“I Took Her Key”: Mom Gets Banned From Her 24 Y.O. Daughter’s House For Purposefully “Sabotaging Her Kosher Kitchen”
Despite people having the right to practice whatever religion they feel is closest to their heart or no religion at all, it comes as no surprise that some experience bullying and criticism towards their religious beliefs. While some might say that they don’t care what other people think about their choices in various aspects of their life, what if the person that oppressed you for this is your family member? This is what happened to 24-year-old Reddit user @u/roryflameblade who decided to share her story with others in hopes of finding out if she was right to ban her mom from visiting her house anymore after she messed up her kitchen, knowing that her daughter is Jewish and takes food preparation as a serious matter that should follow certain Jewish laws. The post that received more than 13k upvotes encouraged others online to share their opinions and even words of advice.
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Everyone should have the right to choose what to believe in and what kind of faith to follow
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The Reddit user revealed that she was forced to take the key from her house back from her mom after finding out that she was coming to her daughter’s home and using her kitchen. While that might not sound like a bad thing, the pretense for this was to prove to her daughter that her choice of religion wasn’t favored by her mother. The author of the story shared that if not for her mom’s friend, she probably wouldn’t know what she was doing in her kitchen while OP was gone.
This Reddit user decided to share how her mom lied about being okay with her becoming a Jew
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The woman found out about this after her mom messed up with her kosher-based kitchen
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The author of the post shared that she is Jewish while her parents are atheists. At first, her mom was okay with her daughter converting to Judaism, but after a while, her true feelings surfaced. When she was confronted by her daughter for ruining the “kosher status of the kitchen,” the woman revealed that her daughter’s conversion insulted her and that the only reason she supported her decision was to show her that her decision to follow this religion was stupid.
The mother thought that her actions would show her daughter that her devotion to Judaism was ridiculous
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When the situation didn’t go as planned, the woman then decided to mess with her daughter’s kitchen to prove that even after using it and cleaning it as per usual, without following serious Jewish laws, it would all be fine. For those who might not be familiar with these laws and don’t know much about the religion and its certain do’s and don’ts, this might not look like a big deal. However, for those who follow Judaism, one of the most important things is to keep one’s attention on what they eat and how this food is prepared. Jews are known to follow “kosher” dietary restrictions. Some of you might have already heard about Jews not eating pork, but it’s not only that.
The author of the post revealed that she took her house key from her mom and banned her from coming again
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According to Medical News Today, the Jewish laws put food into 3 categories: meat, dairy, and pareve (or food that doesn’t belong to one of these categories such as eggs and fish). One of the crucial rules when following such a diet is to separate meat from dairy products. The separation goes as far as having different kitchen utensils to prepare meat and dairy separately. It’s also important to remember that you can’t wash these utensils together. It’s also noted that if a person already ate a dish that contains meat, they have to wait until at least the next meal to be able to eat something made from dairy.
What foods should be avoided by people who practice Judaism and follow a kosher diet? These include meats that are not from ruminant animals such as pigs, shellfish (lobsters, crabs, oysters, etc.), and birds that are scavengers or considered predatory.
This situation started a heated argument between the Reddit user and her family
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While these rules might seem hard to follow, the author of the post shared that she’s been keeping her kitchen “kosher”, and her mom coming in and ruining this arrangement made her mad, so she decided to take the key to her house from her and ban her from coming in. The woman then shared that a big family drama ensued and her parents began bombarding her with calls and texts. After OP’s aunt got involved and told her that her relationship with her parents is much more important than the religion she follows, the 24-year-old decided to ask others online if she really was in the wrong here.
Despite knowing that her mom was wrong for messing with her personal space, the woman started doubting herself
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This story started a discussion online where people were telling OP that she was in the right and that despite her mom being unhappy with her daughter’s decision to become a Jew, she had no right to do this to her. Some found this behavior disturbing as the woman had so much hatred towards a certain faith that she went this far to ruin her daughter’s belongings, as the woman later provided users with an update that some of her religious objects were missing from the house.
What is your take on this situation? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!
Other users online were quick to assure the 24-year-old that she was right to stick to her grounds and punish her mom by taking away the key
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Definitely NTA! I'm an atheist myself and honestly dislike most religions. However as long as I don't have to hear about it from others I don't care what they believe. OP's mother is just cruel and nasty! If her mom didn't like religion that's fine, but that's all it should be. Sabotaging OP's kitchen just because she don't agree with her beliefs is just horrible!
Religion aside, at its core this is about lack of consent and violation of boundaries. Sabotaging anyone's personal belongings, regardless of reason, should be illegal.
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Is it possible that this would be considered a hate crime? Could she press charges if she wanted? Trespassing, theft, defacing (?) of property, etc, on top of it being religion based harassment.
This. A hate crime is an addendum charge in my jurisdiction. Here the break and entering which is what entering a home without specific permission to do a thing you haven't been asked to do would be considered here, would be th3 base charge with a hate crime enhancement. Here it absolutely could be
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I worked for and lived with a Jewish family for a short while. I could not give two shakes about their religion, but I still understood that I was in their home. So I told them that my knowledge about it is very limited and pls tell me anything that is a no no (like they had two fridges and certain things could only go into one or the other) so I wouldn't cause any upset. I also expected them to respect my beliefs and traditions because at that point it was my home as well. At Easter we had a conversation about the fact that I always have cooked ham for that occasion. They did not like it but understood. Told me where I can keep it frozen and how to package it, then bought a pan just for me that I could use to cook it (or any other non Kosher stuff I wanted). We were not related and still could live together without trampling on each others trust.
It just takes people willing to respect each other and work out potential problems.
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Definitely NTA! I'm an atheist myself and honestly dislike most religions. However as long as I don't have to hear about it from others I don't care what they believe. OP's mother is just cruel and nasty! If her mom didn't like religion that's fine, but that's all it should be. Sabotaging OP's kitchen just because she don't agree with her beliefs is just horrible!
Religion aside, at its core this is about lack of consent and violation of boundaries. Sabotaging anyone's personal belongings, regardless of reason, should be illegal.
Load More Replies... Is it possible that this would be considered a hate crime? Could she press charges if she wanted? Trespassing, theft, defacing (?) of property, etc, on top of it being religion based harassment.
This. A hate crime is an addendum charge in my jurisdiction. Here the break and entering which is what entering a home without specific permission to do a thing you haven't been asked to do would be considered here, would be th3 base charge with a hate crime enhancement. Here it absolutely could be
Load More Replies... I worked for and lived with a Jewish family for a short while. I could not give two shakes about their religion, but I still understood that I was in their home. So I told them that my knowledge about it is very limited and pls tell me anything that is a no no (like they had two fridges and certain things could only go into one or the other) so I wouldn't cause any upset. I also expected them to respect my beliefs and traditions because at that point it was my home as well. At Easter we had a conversation about the fact that I always have cooked ham for that occasion. They did not like it but understood. Told me where I can keep it frozen and how to package it, then bought a pan just for me that I could use to cook it (or any other non Kosher stuff I wanted). We were not related and still could live together without trampling on each others trust.
It just takes people willing to respect each other and work out potential problems.
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