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30 “I Wish I Knew This Earlier” Blunt, Yet Honest Pieces Of Advice From 40+-Year-Olds
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“You want to know the one truth I’ve learned in all my years? Life’s too hard to face sober.” – Octieve San, The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim.
There, I helped! [smug face]
In all seriousness, getting advice is always helpful. Yes, it should be taken with a grain of salt, and not all advice is necessarily great or even decent. But even if it is crummy advice, it might just help put things into perspective, or give you a reason to laugh about it. So, win-win.
And maybe these tips from Reddit might be of use to you as older generations (everyone over 40) share the pearls of wisdom they’ve acquired throughout the years with the younger peeps of the internets.
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#1
I’m not quite 40, but my advice is: get the f**k off TikTok
hitex 2 years ago
PLEASE! Tiktok is the pits & provides your info & data to third parties & China
Gandalf the Pink 2 years ago
That is true but let's not pretend Facebook and the others don't sell your information too. That's not just a TikTok problem.
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JammaCoast2Coast 2 years ago
So many haters - not like a good portion of 40 years old folks (in the US) didn't grow up on America's Funniest Videos. TikTok has legit content, something for everyone. Don't want to be involved with TikTok challenges? Don't be. Don't like it, don't watch it, but also give the folks who like it a break. Most people aren't hurting themselves or anyone else
Anon Yymi 2 years ago
AFV didn't try to sell stuff to kids in ads masquerading as "reviews" etc.
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The Original Bruno 2 years ago
BP is pushing TikTok less lately. That's a good thing. No transciption of a TikTok into a bunch of pictures and text has ever made a good post.
Michael None 2 years ago
Disconnect from all social media. It's poison. Learn to to live in the now and stop worrying about what everyone else might think.
bananaforscale;) 2 years ago
Don't downvote me to heck, but some tik toks are good. As a crafter, I find so many cool ideas on there. I just wish it were filtered so that it were only fun videos like those.
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#2
40 isn't old
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 2 years ago
I just turned 38, and I am steady trying to pump the breaks every day. lol But, my older brother just turned 40 and he's out there climbing mountains and entering triathlons so...yeah, I guess you're really only as old as you feel.
Nannychachi 2 years ago
I'm 64yo. And that's not old, either because I don't allow it to be. Sit down and whine about your age and get old and decrepit if you want. Not this girl.
George D 2 years ago
When you cross 50 like myself you'll realize the 40s was still your spry self. This changes in your 50s. Get ready for injuries you had when young come back to haunt you. Scar tissue and ligament repairs become weak spots on your body. Avoid injury while young at all costs.
UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 2 years ago
I (50) told a 25-year-old neighbor, “The difference between 25 and 50 is that when you fall down at 25, you jump back and up and say, ‘We’ll, that’s gonna hurt for a couple of days.’ When you fall down at 50, you say, ‘Well, that’s gonna hurt forever .’”
Load More Replies... hitex 2 years ago
But, at same time, things start sagging...wrinkles, boobs, butt - you can physically see yourself aged from 25
Sky Render 2 years ago
Sometimes. Sometimes you start to look younger as you get older due to taking better care of yourself! Case in point: a photo of me from May of 2021 vs. a photo of me today would look reversed on a timeline. I'm 42 years old, but now look closer to how I did at 16 than I did at 25, because I started giving a c**p about my life around mid-2021 and started making better life decisions.
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Michael Largey 2 years ago
Casey Stengel on being fired as the Yankees' manager because he was too old - "I'll never make the mistake of turning 70 again!"
Maggie Fanelli 2 years ago
I’m 40 and still a millennial, which is still synonymous with youth apparently
#3
Don't fall into the trap of thinking everyone else your age has something that you don't and you feel hopelessly behind and like a failure.
Once you're out of school, there are no timelines anymore. You are not supposed to do anything by any particular point in your life. Everyone is different.
You are not supposed to have had X number of sexual partners, had X number of relationships, be married, have a kid, own a house, have a dream job, or figure out your calling in life at any particular point - if at all.
Life is very long and you will have many chances to do things.
Make your own path.
StrangeOne 2 years ago
Even when you're in school, all those timelines (not mistaken for the work deadlines.) are not made in stone. Some people graduate early, some at 18, some at 21 or older. There are people who've never graduated and get on better than someone who went to university. There is no real deadline in going back to school for anything. Your timeline is the time you're alive.
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
Comparing yourself with others is a losing game, especially if you do it without context. That celebrity who's the same age as you, but looks way better? Yeah, if you could afford a personal chef and personal trainer, and had so much money that you didn't experience survival stress on the daily, you'd look that good too.
Auntriarch 2 years ago
Don't let it worry you, you are a dear good person. Anyway I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up, and I'm retiring next year.
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Ryan Mercer 2 years ago
Unfortunately, the opposite is equally true. Plenty of people can tell you their regrets for not accomplishing x, y, or z before they were too old. Such is the nature of life. My advice is choose your battles. You don't have to be everything to everyone all at once. Be conscious and deliberate about what you want to accomplish. Prioritize according to your values.
featherytoad 2 years ago (edited)
I'm 52 and I never knew what I wanted to do professionally, still don't. What I did know is that I never wanted kids so, there's that. I got married, not because of a timeline, I didn't even think about that. Just let your life lead you.
Nannychachi 2 years ago (edited)
We were renting while other family members around my age had already bought a house. My mother, "Doesn't it bother you that they have more than you?" Umm....nope. I went on to buy and sell many properties and haven't talked to her for many years because of her materialistic personality. I don't need fancy and impressive. I just want to be comfortable and happy.
Meowzers! 2 years ago
The world is like a ride in an amusement park, and when you choose to go on it you think it's real because that's how powerful our minds are. The ride goes up and down, around and around, it has thrills and chills, and it's very brightly colored, and it's very loud, and it's fun for a while. Many people have been on the ride a long time, and they begin to wonder, "Hey, is this real, or is this just a ride?" And other people have remembered, and they come back to us and say, "Hey, don't worry; don't be afraid, ever, because this is just a ride." Bill Hicks
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
Sadly, it's often societal pressure. "By now you should..." and after a bit it becomes soul crushing. Don't let that be your "Google Maps"! Other people, whether family, friends or whomever aren't living your life. If something is your passion, go for it, as long as it's legal, lol. If art is your thing, dammit, go for it. You probably won't be a zillionaire (most artists aren't) but find the happy medium that allows you to keep a roof over your head and food in your mouth, but allows you to be happy. Same can be said for writers or just about any career that folks look down their noses on because you aren't living in a mcmansion and driving a vehicle with insurance payments higher than most folks mortgages. Just do you! I learned this way too late, but not everyone has to.
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You're not special, no one cares what you do and the sooner you can accept it, the sooner you can be at peace with yourself.
Meowzers! 2 years ago (edited)
You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing cr@p of the world. (Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club)
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
Nah f**k you. Every single person is special. Because there will ever only be that one person. Don't be this person folks. This is how you die miserable.
UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 2 years ago (edited)
I am unique and have intrinsic value, yes. I am special to my friends and loved ones, and special if I do special things. But I am merely one of eight billion people, and am to the vast majority of them no more special than anyone else. I have to wait in line, I don’t deserve more than my 1/8,000,000,000th share, and my needs are no more important than yours or anyone else’s. I am not Jonas Salk, I am not Marie Curie, I am not Wolfgang Mozart. That’s how I and you are not special.
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Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
The idea that I am irrelevant in the context of all of space and time is quite freeing.
The Original Bruno 2 years ago (edited)
Dayum, who hurt you BP that you make this the #1 post? You're not a special CASE, and you're not the main character in some movie, but yeah, there are 8 billion special, unique people out there. Peace is coming through realizing you're not MORE special than the next person.
Saphyre Fyre 2 years ago (edited)
Actually, my husband waited all his years up to meeting me to meet me, so I AM special! I am the only woman he has EVER loved, who has ever loved HIM.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
"You might as well be yourself. Everyone else is already taken." - Oscar Wilde (supposedly)
Mental Liberals 2 years ago
You should always consider YourSelf special - not in an egotistical way. You should care what you do and how you act...
#5
Stretch everyday or at least more then never. Stay limber and flexible because once it is gone, it’s almost impossible to get it back.
A B C the Third 2 years ago
And cats do it all the time, so it can't be bad.
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When I wake up, first I turn my body in a ball, as small as possible (which isn't small for a 6"7 and 260 lbs guy) and then I stretch all the way out , I can hear and feel all kind of things popping into place! Feels great, and I don't feel as stiff and more limber, it's easier to get out of bed, too.
HolQ 2 years ago
That's because while You sleep the Deeper muscles are relaxing, so joint, disc can change position. When You stretching You put everything On right place. That what You doing - turning into ball sounds nice. I must try :D
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Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
Yes Yes Yes. The most important daily routine, besides some weekly runs.
Non Zamfir 2 years ago
Kind of like grammar. Learn and and make it a good habit otherwise you may be older and like the person who wrote this who did not know the difference between "then" and "than."
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
if you have restless leg syndrome reach down and touch your toes until it feels like something is about to snap and the tingles will go away.
Bored Panda got a chance to speak to one of the submitters in the original post, and that is u/unabtaniuam.
In their submission, unabtaniuam took a very zen approach to advice, pointing out a number of universal, yet spot-on truths: life is short, be grateful, and learn to live in the present for the past is a mere memory now and the future is only up to our imagination at this point.
They cap off their thoughts by saying that folks, instead of accepting negative self dialogue, ought to observe so as to learn from it. In turn, "you are braver than you believe, smarter than you think, stronger than you seem and loved more than you know."
#6
You aren't going to get rich as an influencer or become a professional gamer. Get educated and get a job.
moonlit muffins 2 years ago
my personal plan is to get a stable job then give it a try. if it works cool, if not then i have a job
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Justanotherpanda 2 years ago
But please, by all means do the gaming or influencing thing on the side if you really like it. But make sure you have a steady income to rely on.
Gandalf the Pink 2 years ago
Nahhh, go catch your dreams, don't listen to boring grown ups saying you need to cut your hair and get a "real" job. There are actual professional gamers and influencers and if that's what you wanna do you have no reason not to go for it. Just be mindful of the fact the competition is huge and it takes actual hard work to get there and make a living out of it.
featherytoad 2 years ago
Yeah, I've heard of gamers making a pretty penny but, they are the minority. It's not impossible but, for the majority, you need a job.
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Jerry Mathers 2 years ago
You're not getting rich with a job either. Subbing one bad thing for another isn't good advice.
General Anaesthesia 2 years ago
Education is not a bad thing. A job is not a bad thing. Saying advice isn't good because it doesn't make you rich EITHER, is not good advice either.
Load More Replies... Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
Yep, and follow your interests as a hobby, without financial dependencies.
Mental Liberals 2 years ago
Although I agree, and can't stand those, some influencers should make a ton of $$$$
Janet Graham 2 years ago
The last generation was being a professional computer nerd. Before that, it was an actor or rock star. Before that, an astronaut and so on and so on. You are not going to win Powerball or marry a Billionaire. Accept it and move on with the life you make for yourself.
#7
take care of your knees and back.
Demosthenes 2 years ago
Told a younger friend the other day that one thing every person will deal with is spinal degeneration of one sort or another. Love thine spine.
Upstaged75 2 years ago
I'm late 40's and I recently blew out my knee while sitting in a chair. (pushing back in it actually) Stupid and embarrassing. :( Getting old sucks!
StrangeOne 2 years ago
I have old injuries I got when I was a teen saying "Hey, remember that time you did that thing that caused this injury? Thought it healed, eh? Syke!"
Dumpster Fire 2 years ago
Nope. There is no taking care of your knees and back. What you really need to do is just mentally prepare yourself for the fact that one day, they're probably just going to be bad
ColdSteelRonin 2 years ago
Protruding disk, bulging disk, herniated disk, degenerative disk disease, mild scoliosis, arthritis and whiplash. When you live like there's no tomorrow, living is hard when tomorrow comes
Karri Berkowitz 2 years ago
And Boobs. Gravity is not your friend regardless of cup size. B cups can sag too!
#8
It’s okay and healthy to sit in silence. Put down your phone, leave your earphones in your pocket, and just be. It’s important to not constantly be stimulated.
Mrs Irish Mom 2 years ago
Love a good quiet walk with the dog at 6am its so peaceful and quiet and i dont listen to music until my 6pm walk because thats so noisy
Michelle Carlson 2 years ago
I'm trying to do this more. I read a book where one of the character's helped their anxious sibling (?) by saying "what are five things you can hear? What are five things you can smell?" to move the focus away from the anxiety. It's been a useful trick to help be present in the moment.
SmooshieFries 2 years ago
Having been sick for 10 days, I did find I liked the silence. No tv on, no phone in my hand, surrounded by my dogs, just laying here. My husband was sick too and liked the quiet as well. We will have to continue this now that we feel better
Rain Anderson 2 years ago
Silence is forever and always peaceful. I don't think most people have experienced that although they should.
Garth 2 years ago
I used to go on quiet walks until other walkers joined me and yaked on their phones incessantly.. so I tried sitting at a quiet place with beautiful views until the influencers showed up to take selfies and poses and yak on their phones. I have finally found peace at the local garbage dump where the flies are less bothersome than people.
Blondie23 2 years ago
okay SUPER LOVE this!! I have recently gotten back into going for walks for my health and I don't listen to music or get on my phone.. I just walk and let my mind wander and I have to say it's so freeing!!!! It's like a wonderful form of meditation that is so needed nowadays!!!!
#9
Don't cheap out on a mattress, pillows or shoes.
Cut back on the sugar.
Do NOT bring work home with you.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
Yes to the sugar, I learnt the work thing by force and about to order a mattress lol
Karl 2 years ago
Can’t upvote the mattress one enough. You’ll spend a third of your life lying on it and the quality of your sleep and benefits to your posture affects every other area of your life so buy the best one you can afford.
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StrangeOne 2 years ago (edited)
There's a furniture thrift store in my city that sells brand new, off the sales floor mattresses for around $250. I got one from there 13 years ago. Still using it but I do have to replace it soon. I remember when I first got it. It was better than the other mattresses I grew up with. Pillows just never hold up to their claims of "never flatten", "cooling technology" and all that jazz. I spent $60 on a pillow that lasted no longer than ones I've gotten at Walmart for $10. Shoes, yes, but make sure they're properly fitted and have your feet measured. Expensive shoes are no better than cheap shoes if they're messing up your feet. Sugar is hidden and added into pretty much everything. Very hard to avoid. But it can be lessened by avoiding the high, just sugar foods, like candy, juice and pop. In fact, if you avoid Red dye 40, anything declared to taste like "blue raspberry" or the purple flavouring so-called "grape", sodium benzoate, and anything as salty and greasy as McDonalds fries you'll be on the right track. Here's another tip, any beverage you're drinking that has a foamy or loamy white swirling on the surface of the liquid will tell you that there's too much sugar in the drink for it to be called a "drink".
Xenon 2 years ago
Not a rep for this company. I swear. Just an career insomniac. Try Coop pillows. I bought hundreds and hundreds of dollars worth of pillows in search of one I like. Finally found Coop, search over.
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MushroomHead22 2 years ago
OK. But I like sugar. and 3rd, I'm on call 24/7 so not like i can just leave it...... sometimes advice isn't useful to everyone.
#10
Cut s****y people out fast with a sharp knife. There are so many f*****g people on this planet, why give second chances? Also, family are friends you didn't get to decide to bring into your life, but should be held to the same expectations as non family members. So many toxic family members saying "but were family..."
ObliviousInside 2 years ago (edited)
That's what I was going to say! My mother told me that 'blood is thicker than water' when I cut her off and chose to live with my friends, and I told her that the whole saying wasn't at all what she says it is. :3
Load More Replies... Linouchka 2 years ago
It took me 39 years to let go of the idea that I could have a good relationship with my sister one day, if I got to be what she expected me to be. I finally understood that we just hurt each other and that, weren't she my sister and if I met her as a stranger, I wouldn't like her and wouldn't want her in my life. Cut her out, didn't miss her since.
Jerry Bee 2 years ago
Instead of "having a good relationship with her," could you have just accepted her as she is instead of trying to turn her into something she's not? I ask this kindly and non-judgementally (as I have trouble here and there with this, too).
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I’mSoEmotional 2 years ago
But hold on to friends that you can in life because they are harder to make when you get older. I cut out all the friends (3) who were walking all over me and now I have none!
michael Chock 2 years ago
1/3 of who you are is your connections. So many people worry about healthy mental or physical lifestyle but completely ignore the most toxic social lifestyle.
In our interview with u/unabtaniuam, they elaborated that their advice comes from a difficult time, one that involved overcoming an addiction on their own.
"This is what helped me pull out of the lows in my life. I’ve always been pretty positive and had a deep understanding that there is more to life than the daily trivialities. Who helped? Eckhart Tolle, Alan Watts and Ram Dass. Spiritual gurus and yogis."
#11
Avoid "toxic positivity" people. Actually, try to avoid all toxic people, "toxic positivity" is just a bit harder to recognise. It is ok to be not in a mood sometimes.
El Dee 2 years ago
Toxic negativity is a thing too. That person who feels the need to say out loud and often how bad it is that you're having to wait or how bad the quality of something is. There's no need for them to say it - everyone already knows. Some people use this as their coping strategy but for most of us being reminded constantly how annoying something is will simply annoy us more..
Sarah Laurent 2 years ago
Learn to be confident enough to day : Not today, I'm not OK, and that's OK.
michael Chock 2 years ago
Toxic is when people try to control how you feel. Dark feelings are just as valuable as the bright ones. In a world without both light and shadow we are all blind.
Audrey Rasmussen 2 years ago
ive had people say that if im ever happy im not ever *really* sad???
Audrey Rasmussen 2 years ago
i try to avoid people in general unless someone is going super slowly because they just wanna be near me regardless, then i may let them in, eventually, because for all I know they're my platonic soulmate, which can be my romantic soulmate, but platonic relationships are equally or more important than romantic ones (im gri eydemiromantic so i dont really need a romantic soulmate, but i MUST have a platonic one, like that person that just gets you completely and is someone you always want to be around, but not in a romantic way, maybe qpr but like, i prefer incredibly close platonic friendship
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Do i have to? [he/him] 2 years ago
Try not to listen to them or take them with a grain of salt?
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Take photos around where you live; streets, buildings, forests, etc. Because everything will look different in 20 years.
Claire Bailey 2 years ago
Yes. We bought our house not even 3 yrs ago. It had 1 house next to us on one side, a lovely patch of gum trees over our back fence. and a large open piece of land next to us. Now there is a string of units in place of the gum trees, and the land has been split into blocks and sold off. So far 6 houses have been built with 2 more in construction and room for another 10 or so yet to be started. I liked the open area and miss the gum trees.
#13
Don’t waste time being the person other people think you should be, and instead be the person you want to be
Nick Szalai 2 years ago
And after that lady finishes getting dressed, head on down to Sunnyvale Trailer Park, find Corey and Trevor and demand they give you a cigarette immediately.
#14
Love life it is short. Be grateful for everything. The biggest burden you’ll carry are your own thoughts. Learn to live in the present, the past is just a memory and the future is just your imagination. You don’t have to accept the negative self dialogue, be the watcher of those thoughts and learn to let them go. You are braver than you believe, smarter than you think, stronger than you seem and loved more than you know.
UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 2 years ago
Though it’s a little schmaltzy, I can get behind everything here except “be grateful for everything.” No. Bad things happen, and I am not grateful for those.
Populus tremuloides(they/them) 2 years ago
This is good advice and this really sucks to hear when you're depressed and just can't are 2 things that can coexist
Marshall Levin 2 years ago
That line is such a good thing to hear, wether you're depressed, or just need a pick me up, it's just nice to hear.
#15
Save your money
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
Yes, yes and yes...but don't hoard either. Enjoy life too, just be financially responsible.
V 2 years ago
Can't spend money when you're dead. But have enough to cover final expenses so your loved ones don't have to fork it out.
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 2 years ago
Really hard when you have rent, bills, food and transportation to get to work and back.
Krizzy Wilde 2 years ago (edited)
Spend your money! Nearly all my money goes on the cost of living so what little is left I'd rather use to enjoy what I can, no point dying with £££ in the bank after a miserable life!! ( of course, this depends on individual circumstances like having dependents etc. and whether you're a selfish horrible 💩 but otherwise...
Thomas Gilfoyle 2 years ago
Money isn't so much so you can do what you want, as much as it is so that you don't have to do what you don't want.
michael Chock 2 years ago
Save your money in every way. If you buy something you will use for a long time, save future money by buying something that will last. Buy good but not expensive shoes. Buy staples in bulk and produce seasonally in small amounts. So many people waste thousands by being cheap.
u/unabtaniuam focuses on a number of themes in their original thought: life and death, the burdens of time, thoughts, and negativity, just to name a few. But, according to them, the key is here is to tackle the negative and the critical.
"The critical judge in your head does not tell the truth and it does not have your best interest at heart. Recognize it and don’t accept it."
This then ties in well with the idea of observing it and learning from it, all the while negating its influence over the mind.
#16
Your dreams are not static. It's ok to decide the dream you had at 15 is no longer for you
hitex 2 years ago
I 1st wanted to be engineer at NASA - dream changed to patent lawyer to help small inventors - dream dissolved but what to do? Got a job at small law office, took the divorce & custody cases they didn't want & now have a successful family law practice. I love my job. So yes, let your life experiences modify your dreams. You'll never know where it takes you. No child or young adult says 'I want to be a divorce/custody lawyer' - but it's the most fulfilling career I would ever imagine
StrangeOne 2 years ago
Yup. Wanted to be a ballerina, whale trainer, archeologist, animator, artist, illustrator. There's at least 2 on there that's still technically possible, but... I've noticed I have very, very long art fatigues. It's okay to not know what the heck you want to do.
Alethea Fletcher 2 years ago
But also... if you have a dream and reach it, it's okay to then stay and enjoy it. Don't push to have more if you are happy and content.
Ace 2 years ago
Dreams don't have to be the same as ambitions. Dare to dream of things that you don't expect to ever achieve. When big decisions need to be made, ask yourself "which choice brings me closer or takes me further away from that impossible dream?" . You never know, you might just get there in the end.
#17
Don’t “wait to get in shape”
Start working out however is enjoyable to you so you avoid health risks later. Don’t wait to have to lose 30 lbs
TheRightToArmBears 2 years ago
and even harder at 50! Sure wish I hadn't got so lazy for the last few years. Weight does not come off like it used to
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 2 years ago
I still ended up gaining weight due to prolactinoma. Find what you need to do with your own unique situation. Ignore what others assume because their ignorance is not your truth.
martymcmatrix 2 years ago
Even a cookie dough with limbs can not be regarded as unshaped, out of shape or even shapeless, at all...
hitex 2 years ago
& 40 yo cookie dough is harder to shape than 30 yo cookie dough...not sure youd want to touch cookie dough that old tho!
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Paul Jayne 2 years ago
Get in shape and stay there. Life is so much easier, especially when getting older.
#18
Take care of your teeth. It's nice to have high standards, but it's even better to have a friend with you and not be alone.
Manatee 2 years ago
Tooth pain is a hell you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy. Heed this advice
ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
I was so confused about the second sentence think it was teeth related.
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
I did take care of my teeth. Unfortunately for me, autoimmune disease had other ideas.
Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 2 years ago
Autoimmune diseases are no fun. I hope you're doing your best.
Load More Replies... Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I took care of my teeth beautifully. Never had a single cavity until I got pregnant then I had 8. Then I got kidney disease and terrible stomach ulcers. I threw up at least 8 times a day. Now my teeth shatter like glass. I do love sugar but I brush my teeth afterward. Doesn't seem to matter. I even stopped eating sugar for 5 years cause my teeth hurt so badly but they just got worse and worse so now I take care of them the same but stopped being devastated over the inevitable. Like Manatee said, tooth pain is a hell you never want to know. Not just an ache- the deep nerve throb pain of an icepick hitting you over and over. Its horrible
martymcmatrix 2 years ago
Where I come from, they say, »An aching tooth is worse than a breaking heart.«...I can confirm ..
Load More Replies... Brenda 2 years ago
As someone who was fanatical about their teeth and still lost them, I can't stress this enough! Find a dental school if you don't have insurance! You'll thank yourself
I’mSoEmotional 2 years ago
It’s ridiculous that they don’t offer dental insurance the equivalent to medical insurance in America.
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Sarah Goettge 2 years ago
Most people can't afford dentists visit. Anyone who can't, buy some coconut oil and swish it around like mouthwash once a week, you will almost never have tooth infections or sore mouths.
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
I get really cranky when my mouths are sore!
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Amanda Beveridge 2 years ago
I take care of my teeth very well. I have no cavities, but this past Easter, after eating dinner, my front tooth chipped while chewing gum. You can take care of your teeth, but age and perimenopause have other plans...
Michelle Carlson 2 years ago
And replacements are never as good as OEM (original equipment manufacture) :p
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
And that's IF you've got thousands available to even get the replacements.
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I'm 56. You don't have as much time as you think you do. Don't waste it, don't waste a single f****** day. Do something everyday even if it's just something for yourself. Drink plenty of water and use sunscreen. Donating blood doesn't hurt that bad. Doing something you like for a living is more rewarding than doing something that pays even exceptionally well. I've done both and the former is preferable in my opinion. I'm rambling too much coffee😳😳
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
I'm not sure about that last one. For me, the instant I monetize an interest, my interest starts to fade until every scrap of joy I once experienced while pursuing that interest has disappeared. You pursue an interest because you WANT to. When you monetize it, you are now forced to pursue it. Maybe it's just me, but I think I would grow to hate the thing I once loved.
Wintermute 2 years ago
100% this. I didn't do art for 8 years after going to art school and burning out on it. Since I've gone back I've never once sold or shown anything. I give stuff away as gifts, and every person says I should sell my work. Nope. Never again. This is for me, and for the person I make it for. That's it. Life is better this way.
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Annie Bieber 2 years ago
The sagest advice here. I went to bed a normal person 12/22/22. I awoke shortly before 3am in full blown actute Rheumatoid Arthritis after a mere 5 hours sleep. I'm only 63 and my life is forever changed as so can no longer do 60% of what I could December 22. LIVE people, it really can change in an instant. ✌️
#20
Fail more.
Fail all the time.
Set yourself up for failure.
Because what you will learn is that failure is not some horrible catastrophe, it's actually a part of a process of getting better at something or getting what you want. And going ahead into failure is often how you find yourself unexpectedly succeeding faster than you expected.
And the more you fail, the more you immunize yourself against the fear of it so you can get more of it. Failure is something you actually *need* in your life to really get the things you want.
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
You need to think of failure as simply data gathering. You only failed because you lacked sufficient data. The makers of Formula 409 failed 408 times and kept at it, gathering data until they were able to succeed.
John Blaine 2 years ago
So much of this advice doesn't apply to alot of people. Lots of failure can drive someone into a deep depression. Only set yourself goals that your mental health can reasonably withstand. Otherwise, hell will visit you on Earth
Jacob Oliver 2 years ago
No, no, and no. I HOPE what you meant to say was don't take failure too hard, and always try to learn something from failures. But do not set out to fail or you will never ever succeed, you will become adjusted to failure and it won't bother you anymore. Failure should bother you. It's the motivator to get you to try and do better
Lastly, we asked if giving advice, whether to young folk, or anyone, really, is truly challenging. And u/unabtaniuam pointed out a concept that's very true with a lot of folks:
"I have found it is easy for me to give good advice from the heart. But at the same time hard for me to follow it for myself."
There is this idea that it can be difficult to follow your own advice because you are much closer to your own problems. And so, not only are you more aware of the context and nuances of it all, but your emotions are often also more powerful in clouding your judgment. But advice for others comes easier and more naturally as we are more distant from these factors, and thus can approach it with a clearer mind.
#21
1. Upvotes and thumbsup from social media doesn't matter. Your job title on LinkedIn doesn't matter. **Like nobody cares.** Your children won't care, your loved ones won't care, your gravestone won't say anything about it.
2. Don't think you are the be all and end all when it comes to trends and social knowledge. 20 years from now your children will look back upon you as savages. This happens every generation. Think about context before you judge others.
3. One person already said it, **but don't think you are so special**. The trends of parents over the past 20-30 years (saying you are perfection) isn't helping you. Work hard, live a good life -- be kind to others, admit your mistakes. (Aside: I have two kids and worked really hard to make them feel loved while simultaneously making sure they take responsibility for their actions)
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
If your kids mock your "outdated" clothes, ignore it and wait. Within 10 years, they'll be stealing those same clothes from your closet, as they've become fashionable again. I'm 58 and I've seen the following trends reappear multiple times: platform shoes, bellbottoms, mini-skirts, maxi-shirts, belly shirts, low rise pants, mom jeans, overalls, jumpsuits, rompers, bodysuits, over-the-knee boots, ankle boots, middle part, side part, blunt cut, layered cut...I could go on.
Scotira 2 years ago
😁 right. Just last month I helped my nephew and his girlfriend move some stuff and just grabed a cotton jacket bc it was a little chilly outside. So here I was: jeans, shirt and my 25year old FILA jacket and his girfriend goes. You are dressed real cool. That stuff is so IN right now. My reaction: 😳 and then: I try 😇 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Load More Replies... Demosthenes 2 years ago
And seriously folks. There have been some epically stupid trends in fashion, music and entertainment over the past 40 years but I’ve got a newsflash for y’all: nothing touches the level idiocy we’ve seen in the past 10 years. When the next generation comes around there will not be enough ridicule and hyperbole to cover the depths of how lame y’all are being right now.
Poor Yorick 2 years ago
On number 1: ESPECIALLY LINKEDIN. People spend so much time on LinkedIn trying to look important and it comes across as people's job titles becoming people's identities. It all feels so fake.
Stargazer Lily 2 years ago
Here lies Jane Doe. She had 300,000 followers on social media. Not one of them came to her funeral. Her family was ignored for the sake of building her influencer presence. They didn't come to the funeral either.
Casey Payne 2 years ago
You are not special, but you are unique. There has never been anyone quite like you living the life you are living and experiencing the world as it is right now and there's not going to be another person quite like you.
#22
You know that dream that seems nuts to pursue?
Do it now.
When you’re old, with a house and a mortgage and a dog, s**t like “I want to make a movie” get much more complicated
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
"I wish I'd done that when I had the chance" is an infinitely more painful regret than "I wish I'd never done that."
Dav Carro-Ripalda 1 year ago
Not quite agree with that. Here where I stand, I prefee the unknow of "what would hapened", to the known of "why did I do that"
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UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 2 years ago
If you have any mental health issues, do your best to get them diagnosed and treated while you’re young. I did pursue my dreams, but undiagnosed crippling depression and ADHD left all my projects in shambles, along with many jobs and relationships. I’m in my 50s now and stable, but have no time for my dreams now while I play catch up.
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
Not if it's a movie about an old person with a mortgage and a dog.
Dumpster Fire 2 years ago
You know, you're right! I'm going to start hanging the rope in the barn now, so it's ready for this evening. Thanks!!!!
#23
Dull answers, but genuine ones:
- put more into your pension than you are now
- avoid debt where you can
- don't hold grudges
- look after your health
- learn to enjoy the now
- be nice to your parents. They might be d***s, but you'll probably still miss them
Ace 2 years ago
Yes to all but the last one. They were never a part of my life after age 15 or so, don't miss them at all now they're gone.
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
Having been both child and parent, I agree with you. No parent is entitled to your time and energy if they failed to put time and energy into your upbringing. (Also, and this is one a lot of parents need to hear, your child is not required to have your interests, political opinions, religious beliefs, ambitions, hopes and dreams, sexuality, musical taste, etc.)
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Michael Largey 2 years ago
Don't hold grudges? "Forgive your enemy, but remember the bastard's name." - John F. Kennedy
Michael Largey 2 years ago
"When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years." - Mark Twain
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Sara Anderson 2 years ago
Yes to the being nice to your parents. I lost both of mine 5 years ago and I'm only 43 now. I still miss them every day.
Mabelbabel 2 years ago
Disagree completely with the last point. I don't owe my parents a relationship, nobody does. If you're lucky, you have supportive parents and can navigate the transition from a child-parent to an adult-parent relationship, and both gain value from that. But don't feel that you have to take abuse, negativity or toxicity from them just because you're related. No one, not family, not friends, has the right to treat you like that. My appendix might be related to me, but if it turns malignant and toxic, it's getting chopped out and cut off.
Alethea Fletcher 2 years ago (edited)
All of those bar the last one is good. My parents were addicts. I grew up in Foster care. They weren't nice to me, so I wasn't to them. Both are now passed on, and I don't regret not having relationships with them. Never ever push for relationships with your parents "because they gave birth to you". That is toxic and abusive. That said, my inlaws are the k9st amazing and incredible people, and wonderful parents. They are worth everything.
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
I'm doing pretty good by these standards, except for the grudges. I'm a petty bit(h! I still have grudges against dead people.
#24
People at work are not your friend! Even if they're nice to you.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Better - "People at work are not there to be your friend."
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Captain McSmoot 2 years ago
However, after you've left to work somewhere else, some of them can become your closest friends. I'm 38. During high school and the first two years of college, I worked at a grocery store. I enjoyed it and didn't think much of it at the time. Fast forward decades, a guy I worked with became one of my closest friends. We looked up one day and realized from that dumb job to now, we had done some incredibly great things together: hiked and canoed miles, seen some of our favorite music groups, had more cups of coffee and donuts than we can count, explored Europe, helped through heartache, death, divorce, remarriage, and new moves, and we are currently learning Irish trad music to play together. He was a work colleague at a teen/young adult job at one point, but became a big part of my life before either of us knew it. Don't close people out because they work with you. You're big boys and big girls; you can learn to read the people who are "friend worthy".
Auntriarch 2 years ago
If you haven't already learned that just because someone is in your class at school doesn't mean they are your friend, then you aren't ready for work
Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
Let's just say... that depends. But I am in Europe, so that might differ as working culture goes.
Mahiera Etsuhae 2 years ago
We don't go to work to make friends. However, if we happen to make friends while at work, it makes the job easier.
Ozymandias73 2 years ago
You're working with the wrong people. True, not all coworkers are going to be your friends, however, some of your closest friends can turn out to be your best.
#25
Enjoy your hairline/boobs, they aren't going to get better and you will fondly look back on where they were situated when you were younger and hotter.
Blue Bunny of Happiness 2 years ago
You will definitely look back at photos of you in your early 20s and think, why the heck did I think I was too fat/too skinny/too short/too tall/too ugly etc and instead notice that you actually looked pretty hot!
Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
A neighbour who was very (very) angry with me once sputtered 'You... you think you are something special... you, with your hair'. That left me speechless. I am 56. He is about 10 years younger. And bald. I am not. Funny, what drives people.
featherytoad 2 years ago
I just laugh when I see those overly made up, duck lipped, spider eyelash, half naked young women in selfies. Enjoy it ladies, it's not going to last forever. Sure, you can get plastic surgery but, do you really want to go through that and spend all that money? I'm content to age (hopefully) gracefully.
Susan Teter 2 years ago
THIS. I LOVE WHAT THEY ARE GOING TO BE LOOKING AT IN 15 YEARS AND BEGGING FOR THEIR YOUTH BACK. KARMA IS AWESOME 👌
Load More Replies... Laura lee 2 years ago
My boobs were better at 40 than 25, lol. Late bloomer. Can still pass the pencil test at 55.
hitex 2 years ago
Dang, how you stay so perky? Mine are certainly not grandma yet but they've started the southern migration 😂
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Sean 2 years ago (edited)
I started losing my hair in high school, so I had to come to terms with this one pretty early on. I still really haven’t, but I’m trying.
Susan Teter 2 years ago
Sweetie, you are perfect. Don't let anybody say anything different !!!
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Keep at a healthy weight/fitness level, and do more now than sitting around waiting for later.
Dumpster Fire 2 years ago
That way when you die, you're in better shape than everyone else that's dying too.
Brenda 2 years ago
I do have to agree with this one. I used to be 150lbs and 5'9", after having my second kid, the weight is much harder to get rid of (even at 26!). I'm 175-180 and completely miserable. I hate how I look, I feel miserable, and it's reflecting in my housework and everything else I have to do. It's bad, and I don't like it. Although, I am finally starting to lose weight, I'm not in as much shape as I used to be and I hate it.
Claudia Conway 2 years ago
Agreed - there is such a difference in wellbeing between people I know in their early 70s who have exercised all their lives and those who haven't; you could be a long time old these days so it's worth taking seriously and it doesn't mean being super fit - just not sedentary
#27
Stop. You won't ever be the perfect image of yourself in your head
Dumpster Fire 2 years ago
I'm actually trying to be the WORST image of myself in my head. So far, I'm succeeding.
Susie Elle 2 years ago (edited)
This. I still strive to become that version of me I demanded myself to be when I was a teenager (i.e. prettier, lose weight, be better and smarter etc), and the older I get the less likely I am to achieve it. In the end, it's not even what I want to be anymore, but not striving for it is scary because it feels like I'd lose all control if I stop pushing myself for it.
Marshall Levin 2 years ago
When you look at the flawless people in music videos, please remember the only reason that they're flawless, is because of makeup and chemicals. You are never going to look like that, but that's ok because even though you're not perfect looking, doesn't mean you're not going to look better Someday, because you don't need to be some perfect Premia Donna, you just need to be you. Oh, and guess what, I believe in you.
#28
Once you're out of school, don't keep the friends who bring you down, You really don't need that and the benefits no longer outweigh the drawbacks. You know what I mean, the friends who only call when they need something, the ones who make you feel bad when you fail and worse when you succeed. The friends who encourage you to do things you actually don't want to do and discourage you from growing as a person. Focus your time and effort on your high-quality friends. It's not about quantity anymore.
Mighty_Condor (He/Him) 2 years ago
Do this before you leave school, you don't need that in addition to the stresses of school
#29
Keep active and eat well.
Basic advice can be trickier to implement than it seems. The path of least resistance is to grab the soda on the end cap at the store and to skip the gym because you're tired today. And it's really easy to rationalize *just for today* without recognizing what's become a pattern.
It always seems like there's tomorrow until the body gives out, and once that happens it can be a vicious cycle. Have seen people's knees start to go by their mid-twenties. Have seen people go through three back surgeries in their thirties. Have seen heart attacks end it before age fifty.
So two tips:
Find a sport you really enjoy. Once you find the sport you love, dig into the wallet for good equipment. This isn't a frivolous expense: it's an investment in yourself.
Learn to cook from scratch. You don't have to graze on "superfoods" from kale to purple cauliflower to whatever else is the fad this year. Instead, eat mostly healthful things and go light on the treats. This shouldn't feel blah: if something tastes like cardboard then don't eat it. Just aim for a reasonable balance and try to make the reasonable stuff tasty.
Scotira 2 years ago (edited)
🤣 every time kale is mentioned as superfood I'm like "what?" To me kale has always been a staple 😅 comes from living in Northern Germany as child. Everytime I want to buy it here in Switzerland it comes in 300g packages and is expensive as heck 🙄 wtf do I do with 300g anyway? Edit: sorry, bit off topic 😇
stella rossa 2 years ago
Keep active, eat well, do sports. Read books, listen music. I'm 70 years old.
Liz Gallagher 2 years ago
That's why I waited until I was 40 to get my first (and only) one. Wanted to be REALLY sure
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I am going to exercise at least 3 hours a day after reading this post. I mean, it doesn't matter once you DIE, but at least you'll know you're better than everyone that doesn't work out.
#30
Don't take yourself too seriously, whatever you do you'll probably look back ten years later mildly mortified at how deep you thought you were.
You're just another confused human not destined for greatness and there's no grand scheme in which you matter one bit, so just chill.
If you have issues with your self confidence and depend on the validation of others, adress that s**t by whatever means are available to you. Nobody is going to do it for you and being insecure gets old fast.
Take care of your health. Wear sunscreen.
Zuzana Necasova 2 years ago
Irish mom knows well because she knows that in Ireland the healthcare system is on a 3rd world level country and they will easily let you die in a hospital because of wait times. I hate Irish doctors and whole healthcare system. So yes, health is wealth.
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#31
save money. work for a higher pay. value yourself. it's nice to live for today, but tomorrow is important too. absolutely do not fall into the trap of "my retirement plan is death" lest you be broke as a joke in old age. live within your means. delayed gratification is good. eat right. sleep right. exercise. never stop learning and using your brain. avoid hard vices. moderation is key. cherish the true friends you have. they're rare.
Annymoose 2 years ago
All these save money ones are hilarious. How sweetie? Paying 60% of wages towards housing? Lemme just pull myself up by my bootstraps!
Mary Kelly 2 years ago
compound interest is how...small amounts paid into an IRA at 18 reap more rewards than huge investment in 30s, 40s, 50s...just $50/month is enough....it's crazy...but true
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 2 years ago
I don't even know where I could work that pays more with the experience and skills I have.
#32
Learn to let things go. Forgive yourself. If all that fails, drink beer and tequila. 🤣
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
The "failure plan" actually incorporates the original two goals, so yay for efficiency.
featherytoad 2 years ago (edited)
I hate that song. They overplayed it so much on GMA once that, I had to change the channel. They just overplayed it every where, period.
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Travel!! If in the US, get to Europe. It’s an amazing experience!
Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago
Depends on where you go. But we do have some good places. Even if we're not too nice all the time
Load More Replies... Mary Kelly 2 years ago
been to europe, asia, north and south america...if you can only travel to one place, go to asia...esp. SEA...more amazing than you can imagine!
PleasantCrocodile 2 years ago
And in contrast, learn to appreciate where you live! I guarantee there are some amazing things to do and places to go near you. You don't need to travel the world to have fun and feel fulfilled.
Floeckchen 2 years ago
Traveling is an absolute CO2 hazard! Learn to enjoy the place you are allready in instead.
Westend Revolver 2 years ago (edited)
Check local thIngs. Often we dont explore our own neighbourhoods. We keep looking for more exotic, yet often dont know our backyards. It's cheaper and supports your local economy. Nothing wrong with going abroad though.
#34
Roth IRA. Contribute until it hurts. By the time you make enough money that maxing it is easy, you won't be able to any more.
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
I don't know how old OP is, but I'm an older GenX. You know all that depressing music from the '90s? Yeah, that was us. It's really hard to see a future to plan for when you look around you and literally everything is "unprecedented". Massive forest fires. Unprecedented. Huge increases in the frequency and volatility of storms. Unprecedented. Ocean temperatures like bath water. Unprecedented. A massive uptick in the number and strength of natural disasters. Unprecedented.
Vidas Zlioba 2 years ago
Someone needs to spend fewer hours watching the Weather Channel.
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Don't party. Bar tabs are the dumbest way to spend your money. Don't jump from relationship to relationship. Learn how to be single and happy. Use condoms. They don't feel bad, people are just stupid. Even with a condom on, pull out anyway. Buy used cars and learn to work on them yourself. Anything you finance, pay more than your payment amount. Pay the principal balance down and save on interest. Find people that aren't surrounded by drama and be friends with them. Help little old ladies. When you start dating a girl, meet her parents. Make a good impression. Separate your colored clothes from your white clothes when you do laundry. Take your clothes out of the dryer as soon as they're dry and hang them up and you'll never have to worry about wrinkles. If something needs to be done, get up and do it right then and there. Don't procrastinate.
Ace 2 years ago
Party as much as you can, within your financial means obviously, while you still can. Nobody ever got old and said they wished they're had less fun when they were younger.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Ehhh I wish I had less fun... funned my way right into rehab at 22...
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TruthoftheHeart 2 years ago (edited)
Honestly I'm only 29, i've already quit drinking I regret the years I've even been drinking. Looking back I would have some money in savings and be healthier in ways. I spent days hanging out with friends drinking that I honestly didn't even have that great of fun, hangovers suck alcohol poison's your body just skip it in life and save yourself the trouble
SlightlyTarnished 2 years ago
Party while you can, there will come a day when mentally you just don't want to and physically you can't!. Obviously, partying doesn't equate to blackout drunk or hopped up to overdose level, party wise and party well.
featherytoad 2 years ago
Lol. I never separate my colors and whites. This began when I lived in an apartment. 2.50 to wash and then 2.50 to dry each load. At that time in my life, NOPE. They all got thrown in together to save money. I never had any white clothes anyway and nobody saw how white or not my socks and underwear were.
#36
Have as much fun as possible. Try and enjoy the now and not get lost in the hope of the future. Figure out who you really are and learn to live with that person. Hold on to your friends for dear life. You make your close friends up to 30 and then spend the rest of your life doing things with them. Yes you can make friends later in life but it isn't the same.
Blue Bunny of Happiness 2 years ago
Nah, you can totally make close friends later in life. I didn’t meet my best friend until my early 40s.
Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
Apart from the friends comment, yeah. Lost 2 of my best friends when they got married, each time because the wives were jealous of me and my history with their husband. So... annoying.
featherytoad 2 years ago
It's harder to make friends when you get older. You really have to click with someone when you get older. You're less inhibited when you're younger. That's why the best friendships I had was when I was in school, imo.
#37
Young people, you already know what is there right thing to do. Get on with it. You don't need some older person to tell you what to do.
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
50% of the US House are 60-86yo. In the Senate, 74% are 60yo or older, with the oldest being 89yo and observably senile. GTFO. I'm a 58yo GenX, and my generation has never held the majority in either chamber. We currently hold 38% of the House and 23% of the Senate, and the youngest of us is 43. Go home, older people, and stop telling the rest of us what to do. You're legislating for a future you will never experience and can't understand. Step aside.
Casey Payne 2 years ago
Every industry has a wannabe immortal problem. Micro managers sticking around 10, 15, 20, 25 YEARS after they should have retired. That means if you were starting a new family at their 'retirement party', your kids would be graduating from college and crypt keeper is still haunting the hallways. Not just there, but driving the business - with one foot on the brake.
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 2 years ago
What's right for one generation isn't going to be right for another. This silly war on generations is as silly as the idea of the generation codes.
#38
Show up on time for work. Just because the job is easy or the work environment is laid back, it doesn't mean there aren't people tracking your attendance.
We've lost 2 people on our team in the last month who were pretty good, but they just couldn't show up on time. That badge you swipe every morning when you come in? Management tracks that s**t.
Along the same lines, it is important to be the "adult" in the room. If you were working at my office, and you wanted to get off of the night shift and come to days? I'd tell you "show up on time, and act like a grown up."
That's how I got promoted. Management went down the list and asked "who shows up, does their job, and doesn't cause drama?" That's all there was to it.
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
Sorry, but this one in naive because it presumes that every manager will behave the same way to the same employee behavior, and that's provably untrue. Sometimes, people just don't like you for whatever reason, and being on time won't change their mind.
Mary Kelly 2 years ago
yes, but even people who like you can be turned off by you not being on time...TLDR: Never hurts to be on time
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StrangeOne 2 years ago
Yeesh. I understand the importance of being punctual at your job, but the attitude this person conveys is really... yeesh. "Show up on time and act like a grown up"? Just for asking to change shifts? If a manager spoke to me in this way I would turn around and quit on the spot.
Katrina Nixon 2 years ago
I'm all about being on time but this person sounds way too serious about it.
Casey Payne 2 years ago
Aww. Aren't you precious. You go getter. "Adult". There is some truth in this, even if it's truth from a toxic environment. There is consistency in your daily habits that's noticeable, and judged. Make sure the good outweighs the bad. Be more than just predictable, be reliable. But don't dwell in toxic environments if you can help it. Any job that values your time-stamp instead of your accomplishments is not worth either of your time or your accomplishments.
What do you think ?
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
I'm 58. (1) You're an organic computer operating a meat puppet. Read the manual and follow the maintenance schedule. (2) Develop your own ethical code. Be vicious about applying it to yourself and avoid applying it to anyone else. (3) Self-awareness, self-worth, self-consciousness, self-care, and self-esteem all have one thing in common: you. No one else's opinion matters. Ever. (4) To thine own self be true. (5) Toxic people do not deserve a drop of your time, energy, or care. If they cared about you, they wouldn't be toxic to you. (6) Set your own goals in life, none of which should consist solely of "keeping up with" anyone else's accomplishments. (7) Speak out against injustice, even if you're not the one being treated unjustly. (8) Experiences are infinitely more precious than possessions. (9) Treat others the way you like to be treated.
Adam Zad 2 years ago
(9) No, treat others the way THEY want to be treated.
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PunchinelloTX 2 years ago
No matter how careful you are, no matter how fit, no matter how well you eat, how much you exercise or how much sleep you get, you can get sick—very sick, very quickly. Some illnesses are in our genes and are out of our control. What matters, should that happen, is your attitude, and strength of character.
Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 2 years ago
I'm 67. Life is a matter of balancing things out. Spend some money, save some money. Be careful to whom you open up. You can choose your friends but not your family, sometimes family are not friends. Travel. Eat and drink well but in moderation. Moderate exercise will help keep you healthy. Find a passion. Learn to play an instrument. Read. Love. When you lose someone close to you (which you will) it will change you, don't try to fight it but cherish the good memories you had with them. Treat others how you yourself would wish to be treated. Be honest to yourself and hold yourself accountable. Take the credit when it's due but own up and accept the blame when it's yours. Life is not easy, it will be full of detours. If you don't like the path you are on it's usually up to you to find another path. If you are wrong, do not be ashamed to admit it but learn from it. Nobody likes a liar. Trust is hard earned yet easy to lose. A man must know his limitations.
Two_rolling_black_eyes 2 years ago
You cannot control how anyone else will act or feel. You can only control how you will react or feel. Your boss cussed you out at work? Its already happened and it can't change. DECIDE what you want to do and feel about it happening. No one can make you feel some way. Ignoring their comments, feeling betrayed, and feeling angry are all valid responses but never let someone else choose the right one for you.
Anony Mouse 2 years ago
I only have one - this is for the ladies. Your eyebrows are fine. Leave them alone. Are there two? Then you're good. Stop messing with them - you will regret it.
Gina Foxley 2 years ago
Yes!!! My Mom gave me this advise years ago and I am so glad I listened to her.
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Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 2 years ago
I'm 29, but I don't think anyone mentioned this: Sit and stand up straight! Your teacher in class telling you to do the first thing is trying to keep you from having issues with your posture. Some people can start shrinking at 30.
Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago
I'm 64. My advisor is simple: Don't believe everything you think.
Rick 2 years ago (edited)
Everything I read here is worthwhile and important. One thing I did not see that I believe also helps in getting through life is to get in tune with the life around you. All life not just people. There is a a lot of positive and negative energies that can be influential on your state of being. Learn how to be in the moment and determine your next decision with the energy around you.
Rachel Ainsworth 2 years ago
Having enough money in a savings account gives you a way to deal with emergencies and freedom to act when needed. Fridge or car breaks down? Buy a new one. Bad things happening at work? Quit and then look for a new one. Sick of the 9-to-5? Go travelling for six months. Get sick? Pay for test/treatment instead of waiting on the public system (excludes USA).
Nikki Sevven 2 years ago
I'm 58. (1) You're an organic computer operating a meat puppet. Read the manual and follow the maintenance schedule. (2) Develop your own ethical code. Be vicious about applying it to yourself and avoid applying it to anyone else. (3) Self-awareness, self-worth, self-consciousness, self-care, and self-esteem all have one thing in common: you. No one else's opinion matters. Ever. (4) To thine own self be true. (5) Toxic people do not deserve a drop of your time, energy, or care. If they cared about you, they wouldn't be toxic to you. (6) Set your own goals in life, none of which should consist solely of "keeping up with" anyone else's accomplishments. (7) Speak out against injustice, even if you're not the one being treated unjustly. (8) Experiences are infinitely more precious than possessions. (9) Treat others the way you like to be treated.
Adam Zad 2 years ago
(9) No, treat others the way THEY want to be treated.
Load More Replies... PunchinelloTX 2 years ago
No matter how careful you are, no matter how fit, no matter how well you eat, how much you exercise or how much sleep you get, you can get sick—very sick, very quickly. Some illnesses are in our genes and are out of our control. What matters, should that happen, is your attitude, and strength of character.
Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 2 years ago
I'm 67. Life is a matter of balancing things out. Spend some money, save some money. Be careful to whom you open up. You can choose your friends but not your family, sometimes family are not friends. Travel. Eat and drink well but in moderation. Moderate exercise will help keep you healthy. Find a passion. Learn to play an instrument. Read. Love. When you lose someone close to you (which you will) it will change you, don't try to fight it but cherish the good memories you had with them. Treat others how you yourself would wish to be treated. Be honest to yourself and hold yourself accountable. Take the credit when it's due but own up and accept the blame when it's yours. Life is not easy, it will be full of detours. If you don't like the path you are on it's usually up to you to find another path. If you are wrong, do not be ashamed to admit it but learn from it. Nobody likes a liar. Trust is hard earned yet easy to lose. A man must know his limitations.
Two_rolling_black_eyes 2 years ago
You cannot control how anyone else will act or feel. You can only control how you will react or feel. Your boss cussed you out at work? Its already happened and it can't change. DECIDE what you want to do and feel about it happening. No one can make you feel some way. Ignoring their comments, feeling betrayed, and feeling angry are all valid responses but never let someone else choose the right one for you.
Anony Mouse 2 years ago
I only have one - this is for the ladies. Your eyebrows are fine. Leave them alone. Are there two? Then you're good. Stop messing with them - you will regret it.
Gina Foxley 2 years ago
Yes!!! My Mom gave me this advise years ago and I am so glad I listened to her.
Load More Replies... Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 2 years ago
I'm 29, but I don't think anyone mentioned this: Sit and stand up straight! Your teacher in class telling you to do the first thing is trying to keep you from having issues with your posture. Some people can start shrinking at 30.
Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago
I'm 64. My advisor is simple: Don't believe everything you think.
Rick 2 years ago (edited)
Everything I read here is worthwhile and important. One thing I did not see that I believe also helps in getting through life is to get in tune with the life around you. All life not just people. There is a a lot of positive and negative energies that can be influential on your state of being. Learn how to be in the moment and determine your next decision with the energy around you.
Rachel Ainsworth 2 years ago
Having enough money in a savings account gives you a way to deal with emergencies and freedom to act when needed. Fridge or car breaks down? Buy a new one. Bad things happening at work? Quit and then look for a new one. Sick of the 9-to-5? Go travelling for six months. Get sick? Pay for test/treatment instead of waiting on the public system (excludes USA).
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