30 Times Know-It-Alls Shamed Moms For The Stupidest Reasons, As Shared In This Online Thread

I wish I could upvote this one more. Fellow pandas, bring it to the top!

Having a child that isn't healthy doesn't mean you're a bad mum! When your baby is born with health problems or disabilities, the mum often feels guilty that she did something to cause the baby to be born that way. She feels ashamed that her baby isn't perfect. This post amplifies it; this woman talks about being mommy shamed but as her children were all "healthy as horses" so she sees no reason she should be shamed. Yet she is throwing shade at the momma who's child isn't healthy. It isn't deliberate, but it does infer that if her child wasn't healthy she may deserve some of the shade thrown her way. We all know that's not the case, but a mum, particularly a new mum, reading this whilst holding her baby with complex needs may well feel mommy shamed by this.

I worried about what others thought when my children were growing up, too. They are all also healthy, well-adjusted adults and great parents. Great job!

Nadine, I just upvoted. Wise words.

Great. SATM and sacrifing everything b/c USA daycare sucks. In Finland it has been default for women to work and kids in daycare/school/at home after school. Ofc there has been arguing on dads' reponsibilities, resulting men facing "fu, ain't nobody have time for rhat"

I wish I could upvote this more than once, just for the idea of having to protect your tits from the cat. Sarcasm is clearly the only possible response.

When I was a baby, my mom's cat (which had babies two years before I was born) would always try to nurse and clean me because it remembered having kittens. Cats don't murder babies, they're not stupid.

Anytime someone said that to me about the cats, I'd look at them like they were the dumbest person that existed and tell them that my cats want no parts of a crying baby and when they do go near her it's because they smell milk on her breath and are sniffing, not sucking the life force out of her.

I don't have cats, but could there be a possibility where the cat might sit too close to the baby and suffocate them? Or leave hair in their mouth and nose somehow? And how long would it take for the baby to suffocate? Because I somehow doubt that people will leave their baby unattended for such a long time for this to happen? Should this be a real worry?

There is a perfectly reasonable reaction. Just throw the handicapped tiny humans to the bin and tell your in-laws that you have resolved their problem, no worries anymore!

I had this from my MIL "you'll spoil that baby if you keep picking her up all the time!!" You can't spoil a baby with comfort and safety.

Humans are carriers. That means that it is completely normal and healthy that the human baby is carried by a parent. That's where they feel safest. Horses for example are completely different. They learn how to stand and run really fast, because that is the safest for them. And the babies of a cat or a rabbit will remain hidden, while the mother is searching for food. It is natural for humans to be carried, and both parents and babies benefit from it. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

I don't know why people have a problem with this. My kid couldn't fall asleep unless I cuddled and held her. She was three when she finally grew out of it and was able to go to sleep on her own. I think she was able to do that because she was secure and knew that I was there. I just don't know what benefit there is to NOT comforting your child. They are babies for like 1/2 a second... cherish it!

Aww, I loved when my babies slept on me. They are so big now, 18 and 16, and they will never be small enough to do it again. I'm sure there were times when I was tired and I wanted them to just sleep in the crib, but enjoy it while you can!!

Ugh I love that parents often want to give advice when they emotionally neglected or traumatized their own kids. I get wanting to help someone learn from your mistakes but if you say 'this is what I did' and I look at the result of that being a neurotic and incapable adult.... you need to keep your opinion to yourself.

We need to stop saying these things in our heads and start saying them outloud

Can we stop praising men who actually parent their children as if it's some kind of anomaly? It's the bare minimum I expect from my spouse. I didn't have our son by myself, and neither does any other woman. I'm not bashing good fathers. I'm bashing society who acts like men need extra special praise for doing the work women have been doing since the beginning of humankind. Thanks for reading my rant.

Ironically, leaving babies outside sleeping in strollers is good habitz in Scandinavia and Iceland...

I can't upvote this enough

Same.... my husband and I both had a role as a stay at home parent at some point, and people always seemed shocked he could care for a toddler. He's a good dad.

If the new way to parent means: trying to find a gentle way to get along with the emotional struggles of kids that have to deal with stressful situations instead of: shouting at them and hitting them: YES! And as a mom of four year old twins I can absolutely feel this situation

What a stupid and mean old bat.

"Is this how your generation supports the one you raised?"

My 3 year old twins would NEVER have behaved this way in a store. Because of COVID and lockdown. Instead they behaved that way at home. But seriously, you're outnumbered 2 to 1! How are you supposed to manage that? Good job not losing your cool on your kids in an already stressful situation. Or the old biddy, I guess.

I'm sorry, if you see a mom in a situation like that you should respond with compassion. Parenting isn't easy at the best of times and no kid, no matter how well-behaved for the most part, is perfect.

So the dad participating in taking care of their children is the sin? How great this world would be if that was an actual problem and the rest would be taken care of...

I've changed many a nappy... dont feel less of a man for looking after my daughter.

Why are these mother's such wimps? Stand up and tell her to mind her her own business or shut the f**k up!

I’d have told her in fluent Spanish, kiss my butt, or words equivalent.

I wonder when we are evolved enough as societies to teach our boys and men that is natural to take care of your own children.

I despise her .. on your behalf

And so? Women's bodies are different, and some of them are just simply better built to handle a pregnancy and there simply is nothing you can do about it if, you otherwise live a decently healthy lifestyle. As you cannot change the body you live in in this regard, there is no reason to get stuck on that "detail" it is what it is, which mother in law should be informed about as gently as possible (only bite on second strike, and only after having sounded the ratler).

Nobody told her that every pregnancy is different!

B***h

What an @ssh0le!

How about saying it nicely and let the parent decide? Especially if the parent is capable of making decisions like that and not incapacitated in any way.