-American.) I'm a white female, 5' tall, white hair; I was in my sixties then. I ran out, ordered him to give her her phone back. He looked at me, muttered something, gave her the phone, stormed off across the street, got into his car and drove off. I took her into the house and sat her down on the only piece of furniture left, a bench, in the living room. Went upstairs to get shoes on, get my wallet to take her home, but she didn't want to put me out any further, already called an Uber and was ready to leave. So glad I intervened. He would have probably left her, without a telephone, in an unfamiliar neighborhood, way far from the town in which she lives.
Janis Wise 5 years ago
Good for you. I know and feel everyone’s pain here and the stories of being taken advantage of are terrible. I’ve just learned to be smarter and shut down situations that might get out of hand. I’ve been criticized for giving to the homeless. I try to be safe. I don’t offer rides even if requested. If approached I look around in case I need help.. I refuse to help if I see this person continuously doing this. I don’t question what they are going to do with the few bucks I give them. I’m not their judge and jury, it’s a gift. Yes, a lot of assholes take advantage, I try not to be an easy mark but some are in true need. There are also many things you can do to help people that don’t cost you anything. Ask an elderly person if they need help loading their car if their struggling, grab a item they can’t reach, help a mom with a toddler having a fit by trying to distract them and tell mom, “Good job, it’s tough I know.” She needs that. Cost:0. Just be kind to one another.
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Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
Actually, I ran into this in a "good" neighborhood ----- low crime ---- back in a small town. People in rough neighborhoods won't open a door for anyone, which is why cops then shoot them (USA, at least).
Load More Replies... Curry on... 5 years ago
I had that happen one time. I didn't call the police, but I also didn't open the door.
#19
When my dad was moving out of state, he listed a bunch of stuff for free on Craigslist that he just wanted to get rid of. One of the things was a fairly nice Weber charcoal grill and some guy emailed him and demanded multiple pics from every angle and that the grill be deep cleaned before he'd take it. My dad didn't even reply and just blocked the guy. An hour later, someone else said they'd take it if it was still available and my dad was more than happy to give it away to them.
elfin 5 years ago
My brother is like that. He needed a new refrigerator and was offered an almost-new one for free. First he asked if the giver could deliver it. Then he tried to con his roommate into transporting it for him. He ended up not getting the refrigerator. This was a pattern in his life and he was never smart enough to see that he ended up hurting himself.
Load More Replies... CrunChewy McSandybutt 5 years ago
I was having a yard sale when I was moving out of state. I listed the sale on Craigslist. Some guy kept texting me demanding to know specifics of everything I was selling (brand names of cookware, titles of over 300 records we were selling, etc.). I told him that it's a friggin yard sale. You have to come to look for yourself. He called me some choice names and I kind of doubt he bothered to come by.
MoonCrusher 5 years ago
true that not all the free stuff is good but. Still
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Worked in Baton Rouge for a decade (1999-2009) and would regularly give the homeless I saw around town - generously if I can say that without being a douche bag. In 2008 I was on a run for work and a guy caught me near the Target on Siegen lane. He had nothing he was homeless and on top of it had been robbed an hour ago. No worries, empty my wallet for the man, we all need help. Coming out of the shopping complex I see him hiding in the bushes opening a pack of smokes on a laptop while on his iPhone. Then a month later, saw a man I regularly donated to on Government street. I would catch him on weekends - but this weekend my drop-offs started early so I saw him as he arrived in downtown BR. I sat behind the TV station waiting for a pick-up, and this cat gets out of a new car, changes into dirty clothes and grabs his sign from the trunk and heads off to his corner. I have given food and connected people with charities, but I have not given a penny to a "beggar" since then.
Helen Haley 5 years ago
People like this make me mad. Precisely because they make people too nervous to help.
Marnie 5 years ago
Same here. People should never give hand-outs. Most of the people who are on corners are like this and/or will use it for alcohol or drugs. Donate to organizations that are actually trying to fix the problem instead.
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
If their clothing fits (even if dirty); if their eyes are clear; if their nails aren't dirty underneath; if their shoes are in decent condition; if their hair is clean; Oh, and they have a cell phone that isn't a burner-type from a convenience store.... They are 1. fed, 2. sober, 3. sheltered and 4. clothed. Also look out for well-nourished, not moving in groups, and/or not carrying any shelter-making materials. I was homeless for only three weeks, but it was a damned educational three weeks, and if you're really in trouble? You don't have clothing that fits, you wash up in a polluted creek if you're lucky, and your shoes go to crap faster than you'd believe. And, btw, you carry something to make a shelter from, b/c you can't count on Salvation Army etc. Am I cynical? Yes. Now, downvote away, tell me I'm mean, etc., but.... Thank you, J, wherever you are, for teaching me!
Luther von Wolfen 5 years ago
I work at a homeless shelter. It is true that many homeless people spend whatever money they get on alcohol and drugs. It is also true that helping people is the right thing to do. Make your contributions to reputable organizations and don't feel bad when you don't give money to beggars.
andate him 5 years ago
If there is someone collecting on a street corner, my family will offer them a water bottle, or a granola bar if we have one on hand. If they need basic necessities, now they have, and if they don't need the money, they aren't getting any
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 5 years ago
I called police on a beggar once in my town. In Australia, it's illegal to panhandle or beg for money. Most of us just walk past and ignore - but this douche had 2 children with him that he was using like a modern day Fagin. That's a nope.
Nikki Sevven 5 years ago
I don't either. It's much better to donate food, clothing, and toys to the local women's and children's shelter.
person (i think) 5 years ago
Pretty much the exact same thing happened to my dad. There was a beggar who would ask for money outside the office my dad worked at in the 1980's. My dad would always give him money, buy him lunch, etc. Then one day my dad caught him out back talking on his mobile phone to his stock broker. In the 80's. Those phones cost $3000-$4000 in 1980s money. After that Dad stopped giving money to anyone on the streets.
#21
I lived next to someone just like this. 2 young kids, very friendly, then they just take advantage of you. I made the mistake of telling them I was a nanny and offering to babysit all of one time. After that it was seriously at least once a day they’d drop of their kids. It wasn’t even like the kids were easy. 2 kids, still in diapers, who were little terrorizers. I finally told them to f*** off after they yelled at me for not being available. They knocked on my door, left their 2 young kids waiting there, and peaced out. I wasn’t even there. Cops were called after a toddler in nothing but her diaper was wandering the apartments.
Mimi777 5 years ago
I babysat someone’s baby for a week. I watched the baby 12 hours a day Monday through Friday. We had an agreement on how much they would pay me. They kept making excuses and never paid me. A couple weeks later they gave me $20. The next month they had the nerve to ask me to babysit again.
deanna woods 5 years ago
My godbrother has been physically living with my parents for the past almost four years. They are the ones who talk to his teachers and take him to doctors' appointments. His biological parents still claim that he lives with them so that they can get food stamps and claim him on their income taxes. Meanwhile, my sister has epilepsy and has to take very expensive meds and her food stamps were decreased.
Meredith Gossland 5 years ago
Parents need to get permits to have kids. Seriously , its a commitment not just a roll in the hay.
#22
This is so f*****, I had a female friend who told me she had cancer as well and I told her I would help take her to treatments etc, turns out she didn't..she was just trying to get close to me to break up my marriage. People are so f*****.
Pernille Dyre 5 years ago
No it's worse.... I don't have words for how disappointed it makes me...
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ツ_Itz_Your_Girl_ツ 5 years ago
wtf that is so messed up. Who would even think about doing that to someone!?
#23
The same thing happened to my Mom when she finally left my Dad. I was far too young to understand it at the time, but her hometown just up and turned their back on her! In some cases even her own family, no one believed her, accused her of lying. and would report her every move back to my Dad. It got so terrible she ended up leaving her hometown behind and moving somewhere completely new.
Aeon Flux 5 years ago
This sucks. Communities need to do a better job sticking up for the survivors and the people still stuck in abusive situations.
François Carré 5 years ago
Communities usually don't care about individuals. They just want to maintain their cohesion, and if solving some individual problem means threatening said cohesion, they'd rather get rid of the individual instead.
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Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
Yet another reminder why I moved 500 miles away from "home" and don't intend to go back. Thanks, mi familia!
IlovemydogShilo 5 years ago
Seriously who would need to live in a community full of 2 faced false friends like that anyway.?
Grumble O'Pug 5 years ago (edited)
Where’s the whiny men who post “it could be happening to a guy”
Iona Hunter 5 years ago
I'm going through this just now, he is from around here so everyone took his side. my new partner and me are planning to move to my partners hometown as soon as we have enough saved up
#24
In freshman year of college, my friend of about two years got kicked out of his parents house. He said he needed somewhere to stay "for the night" till his parents cooled off. I said you can stay a week if you want but more than that and you'll need to pay me rent (he made pretty good money, more than me even). I was kind of hoping to find someone to split the bills with anyway. A week rolls by and he hasn't even looked for another place. His parents aren't letting him come back. I ask him if he's going to stay, he says "if it's alright with you" I say sure, just pay me half the cost of the apt every month. He said he can't (I know damn well he can). I say "well then you gotta go" He asked if he could stay another week. I said no. He got pissed at me for that. I then got pissed at him for getting pissed at me. I gave you a place to stay and you are mad at me??? Totally ended the friendship. Never let anyone into your place unless you have a signed contract
Aeon Flux 5 years ago
Sad, but I’ve been screwed by letting someone come live with me, too. Be careful someone doesn’t get tenant’s rights without your knowledge, also...
Suzanne Clark 5 years ago
My brother-in-law called late one night to ask if he could spend the night on our couch. He stayed for 2 months, couldn't even empty his own ashtrays (neither my husband nor I smoke). His big complaint was that his wife had left him but she didn't clean the oven before she left him. What a jerk.
Alison Marchand 5 years ago
Yup, I've watched too much Judge Judy to trust anyone to not take advantage.
Carl de Malmanche 5 years ago
I was on other end of this. Left job because of abuse, and the job included accomodation. Ended up on friends couch, but had to pay full rent - he took my last of money, and said that's the bond, you owe me two weeks rent up front to stay. I was completely broke and no support, managed to swing a credit card with an old payslip, to get "the rent". He then switch the room I was going to get when their flatmate moved out - from the cheap room to the most expensive which included onsuite & garage. I won that though, I sublet the room and moved into the garage.
#25
Somebody put one one of those "free items" sites on Facebook that she needed an outdoor playscape thing for her kids who were going crazy during quarantine. My kids are now older, but we had this cool plastic Little Tykes "fort" that was in great shape (those things are beasts). It had a slide and a little play area. Perfect for the age her kids were. I drive a pickup so even offered to deliver it. She went full [beggar mode] on me and said she was looking for a more elaborate one with more things to do. Like the giant wooden ones. Good luck lady. I'm done with you all.
Raven 5 years ago
i guess the people who take advantage or beg when you are giving them something.
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Hugo Raible 5 years ago
Not sure what's wrong with declining an offer, even if it's for free, if you want something else.
Uchman 5 years ago
That's fie but not asking the person for a better one is fu ked up
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#26
When I had a truck during college. EVERYONE suddenly wanted me to help move them. Most were cool and gave me money or ordered pizza (unprompted btw). One time however some dude I barely knew needed some help. I show up, and nothing is packed in his apartment. He had a giant fish tank and lived on the 3rd floor with no elevator. It was a f****** nightmare and I never got a dime nor food or even some beers. I never talked to him after that.
Chich 5 years ago
I used to own a truck and this is too true. I was everyone's buddy on moving day. Then when I had to move, very few were available to help. Got very picky about agreeing to help people afterwards. Actually, now that I no longer own a truck I feel awkward about asking someone to borrow theirs. You just get taken advantage of so much.
Nikki Sevven 5 years ago
Honestly, if I showed up and he wasn't even packed, I would have said, "You know what? I'm outta here. Go to Uhaul and rent a truck."
Luther von Wolfen 5 years ago
Ah, yes. This is what happens when you get a truck. I've exercised judgment about who I help - so far, everybody has given me money for gas and been really cool about it.
C.C. de Vere 5 years ago
I once saw a big pickup truck with a custom license plate frame that read "Yes It's My Truck - No I Won't Help You Move". I would 100% do the same if I had a truck.
Mimi777 5 years ago
I saved up for years for a really nice car, it was used not new. I always wanted one and I was so excited to finally get one. It’s a luxury car. I had several people I barely talked to message me asking if they can borrow it or test drive it. So weird. One girl offered me $50 to take it out for the entire weekend in a big town 2 hours away. Definitely not.
Marsha Brown 5 years ago
You should have asked for payment up front when you saw how lazy he was.
#27
I used to help people plan their trips to Japan. It was very hard to get started on my own so I offered weeks of free consulting to a few people in exchange for a review at the end of their trip. I made their itineraries, wrote a tailored culture guide for each, booked their hotels / restaurants, gave them recommendations, etc. Only one person out of 8 actually wrote a review.
Viviane 5 years ago
I don't blame you - how hard is it to write a positive review on a travel site?? If a person isn't sure of their writing skills, they can always run it by the travel consultant first.
Load More Replies... Viviane 5 years ago
My sister told me that some people scam for free trips by claiming to be travel writers. She got a few free trips because tourist boards knew she would write articles afterwards and try hard to sell them. Bonus: one guide from a free trip called up my sister with a question. She expected him to ask, "Where will the article appear?" Instead, he asked her, "When are you coming back?" She went back and never left! <3
Suzanne Haigh 5 years ago
I have heard this so many times before, basically never trust anyone.
#28
After working free of charge as a freelance graphics guy to build my portfolio up, and having a client basically make the most minor of adjustments, and constant revisions - four posters which should have taken me a day tops really....ended up taking 3 months. And when they wanted poster x4, I wanted money - ghosted. Lesson. Learnt.
Marsha Brown 5 years ago
Anyone that nit-picky is always bad news. I have that as a free-lance editor and translator. People who think their English is good correct my translations or edits to absolutely incorrect, horribly ungrammatical English, and then argue about it. Had a colleague who appealed to our list with a client who insisted that he had a Mutsibushu, and the translator couldn't convince him that he actually drove a Mitsubishi.
Roxy Eastland 5 years ago
Check out clientsfromhell. Plenty of examples of why a contract is vital.
#29
Had a new manager come in to my former place of employment. Immediately this new manager starts firing people for bulls**** reasons and hiring people from her old job to replace them. The walls in that place talked, and few notice the janitor, so when I heard rumors of the next heads on the chopping block, one of which was mine, I decided to be nice and help out the other two. I considered them good friends, and it was the least I could do, right? I warn one, and he takes it seriously and begins looking for another job, so when the pink slip arrived, he landed on his feet running. The other promptly goes squealing to the manager in question, who uses that as an excuse to fire me, and THEN fires the person that had squealed. All three jobs were quickly filled by her old friends from her previous job. I've refused to lift a finger to help a coworker out since. I've had advanced warnings of firing and disciplinary hearings and various other juicy gossip (People for some reason think I hear with my eyes and assume that they can talk in front of me and I won't notice. I'm going blind, people, not deaf.) but I've kept it all to myself. F*** 'em.
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 5 years ago
Work "friends" are NOT actually friends. They are work acquaintances and will spit on you the first chance they get. Those that don't, quickly lose contact if they (or you) move away from the job.
Jacqueline Arana 5 years ago
At a cleaning job I used to have I once told a lady at work she couldn't use the bleach to clean the way she was or she would get in trouble. Then she got defensive and said she always cleans like that and people were going out of their way to tell he how much cleaner things are since she started working. I told her that she cleans good but we get in trouble for using too much bleach-she was pouring it into toilets and in the floor- and that if our higher ups see her she could get in trouble. A few days later I found out when when I wasn't there she was telling everyone I can't clean and that I don't use bleach when cleaning.
andate him 5 years ago
I don't understand. If you were on death row anyway, why does it matter you were ratted out?
#30
One time we showed up to help a sister in law and her bf move and they were sitting there when we pulled up, waiting for us to get there to start moving. We unloaded what we had and just left. No need to help those that can't even do the basic to help themselves.
#31
I have neighbors across the road who we extended ourselves to to help out because they had young kids and seemed to be struggling. Well, they were really starting to take advantage to the point where we couldn’t walk out of our house without them literally yelling for us because they needed a phone, a ladder, money, someone to drive them somewhere, diapers, our Wi-Fi password, our wood, etc. etc. This started happening everyday and multiple times a day. It became ridiculous and oppressive. They have since pulled that s*** with everyone else on our road, wearing out one generous person after the other. Once you realize people are merely moochers and are content to remain so, that’s when you’re done.
#32
I had a coworker in tears once telling me she had nothing to feed her kids for dinner, no laundry soap to wash their clothes, etc etc. I fell for it, gave her money to buy the kids food and brought her some laundry stuff from home. The next day she shows up to work with two Redbulls and a breakfast sandwich from a drive thru coffee stand with her nails done. Never again.
cybermerlin2000 5 years ago
Never give them money. Offer to go shopping with them and tell them you will pay for the items they desperately need. You will be surprised at how many thank you for your generosity but say "Don't worry about it" before shuffling off with a shameful look on their faces
Saara . 5 years ago
Long lost aunt (maternal) of mine started asking for money for household items after only one conversation. I ordered laundry detergent from Amazon for her. She never asked me for money again. Shortly after my dad passed away (literally a few days), she asked my sister for my dad's truck. FOR FREE. And she wonders why I never answer her calls.
Jennifer Crompton 5 years ago
Wow. 😳 some people are fearless in their entitlement and selfishness
Amarédesse Gemtree, SLYTHERIN 5 years ago
what happened to her kids?! she probably spent all her money on herself.
#33
I had a customer who used to show up and just wear me down until I gave him free stuff. He got so intrusive that even after I left that job he coerced my old coworker into telling him where I work now. This dude had the audacity to call my work and left a message asking me to go scout out camp sites for him. I ignored it and he then called over and over again. Finally my boss had to tell him to stop calling if it doesn’t have anything to do with business. He kept trying, and eventually gave up.
Jade Lynn 5 years ago
Right! At one of my old offices a patient was kind of obsessed with me. When I left that office the current secretary told me this patient was trying to bug her for my phone number and where I was working now etc. She told him she had no clue even though she did.
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#34
I was 16, only had 10 euro with me. Homeless lady begging for money, I tell her I won't give her money, went to the local supermarket, bought 2 packs of milk, some bread, some cookies, a bottle of juice and some cooked chicken. Went and gave it to her, with all kindness. 1 hour later I pass by the same street, and everything is on the floor thrown away, not even eaten or open.
Jane Alexander 5 years ago
I've had them straight out tell me they don't want food or anything else, just money.
The Pansexual MELONLORD 5 years ago
Well that's just terrible. Why waste good food?! Hope tuooy're foing better npw. :)
Lara Verne 5 years ago
I once met homeless guy begging for money, he said he had nothing to eat. I offered to buy him something from food stall nearby, but he refused. Ten minutes later I saw him in supermarket. He bought bottle of vodka and nothing else....
Mya Lugar 5 years ago
Probably an alcoholic or drug addict. They will say their hungry, or any other believable sob story they believe will work, but they actually have only the one objective. When experiencing addiction, they arent hungry, except for the drug or alcohol.You most often see "homeless" people hanging within walking distance of a liquor store. Also can't keep a job, so..homeless.
#35
I used to volunteer for an organization which helped women get jobs. They’d send baby sitters to women’s homes so they could go to job interviews. It was totally fine if these moms did a quick essential errand, like grocery shopping, after their interview. I watched one woman’s kids five times and assumed she just had bad luck in her interviews but she always came back with a fresh manicure. I learned she’d been blowing off the interviews the organization had been setting up to get drinks with friends or get her nails and hair done.
#36
I was pretty down on my luck. Quit my job and started touring in a band. Just getting started so money wasn't great. One night a 50ish year old dude stops me at the entrance to the grocery store. I had enough for a cheap six pack, toilet paper, and cat food. He gives me a story about how he's stranded over night and just needed some food before he could get back on the road. So I go in and figure out how to get the guy some dinner. Some chicken gingers, macaroni salad, and some dinner rolls. Skip my beer, get cat food, and TP. Take the guy his food. Go to my van and start digging for change. If I can't get beer, I'll at least get a candy bar. Go back in and the f***** is buying a 12 of Keystone. I raised hell at him. Just berated the guy out the door making sure everyone knew why. F*** you man.
Pumpkin Spice 4 years ago
Oh my goodness....and I bet you didn't even get your candy bar either!
#37
Had a similar situation. A guy I used to be friends with couldnt afford to pay his bills. It was middle of winter, his heat was shut off in his house so I told him he could crash at my place until he figured it out. Three days in and I'm coming home to my sink STACKED with dishes, garbage everywhere, all my food GONE. I told him he can't stay if he's not going to contribute or help out around the house. Couple days later I told him he had to go. Dude runs off to the west coast to essentially die, comes back a very mentally unhinged drug addict. I still talk to him online now and again but I can't be his friend anymore.
Luther von Wolfen 5 years ago
I work at a homeless shelter. I want to help people. I maintain strict boundaries though, because people will take advantage of you. It isn't always their fault - if they're addicted or mentally ill, they might not be able to do better. That's not an excuse, but it is reality.
weatherwitch 5 years ago (edited)
I get that very much but it is also important to protect your own mental health from people who behave like this too. A good friend shouldn't feel pushed to the limit through an act of generosity 😔
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Viviane 5 years ago
You'd think people would want to help those who help them. I sheltered a homeless friend for a week and he was totally lovely, helped me pack for an upcoming move. His mother, who had no permanent residence, stayed for two days. She begged to wash my dishes, so I let her -- I could see she would feel bad if she didn't help out at least a little.
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When someone just spat some gum on my hand when I tried to help them up, and to this day screw them
#39
I was in school. Noone was paying attention to what i was saying. I just did my work silently, turned it in, and watched as the rest of my table group went up in flames.
Fall Out Genderfluid 5 years ago
Even in elementary school, this is a solid strategy to get in a functional group
elfin 5 years ago
When I was commuting to college I made a deal with my teammate. I would write all of the weekly papers and he would write the big, final one. The instructor really like mine. When I saw what teammate had put together I was appalled. I spent as many hours as I could working on it, but it was still really bad. Fortunately the instructor figured out the situation and I got an "A" for the work I did.
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#40
I let a friend move in with me after his relationship soured. He had the same mindset that he was doing me a favor by moving in with me and paying a portion of my rent, rather than me doing him a favor by giving him some place to land after his living situation with his girlfriend soured. The entitlement that him living with me was only beneficial on my part made me done with that situation.
#41
Last 2 times I've helped push someone out of mud/snow in the winter they've slammed the gas pedal down, coated me in mud, and as soon as they were free of the mud just kept driving without so much as a thank you. I've stopped helping people stuck in the mud/snow.
Meredith Gossland 5 years ago
I live in California but when I was in Chicago I was amazed at how many people would help push cars out of the snow! But everytime I saw it the driver was always soooo grateful. (sitting in a car freezing over night is not fun) You had helped a narrcisitic pig. But for every pig there are a thousand who are grateful and show it. Please don't lose total faith in people. I was stuck once, didn't have AAA ran the heater as long as I could but it was a miserable night. several guys walked by and didn't give it a second thought. It felt aweful.
#42
I crashed my car covering a coworker’s shift. They needed help because they couldn’t find a sitter and I get guilted into covering all the time. That wasn’t the time. My **** it moment was a month later, after I finally saved up enough for a new car, it was stolen outside of my work when I was covering a coworker’s shift. When I needed help or my shifts covered? “Oh sorry I’m busy I can’t.”
Pheebs 5 years ago
This reminds me of an accident I got in. Was carting a friend around town because she refused to learn how to drive. Got t-boned by a tourist going straight in turning lane, cop ticketed me because they claimed they weren’t in the turning lane, and my friend tried to get my insurance to pay for an injury she received 2 years before riding around in an open Jeep, no seat belt, while the driver was drunk. Thankfully the hospital staff didn’t believe her for a minute. Never again. We warned the insurance company of what they were trying to pull. Funny enough, the passenger of the cart that hit me also tried the same scam.
#43
When I dropped my rates significantly to help a struggling family with child care. Blended family needing to find childcare for thier emotionally damaged children who had been hospitalised by mums boyfried. Both parents worked and my wages where payed through a charity scheme. It was hell. They where utterly useless as people let alone parents. They took the piss and ended up basically doing nothing with the house or children and ended up owing me nearly 2K due to them comiting benefit fraud and pocketing what they should have been passing on to me. The final straw was when the asked me to baby sit that night as they needed to 'go out on the lash, its been stressful' whilst telling me they couldn't afford food let allone pay me. Never again will i fall for a sob story.
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 5 years ago
I am gonna suck for saying this but please learn to spell. It was hard to read.
#44
When I rushed to another state about 2,000 miles away to help my sister because of a medical issue, and for whatever reason she decided to have her neighbor help her instead, without letting me know. It was 3 months ago and she is fine but still has not contacted me. That was the end for me
elfin 5 years ago
You got the best deal here. I am estranged from one brother and my sister because of the way they treated Mom and her estate (I was her executor). I learned a lot about them, including that they cared nothing for Mom and sure wanted her money. I am overjoyed that they are no longer in my life.
#45
Im a nice person, I look after people... colleague is sick? I go out and buy cough medicine or paracetamol for them. Got no food? Ill get you a takeaway. I never expected anything in return but one day I was asked for money. I did... not alot... it was like £20... and they eventually gave it back... then they asked again... and again... never wanted food...or a train ticket... just money... Then the last time I lent them money he walked straight into a betting shop and put money on a football game... that was it. . He asked me for more money some time later and I said no. Guy literally throws a tantrum "Id always help you out! I give it back! I thought we were mates!" I dont fund gambling addictions. And havent given him or anyone else help again, just looking after me now.
RadicalPebble 5 years ago
That's just sad. Sad that many people get addicted to that. Although if u liked the persons personality, I would have sat him down and told him that that was unhealthy.
#46
A former coworker and I, when I worked in Boston, would see the same homeless man on the street across from the Garden. One morning she calls him over to the car while we’re stopped at the light and hands him a granola bar. He threw it back at her and said “I don’t want that s***, I need cash!” That was her one and done.
Linus Nilsson 5 years ago
No, he needed cash. How will food keep him on his phone plan so he can get in contact with employers? Or if he wants to call a shelter to see if there's room without having to walk over there? How will food pay his bus tickets? How will food pay for when he need a shower? How will food pay for new shoes? I'm tired of all the ignorant people thinking that homelessness just have to come with living in a box, and that all they need is a supper.
Kiss Army 5 years ago
It's true that food is not all that homeless people need... HOWEVER, it is also true that when you try to help anyone throwing it back at the person and cussing that them is not a shining example of a person you want to help (homeless or not)!
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Among Us 5 years ago
See? He wants money to spend on things like alcohol and/or maybe even drugs
Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 5 years ago
I saw a guy outaide a store and generally I stick to gift cards, if anything, but this time got him water and snacks. I approached, saw him pull out cigarettes, and he said nothing and I though "Great, I did just waste $. He probably wants $ to waste on cigs" but it just took him a moment to realize. he said something I realized after he repeated it was "thank you!" And I think he thought I was ignoring him after the first time..kind of awkward but it worked out.
JK Rowling 5 years ago
Then say that? Most homeless people that ask for cash but don't accept food usually end up using that money for drugs or unnecessary luxuries.
Load More Replies... #47
Me and my gf were leaving a McDonald’s and pulling up to the stoplight. There’s this homeless old man that we’ve seen around the area ever since we moved here and my gf decides, since we’ve never given anything to this guy and he’s always there, we should give him one of our mcdoubles. He comes up to the car, says thank you! And walks back to his corner as the light turns green and just tosses it on the road right in front of where we’re driving..
Kristin Ingersoll 5 years ago
He wanted cash. Not a stupid burger (from his POV). I tried to buy folks food in NYC a number of times. They usually refused and asked for the cash instead. At the time, I was all righteous about not giving them cash because they'd spend it on drugs. Now, I feel like if I give them cash, I shouldnt have a say on how they spend it. I rarely give cash. But when I do? It's up to them.
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Colin Mochrie At Its Finest 5 years ago
Last year I had leftover Thanksgiving food from work and drove to someone who was always outside of a McDs and gave him a whole plate of everything. He sat down and ate it right up, loved that.
Benjamin Lensgraf 5 years ago
Guy probably thought you were trying to kill him with that poison
Doris Bennett 5 years ago (edited)
Because he only wanted cash for drugs or rot-gut ... not food!
#48
Not me but my parents. My cousin moved in with us for two years when I was a kid, she's 18 years older than me. She ended up being a drug addict that smoked in the house, stole money, couldn't hold down a job, and mercilessly picked on my sister and I until the day she got kicked out. That was almost 30 years ago. To this day my parents refuse to let anyone move in because they "just need a place to stay until they're back on their feet."
#49
I've got a cousin I've had to cut off from money and help. She fails to realise exactly how often it is she's mooching from family. When we were all at Gramma's funeral, that's when I found out she did it with everyone in the family and everyone had cut her off. I feel bad because she DOES want to hang out socially and is super nice and friendly to me, but it's that pattern that everytime we hang out, I'm being hit up that really killed our relationship. My wife had to do the same thing. We gave my cousin a very nice bed that she ruined, and then constantly asked for our help to move as she was one of those people who could either get along with roomates but not pay her share of the rent, or live with people she hates but can pay rent.
Viviane 5 years ago
What to leave some folks in one's will: a gift card for sessions with a life coach or a therapist. Sorry, you can't redeem it for cash.
elfin 5 years ago
Wouldn't help. They don't think there's anything wrong with them. It's always other people. One of my favorite "Justified" quotes: Raylan Givens : "You run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. You run into assholes all day, you're the asshole."
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A friend bought a car and I thought I’d be nice and help her out by fixing it for a lower rate than any of the local shops. Next thing I knew she was trying to get me to rebuild the car. I was done at that point.
What do you think ?
Sentinel 5 years ago (edited)
I just want to say that, ive also been on the receiving end of the story aka the villian lol. After i graduated uni, for a while i was unable to find a good place to rent in a new city. Just bumped into my cousin one day & without hesitation she offered to let me stay until i get a new place. I unfortunately overstayed my welcome. Until she asked me up front when i am going to leave...& it also put my folks in a awkward situation. After getting lots of heat from fam i just forced myself to pick any half decent place. Thats when i was thrown into the steep curve of adulting. From that moment on i realized i need to grow up fast & depend on myself. I owe it to her kindness. It would suck to know if she lost faith in people because of me. But we are still close & i made sure to repay her properly.
Viviane 5 years ago
It sound like you earned it, but you learned from it. I've been grateful to a few people who told me off.
Load More Replies... Uncommon Boston 5 years ago (edited)
The more you give, the more SOME people take. I am no longer generous with my time or money. When friends started expecting more or helped themselves, I stop giving, often they got nasty. The friendship dissolved. It took me years to figure this out. Give and take work if done with good intentions. I have friends who are much too generous, I do every small thing I can think of to show my appreciation and thank them often. Still too often it doesn't end well. Currently I am enjoying living alone and have made it clear houseguests are not welcome. Anyone who says they will sleep on your sofa and stay out of your way will be the absolute worst guest.
Freya the Wanderer 5 years ago
Sadly, there are a lot of pr#cks out there who take advantage of our natural instinct to help others. They hurt those who really need help by hardening hearts and making people cynical.
Nicholas Yu 5 years ago
Many years ago while driving home I saw a dog chilling by the side of the road. Didn't want him to get hit by traffic so I scooped him up. Noticed there was an address and a number of a veterinarian. Left a voicemail saying to please contact the owner. This dog went quite a ways. I drove nearly 30 minutes to drop him off at his house. As I pulled up to the driveway, his tail started wagging profusely. Rang the doorbell, no one home. Give him a pat on the head, and dropped him over the fence. Felt good about myself on the drive home. Vet returns my call. Says the address I said I was heading to is an old address. I dognapped an animal that was chilling in his front yard...only to dump him halfway across town. Let that sink in for a second. Now...I have to drive BACK to the other side of town. Neighbors see me "steal" a dog off the property. Now I have to drive BACK to the house I originally saw the dog in front of. Owners are home and they laugh, saying he always manages to get out.
Viviane 5 years ago
ROTFLMAO -- There's a forum called "AITA (Am I the asshole?)" -- this time, the dog is definitely the asshole.
Load More Replies... Heather Williams 5 years ago
Some of these sound a lot like my cousin. Nobody in the family has any contact with her due to doing many of these sorts of things. Her ex husband at least had enough sense to take their two kids and move far far away. Helping people out is also how I ended up with stalker. Bought her some groceries and she followed me home to see where I lived, then kept returning. Fortunately the place I lived had security guards who chased her away.
Rita Shapiro 5 years ago
I had a coworker who had become a slight friend who gave me a story about her family and their economic hardships. I asked her to tell me specifically what she needed. First week, it was coffee. I got her a bag. Second week, it was sugar. I brought in 5 lbs. Then she began to ask for specific brand named items and when I balked, she revealed that her family were Romany and they would curse me if I didn't comply. I told her to eff off and do her worst and the best part was she got fired about a month later, and as she was cleaning out her desk I wandered by and told her that my curse obviously was way more effective than hers. Practice charity by giving to groups that effectively leverage their donations and act in your community... there are plenty from which to choose.
Bill Evs 5 years ago
I've got a friend who would constantly make arrangements to meet up but cancel at the very last minute. Oftentimes he wouldn't even bother to call to let me know he wasn't intending to show up, so I would be dressed and ready to go waiting for him to arrive. After half an hour would pass beyond the arranged meeting time I would call to see where he was and he would say all nonchalant "I'm not coming tonight" even though most of the time it would be his suggestion to meet in the first place. I have heard from others he's done the same to them (one mutual friend was really annoyed with him as he had rearranged plans to meet up with him at his suggestion before simply not showing up). Admittedly i'm still friends with him but we aren't as close as we used to be (he had a baby with his wife 2 years ago and I still haven't met the kid). He doesn't ever seem to go out anywhere anymore as I think most people have given up on him.
Mimi777 5 years ago
I had a friend do this. We made plans for me to come to her house (I lived 40 min away) and go out to the bars that night. She said we could get ready at her house and hangout until we get ready to go out. I get there and she tells me she was going on a double date just to eat with her boyfriend, her other friend, and that girl’s boyfriend. So I awkwardly sat at her house for close to 3 hours and she finally replied to my text and said they were already downtown and that I could go ahead and meet them down there. It was like midnight at that point. I just went home and never talked to her again.
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Metaniel 5 years ago
I've used to be the one, that was always there for people with depression, anxiety attack and so on. They could call, text or meet me. We used to talk about their problems, finding solutions and simply, I was there when nobody cares. It stopped at the point when one of the girls started calling me just to say how drunk she is and what crazy $hit she done. I spoke with her few times, that after my 12h shift I want to help someone and not to listen to how drunk she got and how life is fun. She was using "emergency call" just to talk about nothing. At some point I've stopped doing that, I cut all of the strings and yet still, I was the bad one. That girl made me cold-blooded. Now I help only the people I care about. Being good it's not worth it. It might not seem like it's a big problem, but imagine having that types of call 3-4 times a week and having "argues", because I couldn't answer her calls, while rescuing someone from suicide.
BusLady 5 years ago
My husband had this coworker. He and his wife had a 2 year old. This guy was always asking my husband to come over and watch the game or whatever. My husband somehow always ended up buying the beer. He would ask my hubby if he could pick up a package of diapers on the way over, which were not cheap. He never paid my husband back for the diapers. One day my husband asked if I would watch their child for a week because the daycare would not allow her to be dropped off because she was sick. Well, end of week comes and they came and picked up the girl, then just walked away, saying "well, umm, thanks." They didn't pay me and probably never intended to.
Sentinel 5 years ago (edited)
I just want to say that, ive also been on the receiving end of the story aka the villian lol. After i graduated uni, for a while i was unable to find a good place to rent in a new city. Just bumped into my cousin one day & without hesitation she offered to let me stay until i get a new place. I unfortunately overstayed my welcome. Until she asked me up front when i am going to leave...& it also put my folks in a awkward situation. After getting lots of heat from fam i just forced myself to pick any half decent place. Thats when i was thrown into the steep curve of adulting. From that moment on i realized i need to grow up fast & depend on myself. I owe it to her kindness. It would suck to know if she lost faith in people because of me. But we are still close & i made sure to repay her properly.
Viviane 5 years ago
It sound like you earned it, but you learned from it. I've been grateful to a few people who told me off.
Load More Replies... Uncommon Boston 5 years ago (edited)
The more you give, the more SOME people take. I am no longer generous with my time or money. When friends started expecting more or helped themselves, I stop giving, often they got nasty. The friendship dissolved. It took me years to figure this out. Give and take work if done with good intentions. I have friends who are much too generous, I do every small thing I can think of to show my appreciation and thank them often. Still too often it doesn't end well. Currently I am enjoying living alone and have made it clear houseguests are not welcome. Anyone who says they will sleep on your sofa and stay out of your way will be the absolute worst guest.
Freya the Wanderer 5 years ago
Sadly, there are a lot of pr#cks out there who take advantage of our natural instinct to help others. They hurt those who really need help by hardening hearts and making people cynical.
Nicholas Yu 5 years ago
Many years ago while driving home I saw a dog chilling by the side of the road. Didn't want him to get hit by traffic so I scooped him up. Noticed there was an address and a number of a veterinarian. Left a voicemail saying to please contact the owner. This dog went quite a ways. I drove nearly 30 minutes to drop him off at his house. As I pulled up to the driveway, his tail started wagging profusely. Rang the doorbell, no one home. Give him a pat on the head, and dropped him over the fence. Felt good about myself on the drive home. Vet returns my call. Says the address I said I was heading to is an old address. I dognapped an animal that was chilling in his front yard...only to dump him halfway across town. Let that sink in for a second. Now...I have to drive BACK to the other side of town. Neighbors see me "steal" a dog off the property. Now I have to drive BACK to the house I originally saw the dog in front of. Owners are home and they laugh, saying he always manages to get out.
Viviane 5 years ago
ROTFLMAO -- There's a forum called "AITA (Am I the asshole?)" -- this time, the dog is definitely the asshole.
Load More Replies... Heather Williams 5 years ago
Some of these sound a lot like my cousin. Nobody in the family has any contact with her due to doing many of these sorts of things. Her ex husband at least had enough sense to take their two kids and move far far away. Helping people out is also how I ended up with stalker. Bought her some groceries and she followed me home to see where I lived, then kept returning. Fortunately the place I lived had security guards who chased her away.
Rita Shapiro 5 years ago
I had a coworker who had become a slight friend who gave me a story about her family and their economic hardships. I asked her to tell me specifically what she needed. First week, it was coffee. I got her a bag. Second week, it was sugar. I brought in 5 lbs. Then she began to ask for specific brand named items and when I balked, she revealed that her family were Romany and they would curse me if I didn't comply. I told her to eff off and do her worst and the best part was she got fired about a month later, and as she was cleaning out her desk I wandered by and told her that my curse obviously was way more effective than hers. Practice charity by giving to groups that effectively leverage their donations and act in your community... there are plenty from which to choose.
Bill Evs 5 years ago
I've got a friend who would constantly make arrangements to meet up but cancel at the very last minute. Oftentimes he wouldn't even bother to call to let me know he wasn't intending to show up, so I would be dressed and ready to go waiting for him to arrive. After half an hour would pass beyond the arranged meeting time I would call to see where he was and he would say all nonchalant "I'm not coming tonight" even though most of the time it would be his suggestion to meet in the first place. I have heard from others he's done the same to them (one mutual friend was really annoyed with him as he had rearranged plans to meet up with him at his suggestion before simply not showing up). Admittedly i'm still friends with him but we aren't as close as we used to be (he had a baby with his wife 2 years ago and I still haven't met the kid). He doesn't ever seem to go out anywhere anymore as I think most people have given up on him.
Mimi777 5 years ago
I had a friend do this. We made plans for me to come to her house (I lived 40 min away) and go out to the bars that night. She said we could get ready at her house and hangout until we get ready to go out. I get there and she tells me she was going on a double date just to eat with her boyfriend, her other friend, and that girl’s boyfriend. So I awkwardly sat at her house for close to 3 hours and she finally replied to my text and said they were already downtown and that I could go ahead and meet them down there. It was like midnight at that point. I just went home and never talked to her again.
Load More Replies... Metaniel 5 years ago
I've used to be the one, that was always there for people with depression, anxiety attack and so on. They could call, text or meet me. We used to talk about their problems, finding solutions and simply, I was there when nobody cares. It stopped at the point when one of the girls started calling me just to say how drunk she is and what crazy $hit she done. I spoke with her few times, that after my 12h shift I want to help someone and not to listen to how drunk she got and how life is fun. She was using "emergency call" just to talk about nothing. At some point I've stopped doing that, I cut all of the strings and yet still, I was the bad one. That girl made me cold-blooded. Now I help only the people I care about. Being good it's not worth it. It might not seem like it's a big problem, but imagine having that types of call 3-4 times a week and having "argues", because I couldn't answer her calls, while rescuing someone from suicide.
BusLady 5 years ago
My husband had this coworker. He and his wife had a 2 year old. This guy was always asking my husband to come over and watch the game or whatever. My husband somehow always ended up buying the beer. He would ask my hubby if he could pick up a package of diapers on the way over, which were not cheap. He never paid my husband back for the diapers. One day my husband asked if I would watch their child for a week because the daycare would not allow her to be dropped off because she was sick. Well, end of week comes and they came and picked up the girl, then just walked away, saying "well, umm, thanks." They didn't pay me and probably never intended to.
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