Whether due to a deep lack of education or falling prey to misinformation and pseudo-science, some people are completely out of touch with reality. Specifically, some guys have no idea what it’s like to be a woman. And they have some really strange misconceptions that sound even more bizarre when said aloud.
One Reddit user, u/astandre1, turned to the women of the r/AskWomen online community with a very important question. She wanted to hear the most shocking casual things that other redditors have heard that showed just how out of touch some guys were with the female experience. Scroll down for their stories and get ready to facepalm a lot.
Bored Panda reached out to the author of the viral thread, and she was kind enough to answer our questions. You'll find our full interview with redditor u/astandre1 below.

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Co worker and I were at a Mexican restaurant during lunch midweek. Which made it mostly men and me and the waitresses. My co-worker was having a " not all men" moment while I listened patiently. When he finally took a breath i said " OK, sure. Do me a favor. Look around and tell me which one I'm SUPPOSED to be scared of? " He looked surprised then looked around before answering "how should I know??" I just smiled and said "exactly" I actually saw the light bulb click on in his head
I don't think a single man could ever answer that question in a random crowd.
BEST analogy I ever heard for the "Not all men" BS - Say to the man "What if I locked you in a room full of snakes and told you 'Not all of them are venomous'. Would you still feel safe?"
As a woman I understand the point, however my question is why aren't there more women eating in that restaurant in the weekday lunch crowd? Is this a Mad Men episode or something? That there seems to only be two women there would alarm me... what's going on at that place that female employees from the area don't want to eat there?
Should me be also afraid of other men? As they are more often victim of murder?
It certainly wouldn't hurt for you to be cautious.
Load More Replies...Applying this logic to any other group and you get all kinds of -ists and -phobics
My brother thinks all women should wear a hijab because then they won't get catcalled/r***ed by men... EVEN IF that were true, it shouldn't be up to women to change their appearance so that men can keep their hands to themselves!
I trained my dog not to touch raw steak on the floor without permission. Men have less self-control than dogs, is that what they're saying?
Bet he'd be surprised to know how many hijab wearing women in muslim countries get ra.ped
What women wear has nothing at all to do with it. As noted, women in hijab have been raped. And nuns in habit have been raped. Looks don't matter either. Elderly women over 80 have been raped. Disabled and disfigured women have been raped. You know, when you really analyze it, it's almost as if the men doing the raping just want to rape someone, anyone. (Yes, that was a bit of pointed sarcasm.) For a rapist, it's about exercising their power over another and getting their rocks off. It doesn't matter what you say/don't say, whether you're beautiful or ugly, or wearing a bikini or a burqa. These men enjoy and get a sexual charge out of terrifying and controlling women.
Exactly. It's a crime about power and control, not sex.
Load More Replies...If men can not handle that a woman that has her hair out in a public space then they are the ones who do not belong in public spaces. Stay at home.
I rolled my eyes so hard that I went to another dimension. A group of men catcalled me when I was wearing ankle-length culottes pants, a long-sleeved loose shirt and my hair was a milkmaid style braid with a scarf. Maybe that linen fabric was so irresistible.
You made me laugh out loud just with the first sentence. The rest was just pure joy to read. :)
Load More Replies...Didn't Amanda Lindhout wear one when she got kidnapped in Somalia but was still r***ed? The victim blaming is just shameful
Hijab or not, some a*****e men will still try to rape you. Please be safe ladies as there are too many of these a******s out there
There are studies showing that hijab wearing women get sexually harrassed *more*. The men perceive them as more timid and less likely to put up a fight or think a Muslim woman daring to step out of the house by herself needs to be punished.
Load More Replies...There is also the option that men are forced to wear underwear made of metal with a lock attached to it. And they have to give the key to a female family member. /s
Yes, can we normalize that. Whenever they want to bang someone they have to ask mommy for the key.
Load More Replies...These things always make me wonder; do men really consider women the more grown-up, more civilized gender? You know, the gender that does take responsibility for their own actions and has developed (at least some) self-discipline. The gender that is known to keep their cool when catching a glimpse of skin other than facial from the opposite gender...
Men should be forced to wrap their penis is so many layers it is impossible for them to rape when they go out in public. That's a better idea. nobody wants to see dangly bits anyway.
I was explaining that when hiking alone, if theres a box to sign the trail ledger I always look to see who else is on the trail for safety and I mark my nickname, which is male sounding rather than my female name and they were like, “wait, so that if you hurt yourself there’s people around to help?”
No Jerry because even in the middle of the woods I’m still more statistically likely to get attacked by a man than a bear.
In my country it is recommended to sign in case something happens so mountain rescue service has more clues where to search for you.
Absolutly! No other reason than that luckily! But I think OP is from US.
Load More Replies...You shouldn't be hiking alone. Missing 411 notes how many people go missing in National Parks and forests
That was my thought. Even if you didn't have to worry about bad people, I can think of a dozen reasons why hiking solo isn't a great idea. Maybe I'm just a scaredy cat.
Load More Replies...This is really sad but true. I used to love solo hikes, walks, and runs but now I constantly feel like I have to watch my back.
A good percentage of all crimes are opportunistic, so a person might not go out hiking in order to attack someone but might still attack someone if they think they can. I don't hike but I think OP is saying she signs with a masculine version of her name (Alex for Alexandra for example) so that people walking after her don't know there is a woman on the path ahead of them.
Load More Replies...Oh my, reading these I realize I live in a very safe country. I seldom have to think about my or my kids safety outside of concept of accidents. The other day some hikers were sleeping in a tent and some dude came and took their backpack and ran away with several hikers chasing after him. It made the national news headlines, with a lot of hikers saying this is a very rare occurence and the backpacks owner wondering why he would steal it, as they had nothing valuable in there, mostly dirty clothes and some food after a long hike.
So she looks at the names on the ledger to decide how safe the trail is? Hmmm. There is so much wrong with this person's reasonings.
I agree with you, have my upvote to even you out! 👍🏻 I am a female, travelled the world as a single, young woman. Just don’t do it, if you are so scared you cannot enjoy yourself. It’s smart to be cautious, but some of these posts sound like you would have to expect a devouring man behind each corner or bush. And I‘m sorry to say: these posts sound a lot like the are from hysterical woman of the same country, ironically a country where weapons are an over-the-counter item to buy as soon you’re 18. But are only allowed to vote and drink alcohol when 21. God. I feel ashamed for that country, which I once called my home. 😓
Load More Replies...Carry, all the time. And get training...especially for the 2 legged wild animals.
We were very curious to learn about the inspiration behind the question on r/AskWomen, and the author of the thread was kind enough to tell us all about it.
"The thing that first brought up the question is a discussion I had with my partner over different experiences the opposite sex seems to be entirely unaware of," she shared.
"They were reading a post about how one man was uncomfortable with a woman applying a little makeup in an all-gendered bathroom to the point that he was avoiding that bathroom. It really showed me how out of touch a lot of people are with what most women go through on a daily basis," the OP explained to Bored Panda, adding that she also posed the same question on r/AskMen and thought that it was "a really solid comparison side by side."
While on vacation with my SO, I commented on how f****d up it is that I automatically brace myself anytime a man walks behind me while we were drinking at a bar. He honestly didn't know what I meant, and so I told him about all the times someone had treated my body as a free-for-all when I was out. It kind of shocked me that he wasn't aware of this, as he had worked security for bars for years.
A couple of years later he came home from work one night and told me he'd spotted a guy grabbing a woman's a*s in passing. He promptly took the guy outside, gave him a lecture and refused to let him back in. Later on he was relaying this to a bouncer at another bar, the same guy comes up with his friends, and my SO promptly refused him access to that bar as well.
Often the groping men are basically the same people that rant about immigrants because they are a danger to women. I'm so tired of this s**t 😔🙄
It's particularly vomit-inducing when they say, "they molest OUR women" 🤮🤮 What the actual f***
Load More Replies...A male friend was trying to tell me that I was a "one of" when I told him about all the times i have been grabbed by men and how young it started. I asked him if I was the only friend he had who had told him about stuff like this, he said "no". I asked him if he had ever asked any friends spesifically about this, he said "no". When I asked how he could be so sure about his opinion in light of that he just starred crickets at me.
I don't go because the music is s**t but this is a bonus.
Load More Replies...I was in Sam's Club with my husband who was in a different aisle, and got a butt grab. I'm 72 disabled and had my cane with me as well a pushing a cart. I turned around and it was a 30 - 40ish black guy. I backed him against a wall and loudly told him if you ever grab anyone's a*s again think of me. I cold cocked him and got a round of applause. Knocked him right out!
I had this happen to me when I was in the military, we were out at a bar and a guy in my unit did this and when I mentioned it the next day I was yelled at for mentioning it by my Platoon Sargeant. Took me years to understand that i had not de anything wrong.ctually going on.
I really screwed up with the editing but I'm pretty sure you get the gist.
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My 50 y/o male co-worker invited me (31F) to attend a salsa party with him.
I told him that I generally don’t go to places with a lot of men under the influence of alcohol without my fiancée because I don’t want to be dr*gged or SA’d.
He then asked me how I could be so arrogant to assume random men would be so interested in me that they’d go to these lengths to get with me.
When I responded: ‘I’ve had that happen to me more than once and I don’t want to go through that again’, he started asking me invasive questions about the incidents to determine if HE’d consider the things that happened to me assault.
I hit back with the most graphic trauma-dump of what happened to me and made him so uncomfortable that he had to step out for a bit.
He did end up apologizing for his behavior and we now just generally ignore each other.
You never owed him a reason to not attend with him but also I love that you put him in his place.
Part of me wants to normalize these stories because of men just like this. They don't realize how common it is. Nor do they realize how painful it is to remember what happened. It's like living it all over again. It sucks but we can't suffer in silence.
Load More Replies...Nearly got that same response from a dude I went out on a date with when I told him I wouldn't leave my drink in fear of someone putting something in it It's like no dude, I'm not arrogant, I'm scared. The fear of being SA'd is NEVER about assuming every man wants me, it's about how a man will see me as a vulnerable, easy target. It's about a man wanting control and wanting to abuse, not being attracted to me It pisses me off, and even the comments AOC got after she expressed she was afraid of being SA'd on Jan. 6
I've found the brutal truth is the best way to shut people up who don't respect boundaries. Mull on that you nosy...
Um, WHO'S arrogant? Glad he apologized and I hope he never says that c**p to another woman again.
So according to him, there are requirements for men to go to those lengths to get you??? WTF???
I once made the mistake of telling a male colleague that I didn't like a certain bar as it's always bad for SA (literally got grabbed 3 times in 1 night by different drunk guys) and he snort laughed in face and told me that wouldn't happen to me being that I'm ugly.Turns out its quite common for "plain" girls to be SA'd they're less likely to be believed. So attractive girls are "asking for it" and plain girls should be "grateful" or something....cant win either way, urgh.
Very little interest in a specific person is needed. Desperation is key. I worked at McDonald's when I was young, often Friday and Saturday nights. By the end of the night shift, at 3 or 4 in the morning, some guys were getting desperate to have SOME woman come home with them. By then we (the staff) were tired and sweaty and stinking of french fries grease, and the uniform was anything but alluring, but still some guy were asking if I wanted to go home with him most nights. They didn't know me, they only knew my name (due to the name-tag) and that I was a woman, that was all. It's not arrogance, it's experience.
The moment I say "I don't wanna go for fear of being SA" and the guy insists, I automatically assume that my fears were justified
One of my male doctors recently told me " you're 29 not 19 anymore" to explain my symptoms of extreme pain and fatigue among other things. Spoke to a female doctor next, She suspects it's fibromyalgia.
We should normalize just taking patient concerns about their own health seriously. Like do your effing job Dr AHole.
Not to forget: Give women the procedures they want. If they want a hysterectomy, just do it, no "what if you met a man who wants kids?" BS. If she regrets it later that´s on her, not the doc.
Load More Replies...It’s not just male doctors. It took an additional year to be diagnosed with endometriosis because the female doctor who took over maternity leave for my usual GP was convinced periods always hurt. She insisted that sudden onset pain during periods in my 40s was merely “nature” catching up with me. I know I was fortunate to have had mostly pain free periods before that. Lucky me, I got migraines once a month instead of cramping. Endo redefined my scale of “how much does this hurt?” I recently had an ulcerated cornea. A literal hole in my eye that was also infected, and the nurse was shocked when I said it’s a 4-5. I said, I’m not puking or passing out, nor am I crawling on my knees to my bed. That is what 10 looks like!
I don't know what it is about our gynos and Obg-yns. The last one I went to couldn't understand why didn't have my clothes off and gown in less than 10 seconds. She didn't even close the door all the way and quickly chatted with someone just outside the door. Then after the examination, she was feeling around my stomach and rib cage. Said something doesn't feel right and scheduled me in for a CT scan at 6:30 IN THE MORNING, and had the gall to say come in with a full bladder and drink 1 glass of water for 7 hours before coming in. So no getting any sleep, with a one month old baby to look after and having to deal with painfully full bladder while figuring out how to get down there during a time of no bus service. I asked what was wrong or what she thought wasn't right but she refused to say. I didn't take it seriously and didn't bother going. That was 21 years ago. I still don't know what she was going on about or trying to do to me.
Load More Replies...True, I’m 37 and my leg just fell off. It’s all a normal part of the ageing process
Wait, I’m 41 but my leg hasn’t fallen off yet. Does that mean they’re BOTH going to fall off at the same time when I hit 45?! D:
Load More Replies...I think it just was an idiot, not a male/female dif. When I had big headaches, two neurologist said that at my age (26 at that time) it's a migraine and I will have them always now. (I had a tumor in brain)
In studies involving 100s of doctors, the doctors are given the same information about patients but one is male and one is female. The results show doctors give different diagnoses based on sex. This can kill if it means women don't get treatment e.g for heart attacks.
Load More Replies...The medical field is too much male-orientated... They are finding out more these days that the female body actually works differently, sometimes.
For anyone who wishes to understand more, read Doing Harm by Maya Dusenbery. Conditions affecting women don't get researched and drugs aren't tested for effectiveness on women (same problems for all people not white men).
Load More Replies...Fibromyalgia is a terrible "invisible" and painful ailment. I hope OP gets the help she needs.
Everyone needs to remind doctors they are PRACTICING medicine, with practice being the main word!
Love that! 👍🏻 Cool, I just realize in my language here, this idiom applies to ALL professions!
Load More Replies...When it comes to fibro, you have to find a doctor that's literate on the disease, and they're not easy to come by. I suffered with it for 12 years. When I finally got a fibro literate doctor by total chance, he was amazed no one had diagnosed me yet. He said mine was the most severe case he's ever seen. Yet in 12 years, none of my doctors - and there were many - figured it out.
In my experience with fibro, if you can afford "practitioners" who don't take insurance, they will refer you to every one of their doctor buddies in town and each will tell you "don't take no for an answer, keep trying," while giving each other referral fees. Then when the money runs out regular primary care physicians hate treating us and simply refuse to. I've been told every abusive thing you can imagine by doctors, just because of that diagnosis and childhood history of abuse and neglect. I'm 47, just treat me like a human with a very real problem, because that's what it is. Good luck to you. You'll be tempted to let them get away with not helping, even in shock till you get home, but stand up for yourself. Exercise is not the answer for us, it can be dangerous. There is no simple fix, but the pain and fatigue are very real and often disabling. I wish even one doctor told me to prepare for that.
As a fellow fibro sufferer this sounds awful! Every time I read something about healthcare in America I'm insanely grateful for the nhs. Getting diagnosed for me was fairly simple, my gp has been good at trying different meds but I've decided just to go med free and only take painkillers when it's bad as I hated the side effects. It's not the perfect system but it's so much easier than what you're describing which must be awful to deal with on top of everything else fibro comes with.
Load More Replies...If this was in the USA...I am sure there was a pregnancy test and then the "this is normal for women" conversation as well.
Yes, when it happened to me the first doctor, a woman, told me to just get pregnant "because then you won't be thinking of yourself too much."
Load More Replies...Meanwhile, we were interested in getting the Reddit user's take as to why so many guys seem to have a very warped understanding of the female experience.
"I think men have plenty of misconceptions about women because unless you go through the biological changes and experience the culture around women, it’s truly impossible to understand," u/astandre1 said.
"There’s so much that goes on and there’s so much more depth behind each action and perspective than what most men assume."
My ex-bf was convinced that if a woman miscarried a child, it was because she didn't truly want it on some deep down level. I still get so mad thinking back to that moment.
Megaloden Meg, I'm so very sorry to hear that. Hugs Honey !!
Load More Replies...There is an idiot priest here who publicly declared, a few years ago, that "if you are raped and get pregnant, it means you actually liked being raped and consented to it". The idiot teaches theology at the university. Gosh, it's so good to stay away from the church.
There was an idiot politician, Todd Akin, who thought the same. He claimed that if you got pregnant through r*pe, the body has a way of "just shutting that thing down," meaning that pregnancy indicated it wasn't a genuine rape. Then he apologised for the comment after the inevitable backlash for his ignorance, and then he withdrew the apology.
Load More Replies...My ex thought I miscarried bc I stayed on my anti-depressant. My psychiatrist was like-if that was true abortion clinics would be out of business. Made me feel so much better.
I've had 3 miscarriages, even though I really wanted to get pregnant. Al lot of women I know have miscarried at least once, it is more common than most people think. My husband supported me every single time and was dealing with his own hurt too. I found it heartbreaking to see there was more support (from.work, for example) for myself than for my husband. Yes, it happened to my body but it was also his future and his dream.
To end the story on a positive note; we now have 3 beautiful boys! And we can honestly say our family is now complete..:)
Load More Replies...Men have so many opinions about pregnancy, all of which they should keep to themselves
It never ceases to amaze me how creatively ignorant some people are. The mental gymnastics to form that conclusion is impressive.
That is effed up. My best friend went through a miscarriage and was in therapy for years because of it. Happy to say she eventually had her Rainbow baby :) This guy sounds like a Republican. They sure know a lot about female bodies.
I Like your comment! 👍🏻 especially the Republican part of it! 😂
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Once a man said, “isn’t it hilarious when the Uber driver has to wake you up when they drop you off?”
And I said, “yeah I don’t know of any woman who thinks falling asleep in an Uber is ever an option.”
He said, “oh wow never thought about that”
I had a taxi driver ask if he could kiss me once when I was in my early twenties. I got out of the car as fast as possible and called the cops.
there is a cab service in Israel, only female drivers, and only female passengers, very popular from what I hear
As an Uber driver, I've had several women fall asleep in the back of my car.
Frankly, I would never trust any stranger to drive me around while I'm asleep, and I'm male. In general, I trust most people are good, but not to that extent, it only takes one bad person. And for that matter I don't trust Uber, Lyft, ... Again, a stranger that hasn't be vetted by anybody. At least a taxi driver has to follow laws set out for them. The big argument these companies make to get around paying taxes and such is that they are just hooking up private parties. To me this the same as asking "Do you trust hitchhiking?".
“Why did it suddenly have to be because of a man?” My boyfriend’s response to me being mad that a co-worker dismissed the same idea from her entire team (all women), our boss (a woman), myself (a woman) yet accepted it as gospel from the first male who said the exact same thing directly after I said it. My response was telling him what happened and him saying, “maybe she just needed to hear it four or five times, or the way he said it, or maybe just maybe she needed it said in a less b****y tone”.
No, no sir woman everywhere get their ideas dismissed then when men repeat those ideas they are accepted. It happens ALL THE TIME!
Can confirm, as a man. I don't know how many times I've said to a male coworker, something like "Yeah, that's a great idea Bob, and it was great when Alice said it less than a minute ago."
Yup, can confirm. Quite recently, I solved a major problem at work and two men, independently from each other, claimed that they did it. When I vocalized that it was me that found the cause and repaired it, the male boss thanked the men about it and totally discarded me. And this is not an isolated incident. Now when I start to think about it, I get more and more convinced that it is time to look for other opportunities. Yeah.
Hello Fairytails From Other Worlds, I hope God blesses you with a more interesting job, a better boss, and definitely a giant pay raise.
Load More Replies...When a guy does this to me I respond with something like "Hey Bob, yeah that's great, I'm glad you were able to grasp my concept so quickly"
My partner does this. I'll point something out, crickets. A day or so later, he brings it up like "listen to this!" I always say "Yep, I told you all about that. Yesterday." All the goldarn time. Smh...
And shocked face when they're called out on it. Other men judging you for pettiness when if the roles were reversed the man would be seen as claiming due credit and clearing g his name.
All the effing time. Even with my loving husband. Hold on, ladies. Raise your voices.
And I'd bet your "boyfriend's " done the same idea grabbing himself.
I mean, he was literally dismissing your words in front of you. Start repeating things to him five or six times every single time. I mean, he has just set the precedent that the only reason people get ignored is they don't say it often enough.
Meanwhile, the redditor shared her thoughts on what guys could do if they're feeling shy or embarrassed to learn more about women's issues.
"The easiest way for a lot of men to learn is strictly by asking. If you’re too shy to ask, then dive deeper into some posts by women and read through the comments. Do NOT rely on the info in male-dominated subreddits," Reddit user u/astandre1 suggested.
"Women are very complex creatures and one size does not fit all, but many women are very open about their experiences and they often appreciate when others try to be respectful and understanding of their experience."
I always talk about how I love the city at night and how I wish I could take midnight walks. A dear friend said "why don't you?" and when I pointed out how dangerous it was his reply was "just don't take your phone, then you don't have to worry about being robbed!" :D
Ah yes being robbed is at the top on my list 🤦🏼♀️
Load More Replies...Hint: when someone, especially someone with different lived experience than you - gender, ethno cultural background, orientation, etc, says they can't do something. Get curious as to why they don't think they can, rather than explaining how you do it
True. Many great travel destinations look different if u are a different enthic /different in anyway.
Load More Replies...Being robbed is not my main concern. I would gladly give all my money and my phone when that means I can walk away with my life and not get raped...
Definitely. I don't even feel safe just outside my home at night.
Load More Replies...I guess this one depends one where you live. I've always felt safe alone at night in any UK city including London. Yes, there's always a small chance you'll run into someone dangerous- as the news will tell you again and again, but in such a large city its such a small chance. Men are stabbed at random by a gang 10 times more often than women. Just remember girls that fear-mongering is just another way to try and keep us down. I'm never going to feel unsafe in my own city,it's my city and I can walk at midnight if I want, regardless of which type of genitalia I have between my legs.
Every 2 minutes a woman in the us is raped (sorry I don’t know the number for other countries)
Load More Replies...And leave your boôbs and genitals at home, too, that way you dont have to worry about getting harassed/râped! :D (Not ignoring that man get râped, too)
It‘s not about female genitals!!! Rape is more about suppression, power and some sick kind of pleasure in feeling superior. It rarely has to do with the sexual act of penetration. That just a „tool“. Learn your posture, a strong, straight walk, don’t walk alone when drunk - you should be safe in most areas, trust me.
Load More Replies...Wouldn’t it be nice if robbery was all women had to be worried about?
Well, the good thing about this is, there are a lot of men out there that do not understand, because they would never think of treating a woman that way themselves.
And they don't help. They also design and maintain areas that make things more dangerous for women. They need to think, read and get curious.
Load More Replies...I didn’t have a cell phone in my early twenties. Travelled the world solo and never got sexually assaulted by a stranger. Don’t act like prey, then you won’t be prey. Learnd that from an ex police officer, teaching self Defence classes for women. Best tip I ever got for traveling. I felt more harassed by a former supervisor of mine, who wouldn’t stop flirting with me, even though I made it clear I wasn‘t interested. Looking back, that might have been his trigger…
Load More Replies...Just don't take your vagina then you don't have to worry about getting r@$ped
i asked to go to the bathroom at school and the teacher said no. i told him i was on my period and “no” was not an option. this DUDE told me to f*****g hold it. “yOu CaN hOlD iT tIlL cLaSs Is OvEr” SIR that’s not how that works. i just left lmao but like??? seriously?? dude was married too… his poor wife
My heart hurts for OP that so much explaining was even necessary. Such a violation to have to share so much :(
Wow, pretty much this exact scenario happened to me in high school. My male teacher denied me the hall pass to use the bathroom. I went anyway because obviously I can't control it and when I returned to the classroom he sent me down to the principals office. I ended up speaking with our assistant principal who is a female and she was more than understanding. It was kinda funny because she had no idea who I was. It was my sophomore year and I was quiet and never got in trouble until then. I told my Dad what happened when I got home, he had already spoke with the assistant. Principal who called him and explained what happened and a meeting was setup for the next day. My Dad went off on this teacher, who was known to be a sexist dìck, he literally was on the verge of tears. It was awesome, it was so hard for me not to smile. The teacher was sent home, on a Thurs and told not to return until Mon. He returned only slightly a jerk the rest of the semester, but he never denied the bathroom ag
I’d go and bleed all over the teacher’s chair and see how he liked it. (No I wouldn’t really, but I’d want to)
had a similar situation that eventually resulted in my being sent to the dean of students and my mom being called in. won't get into the whole thing but after speaking with my mom the dean, who was a man, was so embarassed that his face matched his burgundy colored jacket. mom had been polite and professional and i was in awe watching her defend my actions with perfect calm while he squirmed in his chair.
I've told all of my children that you don't ask to go to the bathroom. You tell them. If there is a policy of only 2 kids out at a time or something, then respect that because the school is responsible to keep track of you. But if they say no and there is no reason? Just walk out and go. I'll handle the fallout
I was once on the phone with my husband as I visited a gas station, at night. I had to go into the convenience store, and I don’t remember why but I said something about locking my car doors on the way in.
Him: “You lock the car doors just to run into the convenience store?”
Me: “Yeah…?”
Him: “Are you leaving your purse in the car or something?”
Me: “No…I lock them so I don’t have to worry about some guy slipping into the backseat and hiding while I’m gone.”
He was shocked that I do that. He said he’d literally never thought such a thing in his life.
Sigh…
I have them locked if I'm just sitting in the car.
Load More Replies...My mom told me when I was young enough to drive that I should never get into my car without looking in the back seat before entering, and to always have a light on my keychain so I could check and see.
Yep. I can confirm this happens as it did to me. It was very cold out and in my haste to get inside I didn't lock my doors. The ONE time I didn't take precautions.
You are obviously alive, but I hope nothing else happened to you!
Load More Replies...Nah in my country we lock our doors on our cars at all times simply because if you turn your back the car will be gone.
Why the sigh? Isn't it refreshing that a man has never thought of doing that to a woman?
Man, I miss my Doberman. Never had to worry about anything when he was in the car with me.
This isn’t to say that all guys are ignorant or that only men can have these sorts of misconceptions about important but basic questions. There are plenty of well-educated, supportive men out there. And gender has nothing to do with a person’s unwillingness to educate themselves and be more empathetic.
However, this doesn’t change the fact that there are many issues that plague women in the world today. And guys getting better education about female anatomy and women’s issues could be the first step toward solving these problems. Living in a bubble of ignorance is no way to go through life.
I was in a crowded area near my family, holding a drink. I asked my mom to keep an eye on my drink for me. My dad blurts out, “do you really think someone is going to steal it?” Smh.
I’m 62, and drugging drinks was a concern when I was young too. So yes, unless mom lived in a shielded and protected bubble her entire life, she knew.
Load More Replies...This really shouldn't happen. Humans suck. Even as a male I always hold my drink with my hand over it and if I've got a beer bottle I keep my finger over the mouthpiece so I don't get drugged again. I cannot begin to imagine what it's like for women when they're trying to have a nice time out with friends or even alone.
Dad worked as a bartender in the 1950's. He taught me to discard any drink I left when I went to the bathroom. That would have been in the 1970's. This unfortunately is not a new problem. If you see something say something.
Oh I have a doozey, the other day I was chatting with a male acquaintance and he was talking about his female housemate and how she dressed. His words were "she's got a large chest and she wears these low cut dresses, shes got to expect men to come up and say hello" he went on to say a few more things that basically equated to 'if you dress a certain way you get treated a certain way.
My jaw dropped, had to explain to him how having a cleavage doesn't give anyone the right to do or say anything and how men need to control themselves. Explaining to a fully grown man that a piece of clothing is not consent and them being surprised by that in this day and age is just freaking shocking
Why is that men are never taught to control themselves? Why is this not a thing?
My parents went a step further. I was taught about how we own our emotions, feelings and urges. We all get to choose how we approach life. I don’t have to control an urge to SA anyone because I never feel it. Ain’t it odd that it’s talked about in terms of controlling yourself, that makes it sound like men have to constantly suppress something that shouldn’t even be there in the first place. I don’t control a murder urge or a run someone over with my car urge, that’s because I don’t have them. Why can’t we teach from a young age that women (and people in general) are to be respected, full stop?
Load More Replies...I'd also like to point out that having a large bust will make almost any top/dress appear lower cut as the fabric has to stretch to accommodate. So what would look conservative on an average sized bust, would look lower on a large busted person
Well, if you think ladies are asking for it, you should watch this: https://youtu.be/JO-HI1hGcpM?si=0FV7aDO_OYMEUciO Actually, you should watch it anyways 🤗
Just watched it, have shared it with everyone - if only it worked that way!
Load More Replies...My favorite topic... LOL. I am rather chesty. And I wear low cut tops and things that accentuate my chest. One reason is it distracts from my general size, but more that ... they are GREAT intelligence detectors. If a man can look me in the face for more than 1/2 our conversation, he is worth talking to. If all he does is stare - moron- move on. ALL men will look , unless they are blind or dead, it is the nature of the "beast" ( even gay men). But realize I am more than a milk factory - The sad part (for me) they are mostly sensation free, I get more erotic feeling from my elbow.
Lol, are you dolly Parton? I read an interview with her. She said when she went into business meetings she would say "ok boys, you got 5 minutes to look, then it's down to brass tacks"
Load More Replies...I thought judges blaming rape victims for their "seductive attire" appalling back in the early 70's. That men still harbor this view of women a half a century later is devastating.
Men should control themselves. But I hate to say it ladies and I have to say it, a lot of men can not do not and will not. So while I agree you should wear whatever you want, just protect yourselves. I just realized yesterday that there is literally an entire third of this country that wants women enslaved. If not more.
The first time a disgusting old creep felt entitled to touch my butt, I was 10 years old, wearing a Sesame Street sweater and dungarees, and had no idea what s** even was. It's not about clothing. The only way to "protect ourselfs" would be to get every man who "can not, do not, or will not" get neutered. Along with his parents if they are not willing to teach their boys they are the only ones fully responsibles for their own actions and to control themselves. (Edit for grammar.)
Load More Replies...women internalize this misogynistic view too. i was SHOCKED when my colleague said something about how one of her students dressed. We are university profs. i told her maybe she shouldn't judge women and their intentions by clothing. i asked her why she cared. her face....😶
Also, when you have big boobs, everything short of a burlap sack shows them off. I’m not trying to show off my body, I’m just wearing clothes.
That's not even accurate about what he thinks. XD I wore a pretty low wrap shirt today at the mall. No men came up to me. No men looked, that I was aware of. Not that I was wearing it for attention. I just really like the top and went to a nail salon feeling like that lady on The Nanny. (Can't remember her name)
There was article on some website, where they announced that newest fashion trend are denim shorts. A lot of comments under article was from grown men, basically: "Women can't complain about being groped if they wear this"
Well then, those same men shouldn't complain about being rugby tackled in the street if they wear a rugby jersey.
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My ex genuinely thought our kids were all boys because they were planned and wanted.
Apparently unwanted or unplanned pregnancies are always girls.
Go figure.
I learned my EX did not realize that the sperm chromosome determines gender...he blamed me for wanting a girl. Apparently, I was able to decide the gender of the baby simply with my thoughts. UGH!
Hey, so he’s just like Henry VIII! Blaming the female for the baby’s gender XD
Load More Replies...That's how China wound up with a shortage of women. Gender selective abortion. Idiots.
My mum told me that no woman wants a girl child - it's the worst thing that can happen - I'm female
The United Nations notes that one in three women will experience violence in their lifetime. However, since the Covid-19 pandemic, violence, especially domestic violence, has intensified.
“At home, survivors of domestic violence may be trapped with their abuser, with limited access to support services, healthcare and justice systems. And in public, women are at heightened risks of violence navigating deserted public spaces and transportation,” UN Women explains.
Another glaring issue is the gender pay gap. One area where it’s especially prominent is the health workforce, standing at around 28 percent. The UN points out that once occupation and working hours are accounted for, the gender pay gap is around 11 percent.
My brother legitimately thought women could walk into an obgyn to get a hysterectomy whenever we want if we don't want kids. Lmao
This is mildly wholesome because he thought we all had body autonomy.
Cute, isn't it? I am 51 years old with 2 fibroid tumors attached to my uterus the size of tennis balls that cause me to bleed to the point of having to wear adult diapers that I STILL bleed through even 15 seconds after putting it on due to gushing. Not to mention the anemia, pain, and utter exhaustion. AND THE DOCTORS STILL WANT TO KNOW IF I JUST DON'T WANT TO WAIT FOR MENOPAUSE. I hate this whole debacle.
Load More Replies...No, you don't. Hysterectomy isn't the standard practice to get women sterilized. It's the tubes tying. Hysterectomy is obviously still done, but for medical reasons (cancer, prolapse...). But tying the tubes is an easier and safer surgery, so if you don't want children, it's what you get
Load More Replies...Yeah right. My daughter was 26 had 4 biological children and 2 step children and they wouldn't tie her tubes. The doctor said she was too young and might change her mind🤬 And boom her comes number 5 kid a year later when they already couldn't afford the ones they had. So stupid
My husband wants to have a vasectomy but was told by hus doctor hè haha to wait a minimum of a year after the birth of our son. Our family is complete but doctors think otherwise??
My (male) gynecologist only asked me why it should be me, undergoing an operation, since it will be a much less drastic procedure on a man. He totally got my explanation that it was me, who did not want to carry another child (due to complications on both previous pregnancies that he was not aware off) and that I wanted my husband to be able to have more children in case there would be a time where I was not there anymore. (Accidents and deadly illnesses at a young age are not that common, but are enough of a real thing to make this choice.)
Kinda like some think women can voluntarily and precisely control our menses like a light switch or on/off button.
I was riddled with fibroids which put me in the hospital once a month for years, and I had to go through lots of interviews with doctors to get one!
Just the word "hysterectomy" should be abolished. It was coined at a time when Doctors thought PMS or any emotional expression a women emitted was referred to as "female hysteria" and that removing her uterus was a cure for this supposed "diagnoses". Just the fact this term "hysterectomy" has not changed says a lot about how the medical field still views women.
What if you want kids, but you don't want your rapist's kids? BP is so censoring the R-word.
And yet they didn't. I think they must have changed the system somehow, I've seen a couple uncensored f-bombs the last day or two, and it let me get away with 'cocky' at one point too.
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That my breasts “weren’t that big” when I was talking about getting a reduction. Dude, you don’t get to decide what is “too big”.
My late wife had breast reduction as soon as we were married and had the insurance sorted. She had the typical back pain, bra strap divots on her shoulders, the whole deal. Medical insurance fought the entire time. "Cosmetic surgery. " My damp a*s! The woman was in pain!
My damp a*s is my new favourite expression of disgust!
Load More Replies...Like boobs are just an aesthetic thing for them, not an actually part of your anatomy.
Ever wonder if men had to deal with the pain that comes with oversized glands they would be supporting this? I mean, really, if they could not close their legs or even sit comfortably?!
My plastic surgeon had me cross my arms under my breasts and lift up. If he could see my shoulders relax from the lack of weight, I qualified to have the surgery covered. That's it. Size was irrelevant. WEIGHT was the matter. And going from an I to a C was freaking AMAZING.
Unfortunately, what you and your doc deem to be qualified, some a*****e suit at a desk in a cubicle trying to maximize shareholder profits says "NO!" It's disgusting. (for a lot of people with many ailments as well.)
Load More Replies...Honestly, I don't know how women do it. If I put anything heavier than a paperclip into the breast pocket of my shirt I *hate* it, so I would never question anyone who wanted/got a breast reduction 😅
My friend's doctor didn't want her to have breast reduction. She said, "You told me to lose weight. That would be 50 pounds right there!" She said his expression was priceless.
To each their own, but I don't know why women would want bigger boobs. They are heavy, uncomfortable when running or jogging, or doing anything that involves vertical movements, they make it hard to stand straight, and they can make it hard to breath when laying on your back, as my very, naturally endowed daughter has been experiencing. Men, imagine having very large scrotums and trying to do daily tasks, relaxing how you want and exercising. Sure, for one minute you'll be gloating, but by the end of the day you'll see how impractical it is. This isn't to make anyone feel bad. I just know it isn't all that great to have.
Was discussing breast cancer with my friends and partner at time (luckily, he's my ex for utterly different reasons. Single mum and a sister, he gets it). I love my boobs, even if I moan about the size (34G UK sizing), yet if I got told I had breast cancer, I'd be asking the doctor when can we cut them off. A random guy got upset about me saying that, "not a good enough reason to get rid of boobs so amazing". He also expected my ex to agree with him, instead he got "I'd rather see her with a flat chest, scaring and oh, actually be alive than have boobs to stick my head on"
I told two friends (a husband and wife) about catching a plumber looking through my dresser drawer. They both looked aghast, and then the guy said "I hate it when people touch my stuff! Like, somebody at work moved my lunch and I got super upset."
The look the wife and I shared said a thousand words.
With a few more swear words and a "WTF is wrong with some people?"
Load More Replies...Totally relatable! The OP may have been storing their lunch in their underwear drawer.
I think I want you doing stand-up comedy. Seriously, your humor made me LOL.
Load More Replies...How much worse if he takes a photo of your applesauce and then goes home to jack off to it...?
We had a house appraiser--a woman--go through my dresser drawers. She also noted there was only one bed and wanted to know where "the other one" slept.
I find myself grasping to figure out what she was fishing for, did she believe you had a partner?
Load More Replies...In middle school we had a washer repairman come to our home. When he was done and talking to us in the kitchen. I looked at his toolbox and a pair of my mother's panties were poking out of it.
In some parts of the world, women and girls also have less access to education and technology. Meanwhile, in many places, even working women are still expected to do the lion’s share of the housework and childcare. Not only that, they have to deal with period poverty and stigma.
“In some parts of the world, they are seen as dirty, untouchable, or a disgrace. Whether it’s a lack of money to buy pads, tampons, or other products, access to toilets, or discriminatory laws and practices, women and girls, especially the world’s poorest, are deeply impacted by their periods,” the UN explains.
When I was talking to my family about how r***s are happening more often in our country, being 71,6% of them of girls under 13, my stepdad said "but today girls that age are very promiscuous, wearing inappropriate clothes and offering themselves to men" I was baffled and so angry I just said "have you ever been in touch with a kid that age? it's literally a child, that's horrible to say" but I just wanted to cuss him out
PROJECTION! He's a rapist apologist because he thinks 13yo girls are attractive. WTAF?
My father had a saying ( he died when I was 5) " there is no such thing as rape, a woman can run with her skirt up faster than a man with his pants down." ( he was a pillar of the community and was going to run for mayor of a rather wealthy town.) To be honest I am REALLY glad I never knew him
Wow, that's the most disgusting thing I've ever heard!
Load More Replies...Girls can wear ANYTHING they want, that is NOT an invitation for anyone to speak to, look at or act inappropriately! If a man can't control his urges, he needs to see a Dr/Psychiatrist. It is 100% a man's problem not the child or woman's problem.
But until all those men see a Dr/psychiatrist it's women's unfortunate reality to need to be ready to deal with the man's problem. Self defense classes, ladies! If your gym or YMCA/YWCA doesn't offer them, check with your local police dept or women's advocacy center. Or Planned Parenthood. Or maybe carry a small Mace container in your hand. Tai Chi classes teach movements that can be used in self-defense even if the classes are mainly taken for balance and exercise.
Load More Replies...I would be looking at my stepdad with a side-eye. How did he utter those words regarding a child?
A few years back I challenged one of my uncles who thought it was perfectly alright for a forty or fifty year old man to date a 16 year old girl... He justified it by claiming it's no big deal as it's legal. I stated that legal does not equate to moral. I was utterly disgusted by him and will never forget that conversation.
Sadly that’s something my dad would say as well, and he is honestly a really good man, but some of these ideas are so ingrained I doubt he’ll ever really understand the reality.
I suppose normal men who have never entertained the thought of raping anyone must think that rapists are men who lose control at the sight of a beautiful woman, when actual rapists rape because of a power fantasy and not the victim's looks.
Load More Replies...Failed school ? How would he feel ifvavguy grabbed his 6alls anytime they walked past?
Often appreciate him, but Biden was talking about the dangers that black men face - a totally valid issue. But he said, incredulously, heartfelt, "Can you imagine not feeling safe walking down the street?!?" Sir, have you ever met a woman?
Just gonna cover up a comment from someone who is too delusional to realize that 100% of the people who voted for The Orange One don’t believe he could say racist (or sexist/misogynistic) things. And judging by that person’s comment’s tone, they voted for The Orange One :)
Trump has clearly been racist for is whole life.
Load More Replies...in the context it makes perfect. sense. He was talking to most of America. Which have many vapid and ignorant people watching him. I'm sure he understands this but in the context of the speech it was about black men and their clearly obvious levels of being targets of the police and ignorant white people. This post does not belong here. Not every comment has to cover every possible eventuality. by the same token, you can say "have you ever met abandoned children? Have you ever met trafficked humans?" I mean I understand the sentiment OP is going for but its a real stretch here.
Exactly. And if he was trying to reach particular audience he would be addressing white males, as for them he can speak for.
Load More Replies...I was watching The Hate U Give and the whole set up is a young white cop alone on patrol shoots a young black man thinking he is reaching in his car for a gun, and what he is reaching for is put on his seat by a girl that he is driving home so that she wont be raped... Humans have messed up bad.
It is an excellent, excellent book. If you liked the movie, I also suggest reading one of Angie Thomas' other books, On The Come Up, and the absolutely heartbreaking and brilliant Anger Is A Gift by Mark Oshiro
Load More Replies...My husband didn't get it until I told him. All the things we do daily to make sure we are safe.
Leaving a big box store and our car was parked far away. My husband asked why I got out my keys so soon. Had to explain the habit.
Load More Replies...A few biden quotes for ya; “Well, I tell you what, if you have a problem figuring out whether you’re for me or Trump, then you ain’t black.” — “You got the first mainstream African American who is articulate and bright and clean and a nice-looking guy. I mean, that’s a storybook, man.” (That’s in reference to President Obama.) — “Unlike the African-American community, with notable exceptions, the Latino community is an incredibly diverse community with incredibly diverse attitudes about different things.” — “In Delaware, the largest growth in population is Indian-Americans moving from India. You cannot go to a 7-Eleven or a Dunkin’ Donuts unless you have a slight Indian accent.” Biden also fought against desegregating schools in the 70s.
Shiiiiit, even driving thru some neighborhoods scare the c**p out of me. Hence my concealed 9 mil
Load More Replies...Yes I can imagine that. In fact, I don't even have to imagine-it's a shared lived experience.
My cousin, who didn't grow up near livestock or barn cats or guard dogs and isn't a woman, tried to tell me that human women experience pain during childbirth because of Eve's original sin, but that animals do not. I, who DID grow up near livestock and barn cats and guard dogs and am myself a woman who has given birth, pointed the aforementioned life experiences out and laughed in his face. Ever seen a mama cow push a calf out? She definitely feels that s**t.
Cats often purr when giving birth, not because they're enjoying it, but because it's a self-soothing mechanism.
My neighbor, from another country, took videos of his poor dog giving birth. She was in a lot of pain and crying the whole time. He never said a soothing word or even touched her, just kept filming. I was crying for her from next door.
That is giving some seriously creepy vibes.... Why would you want to video something like that?
Load More Replies...Ah yes, the basis of Christianity. Everything bad that happens to humans is women's fault because Eve "made" Adam eat a GD apple.
Because , apparently Adam was incapable or too stupid to decide for himself to eat the apple or not
Load More Replies...Ridicule farm folk for being dumb local-yokels all you want, but we know more about life than most suburbanites buying their plastic-wrapped meat.
While they're blaming things on Eve (Whose sin was listening to a snake?) Which I feel like they like to do. Does anyone admit that it was a man who invented jealous RAGE FILLED MURDER ???? (cough, cough CAIN, cough, cough)
I'm guessing that your cousin has never been near a human woman as well.
Guys who embrace a healthy understanding of masculinity are more aware of women's issues and more open to having their own values and views challenged. They're also much more in tune with their emotions, choosing open and honest communication instead of repressing their feelings like someone who follow toxic masculine values might do.
Went on a date with a guy in the medical field. He told me that because mitosis (the process of cells separating) is an involuntary process, growing and birthing a baby really isn’t that much effort for women. He also believed that women and men put in the same amount of effort for the birthing of a child.
By "in the medical field" I hope he meant that he was the janitor at a doctors office, as that's all he's qualified to do.
Again, he can do it then. Scary AF he's in the medical field and is so ignorant.
When you say he was "in the medical field" I really hope that means something like a cleaner at the hospital or a receptionist at a medical centre.
Was just talking to a nurse about this, one thing she found, after she had her son, she could no longer go on the carnival rides she loved. It is a "small" thing, but just one more thing to realize that being pregnant changes our bodies permanently.
Perhaps TMI but my lady parts couldn’t handle sex the same way - it took years to not feel (for lack of a better phrase) so tight and shallow
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Toward the end of what had been up to that point a very positive job interview (he was actually offering me the job), “well I’m glad to hear you just got married so you don’t have to support yourself. I can offer you $x for the position.” I told him I wasn’t taking a pay cut to work for him.
I’m thinking women should all be recording their job interviews, and then social media shaming these people and their companies when c**p like this happens.
It's not always legal to record conversations. It's not legal in my state (USA).
Load More Replies...This is discrimination. Take that offer to a lawyer and SUE that place.
I had a boss once tell me I didn't get as big a raise as someone else because I was single and didn't have a family to support. This was back in the '80's.
Good question woukd have been if he also cuts pay when female workers marry,
Several male friends have asked me recently why I will only go running when it's light out. They are also very confused by why I don't have earphones in when I go hiking.
It's not so much the confusion that bothers me, it's when I explain but they really just don't get it. I am met with disbelief.
Who wears earphones while hiking? Half the fun of hiking is the quiet and the nature sounds
I hate hiking but I agree. Running or walking I understand because the sounds are just of cars and people talking, but nature sounds are beautiful
Load More Replies...Ok I will say this, there are also other dangers when hiking, that wearing noise suppressors is NOT a good idea. Depending on the area, there are wild animals that will attack if you ignore the warnings. And what about that faint call for help, that you would have missed if you were engrossed in your tunes? And of a brighter note - it is very funny to be beeped at and buzzed by a hummingbird when you are in it's territory.
Or circling a parking lot looking for a space closer to the door and being called lazy. Yeah, that's the reason.
Ask them to hide their bodies and dress as women on a run. Just once.
I am a guy and I don't wear earphones often. I like to hear my surroundings and be aware.
There's a wonderful podcast called Nocturne, and it's about things (any thing) that happen at night, everything from bird migration patterns to kayaking the pacific from California to Hawai'i, and one episode was dedicated to the things women WOULD do at night IF they could. Part of the 'cast was the host talking to men who were complete gobsmacked by the women's reality, a way of thinking they'd never even had to consider. I recommend this episode to anyone interested in this topic. The most common responses from women were very simple things, like taking a walk through my neighborhood, or hiking a trail alone.
I've worked for a company that had a group that ran regularly in a nearby park with a bad reputation. It was a sh*tty company but I have to say, when jogging, they always made sure that at least one man wss with running with the woman.
I was telling a male friend of mine about how I was in an elevator and this creepy guy got on and how uncomfortable I was. My friend then just loudly exclaimed "OMG you're not the raving beauty that you think you are!".
100% It's one of the reasons it happens to children so often.
Load More Replies...I'm seeing a disturbing trend I never fully appreciated... That men seem to think sexual assault is vanity. Which explains a lot of why men seem to think we should be complimented by creepy behavior
Every woman I know knows inappropriate behaviour from men. Assaults, "just remarks"... Many different stories... Short girls, tall girls, skinny girls, busty girls, overweight girls... I was once attacked by a weird guy when I looked like underage teen in big brother's clothes... It was winter and I loved oversize warm layers of clothes. I managed to escape thanks mostly to many layers of my clothes...
I'm sure the many retirement-aged women who have been violently raped didn't think of themselves as "raving beauties...." SA is a crime of opportunity and power and has very little to do with physical attractiveness
"And you are neighter as smart or observant as you obviously think you are, so maybe dont talk before you know what you are talking about.."
I'd follow that up with a swift kick in the groin or where the sun don't shine. ... Or both.
Load More Replies...The problem I have with this is that OP isn't referring to this piece of sh!t as her EX-friend.
You think the creep cares? (Not meant in an offensive way, all people are beautiful in their own ways)
My dad said, in reference to the scene in Barbie where her a*s is slapped at the beach, that no man does that/no woman has that done to them, and that it was a major over-exaggeration. I had to leave the room I was so deeply angry.
He has witnessed me being verbally sexually harassed since I was 12.
I'm a homosexual man and random guys have slapped MY a*s. Some men just don't understand or willingly refuse to understand boundaries. People need to understand that predatory men exist in all forms of sexuality.
My mother's husband thought it was hilarious when I had a man trying to look down my shirt at a theme park. My mother said that's what I should expect for wearing a low-cut shirt.
My dad witnessed me being harassed by a 70+ acquaintance of his just this past spring, and didn't realize it was harassment until I told him afterwards about how uncomfortable I felt in the situation.
Even if someone has never seen it happen in real life surely they’ve read about it on the internet??
Me too, I don't think there are many women it hasn't happened to at least once. Wtf was dad thinking?!
Load More Replies...This happened at my school. A guy slapped a girl on the a*s and made her cry. We're in 7th grade...
It wasn’t recently said, but i recently heard it. The first episode of Seinfeld, he does a bit about how ridiculous it is that laundry detergent is advertised as able to get blood out of clothes. He goes on and on about how it’s for serial killers. Like only serial killers ever get blood on their clothes.
I remember thinking that joke was really funny and just never put two and two together.
Huh. That was the first thing I thought of. Period panties, that eventually have to be thrown out because they are so gross.
Load More Replies...You mean that has been a serial killer in my underwear for 20 years? Agh!!!
You left the door unlocked while you went into the store......
Load More Replies...Even if he knows nothing about female biology, one could think he was smart enough to know that blood from accidents or fights (which men statistically have a lot more than women) need to be washed away too.
I've been cleaning blood out of my clothes since I was 13. And no, at that time, I was not a serial unaliver.
...at that time? Oh no, now you'll have to kill me for figuring it out! D:
Load More Replies...Sounds like a missed opportunity to have had Elaine (or some other woman) call Jerry an idiot.
In order for that to happen they would have had to have female writers on the show.
Load More Replies...Well if we are digging up 24 year old sitcom episodes, I think the entire episode is more outrageous than just that one bit. The episode was about Jerry getting a call from a woman he knew from somewhere asking him if she could stay with him for a couple of days while she is in town. Jerry misreads this and thinks they will have a romantic weekend and when it turns out the woman is engaged he gets really upset to waste his weekend on her.
Ugh always knew his character rubbed me the wrong way from the few episodes I’ve seen. That’s just gross. Almost as bad as M*A*S*H
Load More Replies...It is sad watching some of those older sitcoms like Seinfeld, Friends and Home Improvement and realizing just how badly they aged - but also exhilarating to realize just how far we have grown as a society!
My partner said looking after a baby all day was "easy"
Great! That means it will be no trouble for him for you to take a week's vacation with friends. ;) It gives you time to decompress and reconnect with your friends, and him a chance to really bond with his child. It's win-win.
All day, EVERY DAY, buddy. No sick days off, no breaks, no time off. EVERY SINGLE DAY. You do that for a month, and then come back and tell us how easy it is.
I know it wouldn’t be easy to do, but the thing to do is to leave a new dad alone with the baby—-not fir an hour or a few hours, but two entire days. No one who’s a human being will leave a baby in a dirty diaper that long. I had a friend who got married when he and his wife were in the army. His hitch was up first, so they stayed on base until hers was up. A couple months after having their twins, their first children, his wife had to be gone a whole weekend for maneuvers, leaving him alone with them from Friday to Monday. He told me he was scared shitless at first, but decided to just jump in and get cracking at taking care if his children. He said by the end of the first day, he had the routine down pat. His wife was pleased to find two happy, well rested, well fed, and clean and sweet smelling (absolutely no diaper rash!) babies being cuddled by their dad when she walked in the door on Monday. She had been nervous about leaving him with them, so it was a relief to discover he’s a dad who is both comfortable with, and perfectly capable of, taking care of his kids.
I've done both, and can verify taking care of a baby at home is WAY harder than manual labor, graduate school, or any other job I've had!
I dunno, I guess it depends on the baby, but I had more rest on my 1 year maternity leave than I ever had before in my life🤷♀️or after😅
Load More Replies...Sometimes. If you have had a full night's sleep, no operation scar, no post-natal depression, no low/high blood pressure, no headache, no overly tight stitches, no backache from labour, etc. Should I go on??
Well, yeah, first couple of days are hard, breastfeeding starts and everything, but (assuming there is NO pathology involved, so please don't come back with post-partum depression etc.) my year of maternity leave was a blast. Walking, reading, binging TV shows while breastfeeding, "playdates" with friends...Next 2 years my husband was home with the baby till the evening (when he works) and he was having such a good time he didn't want her enrolled in kindergarten, but we did it for socialization. I still think of that year as time where everything was slow-paced and easy.
Load More Replies...Be my guest. You have yourself an "easy" day with the kids while I go out for a while.
Was being chatted up by two American guys and I brought up the overturning of Roe v Wade. Their response? It’s not really a big deal because women can just drive over state lines to get an abortion….
Look at the new laws in IDAHO. They are calling doctors who do abortions like that "Accomplices". Anyone who drives someone over the border is an accomplice. If you mail abortion pills across the border you are an accomplice and they will prosecute you with PRISON TIME. I really hate Idaho. Mainly because I'm from Oregon and I've had to deal with those backwards paste eating, mayo sucking, Aryan Nation misogynists my whole life.
They are currently dealing with doctor shortages due to some moving out of state over these laws.
Load More Replies...Some states will charge you with a crime if it can be proven you travelled out of state for the purpose of an abortion.
There is a lot of legislation around how California is fighting to ensure the safety (both legally and physically) of visitors that may need to seek the care they need here. A few examples of bills enacted in to law in California over the past few years are AB 1242 (to stop law enforcement and California corporations from cooperating with out-of-state entities regarding legal abortions in California(, AB 1666 (to protect people or entities in California from civil liability for providing, aiding, or receiving abortion care in the state), and AB 2091 (to keep medical information about abortion private, even in response to an out-of-state subpoena or request). You can read more about California's role in protecting abortion rights here https://abortion.ca.gov/your-rights/your-legal-right-to-an-abortion/index.html
Load More Replies...Except that's not always the case. It baffles me that is the US women's rights and gay and trans rights are moving back, whereas in the rest of the developed world we're progressing. Makes me sad.
Well look at the Supreme Court and hundreds of judges idiot trump appointed.
Load More Replies...I'd like for every man to have to drive over state lines for basic healthcare. aśşhole.
When RvW fell I was genuinely upse- we live in St Louis and my husband was like “why- there’s an abortion clinic across the river?” — Sure, East STL in Illinois has one- but that’s NOT the point! In his mind, I shouldn’t have been so upset because since we have access to care across state lines ourselves (we aren’t rich but do well enough), I don’t have a reason to take it personally. We obviously Missouri had trigger laws and then passed MORE draconian ones just to home in the point. And my 11 year old, gay daughter now has fewer rights than I did growing up. WTF? Of COURSE I’m upset. SCOTUS is oppressing me, my daughter, and all of my fellow American “sisters!” My opinion of my husband fell a lot that day.
Thankfully, women in Canada don't have to worry about politicians telling us what to do with our bodies.
Just wait. Election time is around the corner. Actually, the ones we need to fear is our Premiers. They're the ones controlling our healthcare spending for the provinces. They don't need to change women's rights and freedoms, nor pass laws. But they can certainly role back any funding and resources for our health needs.
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I wanted to take plan B after having unprotected sex and he said "why don't we discuss that in a few weeks ?"
Plan B is not an abortion drug. Let me say it again for those in the back, Plan B is NOT an abortion drug!
This needs to be said more often, LOUDLY, and put on billboards with an attached bullhorn blaring it as a recording. And FYI for those who didn't get the OP because they don't understand Plan B: Plan B *prevents* you from ever getting pregnant in the first place - it keeps a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus. So you need to take it as quickly as possible after having unprotected sex. If she "waited a few weeks", she could be pregnant and then really would need an abortion medication.
Load More Replies...1. It’s her body. 2. That’s it. 3. Seriously, are we having to have this talk AGAIN? OK, let’s talk about body autonomy in a few weeks. BTW She’ll still have made the decision and done whatever she wants to do. IT’S HER BODY. If you are so worried about your contribution or ownership of your sperm then it’s time to stop having intercourse and it’s time to get THAT sock out.
That's what she could spend those "few weeks" doing.
Load More Replies...Ladies, at the stage you don't need to mention anything about that. Unless you're with a partner in a serious relationship and have had discussions about kids. Then at least tell him how you feel you're not ready yet but will let him know when and IF you're ready. If he doesn't like that answer, well at least the break up won't involve a custody battle.
Plan B is right now. It can't be discussed in a few weeks. Now it's stopping a pregnancy from happening, then it's an abortion.
Was on tinder looking for something causal. Started messaging a guy and he asked me "So, do you live alone?" I told him how murdery that question sounded and that if he wants to get laid he should refrain from asking that, but I was pretty sure he wasn't a murderer. His mind was blown. He really did just want to know if we could meet up at my place since he had flatmates, but he had no idea how predatory the question would sound.
Why did that question immediately make me think of the phone call in Scream?
Every dating app does. When I was trying one out some guy got scary mad I refused to allow him to pick me up at my place with his own car to take me to his place. My rule was always meet up during the day at a public place for coffee or somewhere affordable and accessible by bus so I can just leave when I want to.
Load More Replies...How does anyone not see that that's a murdery question????
Yeah, he could have asked " I would like to meet you, could we get together and go get a some coffee or get something to eat?"
"Are lady pilots allowed??" - from a 32 year old man. My jaw hit the floor.
So you would assault the guy for being ignorant? Wow.. some mom.
Load More Replies...I knew a retired airline pilot who referred to women as "girls" and stated that they couldn't be pilots because they were too unstable and likely to overreact or make mistakes because of their periods. He was proud of his misogyny.
I wanted to be a fighter pilot as a little girl. My dad had been in the Air Force during Vietnam and had wanted to become a pilot, but his eyesight was too poor. So, I, as a daddy’s girl but also a tomboy, wanted to join up and fly jets XD That airline pilot and I would probably have come to physical blows if we’d had a discussion XD (My dad had always told me that they didn’t make left-handed jets, but in hindsight, he probably just didn’t want me to have to join the military and potentially fight in a war after having literally been deployed himself…)
Load More Replies...Amelia Earhart comes back from the dead just to punch this guy in the head.
The owner of one of Australia's major airlines (Ansett, now defunct) refused to allow female pilots and it took a High Court ruling in 1979 to change that
As someone (female) with a lifelong dream of being a fighter pilot, i would high five his face.
Allowed what? Are they allowed to tell you to STFU, sit your a*s down, and enter the 21st century? Depends on the airline, I guess.
I'm proud to say my former employer was the first commercial airline with an all-female flight crew - in 1986: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.upi.com/amp/Archives/1986/12/30/All-female-flight-crew-is-aviation-first/2054536302800/
When I told my ex that I have my period for about 7 days (the last 2-3 very light bleeding). He told me to go to the doctor about that because 7 days are just too long.
He just didn't want to wait 7 days until I was ready to have sex again.
I've made this comment before, but an ex once accused me of being selfish because I made my period last 5 days. He thought I could control how much I bled and how long I bled for, and if I wanted to, I could make all the blood come out in one day, but I made it last 5 because I didn't want to have sex with him. He also had decided, unilaterally, that when I had children, I wouldn't go out to work, and his mother would move in with us so the baby was brought up properly. There are many reasons why he's an ex.
I can only begin to imagine the myriad of other thoughts / ideas / decisions he made in his head that go alongside that particular set of beliefs. You dodged a bullet!
Load More Replies...My ex would watch the garbage pail in the bathroom and get very angry if I didn't "warn" him that my period was due. He also said that our marriage license was his Bill of Sale. Do whatever it takes to get out. It will be hard and there will be days you tell yourself you don't have the strength to do it. But you do. You deserve so much better and there is a better life waiting for you. Sending strength and hugs to those who need it
Has this dude ever had an adult relationship before? It's not all about sex.
Did he have any theory as to what, exactly, "the doctor" was supposed to do to fix it? I realize that's an expert-level question, not one that he could address because the whole discussion is, in fact, ABOUT HIM. You might have suggested he go to the doctor about his inability to see anything other than himself. They do have doctors for that.
My husband loved sex when I had my period, so much juicier 😳🤮 , I always hated the mess!
Laughs in endometriosis and adenomyosis. Bro would have dumped my a*s immediately.
Why not have sex during your period? I am a 60 year old woman, and I always found that period sex helped relieve my cramps.
He does know that penetrative, penis-vagina sex is not the only way to get one’s rocks off, no?
I had one friend that was 34 but only had male friends. He felt comfortable enough to ask me how periods work- if we can bleed for only one hour of the day and how we end up deciding what hour of the day to experience the period for…. As though we have control over it. Yes, at least he was trying to get educated but also holy smokes.
Shame that blokes have to rely on their female friends or partners to explain to them female biology. Where are the parents and teachers doing this in sex ed? In school, I was the only girl in my friendship group, so I was the one who had to answer all the questions and explain it all - I didn't mind though.
In a lot of US states, sex ed is "Don't." Strange coincidence: those states generally have the highest teen pregnancy and STI rates
Load More Replies...It is called bleeding for a reason. If you get a cut or scrape, you can not choose to hold the blood in until you have gotten to the first aid kit, do you? Well, neither can we, when we bleed because of the natural process of removing certain periodical residuals.
Sort of. That's not really how it works and we're not really 'bleeding'.
Load More Replies...All my male friends have asked the "period questions" and I will happily answer them.
My 23 year old son was worried about his girlfriend. She had told him she sometimes bleeds "down there". Turns out she didn't know what was going on either. She thought she had some disease or condition.
And the girlfriend was, what 12?? It's just sad. And shows how important it is to teach this stuff!
Load More Replies...All these befuddled men who are clueless about women's bodies, if interested, could easily educate themselves... so it isn't just about a lack of respect for human beings who make up over half of our species.
I don't like this one being here because it sounds like he was trying to learn. No need to shame someone for that.
She's not shaming him as much as she's pointing out how outrageous it is for a 34-year-old man to believe such things. That's old enough to both know better and do better. He's not a inexperienced teenager.
Load More Replies...I know it sounds weird, but they have books that explain all that that people can read. There are diagrams and even pictures sometimes. Simple language. Simple concepts. A person doesn't have to reach 34 and be more ignorant than a doorknob.
Those books have been removed from a fair few US libraries. The situation is only gonna get worse
Load More Replies...I don't have a problem with that as long as they truly want to understand.
When my partner said to me that I didn’t need to worry about our drunk, belligerent neighbor who trespassed, called me a b***h, and burned our neighbors barn down if I was home alone all weekend cause “he’s harmless”. Babe..maybe for you but that’s not my experience as a female in this world. 🤣🤦🏻♀️
I'd be worried about your partner. And arson is a felony, I believe.
Our drunk addict of a ex neighbor used to appear outside our home regularly. Never when my husband was home though. My husband couldn't work out why I insisted we move. I had to point out the guy never once walked around wasted when he was home, he wouldn't have dared.
My landlord didn't like I called the neighbour a creep...he's alright....yeh, sure, if he tries to touch my buttor brests again, he will have one less hand and forget he was born a man
I had a boss say that to me once after a weird drifter came into the office when I was alone. I had to inform my 6’3”, 300lbs boss that I, a 5’7” 135lbs woman, didn’t see it that way.
A light hearted one, but I was pretty surprised when men in the office began claiming the women’s bathroom was very fancy strictly because we had a box of tampons.
The situation can be remedied easily by adorning the men's bathroom by placing a couple of tampon boxes.
Wait, you mean women's bathrooms don't have champagne and chocolate available?
My boss got real excited to share his discovery of close parking spots to our workplace that is always available. The secret spot? In a dark alleyway. I unfortunately had to inform him that as a woman there is no way I could ever do that safely. He paused and it was like a lightbulb went off in his head, like he got a true glimpse of how we live in two different worlds.
Walk to your car in the dark in the dark alleyway where it's parked.....he had no idea that was a BAD idea???
At least you got to witness the lightbulb go off. Hope it grows to be a bright LED and not remain a night light.
An ex boyfriend told me that women needed to wash the inside of their v****as because “that’s were pee comes from. There are only two holes, the vagina and the a**s, right ?” My jaw dropped. We were 20+, both in university. Another dude I was seeing told me that “women exaggerate a lot on the catcalling/street harassment thing. It must happen at most, what, once or twice a year?”. I told him it happened every week. Sometimes everyday of the week. Especially in summer. He couldn’t believe it and said “wow that must be because you’re pretty. There’s no way it happens that often”. My brains BROKE.
I'm still waiting for the day when the term "vulva" becomes well-known and people stop assuming that the vagina is the entirety of the external genitalia...
Load More Replies...Even if pee did come out of the vagina, it would still be such a weird statement. Does he clean the inside of his urethra?
Get a straw brush up in there. Wash it out real good
Load More Replies...I am 15 and I have gotten catcalled while wearing an oversized hoodie twice in the same day, and another three times when wearing something casual such as parachute pants and a crop top. Yeah, how fun🫠
A creepy old dude was talking to my mom about how pretty I was
Load More Replies...What I don' t understand is this knee-jerk reaction so many men have to rebut a comment that isn't even in their own personal experience in order to defend men they don't even know. They're denying the girl's experience in order to make themselves feel better about what? That men can catcall all they want to and nobody should criticize it? I mean, I just can't grasp why a male person would want to defend himself about something that doesn't even involve him. Your friend, whom you know, has told you something that SHE knows and you don't. Why are you even responding? Finally, what is the assertion "you must be exaggerating" based on? You have information or experience? No? Then zip it!
Exactly this! Defending complete strangers because... they share the same se× ?! Instead of just acknowledging there are a******s and they have nothing to do with them
Load More Replies...Good grief, even I know as a man that frequent washing down their can cause women lots of problems and soaps upset the natural ph balance. This came in handy when I worked in health and social care and I would witness new start guys a lot younger than me to order elderly female patients to scrub down below. I explained how this is bad- I never let ANY sh*t happen under my watch.
I was shocked to find that my ex, a 30-something PhD student also did not know that women do not pee out of their vaginas. Apparently sex ed has failed many men.
One time I got up a little too fast while getting something from under a table and hit my boobs while on the way up. My friend panicked and he immediately asked if we needed to go to the emergency room to get checked out. I said no and asked why he thought so. He thought my breasts would explode and my nipple would fall off to allow the gallons of milk I store to seep out😐all I did in the 10 minutes after he told me that was blink.
During the pandemic, I worked retail in a grocery store for 2.5 years. Most of my co-workers were in their early 20s (I was in my late 30s at the time; I’m 41 now.) There were a few of my male co-workers who were nice kids, but they legit thought that boobs were the equivalent of a man’s balls in terms of nerve endings/pain/etc. Like, if a woman got hit in the boob too hard, she’d fall to the ground in agony and maybe even puke. I stared at them for a second, and then punched myself in the boob as hard as I could (yes, it did hurt, lol.) The boys all went pale and looked like THEY were about to faint. Then they were stunned that I didn’t pass out/vomit XD Men have some interesting misconceptions about breasts.
Load More Replies...Yes, and if you lift up the breast there is a picture of a missing child underneath.
I remember when i was 18, a male flatmate came into my room and asked for some my milk, I told him I didn't have any. He said we'd run out and I suggested he go to the shop, he told me to just give me some of mine, I again explained that I didn't have any.. he told me to stop being selfish and tried to hand me a cup saying he'd wait outside while I 'did my thing' I was completely baffled until it hit me. He wanted breast milk and assumed I could just produce it at will. I tried to explain but he walked away, I listened as he went into the kitchen and told my other 3 male flatmates that I was being a 'selfish b***h' and refusing to give them any. I had to sit all 4 down and explain how breast milk and breastfeeding worked. Pretty sure they still didn't quite believe me, a few female friends and later their girlfriends had to have the same chat with them before they eventually listened. (They were aged 19-23 and all attending University!)
Not only is that ignorant, that’s creepy as f*ck. What the heck, thinking that he could just ask something so personal of you and be upset that you said no. Wtaf are men on
Load More Replies...Like our breasts are nothing but fragile milk balloons. I would have laughed out loud. 😂😂😂
Okay, I think it's been proven by these submissions, that women need to start interviewing men prior to dating them. A simple questionnaire to weed out the idiots before you've expended valuable time and energy.
“Boobs explode after encounter with table! You won’t believe what happened next!”
He phrased it rather more graphically, so this is the cleaned up gist: “Surely there must be times when a woman is attacked and just tells the guy to put the knife down because she’s up for it anyway”
Had a conversation with a troll in some forum. His gist was, "Well, when presented with a choice -- a knife or a d**k, pretty much every woman would choose a d**k, so don't tell me about 'trauma'!" I responded with, "Yes, and so would you. You would choose a d**k over a knife in less than 2 seconds if presented with such a choice." He got very angry and upset for some reason 🤷♀️
So if I pointed a gun at someone and said "Your money or your life", it wouldn't be a bad thing because pretty much everyone would choose to hand over the money anyway? Wow...
Load More Replies...Oh yeah, because herpes, genital warts, chlamydia, HIV and unwanted pregnancy sound like so much fun. /heavy sarcasm. Not to mention PTSD.
A former friend of mine said similar-he decided that surely having s*x with a real d*ck was far more enjoyable than using plastic s*x toys, so if you weren't in a relationship, getting r*ped was more fun than pounding yourself with plastic. We were in a situationship at the time, which didn't last much longer. He tried to argue that I'd been so serious talking about SA that he'd just made a joke to lighten the mood...
They call these guys Schrodinger's dóuchebags, because they drop this kind of nonsense and then decide if it was meant to be a joke depending on the reaction they get. They need to be called out on it every time. Asking them to explain the joke usually embarrasses them into silence.
Load More Replies...One night in the early 90s, my mother was making her way home from a bar. Some random guy pushed her into a doorway and as she was about to be r*ped, she shouted out a lie- 'r*pe me but be aware I'm HIV positive.' Guy ran away as fast as he could. I remember overhearing the conversation with her friend on the phone the next day and even as a male child I knew how dangerous men can be. Years later when my sister and I were drugged at a house party and were sexually assaulted and r*ped by multiple men, I tried using my mothers line, albeit slurred through the drugs, and the guys honestly did not care.
Has anyone noticed recent newspaper headlines about not screaming while being raped? I recommend reading these articles because it explains how our brains are wired and how asking a girl/woman why she didn't scream is irrelevant to the crime.
My mouth went agape. Please stay away from this person. He might try to use a knife on you and be like "oh come on i know you are into it anyway." run run rum. WTF
This must be his warped fantasy. I'd be dead and lifeless, and probably still get raped.
Pants sizing. I was talking to a male coworker and somehow it came up that women's clothing sizes are whack. I think I was griping about inconsistent sizing. I mentioned how I wish I could buy pants by the waist and length (like how men's are sized). He asked '"Well why don't you?". "Because women's pants aren't labeled like that". "Well why don't you just get ones that are?". "Because men's pants are sized like that, not women's ". "Why don't you just buy men's?". "They don't fit me right...."So why don't you buy women's?". "I do, that's the whole point. I wish they were sized in a way that made sense, and not just some arbitrary numbers. I'm different sizes in different brands". He just couldn't understand that women's pants are cut differently, and that just buying men's pants wouldn't work for me.
My husband thought I was making it up when I said this, until we went shopping for jeans one day. He just went out and picked up a few pairs without trying them on and then met me in the women's section. I had picked out several brand with my "size", then a pair above and one below it and he asked "why do you need so many pairs? Don't they have the size on them?" The lady in charge of the dressing rooms just laughed at him and said it was as hard to find jeans that fit as it is a bra. He's never brought it up since then. lol
I HATE women's sizing! We are taught to look for the smallest size possible and feel bad with the number we have in our clothes. My solution...if you don't like the number on the tag...cut the tag out and wear what is comfortable!
The sizing thing is a recent struggle I’ve had with my mother. She is obese, and most of my family is morbidly obese. I’m adopted, and was always on the thinner side until this last year, which has been excruciatingly stressful. I gained about 40 lbs and I’m now around 180 lbs, the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life. My mother was aghast when I said I had to get some new pants in size 14, as my 12s didn’t fit any more. The fat-shaming, mockery, and belittling about my weight gain and increase in pants size - from a woman who has been obese my whole life - was shocking. She kind of gloats now that she “weighs less than me” now (she’s also 4 inches shorter..) Sigh.
Load More Replies...Or pants that have cutesy little uplifting messages on the inside of the waistband - they strike me as patronizing, as if my self-esteem is so crappy that I need my clothing to tell me I'm worthwhile
They are absolutely patronizing. WTAF is up with that? Like buying clothing isn’t stressful enough?
Load More Replies...I bought two pairs of pants same style different colors. One fit one was to small
Told a male friend I had a few different sizes of clothing in my closet. He laughed and said "You don't know your size?!!?" I had to have the "women's sizing" talk with him. He got quiet afterwards.
My butt fell years ago, so I can buy men's jeans now. They last longer, are cheaper, and have real pockets.
Every women basically needs their pants tailored to their shape. I need a size 11-12 but at that size they bow out at the sides, as if every women who's a bit bigger is big in the hips. So pants look really weird for someone with a wider waist and narrow hips.
My friend said that women don’t grow facial hair, so I had to explain how often I needed to wax my mustache.
I wish the obsession with facial and body hair would just go away, and people could feel comfortable with their own bodies and hair.
My nephew (8) once pointed out a few dark hairs on my top lip and made a disgusted face and shouted something about how disgusting it is and that girls should only have hair on their head. When he said 'my mum doesn't have hair on her face or body', his 10yr old brother didn't even look up from his tablet just said "mum shaves all her hair off." The youngest brother looked stunned, thought for a few minutes then said "I wonder why she does that?" Needless to say he learned a lot about the patriarchy that day. I still can't believe he genuinely thought women were naturally hairless.
Someone has never been up close with a women before. Maybe they're too young?
It is like they forget that women are mammals...so we HAVE HAIR!
Pluck my dragon whiskers, my mustache otherwise, my errant beard hairs... Dad's side of the family and Mom's dad were pretty hairy, so I got it. Might have a hormonal issue too though, dunno. I really need to make some appointments.
When I was 19 I worked in a Frozen Yogurt shop and a rush of young kids would come in everyday after school and it was absolute pandemonium. One of these afternoons I was ringing up an older guy (maybe 70's) and he said "It's a good thing you're a woman. You're more equipped for this kind of thing than a man. Your natural instincts make it easy." I just looked at him and said "That's not really how it works. Have a nice day."
"This kind of thing" means... what? Dealing with confusion? Noise? Chaos? Using a cash register and making change? Scooping ice cream? Good grief.
I think I'll embroider "That's not really how it works" on a pillow... Oh, wait, I don't know how to embroider.
"what stop me from taking the shotgun out is not maternal instinct but my need of the paycheck..."
No, he really isn't. There's no "childcare instinct" active in humans. Humans have to rely on knowledge, common sense, and inclination toward children to be good caregivers to them. That's why there are awful babysitters, nannies, and even parents who can't properly care for children. And there are *plenty* of women who have absolutely no interest in children, don't want to be around them, and have no desire to learn how to.
Load More Replies...I was telling this guy about my friend who is lacking support in her marriage and he said “how could he support her? He’s working.” And I was like “she’s working too?” And he just couldn’t compute
I know too many husbands (of friends) who think that they go to work then get to come home and do whatever they want. No housework, helping with kids or even listening to her talk. One in particular gets upset if she's being too noisy while doing housework... "stop clanking the dishes while you're washing them I'm trying to hear the TV!" It is infuriating to see. And yes, the wives work too.
This is why married women do not live as long as unmarried women, but married men live longer than unmarried men.
Load More Replies...I'm in a same sex relationship. I'm the one that has been doing all the housework, shopping and cooking for the past 10 years- a little help and support would be nice, even the offer would be nice. Partner doesn't understand that now I have chronic health condition that has me in pain 24/7 and extremely steadily declining mental health that I am struggling to do everything. He told me to take a break for a week so I did- I get back to doing everything and I see a weeks worth of dirty dishes, dirty washing etc. Unbelievable.
This makes me sad. There must be some chores that he could do. If one person is the better cook and enjoys cooking then it’s fine they do that the majority. Likewise, some people are bad at shopping because of organisational skills or anxiety. But not being willing to do the laundry and the dishes to help out even knowing that you are physically and mentally suffering actually makes me sad.
Load More Replies...Recently had my hip replaced - and my husband has done ONE load of laundry in three weeks - I've done all the rest including hanging it all up and putting it all away; he mopped the floor ONCE so badly I had to redo it; he cleaned the bathtub ONCE after I asked three times and literally put the cleaning product and sponge IN the tub, and still he opted to use "something else" to "clean" the tub and I had to redo it myself while balancing precariously on one leg because I can't bend at he hip or kneel by the tub yet. FFS - I don't ask much.
I’m assuming that you can’t afford a cleaner to come in once a week and do the physically demanding tasks? Maybe find somebody who is willing to condescendingly show your husband how to do things and question why he finds it difficult. I know weaponised incompetence is a thing that a lot of people do, but not being willing to help out whilst you are in physical pain is insane
Load More Replies...That's because his mother worked, raised a family, put a meal on the table after doing all the shopping and laundry. Whereas is father came home, sat in front of the tv, had his meal, and went back to the tv. Sound about right?
I had this issue with previous partners where we both worked and I did the housework (man). I just stopped doing it till the laundry piled up to waist high in three baskets and the sinks were 200% full of dirty dishes and the dust was visible.
A male friend genuinely asked if feminism was 'still a thing.'
Feminism will remain as long as misogyny does. We need it to remain as long as misogyny does
I'm 64, and have been a feminist for my entire life. It breaks my heart that we have to continually fight the same battles over and over again.
Exactly, we make some vague forward motion. And now we're yanked backwards.
Load More Replies...Feminism has been "a thing" since around 411 BC when Aristophanes' play, Lysistrata, was performed.
Feminism will continue to be a thing until every item in this list is a historical oddity
‘We didn’t discuss it but she doesn’t need an epidural’
Without painkillers please. He doesn't need those either.
Load More Replies...If he says that, suck him up into your womb after the baby is out and keep him in there until he becomes reasonable
Why don't we tare him from end to end and sew him back together without one, he's a man I'm sure he can handle it.
Why was it a 'we' discussion...her body, her pain, her choice. She decided.....that's the correct answer, all for discussing together, but she get to make the decision. Maybe he was OK with offering his hand to hold....I wonder how many bones got broken.
Of course, she doesn't need a child birth "is no big deal" according to many men I'm just now learning.
My dad somehow went almost 60 years completely unaware that public bathrooms often have lines because he's never had to wait in one.
Did he just think all the women of his family did coke when they referred to" the line in the bathroom" or did he never listen when they came back explaining why it took so long?
they would in large arenas too if men didn't also urinate in the sinks and trashcans...which, for several reasons, is not something women do...
oh you mean queues. I thought you were referring to that line on the illustration which signifies gender divide?
And then they get confused when we say that they're lucky to have a penis cause it makes peeing easier.
And what did he think all those lines out the women's room were? Okay ladies, now line up outside the toilets because we're gonna conga our way back into the venue.
As a guy its always baffled me that if women need to queue ...why dont they put in more womens loos?
Taking of jacket and henging bags. Turn around in tight space to undress all the way to our knees. Put tissue on the Seat to avoid sitting in other peoples urine and swetty a*s-cheek imprint. Sitt down on to narrow a Seat and try to balance a nervous bladder against the preassure of the time you have already spent. Then wipe sevral times because you can never trust the puny tissue there. Then do the prossess in reverce, but now with one butt cheek asleep from the toilet and not enough room to reach your jeans that are now all the way down by the ankles. It wont help rushing any of the elements eighter because they are eighter out of our control or takes the time or presiscion it takes 🤷♀️
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I got my period while hanging out with my then boyfriend. He said, “why can’t you just use a q-tip?”
we know you're a dude and that somehow you think d**k size, tampon size, and vagina size are all somehow related...they aren't...
Load More Replies...Well, technically I could. It would be completely ineffectual, but sure, I could.
My work place offers 6 months of maternity leave or 12 months at half pay. Had a male coworker tell me that was unfair because a woman could "pop out a kid per year for 3 years and it would count as a 3 years experience on her resumè"
Sure, let's have a child we have to take care of for at least 18 years, so we can list an extra year of experience on the resume. That'll pay off!!! /s
Going to need those extra jobs to pay for all those easy bake kids they’re popping out
Load More Replies...Except it doesn't count as work experience and being absent from the job while on maternity leave is a setback in her position at work she'll have to make up for...dude, pay attention.
In my country we have 16 months paid parental leave, to be split between the parents (at least 3 months each). On top of that, new fathers get 10 days paid leave directly after the birth, so that the new parents can get used to being parents together (and because the new mom needs quite a bit of rest). Little or no unfairness.
I'm going to get flamed for this, but bear with me: I work in a department where I have seen this scenario play out several times. Someone was hired, got pregnant in the first few months of the job, took the maximum union allowable mat leave, came back briefly, was already pregnant again when she came back, took the maximum allowable mat leave a second time, basically being on mat leave for about three years while racking up 4 years of union seniority and severance pay. Then simply didn't come back after the paid mat leave ran out. I'm actually watching this happen a third and forth time right now.
You have presented this as a possibility(from personal experience) but it is not a likelihood... Plus there have been human beings taking advantage of situations for as long as our kind have been on this planet.
Load More Replies...My younger brother tried to mansplain how to deal with endo bloat to me once lmao
it s a term used to describe the uncomfortable, often painful, swelling and bloating associated with endometriosis which is a condition in which tissue similar to the lining inside the uterus, called the endometrium, is found outside the uterus where it doesn’t belong
Load More Replies...Endo bloat/endo belly can be severe, causing physical pain and mental and emotional symptoms. The last thing a woman needs at this stage is some nitwit mansplaining.
Smack him good on the back of the head. It's not violence it's older sibling privilege
I truly hope you never experience it. I've (F49) had it since my teens
Load More Replies...When I vented to a coworker about a terrible experience being cat-called while on a walk during Covid. His response was that I should take it as a compliment.
Wanna bet if these men would take such a thing as a compliment if a gay man did it to them?
Once I was walking in a hospital parking and two guys followed me saying that I was nice... I turned around and Told them to leave me alone... Their answer was: "you're such a b***h, we where not talking to you..." And started to say unrepeatable Words... I felt so humiliated and I was so scared that they were screaming all these nasty Words and that I couldn't react because I thought that something could happen... There are some behavior that are very hard ti explain...
While I was telling my ex about women feeling like a prey in public places or even in their own house. He looked at me, and said : " Wtf no one is hunting you, but I get it, I am also afraid walking down the street and being mugged" I was just like "You didn’t talk with a lot of women or they just didn’t tell you because they don’t trust you"
Being mugged is the LEAST of a women's fears while alone or out in public.
“Just tell him no, or you’re not interested”
“Hey, has anyone ever told you that your eyes are beautiful?” “Yes, thank you”, continuing minding my own business. “Can I sit here?” “No, thanks, not interested.” “F***k you! Are you l*sbian? F***ing w***re, you b***h!” Yeah right. *sigh
And then watch them show their entitlement. Too many to count in my lifetime (and I am/was just average in looks, btw). Insults, threats, creepily following me around the bar/club/party- and even work - guessing it was all due to their egos being dented.
I had to explain to my father why I prefer to take a packed bus at midnight over taking a taxi. That was kinda sad because it was my dad but he genuinely had no clue.
I suppose this depends a bit on where you live. In the past, I opted for taxis instead of public transit after a guy on the tram started following me one night. But back then, taxis in our city were strictly regulated and you could trust them. That is no longer the case, and I no longer take taxis off the street even in the middle of the day. I feel that the apps make it relatively safe, though.
I'd rather be on the packed bus too. Plus I make sure I'm on the phone to my partner the whole time
My brother, in all seriousness, informed me that “men don’t exactly speak nicely about women when they aren’t around” like this was supposed to be some huge revelation. I was so shocked because as a woman, it’s very clear to know this just because of how men treat women everyday… but my brother really thought that I wouldn’t ever think that.
My brother told me this as well🤣 "yeah, no kidding. And some do a lot worse then talk when they are with the women too. " I was 14 and he was shocked
My dad was trying to explain to me why he disagrees with allowing LGBTQ+ in the military. He said "can you imagine sharing a foxhole with someone and knowing he wants to be inside you?"
I always find hetero-guys' conviction that every gay person they meet would automatically want to jump them right then and there, fascinating. Uh, sir, don't flatter yourself! Just because someone is attracted to the same sex, doesn't mean they are attracted to YOU /eye roll
Just because you feel the need to f**k anything and everything with a pulse, doesn’t mean everyone else feels the same way
Load More Replies...Crazy thing is members of the LGBTQ+ have always been in the military, just not publicly. None of that matters if they meet the standards of the military and can do/perform their job. How they live and choose to love is irrelevant.
Was your dad ever in the military during an actual war? When you’re under fire, the race, religion, age, gender, or private life of the person next to you doesn’t matter a good god damn. You’re both soldiers fighting the same enemy, and you support each other, because you both want to come out of the battle alive.
Back when I was dating my husband, we were talking about timing for having kids. He mentioned that he wanted to wait a certain length of time before having kids. I explained that, with the number of kids we were interested in having (4 or 5), the age I was going to be when we were likely to get married, and when I would start becoming less fertile, that timeline wouldn't work. He'd always thought about the timing of having kids in terms of when he wanted them, and never thought about how he would be limited by his partner's biological clock. (To be fair, he was raised in religious all-boys boarding schools for a good portion of his life, and this is the kind of thing that literally never came up. I don't blame him for not thinking of everything on his own, and he's done a good job of catching up.)
Not to mention that advanced maternal age results in increased chances for certain genetic/chromosomal abnormalities, increased chance of miscarriage/stillbirth, and increased risks to the mother as well :(
I have 3 boy. I had them at 32, 35 and 39. My last pregnancy was the hardest. It puts a bigger toll on my body, when I was older. The hormones, the physical strains... I am absolutely blessed with my boys but I would not want another one, partly for the effect the pregnancies had on my body.
For people that really want to wait, eggs can be frozen. However, that is very expensive and taking hormones to get so many eggs to come out at once can be risky.
My partner recently used Scarlett johanson making 60 mil per movie as an example why the gender pay gap didn’t exist
Meanwhile, her male costars make 70 mil per movie. Your partner isn't too swift.
“Men have always had it harder than women”.
So like white people saying they have it worse, and reverse racism.
"Women keep saying that they're scared going out on dates, but men have just as much to worry about". My male friend said this after getting scammed on a date like maybe 2 years ago. Apparently never recovered.
Men are afraid that women will scam them. Women are afraid that men will murder them.
Yea, the possibility that you might meet a girl who isn't as attractive as you thought is as bad as being attacked. Totally the same.
I remember my sister telling me that at uni she had to translate a book where a guy was talking about how women get period pains because subconsciously their body is crying for not being impregnated.
To be fair, it does happen because the egg wasn't fertilized, but it's not a sign of sadness for the body. As if an uterus had a brain, lol
Oh come on, everybody knows it's because natural laws of justice exist, so the pain is just the payment for not having a pregnancy to worry about (congrats, by the way, your time and money are yours to enjoy!) And for those wanting to be a parent it's a prepayment for the joy of eventually having a kid (seriously, I wish you the best of luck, you're gonna have that kid and nail parenting like a champ!)
My colleague (to be fair, he is gay) thought the cervix was a large tunnel you could reach through (in normal non-labor times). He also thought women had no feeling at all in their vaginas and solely got sexual pleasure from the clitoris.
At least he knew about the clitoris. Not that the knowledge would do him much good LOL.
A guy on Reddit recently said that we only body shame men and not women.
Right, because for women, it's not bodyshaming but some helpful advice /s
So ignorant. But what is true, is that nowadays many people rightfully consider bodyshaming women not okay, but many of those people are still totally fine with bodyshaming men for their penis size.
Nobody ever jokes about a man's penis size as the real issue.... The only time I've ever seen those jokes made is when the guy is being an a-hole.
Load More Replies...I had some guy really try and insist that women are lucky because they can use their power of seduction over men.... seemed pretty weird to me that he was so firm on that idea.
What annoys me as a woman is there are women who legitimately think this is part of their woman power. Aided and abetted by the fashion and cosmetic industries with product names like: obsession, lust, flirt, desire…..
But why does that annoy you? Honestly asking, no sarcasm or anything. It's just that from my personal experience as a woman (moderately attractive by conventional standards) I've come to think that there isn't much to gain with "the power of seduction" (even if it does exist, which I don't really believe). Like, if you're after a good partner, no amount of seductive prowess alone will secure you a decent man (but will certainly get you into trouble with a lot of indecent ones), and if you're building a career, it will only hinder your professional recognition. But if this magical power really does exist and other women can make a good use of it, then what's the harm?
Load More Replies...And it's worked so well! Our seductive abilities have made men realize that we deserve autonomy over our own bodies! And that we deserve equal pay! We have seduced our way into ruling the world! Mwah ha ha ha!
and once you have this alleged power over him what do you think the consequences are? that he will now obey and serve? nope. more like rape and murder.
Someone told me that giving birth is easy and only takes a few minutes and thats it
Me: *lists several other factors that might impact a situation* Me: "...and also, maybe gender could have had a bit of an impact?" Man: "No."
I said I was pregnant and two guy friends asked me if I was going to take plan b.
"Periods are unhygienic."
Jizz is more so because it actually shares the plumbing with urine...
Load More Replies...when I worked in the airlines, we were told that on some flights they would not accept food from us women for fear we might have our periods. for some religions, the menstruating woman is impure.
I would refuse to serve those men because they probably peed, shat or ejaculated at least a few times in their lives. Ew...
Load More Replies...To add context, I'm a trans woman who still dresses like a dude most the time. For a while now, I've had both male friends and my boyfriend trying to convince me to "dress more feminine" and to "just be myself." They don't understand that I pretend to be a guy for safety reasons, because so much as a feminine jacket can be enough to move me over into female territory as far as strangers are concerned. The worst experience I've had was someone trying to kidnap me (thankfully in a stupidly ineffective way), but if I'm wearing baggy guy clothes, I can throw my voice deep enough to convince people I'm just a feminine guy. Think my boyfriend is starting to get it, but said male friends do not.
So a couple years ago my SO told me he didn't want more kids (I don't have any, he does) and the next morning I was server for a baby shower at work. It was obviously kind of a rough morning and my boss genuinely tried to comfort me with the insistence that: 1. Men never really mean that kind of thing, they can always be convinced and 2. It wouldn't be all that hard for me to be a mom and have the life I want. I want (and do) own a distillery now. I want (eventually) to take months in the summer to backpack through Europe learing more about distillation. He genuinely didn't see how being a mother would impact any of that. Like, some people do it for sure, but I don't think any of *them* would say it's no big deal to balance motherhood, entrepreneurship, and working in the alcohol industry
For a man, having a baby doesn’t impede on their ambitions. They have their partners at home to take care of all that, and always have—-even if their partners are working full time too. So of course the make boss wouldn’t think having a baby would be a big deal for OP.
Congratulations on achieving your business goal. As for travel and child bearing, you will know when, or if, the time is right...for YOU.
My husband's bf told him that plan B pill is for abortion and he carried that belief to our relationahip till I corrected him.
Plan B prevents ovulation. It doesn’t cause an abortion.
Load More Replies...Happend yesterday at a friends party: Friend (male) comes later to the party and hosts introduce him to a female colleague of them. The first thing he (the male out of touch friend) said to a woman who has never heard of him: -Said without emotion or kindness- „You don’t look like this on your WhatsApp picture.“- And then continues with the other guests. Obviously someone showed him a picture of her. But he not even thought about that she doesn’t know.
Didn't happen to me but I know a lady who got pregnant. She never wanted it but her husband did and he now convinced her to carry it out and she feels so bad and sick and says feeling it moving is really disgusting for her. He now tries to get her to do therapy á la "talk about it, eat two smarties, you'll feel fine"
She needs to get an emergency abortion asap and run as far away from this gaslighting prick as possible
Might be way too late for an abortion at this point (unless the friend is in danger of harming/unaliving herself). One usually first feels fetal movement at 16-25 weeks (usually towards the later time if it’s the first pregnancy.) That would put her pregnancy solidly in the second trimester. Depending on where she lives, late-term abortion might be difficult to obtain or even completely illegal unless the mother’s life is at immediate risk. If she is not in danger of hurting herself due to the feelings of pregnancy/the fetus moving, then putting the child up for adoption as soon as it is born would be best, and definitely getting away from her husband either way. However, I am not trying to downplay the friend’s feelings - it sounds like this pregnancy is putting her mental health at risk. It just might be REALLY difficult to obtain a late-term abortion without “medical” reasons/fetal invisibility, especially these days…
Load More Replies...I had a friend who got pregnant, when they weren't ready as a couple - too early into the relationship. She was thinking abortion, he insisted it would be so great to be a family. He was working long hours, she got stuck with raising the kid, he bought the kid gifts he (the dad) wanted to play with and would shout at the kid if he broke anything. There was a lot of resentment there, they ended up divorcing, it was fine for her, because she was a single mom even while married. It was a good thing she actually did want to become a mother, just the timing was wrong for her, and she absolutely adores her son, but both parents had issues.
idk if this counts but some guys ik asked why we need international womens day
as a woman, I also don't approve of this anniversary... it's hypocritical, it's full of empty words, because they are said that day and then nothing concrete is done to improve the situation.
Richard Herring has done amazing work every IWD by answering dumb tweets by dumb men about when Men's Day is.
I don't know who needs to hear this but yes to one isn't yes to all. I've heard victims of SA be called liars because they've had a lot of sexual partners in the past. A woman's sexual history should not be relevant.
Not only previous sexual partners but a previous sexual history with the douche is apparently consent for all the future sex HE wants with you.
Load More Replies...I once explained to my husband why lots of women walk with holding handbag on the opposite side of curb, with keys in other hand, ready to be attacked. He got very emotional.
I hate reality and the people who ruin it.
Load More Replies...Once again for those in the back, Plan B/emergency contraception does 👏 not 👏 cause 👏 abortion 👏 , nor does it affect implantation of a fertilized egg. https://www.fda.gov/drugs/postmarket-drug-safety-information-patients-and-providers/plan-b-one-step-15-mg-levonorgestrel-information
To all the fellow women. Be careful with the day after pill if you are a lot overweight. If you are too heavy, there are good chances that is ineffective or much less effective (https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.ema.europa.eu/en/medicines/human/referrals/emergency-contraceptives&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwiZhfeyoPqAAxUP_rsIHZz5CpU4ChAWegQIBBAC&usg=AOvVaw3fMbfQWC92miaXsGUSqxEs)
Load More Replies...I was dating a conservative, he said he hated feminists, even though he had a daughter. I said does your daughter go to school, he said yes, I said you are a feminist.He disagreed. I asked him several questions in a row. I said so you think your daughter will be the property of her husband when she gets married, and she should never be allowed to work, and have as many babies as her husband wants and not be allowed to go to the doctor or leave the house without her husband's permission. He said no, of course not, to all of these and I pointed out that all this things are the reality in non feminist countries and were the reality in North America until the women's rights movements. He said I was making that up.I pointed out my mom and us kids were not helped in the 1970s to 1980s when my dad beat us and almost killed my mom because we were considered his property, and he was appalled. The he finally decided he was a feminist.
And these are all examples of why I get so disgusted with dudes who get all 'that's not fair!' about 'special rules' for women. One guy recently, just could **NOT** understand that the only reason there are special rules at work is because they're required so that they can simply do the same things that guys don't even think about.... like.. speaking in a meeting - the 'special rule' is that everyone MUST be quiet and listen. Why is there no rules for the guys? Because the guys don't regularly get cut off, interrupted and/or dismissed. They don't even have to THINK that this is a thing that will happen. It is *automatic* that people are quiet and listen when they speak. The guy had no comment about whether he'd even bothered to notice that women were never allowed a say.
A friend from my debate community was annoyed about precautions that were being put in place to prevent assault of kids (to be fair I do agree the precautions were not the right way to do it). His argument though was "I know this stuff happens but not here, right? No debater would ever do such a thing." The suprise Pikachu face he had on when I told him that I was sexually assaulted in the debate world multiple times was glorious. And note that we are a small community, he knew there's no way he didn't personally meet the attacker. He was very quiet afterward, I think it actually had an impact.
After giving birth to no 5, I suffered from "dryness". My husband didnt want to buy the lubricant, because "he was not the one with the issue". I think that was so mean. I'll never pick up anything from the Pharmacy for him ever again.
Even better, refuse to have sex with him until he can be a more mature and caring partner.
Load More Replies...Talking with my old flatmates one time, 3 other women and 1 man, and us women were talking about how we walk with our keys in our hands if we're walking home after dark. The guy chips in with "Be careful, you will get done for assault even if someone attacks you first". He struggled to comprehend that risking that was not as bad as risking being r**ed and/or m**dered.
This has been sincerely eye-opening for me. I haven't been a cause of these problems but I definitely never gave the mental effort to really consider just what I bullet I'm dodging without realizing simply by something I don't control (and a bullet *no one should have to dodge* at that). Thank you all you sharing this!
I don't know who needs to hear this but yes to one isn't yes to all. I've heard victims of SA be called liars because they've had a lot of sexual partners in the past. A woman's sexual history should not be relevant.
Not only previous sexual partners but a previous sexual history with the douche is apparently consent for all the future sex HE wants with you.
Load More Replies...I once explained to my husband why lots of women walk with holding handbag on the opposite side of curb, with keys in other hand, ready to be attacked. He got very emotional.
I hate reality and the people who ruin it.
Load More Replies...Once again for those in the back, Plan B/emergency contraception does 👏 not 👏 cause 👏 abortion 👏 , nor does it affect implantation of a fertilized egg. https://www.fda.gov/drugs/postmarket-drug-safety-information-patients-and-providers/plan-b-one-step-15-mg-levonorgestrel-information
To all the fellow women. Be careful with the day after pill if you are a lot overweight. If you are too heavy, there are good chances that is ineffective or much less effective (https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.ema.europa.eu/en/medicines/human/referrals/emergency-contraceptives&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwiZhfeyoPqAAxUP_rsIHZz5CpU4ChAWegQIBBAC&usg=AOvVaw3fMbfQWC92miaXsGUSqxEs)
Load More Replies...I was dating a conservative, he said he hated feminists, even though he had a daughter. I said does your daughter go to school, he said yes, I said you are a feminist.He disagreed. I asked him several questions in a row. I said so you think your daughter will be the property of her husband when she gets married, and she should never be allowed to work, and have as many babies as her husband wants and not be allowed to go to the doctor or leave the house without her husband's permission. He said no, of course not, to all of these and I pointed out that all this things are the reality in non feminist countries and were the reality in North America until the women's rights movements. He said I was making that up.I pointed out my mom and us kids were not helped in the 1970s to 1980s when my dad beat us and almost killed my mom because we were considered his property, and he was appalled. The he finally decided he was a feminist.
And these are all examples of why I get so disgusted with dudes who get all 'that's not fair!' about 'special rules' for women. One guy recently, just could **NOT** understand that the only reason there are special rules at work is because they're required so that they can simply do the same things that guys don't even think about.... like.. speaking in a meeting - the 'special rule' is that everyone MUST be quiet and listen. Why is there no rules for the guys? Because the guys don't regularly get cut off, interrupted and/or dismissed. They don't even have to THINK that this is a thing that will happen. It is *automatic* that people are quiet and listen when they speak. The guy had no comment about whether he'd even bothered to notice that women were never allowed a say.
A friend from my debate community was annoyed about precautions that were being put in place to prevent assault of kids (to be fair I do agree the precautions were not the right way to do it). His argument though was "I know this stuff happens but not here, right? No debater would ever do such a thing." The suprise Pikachu face he had on when I told him that I was sexually assaulted in the debate world multiple times was glorious. And note that we are a small community, he knew there's no way he didn't personally meet the attacker. He was very quiet afterward, I think it actually had an impact.
After giving birth to no 5, I suffered from "dryness". My husband didnt want to buy the lubricant, because "he was not the one with the issue". I think that was so mean. I'll never pick up anything from the Pharmacy for him ever again.
Even better, refuse to have sex with him until he can be a more mature and caring partner.
Load More Replies...Talking with my old flatmates one time, 3 other women and 1 man, and us women were talking about how we walk with our keys in our hands if we're walking home after dark. The guy chips in with "Be careful, you will get done for assault even if someone attacks you first". He struggled to comprehend that risking that was not as bad as risking being r**ed and/or m**dered.
This has been sincerely eye-opening for me. I haven't been a cause of these problems but I definitely never gave the mental effort to really consider just what I bullet I'm dodging without realizing simply by something I don't control (and a bullet *no one should have to dodge* at that). Thank you all you sharing this!
