Being a grown-up is not just about taking care of yourself; it's also about considering how your actions affect the people around you. I like to think of it as juggling heavy dumbbells while riding a broken unicycle on a weak tightrope above a savage fire. Fun, right?
To learn which parts of this 'performance' people find the hardest, Redditor u/Frequent-Pilot5243 recently made a post on the platform, asking other users the following question: "What is an adult problem nobody prepared you for?" Turns out, a lot. From personal finance to relationships, continue scrolling to check out some of the most popular answers.
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Handling the decline and death of your parents
This is my worst fear. I cry myself to sleep somedays thinking about this
We managed to get in contact with u/Frequent-Pilot5243 and they were kind enough to have a little chat with us about their viral post.
"It indeed is a good question and people replied with a lot of honesty," the Redditor told Bored Panda.
"As much as I would like to take the credit this isn't an original post. It is a repost; somebody had asked this question a year or year and a half ago."
Having to make dinner every. F***ing. Day.
Life is all about maintenance. Your body, your house, your relationships, everything requires constant never ending maintenance.
Didn't know that other adults have the emotional intelligence of teenagers and its almost impossible to deal with logically
Indeed, even we covered a thread that virtually asks the same question.
But the answers that this one has received make it a totally new discussion.
"I didn't expect it to blow up like this," u/Frequent-Pilot5243 said.
But some of these issues probably wouldn't even arise if paid more attention to their roots. Approximately 3 in 4 adult or young adult children who experienced a mental health challenge indicated at least some of the challenges occurred before the age of 18, and approximately half of them said that their parents never sought treatment for them, while approximately three quarters said that they wished their parents had done so.
Of these folks, approximately 67% said it was because they would not have suffered so much during their teenage years, approximately 66% said that they would be better equipped to handle their current problems, and approximately 64% said it would have better prepared them for adulthood.
So problems begin early on in our personal journeys. “Transitioning into adulthood is enough of a struggle. No one should have to battle their mental health at the same time,” Debbie Thomas, EdD, APRN, based in Louisville, Kentucky, explained the numbers in a statement.
If only we were better at noticing them...
Almost all of your friends wont be life long. No one really talks about how common it is to lose touch with people or grow apart. Most of your life will be spent either making new friends while losing old ones or being alone.
The more life you’ve lived, the faster time seems to go.
This! Exactly! How was 2020 2 years ago!?? I haven't even finished digesting 2019...??..??
That turning down the radio, when you are lost in a neighborhood helps you see better.
How damned tired you are all the time.
How do I end this cycle? I know people who can do alot compared to my capabilities. Some weeks I can do with 4-6h sleep. Other days I sleep 16h straight multiple days in a row.
Same. I see "leaders" in the media grinding day after day after day and I think "I'm intelligent enough to be one of them, but my energy just wouldn't hold up." Are they all on uppers? How are some people so consistently energetic and seemingly never tired? I envy people who have consistent energy every day.
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If you are tired *all* the time, get a full physical. There could be a medical reason.
This is good advice. I had severe anemia and was so exhausted I'd fall asleep any time I sat down. Thankfully it was easily treated.
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Then finding out you have vitamin deficiencies and wondering which is taking more a toll on your health. The deficiencies or the stress of the job
I really don't remember a time when I wasn't. One day I just woke up tired and stayed that way. I also don't remember the last time something on my body DIDN'T hurt.
I used to be tired all the time. I was able to get work that matched my internal sleep clock: Go to bed at 3am and wake up at 11am. Now I don't feel tired during the day anymore. When I go off my internal clock, I feel like I have jet lag.
I've had chronic insomnia since I was nine (sexually abused as a child), so now it is truly bad. At 39 I sleep maybe 2-3 hrs a night. There are times that during the day my mom will be talking to me and I have micro- sleeps standing up. She says it's terrifying for her seeing me like this.
Work is a huge drain. By the time we unwind at home the day is coming close to an end.
Once an insomniac, absolutely nothing helps no matter what so called experts recommend.
Wait until you're old. You'll wish you were only as tired as you are now. And having to get up every two hours to pee won't help matters.
That we are actually mortals. That realization hit me hard, by way of a hit and run when I was 27, and then f-ing covid --I've been a "long-hauler" now since March 2020, and so I went from being 39 to feeling like a beat up 80yo within MINUTES of going down hard. I thought I was invincible. Not even an allergy. That car couldn't even kill me (thank you helmet) Never got sick. 24 hr flu twice in my life. Wtf
How easy it is to feel stuck in a bad situation (job, relationship, etc) just because the cost and effort of getting out can seem daunting. And sometimes you just have to accept a figurative bowl full of s**t because you can't afford to blow up your life.
How prevalent depression, anxiety, and suicide ideation is. At this point I think every adult has been through it at some point in their lives.
Lack of purpose.
All your young life you are given purpose of passing exams and learning, then all of a sudden you are thrown into the world and told to find your own meaning.
I feel this so badly. Since I became too ill to work or study I feel absolutely useless. I could get used to being unemployed but working in our garden for food/animals. But being only able to do housechores, and with a lot of difficulty, has broken me. My life now is emptying the dishwasher, laundry and tyding up a house that is never clean.
The kitchen is always dirty. You’ll clean it at least three times every day.
Figuring out what makes you happy. Everyone keeps trying to get you to do things you're good at, or that makes you money, but never to pursue what you enjoy
O.M.G. Yessss This. This is exactly how my whole adult life has been but couldn't explain it as well as this.
Working full time, but still not being able to afford the basic necessities of life.
Stop talking about Republicans versus liberals and start agreeing with each other on how screwed up the payment system is in the US maybe if we stopped arguing we could get something done. I'm talking to both you iconoclast and jmdirks.
Adult life being basically a permanent to-do list that just keeps on getting bigger and bigger
Without a support system, your mental illnesses alone can render you homeless.
So can a dozen other situations. It’s not hard to become homeless these days, what’s hard is dragging yourself out off that hole and not having it be your default go to when the s**t hits the fan. There is a YouTube channel titled Invisible People, run by a guy who experienced homelessness and got back on his feet, he now interviews homeless people. Although their stories can be hard to hear, it can really shine the light on how things like predatory lending, medical debt, divorce etc can land good hardworking people on the street.
Daughter with behavioral and mental issues. Then she got pregnant at 16. It was a roller coaster ride…very trying and about kicked my [butt].
My husband had esophageal cancer and then 9 years later had 14 brain lesions. Both times his survival rate was low, but he’s still here.
Feel like I’ve been in survival mode for years and years. I’m kinda tired now.
That I can horrifically f**k my neck up just by sleeping at a funny angle
Being 60 years old and still having to deal with people that act we’re still in high school. I can’t stand back biting and temper tantrums, and it seems even worse from 50 and 60 year olds. It’s embarrassing and I thought it would end, but apparently drama never ends
This may just be because I’m on the spectrum but networking for jobs. My parents had the same jobs since I was born so I never saw them or anyone else look for one that wasn’t a temporary job for a college student so I didn’t know. I thought hard work would basically show employers I was worth hiring and despite burning myself out I still lost out to people with half my ability because they were more sociable was baffling to me for a long time.
I'm close to 50. Would have been nice to be better prepared for some of the ways your body starts to change that don't normally get talked about. For instance, your teeth will start to shift from the general aging of your gums
I’ll say this: as a kid you think adults have it all together. Turns out we are just winging it.
My dad killed himself 3 days after my 31st birthday. And I still had to wake up and be a mother and a functional human being. Still have to.
There is no preparing for that.
That people will actively work against their own interests and/or the interests of society.
Growing up, you look at well adjusted adults and think “wow, these people know what’s going on and will help us all get to a better place.” Now? You realize there are a bunch of really stupid folk out there.
Getting burnt out
How much you have to clean. Like you are always cleaning something. I hate it
That once you are "stable" your life is f**king groundhog's day. Every day is basically the same. Same person I already married, same house I already have and already decorated, same job every day, same foods over and over. Same damn shows and movies and songs... Boring and sometimes I have a crazy spell because I just can't stand it... dysphoria sucks.
I love the stability and predictability. I now have the peace of mind to enjoy free time, being it arty, outdoory or cuddly. I'm all there and experience it to the full. Real connection to me, to nature or to someone else.
Being asked why I'm single and have no kids like I'm some sort of alien.
Just say "they died" and end all further questioning! And hopefully embarrass the nebby noser.
You can clearly see the systems that are in place to prevent you from advancing, but they're effective in preventing you from advancing.
Being an adult feels extremely lonely
Yes. I found a fellow Asperger to marry and now I'm not lonely anymore. I dread the day they'll die though! I block that train of thought though as that day is not here now. Live in the moment. Invite yourself over for coffee at the neighbours. There are many nice people out there.
How to fight with a partner. I just shut down because I don't know how to handle it.
As a kid, I was taught, if you work hard, you can buy a house and move out once you’re 18. I wish I could tell little me that isn’t gonna happen anytime soon haha
Unfortunately many of us weren’t told that working hard is only one part of the equation.
Feeling like I’ve already seen every plot known to man and so movies are very predictable and not as enjoyable as they were when I was younger.
Not having a lot of free-time or time by myself.
I don't have kids and this is one of the main reasons. I am an Adverse Childhood Experiences survivor and know myself well enough to know if I don't get regular time to myself my coping capacity goes down to near zero. Time on my own is used to decompress and process so I can keep on an even keel and not be a concern (or honestly just a plain nightmare) to my loved ones. It helps me maintain reality and own my emotional/mental state. I used to feel ashamed I "couldn't cope like everybody else" but now I just own it.
How to handle existential crisis and the looming thought of my own death and the deaths of those around me.
Live in the moment, in the now. You're not dead right now and neither are they. Your stress isn't a solution to these eventualities, it's not practical at all. You may stress when it happens, not before. And I assure you: you will be OK when it happens, because that time too is lived in moments and not as an avalanche. You are OK. You are built to experience life in moments and they're always in the here and now. You are built for this. You're a natural too and you will find so once you let your controlling mind back off a bit.
Imposter syndrome. And then realizing that likely every expert or professional you’ve ever really trusted also probably has imposter syndrome and knows much less than you think they do. This became very apparent to me during the pandemic when I realized that our governments and our medical professionals don’t have all the answers and we’re all just figuring things out as we go.
The intricacies of workplace politics.
I never realized how much school tried to condition us for the corporate world until I worked in the corporate world. Washroom breaks controlled: check. Expected to stay seated at your desk: check. Don't question the teacher/manager tells you: check. Meager, small "incentives" (gold star/free coffee/pizza days): check. Micromanaging: check. Disregard for medical care: check.
Chin hairs. They are an obsession. I tweeze them in a magnifying mirror several times a day. NOBODY told me females would have to deal with this. I feel like the bearded lady some days!
Or finding a long, mysterious, long, fine hair on some random part of your body, like your arm or nose, or below your eye, leg, back. Like wtf. I thought that was a witch thing.
Having to work 5 days a week. Who the f**k made this the norm. We need a 4 day week
Not having a pre-defined goal once I was out of college. Growing up my goals were set for me: get through elementary school! then middle school! Then high school, and get into college and get a degree, then get a job, and then...? Vague "advance in your career, buy a house, find a spouse, have a kid or multiple, then retire." At 22 I had no idea how to break that down more granularly. Until then the biggest choice I'd had to make was my college major - even my choice of school was mostly determined by scholarships and location! And then I had to find and choose a job all by myself! And then decide for myself when to leave it and find another! It was overwhelming.
My best advice I gotten from a friend is go to a career resource centre. Volunteer somewhere. Relax and just let things fall into place once you've made a move. Don't try too hard or make things too complicated for yourself.
You may have heard from your older relatives that when you get older, itll be your turn to take care of them. You never really understand just how much it takes until you're in that position.
Planning meals. It’s such a chore to feed yourself every day, planning your meals, budgeting meals, and making sure you like it and don’t get sick of the same meal because it was tasty and easy to make
How did I never notice that there was dust f**king everywhere? I swear to go I turn around from dusting and there’s more dust. I can’t keep up with our house. We are 2 adults and a dog. Dining room is in constant disarray because that’s where we let the dog go outside. Amazon packages pile up. why am I so f**king tired? We sre 26 and 32.
That no one gives a s**t how smart you are.
As a kid, everyone makes it sound like you're set for life if you're smart. No. You're set for life if you have a good work ethic, know how to stay motivated, and are fairly smart. That's when you make s**t happen.
Being too smart too early can actually impede you. I didn't figure this out completely until I was almost 30. And now, at 34, I'm just starting to really hit my stride.
My whole childhood, through highschool and even most of college, I could do no studying and still get As and Bs. And everyone told me how I was going to be so successful and it was so great that I was so smart. But I never had to work hard so I never learned to.
And guess what? Companies looking to hire you DO NOT GAF if you're smart. They care that you can do the job and do the job well and have the potential to grow.
You are held to account for bad behaviour for which you are negligent even if you had no intention to cause harm. As a lawyer, I see this all the time. People don't think they're responsible for mistakes. You are.
THIS, a million times THIS. The sense of entitlement by some, the dodging of responsibility by others. Why the hell is it so hard for so many to own their mistakes and not just fling it on to others or just deny they are responsible. It is especially infuriating when our government helps the wealthy and abusive get away with murder *PG&E CEOs and surgeons like Dr. Christopher Duntsch, leaving a pile of injured and dead people in their wake but no attorney to help them because the medical peeps successfully lobbied the US government to reduce malpractice awards. WTF!?!??
One adult problem nobody prepared me for is how expensive everything is. I always thought that as an adult I would be able to afford the things I wanted, but it turns out that's not always the case! I've had to learn how to budget and save up for the things I want, and it's been a difficult process.
My parents worked full time jobs and our house was still clean, our laundry was clean, we had a full meal on the table every night. My mom did all that. My dad did all the stereotypical man role stuff like fixing and laboring but my mom kept that house running while she worked full time.
We have kids and full time jobs and a big house and I cannot keep up. I get a meal on the table every night because the children have to eat but the rest gets so out of hand SO fast. Today I said to my kids “we need to get this house cleaned up this evening when we get home,” and one said “we just did that yesterday.” Yeah dude, you’ve been busy living your best 7 year old life.
Getting sick is too expensive.
Getting sick for a long time is costly anywhere. Being sick from birth even worse. Every year you are sick you lose pension fund, time to save money, for trainings, promotions, raises. And depending where you live after a few years being sick you either don’t get money, get reduced money, or just existential minimum. And even if you get back on your feet, you are a risk factor to some companies, thus have a harder time getting a job.
Having to care for yourself when you're sick.
I was 19, roommate was away for the weekend, and I had the most awful stomach virus. Nobody around to help.
Even when you live alone, and grocery shop on a regular basis, there will never be anything you feel like eating.
Yes, because in the back of your mind you’re calculating how much effort it will require to cook and whether the effort is worth the result.
Weight gain.
This is a cradle-to-grave situation.. Biology and time are involved, but our culture, with all the processed foods, stupid advertising, and crappy school lunches, is the biggest problem. Proper nutritional instruction needs to begin in kindergarten, home ec classes need to come back for boys and girls, and school gyms need to be equipped for all students, not just the jocks on the football team. And put swimming pools in all middle and high schools. Too expensive, you say? We seem to have money for everything else.
Birthdays will stop being fun and are gonna be a constant reminder that some day you'll get very old and then die...
I was unprepared for how much taxes reduce your retirment. We spend roughly $1000.00/ monthly between taxes and insurance, just to own stuff we already paid for. You will NEVER live anywhere free. Our system is designed against it...
Being judged for what I do with my hard earned adult money. Also the feeling of walking in a room and being seen as THE adult. My mind isn’t prepared to be the one w the answers.
Always get this feeling my bank is snooping in my account and making judgements. That has been confirmed a few times. "Umm... you're in your overdraft, currently. You need to leave money in there. It's supposed to be used for emergencies only." NAAAH. REally? Well, I need my rent paid and my stomach is rumbling. I'd say those are pretty important to use money on, thank you.
I was not prepared to have this much hair in places I do not wish to have hair.
Being able to do so many things because I'm an adult but too tired to do any of them.
That you spend most of your waking hours on activities you'd rather not be doing (work, chores, commuting, etc.)
Why the f**k does my back hurt all the f**king time and why does my nose and ears have hair ?
Why do so many things require different kinds of soap?
Shampoo = hair soap
Body wash = body soap
Toothpaste = tooth soap
Laundry detergent = clothes soap
Dishwasher = special soap
Washing dishes by hand = another special soap
Mopping = floor soap
Carpet cleaner = carpet soap
Washing my car = car soap
I AM ALWAYS BUYING SOAP.
Basic car maintenance.
Should I fill the gas up now on my way home, or tomorrow in my way in?
S***ty mental health and constant existential crisis
So many people knock the institutional churches, but having a spiritual life makes mental health and the existential crisis easier to bear. Don't discredit faith just because of the hypocrites. Religion and faith are two different things.
Being without your Parents
Aging parents
and grandparents. My grandmother begged me to move to Indiana to care for her and my grandfather. She had 13 kids and over 100 grandkids that lived within 50 miles of them. TBH, if I had not been married with a good job, I would have done it. She died Aug.6, 1989. The day before my birthday.
Losing/Making friends after you’ve outgrown the bar scene.
Also, the amount of friends you lose after getting married was a shocker, too. They just stop inviting you out or even over to their houses.
lol and the excuse they give for not coming over is priceless "We LiVe AcRoSs ThE rIvEr. It'S tOo FaRrrrrrr."
Your bills are wrong. Someone counted wrong or forgot to file a form and now you must pay hundreds of euro extra for electricity unless you get on the phone and argue with a stranger before 5pm today.
Cheese is so expensive
Rent
I didn't know rent would be so high, and all the extra requirements there are just to get accepted: credit, rent history, job longevity, income rate. And if you're missing something you'll need a cosigner, where you're locked into needing one forever because all your tenancy history and rent payment credit goes to the cosigner.
That your parents, if they live long enough will look to you to be the adult in the room.
Depression as an adult, at least as a kid you get healthy amounts of attention and love, and as a teenager you get to have a group of people to spend time and look away.
Being on your own in that abyss really is something I could have never envisioned
Paying sales tax when you buy a vehicle and then subsequently having to pay property tax on the same vehicle each year.
Where did all my friends go?
find new ones. They convene around common interests, join a club. Also neighbours are mostly nice people. Internet is good too.
I thought for a long time that 65 was a magic age--you could stop working, and get a LOT of money, that you had never saved. Like the government just gave it to you. Of course Social Security is like that, except for the "LOT" part.
Something needs to change in our society or I dont see how we can continue. Most young people I know is poor and has terrible emntal health. How long can we keep this up?
I believe something is gonna change whether people want it to or not.
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I LOVE the freedom that comes with ageing. Choosing which social rules I find important, ignoring the rest.
I don't think you can be fully prepared for adulthood. Parents should (try) to educate their children on how to handle "life" in general. What and how to behave: in general, conflict, etc. Give them tools.
I feel that the problem is that parents in the last decades hid too many of their problems to their kids so they grew up thinking that life was going to be fair and easy. You shouldnt burden your kids all the time of course but its not ok to make them believe that life is always good.
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When you became 50 but it feels you were 30 just 2 months ago.
How much is sucks not being able to punch another adult. Some people really deserve to be punched but assult is illegal.
Am I the only one that has a kid could never imagine themselves as adults? Couldn't imagine the kids or the car or the house payment? Paying taxes and the 9-5? I'm very much an adult and still can't see it.
All it took was 2 elections and 1 bad term for me to discover that roughly half the people in this country are nuts.
This kind of post needs to come with a warning lol. Reading these all together is enough to trigger depression if you’re that way inclined. Yes, adulthood can be hard and a lot of work, but it can also be extremely rewarding and being massive joy. Reading this post makes it super easy to forget that
You are absolutely right Natalie!! Being an adult, even with an ordinary mundane life, gives you opportunities to discover great things!
Load More Replies... And many kids don't listen to their parents when they try to explain what to do to be successful.
Load More Replies... A general feeling of losing control over your own life because of all the things you HAVE to do, are EXPECTED to do or MUST do to maintain everything is what gets people the most. It's like your freedom is taken away from you. I'm probably speaking from privilige but I feel that lots of people could take back more control over their life than they think they can. I mean, you can't just get up and dump your kids and husband, but you CAN reevaluate just how much of a disaster will unfold if you DON'T immediately do this or that.
I love that this ended up being a board where many if us could share. I've only found this site a month ago but I've been very happy here. Nobody selling things, very few political discussions and strife between people. Ivd found such amazing strangers here! And this post was just a place where we could all share our same experiences. I know I probably talked lots but I felt safe! Less judgey people here. I love it!
I never thought I'd wind up with a chronic illness that forced out of a job I spent 9 years and a lot of money preparing for. Also a wife who worked through two pregnancies full term to help me do it. Yet, here I am. The hardest thing anyone will have to accept about being an adult is that life wasn't, isn't and never will be fair.
Here's on for me: Realizing that college students look like babies to me. I'm only 33 but it makes me feel like something recently uncovered in a tomb in Egypt.
Oh, and your parents thought that you were an a*hole in your teens. Then you think your teens are real a*holes. And they will think the same about your grandchild.
From a certain age you are much more relaxed than before... but at the same time some things annoy you all the more. I'm in my early 50s and really couldn't care less what others think of me. On the other hand... there has been constant construction going on somewhere in my neighborhood for almost 5 years now and the heavy construction vehicles are increasingly ruining our paved street ... which really annoys me.
No one ever tells you when you're a kid how expensive rugs are. Seriously, why do they cost so much?
I'm missing one for the ladies. Some of us have been and others haven't been prepared for getting periods. I was. Thought it was a good thing. I knew I was to expect bleeding monthly. Didn't know I was to expect feeling like s**t so many days in advance that for half a month I'd feel happy and on top of the world and the other half crying all the time and craving chocolate and feeling all together miserable. Every month again. Year in year out. Now I look forward to see this misery end, but when I look at ladies who are older than me I wonder if that would make me happy because they all (at least in my surroundings) become nagging sour pusses with marital problems so now I'm like: is that what I'm looking forward too?
It's honestly scary how relatable most of these are. I mean it's good to know I'm not alone but it's more depressing in a way. We need to do better. We need to work on humanity. Work on SOCIETY.
Having been raised to be ready for the apocalypse, and on a farm (mostly), I can say that my childhood prepared me to be an adult by age 10, and I'd have liked to be a kid a bit more, but ... A pandemic hits, and I was basically, "OK, got this," and on life went/goes. Would've been nice to be a "kid" more, but that wasn't our option.
All the comments above is because you are all snowflakes and lazy, typical millennial excuses for your mental health.....your generation is useless and always complain about how things are so hard, and its hard to be an adult....just think how many generations before you survived with far less than you have.....bad internet connection and you all cry and seek a social worker.....f me......part of life..suck it up snowflakes
Most of these come from bad parenting and being an atheist. Both suck and make your life miserable. You can change it tho...
When we started giving out participation trophy's to kids for just showing up. Now it seems like everyone thinks they deserve everything everyone else has and they lose their minds when they can't have it. Just because your parents are well off, doesn't mean you will be.
Something needs to change in our society or I dont see how we can continue. Most young people I know is poor and has terrible emntal health. How long can we keep this up?
I believe something is gonna change whether people want it to or not.
Load More Replies... I LOVE the freedom that comes with ageing. Choosing which social rules I find important, ignoring the rest.
I don't think you can be fully prepared for adulthood. Parents should (try) to educate their children on how to handle "life" in general. What and how to behave: in general, conflict, etc. Give them tools.
I feel that the problem is that parents in the last decades hid too many of their problems to their kids so they grew up thinking that life was going to be fair and easy. You shouldnt burden your kids all the time of course but its not ok to make them believe that life is always good.
Load More Replies... When you became 50 but it feels you were 30 just 2 months ago.
How much is sucks not being able to punch another adult. Some people really deserve to be punched but assult is illegal.
Am I the only one that has a kid could never imagine themselves as adults? Couldn't imagine the kids or the car or the house payment? Paying taxes and the 9-5? I'm very much an adult and still can't see it.
All it took was 2 elections and 1 bad term for me to discover that roughly half the people in this country are nuts.
This kind of post needs to come with a warning lol. Reading these all together is enough to trigger depression if you’re that way inclined. Yes, adulthood can be hard and a lot of work, but it can also be extremely rewarding and being massive joy. Reading this post makes it super easy to forget that
You are absolutely right Natalie!! Being an adult, even with an ordinary mundane life, gives you opportunities to discover great things!
Load More Replies... And many kids don't listen to their parents when they try to explain what to do to be successful.
Load More Replies... A general feeling of losing control over your own life because of all the things you HAVE to do, are EXPECTED to do or MUST do to maintain everything is what gets people the most. It's like your freedom is taken away from you. I'm probably speaking from privilige but I feel that lots of people could take back more control over their life than they think they can. I mean, you can't just get up and dump your kids and husband, but you CAN reevaluate just how much of a disaster will unfold if you DON'T immediately do this or that.
I love that this ended up being a board where many if us could share. I've only found this site a month ago but I've been very happy here. Nobody selling things, very few political discussions and strife between people. Ivd found such amazing strangers here! And this post was just a place where we could all share our same experiences. I know I probably talked lots but I felt safe! Less judgey people here. I love it!
I never thought I'd wind up with a chronic illness that forced out of a job I spent 9 years and a lot of money preparing for. Also a wife who worked through two pregnancies full term to help me do it. Yet, here I am. The hardest thing anyone will have to accept about being an adult is that life wasn't, isn't and never will be fair.
Here's on for me: Realizing that college students look like babies to me. I'm only 33 but it makes me feel like something recently uncovered in a tomb in Egypt.
Oh, and your parents thought that you were an a*hole in your teens. Then you think your teens are real a*holes. And they will think the same about your grandchild.
From a certain age you are much more relaxed than before... but at the same time some things annoy you all the more. I'm in my early 50s and really couldn't care less what others think of me. On the other hand... there has been constant construction going on somewhere in my neighborhood for almost 5 years now and the heavy construction vehicles are increasingly ruining our paved street ... which really annoys me.
No one ever tells you when you're a kid how expensive rugs are. Seriously, why do they cost so much?
I'm missing one for the ladies. Some of us have been and others haven't been prepared for getting periods. I was. Thought it was a good thing. I knew I was to expect bleeding monthly. Didn't know I was to expect feeling like s**t so many days in advance that for half a month I'd feel happy and on top of the world and the other half crying all the time and craving chocolate and feeling all together miserable. Every month again. Year in year out. Now I look forward to see this misery end, but when I look at ladies who are older than me I wonder if that would make me happy because they all (at least in my surroundings) become nagging sour pusses with marital problems so now I'm like: is that what I'm looking forward too?
It's honestly scary how relatable most of these are. I mean it's good to know I'm not alone but it's more depressing in a way. We need to do better. We need to work on humanity. Work on SOCIETY.
Having been raised to be ready for the apocalypse, and on a farm (mostly), I can say that my childhood prepared me to be an adult by age 10, and I'd have liked to be a kid a bit more, but ... A pandemic hits, and I was basically, "OK, got this," and on life went/goes. Would've been nice to be a "kid" more, but that wasn't our option.
All the comments above is because you are all snowflakes and lazy, typical millennial excuses for your mental health.....your generation is useless and always complain about how things are so hard, and its hard to be an adult....just think how many generations before you survived with far less than you have.....bad internet connection and you all cry and seek a social worker.....f me......part of life..suck it up snowflakes
Most of these come from bad parenting and being an atheist. Both suck and make your life miserable. You can change it tho...
When we started giving out participation trophy's to kids for just showing up. Now it seems like everyone thinks they deserve everything everyone else has and they lose their minds when they can't have it. Just because your parents are well off, doesn't mean you will be.
