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Contrary to what the self-help industry suggests, experiencing negative emotions like anger, sadness, fear, and jealousy is a perfectly normal and even essential part of being human.

So to reclaim this right, writer, creator, and self-described hot mess Dave Tarnowski launched a project called Disappointing Affirmations, where he shares phrases that are less about inspiration and more about honesty.

They might make you cry-laugh instead of leave you motivated, but every once in a while, we need to hear that it’s okay that we’re feeling this way.

More info: DisappointingAffirmations.com | Instagram

#1

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Meyrin
Community Member
8 months ago

Danm I feel that

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    #2

    Text on a blue sky background reading I came, I saw, I felt awkward and left, reflecting anti-motivational affirmations.

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    Angela B
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    8 months ago

    I want this on a tshirt!

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    #3

    Desert landscape with red rocks and blue sky featuring anti-motivational affirmations about self-worth.

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    Potato Vic
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    8 months ago

    Yeah, 8 BILLION people on this tiny blue marble....poor planet

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    #4

    Scenic red rock landscape with clouds and anti-motivational affirmations that are strangely relatable text overlay.

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    Did I say that out loud?
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    I'll take it.

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    #5

    Waterfall in a green landscape with text featuring anti-motivational affirmations that are strangely relatable.

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    Markus Weiler
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    8 months ago

    Learning from mistakes can be painful...

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    #6

    Anti-motivational affirmations text over a waterfall background about pretending to be okay around others.

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    sbj
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    8 months ago

    I'm good at doing this, I learnt from an early age that most people only care about their own feelings

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    #7

    Calm ocean waves under a cloudy sky with anti-motivational affirmations text about uncertain results.

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    Absurdist
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    8 months ago

    This is the best one so far lol

    #8

    Sunset over mountains and lake with an anti-motivational affirmation about panic attacks and relatable feelings.

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    Sue Denham
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Why, thank you. I think I will.

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    #9

    Ocean waves under a cloudy sky with anti-motivational affirmations about getting through challenges while complaining.

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    Markus Weiler
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Complaining is my superpower why should I stop it?

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    #10

    Scenic desert landscape with a red rock mountain and anti-motivational affirmations about effort and honesty.

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    Glen Ellyn
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    8 months ago

    Are you talking about the effort to lose weight??

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    #11

    Scenic waterfall with anti-motivational affirmation text reflecting relatable doubt and uncertainty about being okay.

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    sbj
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    8 months ago

    Sadly for me it always seems to be the latter

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    #12

    A serene forest path with anti-motivational affirmations about worrying and what people think of you.

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    Absurdist
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    This! I love to tell people, “you’re not that special”. It sounds insulting, but what I mean is that if each of us individually are “special”, then ultimately none of us are “special” or “unique”. And when somebody thinks people around them are thinking or talking badly about them, to remember, that they are not that special. Of all the things those people around them could be thinking about, to assume it’s about yourself is unrealistic. It’s my practical approach to anxiety 😊

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    #13

    Red rock mountain under blue sky with clouds, featuring anti-motivational affirmations about disappointment and expectations.

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    Lotekguy
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    8 months ago (edited)

    Yeah. Ain't you learned nothin' from all them failures and disappointments yet?

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    #14

    Waterfall in a forest with anti-motivational affirmations about self-reliance and adult responsibilities, fitting anti-motivational affirmations theme.

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    Susan Reid Smith
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    I keep looking around for an adult, then remember that I am old enough to have grandkids.

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    #15

    Scenic ocean view with rocky cliffs and text showing anti-motivational affirmations about mental health and avoiding people.

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    Louise
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    8 months ago (edited)

    Always try to, but the blighters are everywhere!

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    Never miss a story that brings joy to the world. Add us on Google

    #16

    Scenic waterfall with anti-motivational affirmation about people making us enjoy being alone, highlighting anti-motivational affirmations.

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    Lotekguy
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    8 months ago

    Or happy when they leave.

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    #17

    Scenic river landscape with cliffs and grassy hills featuring anti-motivational affirmations text about mattering.

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    Did I say that out loud?
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Certainly not as much as you think you do.

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    #18

    Ocean waves under a blue sky with anti-motivational affirmations text conveying relatable self-acceptance messages.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    I'll call that a win.

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    #19

    Anti-motivational affirmations with a message about not being where you wanted but still making progress over the ocean background

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    Markus Weiler
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    underestimated

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    #20

    Anti-motivational affirmation text over a grassy hillside with blue sky, focusing on control of emotions and choosing anger.

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    sturmwesen
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    If I was an animal it would be a honey badger..

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    #21

    Scenic desert landscape with blue sky and anti-motivational affirmations encouraging strange but relatable decisions.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited)

    Okey dokey. Reply all here I come!

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    #22

    Blue ocean background with white text displaying an anti-motivational affirmation about life and its inevitable end.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    And then I can come back as a cat. Yes!

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    #23

    Waterfall scene with overcast sky featuring anti-motivational affirmation text about having a meltdown as a treat.

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    Lotekguy
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    8 months ago (edited)

    Sometimes, ya just gotta give in to it order to move on with life.

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    #24

    Anti-motivational affirmations on a blue waterfall background with text about facing challenges without choice.

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    Kathy Brooke
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    That's one I felt deeply when I lost my husband. It is oddly helpful in grief when the only way out really is through.

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    #25

    Anti-motivational affirmations about being alone on Valentine's Day with relatable, humorous, and harsh truths.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    It'll be ok when I come back as a cat.

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    #26

    Desert landscape with red rock mountains under blue sky, featuring anti-motivational affirmations about personal change.

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    Glen Ellyn
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    8 months ago

    Nope. Just older.

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    #27

    Scenic mountain view with anti-motivational affirmation text about not worrying if people like you, relatable and honest.

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    Glen Ellyn
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    8 months ago

    No worry here. And I just don't care.

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    #28

    Anti-motivational affirmations displayed over a blue ocean background with a sarcastic message about giving up.

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    Did I say that out loud?
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    That's what she said.

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    #29

    Waterfall with greenery and anti-motivational affirmations text about anxiety and never being alone.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    My constant friend.

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    #30

    Waterfall with anti-motivational affirmations about bottling up feelings in a relatable natural setting.

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    Cheryl May
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Am I the only one hearing all of these in my head in the voice of GladOs from Portal? ... Just me, then? ... Ok 😬

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    #31

    Sunset over mountains with a motivational affirmation about people leaving, illustrating anti motivational affirmations.

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    Bewitched One
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    8 months ago

    Oh, great. Thanks for the warning. *Makes note to stop meeting people* Okay! Fixed the issue!

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    #32

    Rocky landscape under a clear blue sky with anti-motivational affirmations about things likely getting worse.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Especially under Trump.

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    Rocky hillside under blue sky with anti-motivational affirmation text about self-doubt and failure.

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    Absurdist
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    For real tho, some people need to hear this…..

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    #34

    Anti-motivational affirmations text on a blue sky background saying stop worrying if things will work out they won’t.

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    Geoffrey Scott
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    And if they Do work out, it will rarely be in your favor.

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    #35

    Blue sky with white clouds and anti-motivational affirmation text about coping with problems and distractions.

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    Nea
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    My OCD knows this the best.

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    #36

    Ocean waves under a cloudy sky with anti-motivational affirmations about brief moments of improvement and enjoying them.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    And then chocolate!

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    #37

    Blue sky background with white text featuring anti-motivational affirmations about wasting life and self-reflection.

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    Floeckchen
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    "Time enjoyed wasting isn't wasted time"

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    #38

    Scenic mountain view with clouds and anti-motivational affirmations about pressure and motivation in bold white text.

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    Ocean waves at sunset with anti-motivational affirmations about happiness and relatable feelings.

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    Lotekguy
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    8 months ago

    The worst part is, you probably won't realize it until it's over.

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    #40

    Rock formation on a calm beach with a cloudy sky, featuring anti-motivational affirmations about self-worth.

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    Raven Sheridan
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Is this the beach from The Goonies? 🤔

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    #41

    Anti-motivational affirmations text overlay on a scenic mountain and valley landscape with blue sky and clouds.

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    Absurdist
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    The truth hurts, it doesn’t make it any less true

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    #42

    Anti-motivational affirmations text over a waterfall background with moss-covered rocks in the foreground.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Best select another of my multiple personalities then.

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    #43

    Ocean waves under a cloudy sky at sunset with anti-motivational affirmations about not pleasing everyone.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    I know!

    #44

    Anti-motivational affirmations about anxiety, depression, hopelessness, and self-loathing against a dark cloudy sky background.

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    Secret Squirrel
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    ...and my ADHD.

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    #45

    Scenic mountain landscape with trees and anti-motivational affirmations about making terrible decisions.

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    Anti-motivational affirmation text on a blue cloudy background about procrastination causing panic attacks.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Always.

    #47

    Anti-motivational affirmations text over red roses about being alone on Valentine's Day and getting used to it.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    I'm never alone when I've got chocolate.

    #48

    Scenic ocean view with trees and sky featuring an anti-motivational affirmation about being your authentic self.

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    royal crablets
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Unless you can be Batman. Then be Batman.

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    #49

    Text on a green mountainous background with anti-motivational affirmation about pretending to be okay despite problems.

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    Kathy Brooke
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Me! Me! I do!

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    #50

    Rock formation under a blue sky with anti-motivational affirmations text about capabilities and fear.

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    Did I say that out loud?
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Haha, I'm only just getting started.

    #51

    Beach scene with anti-motivational affirmations about walking away from unhealthy things and self-reflection.

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    Sally Moen
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Because wherever you go, there you are

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    #52

    Scenic canyon landscape with clouds and anti-motivational affirmations about not worrying about the future.

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    Kathy Brooke
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Looking at the world do any of us?

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    #53

    Scenic desert landscape with red rocks beneath a blue sky and anti-motivational affirmations about doing better.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Says my manager.

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    #54

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Same.

    #55

    Rock formation on a reflective beach with an anti-motivational affirmation about doing your best and struggling to believe it.

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    I know.

    #56

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    Sally Moen
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Punctuation is important.

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    #57

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    Louise
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    Why, thank you. Wait...

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    #58

    Sunset beach scene with anti-motivational affirmation text about self-worth and relatable anti-motivational affirmations message.

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    Talis
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    "Anyone."

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    #59

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