The potato bee (any pronouns)
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Hi! I’m really tired and have resorted to my tiny world where I befriend demons and write songs.
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Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
What do you mean you're ace? You've had a boyfriend! You just must have had bad chemistry with him. (sigh)Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
What do you mean you're ace? You've had a boyfriend! You just must have had bad chemistry with him. (sigh)Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
My school is an all girl’s school but of course there are trans kids too (I’m non binary). The teachers are mostly very good about using people’s preferred names and pronouns, but I often hear other cis students talking about how annoying and entitled it is that non-cis people ask that gender-neutral language be used. It costs them nothing and can make a trans person feel validated.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Explaining queer experiences to straight people. I have this one straight friend who was confused as to why I laughed when someone put in a chat "Noooo, not the lesbians! Who killed the lesbians??" She didn't understand that compared to the slurs and other terrible experiences I go through, that comment was the highlight of my day. For some reason straight people struggle to put themselves in our shoes and it gets exhausting trying to explain every consequence or interaction to them.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
"you'll turn the children gay!!" well ur turning them straight, so.... "that goes against my religion" No👏one 👏cares. also worry about ur self u do u and ill do me. also why is being gay, lesbian, bi etc. automatically sexually? like ur son having a crush on a girl is cute but on another boy? its because "there unsheltered and r going to be stripers and blah blah blah. " well 1million other things but i got to go.... love u alll , stay safe and we are here for a safe community so f off trollsHey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
My parents (as well as my entire family) are extremely homophobic and christian. They believe "if the bible says its wrong then you will go to hell for it". The way i see it, god loves you no matter what. anyways, my entire fam loves to talk about politics and whatnot when we have a family get together (basically every sunday) and about 45% of what they talk about about "how messed up the world is with all LGBTQ stuff" and they will go on rants about how wrong it is and i either A. have to agree with every word of it and say how stupid it is or B. go outside and walk around and cry bc i hate how unaccepting my family is. the only person i have is my cousin who widely accepts the community and she just comforts me while i cry. I feel like i can't be my real self around my family and it just makes me so upset. I love them so much but idk if i can keep pretending to hate the LGBTQ community around them. Like for example, i really like making friendship braclets so i made a rainbow one to celebrate pride month. I didn't think my parents would notice suck a simple act but my mom saw it and said "why rainbow? you better not be celebrating pride month. rainbows are only meant to be a promise from god to noah to not flood the earth ever again" and she starts going on one one of her rants about her hatered for the community and i just have to sit there and take it and pretend to hate them as well. i just want to be accepted by my family. I will never ever come out to any of them solely because of this. I feel like once i move out my cousin will be the only one i really stay in touch with.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Can someone please explain to me how being trans works? Like, once they transition do they automatically become they/them? Or if they start as a boy and become a girl can they just be a girl then? Please try to help me understand this if you can. I would really appreciate it. I'm really interested in learning more about it but I'm having a hard time understanding it. I just find trans people really interesting and overall outgoing and fun people. I'm kinda scared to ask my trans friend because they can be kind of sensitive about the subject. Happy Pride Month btw yall 🏳️🌈😁Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
This is my second submission, but I forgot to mention: Seeing all the hate happening right now, especially toward trans people, and not knowing how to help. It's not fair that the world seems to be moving backward in terms of acceptance. If anyone has any suggestions for what I can do to support those whose rights are in danger, please let me know.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
As someone who's bi/ace, I've seen hate from BOTH sides (I'm lucky enough that it's never been directed at me specifically, but it's directed at bi and ace people in general). Cishet people reject bi people for liking the same gender, gay people reject bi people for liking other genders. There's especially an issue with lesbians rejecting bi girls who have been with a guy, because they think it's "gross". Also, many people assume that being ace is some kind of phase or misunderstanding. It's not. (Obviously there are MANY people, both cishet and LGBTQ+, who are super kind and accepting, but there are still those who aren't.)Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
The fact that I can't be myself around my parents. They are not homophobic, I'm just scared.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
All the hate is definitely hard. And also coming out. This is just personally my experience but I found it really hard to tell people because I had no idea how they were going to react. I didn't tell anyone for a while and I am still working on telling my parents but that was definitely hard for me.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
The absolute confusion. I only figured out I was a lesbian a few months ago (originally thinking I was bi), then I figured out I was demisexual a month ago, THEN I figured out I was agender a couple of DAYS ago. It is almost a constant wonder if you really are what you think you are, and you might be questioning for years at a time before you feel comfortable. Some people never feel comfortable, I for one still question so many things, like am I demi, or am I just not very sex positive? Am I really agender, or am I not supposed to feel a gender? There are so many difficulties LGBTQ+ people go through, and heterosexuals don't understand or see why we have higher suicide, depression and anxiety rates. You might feel like you don't belong anywhere, or under any lable. It sucks and I really do wish anyone going through this the best. Also, here are your treats! 🥩🍔🍕🍖🍪Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
For me personally, it’s being terrified of my family because of it. My cousins, aunt, uncle, and grandmother are all what you would call “countryfolk” (to a degree, they aren’t over here milking cows) and my parents are absolutely not accepting. I was sent to a Catholic school because of this and honestly some people are idiots. We have little 10 year olds in some of the lower grades calling themselves “Alpha Males” while barely even knowing what that means. I did manage to find the queer kids tho.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
There's a group of dumb kids who try to look cool in my PE class. They would always be like "Ewwwww that's so gay!" as something bad or gross. Like, they look genuinely disgusted. I even remember when I was in elementary school 5th graders even PATROLS would insult each other by calling each other gay. They would say to each other: "EW, BRO, are you gay?" "I'm not gay, gross!" What's wrong with being gay? Even if you are not, let's try to be acceptable to all sexualities, races, gender, culture, etc. Why is "that's gay" being used as an insult? Some rude people always think gay is some kind of cooty or germ.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
not quite the hardest part, more of the most annoying. but when i came out to my mom, ever since then she always a) forgets then needs a reminder or b) always asking questions such as "how does it feel when you have a crush on a girl?" or "what makes you think you like girls?". Heres some treats!!🍪🍪🍪🍪Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
For me, it's because I have an ex-girlfriend (I'm lesbian). If you're bf-gf breaks up with you, It always comes back biting at you. You'll get over it. But, in the meantime, don't let anyone judge you because you're queer. Us LGBTQ+ Pandas love you either way!Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
not being accepted by my own family, being told it’s just a phase or a trend. being afraid to tell my own friends not knowing how they’ll react.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
I don’t usually tell people, but when I do tell people my preferred pronouns for example (she/they), I sometimes get told that my pronouns are invalid because ‘they’ is a plural pronoun, not a singular one, and that the whole non-binary stuff is bs and “you either identify as a girl or a boy, no in between.” There are also people who say my sexuality isn’t valid (I’m abro) and constantly telling me “what if you wake up and suddenly don’t like your partner’s gender anymore” and that kind of stuff. All of this makes me embarrassed and I know I don’t have it as hard as some of you out there but I guess I just needed to vent a little.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Among all the bullying, killings and other slag we deal with, one i personally find the most exhausting is when people who are uneducated on the topic scream about how bad we are. Like, there are people out there who actually think that being a part of the LGBTQ+ means that you are a pedophile and the whole community is a ploy to get their kids (wtf). People who think that being transgender is a choice or that the parents of trans kids somehow failed. People who think being gay is some new trend and that it is unnatural. People who somehow cannot accept the fact that gender is a social construct and that intersex people very much exist. It is annoying to constantly correct them on things they could learn by using Google...or maybe just paying attention in high school biology classes.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
The saddest part of being lgptq+ is that I can't really express or share my feelings of being pansexual because it will start some arguments and trolls will be...well, trolls, duh.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Having to do thorough research before you go on holiday: “How safe is X for gay people?” Straight people go wherever they want. But there are entire countries and near continents that we have to rule out because of prejudice, intolerance and persecution. My friends are astonished when we say that but it’s the truth. They look at the hotel decor, local amenities and cultural sites. I check those, plus the likelihood of being arrested or killed.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
People assume being LGBTQ is your whole personality. Oh, and people view you differently. And people think it's just a phase.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Never feeling like you can show affection to your other half - my husband - in public, for fear of being “caught”. Chances are that no one would care. But you’d still get the odd look, maybe abuse. But to spend your life touching one another’s hand discreetly and stealing a kiss when no one is looking always reminds you that the world isn’t as accepting as it claims to be.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Honestly… never feeling “normal”. Being gay is completely and utterly natural, normal and ok. But we are - and always will be - a statistical outlier. An anomaly. Less than 5% of the population, 10% at a generous stretch. So no matter what we tell ourselves, or how accepting the world is, there remains a sense that you’re not quite the same as most people.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Not being able to tell my parents because im afraid of how they will react.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
1. Casual homophobia (or any other LGBTQ-phobia: biphobia, aphobia, transphobia, etc.) that's so subtle cishet people act like you're crazy when you pick up on it and say something. Just because you don't get it doesn't mean it isn't happening. 2. How much homophobia do I put up with, and how much do I call out? This may seem pretty black and white at first, but I've come to see it's a spectrum. I know someone who's generally accepting with the occasional bit of homophobia through ignorance; someone who isn't accepting but doesn't say hurtful things except, again, through ignorance; and somebody who is just blatantly homophobic. It gets even harder when you factor in who you're out to and if saying something will out you. And besides, maybe I don't have the energy for it today, maybe it'll turn into an argument, maybe it's just not my job to educate people.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
The blatant disregard for us. some pretty straight woman is hurt? everyone in the news freaks out and the culprit is charged with all this stuff trans youth is hate crimed/killed? police dont bat an eye casual dropping of slurs and just general abuse suck tooShow All 33 Upvotes
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Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
What do you mean you're ace? You've had a boyfriend! You just must have had bad chemistry with him. (sigh)Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
My school is an all girl’s school but of course there are trans kids too (I’m non binary). The teachers are mostly very good about using people’s preferred names and pronouns, but I often hear other cis students talking about how annoying and entitled it is that non-cis people ask that gender-neutral language be used. It costs them nothing and can make a trans person feel validated.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Explaining queer experiences to straight people. I have this one straight friend who was confused as to why I laughed when someone put in a chat "Noooo, not the lesbians! Who killed the lesbians??" She didn't understand that compared to the slurs and other terrible experiences I go through, that comment was the highlight of my day. For some reason straight people struggle to put themselves in our shoes and it gets exhausting trying to explain every consequence or interaction to them.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
My parents (as well as my entire family) are extremely homophobic and christian. They believe "if the bible says its wrong then you will go to hell for it". The way i see it, god loves you no matter what. anyways, my entire fam loves to talk about politics and whatnot when we have a family get together (basically every sunday) and about 45% of what they talk about about "how messed up the world is with all LGBTQ stuff" and they will go on rants about how wrong it is and i either A. have to agree with every word of it and say how stupid it is or B. go outside and walk around and cry bc i hate how unaccepting my family is. the only person i have is my cousin who widely accepts the community and she just comforts me while i cry. I feel like i can't be my real self around my family and it just makes me so upset. I love them so much but idk if i can keep pretending to hate the LGBTQ community around them. Like for example, i really like making friendship braclets so i made a rainbow one to celebrate pride month. I didn't think my parents would notice suck a simple act but my mom saw it and said "why rainbow? you better not be celebrating pride month. rainbows are only meant to be a promise from god to noah to not flood the earth ever again" and she starts going on one one of her rants about her hatered for the community and i just have to sit there and take it and pretend to hate them as well. i just want to be accepted by my family. I will never ever come out to any of them solely because of this. I feel like once i move out my cousin will be the only one i really stay in touch with.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
Can someone please explain to me how being trans works? Like, once they transition do they automatically become they/them? Or if they start as a boy and become a girl can they just be a girl then? Please try to help me understand this if you can. I would really appreciate it. I'm really interested in learning more about it but I'm having a hard time understanding it. I just find trans people really interesting and overall outgoing and fun people. I'm kinda scared to ask my trans friend because they can be kind of sensitive about the subject. Happy Pride Month btw yall 🏳️🌈😁Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
As someone who's bi/ace, I've seen hate from BOTH sides (I'm lucky enough that it's never been directed at me specifically, but it's directed at bi and ace people in general). Cishet people reject bi people for liking the same gender, gay people reject bi people for liking other genders. There's especially an issue with lesbians rejecting bi girls who have been with a guy, because they think it's "gross". Also, many people assume that being ace is some kind of phase or misunderstanding. It's not. (Obviously there are MANY people, both cishet and LGBTQ+, who are super kind and accepting, but there are still those who aren't.)Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
The fact that I can't be myself around my parents. They are not homophobic, I'm just scared.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
For me, it's because I have an ex-girlfriend (I'm lesbian). If you're bf-gf breaks up with you, It always comes back biting at you. You'll get over it. But, in the meantime, don't let anyone judge you because you're queer. Us LGBTQ+ Pandas love you either way!Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
All the hate is definitely hard. And also coming out. This is just personally my experience but I found it really hard to tell people because I had no idea how they were going to react. I didn't tell anyone for a while and I am still working on telling my parents but that was definitely hard for me.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
For me personally, it’s being terrified of my family because of it. My cousins, aunt, uncle, and grandmother are all what you would call “countryfolk” (to a degree, they aren’t over here milking cows) and my parents are absolutely not accepting. I was sent to a Catholic school because of this and honestly some people are idiots. We have little 10 year olds in some of the lower grades calling themselves “Alpha Males” while barely even knowing what that means. I did manage to find the queer kids tho.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
The absolute confusion. I only figured out I was a lesbian a few months ago (originally thinking I was bi), then I figured out I was demisexual a month ago, THEN I figured out I was agender a couple of DAYS ago. It is almost a constant wonder if you really are what you think you are, and you might be questioning for years at a time before you feel comfortable. Some people never feel comfortable, I for one still question so many things, like am I demi, or am I just not very sex positive? Am I really agender, or am I not supposed to feel a gender? There are so many difficulties LGBTQ+ people go through, and heterosexuals don't understand or see why we have higher suicide, depression and anxiety rates. You might feel like you don't belong anywhere, or under any lable. It sucks and I really do wish anyone going through this the best. Also, here are your treats! 🥩🍔🍕🍖🍪Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
This is my second submission, but I forgot to mention: Seeing all the hate happening right now, especially toward trans people, and not knowing how to help. It's not fair that the world seems to be moving backward in terms of acceptance. If anyone has any suggestions for what I can do to support those whose rights are in danger, please let me know.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
I don’t usually tell people, but when I do tell people my preferred pronouns for example (she/they), I sometimes get told that my pronouns are invalid because ‘they’ is a plural pronoun, not a singular one, and that the whole non-binary stuff is bs and “you either identify as a girl or a boy, no in between.” There are also people who say my sexuality isn’t valid (I’m abro) and constantly telling me “what if you wake up and suddenly don’t like your partner’s gender anymore” and that kind of stuff. All of this makes me embarrassed and I know I don’t have it as hard as some of you out there but I guess I just needed to vent a little.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
"you'll turn the children gay!!" well ur turning them straight, so.... "that goes against my religion" No👏one 👏cares. also worry about ur self u do u and ill do me. also why is being gay, lesbian, bi etc. automatically sexually? like ur son having a crush on a girl is cute but on another boy? its because "there unsheltered and r going to be stripers and blah blah blah. " well 1million other things but i got to go.... love u alll , stay safe and we are here for a safe community so f off trollsHey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
There's a group of dumb kids who try to look cool in my PE class. They would always be like "Ewwwww that's so gay!" as something bad or gross. Like, they look genuinely disgusted. I even remember when I was in elementary school 5th graders even PATROLS would insult each other by calling each other gay. They would say to each other: "EW, BRO, are you gay?" "I'm not gay, gross!" What's wrong with being gay? Even if you are not, let's try to be acceptable to all sexualities, races, gender, culture, etc. Why is "that's gay" being used as an insult? Some rude people always think gay is some kind of cooty or germ.Hey Pandas, What Are The Hardest Parts Of Being LGBTQ+?
not quite the hardest part, more of the most annoying. but when i came out to my mom, ever since then she always a) forgets then needs a reminder or b) always asking questions such as "how does it feel when you have a crush on a girl?" or "what makes you think you like girls?". Heres some treats!!🍪🍪🍪🍪 The potato bee (any pronouns) • is following 6 people
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