50 Times Guys Humiliated Themselves By Mansplaining Things To Women
If you are a woman, the chances are you've experienced mansplaining at least once at some point in your life. Whether at work or university, with friends, at a gym or while getting your car repaired, it seems like no place is free from overconfident and condescending men who think that they know things better than you. So they do explain it, without being asked to do so.
Not only is it super annoying, mansplaining is demeaning too, so by no means is it an innocent practice. So this time, we’re taking a look into what mansplaining experiences women witness time and again, as shared in these online threads.
Scroll down through the stories below and be sure to share your thoughts about delusional men talking down to women in the comments.
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I was taking my car in to get the winter tires off. I was between services (and couldn't be bothered to do it myself) so I was getting it done at a one of those drive-thru places it might have been a Jiffy Lube.
One of the guys that works there comes out and tells me that he will drive the car in. Then slowly, like I'm an idiot, mansplains that I would have to drive my car just so to get it over the hydraulics and that there are big holes in the floor for getting under cars that aren't raised up. The jist his mansplaination being, that it would he hard for a little woman like me to drive my car into the shop.
So, they finish up with the guy ahead of me pretty quickly (we were the only two there). About ten minutes pass and they haven't brought my car in. I look out the waiting room window and see all six guys that are working there crowded around my car outside.
Now, I started to get really nervous thinking something is wrong with my car. But I opt not to bother them, figuring that they will come tell me what's wrong when they've got it figured out.
Another 15 minutes pass and someone pulls up behind my car. That's when the guy that originally explained to me how an auto shop works, finally comes into the waiting room. It's been 25 minutes since the guy before me left, so I brace myself for awful news delivered in a mansplaination.
But no, buddy politely asks me if I could drive my car onto the hydraulics for them. Turns out of all 6 dudes, not a single one knows how to drive a standard.
So, after mansplaining to me that it would be hard for me to drive my car into the shop, they waited almost a half an hour to tell me that not one guy in the shop could even drive my car.
Bought my standard last year. Salesperson couldn't drive stick, so I had to wiggle it out of the odd spot they had it parked on the lot. Only person at the dealership I encountered that could drive it confidently (1 guy revved the engine while trying badly & couldn't get it in reverse) was also the only woman working in the service department.
I was weeding stinging nettles at my work and this guy came up behind me and explained how you have to pull up the roots for it be effective (I am obviously already doing that and I was literally at work). So I asked him to show me and dumbass grabbed the biggest stinging nettle and got stings all over his arm and face. I was very happy.
One of my husband's friends explained PTSD to me. He is an IT dude. I am a therapist specializing in trauma.
Bored Panda reached out to Nicole Froio, the feminist writer and researcher, who argues that mansplaining is one of many daily aggressions women go through in a sexist and misogynistic society. “It has to be understood as a part of a larger system of oppression rather than an isolated incident.”
According to Froio, mansplaining comes from the assumption that women and other non-men don't have the intelligence to understand the topic at hand, which is a sexist and misogynistic assumption. “The mansplainer will explain something that the woman probably knows already, usually in a condescending and infantilizing way,” Froio noted.
This happened to my work wife, not me. On Facebook, she posted a link to an article about mansplaining. A man then commented on the post to clarify to her what mansplaining actually is, and how it actually works. He mansplained mansplaining.
So this was quite a few years ago. I was at a party at someone's house and there were some guitars floating around. I wanted to play one and this guy started mansplaining to me about how to tune a guitar and how to hold a plectrum and how I should try Nirvana's Come As You Are as it's one of the easiest songs to play even though I hadn't asked how to tune a guitar or said I couldn't play. Then he started playing Under The Bridge by the Red Hot Chili Peppers, badly, just strumming some rough chords for the intro.
So I asked if I could have a go and proceeded to play an absolutely perfectly rendered version of Under the Bridge. His face was a picture.
A white dude explained Chinese New Year to me. I'm Chinese.
I have had African American culture explained to me by non African Americans. I am African American.
“When this happens in a professional setting, this can result in the woman in a professional setting feeling disrespected and/or inept for doing their job, they could feel like they've been publicly humiliated in front of their colleagues and feeling a general loss of respect for her expertise,” she explained.
“What I usually say to men trying to not be mansplainers is that asking can go a long way—instead of assuming a person doesn't know about a certain topic, why not ask 'Do you know how this works?' or 'I'm not sure if you're familiar with this, but if you do, feel free to stop me?' These are simple ways to correct behavior that might accidentally harm someone.”
Guess that was a debate I had with some colleagues on a project or something, I don't remember, it was about the Thai boys that got stuck in a cave. I voiced my opinion and said that there is only way to ensure the rescuers' safety, it's by knocking the boys unconscious, tying them up, strapping a mask around them and pulling them out like a bag of sand. I then got laughed at some dude started to explain how scuba diving with "oxygen bottles" (yes indeed) works and that it's so easy, boys can learn that, they are brave boys... Well, I am an advanced diver with close to 300 dives which he had no idea about. I know how panicked swimmers or divers react. Btw, the boys were rescued exactly as I had said.
The absolute worst thing that can happen is the panic of an inexperienced person flailing and drowning themselves and their rescuer... then in addition to that tragedy, you have corpses blocking other rescue divers and the people they are rescuing... this is so much more dangerous in a flooded cave bc of the confinement. The divers already have so much to focus on with equipment and navigation; sedation was the safest option.
During my first few months as a registered architect working for my dad, an engineer told me to call my daddy since he wasn't satisfied with my answer.
He literally said, "Call your daddy about it."
I took a deep breath, and tried not to clobber him. He was an old man, the same age as my dad.
I called my dad on loudspeaker, and he answered the same thing. He also told them to listen to me.
Hah.
A man once tried to tell me what women on tinder want. When I argued with him he told me I didn’t know what I was talking about then he linked me a YouTube video of another man saying what women on tinder want.
I know what women want because I watched a youtube video on them. Even though The last time I was in a 6ft radius, I was with my mum.
While Froio would not classify mansplaining as one of the worst things experienced by women in a patriarchal system, she would say that “it is wrong because it rectifies the gender structure on an interpersonal level.”
“For example, you might be a woman in a male-dominated industry where your expertise is already undervalued because that field is male-dominated, and then one of your colleagues mansplains a simple concept everyone in the office is familiar with.”
Froio argues that “this can lead to things like imposter syndrome and an unwelcome work environment for women, where people's suspicions about the woman's supposed lack of expertise is rectified by the mansplaining.”
argued with my boyfriend that though it was discovered awhile ago, it was only recently discovered what clitoris does… he said, and i quote, “but it’s been around since the 1800s.” he deadass told me the clit had only been around since the 1800s.
Sooo it's only been around for the last 200 years and still half the male population still can't find it 😕
A guy I was dating lost his work iPad. I told him to use the Find My app and he went on a tirade about how he couldn't use that. I rolled my eyes and though, "Fine. Have fun explaining to your boss that you lost a brand new iPad."
He calls me back later and tells me that Assistant Male Boss is a genius! It was Assistant Male Boss' idea to use Find My app and they found the iPad. What a miracle!
He then procceded to mansplain how the app works.
I had a man try to tell me that women's vaginas can't stretch to accommodate anything bigger than a strictly average sized penis, therefore it was a waste of time for any manufacturer to make any dildo bigger than 5 inches(!).
I think he might have had some insecurities going on in the trouser department.
That's a harsh judgement. He may have copied that from Sex and the City: There's this episode where they meet a dildo model in Los Angeles, and Miranda says something along the lines of "The average vagina is only 5 inches deep." (No idea whether that's true) Kind of strange how all comments refer to how babies are born. The vagina doesn't stretch in length during birth but in width.
Good point, he was referring to length, and a TV show may indeed have been his best chance at getting any sex ed
Load More Replies...Who wants a gigantic thing shoved up there anyway, except...a man...who thinks this is the seat of pleasure. Not.
Some people like it and there's nothing wrong about that either.
Load More Replies...Wait a minute. The length doesn't have to do with the stretching. He's partly right, though, in that the cervix is only so far up. It's different for each woman but it can be 3-5 inches high.
..... man... wait until he learns about how babies are born.... spoiler... IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH A STORK OR BIRBS & BEES!
Considering average size of women clitoris, 5" is good enough for the stimulation, rest is just vanity bonus 😅🙈
I hope you did not say anything bad back to him, because you should be kind when talking to the mentally r******d.whooow re tard ed got edited
Woman here... I think he's referring to length, not girth. Putting anything too long in, you'd likely hit the cervix, which would painful to go beyond that. Some women have a short space, and can only handle 4-5" in length (or less in some cases). Girth is a whole other story :)
I once had a man tell me "Size doesn't matter, he has to be tasty!" Uuurrgh, no, thanks...
This is definitely true. I'm larger than average and will die a virgin because of that.
Is this sarcasm? Please tell me this is sarcasm. If not, are you aware how babies are born?
Load More Replies...Moreover, mansplaining is one of the many social phenomena that work to rectify a system of subjugation, and Froio would say that's the reason it is wrong.
When asked about the best ways to react if you are being mansplained to, Froio said that personally, she finds being assertive quite important when responding to mansplaining.
“I usually respond by saying things like 'Thanks for explaining, but I already knew that' or even interrupting the mansplainer and saying 'Sorry to interrupt, but I already know that, so we can move onto the next topic instead of wasting time.'"According to the writer, your response doesn't need to be overtly about gendered dynamics.
“It can just be a gentle nudge to the fact that you are knowledgeable and that you don't need an explanation,” Froio concluded.
I wrote a process that was used at our work. 25k people in this business. A guy explained my own process to me, showing it to me with my name written at the top.
He'd invited me to the meeting .....
I don't know if it counts as mansplaining, but sometimes I'll say something and a man will say the exact same thing back to me as if he's making a new point and when I say "that's literally what I just said" they just lose it. Just. Why.
You only want one example...? The most infuriating example was when my “supervisor” at BioLife tried to tell me that I could get over Endometriosis and chronic migraines with “the power of positive thinking”, and I looked him dead in the face, said “that may work for you, but I’ve had these issues since I was 12 years old. I have tried literally everything including “positive thinking”, which is a toxic thing to say to a sick person, btw, and I know exactly what works for me by now and what doesn’t, so don’t ever say that to me again. Are we clear?” And for some background info, we’d been discussing my issues, and he cut me off and said “I never even get a cold, you have to rely on the power of positive thinking”. Meanwhile I was on my way to a hysterectomy bc of endometriosis and cervical cancer, but I didn’t mention the cancer bc it was caught very early with routine screening, thankfully, and it wasn’t everyone’s business.
I'm sorry you went through this. Most of us with chronic health issues are well used to people making supposedly helpful suggestions that imply that if only we made more effort then we'd be cured. Like the time a male friend told me that I just needed to meditate in a certain way to heal my fibromyalgia and ME. When I was sceptical he went on to say I was ill because of my failure to take responsibility for getting better. Apparently he knew this one girl he met online who had used meditation so therefor he knew more about it than all the healthcare professionals and more than me, after being too ill to work for 10 years and have spent much of that time researching as much as I can.
We also spoke with Priscilla Kavanaugh, the writer, designer, and content creator who runs the blog “Bonjour Bitches Blog.” She previously went viral for this illuminating Twitter thread on mansplaining. Bored Panda wrote about it in this previous article, so you may want to check it out. According to Kavanaugh, we have a long way to go because “men are more threatened by women than ever.” She believes that it's going to take a long time to untie this knot and we have to be prepared for that.
I was giving an informal speech at school and one of my classmates in the audience kept interrupting my speech to explain to me what I was talking about.
And I'm like "Thanks, I know what I'm talking about. That's why I'm up here."
The pronunciation of my own name.
I was in the sprinkler aisle of the Home Depot looking for the correct replacement head for my system. And a dude just sidles up and starts explaining to me the different parts of a system and how water pressure is so important, and how complicated it is. I kept trying to cut him off telling him I knew and didn’t need his help, he just wouldn’t take a hint. I finally got shitty with him and told him I didn’t need his help because I was a plumbing engineer.
Kavanaugh also doesn’t think that mansplainers understand that their behavior is damaging. She believes that in many cases, they don't particularly care. In order to fight mansplainers, Kavanaugh argues, we have to stop being afraid of making mansplainers uncomfortable.
“There are a lot of great articles about how to respond when you're being mansplained. Find an approach that's comfortable for you, whether it's making a joke or saying something more direct like ‘I just explained that, Jim,’ ‘I think my explanation was more than adequate,’ or ‘I don't think we need to further reiterate what I've been saying but thank you for chiming in.’”
A mechanical engineer, my ex-boyfriend's brother, explained how medical genetics works to me. It's fine though, I'm only a medical geneticist who's been working in the field for 5 years.
A dude went on to explain how i could hold in my period. He really believed you could do that
Got in an argument with a dude who was suggesting that cellulite was rare, and that only overweight women have it (based on his experiences browsing Instagram and checking out women at the beach - literally, he said this). I pointed out that it was so common as to be a secondary sex characteristic for women.
When he started fighting with anecdotal evidence, I in turn pointed out that I, a borderline underweight woman, had cellulite - and that a close friend of mine, who is literally a salaried model, also had cellulite.
His closing argument was that, as a dude, he more closely examines women's bodies than I do (note: I hadn't divulged my sexuality at any point), and that I was invalidating his lived experiences as a man.
Moreover, we as a society need to rewrite the narrative from day one. “Instead of teaching girls to be polite and passive, we need to empower them and teach them that their input has value; and boys need to be taught that girls are their equals,” Kavanaugh concluded.
How to breastfeed.... With my second child.
How the heck is he going to know how to breastfeed anyway? A) it's her second child. B) he's a guy, who DOES NOT have the ability to produce milk in order to breastfeed a child. Idiot.
In my country an article about women in gaming was making a lot of noise at the time. It was about the sexism in every aspect of the community : female characters too sexy, women players & sexual harassment, babes in bikini at game cons etc.
For me and my female gamer friends it was old news. We spoke about the article and added our own experience to it.
Men decided to explain to us how the article was wrong because **they** never saw sexism in video games and cons, never. So we were lying and making up stories.
Sure enough they finished by saying they were not sexist and never had been.... 🙄
Edit : conjugation. Sorry english isn't my first langage.
My boyfriend's colleague (in a completely non-medical job) told him I was not having a miscarriage while it was happening; boyfriend then explained it to me, believing every word. He didn't enjoy my response to that.
Man: it’s hailing.
Me: (looks around) huh, yeah.
Man: It’s frozen water falling from the sky.
Me: 👀🙄
The time when a data analyst explained to me, the main engineer on the project, that I wasn't qualified to comment on anything in the meeting because I was new and didn't know anything. His boss (who later became one of my good buddies) was STUNNED.
He also asked me to stay behind and "help" him on something after the meeting and after everyone left he started explaining to me how he hadn't wanted to ~intimidate me and he could tell he had (no, I hadn't been, his boss had actually told him to listen to me before I could calmly destroy his ego), and how he knows it's difficult to be a female engineer and how he wants to be supportive because he has daughters and he's afraid how the world will treat them in the future.
A dude explained to me how dinosaurs are extinct. Thank god he did or otherwise I would've never found out.
I had some white guy from Sweden tell me I'm wrong about my own language when he wanted me to translate something from a korean series that apparently wasn't translated in the subtitles that he watched on netflix.
He told me he's hearing 좋아 in some interaction in the series, I told him that sounds wrong because it doesn't make sense in that context.
I started the series on netflix myself and found the interaction he was talking about, the word he inquired about was 저하, not 좋아. I told him what they were actually were saying means.
He insisted he was hearing 좋아 even though I told him he's wrong. They were saying 저하. He still insisted he was hearing 좋아 and said I was wrong.
Why? Because that's what it sounded like to him. Nooo, don't trust the person who actually speaks the language natively but think you are getting it right just by listening as a non-speaker of the language.
Playing Overwatch.
I asked him what rating he was at, I couldn't queue with him on my main account because I was too high rating. I switched to a new account I was lvling at the time to just play some quick play with him instead.
He then started explaining to me what I have to do and so on.
He was silver, almost bronze. I was diamond on my main account, almost master.
He never asked to play with me again after I just destroyed the games.
Sometimes, I don't like to assume a man is "mansplaining" because he may be the type to over explain everything to everyone--men included. So I try to only assume it in situations where a man is telling me about LADY STUFF.
My father has a tendency to tell me what women believe. He generalizes to a laughable degree and tells me, his Master's educated feminist daughter-- about women's overall opinions and flaws. So, not only is he being sexist, but his "mansplaining" is inaccurate.
My father has spent most of his life around mostly women and even he doesn't explain woman stuff to me.
Earlier this year I had a man a few years younger than me explain how the female orgasm is achieved. I have had it figured out for about 25 years now, so I told him that and he kept going with his instructions. He also just can't understand why I have no interest in a sexual relationship with him.
I also had one of my brothers explain how to change a diaper to me, while I was in the middle of changing my 3rd babies diaper.
I get a lot of guys trying to tell me "what women are like" and "what women want."
Last time I checked, I was a woman. And they are always so, so wrong..
Dude I was on a date with started explaining why my office might be warm… 10 minutes after I told him I was an HVAC engineer. I just let him dig that hole, staring him down until he trailed off. Then he quietly added “uhh I guess you know all that”, to which I nodded.
At least he had a hint of illumination at the end. Not always the case.
I have a shirt with the constellations on it. It's not an accurate sky map by any means, but I like it. I wore it to the store one day and a man behind me started telling me that the stars were inaccurate and did not form a map of the sky. I turned back to him and explained that the front of the shirt was summer stars and the back of the shirt was winter stars so no, they do not form a continuous map. He stopped talking after that.
Ok Picture the scene
I am best in my country at the sport I do, and top 20 in the world.
We have very specialized equipment requiring a lot of care.
I was taking a look at my best friends equipment (she is best in her country too), and feeling the edges, and talking about how the edges were really blunt. Like, REALLY blunt. (thats bad)
Dude walks up to us.
Dude has never done the sport before (this was his first day)
he feels my friends equipment without permission (HUGE no no)
"This is actually really sharp for <type of sled> edges."
My friend: Immediately bursts out laughing
Me: Too stunned for words.
Eventually I give him a bit of a berating for pulling that c**p, and told him to never touch someone else's equipment without permission. He was such a douche. Hes quit the sport now (luckily) don't have to see him ever again.
My cousin and I were setting up the Find My Friends app and were told:
"You know you aren't actually tracking each other, you're tracking the phone?"
Ya we know.
My friend’s spouse tried to explain how stocks and options work to me at a party. I have a PhD in finance. He figured he still should tell me how financial markets work.
About how the vagina gets enormously big and sloppy if you have sex with many penises, big dildos or have babies. Only 1 smallish penis is acceptable ever.
Multiple men have mansplained this to me, and it's not even correct. A vagina is not made of memory foam!
One sent along a photo of someone's vagina with a very severe prolapse, saying that is what happens to all women after they give birth (I am a mother and certainly did not have a prolapse). And then he asked me if the "carpet matches the curtains", like his type always do to redhead women.
A dude who had admittedly never ridden a horse before explained the theory behind modern day horseback riding to me at the bar. He was a stranger. I am a horse trainer
On one of my work calls, this male employee was explaining to a female manager what her subordinate was "intending".
The manager replied saying "Yes, Dave. I know what she said. I asked her to convey it to you"
A professor of my university, whose seminars I hadn't taken, as he had a reputation of dismissing women, and especially women in teacher's studies (here, the seminars are mixed, so if you are in a history seminar, you'll see aspiring historians and history teachers), tried to explain Robert Burns' gothic poems to me. I had just written a thesis about this. Which I had been asked to present in his seminar. By him. Who didn't know jacksh*t about Burns or his poetry, because he was focusing his research on American gothic literature and only wanted me to present Burns in a "yeah, and the British did it, too. Now you know." kind of way. Needless to say, I blatantly told him he was wrong and left. It was my last day at university anyways as I had just been given my diploma a few hours prior.
One of my friend’s boyfriend explained how the GameStop stock market manipulation happened (and the general basics of the stock market).
I graduated summa cum laude with a finance degree from one of the top business schools in our state. (With a few minors, including economics)
He got a general business degree from that same college with much worse grades than I did, and I helped him with his homework. (So he knows that I have a degree in the field)
I just absentmindedly nodded along until he stopped talking.
Some guy tried to explain the biology behind depression to me. My major is literally called psychobiology.
So many of these women's specialities are so facinating. I'd be in heaven listening to a woman talk about psychobiology. I would too if it were a man it's more that I can't imagine needing to hear myself talk rather than taking the opportunity to listen to someone share their field if they were so inclined.
When men find out I don't masturbate, they feel like they need to "fix" me and give some sort of advices. A man explained to me how a vibrator works. I know how a vibrator works. I just don't want it and frankly don't need it.
A guy also tried to explain to me how a tampon works. I just don't use it cause I don't want it. I prefer pads.
How the hell would this even come up in a conversation? How many men ? Good grief 😁
I’m a licensed RN and my brother tried to explain to me what nursing was all about.
Oh and another one. Years ago when I had a different career, this guy was delivering some audiovisual equipment to my office for review. He asked if I knew where "they" wanted it and evidently missed me pointedly saying where I wanted it put. He then started trying to explain how to hook it up. I made a slightly obnoxiously knowing comment about cables and mentioned that I was the tech editor, which shut him up...
Started at a gym recently, a man was showing me a baseball move but told me to pretend I was moving a laundry basket. Little did he know I played softball for 12 years…he ASSumed wrong :)!
I posted a selfie on Instagram with a caption about the fact that I'd had a panic attack a few hours earlier. A man told me that actually I couldn't have had a panic attack if I was posting a selfie with lipstick and fancy editing, and I wouldn't have been able to type. Therefore, I was just looking for attention.
Douche. A doctor (luckily a specialist for physical issues) didn't believe I am on antidepressants because of my sense of humor.)
Some random guy walking on a trail decided to tell me, a cyclist, that there was a hill ahead- okay sure, already knew that but whatever. He then, completely unprompted, started trying to explain that I should gear down for the hill and how to gear down.
I told him I already knew and biked off, but what the f**k? All of that was completely unprompted. I had stopped my bike to ask a different person if she’d seen my cycling buddy up ahead, because I wasn’t sure if they’d gone left or right, and this random guy decided that that meant I didn’t know how to use my own goddamn bike.
Oh god today I was mansplained too. My boyfriend was driving my car and drove it over a tall curb on accident. So we pulled over to a gas station and I got out to check my car for damage, got out and started looking at the undercarriage. A guy drove past me and yelled out his window, “The gas tank is on the side of the car!!!” ......... groundbreaking.
My own asthma.
Yeah, really.
When I was in 7th grade I couldn't run during gym, and I still can't, because of my asthma. It's severe and something I was born with. My gym teacher apparently also had asthma when he was a kid and he grew out of it. I understand that some people can grow out of their asthma, but I can't. He thought I was pretending it was worse than it was so I wouldn't have to run, even though I had a note from my doctor and I was perfectly willing to do the other exercises that I could do.
He told me that if I just ran every day, my asthma would go away. Like it would evaporate or some s**t
This moron really spent like 3 hours arguing with me about MY asthma and was acting like he knew more about it than I did because he USED to have asthma that was nothing like mine. I'm still salty.
(He also told me I wouldn't get away with pulling that c**p in high school and it literally took a 30 second conversation with my high school gym teacher and I was exempt from running for the entire year.)
Mate I am legitimately tired of being walked all over by these insecure babies who think that they are men.
Not sure if this counts, but I hate the "circling back around" thing. Like, I'll say how I had a problem, and ended up doing X. The guy is like "Well why didn't you do Y instead?", so I explain. Then it's "Well then why didn't you do Z?", so I explain that too. Then it's "Well then why didn't you do A?".
It goes all the way around the alphabet until he suggests I do X, and... I did. Like, me saying that I did X, and you thinking that you know better, is what started this.
People who do this will do it with males also, in my experience. In almost all the times I've encountered this it seems they want to lock you into admitting knowledge and capacity to handle certain things, then if anyone tries to blame them for an instance of something not going well that you were involved in they can cite these discussions as indicating they didn't need to intervene, you'd already represented how competent you are in that. It's a CYA thing, but it is only their own a*s they are seeking to cover. I've also encountered plenty of females using this tactic to cover themselves and put the blame on someone else should they not intervene in a timely way, so maybe it isn't mansplainin'.
My husband is the kind of guy who loves to learn. He loves knowledge. I do not share his passion for constant learning about things, I need a break. I don't think he means to, but he explains some really obvious stuff to me sometimes and I'm like... yeah, I know. He'll explain things to me that he learned in college about my culture. He'll explain to me what I should do to calm down (I have an anxiety and panic disorder). He'll explain to me how female hormones work. He honestly doesn't realise he's doing it but it rags the tits off me sometimes.
I had a guy tell me and a client in the gym that he would "show us how to use the weights". I had on my personal trainer shirt and in session with a client.
And then he wanted us to believe he had some pull and could get us PT sessions for free.
As a fat woman... Diets, yes I only drink water, yeah I know count calories and work out.
I had my bf try to mansplain something about Mars’ geology to me. I’m a geology major, who’s done research on Martian geology for three years now, and is about to go to grad school for planetary science. Wtf.
We were watching Rome and my partner tried to (incorrectly) explain Roman Imperial cults to me. While sitting next to my DEGREE in classical history.
A man very recently on reddit explained female masturbation to me…
A guy explained to me how to go up the stairs while wearing a floor length dress without tripping, as if he had done that more often than I have.
I was new to a factory and hired for my forklift license +5years experience. I was being shown the machine I'll be using by a guy and his exact words were "hydraulics means it goes up and down" and "these metal tynes are what make it a forklift".
The dude didn't even have a license.
I was sitting in a lecture about a year or two ago and was shooting off a few quick emails on my laptop. At the end of the lecture the guy behind me says "So, I was watching you write your emails..." GREAT way to start a conversation, btw. "...and I noticed you didn't have an automatic signature." He then tries to tell me how to add a signature on my emails.
The class was for people who are computer science majors or the very least highly tech literate...he thought I was an idiot.
At the gym, an old man went up to me while I was doing skull crushers and guided my arms when I was perfectly fine. He was speaking loudly about how I had to do it a certain way to feel it in my arms in front of everyone
I was not long ago informed about child labour and how “it’s not even that painful”. I’ve had four children. The man that tried to tell me the ins and outs of giving birth hasn’t ever even witnessed labour and delivery.
I was in Curry's (UK white goods/computer type store) once just looking for an ethernet cable, knew exactly what to get, what ends to look for etc. A male sales person asked me if I needed help and I said no, it's fine, I know what I'm getting. He then insisted i tell him and took me to an aisle with the completely wrong cables. I humored him for a while and when trying to politely back off he randomly starting quoting something he'd heard from David Hasslehoff once about women and technology. Completely irrelevant but obviously trying to belittle me (or impress me? Who knows). I just laughed in his face, picked up what I needed and said something along the lines of 'some advice, when trying to use your sales pitch , quoting The Hoff is not going to get you very far'. K**b.
Dude told me men were better drivers than women. I informed him that studies suggested women were safer drivers (fewer accidents or something). He said yeah, that's why men are better drivers because they had to learn how to steer out of those bad situations.
There was one time when I was telling my dad how I just saw the movie adaption of Les Mes. He responds by telling me about the plot...of the movie I just told him I saw.
Does he want to explain it to an autistic person whose special interest is Les Miserables? Because I’d love to flex my skill on someone like this.
My brother in law once explained to me how to trace a picture.
He gets the ridiculous mansplaining from my father in law, who mansplains everything. How to start a lawnmower, or pull a weed. Summarizing my thesis for me, incorrectly, without having read it or any research on the topic. The man literally repeats my words sometimes to make it seem like he is answering the question and not me.
Was changing my tire on the side of the road and a random guy ended up telling me how to do it and proceeded to demonstrate the technique. Then ran away when he knocked the jack off and nearly caused the wheel hub to break.
When we were 16 or 17 I had two guy friends tell me I was disgusting for not using soap to clean my vajayjay ;-;
Lol. Our (male) chemistry teacher explained that when covering pH values when we were 13-14.
I was halfway through building a small deck when my father felt the need to tell me how to use a screwdriver.
I was invited by a public interest group to do a talk on the tech community in our city as someone who worked at a startup and was pretty active in the community. The host asked what my thoughts were on the startup scene and before I could even answer, this random guy gets up and says “I can probably answer that for you” and proceeds to blabber on for several minutes like I’m not even there. That was exactly the topic I was invited for and I had no idea who this guy even was.
That's just damn rude - the host should've stepped in there and shut him down 😡
Went to a store to get a power bar with a surge protector. Got asked if I know what a surge is.
One dude explained me the correct way to read books when I was 12. And that person had never even touched a single book in his entire life apart from the school textbooks. He showed me how to hold a book without cracking the spine, while he himself was cracking it while trying to explain me (I love cracked spines, I don't know why, but I just do).
That bisexual women don't have problems related to their sexuality because everyone loves them.
That, or that time when a guy told me he'd protect me in a game he had played for 5 hours and I'd played competitively for a year at that point.
But he’s a DUDE so OBVIOUSLY he’s going to be naturally superior to you in all things video game! /s
This bartender tried to argue with me over something so stupid. I was just trying to be friendly and make conversation, so I asked him if he was Irish (this was an Irish bar). He told me yes he was, and I said that my family is Irish too. He then tells me “NO, you’re white and I hate when white people talk about all the countries they apparently are from.” I’m like....bro you JUST told me that you are Irish before I even said anything and you are also white? He then raised his voice at me and became very argumentative so much that everyone at this bar was just staring at me like I did something wrong...lmao ok
I guess it's just like some people didn't believe I'm Austrian - just because I didn't own a Drindl for a couple years. These dresses are expensive and I refuse to wear anything but the real ones - which with all the stuff you need with them - can easily cost a lot of money. The one I got this year for my sisters wedding was about 350€ without the alterations. Of course you can get a cheap one for 50€, but it's just not the same, it doesn't look the same and it certainly doesn't fit or feel the same. And if you get a real one you probably will be wearing it for years. Just wondering, are they talking Irish - like really from Ireland or are they talking American Irish (some ancestors generations ago). That always confuses me...
Ex boyfriend was an engineer and genuinely once described to me what a screw was because it was “complicated”
I have another one but this is slightly opposite. My husband mansplains to me alot. Most of the time it comes with an eye roll but he caught me out the other day and I found it hilarious. Our dogs were on the sofa sleeping and he says to them 'look at this luxury you have. In the old days you would've been up in the roof'. I was literally like 'wtf are you talking about now, why would they have been in the roof'?'. He then proceeds to tell me about the origin of the phrase 'raining cats and dogs". I had to Google it. He was right damn it!!!
Have another one, a man said “good luck” to me (woman) backing my trailer down a busy launch ramp-I proceeded to back up perfectly & get our boat hitched up & out…before he turned his car on to leave.
Guy at my work (i work there as a student) asked me what i study and i told him about it and about the master thesis i'm writing. He then proceeds to try and argue with me about my thesis subject , mansplaining the very subject i do research about to me, a subject that he didn't know sh*t about. I'm also a language teacher and he is known at work for being good at languages (basically the only thing that makes up for his social incompetence). Ever since i told him that, he constantly corrects my French, told me that "donc" isn't an existing word in French, lmao. He gets a kick out of making me feel dumb i think.
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Oh man, I have a good one for this. I don’t know how we got on the topic of names but my brother flat out said to me “you know you have two middle names” and I was dumbfounded at the level of this. I had to tell him my first name was two parts with a hyphen and I had one middle name (think Heaven-Leigh Hope but definitely not that name). He then proceeded to tell me he’s always thought I had two middle names and he was going to keep thinking it 🤦🏼♀️. This is one of the many stupid reasons I had my first name legally changed to get rid of the stupid hyphen.
I (62F) have a brother (58) who still cannot spell my name right. Oh, and my uncle who is also my godfather can't spell it correctly either.
When I told a guy in a bar I was a teacher, he asked me about the Common Core standards. I told him my thoughts as a professional, very briefly outlining some of the challenges but a lot of the things I thought were beneficial. His response:
"Yeah I saw some comedian talk about how he can't help his daughter do math anymore cuz of Common Core. Probably should get rid of 'em."
i work at a fast food place, basically how to do my job…and having them explain what i already know but ill rephrase it differently and theyd be like WELL ACTUALLY..and still end up w the same explanation as me lol
OMG!! This happened yesterday!! My husband man-splained summer to me hahahaha
Context: I am an American who has lived in Europe over 20 years and has worked for a British boss for 10 of those years.
A British man I have known for almost 20 years, who also knows my boss is British, explained to me literally last week based solely on a sh*tpost meme i posted on fb purely to sh*tpost, **that in England they don't call football soccer, only Americans call it soccer.**
First, why are you explaining sh*tpost memes to people. If i'm posting a meme why are you explaining it back to me. So that's mansplaining mistake number one.
Two, even if i was so culturally unaware or stupid, I speak French and German and soccer is "football" in French and a cognate in German, i think i would have figured it out at least a decade ago if my BRITISH BOSS hadn't clued me in.
Three, i call it soccer in English because I'm American. I use American vernacular. That does not imply ignorance of other regions' English vocabulary, it just implies i am AMERICAN.
The hell are you going to explain that to me. There's no way that looks good or justified.
Four, "soccer" is an English term invented in England for Association Football in order to differentiate it from Rugby Football.
Some of these aren't mansplaining, but they do give off the same 'women are / women can't/ women want--' assumptions vibe. As if we are another breed entirely. As if we aren't individual human beings with a diversity of skills, knowledge, and experience.
I guess it doesn't count as mansplaining when it's directed at me, but gotta say the dude who tried to correct me on Finnish history on this site got me kinda p*ssed off. I commented that Finland used to be a part of Sweden (it was for centuries, google it if you don't believe me) and he felt it necessary to comment that, no Finland used to a part of Russia (well yeah, for a lot less time) and Norway part of Sweden. I'm a Finn and have sat through countless of hours of Finnish history in school, but I guess you know better random internet guy.
A foreign guy on Facebook claimed that Finland once banned Donald Duck for not wearing pants. I corrected him with facts and attached an URL to back me up. He didn't change his mind and wanted an "official source", whatever it means, I don't know. But hey did you know that our goverment has deleted the information because they didn't want the world to ridicule and shame us? He told me so, so it must be true. I'm just a woman who was born in Finland and have lived here for all my life, 41 years, what could I possibly know about Aku Ankka?
Load More Replies...So many of these are lame attempts to chat up a woman. Man wants to feel manly and impress the weaker sex.
For once it would be nice to see a man utilize the helpless tactic and ask us for advice or help. If men just treated women as fully developed humans, it might help them get laid. They just need to check their inflated egos.
Load More Replies...I went Farm and Fleet to pick up a tool and this older guy asked me what I was looking for. I asked for a handheld tubing bender and he took me, first to the wrong section, then to the right section but handed me a tubing cutter. Fortunately, the tool I needed was right next us. I said, sorry but this is what I'm looking for. He then took the tool out of my hands and asked if I wanted to call my husband to make sure...Yes, I spoke to his manager.
Came to the comments section to enjoy the stillness before the idiots come and start complaining again about "man bashing on bp" ... 🏞
My brother and I going through our parents’ books. I have sorted piles: donate, sell, gift to Name, rubbish. He reviews my groups and tells me the rubbish books are valuable. I should keep them or sell him (not that he is offering to do either.). Now he IS a high school history teacher, so maybe he knows…better than I who is only a rare books dealer.
I had a legal problem, proof the claims were wrong, opinions of several legal professionals, court verdicts against this body for the same issues, and at that point I knew the relevant laws and regulations by heart. A friend of my husband's tells me literally, "I've never had this problem and I don't know about it" and then tells me what he thinks I should do. I point out the first part of his own sentence and why his suggestion doesn't work here, no, he still stands by it. And he wonders why many people don't like him.
I think we need to start checking these people hard when it happens (in certain obvious situations). Like, very loudly and firmly saying "NO. BAD." Then when they're shocked into silence simply go on about our explanations/discussions/life as if they didn't exist.
“If there is a God, I am convinced he is a he, because no woman could or would ever f**k things up this badly.” George Carlin
My dear sweet husband recently felt a need to explain to me that LARPing was live action roll playing. I asked him if he seriously thought I didn't know that?? Bless his heart lol
I used to wonder why it was so common for men to do this. My guess is that they didn't grow up with female friends, sisters or mothers that appeared to have that sort of knowledge? Maybe they always kept with the boys growing up and never paid attention to what the girls were doing?? ("Us" vs. "Them") I grew up, worked alongside, managed and was managed by women in different jobs my whole life - very knowledgable and competent women. I know a lot of women that are intimidated by things involving mechanics or tech that sadly need someone to explain or DO IT for them. I ALSO KNOW A LOT OF MEN like that. LOL It goes both ways. My own mother in law was trying to woman-splain baking a cake and I told her "I got it .. I've done this before, thank you". Then she freaked out when the cake came out great. My guess is, the men that do this have no idea how competent women are. I had an ex who put a mechanic in his place by getting her dad (a master mechanic) on speaker phone who backed her up, cussed the guy out and said "listen to her". LOL
All this mansplaining and they still don't know where the laundry soap goes.
I just found out that my bf doesn’t even know what pillows are his… they literally have completely different colored pillow cases on them and we’ve been using those pillow cases every night for years… wtf?
Load More Replies...Oh how I have a story to add: I’m a former adolescent trauma/behavioral therapist, 9 years working in mental health at juvenile detention centers and psychiatric residential treatment centers; my patients were exceptionally violent. I’m quadruple restraint-certified, spent 4 years as a restraint trainer, and have done literally thousands of restraints. Was speaking to the guy I was sort of dating, who was a new coworker and I privately expressed concern about a new hire with a physical disability and his ability to properly perform restraints because “I don’t know of any modification that could be made for him”. Guy (who has never done a restraint before) says “that’s because you’re a woman.” Then continues to try to explain how restraints work, that modifications are done for larger bodied people all the time (incorrect), etc. Yeah, that was the end of our “dating”.
I feel like mansplaining is a new thing. I'm 55 and I've never had a man try to explain anything to me. I have however had men a few times not listen to e saying my suggest was wrong... only to finally try it my way and find I'm right.
Have a shoulder injury. Asked a specialist if I can still go rock climbing. He says yes, but not bouldering. I ask, out of curiosity, why climbing but not bouldering? The reply? Climbing has no overhangs until level 7 so it is ok, because you will only be moving virtically. All I can say is that he must be one bad climber.
A former eldery neighbour started to give me advice when I had just backed our car from the parking space…. he explained to me how to get out of our yard by car in the winter time when there is a lot of snow. How to use the gas etc…. We had been living there almost four years and I had had my drivers licence about 10 years. Made me so angry. The same man once explained to me how to clean our sauna.
I can't say I've ever had a problem with mechanics. Mind you, I'm petite, and I look young. I just use my dad-voice in that kind of situation. Talk to dudes like a dude. It commands respect.
An intern working under me told me I should just use Microsoft Windows, because I won't be able to understand UNIX commands. I ended up telling him that I've been using Linux since he was in grade school!
Hanlon's razor: never attribute to malice that which can adequately be explained by stupidity. Mansplaining is an outdated term that assumes that men will explain things to women, assuming that the woman will not know about the topic because she is a woman. However, in pretty much all cases I've seen, it's simply just a man voicing his opinion, or disagreeing with a woman's opinion while not knowing the woman's qualifications. Of course, some people are c***s, but it's important not to get upset and put the man on the defensive-- it takes no effort to say "actually, I have xx qualifications".
It's alright Count Ringworm. We all know that you're just super insecure in your masculinity.
Load More Replies...You should make one. I’ve heard tons of jokes that make fun of periods and that demonize women in their periods and that make having a period the grossest thing in the world. I’d like to see an article how women repeatedly degrade men via period.
Load More Replies...Well, if I, a woman, politely tell you, a man, I know what I'm shopping for and don't need your assistance, it's ignorant to keep pestering me. At that point, it's not about 'reading minds', it's about using your listening and critical thinking skills and leaving me the f**k alone.
Load More Replies...Some of these aren't mansplaining, but they do give off the same 'women are / women can't/ women want--' assumptions vibe. As if we are another breed entirely. As if we aren't individual human beings with a diversity of skills, knowledge, and experience.
I guess it doesn't count as mansplaining when it's directed at me, but gotta say the dude who tried to correct me on Finnish history on this site got me kinda p*ssed off. I commented that Finland used to be a part of Sweden (it was for centuries, google it if you don't believe me) and he felt it necessary to comment that, no Finland used to a part of Russia (well yeah, for a lot less time) and Norway part of Sweden. I'm a Finn and have sat through countless of hours of Finnish history in school, but I guess you know better random internet guy.
A foreign guy on Facebook claimed that Finland once banned Donald Duck for not wearing pants. I corrected him with facts and attached an URL to back me up. He didn't change his mind and wanted an "official source", whatever it means, I don't know. But hey did you know that our goverment has deleted the information because they didn't want the world to ridicule and shame us? He told me so, so it must be true. I'm just a woman who was born in Finland and have lived here for all my life, 41 years, what could I possibly know about Aku Ankka?
Load More Replies...So many of these are lame attempts to chat up a woman. Man wants to feel manly and impress the weaker sex.
For once it would be nice to see a man utilize the helpless tactic and ask us for advice or help. If men just treated women as fully developed humans, it might help them get laid. They just need to check their inflated egos.
Load More Replies...I went Farm and Fleet to pick up a tool and this older guy asked me what I was looking for. I asked for a handheld tubing bender and he took me, first to the wrong section, then to the right section but handed me a tubing cutter. Fortunately, the tool I needed was right next us. I said, sorry but this is what I'm looking for. He then took the tool out of my hands and asked if I wanted to call my husband to make sure...Yes, I spoke to his manager.
Came to the comments section to enjoy the stillness before the idiots come and start complaining again about "man bashing on bp" ... 🏞
My brother and I going through our parents’ books. I have sorted piles: donate, sell, gift to Name, rubbish. He reviews my groups and tells me the rubbish books are valuable. I should keep them or sell him (not that he is offering to do either.). Now he IS a high school history teacher, so maybe he knows…better than I who is only a rare books dealer.
I had a legal problem, proof the claims were wrong, opinions of several legal professionals, court verdicts against this body for the same issues, and at that point I knew the relevant laws and regulations by heart. A friend of my husband's tells me literally, "I've never had this problem and I don't know about it" and then tells me what he thinks I should do. I point out the first part of his own sentence and why his suggestion doesn't work here, no, he still stands by it. And he wonders why many people don't like him.
I think we need to start checking these people hard when it happens (in certain obvious situations). Like, very loudly and firmly saying "NO. BAD." Then when they're shocked into silence simply go on about our explanations/discussions/life as if they didn't exist.
“If there is a God, I am convinced he is a he, because no woman could or would ever f**k things up this badly.” George Carlin
My dear sweet husband recently felt a need to explain to me that LARPing was live action roll playing. I asked him if he seriously thought I didn't know that?? Bless his heart lol
I used to wonder why it was so common for men to do this. My guess is that they didn't grow up with female friends, sisters or mothers that appeared to have that sort of knowledge? Maybe they always kept with the boys growing up and never paid attention to what the girls were doing?? ("Us" vs. "Them") I grew up, worked alongside, managed and was managed by women in different jobs my whole life - very knowledgable and competent women. I know a lot of women that are intimidated by things involving mechanics or tech that sadly need someone to explain or DO IT for them. I ALSO KNOW A LOT OF MEN like that. LOL It goes both ways. My own mother in law was trying to woman-splain baking a cake and I told her "I got it .. I've done this before, thank you". Then she freaked out when the cake came out great. My guess is, the men that do this have no idea how competent women are. I had an ex who put a mechanic in his place by getting her dad (a master mechanic) on speaker phone who backed her up, cussed the guy out and said "listen to her". LOL
All this mansplaining and they still don't know where the laundry soap goes.
I just found out that my bf doesn’t even know what pillows are his… they literally have completely different colored pillow cases on them and we’ve been using those pillow cases every night for years… wtf?
Load More Replies...Oh how I have a story to add: I’m a former adolescent trauma/behavioral therapist, 9 years working in mental health at juvenile detention centers and psychiatric residential treatment centers; my patients were exceptionally violent. I’m quadruple restraint-certified, spent 4 years as a restraint trainer, and have done literally thousands of restraints. Was speaking to the guy I was sort of dating, who was a new coworker and I privately expressed concern about a new hire with a physical disability and his ability to properly perform restraints because “I don’t know of any modification that could be made for him”. Guy (who has never done a restraint before) says “that’s because you’re a woman.” Then continues to try to explain how restraints work, that modifications are done for larger bodied people all the time (incorrect), etc. Yeah, that was the end of our “dating”.
I feel like mansplaining is a new thing. I'm 55 and I've never had a man try to explain anything to me. I have however had men a few times not listen to e saying my suggest was wrong... only to finally try it my way and find I'm right.
Have a shoulder injury. Asked a specialist if I can still go rock climbing. He says yes, but not bouldering. I ask, out of curiosity, why climbing but not bouldering? The reply? Climbing has no overhangs until level 7 so it is ok, because you will only be moving virtically. All I can say is that he must be one bad climber.
A former eldery neighbour started to give me advice when I had just backed our car from the parking space…. he explained to me how to get out of our yard by car in the winter time when there is a lot of snow. How to use the gas etc…. We had been living there almost four years and I had had my drivers licence about 10 years. Made me so angry. The same man once explained to me how to clean our sauna.
I can't say I've ever had a problem with mechanics. Mind you, I'm petite, and I look young. I just use my dad-voice in that kind of situation. Talk to dudes like a dude. It commands respect.
An intern working under me told me I should just use Microsoft Windows, because I won't be able to understand UNIX commands. I ended up telling him that I've been using Linux since he was in grade school!
Hanlon's razor: never attribute to malice that which can adequately be explained by stupidity. Mansplaining is an outdated term that assumes that men will explain things to women, assuming that the woman will not know about the topic because she is a woman. However, in pretty much all cases I've seen, it's simply just a man voicing his opinion, or disagreeing with a woman's opinion while not knowing the woman's qualifications. Of course, some people are c***s, but it's important not to get upset and put the man on the defensive-- it takes no effort to say "actually, I have xx qualifications".
It's alright Count Ringworm. We all know that you're just super insecure in your masculinity.
Load More Replies...You should make one. I’ve heard tons of jokes that make fun of periods and that demonize women in their periods and that make having a period the grossest thing in the world. I’d like to see an article how women repeatedly degrade men via period.
Load More Replies...Well, if I, a woman, politely tell you, a man, I know what I'm shopping for and don't need your assistance, it's ignorant to keep pestering me. At that point, it's not about 'reading minds', it's about using your listening and critical thinking skills and leaving me the f**k alone.
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