What is a backhanded compliment exactly? Ever heard those weird compliments where it sounds like the person said something nice about you, but for some reason, you actually feel insulted? Yeah, that would be it.
A backhanded compliment is that weird interaction when somebody gives a nice comment about your appearance or achievement, or anything else about you — for example, “I really like your hair color!” — but then adds something that implies that up until this moment, this feature of yours was really not up to standard, something along the lines of “It is so much better than the color you had before!” How does that sound? Exactly. Like until now, you were walking around with really ugly hair. Not much of a compliment, is it?
There are two main reasons why people might give you backhanded compliments. One is they don’t know any better. They genuinely want to praise you, and to show you how much they appreciate your new look or achievement, they compare it to a time when — in their opinion — it wasn’t as good. If that’s the case, just accept the compliment and ignore the rest.
On the other hand, there are instances where people actually want to be mean to you but, for whatever reason, can’t do it directly, so they resort to insulting compliments. For moments like this, you need to be ready and know how to respond to insults. In my opinion, there is no need to get angry and annoyed; instead, a returned funny compliment with a double meaning will do the trick.
For this article, we have collected some backhanded compliment examples. What was the most ridiculous one you have ever received and how did you respond to it?
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"I Wish I Was As Smart As You Think You Are"
"I Hope The Rest Of Your Day Is As Pleasant As You Are!"
"You Look Amazing For Your Age"
Honestly, I feel like I use this one often absent-mindedly when I'm trna be nice :')
Age being the operative word here...they would never say this to someone in their twenties. 🖖
"You’re Not As Dumb As You Look"
That’s been said to me before :D i was so proud of myself -emotional sniff of pride-
My mother - the sweetest woman in the world - used to say this in a dad joke way, and then say “har har” at the end, like a total dork!
"You [Do Activity Well], For A Woman"
A coworker of mine said "you whisle well for a women" I simple replied "you complement really well for a man"
"I Wish I Didn't Have Any Responsibilities Like You"
"You've Got A Face For Radio!"
"You're Super Cool And Sweet, Too Bad You're Short"
I got that once after rejecting a guy and I answered with 'It's not you, it's me'. Should have seen the look on his face. 🙃
"You Look Tired"
"I Wish I Could Find A Guy Like You"
Ah. Rejection in the form of a compliment. +100 sting If you are a woman
“You Have Nice Handwriting, For A Man”
"I Know How Beautiful You Can Be With Make Up On"
"I Didn’t Expect You To Get The Job - Congratulations!"
These are supposed to be backhanded comments but if someone said this to me I would backhand them.....
Someone did this to me... Rolled her eyes when she said it. I don't think she likes me much...
I could say this to a temp at work who just got regular status but I want to ignore her existence.
"You’re Pretty… On The Inside"
Wellll who r we comparing eachother to? Who is ThE pReTtY?!? Who is the person qualified to be pretty
"You Look Great. Have You Lost Weight?"
"I Always Feel More Intelligent After Reading Your Work"
"That’s A Beautiful Photo Of You. I Didn’t Recognize You At First"
"I Wish I Was As Relaxed As You Are About Messiness"
There is some order in chaos. Red flag, if ever someone says that to you...neat freak alert!!!!
"You're So Independent — It's No Wonder You Haven't Found Anyone Yet"
Heh. I found someone, lost someone, now I pretend to be independent.
"I Bet You Were In Great Shape When You Were Younger"
"It's A Good Thing You're Pretty"
I always say "it's a good thing you're cute" to bad little kids. ..
I say "oh sweetheart you're not nearly pretty enough to behave like that"
Load More Replies...I say good thing ur cute otherwise we wouldnt keep u to my friends
"You're Pretty When You're Quiet"
This must be a case of either crooked teeth or worse, bad breath. Both can be fixed. 🙋
"I Think It's Really Cool That You Don't Wear Makeup. I Could Never Be That Brave!"
"You're Amazing For Going Back To Work. I Could Never Let A Stranger Watch My Kids!"
"You're So Pretty For A [Insert Minority Here]!"
I received this "compliment," and the person(s) wondered why I stayed away. 🙄
Not grammar nazi, but sincere question since I am not a native English speaker. When I learned English I learnt that the word person has no plural, its plural is people. Is that right, or in some cases, like this, when assumedt there are more person that one, can we use it like this person(s)? Or in just writing? Or it is a slang-like thing? Or not formal? Thank you!
Load More Replies..."How Is The View From The Top Of The Bell Curve?"
Doctor, I have been feeling a little too smart these past few days. 🤮
"You're Perfect For Me, Just Not Perfect For Me Right Now"
"You've Got A Great Smile — Use It!"
"Real Women Have Curves"
I don't mind being somewhat curvy over being too flat. But to each his own...variety makes the spice of life...😘
"Your Haircut Makes Your Nose Look Smaller"
"You Look Really Nice In This Light"
"Your Instagram Makes You Seem So Fun!"
"Those Earrings Are So Nice. My Grandma Would Love Them"
for me that would be a compliment, my grandma has awesome earrings, several snoopy ones and they are beautiful
"Well, Half Your Outfit Looks Fabulous"
This is going to look as if I laugh at New Yorkers...but it's really quite the opposite...only thinking prices in N.Y. are much too steep. You need real adventurors' spirit to move up there!!! 🙋🍀🧸🕺
Load More Replies..."You Clean Up So Well!"
Ever looked up the word 'comedogenic'?? It's quite insulting this day and age!!!!
"Have You Pooped Today? You Look Thin In The Middle"
Why yes i have, right in the middle of your living room :D
"I Don't Care What They Say About You, You're Alright"
"Wow, You're A Lot Better Looking In Person!"
For me it's the other way round, that's why I haven't dated in 10 years. 🙇 Only joking here.
"I Used To Think You Were Hot When I First Met You"
mine is "when i met you i considered you very unattractive, now its just kinda, i dont look at you idk" (and often i start to consider them really attractive because im demiromantic and demiaesthetic or sensual or whatevr it is)
"You Are The Only Person I Know That Suits Being Awkward"
Go out, and meet some other people, dear. How long since you've been out? 🙁🙃
"Your Skin Looks So Much Better!"
"I Can't Believe You Just Had A Kid. You Look Amazing!"
No it's just insincere most of the time or otherwise comming off as persons being very shallow. Having a baby is very hard work and if you've experienced it, you know looks are the least thing you should be concerned about. But, I admit, I never was a super model. ❤️😉
Load More Replies..."Your Hair Is Beautiful. Is It Real?"
"May I ask if that is all your own hair? Hm. Pity it's red. " (If you get that reference, then you're an awesome person... 😁)
I get that a lot but for me it's not my hair they are talking about...a little more down south. 🤦🙁
"You Look Great — Fit, But Not Too Muscular"
"Your House Feels So Cozy And Lived In"
How is this backhanded? Edit: Okay, got it. Probably why all the kids around used to come and play at our house when my kids were young. LOL.
cozy = cramped/small, or maybe tattered ("that's a cozy couch" = there's a blanket on it to cover up the holes from the dog/cat); lived in = messy I prefer "lived in" to "immaculate," but our house will never be immaculate with two dogs and a cat.
Load More Replies..."That New Haircut Suits You So Much Better Than Your Old One"
Hope that's not the newest employee your regular hairdresser got.
"I Would Never Be Able To Pull Off That Outfit"
How would I know? I'm a woman in her 50's. 🙋
Load More Replies..."The Way You've Overcome Your Disability Is So Inspiring!"
Really, feeling inspired to get disabilitadet as well, are we???😐🤔
"You're A Lot Lighter Than You Look"
"You're taller than you look." " ...I hunch... " "Don't."
"But Why Would You Get Tattoos? You're Such A Pretty Girl!"
"You've Got A Face For Television But A Personality For The Internet"
"You're Actually Handsome For Being A Redhead"
"You Are Deceivingly Attractive"
"You’re So Charming When You Make An Effort"
"You Look So Professional With Your Hair Straight"
"You’re Really Fast For Your Size"
"You Must Be So Happy To Have Your House Remodeling Done. I Wouldn’t Have Guessed Siding Came In That Color"
"The People Who Do (X Job) Don't Have To Be Smart At All. You Could Even Do (X Job)!"
"Your Haircut Really Slims Your Face"
Didn't even recognize my co-worker after he shaved off what looked like 5 pounds of beard and sideburns... He looks like ten years younger now...
“The Good Thing About Colleague X Is That You Never Have To Worry About Him Over Thinking It”
“You’re Very Eloquent For Someone With That Accent”
"Well, I'm Not Dating You For Your Looks"
"You're So Brave To Wear That"
"You Might Not Be The Prettiest, But You’re Definitely The Funniest!"
"I Love How You Don't Care How You Come Across"
"You Don't Even Look Pregnant!"
"Your Wife Isn’t Half As Lucky As You Are"
"Those Pants Make You Look Far Thinner"
You're hat doesn't, it might be too small to fit that huge head of yours.
"God, Your Body Is So Perfect From The Waist Down"
"You've Got Such An Exotic Look"
"You Have Such Strong Features!"
"You’re So Articulate"
"You Look So Much More Awake With Makeup"
"You’re Really Funny… In Your Own Way"
"Congratulations On Your Promotion! That’s Great Your Employer Settled For You"
"You Don't Sweat Much For A Overweight Chick"
"This One Looks Much Better Than The Last One!"
"You Look Good For 30, Lol I Just Turned 21 Around Then"
"The Back Of Your Hand Is So Smooth And Beautiful!"
Read this entire post to find some things to say to my frenemy....
Read this entire post to find some things to say to my frenemy....
