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“The Police Arrived, Saw The Scale Of The Brawl And Called For Backup”: 30 Of The Most Shocking And Inappropriate Things People Witnessed At Weddings
If there’s ever a time to be on your best behavior, it would be at a wedding. If you’re a bride or groom, all eyes are on you, and you want to remember the occasion as one of the happiest days of your life. And if you’re not tying the knot, it’s best to draw as little attention as possible. Be respectful, dress appropriately, don't drink too many cocktails, and turn your attention to the happy couple.
However, weddings can be emotional. And despite showing up looking their best with a gift in hand, some people seem to forget their manners at home. Below, we’ve gathered some of the most appalling examples of inappropriate behavior that’s taken place at weddings, that people have shared on this Quora thread. From a groom who wrote offensive vows to a mother of the bride who decided to wear white to the ceremony, these breaches of wedding etiquette might make you count your blessings if your loved ones managed to attend your special day without causing a scene.
Be sure to upvote the tales you find most shocking, and then let us know in the comments if you’ve ever observed a major faux pas at a wedding. Keep reading to also find an interview with Los Angeles based wedding planner Alexa Farese. Then, if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article detailing wedding horror stories, we’ve got the perfect one for you right here.
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#1
Some years ago at my little brother’s wedding, he sent out invitations stating very specifically that young children weren’t welcome at the reception and that all parties must RSVP the guest each was bringing (if not named in the invitation). We were clear: you cannot show up with anybody not RSVP’ed and it better not be more than the +1.
What happened?
A relative showed up with her five kids and the oldest’s boyfriend to the reception. No gift. Never went to the actual wedding. Never RSVP’ed and they certainly didn’t RSVP the +6 she brought, wearing really ratty street clothing. It wasn’t very pleasant. My step mom was furious. My dad is anti-confrontational when it comes to family but this was particularly egregious.
My dad and step-mom had to ask the individual to talk. As my step-mom explained it, she said, “I was under the impression that family is the exception to such rules and that this was for friends.” (They wanted free food and alcohol.) Pam (step-mom) apparently said, “No. You were sent an invitation with the rules which applied to you. You didn’t RSVP and you certainly didn’t have the right to bring six people including one total stranger, eat for free, fail to bring a gift and then act inconvenienced.”
We haven’t seen that POS since then.
Babsevs 3 years ago
The nerve of some! Entitled just because of a family link...nope! Rude ...everyone knows that they should rsvp surely, and to completely disregard brother''s specifics (no kids, everyone named etc) shows amazing lack of class and manners
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I swear I should write this in Word, so I can just cut & paste. We clearly told people no one under 12 was invited to our wedding. Friend asks if she can bring her 3 (all under 10). No, you can't. I just had a funny feeling, so we had one of the groomsmen standing guard at the church door. Sure enough, here she comes with all 3 kids and proceeds to tell the groomsman that I had given her "special permission". He laughed in her face and asked her "why do you think I'm out here guarding the door? Michelle told me to tell YOU, to just go home". She had sent a gift to my house, which I promptly mailed back to her, along with a note formally terminating our friendship. I don't need people who can't respect my boundaries in my life.
R 3 years ago
Wow. Sounds like it was the highlight to your wedding. I don't understand why you even invited her except for the entertainment value and likely because you are that petty.
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SheamusFanFrom1987 3 years ago
POS is right! As one who has witnessed this first-hand, these types of family bridges should be burned, demolished and have the foundations destroyed as I don't think anyone would want to rebuild them ever again!
Paula Steiner 3 years ago
This would be worth having a security detail to bounce people like that out.
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#2
At my wedding, my new father-in-law started his speech by saying they assumed I was pregnant when their son told them we were getting married. I wasn’t, and he wasn’t joking. My husband called his parents on speakerphone to tell them the news when we got engaged, and their first comment was that he didn’t have to marry me, we could work something out, so clearly, they thought I was pregnant. Ironically, we have now been married and happily child-free for 18 years
T'Mar of Vulcan 3 years ago
My dad would always gleefully tell the story of how, when he (19) and my mom (20 - they were 6 months apart in age) got married in 1948, all mom's aunts started "counting months" because they thought my mom was pregnant. "They started counting months, then counting years, and they all died still counting!" he would say while cackling. I was born 21 years after their marriage.
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago
XD that story gave me a good laugh! Thank you!
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Brenda Spagnola-Wilson 3 years ago
In-laws assumed I was pushing for marriage when we got pregnant, telling hubby not to do it, bad idea (I agreed), I'd only use and hurt him. When he told them I had declined his offer of marriage just because I was pregnant (bad idea) FIL flipped out saying I must think I'm too good for him to marry & I definitely wasn't good enough for him, blah,blah, blah... I obviously just wanted a baby and for him to support me..... I was thrilled about the baby (told I'd never get pregnant on my own), told hubby totally in or out, his choice. I was divorced and didn't want to marry again. Our son turned 3 a month after our wedding. Finally became FILs favorite cause I didn't back down from him. Ever. Miss him still 10 years later
Jill Hojnacki 3 years ago
When my late husband (then 31yo) told his lovely parents that he was in love their first reaction was to say, “That’s great, honey! Male, or female?” When he told them I was female they then asked, “How far along is she?” I gather they were a bit surprised (based on their experience with his younger siblings) when he responded, “She isn’t.” 🤣 My MIL & FIL were great. RIP
Trisec Tebeakesse 3 years ago
While I have no regrets, I often wonder what our lives might have been after our infertility diagnosis had we gone in a different direction. (We did treatments, failed, then adopted.)
Fight Hypocrites 3 years ago
I have 2 male cousins who were pretty wild in their teens and twenties. Great guys, hard working, love their mama, polite to ladies and always willing to help. But lawdy, fast cars, drinking, fighting for fun (or a righteous cause)... They both got married in their mid twenties; short engagements and small weddings. The old biddies started counting. Both their brides have a snapshot of themselves standing sideways showing off very flat bellies. No babies for either couple for at least 2 years and both marriages going strong 40+ years later.
JoJo Anisko 3 years ago
My future in-laws suggested we should just live together; my mother kept asking if I was preggo until well after our first anniversary.
Momma Panda 3 years ago
When my now husband and I announced our engagement everyone tought we were expecting. We were dating for 7yrs at the time. I guess less and less people get married today just because they are in love.
#3
I’ve been to several bridal showers where the bride for sure wasn’t inviting us to her wedding, but we were good enough to give her presents. Oh well. I tried to swallow it and show up anyway and be nice. I guess my wedding was one that wasn’t done. My husband and I were broke and so we stapled invitations printed at Kinko’s to telephone poles in Athens, GA and had a potluck after the ceremony, which was held in the empty field next to our house. The minister was a guy in our food co-op who had a $5 license from the Mother Earth Church. Nobody really complained (though some older relatives got a bit sniffy), because everyone who came to the party was broke too, so it was more of a neighborhood event. We’ve been married 38 years.
Stannous Flouride 3 years ago
(Sorry for my being redundant but) Numerous studies have found there in an inverse correlation between the cost of the wedding and length/success of the marriage. When I've mentioned this before it was as a comment on the ridiculous costs but in this one it's just the opposite and just proves the point.
Dumpster Fire 3 years ago
Small and simple is always better. I hope they have another 38 years together.
KING ILLEGAL FOREST 3 years ago
If I ever get married, this is the kind of wedding I want. No fuss, no drama, no craziness, just a bbq in the back yard.
Some guy 2 years ago
Sounds pretty close to our wedding -- DIY, in her parents' back yard. Bought our own (not expensive) decorations, my sister made us a cake, I burned our favorite music onto CDs, etc. This'll be our 24th year together!
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Amber Suttle 3 years ago
When my sister told me she was having a potluck at her reception I couldn't believe it but it was successful and when I got married seven years later, I had one too
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
People put way to much emphasis on the wedding & reception (which is basically just a fancy party) and not nearly enough on the MARRIAGE.
Merilyn Horton 3 years ago
Our wedding cost $200, and was catered for by the church ladies. The meal was delicious and we all had a blast.
Clearly, weddings can be a wild time. So to learn more about all of the chaos that can go down at these joyous events, we reached out to Los Angeles based wedding planner Alexa Farese. She's certainly an expert on the topic, as Alexa told us she has attended between 400-500 weddings in her lifetime. We asked her if she had witnessed anything particularly inappropriate at these events, and she told Bored Panda, "Ohhh, yes! I've seen it all, from guests wearing white (not cool!) to guests being so belligerently intoxicated they lock themselves in the bathroom and can't figure out how to open the door!"
"At one wedding, the groom became so intoxicated that he face-planted into the cake, breaking the dessert table on his way down!" Alexa shared. "Early on in my career I was at a wedding where the bride's ex showed up with a group of his friends. They snuck in through the kitchen and started a fight with the bridal party! It was NUTS! Luckily security put an end to the chaos quickly, but it was wildly inappropriate and took the spotlight off of the couple for the moment. Some of the less extreme and common faux-pas are showing up late, whispering (or outright talking) throughout the ceremony and/or speeches, and over indulging in the bar."
#4
My parents joined in with my first dance. It was the first time my husband (who is somewhat shy) had ever agreed to dance with me and it was special, until my parents decided to crash it and join in as well. This was not unusual, my mum tried to make the whole wedding about her and her needs, even down to wearing a white dress and having flowers in her hair like I did.
It didn’t ruin the wedding but it did make me see for the second to last time, just how self-centred and thoughtless she was. Fortunately, apart from once after our UK wedding reception (we got married overseas), I have not seen her since and my life has been infinitely better for it.
Babsevs 3 years ago
I'm sorry this happened to you.... narcissistic families exist, and when it's your mum...seems to hit on a deeper level
Well-Dressed Wolf 3 years ago
Can confirm. My mother is almost cartoonishly narcissistic and it’s horrible. She forced me into acting as a small child and straight up told me “when you make it big, you’ll make a lot of money and then I’ll never have to work again.” Suffice to say the “acting years” were a little traumatizing to me (I’m shy, to say the least.)
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keighterz 3 years ago
Why do women think they have to compete with their daughters? I have two sons so maybe I just don’t understand it but come on, you should be proud of your daughter and lifting her up, celebrating!
Seabeast 3 years ago
I have known fathers who were competitive with their sons, so it isn't just a mother-daughter thing.
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Erin Weinmeister 3 years ago
I'm at a complete loss when I read these stories where the mother or mother-in-law tries to make the bride special day about them. Obviously you don't love your child enough if you have to make their special day all about you.
Gardener of Weeden 3 years ago
That is not normal? During my 1st dance after a bit my in-laws "joined", then my cousin danced with my mom, at one point Husband danced with his Mom and I danced with Mine.
Jill Rhodry 3 years ago
Traditionally the happy couple will invite their guests to join them on the dance floor before the first dance song ends - parents join in first.
N Miller 3 years ago
Key word here is "invite". You don't get to crash just because you've decided the attention should be back on you. (Not sure why you got downvoted for pointing this out tho)
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Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
That's kind of a tradition here (Germany): Once the bride and groom have danced "the first dance" their parents join in, then they switch partners so the mother of the bride dances with the groom, the father of the groom dances with the bride... More people join in and thus, the dancing starts. Most couples I know were glad when their parents joined in, because people weren't focused on watching them dance alone anymore.
We then asked Alexa what some of the most important things to keep in mind are when it comes to wedding etiquette. "Weddings are meant to be a celebration of love and union - all guests and vendors should remember this!" she told Bored Panda. "Arrive on time, smile big, be quiet through the ceremony and toasts, pay attention to special dances and moments, dance the night away, and always, always drink responsibly! As long as you show up ready to celebrate your loved ones' special day and stay committed to that mindset throughout the wedding, then you are doing it right."
#5
I was working as a silver service waitress for a wedding at a local hotel. After the meal was served and cleared, I and the other waiting staff started making the rounds with ‘champagne’ for the toast as speeches were about to start.
As I approached the top table the bride launched herself out of her seat and started laying into the maid of honour, fists flying, hair pulling, cursing, stuff getting hauled off the table to use as weapons, furniture knocked over, the whole nine yards.
Members of the wedding party tried to pull the two ladies apart, but it escalated into a pitched battle with family members from all sides being involved.
The manager of the hotel evacuated the staff to the car park and the police were called. The police arrived, saw the scale of the brawl and called for back up. The car park filled with police cars and they went in and broke up the fight.
We saw the bride handcuffed and taken away in a police car. The maid of honour and one other bridesmaid left in an ambulance. Various other members of the wedding party were hauled off in police vans.
Turns out the Bride’s mother stumbled upon the Groom banging the Maid of Honour in the disabled toilet earlier in the reception and decided to share that information with the Bride whilst the party was waiting for champagne to be served!
AxleMunshine001 3 years ago
YouTube is packed with wedding receptions that end in fisticuffs. Most of them happen in Russia. Too much vodka?
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Anne-Sophie Dumetz 3 years ago
She really should've taken that anger out on the brand new hubby
Monday 3 years ago
Well your Maid of Honour is usually your best friend right? I'd want to murder both my husband and my maid of honour in that situation.
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Marleinah Smith 3 years ago
I don't understand why the hell people get married when they clearly want someone else!!!!
Jane Cortez 3 years ago
I attended a coworker’s wedding, meeting her husband to be for the first time. The ENTIRE time I was there he was watching me… even when he was saying his vows. My husband and I left shortly thereafter, in the privacy of our car I told him what had occurred. Fast forward to a few months later and she offers me a lift home from work. Lo and behold her hubby is picking her up, I make excuses to avoid having to go in their car…. The backseat of course is full of his hockey gear, to which he apologizes and says, ‘you can play with my stick anytime.’ She laughs nervously and I am silent the entire drive home. Sadly, I rebuffed her as a result, even though I really liked her. Fortunately they were divorced within a year. I could never bring myself to say anything, ( obviously ), to her. Hope she has found true love now.
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
This could have been handled much more discreetly and appropriately... Death by "swirly" for both the Groom and the Maid of Honor in the regular bathroom stalls. Gauche to let this pair block the handicapped stall.
Monday 3 years ago
Bigger betrayal for your bestie to sleep with your husband than for your husband to cheat maybe?
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Pamela Blue 3 years ago
Well, time for the annulment. Heck, the ink probably wasn't even dry on the marriage certificate!
We were also curious why people feel that they can act inappropriately at weddings. "This is a tough question," Alexa said. "Weddings are really emotional days, and those emotions can manifest differently for people. Some people take overwhelming emotion and turn it into drama or stress. Maybe it is easier for some people to process or handle more familiar emotions (like stress)."
"When we see this behavior from parents or close relatives of our couples we usually try to occupy them with a purpose (i.e. put them in charge of keeping the bouquet safe all night, have them help usher guests, etc.). People with a purpose are able to focus their emotions a little easier and tend to calm down," Alexa explained.
If you're in need of a wedding planner or just want to gain some inspiration for the future, be sure to visit Alexa's website right here.
#6
I heard the marriage celebrant say to the bride as she signed the register, 'This will be the last time you use that name.' The bride replied pleasantly, 'Oh no, that’s my name, and I’m not changing it.' Then, the marriage celebrant introduced the bride and groom as Mr. and Mrs. (husband’s name). I was appalled at this rudeness, and the look of anger on the bride's face was obvious. If the bride could have shot laser beams out of her eyes, she would have. But the bride said nothing, not adding to the rudeness of the marriage celebrant. I wasn’t the only one who heard this rudeness, and basically, the marriage celebrant ‘aggressively’ stamping her views on marriage on someone else’s day. Another shocked guest came up to the bride and commented on it, and congratulated the bride for keeping her cool
wifeofweasley 3 years ago
I'm not planning on ever getting married but Idk what will happen in the next few years and I'll find the love of my life and will get married anyways - I am not changing my last name for various reasons. The first one is that it fits perfectly to my first name and second it's the name my dad gave me. He won't live long enough to see me eventually get married (heart disease) so I'll carry his name til the day I lay.
Vonkiedool 3 years ago
Good for you. Just one question out of curiosity.... is your name wife or wifeof, either way hats off to you and I do agree wifeof and weasley fits perfectly together
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Tammy Bentley 3 years ago
My husband took my name. His genetic doner was a POS and he had no intentions of passing that name onto another generation. So shorty after we got together he said if the day ever came that we were to get married I'm taking your name. I loved the idea! I had been married before and hated getting rid of my name. So that's what we did... Never told my husband parents cause they would have flipped their lids and would try to change his mind. So the day of is when they found out and in typical narcissistical fashion my FIL flipped his lid in anger and left in a toddler style tantrum leaving my families jaws on the ground.... The kicker here.... My FIL is my husband's step dad and did not ever share a name with him. The misogyny is strong with the FIL...
Pursuing Peonies 3 years ago
This is how my and mine are! He wants to take my name and I don't want to change my name (unless we make up our own name).
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 3 years ago
Honestly, I wouldn't want my future wife (if I ever get married) to be expected to take my last name. After all, mine is so common that I could practically bump into the next guy/girl and they would have the same last name. She ought to keep her last name because that has been part of her since the day she was born whereas I only came into her life later. Heck, we could combine our last names into a double-barreled one should she agree with it. After all, it's a partnership, not a takeover so why should there only be one surname present.
Some guy 2 years ago
"It's a partnership, not a takeover . . .". Brilliantly said!
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3 Owls In A Coat 3 years ago
My coworker just took his new wife’s name. I think it’s cool. The rest of our coworkers were so catty about it, I had to interrupt them one day to loudly wonder if I had suddenly gone back in time to the 1950s.
Some guy 2 years ago
I had a coworker who took his wife's name because hers just sounded cooler. He was right!
Load More Replies... Dumpster Fire 3 years ago
My wife didn't take my last name, and that's perfectly fine. It isn't 1865 anymore, and everybody should be able to choose what they want to be known as.
UpupaEpops 3 years ago (edited)
The only reason why I would take a man's name is to have ONE name that people aren't butchering on a daily basis. 🤷🏻♀️
Kathleen R. 3 years ago
And a lot of people do it so all their kids have the same name as both parents.
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madbakes 3 years ago
Wouldn't this have been discussed with the officiant prior to the ceremony??
Ruth Harper 3 years ago
Sure, but to aggressively not only use the same last name but to call the bride by the husband's first and last name once the bride says she isn't changing her name is just plain rude.
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Zenozenobee 3 years ago
If I had been the bride , I would have speak very loudly "I'M SORRY, I DIDN'T REALISED YOU HAVE TROUBLES TO HEAR. THIS IS MR X AND MRS Y. THANK YOU FOR YOUR SO PROFESSIONAL CELEBRATION OF OUR WEDDING☺️" Add a lot of fake smileys and kindness.
Kathleen R. 3 years ago (edited)
Zenozenobee --- Honestly, she would not be Mrs. Y. --- If her name is Betty Smith and his name is David Jones. Mrs. is "the wife of" So she can be, Betty Smith, Miss Betty Smith (or Ms.) OR Mrs. David Jones, or just Mrs. Jones. ---- She is NOT Mrs. Smith. --- And, If she HAD taken his name she is still not even Mrs. Betty Jones -- a common misconception. She would be either Betty Jones, or Mrs. David Jones or Mrs. Jones. The Mrs. never goes with HER name, because she is not the wife of herself. --- And to introduce them the officiant should have simply said, "please welcome the Bride and Groom, Betty Smith and David Jones" which actually would emphasize that she is not changing her name.
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I sincerely hope that if any of you pandas are planning on tying the knot soon that your friends and family members will know how to behave themselves, but if something goes wrong, just know that you're in good company. Apparently, drama can ensue anytime at any place, even a wedding. Keep upvoting the stories you find particularly wild, and then let us know in the comments if there was any chaos on your wedding day.
#7
I went to a wedding with my roommate as her 'plus one'...or so I thought. Turns out, she was NOT invited. She had previously dated and given an STD to the groom
DennyS (denzoren) 3 years ago
I went to a wedding of a close friend where an ex showed up with her plus-one (not related to this post lol) and they were just there acting like they were invited.
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
How do these people find out were the wedding is held? It's not like people go around sharing location, date and time of any event they're invited to with everyone, right?
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Let me start by saying I have a family that has a very old school mentality when it comes to things like respect, loyalty, and how we show someone they've made a misstep with their personal conduct. So in the mid to late 90s 1 of my female cousins got married. She was in her mid 20s and had been living with her husband for a couple of years before the wedding. After the wedding there were probably 400–450 people at the reception. After all of the traditional festivities of food, toasts, and dancing the party atmosphere cranked up. As people danced, drank, and generally enjoyed themselves 7 or 8 of us guys were behind the head table talking about the new couple's life going forward. As a group of guys often do, especially after a few adult beverages have been deployed, we were breaking balls and laughing when the now husband says something to the effect of if she doesn't do something to get control of expanding fat sloppy ass I'll have to take action. Unfortunately for him his wife's father was right next to him and obviously took offense. He immediately told the husband, that she is his daughter, he'd better show her the respect she deserves, further disrespect would not be tolerated. The husband replied that she was now his property and he'd any say any goddamn thing he wanted. It was at this point my uncle decided to show the husband how serious he was when he spoke. He did this by tackling him over the head table and throwing him a beating for the ages. Still the only wedding I've ever heard of ending with the groom leaving the reception in an ambulance due to injuries inflicted by his new father-in-law. Good times! Just FYI they are no longer married, it only lasted a short time after the wedding day.
Babsevs 3 years ago
No shocker to find out that was short-lived! FIL beating the groom...."property" FFS!
MimSorensson 3 years ago
Yeah, I mean… I’m usually not a fan of violence, as a rule it’s an embarrassing failure from an adult who should have learned better somewhere during kindergarten; but dude - “property”? Did the dumb pile of shìt mistake his wife for a slave somehow? Yeah, I wouldn’t have blamed father-in-law here.
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Anon822209 3 years ago
Shoot, as a mother I'd do the same. And I have a son, not a daughter.
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Ruth Harper 3 years ago
Not a fan of violence, but in this case the groom really deserved it. What an entitled, sexist a*****e.
#9
I attended a wedding where there were 30 “surprise” guests (who were not invited by the bride and groom but by other people on the groom’s side who had invited them without asking or telling anyone) for a sit down dinner at a very fancy hotel. As if that wasn’t bad enough, some of these “extra uninvited guests” demanded “kosher meals” at the dinner (I was helping with the wedding arrangements and I ordered them tuna salad sandwiches because I knew for certain that the tuna salad was kosher. Some of them had the nerve to complain to me that they wanted baked salmon. I told them that if they wanted baked salmon for dinner, they were free to leave because they were getting the tuna salad sandwiches that I was kind enough to order for them at the last minute). To really “add the finishing touches”, one of these “extra uninvited guests” brought her 8 year old grand daughter (this was a “no children” wedding) who started to perform her tap dance recital on the dance floor as the music started. I dragged this brat (kindest way to describe her) off the dance floor and told her grandmother that since they were not invited to this event by the bride and groom (who had no idea who they were), they had to leave NOW or I would have security remove them
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
You remember those big shepherd's crooks they used in the old cartoons to yank the tap dancers off the stage? Yeah... Would have been appropriate here.
KING ILLEGAL FOREST 3 years ago
Why do people even allow these uninvited "guests" into the wedding in the first place?? Kick their @sses tf out!!
TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
We have a zone on this island that is notoriously known for behavior like that lol, if there is a party you can be sure that half of the vilage is going to show up, invited or not, on the plus side they always carry a gift.
Spittnimage 3 years ago
Of course the uninvited guests who wanted something kosher complained later they were served tuna salad.
Frederick Schulkind 3 years ago
Not sure the child was a "brat". The grandmother probably put her up to it.
Erin Weinmeister 3 years ago
I don't even understand why they were allowed in in the first place. The bride and groom had a set amount number of guests and had already paid for the food. I'd be pissed if my wedding planner had let in 30 extra people without my knowledge.
LangiStudios 2 years ago
"who were not invited by the bride and groom but by other people on the groom’s side who had invited them without asking or telling anyone" How the *bleep* are you going to invite people to someone else's event? What's wrong with you? I'd have kicked them out with the crashers.
Brian Droste 2 years ago
I would love to hear the other side of this story from uninvited guest. There take if the wedding.
#10
I didn't see it for myself, but my parents told me that at my brother's wedding reception, my great-aunt approached my dad, told him it was her birthday, and asked if the venue staff could bring her a cupcake with a lit candle that she could blow out while everyone sang 'Happy birthday' to her. My dad, as father of the groom, was distracted and flustered, and he apparently agreed to this request (maybe to get the great-aunt to go away so he could deal with other people and issues that needed his attention) but never actually arranged for it, although he didn't fail to do so intentionally. After the wedding, my great-aunt called my mom's sister and left a tremendously pissed-off message in her voicemail. My mom's sister later shared it with my parents. This resulted in our family dubbing the great-aunt 'Aunt Cupcake.'
Jordi Sharpe 3 years ago
Lemme ask you a quick question, Auntie: how many birthdays have you had? Uh huh... I see, over 70. Okay. Let me ask you another teensy question: how many weddings has this young woman here had? Excuse me? A little louder for everyone listening. None? That's right! This is her first wedding. That's pretty special, isn't it? Here's an idea: why don't you shut the f**k up, sit down and try to make it to next year. I'll buy you a cake if you live that long.
Mora Chilis 3 years ago
Haha if she controlled the purse strings and inheritance, she can blow out the wedding cake to happy birthday. LOL
#11
I was the deacon, assisting the priest who’d do the wedding. I’d caught the groomsmen half an hour before sharing drinks from a big bottle of good Scotch. I admonished them and confiscated the half-empty bottle. I thought that was the big breach of the day. I was wrong.
Thirty minutes later the church was full. The organist was playing Bach to fill in until the ceremony began. They’d already pulled out the white cloth to cover the main aisle for the bride’s grand entrance. The altar candles were blazing. The mostly sober groom and five groomsmen in their rented regalia were marching into place at the front, to wait for the bride. The maid of honor and five matching bridesmaids were already there.
The mother of the bride found me. I could see her tears, common at a wedding. She whispered. “Julie changed her mind.” I asked “About what? Vows? the wedding candle? What next?”
“About getting married!” Mother said, out loud. “Can you talk to her? She likes you.”
I followed Mom back to the little bride’s room downstairs. Julie was there in a chair with her worried dad, wedding dress and veil on, tears streaming, mouth quivering. “I’m not doing it, I’m not doing it? I don’t love him he doesn’t care about this baby!” (Baby? What baby?) She turned to her mother and almost shouted “you can’t make me.” I did a perfunctory “Are you sure, Julie?” I got a definite “yes,” and said “OK, I’ll go tell Father Wozniak. Do you want us to tell the people?” She did.
Thank God Father W. decided he’d tell the people. He went out, explained that the bride was having a bit of a thing, nothing dangerous, but that the wedding wasn’t going ahead. I don’t remember specifics, but he was a great speaker and made it sound almost . . .normal.
It was definitely the biggest breach of wedding etiquette I ever experienced, and later, when I was helping couples get ready for their marriage ceremony, I was always careful to be sure they were sure.
tHeBoRdEsTpAnDa 3 years ago
...Wait, so were they only getting married because she was pregnant?
ThatHuskyStorm 3 years ago
Sounds like it. Almost sounds like the mother was forcing her to get married because of the baby.
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Crouching hippo hidden panda 3 years ago
The tone of this seems off. A breach of etiquette? If she was being forced to or felt pressured to get married against her will then she sure as hell should have bolted. Who cares about wedding etiquette at that point?
Taibhse Sealgair 3 years ago
Worked with a young lady 25 years ago that was engaged with a big wedding planned out of state. Her, fiance, and all the families traveled to that state for the wedding. The night before, she decided she didn't want to and bailed out. Turns out she was "in love with someone else", who just happened to be another co-worker. Last I heard they were still happily married, so I guess her gut feeling was right. (Good for them both, BTW, as they were both good people.)
Amber Suttle 3 years ago (edited)
My boyfriend now husband and I chose not to get married when I got pregnant. We wanted to be sure we would last as a couple since we hadn't been together long. We got married when she was six months old. She just turned seven and our youngest just turned five and we are still married..but thankfully it was our choice and ours alone
Jami Stewart-Laycock 3 years ago
I am stuck on the first paragraph... He "confiscated" the half empty bottle and admonished them?!? What the f... did I read? You are proud of taking a legal beverage away from grown adults because you decide what is and isn't ok at a strangers event you were being paid to work at??? I don't agree with drinking in the church but again not your event and not your decision to make... But I guess it falls inline with the rest of the trainwreck... Ugh
#12
A female friend married another friend... When they announced their engagement, his mom suddenly got 'the vapors' like a delicate Southern belle, fanning her face with a hanky and calling for water. They went on with the wedding plans. Everything went fine, but when they did the cake-smashing thing, his mom literally sprinted to her son, shoved the bride out of the way, licked a tissue and tried to clean the cake off his face. He was appalled, and his mom got upset when he went to his now wife to apologize for his mom shoving her out of the way
Babsevs 3 years ago
What did I just read?! Really?? Spit in a hanky to wipe the face of an ADULT MAN! Poor bride, MIL from hell alert!
Ruth Harper 3 years ago
At least the husband apologized to the bride. When you really have to be worried is when the man defends his mother rather than standing up for his wife or girlfriend.
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bob van wijk 3 years ago
You hurt my little sweetheart and you made him dirty you bozo! Come to mommy. Let me clean you with my spit, sweet baby.
Michelle C 3 years ago
Good for the groom for standing up to his mother by apologizing to his wife! He seems like he already has strong boundaries in place and both of them having strong boundaries will be good for their marriage!
Marleinah Smith 3 years ago
Has everybody here seen Monster-in-Law, with Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda?
Elizabeth Butler 3 years ago
The cake in the face thing is an abomination, especially when the groom does it when the bride had asked him NOT to do it.
#13
The groom's brother-in-law thought it would be hilarious to roast him about his former drug use. The drug use had been long-ago in the past, when the groom was young. By his wedding day, he was a responsible adult, working in a high-power job for a conservative Wall Street firm. BIL did his routine in front of all the assembled people, including the groom's own parents, his new in-laws, and some bosses and colleagues from his job. That was at least 15 years ago; the groom still won't talk with BIL.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
I don't think I've ever heard the term "knobjockey" before, but it just landed a spot on my "favorite insults" list. Thanks for the new vocabulary. ;)
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Erin Weinmeister 3 years ago
That's just so wrong to begin with but on their wedding day?!? Brother-in-law must not be very smart and definitely has no class.
Andyl 2 years ago
"Oh, I got it! I know what will make the perfect speech - just the right amount of humor and heart appropriate for a wedding! The whole 'ribbing the groom for his dating past' is so played-out. Now, an impromptu comedy central roast about his darkest moments, demons, and substance abuse issues is fresh! They're gonna be so happy I came up with something original and he's gonna be so happy to finally have someone besides those weird people who only talked about it *anonymously*! His boss is gonna wanna promote him once he knows Dave lived off unemployment & couldn't pass a drug test! LOL! MiL is gonna love toasting champagne after she knows he gets violent drunk. Dave is gonna laugh his butt off reliving the calls he used to get from his family worried he was dead after he went M.I.A. for days at a time! Perfection!"
Pursuing Peonies 3 years ago
Not everyone wants a "roast the couple" type wedding. It's not required or funny for everyone. A lot of people just want to just enjoy the celebration.
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My husband and I just got married in June. My Mother In-laws behavior was appalling. She started eating appetizers before the wedding, which in itself isn't that bad. She stood during the entire ceremony, blocking the view of many of the guests, including my parents who paid for everything. They had to move in order to see. She also blocked the view of the wedding photographer we hired.
After the ceremony, she didn't even give my husband and myself a second to ourselves to celebrate together. She threw her phone at me, demanding I take a picture of her and her son. My sister said something to her, and she nearly threw punches at her for speaking up.
When I didn't take a picture of them because the photographer walked up and asked to take family pictures, she pestered her to take a picture with her phone for about 15 minutes. The photographer offered to text her photos, but she refused.
At the reception, she complained about the food, saying it was too spicy (we had a taco bar). Despite complaining she tried to get seconds before everyone had even been served their first plate. My husband told me she complained when I didn't spend the whole reception at the head table. All I can say now, is that I'm so glad my husband is the polar opposite of her.
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
Tacos at a wedding reception? That's braaaaaaave....nothing wrong with tacos or anything, but I've never been able to eat one without it making a mess.
Diane Aguilar 3 years ago
That's only because you weren't raised eating them. My family is Mexican and I can eat tacos while wearing my fanciest dress and still come out of it with a pristine outfit, but then again I don't consider that ground beef concoction in a crunchy "taco shell" a real taco. You can eat legitimate tacos using actual fillings and tortillas in a way that may only leave your hands dirty with the greasiest/sauciest kinds, and in a way that only requires a quick trip to the restroom to wash your hands.
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Mora Chilis 3 years ago
Some one should have asked her to move. Some people truly aren't aware.
#15
I’m not certain it’s a breach, but while attending my sister-in-law's wedding in the Caribbean, the girlfriend of someone in the wedding party (they had been together for 5-6 years) started 'woe is me' nonsense about not getting engaged, and she’s not getting any younger, and actually crying and making a scene at the reception. Her boyfriend called for a cab and went to a jewelry store and bought her a wedding ring DURING the reception. Here’s where the train completely derails. He presents her the ring at the reception, and she cries. She doesn’t like the ring he bought for her. Now, every woman at the reception is over trying to comfort her while her boyfriend stands there with a ring box and a $3,500 ring. He calls another cab and goes back to the jewelry store and buys a more expensive ring on his credit card. He brings it back to the now thinning reception and gives it to his weepy girlfriend. She perks right up and says, 'Much better!
Alsoomse Catori 3 years ago
Ungrateful lady dog is now my go to insult. Love it 😀
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Rylosalex 3 years ago
That would have been the appropriate response....if the guy had nay common sense
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KOTLC_Fan 🇺🇦 3 years ago
What the heck- who does she think she is that she can do that at SOMEONE ELSES WEDDING
James Pasquini 3 years ago
OMG! You said "attention'! No censoring you! lol
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Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
Yeah, I don't think I woulda bought the first ring after the woe is me show, but if I had, I would have had enough class (and that's a long reach for me) to not upstage the newlyweds at their own wedding reception. There wouldn't be a second ring...first ring returned and the money spent on a ticket home asap.
#16
The groom had been engaged before, and he'd canceled his first wedding just days in advance. His choice was the right one, but it was nonetheless a painful, difficult, embarrassing decision, something best left in the past.
When he did marry another person, some years later, his brother was best man. Brother began his toast by crassly teasing about the broken engagement and last-minute cancellation. He started with a series of supposed jokes about:
-- Can we really believe the groom had shown up this time?
-- Who thought he'd actually go through with it?
-- Did the guests think they'd be together that day instead of getting cancellation phone calls?, etc.
None of this was funny; it was all cruel. People were glancing at each other awkwardly. The newly-married couple stared at the floor and tried to laugh uncomfortably.
WonderWoman 3 years ago
I will never understand toasts like this. Just stand and say congratulations and move on.
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
WonderWoman: It's called "spite". Brother is likely a jealous and petty person.
Load More Replies... Dumpster Fire 3 years ago
I was a best man once. I made jokes about my friendship with the groom, but only spoke highly of the wife-to-be, and I certainly did NOT bring up sins past. There's a time and a place for that, and a wedding is not the time OR the place.
DC 3 years ago
... I get that people may try to do this in a funny way ... depending on guests and actual situation, of which I have no further knowledge, it may even be possible that they somehow succeed in doing so ... a bit ... like, maybe ... you get my point. But ... if it shows that it won't work out pretty early in the process, like it seems to be the case here ... there's always a turn you can take, and whoever prepares to joke around, likely has some default-standard-jokes that are less individual, but work kinda everywhere, which may at least serve as a backup in case a backup is needed, as it seems to be the case here... What a stupid brother.
Kiss Army 3 years ago
I had a previous broken engagement (it was broken very early before any real wedding planning had taken place). When I got engaged to my husband, I called my (I thought) best friend to tell her and ask her to be my Maid of Honor. Instead of saying congratulations or something positive, she said she would be my Maid of Honor if I "really got married this time". I told her never mind and ended up not including her in my wedding party at all. She still traveled to our hometown for the wedding but our friendship was never the same.
#17
At our wedding reception, my sister-in-law made a point of going around to several people commenting I had a lot of nerve wearing white when I had lived with my husband before marrying, a fact which was not a secret exactly, but we hadn't advertised it either. She wore white at her wedding even though she had been married before
AJ Claymore 3 years ago
My wife's aunt made a big deal out of us "living in sin" before we got married. I told her that I would never marry anyone who I didnt know I could live with and if she had a problem with that she could go tell a fence post bc I didn't give two shits. 16 years later we're still married and she's divorced the POS abuser she married prior to ever living with him.
Brenda Spagnola-Wilson 3 years ago
2nd wedding I wore white. I was divorced, hubby and I had a child already and lived together 3 years. He wanted me in white, I wore the dress he picked out for me. It made him happy so I was happy
Dumpster Fire 3 years ago
Maybe it time we stop putting so much emphasis on tired old traditions.
General Anaesthesia 3 years ago
As long as you were virgins at the wedding, white is okay, right? :)
#18
In 2004, I was getting married to a wonderful lady. I was a two time loser, but felt I was a different person now, and that I had found a woman crazy enough to put up with the parts that hadn’t yet changed. We went a less traditional route, at least it was less traditional in 2004, and had an outdoor wedding at a spiritual retreat with a really nice female minister. We sat down and planned out what we were going to say, and she told us she would say some things about marriage, etc. On the big day, it was unseasonably warm, maybe mid-80’s, and we were both nervous/excited. We had a small gathering, maybe 50 people, and were mostly in the shade, so we were making do. When the minister started talking, I swear she spoke for 20 minutes, at least. She rambled so much that she started talking about her former husbands (yes, plural). She was talking about her 2nd husband leaving socks in the sink, or something nutty like that, when I gave her a look that must have conveyed my displeasure, because she quickly ended her ‘speech?’ and we wrapped everything up. We’ve been married for almost 18 years and we still will talk about the crazy lady that married us
Upstaged75 3 years ago
When one of my friends got married, the bishop who was performing the ceremony pronounced her name wrong the entire time. Over and over again. It was a "non-American" name but not hard to say or anything. (In fact I was thinking maybe I had been saying her name wrong for the last 20 years myself! I hadn't.) It was strange - you'd think they would have gone over that ahead of time. This bishop then proceeded to get drunk at the reception and ended up passed out in one of our friend's rooms. I still have a picture of him - fancy robes, pointy hat and everything! I had to share my bed with the friend because the bishop took his. It was a crazy drunken night, but that guy sure had a good time. I wonder if he did that at all his weddings? It's a funny story now, but I felt so bad for the bride when her name was butchered. :(
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
He sounds crazy unprofessional and inappropriate. I would have thought that kind of behavior would be frowned on, but here we are... I'd had to kick him out and tell him to get sloshed on his own dime/time. As a person who should be viewed as an authority, a moral advisor to his church, and whose behavior should be mirrored by his congregation, I would have zero respect for him with behavior like that.
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Pheebs 3 years ago
My aunt married my hubs and I. It was the 3rd wedding she’d done for the fam, and decided to get cutesy with mine. It went on for soooo long. We didn’t write our own vows because I can’t be trusted to not have a sarcastic spin on anything, but sarcasm would have been preferable to the randomness my aunt came up with. S**t like “do you promise to stay with him even as his snoring ruins your sleep”. If it was one or two things, I’d have been fine. I swear it took 10 mins just to get through the weird lists she came up with for both of us.
#19
We were invited to my cousin's wedding… Held at a very ritzy place! Her parents are pretty wealthy… Nothing left undone! The groom's family also pretty well off. His family traveled several hours by car for the wedding. It was a "weekend get-away" type wedding. His family only stayed overnight the night before the wedding… This enabled them to literally strip the wedding reception room of ANY leftover food (they actually brought containers for the food!),took every flower (even the flower pieces that were placed in the private bathrooms for wedding guests only). My uncle ended up paying an additional $40,000 for all the things taken from the groom's parents & siblings rooms… including the tv's that were mounted to the walls!!! My cousin was wild with anger… and when her new husband defended his family… she had the marriage annulled within a month! Total "wedding cost" was over $100,000… Including lawyer fees for the divorce!
wifeofweasley 3 years ago
I am so confused... At first I was like Oh okay taking left over food home sounds like a great idea (like fr food waste sucks). Than I continued reading and it got worse from sentence to sentence... they took the TVs??????
Rylosalex 3 years ago
Wow! Surprised that the family didn't strip the hotel room bare of all the furnishings as well....the bed, lamps, wall paintings...ect.
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Pursuing Peonies 3 years ago
Because the vast majority of that food will literally be gone to waste (straight to the trash). Though I'm confused as to the timing of things, says they stayed overnight before the wedding to do this. Idk.
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Brian Droste 2 years ago
If both families were well off why would one family strip and take everything? Don't make no sense. That stuff shouldn't matter. Just plain mean.
LangiStudios 2 years ago
Some people feel entitled to things no matter how much money they have.
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A bride was Soo upset that the DJ had a brief electrical issue during the first dance. That she went into the bridal suite and would not come out for about 2 hours. To me that's just beyond acceptable because, sure your first dance got ruined, but to ruin the rest of the party was sad to see.
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
I can understand being upset...it was the worst moment for a hiccup. But not to that extent.
Stacy Parker 3 years ago
My husband and I had a small wedding of 60 people. We saved money and instead of a DJ, we used an ipod and my brother-in-law. Music went fine for the entire event, except the first dance. We stood in front of everyone waiting for the problem to be fixed. Then my new sister-in-law found the song on her phone and walked up to the microphone and played our song on her phone so we could dance. Problem solved. No melt downs!
Andyl 2 years ago
Aww, that's almost more sweet and memorable. Sounds like something that would be in a romantic movie. I hope that's how it's remembered for you guys too at least
Load More Replies... Diane Aguilar 3 years ago
I have friends who are DJs who have done multiple weddings and I would be pissed off if a bride had a temper tantrum like that at one of their weddings. They work so, so hard trying to lug all the equipment in, set things up, make sure things are perfect, etc., so a "brief electrical issue" should be something that is understood might happen and there should be patience and understanding about that, not some kind of hissy fit as if the DJ had any control over that sort of thing.
Elizabeth Butler 3 years ago
Not the wedding itself, but the video that the very expensive photographer provided later of the wedding. The special music provided for the bride's march up the aisle was replaced in the video by a pop song that turned out to be "OUR SONG" with the bride's ex-husband.
Anne McKinney 3 years ago
Apparently the wedding wasn't enough attention for her. She needed more. Drama Queen,
#21
I went to a large wedding where the bride and groom wrote their own vows. The bride was my friend, and she read her very heartfelt, romantic vows first. When it was the groom’s turn, he paused and blushed deeply (which seemed sweet and romantic) until he opened his mouth. When he began reading his vows, you could have cut the tension in the room with a knife. It became immediately obvious that his blush wasn’t due to his tender feelings for his bride, it was embarrassment about what he was about to say. I cannot imagine what he was thinking when he wrote his vows, and I can only hope his intention was to be humorous and not cruel. His vows made light of marriage in general and the bride herself. It came across as a passive aggressive dig toward her and were in no way funny or loving
Bobby 3 years ago
If you are gonna be funny make it something you both laugh about, and I think only one near the beginning. I vow to never put dawn in the dish washer again, would be something I find appropriate
Load More Replies... LH25 3 years ago
If he were really embarrassed, he could have covered and made something else up.
the quickening 3 years ago
Yeah, even a heartfelt "I love you, and I can't wait to be married to you, thats it, thats all I got" would've been better than the original text lol.
Load More Replies... Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago (edited)
Oh man, I couldn't have written my own vows.I had a hard enough time just saying the standard vows after the officiant.
Bobby 3 years ago
Me too, I was doing my best to not be a weepy mess the whole time. Call and repeat style was all I could handle
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#22
the groom was a “bit of a lad” and at his own wedding went outside of the reception hall with his new Mother In Law and f****d her. That’s got to be a breach of all sort of etiquette. Though I am unsure on who is most at fault
MiriPanda 3 years ago
Bit beside the point, but HE didn't f**k HER - THEY had sex. I don't understand why women are generally assumed to be the passive part.
Bobby 3 years ago
I never thought of the implications of that phrasing before. Thanks for pointing that one out
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Squirrelly Panda 3 years ago
The poor bride, losing husband and mother on the same day, and in such a way! At least I hope she got an annulment, cut her mom out of her life and received the full cost of wedding from both mom and groom for compensation. I also hope if dad was married to mom, he kicked her to the curb.
Full of Giggles 3 years ago
I used to be a cake decorator for a catering company. We get a call during the ceremony saying the reception had been cancelled and our services would no longer be needed. Turns out, when the minister asked if there were any objections to the marriage, the Mother of The Bride broke down crying and said she objected because she was pregnant with the groom’s baby.
Joshua Moore 3 years ago
Pornhub has a whole section for this very thing..... Or so I've heard.
Stannous Flouride 3 years ago
So was she a MILMILF or a MILILF? (jk, I agree with MiriPanda that it's always a mutual activity)
#23
A couple of years ago, we were invited to family member's wedding. It was out of town (about an eight-hour drive for us). Actually, the vast majority of the guests were from out of town like us. So, we get the invitation and notice there is an 'A' reception and a 'B' reception. The 'A' reception was right after the ceremony and just for immediate family and close friends. It included a catered dinner, a wedding cake, all the normal reception stuff. The 'B' reception was for everyone else and occurred about five hours after the ceremony and just included dessert. All guests invited to the 'B' reception had to provide their own meals and entertainment during the five hours that the 'A' reception was happening. We, like most other guests, were invited to the 'B' reception
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
They would have been added to my 'F list' of family members, "F = Fûcktards', that I'd just forget about.
Load More Replies... lenka 3 years ago
This is actually fairly common for Dutch weddings. Weddings are very expensive so they Dutch, as practical and frugal as they can be, have the wedding followed by an intimate sit down dinner of immediate family and very close friends (what we would probably consider the bridal party). After dinner there is a party/reception where everyone one is invited, including work colleagues for drinks and snacks and there is usually music and dancing and speeches. This system allows them to invite everyone to celebrate with them without stressing about budget and guest list restraints. I am Australian and I married a Dutchman so we 'got married' twice - once in each country. I thought it was weird and it would never fly in Australia, but it works well within the Dutch culture.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
I hate it. You go to the ceremony and then a reception. Then you have to bugger off while the family and close friends have a meal. So I have to go to a restaurant and wait until I'm allowed back for the party!. Hate it. I didn't want this so everybody was invited for everything, start to finish. Wasn't expensive either, just a nice place with a buffet, open bar, dancing and of course speeches and such.
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Sadia Timmermans 3 years ago
This is also a thing in Belgium. It's way to expensive to invite everybody to everything! But people would not be offended if you didn't come to the ceremonie and only to the party if it was to difficult.
Ravioli 3 months ago
Bro, I have to waste my whole day staying dressed or getting dressed again while I wait for 5 hours for the rest of the celebration? Nah man, I would only go to actual ceremony and then go home.
Load More Replies... Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
"Excuse me? You want me to drive 8 hours each direction to be publicly shamed as second-class, tossed a few scraps, plus you want a gift from me? How about not contacting me again?"
Mary Hunt Peret 3 years ago
Sounds like a couple on a tight wedding budget. I wonder if they'd limited their guest list to only the people they could afford to feed how many family members would be angry not to have been invited?
BonnyDK 3 years ago
I get it. We married on a tight budget as both are middle class, limited incomes. My 2nd, his 1st. We could just afford a small wedding/reception with cake. We paid for everything except rehearsal dinner. Immediate family. A few friends. Middle of the afternoon. Yet more than a few people thought we were feeding everyone. Last minute on my wedding day they decided we should all eat together after in a restaurant and I needed to book it. Not sure which relative got this going and invited everyone. Over 20 people. No place I could find could take that big of a party on such short notice. Large metro area that usually has reservations long in advance or a few hours wait time. That we needed reservations was not something they thought of. We ended up splitting up and going in smaller groups Dutch. If a bride and groom do not provide food it is because they don't have the money. I am sure this couple could cover a dinner for immediate family only.
Babsevs 3 years ago
In the UK, we stand to split into day guests (ceremony, sit down meal, speeches etc) and night guests who only show up in the evening for the party and usually a buffet (hot or cold). Day guests are usually close family and most times close friends....night guests are generally everyone else. Eg I had 130 or so day guests and about 250 total in the night party
N Miller 3 years ago
But there's also an obvious delineation between the two. There are specific evening invites.
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keighterz 3 years ago
Went a wedding that included a full Catholic mass. Then we had to find something to do for four to five hours while the wedding party rode around downtown on a party trolley getting drunk and taking pictures. Horrible idea. Best man couldn’t even stand up to give his speech he was so drunk.
#24
My dad was an Episcopal Priest and one of his Parishes was in South Philly.
He did a decent amount of funerals, baptisms, and weddings and I would usually be asked to serve as an acolyte since that meant one less person had to be asked to serve for a special service.
On this particular wedding in the early ‘80s a girl from our church was getting married to a soldier in one of the local mob families. He was gregarious and handed out a twenty dollar bill to each of us who served during the service. This was the first time I had ever received a tip so he seemed cool to me at age 14.
The night rolled on and the drinks were plenty and pretty much everyone had a few too many. I decided to walk home with one of my friends and as we got out to the front sidewalk, the groom followed us out and was telling us how much he appreciated us helping out.
He took a bit to tell us what he wanted to say and during that time a car pulled up and asked if everything was OK?
The groom reached inside his coat and pulled a gun part way out and asked the people in the car if they wanted to get involved. Of course they sped away.
He instantly started laughing, finished what he had to say to us and we quickly went on our way home. Even though he was joking, it scared us to the core.
So in the end I think bringing a gun to your own wedding is a breach of wedding etiquette!
ThreeAngryLlamas 3 years ago
My partner's brother got married in the summer, and someone brought either a gun or a very convincing fake gun with the orange tip removed, and proceeded to aim it at random peoples' heads during photos. It was horrifying. We're in Canada, too, so there is no reason he should have felt it at all appropriate to bring a gun, real or otherwise.
Misty-Dawn Amayi 3 years ago
Here in America, that behavior is still considered wildly out-of-line. At a liberal wedding he would have been arrested immediately. At a conservative one, he would have been riddled full of bullet holes as soon as he brandished the firearm.
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Lutz Herting 3 years ago
Wow, wow, wait, wait, wait... It was a mob wedding and to this day he thinks the groom was the ONLY one carrying? I don't think he has a good handle on how these things work.
John Shearer 3 years ago
Why did people just randomly stop and ask if everything was ok? He probably stopped you from getting robbed
An Unpopular Opinion. 3 years ago
Yeah, that's kinda what I thought. Either he is dumb, and just looking for any excuse to shoot someone, or something about the car was off to him and he was protecting people.
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DancingPanda 3 years ago
When to my cousins funeral in TN and everyone had a gun, just guns out in a holster on their leg or hip, my grandpas wedding, both him and his wife had a gun on a holster, so did MOH, was in IN
Load More Replies... Fresh Big 3 years ago
So this guy is a known mobster, and the church blesses his wedding? What kind of s**t church supports organized crime? Guess they give a lot of money to the church. Blood money.
Social media 3 years ago
Because a church is not a museum of saints, it's a hospital for sinners.
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#25
Last November I was in a wedding where the father of the groom’s speech was not about the couple, marriage or the nature of love itself—it was about the Philadelphia Eagles. This was not an elaborate metaphor. He started with a joke about how he “pulled some strings” to make sure this particular weekend was a bye week for the team. He talked about how much he enjoyed watching football with his only son and how proud he was that the bride was now an Eagles fan too. After several anecdotes about his “good friend” Don Smolenski (President of the franchise) he mercifully concluded by showing off his Superbowl ring. The speech was eight minutes long. At one point my mother in her everlasting candor turned to me and stage-whispered: I will NEVER do this to you. The kicker is that this wedding was in Pittsburgh. Nobody in that room gave 2 shits about the Philadelphia Eagles.
Bobby 3 years ago
For those who don't know Pittsburgh is home to the steelers, a rival of the eagles
Peter Trudell Jr 3 years ago
wouldn't say they're rivals, they play in different conferences... Steelers fans are pretty apathetic to the Santa-booing Eagles fans.
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Frederick Schulkind 3 years ago
He had to have been a team employee, not necessarily a player, to have a Super Bowl ring.
Rachel Magnone 3 years ago
I’m from Pittsburgh and my husband and I were season ticket holders at time of our wedding and our bridal party entered our reception to song associated with Steelers along with swinging terrible towels that we had made and specifically sewn with each of our wedding party participants names. We also had traditional surplus of about 15-20 cookie tables& bottles of homemade dego red wine on each table. That was almost 20 years ago; but back then I never realized how we considered those normal wedding reception customs that most non Pittsburgh people actually never heard of or would consider.
#26
The bride, not wanting to alienate or upset any of her friends by picking a maid of honor and bridesmaids, opted to have no attendants, and they had no groomsmen either. (They did have planned witnesses to sign documents.) All of the married friends decided to wear their own wedding dresses to the wedding in 'revenge.'
Bobby 3 years ago
My sister. Because status is more important than quality to her
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Crissie Laugesen 3 years ago
With friends who'd pull a stunt like that I'm not surprised they'd opted for no attendants.
WonderWoman 3 years ago
You put the wrong word in quotes it should be around friends. Because people like that are NOT your friends, they are jerks.
An Unpopular Opinion. 3 years ago
I see why she didn't pick a maid of honor!! Either she didn't like any of them, or she knew if she picked one all the others would act like this and it wasn't worth it!! Poor bride
#27
The bride and groom stayed within a budget and had a small wedding, did their own floral decorations the morning of, and the bride’s mother baked and decorated a delicious cake for a home based reception. The groom’s sister “Betty” officiated the wedding. The groom’s other sister “Lois” is a lifelong drug addict and a pretty disrespectful person.
“Lois” repeatedly announced “Today is my birthday!” That was true, but an unnecessary distraction at the synagogue (thankfully not during the ceremony.)
The wedding held near the home of the mother of the groom, was about a 3 hour drive from home, and most of the family drove to the city and got hotel rooms. “Betty” and “Lois” shared one hotel room. The evening before the wedding and the morning of the wedding were nonstop drama designed to distract “Betty” before she performed her first wedding, including hiding her car keys.
When everyone processed into the chapel and stood on the bimah, it was shocking to see the infected scabs on “Lois’s” arms and legs. Yet she had chosen a short skirt when they shopped for their outfits at the bridal store. I believe she wanted to get any kind of attention, even negative.
At some point, a member of the bride’s family walked into the ladies room and saw “Lois” shooting up. She asked someone whether the bridesmaid was a diabetic. I think that was the low point of the day.
BlackestDawn 3 years ago
Rehab, therapy, and other such treatment/help only really works when the one needing it wants it, if they don't want it then at best it's mostly wasted effort/resources.
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Alex Mosby 3 years ago
There is more to this story. I think Lois is the scapegoat of the family and part of here mental health issues are because she has been treated badly for as an inconvenience to her family. I would never plan my wedding on my sister's birthday. Especially if she is the attention seeking type that could ruin my wedding. ESH. I have a relative that is sweet as pie sober but we avoid having her at gatherings when she is relapsing. Her immediate family is the type that would invite her to a wine tasting then act surprised when she goes off the rails.
Btsquestrian 3 years ago
There will always be a reason to drink or drug. Always. https://www.na.org/
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Aunt Messy 3 years ago
I called the police when I caught my sister shooting up before my wedding. She was arrested and spent the weekend in jail and it was WONDERFUL not to have to deal with her garbage for a change. How bad was she? Put it this way - NO ONE even bothered asking why she didn't make it to the wedding.
Btsquestrian 3 years ago
These are good free resources for those with a drug or alcohol addicted loved one. Alanon has helped me a lot. https://al-anon.org/ https://www.na.org/ https://www.aa.org/
DC 3 years ago
Oh my ... some people are addicts, which in itself is bad enough, but still are decent persons not trying to show off the ugly sides of their habits, most try to hide them, at least the truly disgusting ones (some even succeed in not getting these ... hygiene usually is a high priority like the first one or two years of any IV-supplied addiction and then gradually fades out of interest ... some, however, keep the priority, and you'd basically just not know they're addicted to anything at all ... usually, the more wealthy, more educated one is, the better the impacts are hidden, hidabe or avoided ... but ... anyway, that for elsewhere), and in general, as having people knowing you're an addict can cause further problems, and therefore, ... not hiding it anymore is already on the path most downward within the possible paths an addict can take.
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
But you can choose to associate with them...sometimes at least.
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#28
I’ve been at TWO wedding receptions where people took a chair to the buffet table to eat
PinkPeppered Squid 3 years ago
Bahaha I've got to give you credit for the "well fed" part, a humorous upgrade from your usual obnoxious "they're hoes" comment on nearly every post.
Load More Replies... Kathleen R. 3 years ago
The buffet didn't provide plates? Plates which you can FILL with food and then carry them AWAY from the buffet table???
James Pasquini 3 years ago
What? And have to make several trips back to the table? How inconvenient! lol
Load More Replies... Paula Steiner 3 years ago
That's what happens when you don't have any tables and chairs. There was a church social that featured peel and eat shrimp and there were no tables and chairs to eat at. We ended up perching our plates on the edge of the stage and dragging out folding chairs out from under the stage. Weird.
#29
We were part of the wedding party of a friend. She was the 'cool mom,' so she told the 'bartender' to serve her 17-year-old son’s friends. Go figure, booze and a bunch of teenagers weren’t a good combination. It started as one fight, which started several other fights, which led to adults trying to stop the fights, which led to adults fighting with ‘kids,’ which spread to include a large part of the guests. Police were called, people were arrested, and an Elk’s Lodge was trashed all for a marriage that only lasted a few weeks
OmBoyGanesh 3 years ago (edited)
Not disrespect towards the Elks Lodge, but what type of establishment is ok with an open bar for teen boys? Clear from the first sentence or two this wedding was not at the Ritz. That the wedding party & attendees were ok with this happening and couldn’t maintain decency & civility when these children lashed out at each other (thanks to alcohol) speaks volumes about these folks.
Marleinah Smith 3 years ago
Were the teens' parents contacted to ask permission to serve their underagers alcohol??
Brian Droste 2 years ago
Why would the bartender give drinks to underage kids? No matter who the adults are in charge, the bartender should have down right refused to serve the teenagers. In the state where I live as far as I know if someone is serving underage people, there could be legal action taken against them.
#30
Well, it might have been ME! My husband's cousin was marrying his beloved, and we (me, hubby, and six kids) were invited. I had not worn a dress in years, and my teen daughter and I spent hours finding something flattering and comfortable: a sleeveless midi with a cute jacket. The periwinkle color flattered my eyes. We were not involved in planning at all. Imagine my embarrassment when I realized the bridal party and whole color scheme of the wedding was periwinkle!
Lutz Herting 3 years ago
Thanks. I literally just opened the comment section to ask "What the hell is a periwinkle?"...
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SageHare37 3 years ago
I've done this! I went to a wedding of a school friend I'd not seen in years, but we socialized online. I had no involvement in her wedding planning other than from what she said about her dress and unless she had changed dramatically, it was going to be non traditional. I went with a dramatic red blouse (I've only just recently heard red has another meaning at weddings apparently?) and black slacks and wrap. I arrived only to discover the wedding colors were red and black. It turned out ok in the end, as due to a significant emergency highway closure some of the wedding crew were extremely late and I was asked to step in as an usher because I looked like I was part of the wedding. I was happy to help, and the wedding was beautiful. Definitely turned into a happy accident.
Seanette Blaylock 3 years ago
That was an accident. I wouldn't worry. If it was going to be an issue, someone should have made sure the color scheme was generally known.
Prisca Leferink 3 years ago
I had the same experience. My boyfriend was the brother of the groom and best man. We live in a different country as the bride & groom, and I was not involved in any of the planning. We came over to the UK for the wedding and stayed at the groom's house (bride was with her family). In the morning I was ironing my turquoise blue dress, and the groom stares at my dress and says 'are you wearing that?!'. Turns out that this was indeed the exact colour of the bridal party... Luckily both bride and groom were very relaxed about it, we all had a good laugh, and it became a joke in of one the speeches in the evening. I did feel very awkward though, especially coming from a country where weddings are a lot less traditional, and I was unaware of how sensitive those details can be. Next time I'll check the colour of my dress for sure!
keighterz 3 years ago
Yeah I see nothing wrong here. Sounds like a perfectly styled dress, nothing inappropriate. No one said anything did they? Wasn’t there a post recently about how in Nigeria the guests all dress in the wedding colors?
Catmomma 3 years ago
Yes that's true and in some cases same fabric as well
Load More Replies... Social media 3 years ago
Same thing with my daughter and her older cousins wedding. Meh, just go with the flow. You don't know everything, as long as you didn'twear white.
#31
Before the meal, everyone was milling about in the dining area where most people had sat at their tables, and we were waiting for the bride and groom to appear back after their photos. All the tables were assigned seating; however, two of the bride's not-so-close friends and one of her former teachers decided to sit down…at the bridal table! Immediately then, the bride and groom appeared back, expecting to be cheered, and were met by an awkward applause as everyone was in shock. These friends looked to have no intention of moving, and the bride discreetly had a small fit to her mother and myself. She was always the opposite of a bridezilla. This was one of the few instances I've seen her angry! The bride's father politely asked the 'guests' to move to their assigned seats, and one of them starts to kick off about 'they weren't seated in an area of the dining room that they wanted' and 'wanted to be closer to other guests
#32
I was 17 or 18 when one of my cousins, a doctor, was lucky to marry a girl from a well-to-do family. Because the girl was the only daughter, her family threw a lavish wedding. The groom’s mother-my mother’s cousin-went around bragging her new daughter-in-law was “a virgin.” My parents, modest people, were embarrassed to hear this sort of talk. As this point went floating around, they decided it was time to leave. When I heard the groom’s mother repeat the line “she’s a virgin” my smarty pants mouth couldn’t resist: “well at least one of them is a virgin!” This was the groom’s second marriage. His first ended when his first wife, who helped put him through school, divorced him because she bought shoes without his permission and he put them in the oven and set fire to them. I was pretty sure the poor virgin bride knew nothing of this. Needless to say, my parents grabbed me and we left
MellonCollie 3 years ago
Lovely dude, setting fire to shoes bought without his permission. Wtf?!?!?
Me Oh My 3 years ago (edited)
I hope she (the new bride) got out of that marriage fast.
Load More Replies... tHeBoRdEsTpAnDa 3 years ago
I... really hope they didn't stay married. He sounds... odd. In the worst way
#33
My soon-to-be MIL asked me not to smile! I dated my boyfriend for 8 years before tying the knot. We were friends since childhood and lived together for some time before getting married. We had dreamt of getting married for so long and this was OUR day. No wonder, both of us were very excited and happy to start this new phase of life. Ours was traditional Indian wedding where there are so many rituals to perform that you spend lot of time doing things you don't know of. So whenever we had free time, we were talking to each other and having fun. Also, we knew, the photographers(there were two) will be capturing the event and we had a smile on our faces most of the time. This is what the problem was with my soon-to-be MIL. She thought I was creating a bad impression on her relatives as a bride is supposed to be shy and silent on the wedding day. I was talking to my almost husband and smiling with him which made her angry. She sent someone she knew to tell me not to smile/talk to him. I ignored her request because I didn't want to ruin our big day, she then herself came to me and said the same thing again. I felt telling the bride not to smile surely violates wedding etiquettes.
#34
My mother does event coordinating and event decorating as a side gig. There was a wedding she decorated for someone infamously called “The Red Wedding” by the family because the colors were red, white, and silver. My mother makes everything by hand.
One of the wedding guests decided to help herself to one of my mother’s centerpieces. Either my mother or my sister caught her walking out with it and when confronted, the woman returned it.
When word got to the bride and groom about the potential theft, the groom had to get on the mic and ask the guests not to take the decorations because they are rented and were not bought. My mother creates and usually allows the bride to keep the bouquet but all of the other items are hers.
ThisIsMe 3 years ago
It's a long story, but my sister has a different mother. Roll with that for a minute. For my sister's wedding, her mom did so many things to sabotage and steel attention from day one. I spent a lot of money and time making some lovely decorations for the hall - single silk gerber daisy in a terra cotta pot. Hundreds of them to make a spring garden theme. Her mother insisted on bringing a bunch of items - mini soaps, match books, etc - to have people pick up from the foyer and take home. During the reception, sister comes to me and says people are asking if they can take home one of the flowers. It had not occurred to me what I was going to do with all of them, so I said yes, please tell them they can take the single potted flowers. I kept a couple, but the rest went home with her guests. No one took any soap, etc. Her mother was livid with me over it.
HangryHangryHippo 3 years ago
They sound lovely! What a beautiful present for your sister ♥️
Load More Replies... Bobby 3 years ago
I don't find this one that terrible. I've been to plenty of weddings where you are allowed to take the center piece of you would like. Not sure why you would though
Brenda Spagnola-Wilson 3 years ago
It's usually announced towards the end of the reception if centerpieces can be taken. Things like soaps, lint brushes, small favors are normally placed in restrooms for guests to use as needed. You never take ANYTHING from a wedding without permission
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#35
I did not witness the event but the result. I worked in a restaurant that had an upper room with dormers. One of the walls near the bar had a patched hole. I asked the son of the owner about it. It seems that two brothers-in-law did not get along well. During the reception they got into an argument and started going at it near the wedding cake. One of them knocked over the cake and slipped in it. His HEAD WENT THRU THE WALL!! LOL! I don’t remember much more than that, but I don’t think things went well after that. I worked at over a 100 receptions myself and the only thing I ever saw was a lady trying to be neat by trying to use a knife and fork to peel a shrimp instead of her fingers. I saw the shrimp fly 20′ down the long table. It was amazing. Another interesting thing was a wedding where the toast was Manhattans. They had cherries in them. An 8 year kid would ask people for their cherries. Unthinking they would give them to him to consume. He was snockered after a few dozen of them. They had been sitting in the liquor for a long time.
#36
My sister arrived at a wedding to find several people standing in the parking lot. The door was locked and there was a note on the door that stated the bride and groom were running late because they had to get rabies shots! I shit you not. They had picked up a baby deer that they thought had been hit by a car. It had been bitten and contracted rabies. They had personally done all the food for the reception. Nobody touched it
Monday 3 years ago
That's just wasteful. Unless you're eating an infected animal raw immediately after it dies you can't get rabies from food.
Chris berkley 3 years ago
I think it's like a mental thing, but good on the bride and groom for helping a baby deer.....sorry it turned out the way it turned out though
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Virginie Michaud 3 years ago
Once someone has symptoms, rabies is 100% fatal, so I doubt "they had contracted rabies". Also, deers aren't known vectors. And rabies requires multiple painful shots with serious side effects. Calling bs on this story. Never handle wild animals with bare hands.
Mochi 3 years ago
Rabies at this point is not 100% fatal. Ever heard of Louis Pasteur? He was the man responsible for proving the germ theory, and for the rise of pasteurization (named after him). He made the original vaccine for Rabies. Almost tested it on hismelf too. Look him up.
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My ex SIL told me that I was marrying her only brother and that it was her only chance to plan another wedding and wanted to plan things for us. Nope. She wanted to also have contact information for our DJ since “music is so important” like we couldn’t choose our own songs. Nope. She wiggled in inviting her friends who gave me death glares as I walked down the aisle in the church. That was really unexpected, as I can’t imagine what they could have been led to believe that would make them angry at me to do that to me. Imagine it, walking into the ceremony and someone is staring you down at your own wedding. My ex inlaws treated our wedding day like a funeral, moping and moving slowly and refusing to smile. My ex husband’s family also grabbed him aside during the wedding day and made him upset enough to cry. I don’t know what was said. They wanted to control his life and could not handle that for once I was standing up to them not letting them control things.
#38
Wearing a dress that match the style and color of the wedding party perfectly (She was a family member who knew the colors and wanted “to feel like part of the party”. She was asked not to do it, but she did it anyway.)
3 Owls In A Coat 3 years ago
Once, I accidentally wore something to a wedding that perfectly matched the caterers’ outfits (which sort of matched the wedding party’s outfits, it was really nicely done.) I also happened to be 12 and bored, so the caterers asked if I wanted to help, since I was already dressed the part. I even got to make a sauce for them :) that inspired a love of cooking that I still have to this day.
Allison B 3 years ago
That's adorable! Sounds like it was fun and made a great memory. I honestly still find weddings very boring in general and I'm 34. 😂
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Brenda Spagnola-Wilson 3 years ago
Read a story where the bride told MIL wrong wedding colors on purpose with fiancee full knowledge. Apparently she was livid to discover the bride in a red dress and attendants in cream with red accents while she was in a white dress. Made me laugh so hard 🤣
OneHappyPuppy 3 years ago
I'm sorry, I don't get this. Colors of the wedding party? I mean I get the meaning but I don't see the point. If you've invited people to celebrate with you, they mean something to you, why color code them and separate them...
#39
When my youngest son got married, my ex took his skanky girlfriend (now wife). She wore a long white dress
Eline 3 years ago
Oh my god, i'm sooooo clumsy. I swear, i didn't mean to pour red wine on your dress...oh no no no, i 'm not sorry.
tHeBoRdEsTpAnDa 3 years ago
I would do that too, even though it would be really obvious I did it on purpose (because I don't drink)
Load More Replies... Squirrelly Panda 3 years ago
First thought was "judgemental much?" Then I saw the girlfriend wore a long white dress. Skanky. Skanky is a good adjective.
#40
Mine. 1990, Marin county, under $7k! I had a beautiful dress. I went and had my hair and makeup done. I went to my parents house where limo was picking me, bridesmaids and parents up to go to the church. My brother looked at me and said “you paid money for that? “. He's 5 years older, still not close.I Church is in Sausalito, beautiful (free). Fog parted to sun as I walked in the church and down the aisle. Flowers were done by a florist friend of family, moms bosses wife. Cake was made by a long time friend of family of my husband, Lucille, bless her heart. Limo was deeply discounted, friend of MIL owned company. Reception was held about a half hour drive, Deer Park Villa in Fairfax, base of Mt. Tam. Everything was great. Then it happened, a couple decided to announce their engagement, he proposed right there. My husband was pissed! It was a coworker of his. They didn't talk much after that. 6 weeks later, they broke up. We'll be celebrating our 30th anniversary in April!!!
Hypoxia Smurf 3 years ago
Those unfamiliar with San Francisco Bay Area geography might not recognize references to Marin County's wealthy 'burbs just north of the Golden Gate Bridge, nor know that Mt Tam is iconic Mount Tamalpais overlooking the Bay.
Diane Aguilar 3 years ago
Talk about completely missing the point; this was in Marin County, a very expensive county to live in in the San Francisco Bay Area. Also, considering the average cost of a wedding is close to $30,000 and you haven't made any mention of any financial hardship, your comment comes across as less impressive and more miserly and cheap.
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When my husband and I got married, we had a very large wedding. There were approximately 400 guests. There were people on my husband’s side that I did not know, and there were people on my side that he did not know. When it was time for me to throw my bouquet to all of the single ladies, this woman caught the bouquet that I did not recognize. She looked a little out of place as she didn’t seem to be dressed for a wedding. When I turned around to see who had caught the bouquet, it looked as though one of my friends from work had caught it, but this mystery woman ended up with it in her hands. My friend was left with a couple of leaves in her hand! I had assumed that she was on my husband’s side of the family, while he had assumed that she was on my side of the family. Right after she caught (correction: GRABBED) the bouquet, she came over to me to INTRODUCE herself
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
I clicked on her name/ link under the story and couldn't find this post among her others for the life of me. I really wanted to know also 😕 😔...
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I knew of a wedding that happened when I was in high school. I was visiting my cousin and her friend was one of the bridesmaids. The function was held in the swanky new conference center at our home town. The bride was a beautiful spoiled princess who was marrying an officer in the Air Force. Her wealthy parents were over the moon and the family took a year planning the whole affair including press releases in the local newspaper about hiring experts to arrange, plan and design the whole affair. These experts were the who’s who of their industry and they were being flown in to manage the affair of the wedding and reception. As the wedding day approached there was discontent brewing with the bridesmaids who were required to maintain height/weight requirements; engage in periodic photo shoots before the day complete with wardrobes; professional make-up and hair all done in order to catalog several activities before the wedding. The bridesmaids were made to feel they were putting their entire lives on hold and financial expenses were through the roof with wardrobes, full dress rehearsals and photo shoots. The bride in the meantime had morphed into a complete and utter BRIDEZILLA with demands and threats to them about how they needed to keep up or be kicked out of the wedding and replaced. She actually did replace one or two along the way and then new photo shoots would have to be done all over again. It all culminated into a huge brawl at the final dress rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. Come the day of the wedding, at the packed conference hall, complete with videographers, local news and celebrity experts the ENTIRE bridesmaid troupe bailed and did a complete no-show. The bride was in tears and the brides’ mother was trying to pull people from the audience into the wedding to stand with the bride and clueless groomsmen. It was a complete fiasco. The bridesmaids never showed. They eventually decided to have a “closed” ceremony and booted the guests out of the conference hall many of whom had come a long way. The guests were sent to the reception hall to wait for the bride and groom. After the entire affair, the officer was sent on a remote tour and the bride was still living at home lonely and completely friendless waiting on his return.
3 Owls In A Coat 3 years ago
“Don’t get any shorter or taller before my big day or you’ll ruin it!”
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A bride wanted open seating. Fine. I don't recommend that for a bunch of reason, but not a big deal. But she wanted people to mingle and dance and I guess get in a work out, because she also wanted 75 seats for over 100 guests. I could not convince her all the things wrong with that.. which I don't have to get into cause it's a long list. Needless to say, it was a major cluster f**k. I tried to have extra seats available, but the way she wanted the room set up, there was nothing I could do. So many guests were complaining and blaming us, the banquet hall. Including the parents of bride and groom, older guests and wedding party who ended up without seats because naturally they were the last arrive. I didn't throw the bride or groom under the bus. I just simply told people the bride and groom are happy with us and have not complained. We executed their vision. Please enjoy their day.
WonderWoman 3 years ago
I would wager after the wedding the bride and groom did throw you under the bus and you probably took a hit to your reputation as well as loss of future business.
#44
This was another groom's brother as best man. When it was time to toast the newlyweds, the best man stood up, raised his glass, and said, "May the bluebird of happiness crap all over you!" and nothing else. The couple didn't think this was funny, and neither did the wedding guests. The best man thought he'd been witty and clever, and he couldn't understand why nobody had laughed
#45
No really appalling but embarrassing. My brother and I were asked to be in my sisters wedding which went fine in itself. There was a 1 hour break for pictures and such then a reception followed. When my sister and her new husband showed up to the reception they were the only two people there wearing non formal clothes. He had on sweatpants and a dirty T-shirt and she showed up in shorts, a t-shirt and flip flops. It was more about the look of amazement on people’s faces like what the hell is this. To this day I’ve seen a few pictures of their reception and none have them in them other than the first dance. I think the photographer was even avoiding them.
#46
Two sisters and a double wedding, that I was taking photo's back in the late 80s. Bride was dancing more with another man. He was an old friend who she hadn't see in years. Well the groom didn't like it too much. So he started to dance with the bride's younger, single sister a lot. Then when the bride saw it she went outside with her friend and they left the reception all together. Then the party continued and the groom kept dancing with her sister. Then the bride came back, by herself and then embraced the groom. They are still married but I still don't know what happened to her old friend
#47
I was about 6 years old, and my uncle was getting married. Sometime during the reception I was standing on a chair and was asked how do I like my new aunt. As honest boy I told very loud so everyone could hear me that I didn’t like her because her nose was too long. Of course, everyone laughed. The couple divorced after one year. My extended family still remembers this, and we have really good laughs.
#48
Bringing an uninvited guest at the last minute without informing bride, totally messing up seating arrangements, throwing off the caterer count and costing the bride’s family extra money for the added guest
#50
One of my friends in London was marrying a girl from Carlisle. Having a traditional wedding it was going to be in her home town despite her living in London. Practically all of his family declined to travel the 6 hours to Carlisle, virtually on the border with Scotland. So most of his guests were going to be his friends.
bleurchhh53 3 years ago
Typical Southerners, watching the world revolve around them... Good grief.
Cold Contagious 3 years ago
It was very good of his friends to be there since his family didn't want to travel. I hope he didn't let it worry him too much and had a excellent time at his wedding and reception.
#51
My sister had decided to take life in a different direction to me, so whilst most of our guests were young professionals, Directors soon to be Managing Directors and so on my sister was mid 20’s working in a pub and dating a 57 year old twice divorced garage mechanic. After the wedding and wedding breakfast there was a lull where more guests could arrive and we moved onto a black tie party with more booze and finger food buffet. My sister and her BF took the opportunity to change out of her bridesmaid dress into some black jeans and a T. At some stage they were sitting at a table smoking rolled up cigarettes completely ignoring the chatter, socializing and dancing. One of our guests went up to them and asked them - assuming they were staff - for more drinks. Oh how I laughed!
Potty pagan panda 3 years ago
Sounds like your sister is a lot happier being herself than pretending to be a snob
Collette McRobert 3 years ago
Because you think you are so much better than your sister and her boyfriend. Directors soon to be managing directors, and her boyfriend was a garage mechanic. Vomit what a toff
#52
Handwritten invitations. A bride saw this and thought it was a lovely touch. So she hand wrote all her invitations and adorned them all. Sounds romantic right…..not quite. She used notebook paper - spiral bound. You can tell there were still some “edges” left on the paper. She used a pen that blobbed. She crossed off any errors. The adornment was stickers - you know the cute little ones with kitties that say “ Get Well Soon “ or “Thank You”. Nothing that set the theme at all. Her hands were not clean when she wrote them. Seriously I saw a ramen noodle attached to mine. She used pink ink - so cute ——- not! She folded them to fit into a normal envelope - which had more stickers on it. It had misspellings abound. The pink pen she used ran out 1/2 through my invitation and she switched to green. She dotted all the ‘i’s with little hearts. (trying to set the theme). Those were the obvious errors. If you have someone with really good handwriting this may work. She did not!
TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
Of all the things to complain, this is not One of them, yea it had flaws, yea it could be better done and bla, bla, bla, bit She at least took the trouble to hand write every single invite, and tryed to make them preety. Honestly i would rather get a personalized invite with spelling errors and a Kitty stiker, that a mass printed gold guilded One.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
And took pleasure in doing so. I think it's sweet !
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3 Owls In A Coat 3 years ago
JFC of all the things to complain about. How does a cheap tacky invitation affect your life in any way? Have you ever made your own invitations or cards - it takes a lot of time and work, she probably spent hours making them. Why does it have to be fancy and high-quality and expensive? It still does the job, right? I got irrationally angry over this one lol
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GirlFriday 3 years ago (edited)
Happened in the early 80's for context. My cousin (the groom) was getting married and his bride's parents wanted a REALLY lavish wedding. Cousin's family didn't have the money for this and said they would make a gift of $1500 and the couple could choose to use it how they wanted. The bride and her family planned a huge wedding with 18 people in the bridal party, over 200 guests, open bar, live band, plated dinner, champagne toast, and a finger food buffet that started at 10PM. The wedding went off without a hitch until, after the late night buffet was set up, the event manager came looking for payment and the bride's parents left. They left and the event manager said if he didn't get payment the police would be called. The amount already paid? A deposit of $1500. The remaining balance was almost $6000 and it was due on the day of the event. The groom's parents had to pay to keep the newlyweds out of jail.
ADHORTATOR 3 years ago
At a cousins wedding.... We all had some doubts about her choice, but she was a grown up woman and wanted to marry her long date boyfriend...my brother stood up, went to her and said "You know, you can still say "no"" She laughed at him ..... my brother came back, sat down "Well, at least I tried..." She diovorced a year later.
UpupaEpops 3 years ago
Can someone please explain to me what the hell is up with mothers and sons? Like seriously. At my aunt's wedding, her MIL went around with a whole album of baby pictures of her precious precious son, literally sitting with every person, shoving the album in their face. Fifteen years later, she still makes it a point to give my aunt dollar-store gifts while lavishing hundreds of dollars on her son. 🙄
CarpeDentum 3 years ago
I wish I could remember the study's name, but I'm also fairly sure it was in Swedish. Anyway, I read that it's a sign of an unequal relationship between the parents. The husband should be the wife's safe zone and comfort (the study only spoke in heteronormative relationships so I don't know how it looks otherwise) but if he is less emotionally invested in the relationship than she is, she will turn to the next best and that is often the children. So she gets a pseudo marriage with her child and sees another person coming and making their own unit with the child as someone taking away her most loved and supportive partner. Can't remember what it said about dad's in these situations but I thought it was interesting.
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AJ Claymore 3 years ago (edited)
Friend of the family chartered a cruise ship for their wedding/reception/honeymoon. I dont remember exactly how much it was (didn't attend), but every guest was asked to pay roughly $1000+ to attend. This would be their "wedding gift" and they'd get all the cruise amenities included and get to enjoy the cruise with the newlyweds. The night before the wedding (after everyone has paid and they are at sea) they announce the wedding is cancelled. The groom was apparently still married to his first wife. He thought if they were at sea when he got married it somehow wouldn't be against the law.
Roddfergg 3 years ago (edited)
I ran a catering company for quite a few years, If you had a place, we had everything, including tables, dance floor, anything. At 1 wedding, the father of the bride came drunk, and before they had even done the ceremony assaulted one of my staff. I told them that he leaves, or we would. They refuse to have him leave. Before the ceremony was done we packed up the entire reception, and left the food in large to go containers. No dance floor, no tables and chairs, no plates or silverware.
adam craker 3 years ago
My parents where married in 1980. My grandfather (my dad's dad) was the minister and got the opportunity to marry his first born son. It was a big deal from what I was told. My insane aunt was just dating my mom's brother at the time. Well any event had to be about her And demanded my grandfather married her and my uncle during my parents rehearsal dinner. Then tryed to make my parent wedding reception all about her. Shes still an awful person 42 years later.
Nanda 3 years ago
A co-worker of mine.. she showed up 2h late to the ceremony, the photos took 3hs, her father got so upset he left and only returned to the reception.. her guests were sooo hungry they ate all the food that was supposed to be served in the next days lunch. Maid of honour had to announce it to the guests over the mic to distract them of the on going figth between the couple and the staff. At my wedding the worst thing was my exhusbands uncle and family announcing they wont attendent the wedding just 3days before!! I had to change the sittings and the tables.
leah 3 years ago
The worst thing that happened at my wedding was my uncle and cousins hosting a tailgate in the parking lot for those that chose to partake in alcohol at my teetotaler reception. I wanted a small cake/champagne reception and my mom threw such a fit that she volunteered to pay for dinner. No alcohol involved because my parents are anti-alcohol. We ended up with a couple of six packs for my husband and a nice bottle of champagne for myself snuck into our car.
Diane Aguilar 3 years ago
I'm so sorry your parents ended up making your wedding reception all about themselves; your "tailgate" was well deserved for you and your new spouse.
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Rhianna Hollowaye 2 years ago
Wasn't the actual wedding, but the night after, the couple in the room next to my parents, who had also got married that day, had a blazing row that could be heard perfectly through the walls. The bride had locked the groom out because he danced with one of the bridesmaids, and he was hammering on the door and yelling. It got so bad that my parents had to call the front desk at 3am to request that they were moved!!!
GirlFriday 3 years ago (edited)
Happened in the early 80's for context. My cousin (the groom) was getting married and his bride's parents wanted a REALLY lavish wedding. Cousin's family didn't have the money for this and said they would make a gift of $1500 and the couple could choose to use it how they wanted. The bride and her family planned a huge wedding with 18 people in the bridal party, over 200 guests, open bar, live band, plated dinner, champagne toast, and a finger food buffet that started at 10PM. The wedding went off without a hitch until, after the late night buffet was set up, the event manager came looking for payment and the bride's parents left. They left and the event manager said if he didn't get payment the police would be called. The amount already paid? A deposit of $1500. The remaining balance was almost $6000 and it was due on the day of the event. The groom's parents had to pay to keep the newlyweds out of jail.
ADHORTATOR 3 years ago
At a cousins wedding.... We all had some doubts about her choice, but she was a grown up woman and wanted to marry her long date boyfriend...my brother stood up, went to her and said "You know, you can still say "no"" She laughed at him ..... my brother came back, sat down "Well, at least I tried..." She diovorced a year later.
UpupaEpops 3 years ago
Can someone please explain to me what the hell is up with mothers and sons? Like seriously. At my aunt's wedding, her MIL went around with a whole album of baby pictures of her precious precious son, literally sitting with every person, shoving the album in their face. Fifteen years later, she still makes it a point to give my aunt dollar-store gifts while lavishing hundreds of dollars on her son. 🙄
CarpeDentum 3 years ago
I wish I could remember the study's name, but I'm also fairly sure it was in Swedish. Anyway, I read that it's a sign of an unequal relationship between the parents. The husband should be the wife's safe zone and comfort (the study only spoke in heteronormative relationships so I don't know how it looks otherwise) but if he is less emotionally invested in the relationship than she is, she will turn to the next best and that is often the children. So she gets a pseudo marriage with her child and sees another person coming and making their own unit with the child as someone taking away her most loved and supportive partner. Can't remember what it said about dad's in these situations but I thought it was interesting.
Load More Replies... AJ Claymore 3 years ago (edited)
Friend of the family chartered a cruise ship for their wedding/reception/honeymoon. I dont remember exactly how much it was (didn't attend), but every guest was asked to pay roughly $1000+ to attend. This would be their "wedding gift" and they'd get all the cruise amenities included and get to enjoy the cruise with the newlyweds. The night before the wedding (after everyone has paid and they are at sea) they announce the wedding is cancelled. The groom was apparently still married to his first wife. He thought if they were at sea when he got married it somehow wouldn't be against the law.
Roddfergg 3 years ago (edited)
I ran a catering company for quite a few years, If you had a place, we had everything, including tables, dance floor, anything. At 1 wedding, the father of the bride came drunk, and before they had even done the ceremony assaulted one of my staff. I told them that he leaves, or we would. They refuse to have him leave. Before the ceremony was done we packed up the entire reception, and left the food in large to go containers. No dance floor, no tables and chairs, no plates or silverware.
adam craker 3 years ago
My parents where married in 1980. My grandfather (my dad's dad) was the minister and got the opportunity to marry his first born son. It was a big deal from what I was told. My insane aunt was just dating my mom's brother at the time. Well any event had to be about her And demanded my grandfather married her and my uncle during my parents rehearsal dinner. Then tryed to make my parent wedding reception all about her. Shes still an awful person 42 years later.
Nanda 3 years ago
A co-worker of mine.. she showed up 2h late to the ceremony, the photos took 3hs, her father got so upset he left and only returned to the reception.. her guests were sooo hungry they ate all the food that was supposed to be served in the next days lunch. Maid of honour had to announce it to the guests over the mic to distract them of the on going figth between the couple and the staff. At my wedding the worst thing was my exhusbands uncle and family announcing they wont attendent the wedding just 3days before!! I had to change the sittings and the tables.
leah 3 years ago
The worst thing that happened at my wedding was my uncle and cousins hosting a tailgate in the parking lot for those that chose to partake in alcohol at my teetotaler reception. I wanted a small cake/champagne reception and my mom threw such a fit that she volunteered to pay for dinner. No alcohol involved because my parents are anti-alcohol. We ended up with a couple of six packs for my husband and a nice bottle of champagne for myself snuck into our car.
Diane Aguilar 3 years ago
I'm so sorry your parents ended up making your wedding reception all about themselves; your "tailgate" was well deserved for you and your new spouse.
Load More Replies... Rhianna Hollowaye 2 years ago
Wasn't the actual wedding, but the night after, the couple in the room next to my parents, who had also got married that day, had a blazing row that could be heard perfectly through the walls. The bride had locked the groom out because he danced with one of the bridesmaids, and he was hammering on the door and yelling. It got so bad that my parents had to call the front desk at 3am to request that they were moved!!!
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