50 People Reveal The Harsh Truths That Were The Adult Version Of Being Told Santa Isn’t Real
Life is full of disappointments, both large and small. That doesn’t mean that life itself is all misery—quite the opposite. But it’s important to recognize that pain, failure, and dashed expectations are unavoidable parts of being a human being. Learning how to deal with them becomes a necessity.
Reddit user u/Just_Surround_2108 recently went viral after urging the r/AskReddit community to share the biggest things they were disappointed by when they grew up. Similar to how a child might feel when they learn that Santa Claus is not real. You’ll find their honest opinions, touching on everything from work to relationships and beyond, as you scroll down.
Oh, and just for the record—we fully believe that Santa is real. Anyone who tells you otherwise is probably working for the Grinch.

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Being a hard worker and good at your job doesn't necessarily mean that you'll be rewarded for it.
When I was very religious I got a job at my church. I got paid for a few hours but mostly volunteered to please god. For 10 years I busted a gut running a soup kitchen. For nothing. I had no money set aside for retirement and no formal qualifications, and no savings. I’m glad I gave up religion
I'm wondering what this person is doing with a pen and notepad out with LightRoom open on her computer. In all of my time working as a photographer, I've never had a notepad as part of my work flow 🤔
Being a crappy worker & doing a good thing every once & awhile gets you rewarded. Working hard all of time just gets you more work & if you have one bad day, it ruins your career.
I am learning the hard way that "getting your foot in the door" is almost like walking into a non-promotional prison cell.
Finding out that in the US it’s not really democrat vs republican, it’s the rich elites versus the rest of us.
Republicans are the foot soldiers of the rich elite. Until they themselves learn that the enemy is the rich elite and not minorities, they will act against the best interests of the 99%.
I think the point is that both parties are the rich elite, and the voters are the 'us'.
Load More Replies...Why can't the US have a perfect political system like they have in North Korea, China or Russia?
This is just so obvious. Dismantle the 2-party system. Also say this with me. TERM LIMITS!!!!!!!!!!
Everywhere in the world conditional funding of political parties is called corruption. Except for the USA.
Ah, but didn't you hear? Recently some politicians denounced "dark money" in politics. And did nothing about it. "Hey, we think this is wrong! Are we trying to pass legislation to prevent it? Ehh...ummm...look over there!"
Load More Replies...We are a capitalist country, not a democracy. Business interests rule.
And unfortunately too many of the rest of us seem to think they are the elite and vote against their own interests.
Not just in America But around the Entire World!! Now Greed is Running the Ship!!
If you are rich, Republican. If you are poor, Democrat. If you are stupid and poor, Republican. Basically, if you have money, you side with other people with money to bribe and cheat the government and the poor so that you keep as much of your wealth to yourself. I literally got into a big argument with my own mother over this. She thinks that Republicans care about her poor self and family. If you aren't rich, Republicans see you as a peasant. Even if you are rich, the richer Republicans will see you as a peasant.
Republicans and MAGA scream about low wages but vilify Unions. They scream about high prices but it's the Republican owned corporations that are making record breaking profits and refuse to lower the prices to punish Americans for voting Democrat. The worse lie Republicans tell, is that Democrats hate White people. When the Democratic Party is 60% White. Christian Extremists have consumed the Republican Party. Unless Americans want to witness an American Inquisition they will stand up to the Christian Taliban.
If you're intelligent, you have to be quiet because of people who are stupid.
That's the precise reason that stupidity is running rampant right now. Those who know better sit idly by and allow ignorance and idiocy to be perpetuated.
I'm curious because I agree somewhat with your first sentence. Establishing a fact is easy but what, per your second sentence, do you think can be done to remedy the "my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge" brigade without abridging freedoms?
Load More Replies...You can't reason someone out of an idea they didn't get reasoned into.
Yeah, f*ck that. Your stupidity is a you problem. I will not dumb myself down to appease your delicate little ego. Sucks to be you.
Once had someone ask me what the concrete buildings were on top of the hill. I said they were water tanks. I got told that this was b******t and I didn't know what I was talking about. I'd been inside them for maintenance of the control systems....🙄
“The fundamental cause of the trouble is that in the modern world the stupid are cocksure while the intelligent are full of doubt.” - Bertrand Russell
The issues is that the stupid are stubborn in their incorrect beliefs and feel like any movement to changes their ideas is to validate their stupidity and therefore won’t change their ideas in spite of mountains of evidence to the contrary. Unfortunately it’s not worth my mental health to try and educate the masses that do not want to learn.
Speaking up is for the bystanders, not for the idiot you happen to address.
The expectations that we have for life can massively affect us. For instance, someone who’s naive and happy-go-lucky might think that everything will fall into place and things will just work out somehow. When they fail at something or realize that the world doesn’t work the way they imagined it should, they might have their entire perspective shattered. They’ll have trouble coming to terms with this new reality and might feel frustrated at themselves for having been so wrong.
On the flip side, someone who’s overly pessimistic or cynical might lose out on genuinely good opportunities because they don’t think much of anything is worth the effort. For them, a lack of justice and fairness is the status quo. But this makes them blind to the positive aspects of life, as well as the ability to fight for change that matters, whether at work or in society as a whole.
Sometimes there is no justice.
It's called a "legal system" and not a "justice system" for a reason. He who has the best lawyers wins.
You don't even need the best lawyers. Sometimes you can just drag it out until the other side runs out of money to pay theirs.
Load More Replies...The law doesn't always provide justice and justice isn't always legal
I heard Oprah say how she quit being a Christian when she read that God said, "Vengeance is mine." What that verse really means is that humans should never seek vengeance; claiming vengeance is dishonoring God. Because to the extent that justice means vengeance, no-one can ever find justice in this world. One's quest for vengeance will only uncover more that needs to be avenged, including one's own vengeful deeds. Instead, we have to trust that God will bring justice, including punishing the wicked. (So many people think punishing the wicked seems un-Christlike, even though Jesus promised the wicked would be punished so many, many, many times. I think the real reason it seems so ungodly is that human vengeance always begets more hatred. Divine vengeance brings remorse to anyone who isn't pure evil. And that remorse brings mercy.)
That some friends were never really your friend.
David Niven said of Errol Flynn "As a friend, Errol was absolutely reliable. He would always let you down."
Load More Replies...I've had friends like that. Friend: "Can you help me?" Me: helped. Same Friend: "Can you help me?" Me: helped. Same Friend yet again: "Can you help me?" Me: sorry, no. I need help this time. Never heard from them again. Lovely people. Or another friend - "I need $200 to get away from my abusive husband". Given. a year later, that friend still with her husband, I asked for a LOAN because I needed to feed my kids. Ghosted. p***k all people like that. Seriously.
Everybody wants to be your friend when they need help, but god forbid YOU ever need help or are having a rough time.
Also when you’ve outgrown your friends, through no fault of anyone but you slowly drift apart. Nothing wrong with that but still sad some times. Sometimes people are only there for certain chapters of your life but aren’t in the whole book
When both your parents die. I am in my mid 50’s and had my mom pass on Mother’s Day ‘22. My Dad then was living with us from then, and eventually reached in-home hospice status with a sudden stage IV cancer diagnosis. He died in January of this year, and then I got laid off from my tech job and was unemployed for 10 months. Nothing takes the wonderment and positive outlook from the world than having to empty out your childhood home solo and throw everything you grew up with into a big dumpster and are left to wonder what our lives really mean.
I can confirm. My husband is an only child and lost his mom on 07/03/19 and his dad on 09/04/19... it was very hard clearing out their home and it wasn't even the home my husband grew up in. We still have quite a bit in a storage locker because my husband just didn't know what to do with it and didn't have the heart to throw it away.
Load More Replies...***gentle hugs for everyone here who has gone through this***
The loss of my Dad hit me hard, and even now, 4 years later, I still can't believe he's really gone - still waiting to hear from him again by some confounded miracle. Mom's still here, but I'm terrified of losing her; I have no friends, am very much a loner, and my relationship with my brother is strained, so not sure we could count on each other. I dread the day when we will have to sort out her belongings after she's gone...
I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. I lost my dad out of the blue in 2014 just after I turned 40. I developed fibromyalgia and had to move in with my mother during the tail end of the second or third major wave of the pandemic and have lost a lot of mobility and ability to do a lot of day to day things on my own. I'm so afraid of what's going to happen when my mom dies, not because she's my right hand and cares for me, but because she's the best person I know. She's a walking encyclopedia, still knows how to read a folding map, understands why drying clothes on a clothesline outdoors is important, is an amazing quilter, and is a whole host of other amazing things that make me love her. I had to empty my father's house... which was my house at the time, too, when I moved. I was 47, and I felt completely lost. I had to throw out the bulk of what was in the house, and somewhere I went from feeling my heart ripped out to numb, then back to lost & ripped open. I'm sorry you're hurting, OP.
My heart goes out to you all I have had exactly the same scenario. We are all the same when suffering comes into our lives. Sending love to you all.
I lost both my parents before the age of 30. Even though I have lots of other family that love and support me, it really leaves you feeling untethered knowing you don't have your parents to fall back on for help or advice.
In the same vein: the day you realize your parents are at an age you distinctly remember your little old grandparents being. My parents are 81 and 79 and every day I wonder if I’ll get The Call from one of them…
I feel that way for my grandparents, it's terrifying. They are 69 and 75 now
Load More Replies...So, managing your expectations becomes key to managing your disappointments. You don’t want to hype yourself up, nor do you want to dismiss any positivity either. Through experience, we gain wisdom and slowly start to get a better grasp of how everything works. The main point here is that we accept this reality, instead of wishing that things were a drastically different way.
It’s one thing to strive for positive change on a local or even global level. It’s another thing entirely to wish for things to be different without taking any action. In the former case, you’re doing what you can to improve your situation and that of others. It might be hard. You might have to adapt your approach and deal with unexpected roadblocks, but you are putting in the effort to create something better.
In the latter case, however, you might feel frustrated and disempowered because there is such a huge gap between reality and your idealized vision of what the world should be like. ‘Perfect’ social justice or completely fair workplaces might not be possible… but things can be better and fairer. The key here is to change what you can, even if the end result won’t be as good as you’d like it to be.
Finding out the truth about Mother Teresa
A short version, there's much more, but Mother Teresa allowed her patients to suffer pain and discomfort so they would be "closer to God" and also denied a lot of medical treatment. She herself would fly to California (IIRC) for treatment from world class doctors if she was unwell.
Well, they'll be close to god alright. I think I learned that from ERB.
Load More Replies...When she died I thought it was sad that Princess Diana's death eclipsed hers until I learned the truth about this "saintly" woman.
If this is how Catholics choose "Saints", I'm even more offended by Catholics...
Im offended by every religion except for pastafarians.
Load More Replies...A nun at my Catholic high school went to India to work with her. This woman was the epitome of a wonderful, genuinely spiritual, kind and loving sister. We didn’t see this coming. In World Religions class we were told that after she came back from India she left the convent. Last sister we ever dreamed would resign. We were all shocked and sad that this had happened. For years I wondered why? Then I found out the truth of this woman. I guess she was capable of destroying even the strongest of faith.
This doesn't pull any punches from the late Christopher Hitchens. https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2003/10/the-fanatic-fraudulent-mother-teresa.html
And some people refuse to accept that she was that horrible of a person. All the documentation, all the evidence, and "you have the right to your wrong opinion about her."
I have a branch of relatives who are hardcore catholics and I assure you they would never, ever admit anything wrong with The Church no matter what evidence they are faced with. No point wasting time with these people. Also in their eyes nobody has a “right to their wrong opinions” either. They will fight you to defend their one and only “correct” truth till their last breath. If these kind of people at the very least learned to “agree to disagree” the world would be much better place.
Load More Replies...Anytime Mother Teresa's name comes up on the internet you'll find many people still haven't discovered the truth about her.
I’m lucky, that bandaid got ripped off when I was at a cynical age and didn’t admire anyone. Sully Sullenberger and Richard DeCrespigny better not have any skeletons in their closets, though.
Yeah. That one hurt. I was raised Catholic, so saints were a big deal. When I learned she totally didn't deserve to be canonized I was crushed.
HR is NOT on your side.
Human resources, like natural resources, are there to be exploited in corporate processes and the waste products disposed of as cheaply as possible.
That's true. As a manager I can tell you that HR is often not on my side or the employees'. HR has its own agenda. We were a lot better off when it was the Personnel Department.
Load More Replies...If you sit at a table for a disciplinary meeting it will be management and HR on one side and you and your union on the other.
HR is there to protect the company from legal liability and from financial loss in the personal arena. If siding with the worker accomplishes that goal then that's what they'll recommend the company do. If siding with the company accomplishes that goal, then that's what they'll recommend.
Human Resources is neither human nor resourceful - discuss. An old SNL skit
Nope. Their sole purpose is to cover the company's a*s against lawsuits. Period.
The money doesn't trickle down. It never did
That includes all Governments who Know How to Steal & never increase or Give out Pensions without Bitching even though They Have Never Paid into a Pension Fund Themselves Having NEVER WORKED in their Lives!! We RAID INTO OUR PENSION FOR 45 YEARS & trudumb Calls it WELFARE as he STEALS the GOLDEN PARACHUTE for F******g Over CANADA!!
Load More Replies...The rich have been trickling on the middle and lower class for decades. Only now it's starting to become more of a stream.
They finally got good treatment for their protstata, so now it flows freely.
Load More Replies...Blame the "Chamber of Commerce" in the USA for this failure of US society. In many other countries, such as Australia and Japan it does.
That's because the system is built on the social concept that the highest paid person in the company can only make a certain percentage more than the lowest paid employee. If the "Top Dog" wants a raise, he has to give everyone a raise. THAT is how a successful trickle down economy is done. Here, in the United States, there is no trickle down there is only, "Oh - More For Me & None For you".
Load More Replies...There was another post on this issue of BP, it said "Reagan is in hell, waiting for heaven to trickle down." I thought it was very appropriate.
Money trickles down, but not as much as they tell you. If I get money for free to help others, I probably keep most of it. And the next layer does the same. In a normal pyramid the top is small and the base is wide. Even if there are only 6 layers of supervising, the base gets less than 1%.
Beg to differ - rich people own companies and businessas and those provide jobs!!!! If you ca't see that, then you are blind and stupid.
It trickles down, but only about as much as a microscopic hole in the bottom of a swimming pool trickles down water into the water table. If you want money to flow, you have to do some hole opening and sometimes that means force.
‘Psych Central’ suggests that people learn to let go of the negative emotions they feel after their expectations aren’t met. “Letting go doesn’t mean that you should ignore your emotions. Instead, it means you should acknowledge your feelings and let go as you work to overcome what happened.”
It also helps to shift your perspective and look at the bigger picture. You might have been thoroughly disappointed by something that’s happened to you, but there are plenty of other things to be grateful for. Things might be tough at work, but you might still be able to afford a roof over your head, be incredibly healthy, or have a very strong and supportive social circle. Bearing the worst that life throws at you becomes bearable when you take the time to appreciate all the good things that have happened to you.
Finding out that someone you have looked up to and admired your entire life is actually a horrible person.
I don't mind the odd affair here and there that you find out about later. These days it seems as if that's all that they did, what the heck (I know this devastates the partner involved, but at least they have limited their damage). What upsets me is when you find out they were actually a fascist (i.e., Henry Ford) or stole or diverted lost of money to themselves (many politicians) or used their money to screw their employees (the owners of most large businesses and corporations) or turned out to be people who lived entirely differently than they appeared to the public (Mother Teresa, Gandhi, etc.). I think that I am as mad at myself for not having done the research to find out the person I previously admired was such a bad person.
Also pedofiles, rape, sexually assault, hatefullness etc?
Load More Replies...My big brother…. Errr, according to him, former brother. I made the mistake of watching my nephew's dogs while he lived with his mother, my brother's ex-wife. He called and texted thousands of times telling me he hates me, that I deserve to die, etc, and then told my family was doing it to him. All while our mom was dying of cancer. She read the texts and listened to his voicemails. She knew the truth.
I've discovered everybody, including myself, is a horrible person in one way or another.
Start admiring good deeds and stop admiring people. Cults of personality happen due to hero worship.
Yeah. I feel bad for liking Harry Potter now.
Load More Replies...The horrible one that came to mind recently was Rolf Harris. A part of my and my husband's childhood, and we used to play his songs in the car, so a part of our children's as well. It was absolutely no surprise to anyone that creepy Jimmy Saville was nasty sexual predator, but Rolf Harris was quite a shock, at least to us.
You never actually feel like the adult
I am so glad to hear that others feel this way too! I thought it was just me.
Load More Replies...Absolutely. And my mom is confused too that I was twenty a long long time ago. We still feel nothing had changed its that much since then. That be said, I am thankful that she rocks get daily tasks still with more power I will ever have. I fear the day she can't do all the stuff she is doing now... I don't know how she is doing that without bending the time and just being a strongwoman
Most adults are just kids with extra responsibility tacked on. Kids just think they're something special because they boss them around.
At 28, mother of a 10 hr old son and married 6 yrs I can say that is when I 'realized' I finally felt like an adult, a grown woman. Nice feeling.
Right? I'm 60 years old and honestly feel like I'm smarter than my 80 year old Mother - not because of technology (although I am the one she calls with problems. My brother has a degree in computer science, but he really talks down to her. DUDE? She taught you how to use a spoon 'k?). Anyway, maybe she's just gotten forgetful & I haven't noticed along the way. As my sister put it - Mom's "Wheel of Fortune" smart, but I'm "Jeopardy!" smart. But I STILL feel like I'm in 8th grade.
Bullies don't always get their comeuppance. In fact, sometimes they achieve great things. Even the presidency.
A lot of them go into law enforcement. The worst ones go into the military then law enforcement.
I don't see it that way. From what I can tell, the ex-military LEOs are there because the military never taught them any skill except carrying a gun for the governent. The rest of the LEOs are there because they were bullied as children and want payback on the world.
Load More Replies...So sad that this is true and that he is trying to do it again... with so many other bullies supporting him.
At the end of the day the one thing you are in control of and responsible for is how **you** behave. How others behave towards you is outside of your control, how you respond to it is what shows the kind of person you really are.
Yes, even gay mustlim non -americans can get to be president!! EVEN with a trannny for a wife. Will wonders never cease!!! OH, maybe - a brain dead on in office now.
That's why I kicked the a*s of my bullies when I was in school. I paid them back a little karma, instilled them with fear of my very existence, and made them second-guess trying that s**t on someone else.
This basically the same as finding out that justice doesn't always happen, right doesn't always win, and karma is wishful thinking. In fact, one might say that one of the main benefits of religion is that because people see no justice in this world, they are hoping that there isn't where justice will be found. Maybe just some more wishful thinking?
Finding out that "reaching retirement" is about hitting a financial number and not reaching an age.
Finding out that retirement is something I'll never come anywhere close to reaching.
This!! I want to upvote this a million times. It's so true.
Load More Replies...My 'retirement plan' is to work until I drop dead since I can't afford to be without the health insurance. US citizen here, knowing I am one serious illness away from losing everything I have worked my entire life for.
Id like to put "finding out that 22 yrs of active duty service retirement pay is 2,500 a month so you have to work another job for another 20 yrs"
Actually age has a lot to do with it. In the UK you can't access your private pension until you reach 55 (possibly soon to become 57), and you don't get the state pension until about 67 (depending upon when you were born). For those without decent private or company pensions, it means you will have to work until 67, and even then, the state pension alone is not enough to live on.
The mistake in the OP is that they forget that "age" also factors into the "financial number". The way most people are hitting that "financial number" is by getting to the age where they can get access to their retirement money in one form or another.
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Learning that two people can love each other more than anything in this world and still not be a good fit for a long term relationship.
True and pure Love isn’t always enough
Unfortunately, I'm living this reality at this very moment. Holy c**p it's hard.
Me too. Being married and lonely, is worse than being single am lonely
Load More Replies...An ex-girlfriend and I were like this. We adored each other, couldn’t get enough of each other. But after a year and half of having absolutely nothing in common, and I mean nothing, we couldn’t sustain it. We broke up something like three times because we couldn’t stay away from each other, but eventually we moved on. If our interests and values had intersected even a little I would have married her.
What is true and pure love anyway? Does it even exist or is it another lie that Disney told everyone.
That's me and the love of my life, we have done alot of talking, never married maybe thankfully knew it wasnt quite enough...still very good friends thankfully, I'd do anything for him, and he for me ..😅but if any other women looked his way, my green eyed monster came to visit...we are in our 50s now, so that has calmed down
When you buy an 8-piece tupperware set, 4 of the pieces are lids.
I did this last month. My own fault. I was buying a lot of them because we have little mousies invading our house as winter sets in (we live in the middle of an agricultural area in southwest France and are surrounded by corn, grape, wheat, and sunflower fields during growing time), so I grabbed several stacks of Tupperware without checking. I got the opposite - one set was all bottoms and no lids. However, the upside is that all the mice voted me "Queen of the Harvest" after that and threw a little party for me. 🐁 🥳 🐁 🎉🐁 (Edited for misspelling)
The mice here in western usa hace been kniwn for chewing through plastic. I was looking for metal tins (thibg of the oast ) and had to buy glass. I hate when i see 10 oiece cookware set and 5 pieces are spatulas ans spoons. A spatula is not cookware.
Load More Replies...Just found this out with my 24 piece set. Glad I didn't go with the 12 lol.
*When you buy an 8-piece set, somehow 23 of the pieces are lids.
That time period when your relationship switches and your parent looks to you for answers and advice, instead them being the one with all the answers.
I don't mind this; my Mom has done so much for me, I'm always happy when I can help her in return, even if it's a little thing like showing her how to use an app. And I bet if Dad were still around, it'd be the same.
I lost my Dad in 2014. Anything I can do for my Mom, I will. I know it's basically count down time.
Load More Replies...It's definitely not that anyone minds giving parents advice and looking after them . It's seeing them deteriorating with age and /or disease and the fact they feel so unsure / confused of themselves. Definitely a privilege too.. .
I can confidently say that, after having my mother AND mother-in-law live with us, I cannot recommend it. Raising parents is hard.
Oh I feel this. Down to my soul I feel this. In fact, I’m pretty sure that half the reason I decided to have a kid earlier this year was because what nuisance can an infant diapers and tantrums be compared to adult ones? I’m already cleaning up human shït on the regular, so I might as well add some cute onesies to my laundry load. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Load More Replies...My husband is an only child and we went through a period where we had to be "parents" to his parents at the end of their lives when his dad had dementia and his mom was in a nursing facility as well for several health issues, this was while we were also parenting our own child. Parenting on both ends was the hardest and most stressful time we ever went through in the 30 years we have been married.
Never really happened with me. I was in my 50's when they passed in their early 80's.
Or, when their answers start not applying to your life situation either because they're in a different mindset due to age, or because the world has changed. And then you realize... the younger generations are mostly still too young, the older generations are already set in their ways and looking back at a different version of the world, it comes down to you, YOU are the adult now.
Realizing organized religion is a bunch of nonsense
Oh but you can give your money to the church and go to heaven! And you can be a terrible person and do terrible things but you will be forgiven and go to heaven because you "believe." How the hell did this nonsense get traction and why aren't we allowed to laugh at it?
I don't know about you, but I've been laughing out loud at religion most of my life.
Load More Replies...I wish organized religion was as harmless as a bunch of nonsense. But God knows it isn't.
I don't know, I realized this when I was 8 or 9. Once you realize Santa isn't real all of the other nonsensical mythical figures should fall into place.
Just after Columbus many European countries sailed the seas and concurred as many colonies as possible. The ships wrote down which islands and countries they visited and which religions they found. In the ship logs there isn´t a inhabitant place without a form of religion. Conclusions following Darwins theories: "Religion is good for mankind" and "The gods didn´t create the people, but the people created their gods".
You can't hold a bunch of imperfect people up to a perfect standard and expect not to be let down.
It is Also Held in Buildings Built by MAN Not GOD!! Same with the BIBLE Written by MEN not GOD!!! God is Everwhere except where the Corrupt Claim him to be!!
Organized religion has *nothing* to do with faith or belief. It is *all* about power and control.
One dumb mistake and it could all be over.
That's what my wife tells me when it's my turn to put the kids to bed.
We're putting my brother to rest tomorrow... it wasn't even his dumb mistake. It was a complication during a very routine surgery.
Yep! Someone's dumb mistake to miss a stop sign and t bone us has set us back years! We both had jobs cars and a plan for babies and work! One day took it away the car the plan for work and luckily still got the babies but not as financially secure as we were before that happened!
In traffic, always make sure you have a safe car. Had I taken me and my wifes almost new Volvo that day in 2000, I would not live woth chronic pain today. Instead I took my old dads beat up Nissan. I didn't want dad to sit in our shiny Volvo with his dirty coverall. I had a front to front crash...
doesn't even have to be your mistake. 4000 people die a day in car accidents.
For real. One unlucky split-second decision on the highway, one time I don't look before I start running to catch the bus, and it could all end right there, inna second. It terrifies me from time to time. Maybe that's because I'm past 30 now. Also I look back some of the things I did when I was a teenager/early twenties and a shiver runs down my back. One example: We were drunk, this girl climbed on the cables of a bridge over a river, she kinda dared me to climb after her. She was pretty. We made out. The cables were wide and easily climbable, they were holding a huge a*s bridge, five people could easily sit on them in the middle section. But man. That was not smart.
I've driven 2 million miles and the only thing I've ever hit are a few poles in a parking lot when I was a rookie. I have an advantage, driving a truck is like driving down the road setting on top of an SUV. I can see everything. The best advice for someone driving a car, keep your eyes on the road, leave space between you and the car ahead of you, always look for an escape route, take evasive action don't just brace for impact. Don't pass trucks on the right, the passenger side of a truck is a blind spot. if you find yourself riding beside a truck hit the gas and MOVE. If you are on an American Interstate, watch the entrance and exit ramps. If a vehicle is on the ramp and a truck is passing that ramp, get out of the trucks way so they can change lanes to let traffic enter the roadway. Don't ride beside Trucks, don't ride beside trucks. You can go faster than that truck. Move. A truck traveling 60 mph needs the length of of an American football field to come to stop.
Memo to self: Only commit smart mistakes. Nobel Prize winning mistakes, if possible.
The average salary does not go up equivalent to the inflation rate.
It's been that way since Saint Ronnie Reagan in the US. Except for the C-suite, which went from 40 times the lowest wage to 400 times the lowest wage, partly thanks to government sanctioned union busting.
It's trickle up economics, not trickle down. A fun story, Reagan once helped my Dad win money by betting on horses. My Dad bet on a horse named "The Great Comunicator", which was a nickname for Reagan. My Dad said that he always thought Reagan was a horse's a$$ and the horse ended up winning.
Load More Replies...Neither does the average CEO salary. It goes up much more (contributing to the general inflation).
And it won't as long as you keep voting in those stupid lib/tard/commie dems.
Right? I remember when raises were equal to the cost of living. I got almost 8% one year (late 90s or so).
Minimum wage in the 1950s was about the same as $12 an hour today in the USA. The current minimum wage is $7.25 an hour. There are still a lot of companies who think paying $12 an hour is "too much". A LIVING wage, however, varies but is about $25 an hour now. This means you're going to have to make $25 an hour and work 40 hours a week to be able to afford reasonable things like buying a home, buying a car, being able to buy healthy food, raising a family, and doing more than just working, eating, and sleeping. The $15 an hour fight has taken so long that now we need $25.
That the world doesn't stop when someone you love and need dies.
The hardest point of my life so far was when i was 8. My dad died, and my mom couldent take care of me and my little brother for a few months. I stayed with my grandparents, and my little brother stayed with my other grandparents. I started going to a new school, with everyone speacking in a language i knew only a little. It was super hard to deal with greif. And for everyone else, life goes on. No one knows what youre going through.
Doesn't matter how long, sometimes it hurts forever.
Load More Replies...My brother passed away October 9, 2023 and I am still feeling this in a big way. I lost may dad ten years ago on October 10, 2013 and I was only just starting to feel "normal" again when this happened. When I see people laughing and happy and carrying on like normal, I feel like yelling at them that it is not right...
I am so sorry for your losses. I hope your heart begins to start to heal again in time, although I understand there will always be a void. Sending hugs.
Load More Replies...Like in that beautiful song by Skeeter Davis, "The End of the World *sniff*
Finding out people without empathy exist. And they are hard to pin down - even after many years of exposure to them.
Sadly enough, this doesn't mean they are devoid of charm and therefore can do a LOT of damage.
Hey - I am one of these people. There's always a negative stigma around us. Majority of us aren't monsters, serial killers, or manipulators. I'm just living my life like the rest of you are, I shouldn't be condemned for something I can't change.
Agreed. Due to severe childhood abuse I am as an adult unable to emphasize. I'm a normal person just out here living my very boring life.
Load More Replies...If you want to find out if someone is without empathy, ask them their political and religious views.
Again, not true. You can't tell the level of empathy from just those things. NOT ALL PEOPLE FEEL EMPATHY. I am one of these people. A huge majority of us aren't bad people. Stop perpetuating this stereotype, because it just makes people hate us more.
Load More Replies...yep especially those who are intelligent enough to convincingly faking it can be hard to spot, and hence they can do a lot of damage in the meantime.
I'd toss in that actions done or statements made with an empathetic goal can be misinterpreted, even accidentally, and ultimately achieve the opposite effect: that harm was the intent.
People tend to be fooled by those who cry, weep, & even find Jesus despite being stone cold psychopaths. They are that manipulative & charming. Many go very far in life too. I can think of two presidents we have had in recent times. One blatant & one handsome & eloquent.
When I was a kid I thought adults had everything figured out and couldn’t wait to grow up so I could be like them. HAH.
Adulting is paying the electric bill and being tired all the time.
It's the secret. Everyone is just making it up as they go. Even our world leaders. They can try to use the past as a guideline but history is full of lies and the people in the past may have covered up problems.
When I was old enough I realized that the only thing the adults had "figured out" was how to bull$hit everyone else that they had everything figured out.
The saddest thing for me was the day I realized my parents don't know what they are talking about. The older I get the more ignorant I realize my mother is. She has zero concept of math, does not understand anything at all about finance or APR or FICO or anything. She keeps claiming bankruptcy over and over again. I could go on but the realization was a shock and it is like a never ending discovery of "are you living under a rock?"
Look at that pilot I bet he doesn't sleep when he's flying his plane or nothing. How wrong we were.
When I was a kid I thought adults knew nothing and couldn’t wait to escape their control.
Recycling is, for the most part, a scam by corporations to move the physical and emotional weight of dealing with the harm their packaging causes off them and on to you.
No it's not. Is it what the corporations are trying to do, yes. But still every little act matters. It also depends a lot of the country's recycling infrasturucture. If recycling is made easier, much more people do it. And if bigger amount of people recycle, there are better ways to develop the whole industry. We have every kind of recycling bins in every single apartment complex in the cities, and close in other parts too, so it's just a everyday normal thing to recycle for us. It should be made as easy everywhere.
look into it.almost 95% of what is "recycled" is packaged up and shipped off for other countries to burn
Load More Replies...No. In Scandinavia recycling actually means recycling. In the private household we're currently sorting our waste in 6-9 categories depending on local rules. In industry we're at my company currently sorting in 17 categories.that are being for the most part sold.
What I don’t understand, and yes I do but I’m trying to make a point, is why if only certain plastics are allowed to be recycled then why in the heck are the ones that can’t be recycled allowed in shops in the first place. Change the packaging!
In the US, it frequently winds up in the same landfill as the trash 🤣
It can work, but only with a few selected items and expercting the population at large to do it right is STUPID. Only large office buildings/corportaions can do it right because they can HIRE someone to make sure it's don't right - only paper here, plastic there, etec. When someone's job is on the line, it can be done right. But 'people' in general are stupid and lazy - makes for a very messy recycle bin and way to expensive to get that stuff sorted and sent to the right plants.
Working full time and being too drained to chase your actual dream
My dream kept getting downsized until it became more a figment of my imagination.
Make your dream your work. It's another level of nightmare but still more fulfilling
This is why I made my dream happen before I got too entrenched in work. Only to realize later that the books I wrote were not that good. Oh well.
Don't worry, you get to the point that the dream has faded and your soul has been crushed and you are just going through the motions because what else is there to do? I actually told someone once about how it would be more fulfilling to smoke crack under a bridge than work for them.
Thats the plan, keep the people busy and exhausted so they cant do anything else
Churches are businesses that collect tax free money and provide very few actual services with it.
All money a church receives is 100% voluntary. I wonder what services the OP would want the church to provide? Many provide food pantries for their local neighborhood, divorce care, addiction programs, counseling, grief counseling, to name some. On top of this, many churches also provide funds for some type of humanitarian efforts locally and/or abroad. This is apart from providing an environment for the members to gather and practice their faith together, something most find meaningful if they're participating in it. This post inflames more than it informs.
I was really saddened when Notre Dame Cathedral burnt. BUT - the Catholic Church had the gall to start a "Go Fund ME" campaign? You bastards have more money than any other institution on the planet. WTF???
Most churches have a somewhat hidden piece of paper or series of papers that you can request to see showing what they spend money on. One local church paid their pastor $45,000 a year about a decade ago and they literally only had to work three days a week.
Many charities are like this too.. From BLM to Wounded Warriors have been found to use donations on themselves.
Anyone who wants to try to create a peaceful world should run screaming from the religions of Abraham. Any religion that gives you a divine right to kill is a failed religion.
Discovering that you can pay 1700.00/mth rent, but can’t get a 1500/month mortgage
It's not just a $1500 a month mortgage though. It's property taxes, and insurance, and all the other higher taxes that go along with owning a home. If your roof needs to be replaced, or your pipes burst, you don't get to call the landlord and say "fix it" you've got have the thousands or 10's of thousands on hand to do the repair yourself.
Or good credit to get a loan or have a credit card with a high limit.
Load More Replies...Ha! We moved to Springfield, Oregon in March of 2022 and it was actually cheaper for us to BUY a condo than rent one. A dumpy 2 bed/2 bath apartment was $2400
Banks will literally deny you a $800 a month mortgage even if you have been paying $1500 a month in rent for literally years.
Another person who does not understand "mortgage". The bank wants to know that you will be able to keep on paying $1,500 a month for the next 30 years. The landlord just cares that you have $1,700 a month for the next few months. Those are two very different financial situations.
I will give grudging props to my country’s banks for that one, and if you look at the interest rates, you’ll understand why. I’m not letting them off the hook for their complicity in WHY the economy is the way it is, but I will acknowledge the fact that at least they didn’t sign me up for a mortgage that I would have ended up being foreclosed on when the interest rates skyrocketed.
The b******t of health insurance
People go to the morgue there because of the extortionate pricing of healthcare
Load More Replies...Never paid a cent for hospital stays or medication. And my doctor is $19.50 a visit with free prescriptions. Americas a joke
…and the people that vote for the people who are getting financial support from the “healthcare industry” are the very ones who are most vulnerable to the abomination that is US healthcare. And btw for those non US people reading this, our politicians get free healthcare… for life. The people that won’t let the rest of us have it, have it. For life.
The b******t of health insurance - in the United States. Other advanced civilized countries don't have that problem.
My friend (from New Orleans) showed me his old policy. Then I showed him that I have better cover for my dog here in the UK.
For-profit healthcare is a cruel abomination. The U.S. Constitution guarantees the right to "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness," but without the first nothing else matters. For-profit healthcare companies should be outlawed.
U.S. Constitution does not guarantee anything of the sort.
Load More Replies...USA sucks!! Just lost my health insurance and have no way of getting my seizures meds. Tried to get some/any help available alls I've gotten is, "sorry we can't help you." Even the "discount cards" are a whole lot of horse shet.
I hope you're not on Aptiom. That sht is thousands of dollars a month.
Load More Replies...I've been dealing with cancer for 15 years. Every year, my health insurance out-of-pocket expense is $7,500.00. That's $112,500.00 that I don't have. I still have life insurance, and sometimes feel that my spouse would be better off if I died.
I'm so sorry, Bruce. It's appalling that our government allows this to happen to so many people.
Load More Replies...I have been ashamed to be an american for a very long time now. The joke of our "health-care " system is only a grain of sand of disgust I feel for this not do great nation. America is garbage. Out forefathers should be so proud!
$500 isn't a lot of money
it's not a lot of money when you own it, but it IS a lot of money when you owe it.
An older bp post said it best. $1000 is a lot of money to owe but not a lot of money to have.
Depents on, if you get $500 (USD) per hour for a good work. Or this is what you make in a month. Or...
Maybe to you. Go be homeless for a large stretch and see if you don't have a better outlook about money in general.
I was homeless for over 5 years and I respectfully disagree.... While I still appreciate it $500 doesn't go far.... But it does take care of my weekly needs 😁 but praise God I haven't got rent (homeowner now) or my lil household would tank
Load More Replies...It is if it's a sudden unforeseen cost like car repair or your heating breaks down, or a number of other things. Since 2021, it feels like you're always a month away from being able to start saving again, it's always next month, it's just always a couple more unforeseen things. And then you go and buy two new shirts and a pair of pants and on a whim, you throw in a set of new socks and you feel guilty like that's the reason why you can't save up that month.
It was when I was a kid. That was a solid months rent plus groceries. Now? I used to joke with people about "if only I could figure out a way to get a million people to give me a dollar", but I can't do that anymore since a million dollars isn't really that much anymore.
I thought I'd grow up, move out, find my footing in the grown up world and basically switch into cruise mode. Now I'm in my 40s and s**t is confusing as f**k.
Yup, in my 40s as well and still wondering when the tutorial will be over.
Wait until you hit 60. It's all that but then you realize that now you're closer to death than your 20's.
There seriously needs to be a sort of "how to manual to life" that is free and constantly updated. Religion is NOT such a thing either. I mean, tell me how the hell to make a lot of money, how to buy a house, how to find love, how to f*****g live with some sort of calm and peace.
Near 40 and have no idea what I want to be when I grow up. Some of my highschool classmates knew they wanted to be lawyers or doctors and have achieved such; I consider myself fortunate to making some sort of a living.
Finding out that your parents are people, too, with weaknesses or flaws that you were blind to when you were young.
Really? We knew that long before we were adults. My parents also never adressed each other as "Mom" or "Dad" (or even many pet names like "dear", at least not that we heard) - they wanted us to know their real names and that they had had their own lives before us and still did, to an extent. I know they were never perfect, but they didn't have to be - I would not want any other parents than them ♥
I would also add to this "seeing that your own children see you as flawless." It's equally terrifying to be on the other end.
Most people have children in their 20's. The person they were at that time isn't the person they will be in their 50's. Especially guys. Give those run away parents a chance.
Don't tell my ex! her mom mentally & verbally abused for for 60 years! However, she will not see or admit it! Not my problem!
Except that it is your problem because it has adversely affected your wife, impacts how she see the world, how she reacts to things....
Load More Replies...As a millenial, I was raised to believe that going to college and getting a degree would guarantee me a good future job that would allow me to live comfortably 🥲
*chuckles in poor with 2 masters degree from the high school classroom I teach in* I feel your pain, Erdot.
Load More Replies...Yep. Went and go my bachelor's (because any degree "guaranteed" a job!), and didn't get anything. Went and obtained my Master's and now can't find a job in that field at all (and I apply wherever something appears). I'm beginning to think I need to see about a different field of work entirely.
Trade school/apprenticeships are either lower cost or free and we NEED tradespeople! I'm a massage therapist w/ a BA degree in business admin and I make way more doing massage. Also way less stressful.
Load More Replies...I still think Apprenticeships are the way forward. Sure, there's still no guarantee, but someone that hires an apprentice does so because they usually need the help, so there is a much higher chance of securing the job when you qualify.
A push by the liberal a*****e lefestists in the country. Trades are a better choice.
This was pounded into my head. Mental health kept me from going that path. I am no better off than those with degrees except I have no debt lol.
When everyone is told this and a huge chunk of the population actually does it, there aren't enough jobs to go around. Now it's all trade-based jobs...until a huge chunk does it and fills all the trade jobs. If the U.S. would stop farming out nearly everything to other countries, we'd have enough jobs for our people. People would have to pay more for some things, but at least they'd have money to pay...even though I'm not too sure they'd have to pay more and paying more is a scare tactic. A lot of things were Made in America decades ago and they weren't paying out the whazoo for everything.
That working harder does not equal getting paid more or being promoted.
The more useful you are, the lesser the interest of anyone to have you move to another position. I was told that in an interview. "Yes, we know you are qualified becomin team lead. But who would be doing yours? We need 2, maybe 3 people to do what you do. We do not have the budget for that".
It equals more work for the same pay, someone getting fired and the stock holders getting richer.
Realizing you'll probably never have the, "aha," moment that tells you what you want to do with your life and you'd better just pick the least depressing choice.
My A-ha moment was in the 80s...I didn't think it would Take on Me, but it did.
Here's the secret: pick something, anything, roll with it. If you change your mind, that is fine too. Roll with the new path. Eventually, you will find yourself doing what you enjoy. If not, at least you tried.
My a-ha moment was that there will never be an a-ha moment for me for a career. Once something becomes work, it's ruined.
For me it was realizing the high school mindset in people never ends see it in 60 yr olds in Facebook now
That your boss probably didn't get where they are because they did your job well.
Modern workplace hierarchy is more akin to 18th century military. It's rare that someone will be raised from the ranks.
In the corporate world one rises to their own level of incompetence and remains there.
The president of my company did "work" his way up from the bottom, but he did it by being a politician, not bc he was good (or even competent) at his jobs. Totally feckless yes-man whose opinion, if there's one at all, changes to whichever way the wind is blowing , regardless of how wrong it is (morally or business-decision).
In the Army we had a saying: Screw up & move up. Too many people who could not do the job they were trained to do. They would make up something to excel at, get promoted, & then be put in charge of people who were good at their job. So many conflicts from that.
My last principal was put in place to punish the faculty. No degrees in education, no professional licenses, no experience. And it was much worse than I could ever have imagined.
Finding out police don't have to help
And then finding out that they're mostly just violent gangs with an official mandate, and illegitimate immunity from being held accountable.
Obviously. "Governent" is just a fancy word that means "the most powerful gang in the region". ...which is why the concept of anarchy is dumb. The government will just be the dude with the most armed friends.
Load More Replies...In the U.S. the origins of policing began with slave patrols. Enough said.
US - correct. they are not required to assist. Only required to lie and get and use whatever they can...
Plus knowing that when you NEED help in seconds, you 'might' get police in minutes. Better to have a gun and not need it, that to need it and not have it. Protect you and your family YOURSELF!!!!
I have nothing but the utmost respect for the police, more specifically the King County Sheriffs of SW King County (Seattle). My ex stalked and harassed me for over a year. They did everything they could to catch that MF, but he always managed to slip away just SECONDS before they arrived. He (the ex) was stupid enough to leave a death threat against me and my two children ON MY VOICEMAIL and my caller ID showed that he had called from his parents house. Yeah, they were finally able to arrest him. He went to jail for a year or so. In the meantime, we moved.
Yep, protect and serve in the USA is basically fluff. Sure, most police will come to your aid, but they will get into absolutely zero trouble if they don't.
That going to college and getting a 9-5 wasn’t going to be the fun, creative, latte-filled experience rom coms would have you believe.
Having worked blue collar and white collar, I can say definitively that blue collar is a hell of a lot more fun and fulfilling.
what's a blue collar and a white collar job?
Load More Replies...That's because 9-5 five times a week is too damn much. If people worked less, they'd work with much more zeal.
Those are nice chairs. Where I work, a hospital, our chairs are 15+ years old and thrashed beyond comprehension. They care about us :)
Finally owning a house, then realising you now have to go through the effort and expense of maintaining it.
It's great you've got a house for 100k, now enjoy saving and spending at least half that to stop it crumbling, leaking or falling down over the next decades.
Used mobile homes either on a private piece of land, a private rented lot, or in a park is the only real way to go now days. I paid $1,000 cash for my older mobile home about a decade ago. It's on a private rented lot. My total housing expenses is 1/4 of the cheapest apartment rent or mortgage in the area. Is it classy? Not at all. But, it's cheap. Being a smaller home of simpler design, repairs are also cheaper and easier than with a house. Put back a few grand in case you ever have to move. I have maybe $5,000 in my mobile home in total (cost plus repairs plus renovation).
Follow my example. If you wait long enough the paint falls off by itself...🤣
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Working hard will get you advancement in the company. In reality, being a hard worker keeps you exactly where you are. Management will keep you churning out the good work you do without ever paying you any more than they do, and it make them look good.
Take your hard-earned ability and experience and go somewhere they WILL be rewarded. Those places are out there, you just have to find them.
Makes them Feel Special when they SIT in their Counting Houses Counting out their Billions!!
A bachelor’s degree is not a coupon redeemable for one (1) full-time job in your field of choice after graduation.
A college buddy of mine got a BS in Psych. She gets a job working with young special needs adults. Her first job she was handed a diaper & some baby wipes. That was going to be her job.
One of the things I think people miss is that companies hire people to do the jobs they need done. Not to put certificates on a wall. In the cases where a degree is needed for the job, then certainly it helps/is required. But if you go out and get a degree for something that no one has need for, you aren't going to that "promised job". And note what jobs need to be done change over time and location.
When you finish eating your dinner and there is no magical person to wash the dishes and you have to wash them yourself.
A dishwasher....Oh, you mean my wife! It's a joke! Step away from the downvote.😺Look I've even paid a cat tax.
Load More Replies...Me too so I have a deal with my husband. I shop and cook, he cleans. I don't like cooking either but Oh Well.
Load More Replies...Why can't we invent a massive dishwashing machine that actually works? I have had 2 hand surgeries because I wash dishes for my family of 4 and we don't eat out much. Need another surgery soon. My hands are ruined
This is why my cats are drinking their milk from shotglasses and I'm using old butter tubs for cereal.
Mechanical dishwasher if middle class. Human dishwasher is affordable. Get off your lazy a*s if broke like me.
*I* am the magical person who does my dishes. Morning me is always very grateful that evening me did them and the kitchen is nice and clean. No one else is going to do this for me, so I might as well be awesome to myself and do it for me!
Finding out your partner doesn't love you anymore, but just has high anxiety about leaving you.
It's not fair for either of you... Just take a deep breath and do it. It would be so much better in the long run
Load More Replies...My ex...love is not enough. Never wanted a marriage, just an activity buddy...I'm flawed, she's perfect...oh well!
Finding out your partner doesn't love you while on your death bed at Christmas, breaking it off with them only to have them then show up less than 24 hours later with a replacement for you. It wouldn't have been hard at all for them to just be truthful instead of expending so much energy in lies and deception. I was literally on the verge of death in the hospital and they wouldn't even come for a visit or call or anything. Even the doctors were mad at them.
Or never really did and was just using you. That causes long term damage. If you can't trust the person who supposedly loves you, who can you trust?
Spending time trying to understand why something happened often doesn't lead to answers, and can only prolong your healing process. Sometimes "closure" is moving forward and not ruminating or trying to figure out why.
In life there is no such thing as "closure". Things just hurt less as time passes.
They don't even do that, they just hurt from further away.
Load More Replies..."Closure" for me has always been "I can't think about that any more because I have something worse to worry about now."
Closure is a Hollywood Sayuing Not a Reality!!! Their is NO CLOSURE while you are Alive & Living in ANYTHING!! ENDINGS YES ...CLOSURE NO!!
That there are no *adults*. Everyone's just doing their best
No adults, just teenagers pretending to be elders. Or elfs, I don't remember.
If everyone was doing their best, things would be a lot better than they are.
There are people who have been around the block a few times and seen that the world moves in cycles. It's a constant struggle to inform the younger generations. The uproar over Israel and Palestine? They've been killing each other for 75 years. There is nothing else in their lives but the battle. They will never stop. Getting bent out of shape about it isn't going to make it stop. We have disease outbreaks and ecological disasters. When a problem threatens humanity, necessity is the mother of invention. Things people don't consider. Large oil deposits under the Earth's crust are a planetary hazard. Magma and oil are a bad combination. For the last 500 years the 2nd and 3rd decades of a new century have been times of rapid change. We started using oil in the 1920's and 30's and we will stop using oil in the 2020's and 30's. Young people have a huge burden to educate themselves about the past while learning to live in a technologically advanced civilization.
There is no justice, no peace, and there never was
This one has been the hardest for me.. Disney did not prepare me for reality!
You need to create your own inner peace...Let the world around you rotate and ignore what you can.
Christmas Bonuses almost NEVER exist. Worse fantasy than the clause...
In Spain we have the “ Paga extra de Navidad “ (Christmas bonus), which is a payment of the same amount as your monthly salary and is paid before Christmas. We also have a “paga extra de verano” summer bonus, which is paid before the summer vacation and is the same amount. If your job includes a variable salary according to your objective, you have an additional extra pay that is a percentage of your salary or a fixed amount determined in your contract.
Yet another way life in Europe is better than the US.
Load More Replies...I think this one refers mostly to the US, and if that is the case, then this is something that has changed over time, but the "belief" that it still exists hasn't. It is like before my generation pensions were the norm, but they were phased out for "retirement accounts". I think the same is true of the "Christmas bonus". They haven't really been around since 60s.
I do get a year end bonus, but you have to have worked there I want to say at least 5 years?
Having to pay tax instead of getting a tax return. First time this happened to me as a teenager shattered my heart. I had so many plans!
I think that's great. It means I've had the governments money for a year instead of them having mine.
When I worked for the IRS, I respected people like you. The only way to play the game.
Load More Replies...I can't believe all these people that are complaining about getting an interest free loan from the government. People a refund is when you give the government an interest free loan. As long as you don't have to pay a penalty, you paying taxes at the end of the year, you giving them what you owe them. You aren't paying "extra".
Calculating the taxes (at least in the US is complicated) and as such that is why you don't know the final number until you to file your taxes, but that number doesn't go up or down depending if you get a refund or not, or pay more in. It is the same number. Let's say that number is $5,000, and you give the government $4,000 in the year, you need to pay $1,000. If you pay them $6,000 then they give you refund of $1,000. One should strive to have to pay the most to the government at the end of the year, provided there are no penalties.
Someone has to pay for the police, fire department, roads, etc., and it sure ain't gonna be the wealthy.
It's not fair that the government didn't take enough, then they ask you to check for them, pay them back, so YOUR hard earned money can be used for anything and everything while some people are 3rd generation moochers of the government teet and nothing, NOTHING is done to apply pressure to make these people work and pull their fair share. It's voluntary slavery and a guaranteed vote, so the government doesn't give a damn. If they don't care, why should the government. Yet they're the first people to show up and loot; surprise surprise that people who are given lifetimes worth of government hand outs also think they are entitled to take other people's property.
realizing that by the time you're old enough to retire, social security probably won't exist anymore
Social Security was never about getting someone else's money, it is about getting your money back. This is not an entitlement but a pension, half paid by your employer. It is paid on first dollar of earnings and stops when you make more. The Republicans want you to believe it is a tax. If it is it is the most regressive tax on the books. How they spent your money is another thing.
Uh no, that's not what it's about. No one except the extremely wealthy could ever afford to pay into it as much as they would eventually be entitled to draw, and they probably would never need to anyway. The way it really works is there are supposed to be enough working people paying into it at any given time to pay for that current period's group of people who are drawing on it, then by the time those first people retire, there are even more working people to pay for them and so on. It's basically a government-run and sanctioned Ponzi scheme, except it's supposed to be sustainable because it's over a much longer term, since unlike investors who can demand a return on their investment at any time, people who want to draw on Social Security have to meet certain requirements (including age usually). And I'm not a Republican, but it's still a tax, because that just has to do with how the funds are raised. It's a government-run pension because of who receives funds and who manages them.
Load More Replies...The people who keep saying that Social Security won't exist in the future are the people who didn't want it to exist in the first place.
Social Security was only to be used to pay workers a pension when they retired. It was never to be accessed by the Gov't, but once they saw how much money was in there, they raided it to pay off part of the debt and other bills. Now, they are saying that Social Security is going to almost be depleted by 2035, but do they get Social Security, NO. They are set for life with free healthcare and income. If they are in office for two years, they still get the same healthcare and salary. How many people get full benefits for working for just 2 years, but they make their own rules. They really have no governing body to control them except for voters
If you're paying payroll taxes, as your employer should also be doing, it will still exist. People in the U.S. get up in arms about some of the most trivial things, but I would imagine there'd be the biggest revolt in the country's history if money you paid into a retirement system was stolen. It isn't an "entitlement" if I've already paid for it.
An entitlement is something that belongs to you, that you have title to. So SS is absolutely and unequivocally an entitlement. Food stamps, on the other hand, are not.
Load More Replies...The money I paid in better damn well be there when it's time for me to take it or there will be hell to pay.
People actually have to live to 65. Americans aren't doing a very good job of that. We are working ourselves to death, dying from exposure to pollution, drug overdoses, poor diets, mental illnesses and mass shootings.
If they keep upping the retirement age like they're doing now that is a real possibility
Except they can't push it past life expectancy. Can they?
Load More Replies...Well..average age for a first job in the US now, is 18 (though some don't get one until their 20's) Where as 25 years ago, most opted into getting a job at 14 or 15. While people are entering the workforce later, they're also living longer, and absolutely no one is paying enough taxes to make up the difference. It's a solvable problem, but no one actually wants to take part in the solution.
The solution is to remove the income limits that allow the wealthy to stop contributing on massive amounts of income.
Load More Replies...The only scam is that they stop collecting it once earnings exceed $160K in any given year.
Load More Replies...Learning that Santa is real and you're him.
The four stages of life: 1 - You believe in Santa Claus. 2 - You don't believe in Santa Claus. 3 - You are Santa Claus. 4 - You look like Santa Claus.
When you realize basically everyone is just faking it til they make it.
Fake it 'til you make it, check yourself before you wreck yourself, get rich or die trying. Hmmm, how about finding a way to live within your means and enjoy life instead of making it into some sort of apocalyptic war? No? Never mind then.
Load More Replies...I'm just faking it until I die next March (it's the only thing I can really plan).
Everyone is a rookie at some point in their lives. Having knowledge is different from implementing that knowledge and just because someone wrote a book doesn't mean their way is the only way. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, there is no such thing as perfect. And be forgiving of other people's mistakes.
Everybody here is being so...real. My adult "Santa's not real" moment was finding out the MythBusters weren't friends off camera.
And shouldn't that be a bit of an inspiring realization? Countless instances of both of them saying they actively disliked one another....yet still had profound respect for one another's minds, skills and talents. You don't need to like everyone, or agree with everyone you interact with about everything in order to respect and work with them. The world would be a much better place if more people had the capacity for that, rather than the virtue signaling, victim obsessed, perpetually outraged hellscape of isolationists we currently have to endure.
But they are a great example of professionalism, in front of the camera they communicate well, they play to each others strengths and produced informative and often explosive TV. Does their relationship or lack of it off camera matter? No.
I have gotten along with and respected many people I didn't actually like. I have worked with someone who i disliked on a personal level, not for anything he did to me but how he treated some others outside of work, but he did good work. I didn't mind working with him, he worked hard and could make me laugh which made the day fly by.
That one day everything anyone ever did will be swallowed up by the sun.
But Voyagers 1 and 2 will still be out there hurtling through interstellar space.
Until they too fly into a star or black hole... [Sorry... Loved your comment though]
Load More Replies...Followed a while later (term used loosely) by the heat death of the universe! No life anywhere, ever again! 😃
well technically we don't know that. It is possible that we one day figure out how to do interstellar traveling and manage to escape, e.g. by cracking the nut of controlled fusion (the uncontrolled version we alread have in the form of an H-bomb), which will make it much easier to make light but still powerful rockets.
Hopefully our AI overlords will at least look back on us from time to time and wonder in amazement how such cold cruel evil things could have lasted long enough to actually spread themselves in one form or another throughout the universe. Even if it's AI we will still be its ancestors.
I'll be dead for tax purposes at that moment, so I won't be concerned.
Eh, that will be way beyond our lifetime. Besides, everything ends eventually.
Realizing that 1.000$ or even 10.000$ is not much money.
It is if you need it. Very similar to 10 minutes being short or long, depending on whether you're inside the bathroom, "meditating", or outside, pounding the door.
10.000$ would literally solve like all my problems, and 1000$ relieve my stress so much. Sadly, no additional money in sight.
There are no hot singles in your area.
Well, at least there are still lots of cold singles, I'll tell you that.
There are not even decent looking singles who love cats and want to go out
It was actually a typo in the advertisement. The ad came out in the summertime, so what they meant to say was hot SHINGLES in your area...every roof is filled with them.
...which includes you. "You are not IN traffic, you ARE traffic." I include myself in this comment. There are no hot singles in my area...that are going to find me equally as hot.
That fruits and veggies expire mich faster if you pay for it Yourself :(
I don't know about that. I have a tomato I bought about a month ago and it's just now starting to get squishy.
Finding out that hard work means they give you more work instead of a raise or promotion.
Finding out that security authorities aren't there to actually protect the safety of the people
They're there to steal as much money from the moneyed as they possibly can, preferably legally but not always.
Looking up a friend and finding out they have died.
Just happened to me. He was the father of all Dad jokes. /and being an English teacher made him even better at it - and worse. I'll miss the pain of his pun-ishment.
I haven't experienced that much (though I did find out, not long ago, my best friend growing up was involved with the disappearance and death of a woman back home)
I went down the google rabbit hole last year trying to find some people. A few had died, all their late 30s to mid 40s.
Seeing your paycheck and all the taxes deducted from it
Personally, I think it would hit people harder if they got their full paycheck and then had to pay the taxes from it themselves. Amounts to the same monetarily, but having to cut that check might get people thinking.
Taxes are better than getting bids from firefighting companies while your house is burning down.
Learning that people will say or do anything just to have sex with you. Learning that your body is a toy to be relentlessly pursued, played with, then discarded like it’s nothing. Wish my dad had told me.
As a female I would like to know what a male orgasm feels like because of the crazy things men will do to achieve that feeling.
It’s awesome but I am also mystified by the lengths and levels of deception that some men will go to in order to achieve the feeling. I’ve found that being in a loving, respectful and caring relationship does it for me and my partner, I’ll stick to that tyvm.
Load More Replies...That's because it's not true. Sorry, but it seems like you're just not good at who you let into that part of your life. Why would someone's dad be responsible for telling their child something that isn't true? It probably never entered into his mind because it's so far off base.
Exactly where can I find these people? Names, addresses, phone numbers. Anything that would help.
Thats def never happened to me, and I'm a female. Kind of like the opposite really. Can't get much attention. Would love some.
the first two things that came to mind were: how orcas, belugas, dolphins, etc in captivity are treated, and where the meat at the store comes from. i think these can be covered by just generally “how humans treat animals”. like seeing baby chicks get thrown into meat grinders, alive, by the f*****g hundreds. intelligent cetaceans that, for all intents and purposes, have PTSD and personality disorders from decades of torture. seeing Canadian baby seal clubbing. god, that one might be the worst thing i’ve ever seen. hearing them scream out, then the screams just stop. and it’s a goddamn baby, too. i loved nature at a very young age. my favorite thing was going to natural history museums for a long time. loved animals, genuinely enjoyed being around them more than other kids. finding out how they get treated, and realizing the scale of it, that s**t altered my soul.
Remember: Tuesday is Soylent Green day, where all Soylent Green is sold for half price!
Load More Replies...There are two horrible possibilities for the future. An end to humankind. And no end to humankind.
It's costs a human nothing, absolutely NO F'ING THING to treat an animal with love and respect.
To think that people can treat other people this way as well boggles my mind. :-(
Realising that no, we can’t have McDonald’s, coz there is food in the freezer.
the way grocery prices are zooming it’s gonna be the other way around soon!
Realizing just how high the deductible is on your insurance.
That can you adjust. Yes, it costs a bit more for the insurance but your deductible would be lowered.
True, but that's "Pay me now or pay me later." With a deductable, the later may not happen. The premium payments always will.
Load More Replies...For me it was finding out those HGTV shows are all more or less staged.
Discovering all the shows and movies you loved as a child were c**p, and you just enjoyed them because you didn't know any better.
Wow, someone grew up in the wrong era! If my childhood stuff was so bad, whey do they keep trying to remake it? Nah, I still re-watch a lot of the same shows from my childhood.
Realizing NOTHING is free.
Amen. My Aunt died at the start of the year, it has been surprisingly expensive.
Load More Replies...Not unless you typed the above on a donated lap top sitting at Starbucks without ordering. And even then you've simply shifted some of the costs (electricity, etc.) to someone else.
Load More Replies...Can you tell the people lazily mooching of the U.S. government this?! Once the middle class is gone, they won't tax the rich because they ARE the rich. That government gravy train will have an end and that is precisely when the middle class ends. Keep looting and find out.
When you expect your boss to give you a raise for all of your hard work but instead get a pizza party.
You guys get a pizza party instead of an extra roll of toilet paper? Damn it.
You get an extra roll of toilet paper instead of a kick in the shins? Lucky.
Load More Replies...Discovering that the “special recipe” for a dish that your parents have always made was just on the back of one of the ingredient’s packages.
You mean ostrich's saliva mixed with vodka is an ingredient on the back of every package? Damn, dad. 😤
It's usually something that was used as a money saving alternative but they didn't want to say what it was due to pride/embarrassment.
For me it was learning I could copy the recipe to the letter and never make it as good because I don't have 40+ years worth of experience
You never really own a house or property. You rent it from the government for the rest of your life.
Realisation that your parents are not as smart as you once thought.
Realisation that they are not near as wealthy as I once thought was much more traumatic though. 😂
Finding out it’s the pole that spins not the stripper
Found this out the hard way. A girlfriend and I joined another girlfriend and her boyfriend for a jaunt to a stip club for his birthday. It was all done in fun. The manager was so impressed that three women came in that he plied us with swag and asked us if we wanted to try it out. We did, (but kept our clothes on) and I took one swing at the pole, it spun, and I got thrown off the stage and into the bar. Aside from a twisted ankle, and a bruised pride, I was largely unscathed. Lesson learned.
Finding out that everything you want is not affordable
That you’re not going to be financially independent by 30.
Isn't it surprising how many people make that mistake? Being born to rich parents seems like such an obvious thing to do!
Load More Replies...I'm 40. I was financially independent at 16, and by 19 i began the near decade long task of caring for my bed ridden, paraplegic father, while working 1-3 jobs at any given time. It's not that you can't do it, it's that you can't do the same things that would have solved the problem 20 years ago....but that's been true for every single generation of people in modern history.
Credit scores were invented in the 90s.
It’s not a meritocracy.
At this stage, I've convinced that a meteorite would be better than this.
That the filter on the water jug doesn’t count down to replacement based on usage, it’s just a timer.
Realising that no one in any position of authority is competent..
Lol....not really. Sure, there are plenty of idiots everywhere, but your idea of "competency" is directly related to whether or not you're benefiting, or at the very least, not being inconvenienced from a given interaction.
There's a fine line between "incompetent" and "corrupt". I've never been good at distinguishing which person in a position of authority is which. The Vice President is always incompetent, it's a necessary prerequisite for the job.
There are people in positions of authority who are competent. That competence will be recognized by promoting them until they reach positions in which they are not competent. (The Peter Principle.)
Realizing that god doesn’t exist.
if you mean eric clapton, i'm sorry, but that guy is a twatbasket.
Load More Replies...I can prove that if god is real he is a horrible being allowing children to get cancer and older people getting Alzheimer's which then no praise is needed because he's worthless. I can prove all religions are used to guilt and control people. I can prove that religions change the rules having never spoken to god. I can prove that many people have been murdered because of him and that slavery was perpetrated by Christians as well has Hitler being a christian. We all can see that intelligent design had nothing to do with the human form or conscious. Finally, I can prove that if churches were taxed the country would be better.
Shoutout to my parents who raised me secular and to my primary school that technically complied with the last dregs of religion-in-school requirements that existed back then but taught it in a sufficiently non-proselytising way that I basically knew Jesus as “like Maui for white people?”
Untrue. Not the God of what man-made, but a supreme entity that only creates in love and humans have to implement...that's the weak link - Free Will
I wonder, do these people ever get tired of posting this c**p? I mean, do they not see that this whole schtick is just the adult version of that goth kid in high school crapping on everyone's good time. If people truly and fully believed there was no god, they wouldn't feel the need to say it so often; almost like saying it enough times will make it truer. I firmly do not believe in fairytales, but I don't think I've felt the need to repetitively state that, especially with every other BP post. Why? BECAUSE I KNOW IT'S NOT REAL and simply live me life without the need to tell people. I swear they are more annoying than sidewalk preachers!!!
Finding out that you’re getting older, which means getting uglier, less mobile, worse health, etc. You can delay poor health to an extent, but one way or another, it’s coming for us all.
First, your hangups about ugliness are not my problem. Second, there are countless people who are getting f****d over by the way our society treats the old and infirm RIGHT NOW, and demanding better rights for them is also an investment in our own future.
Speak for yourself! I'm still as gorgeous as I ever was, and just as healthy. I'll admit to being a little slower though.
I'm still struggling to accept how many vocal American "patriots" don't actually believe in freedom and equality, but do believe they should get to dictate how other people should live. In other words, they want to live in a tyranny, as long as they are among the tyrants.
To me it was the complete weakness of my fellow Americans to do something so small as to wear a mask to prevent the spread of a contagious disease. And the hoarding. I always knew there would be dissenters, but way underestimated the sheer number of selfish, stupid people there are. I lost a lot of respect for my community and neighbors. I'm just grateful that COVID, bad as it is, was a weak pandemic. I truly see how many weaklings there are in this country and the lengths they will go to defend their stupidity. In short, I have met the enemy and he is us.
I never had this kind of realization. This things are just what they are.. But I never had "santa doesn't exist" moment also, so.... it's true. All are like it.
I kind of chuckled when I read the title because, for me, learning Santa isn't real was a relief. I was very anxious about a stranger coming into our home in the middle of the night. Same as the Tooth Fairy and Easter bunny. My six year old self was pleased.
Load More Replies...I don't know if I'd use that phrasing, but for me, it was finding out that your body can betray you anytime after an accident and/or chronic illness. What didn't help was being told that I'm too young for *insert medical conditions I've been diagnosed with here* ... In my early 20s, a healthcare provider‡ said that I'm too young to have PTSD and that I can't because, "OnLy VeTeRaNs GeT PTSD." ‡ I'm no longer with said provider, but that stung. Sorry for the lengthy comment, all.
Many things on this list are true but some of them were lessons that should have been learned in our childhood.
The more I study history, the more convinced I am that the truth almost never comes out in any way that affects the flow of history. I could give hundreds of examples where the deceivers won, but no-one would believe the deceivers won, only that my examples are wrong. And in 90% of the cases where people say to themselves, "no really, I know the REAL truth," what they believe is the real truth is a more insidious deception. And even if they acknowledge the historicity of a claim, they'll STILL say, "well, yes, but" because 99% of the rest of what they believe are lies. And I'm no magic truth-discerner; I'm not suffering from schizophrenia and believing my truth is real and y'all just don't get it. 99% of what each of us believe is wrong; I only believe in a different 1% than most of y'all.
Case in point: Santa Claus is real. First reaction: "He's kidding." No, I'm not. Second reaction: "Well, yes, but...." We could do about a dozen rounds of that. And no, I don't believe in magic, flying reindeer, but believe me when I tell you I'll say, "No, really..." to as many times as you say, "Well, yes, but..." without you ever saying, "oh, he's just crazy/joking/playing devil's advocate."
Load More Replies...That my BP app all the sudden has ads I have to watch in order to enjoy my reading.
I'm still struggling to accept how many vocal American "patriots" don't actually believe in freedom and equality, but do believe they should get to dictate how other people should live. In other words, they want to live in a tyranny, as long as they are among the tyrants.
To me it was the complete weakness of my fellow Americans to do something so small as to wear a mask to prevent the spread of a contagious disease. And the hoarding. I always knew there would be dissenters, but way underestimated the sheer number of selfish, stupid people there are. I lost a lot of respect for my community and neighbors. I'm just grateful that COVID, bad as it is, was a weak pandemic. I truly see how many weaklings there are in this country and the lengths they will go to defend their stupidity. In short, I have met the enemy and he is us.
I never had this kind of realization. This things are just what they are.. But I never had "santa doesn't exist" moment also, so.... it's true. All are like it.
I kind of chuckled when I read the title because, for me, learning Santa isn't real was a relief. I was very anxious about a stranger coming into our home in the middle of the night. Same as the Tooth Fairy and Easter bunny. My six year old self was pleased.
Load More Replies...I don't know if I'd use that phrasing, but for me, it was finding out that your body can betray you anytime after an accident and/or chronic illness. What didn't help was being told that I'm too young for *insert medical conditions I've been diagnosed with here* ... In my early 20s, a healthcare provider‡ said that I'm too young to have PTSD and that I can't because, "OnLy VeTeRaNs GeT PTSD." ‡ I'm no longer with said provider, but that stung. Sorry for the lengthy comment, all.
Many things on this list are true but some of them were lessons that should have been learned in our childhood.
The more I study history, the more convinced I am that the truth almost never comes out in any way that affects the flow of history. I could give hundreds of examples where the deceivers won, but no-one would believe the deceivers won, only that my examples are wrong. And in 90% of the cases where people say to themselves, "no really, I know the REAL truth," what they believe is the real truth is a more insidious deception. And even if they acknowledge the historicity of a claim, they'll STILL say, "well, yes, but" because 99% of the rest of what they believe are lies. And I'm no magic truth-discerner; I'm not suffering from schizophrenia and believing my truth is real and y'all just don't get it. 99% of what each of us believe is wrong; I only believe in a different 1% than most of y'all.
Case in point: Santa Claus is real. First reaction: "He's kidding." No, I'm not. Second reaction: "Well, yes, but...." We could do about a dozen rounds of that. And no, I don't believe in magic, flying reindeer, but believe me when I tell you I'll say, "No, really..." to as many times as you say, "Well, yes, but..." without you ever saying, "oh, he's just crazy/joking/playing devil's advocate."
Load More Replies...That my BP app all the sudden has ads I have to watch in order to enjoy my reading.
