While it's easy to think that gender bias against girls and women exists only in classrooms and workplaces ("After all, it's the 21st century!"), in reality, you don't need institutions to find examples of the discrimination they face. It's way more widespread.
Recently, writer, politico, and mom Krista Pacion from Arizona, USA, tweeted about an experience she had with a repairman who started ignoring her the second her husband walked into the room, and it inspired other women to share all the similar situations they've had the displeasure of being in themselves.
The discussion under Pacion's tweet eventually evolved into a thread that serves as the perfect reminder to be the change you want to see. We can all do better, people.
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We managed to get in touch with Pacion, and the writer said she's very happy about the way her tweet was received.
"I tweeted about an ordinary encounter that resonates with women because it is such a relatable situation, and the comments read like a live action women's studies class, with women sharing specific examples of their own encounters across a wide range of fields," Pacion told Bored Panda.
"The follow-up comments range from those of support that build women up to criticism from people who simply don't see or understand the issue. My biggest takeaway is that women want their stories to be heard, and there is a great opportunity to elevate these powerful and real-world stories through other mediums, like an article, a book, or a podcast."
Pacion believes the large number of replies to her original tweet indicates that gender bias is pervasive. "I think the most blatant forms of gender bias I currently see are with my girls (ages 9 and 13) and what they experience at school, from learning 'pink is a girl color and blue is a boy color' to being admonished to 'sit like a lady' to being told girls can't be spies, not even as a Halloween costume."
"There are far more qualified people who can talk about the areas in which women suffer the most sexism, but an area I see it in a lot is in politics, where coverage for women candidates is often more about what they wear and how they look as opposed to their positions," the writer added.
Interestingly, there's a way we can calculate just how different societies treat men and women. Since 2006, the Global Gender Gap Index has been measuring the extent of gender-based gaps among four key dimensions: economic participation and opportunity, educational attainment, health and survival, and political empowerment. Tracking the progress towards closing these gaps over time, it reports benchmarks and provides country rankings that allow for effective comparisons across and within regional peers. According to its 2020 data, there is still a 31.4% gender gap that remains to be closed globally.
Across the four characteristics, on average, the largest gender disparity lies within political empowerment. Despite being the most improved dimension that year, the gap on this subindex has only been closed by 25%, meaning there are still not enough women occupying seats in government across the world.
However, it's important to note that the political empowerment subindex fails to measure the legal rights of women and girls in comparison to those of men, which plays a significant role in determining the extent to which a society is equal.
"Although progress [has been] made in advancing women’s rights, it has been slow and inconsistent, and many sex-discriminatory laws remain entrenched,” Romina Canessa, a human rights lawyer at Equality Now, told Global Citizen. “When governments deny women and girls the same rights as men and boys, this legitimizes discrimination and abuse, and means they have no formal recourse if their rights are violated.”
The economic and labor market gender gap has been closed by 58%. This is due to the fact that, on average, only 55% of women are participating in the global workforce, and their presence in higher-yielding positions is even lower.
Plus, this disparity is exacerbated by the global wage gap, which affects women across all industries and backgrounds, and has remained relatively stagnant throughout the last five years or so. These components highlight the challenges women face to escape poverty and become financially and economically independent.
I've heard from a moving company guy that was loading my furniture that a pretty girl shouldn't be living alone, creepy and scary...
At least 35 of the 153 surveyed countries have closed the education gender gap by 96.1%. However, this number varies across education levels.
Globally, girls are less likely to receive an education due to gender-based discrimination, child marriage, and the burden of fulfilling domestic chores, all of which prevent young girls and teens from attending school.
While more young girls and women are attending primary and secondary school, less than half are going on to attend college.
Although the global gender gap for health care and survival has been closed by 95.7%, millions of women worldwide still do not have equal access to health care, especially reproductive health care.
Jennifer Weiss-Wolf, vice-president for development at the Brennan Center for Justice, thinks that period poverty and menstrual stigma play significant roles in holding society back from achieving gender equality, noting that these barriers can also hold them back from participating in politics, the workforce, and education.
They let someone without a y chromosome work as a car salesman? So enlightened of them. We all know it's all about the y chromosome.
“If menstruation inhibits anybody from any one of those things, it inhibits them from all four, which places it squarely in the heart of what it means to achieve full gender equality,” Weiss-Wolf explained. “If we don’t have policies in place to ensure a safe and open, and accurate discussion around menstruation, treatment of menstruation, in all of these ways, we are leaving off the table a considerable component.”
In order to achieve gender equality and make all of these pictures a thing of the past, countries across the globe must increase the number of women in government, ensure education is accessible to all women and girls, create free or affordable child care so that more women can participate in the labor market, and provide access to safe reproductive health care.
Had that with a gardener. I always did the gardening in the house, it was my project. Once i became too ill to work i decided to hire a person once or twice a year to give a good trim. Our neighbor was a gardener so i asked him if i could hire his services. He barely listened to my requests and insisted in asking permision of my partner, even after I explained him that my partner did not care, that the garden was mine and i was going to pay him with my money. I didnt fire him in the spot because i didnt want trouble with a neighbor but I should have. He ignored all what i said and did a p**s poor job. Obviously i never called him again. What an a*****e.
Across 34 countries surveyed by Pew Research Center, a median of 94% think it is important for women in their country to have the same rights as men, with 74% saying this is very important.
Men, however, tend to be more optimistic than women about prospects for gender equality, with differences of at least 10 percentage points in 10 countries and smaller but significant differences in 11 others. For example, 77% of men in Japan – compared with 58% of women – say it’s likely that women in their country will eventually attain or already have the same rights as men. Nigeria and the Philippines are the only countries surveyed where a larger share of women than men are optimistic about gender equality.
Krista Pacion thinks that it's not enough to simply want a better future for women. We have to work for it too.
"One of my daughters wants to be president of the United States and my other daughter wants to be an astronaut. It's my job to pave the way for them and other girls and women to achieve their goals," she said. "Whether that's by making a joke about a personal experience on Twitter or by teaching them that colors are colors, I'm operating from a position where I know my personal actions impact their future, and there is always room for improvement."
Obvious the kid didn't know the difference between truck weight and carry capacity.
It bothers me that they enforce consensual sex, where both people have to want the sex, but if having a baby isn't consensual, only the man's opinion matters. My body, my choice.
Doctor had to get permission from my astranged wife to perform my vasectomy.
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This. I had a female gynecologist yell at me "what about your husband!?" when i told her that i didnt want children. Then years later when trying to get a hysterectomy bevause of medical reasons was all the same. At the end i started going to my gyns with my partner because sadly enough they would listen to him about my symptoms and childree status and not to me. F**k them all.
This is actually a big issue in medicine. Women trying to get their tubes tied are asked if their male partner approves, and sometimes he's even required to sign a form. There is literally a spot on some of these forms that require the signature of the husband, and without it, they won't do the procedure. These women are frequently denied the procedure in case "their future husband" wants children. Even lesbians are denied hysterectomies to treat endometriosis in case their future husband might want kids. WTF? Source: I'm an RN specialising in sexual health.
I have a question for our resident reproductive health expert:. Is it possible that spousal consent might be required at a state, local or national level? If so, is abiding by the law an exhibition of gender bias, or simply compliance with a law YOU could help change?
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Same thing when I had uterine fibroids that required a partial hysterectomy. I was 46 years old, so not going to have any babies at that point, yet the—-female!—-doctor said she needed to talk to my husband first before she could go any further, plus even though it was only my uterus that was affected (7.5 lbs of fibroids, nothing left to salvage), and everything else was in perfect shape, she was going to totally clean my reproductive clock and take everything, which would’ve put me in instant menopause and require me to take hormone supplements! F**k that. Found another doctor who only removed my uterus and left everything else in place. I went into natural, and relatively mild, menopause 5 years later. I’m now post-menopausal and just fine without hormone supplements.
how r ur bones? cuz my mom went into early menopause at age 32 ( she got 1 overy removed at age 24, due to cancer) n now shes 49 and has super weak bones. like the bones of a 80 yr old. all she did was fall in the living room last yr, she fractured 3 ribs, and buried her hip.
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I was at an appointment with a gynaecologist surgeon and had just been told I needed massive surgery due to the cancer that they found. He asked if I was married and when I said no he replied well the counselling extends to boyfriends so if he wants to do that we can set it up. This was before I'd been offered any counselling myself! I asked the doctor why does my boyfriend get counselling but you've not offered it to me and he said that because I was not going to be able to have children it was only fair that my partner fully understood that, that it may affect our sex life and the therapy would help him decide whether to stay with me or not! Even the nurse was shocked. I made an official complaint and was operated on by an amazing doctor who happened to be a woman!
Wow. What a turd. Hope he at least got a warning.
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My SIL was having an emergency c-section because she was minutes away from having a placenta abruption with the possibility of losing them both since he was 12 weeks early. They asked 4 effing times if she was sure she wanted her tubes tied. My brother had to sign permission as well. This was in November 2021.
This one doesn't surprise me. She apparently wanted a child, but at 12 weeks early she might not end up with a child and thus might want to try again.
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I got c**p in a social security office when doing my name change after getting married. I decided to hyphenate, and the guy processing my paperwork kept making comments on how I “just can’t let go of that name” (meaning my birth name). I was like “yeah, it’s kind of grown on me”.
The idea is that once a woman gets married, her husband will convince her she wants kids. Which in my opinion is even worse because they are proponents of women having babies who straight up NEVER want kids. These women say "I'm horrible with kids, I don't trust myself to take care of a baby" and the response is "but your husband may want kids".
The proper reply in these situations should always be:“My husband/boyfriend doesn’t have these kind of tubes. Shouldn’t you know that?“
Well... where I live tying tubes is illegal, but vasectomy is. What's more - when we weren't married yet [but 15 years together] my hubs was denied vasectomy because he has no wife and he may find another one instead of me, who will want his child. His. Child. Even tho he stated it is him who does not want a child.
During my 2nd cesarean and 3rd birth, when my female ob/gyn was about to tie my tubes, she double checked I wanted it. My reply was "Take the overies if you need to!" She then got my husband's ok to do the procedure. I was already cut in half she was already in there, I was adamant and for whatever reason she needed his permission. WTAF 😡
I tried for 30+ years to get my tubes tied. Now that I am going into menopause it is no longer urgent!!
Making a non-existent man's opinion more important than your wants and needs is simply insanity.
in the late 70's i had my tubes tied....the dr. said i was selfish!! must have been a catholic....what a d******d....
I would have said, "What about him? Men don't have Fallopian tubes. How do you not know that?"
You should have told him your husband/boyfriend does not have tubes to tie
Back in the 70's, I got my tubes tied without having had kids. I loved my doctor, who told me, through gritted teeth, that I needed my soon-to-be ex's signature or the hospital wouldn't allow it. I'm appalled (but not surprised) that a man's permission is still required.
There are still way too many places that won't do it without husbands permission or unless you have had a certain number of kids. I had to fight to get "fixed" even after six kids and over a dozen miscarriages.....
they told my daughter this. she told them, ' so my body doesnt belong to me it belongs to some man i havent even met? she still has trouble with her cycle,even though they had to take out some of her parts. they even told her if she got pregnant she would probably die. but nope we wont take out the parts wtf
My Obgyn recommended my husband get his tubes tied vs me having the procedure. It’s less invasive he said for men. Then it turned out I was pregnant and I had a previous c-section. He then told me it would just be easier to do me instead- since he would already be in there. My husband lucked out.. lol.
"What about my husband? I don't think he needs any tubes tied, but I'll ask him. So nice of you to offer a family discount"
It doesn't seem at all hard to have some standard non-biased language like "As you make this permanent decision, do you have a partner you'd like to share information with or discuss this with?"
I'm 29.. I don't want kids. Never have. Never will. What I want is a hysterectomy so I can live my fucken life without having chronic pain, hormone Imbalances, my period sporadically/having it multiple times in a month, without having to take birth control which makes me suicidal & f****n nuts.... my first OBGYN misdiagnosed me altogether & dismissed my pain.. he basically told me im dramatic and to take Tylenol . 2nd OBGYN misdiagnosed me w/ PID & told me to take advil, 3rd OBGYN ordered an ultrasound & MRI.. after those results did a laparoscopic scan & diagnosed me w/ endometriosis.. prescribed birth control that I already had taken that made me try to kill myself.. didn't listen.. he got 1/2 way there w/ the diagnosis.: then ruined the treatment.. when I said at a later appointment that I would like to have a hysterectomy because I did a lot of research & this seems like my only option.. he told me that my husband would need to come in & "okay" this or he wouldn't do it.
Still looking for a new female OBGYN... there just isn't many in my network where I live. Why are there so many men in this field who dismiss us... as if they know wtf it feels like to have a vagina.... I don't go to male doctors at all anymore. After almost dying because a ovarian cyst ruptured & I was turned away from the ER once before it ruptured & once after.. both male doctors telling me it's my period.. when I wasn't on my period.. I have decided I do not want a man to have anything to do with my health. Lol. I don't understand why there are so many men in this field who do not listen to women... & then you throw race into the mix & they really don't know wtf they're doing or saying. The fact that black women are more likely to die in child birth over white women in the US is proof that doctors of all genders don't listen to women. Especially black women. It's 2022... women should not be dying in child birth like they are. Ighhhhh sorry. I'm triggered
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"My husband is keeping his Fallopian tubes untied, thanks for asking"
I do not think the husband wants his tubes tied.... but perhaps the boyfried wants to.
So does the doctor also scrutinize and pressure a man who’s asking for a vasectomy? Do they ask him if his wife is ok with it? LOL
I tried and failed for 30+ years to get my tubes tied......not I am going into menopause it's no longer urgent!!
Where? Because it is not in the countries i lived in.
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I'm just putting this out there... most ob/gyn's do this anyway. It's not because it's not your body, your choice. I was told it's because on the one hand, they like to cover their bases (an 18 year old rarely makes the same decisions as a 25 year old or a 30 year old and so on) and they like to cover their asses (legally, they want to consider every position IN CASE you come back with "they never informed me". Which does happen.
So many doctors refuse to do hysterectomy for younger woman because 1 They might change their mind later on when they get married 2 Have they discussed this with their husband 3 Do they realize that this is permanent and can't be reversed The sad thing is that a lot of female ob/gyns think the same
What about your dad? Your grandpa, brother, 3rd degree cousin or 5th grade math teacher?
It's a less invasive procedure for the male to get tied. Perhaps the provider was trying to have you consider that option rather than exhibiting gender bias?
This one confuses me. Was the Doctor asking if the Woman had male permission? Or were they checking to see if their male counterpart wanted to get a vasectomy (or already had one) to compliment her tied tubes?
I had the same questions when from the doctor whe getting a vasectomy. I even had a “cooling off period.” This was after my obgyn (a woman” didn’t not tie my wife’s tubes during the c section of our first born, like my wife asked asked, because we “‘May change our mind.” after having the one. This was despite my wife being very clear to her she only wanted one child. Since the opportunity was missed after the c section I got the vasectomy since it is far easier. It seems irreversible reproductive decisions are often regretted so they wanted us to be very certain. But in our case I get it. I can almost, after having the first, see why one would want another kid, and want a sibling for their first. We also kind of changed our mind on having kids. We waited a long time before having them after being married 10 years and together 12.
Someone wants sterilization and doesn't get it, at worst a lost patient. Someone gets sterilized and later changes their mind, lawsuits have happened. This is unfortunately defensive medicine.
Weirdly, I had to see a male gynecologist in order to get my pain taken seriously and diagnosed. He never asked about a husband or boyfriend, unlike the women, and then told men what he thought it was, what tests we were going to run, and the options I had if it turned out to be the case.
Our friend's husband went behind her back and got a vasectomy. She wanted more kids. He did not. After she found out about it she was irate and wanted to sue. I think doctors just want to cover all the bases and avoid drama. Of course a lawsuit wouldn't have gone anywhere but no doctor wants negative publicity or negative reviews and comments in their online reviews.
I think a doctor would know if they're talking about a vasectomy or getting approval.
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I would have (not so) kindly said, "I'M the one who's here now, not him. GTFO of my house."
should have lifted it on your shoulders and turned around 180 degrees and 'accidently' knocked them unconcious if you know what i mean 😉 Edit: Spelling and thanks for the Upvotes!!
Same here. My name in italian is man's name.... I'm not living in Italy, but sometimes, when I'm applying for jobs, I get a response with "Herr". Funny, because my name in german is woman's name. It has to be the job: different chef positions... (and no, no salads or sweets :D)
Similar happened to me. Went with a friend who was looking to buy a truck. She knew exactly what she wanted. I was literally just along for the ride. Salesman kept talking to me. I finally just said they were taking to the wrong person and anyways, I only liked pretty red ones which they didn't have so they lost a real and an imaginary sale and we went to another dealership.
The neighbor is the “farm animal” that’s making the noise here, clearly.
It always amazes me when salespeople and business turn down commissions because of stupid s**t like this. Yo a*****e, that’s your paycheck you’re dicking around with, ya f*****g moron.
why are so many of these posts about care sales? is it coiiiiincidence? (to be sung to the tune of the rainbow connection, but im actually wondering.)
So even if you weren't together he would just ignore someone in line before you? Some people...
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I'm from Hungary which is not the leader in equal rights, to put it mildly. Lots of men have ancient ideas in their head about women. BUT they still know it's not 1850 so usually you won't meet blatant examples of this sort of thing in a public/professional setting. So I was used to it that if I go to a shop and ask about cars, heavy tools etc., I'd still get an answer, even if I can see in their eyes they think I won't understand. Then I moved to England and I was shocked by how I was treated as a woman. I lived there for years and could never get over it, the millionth time made my blood boil just as much as the first. In a casual setting men would be really polite, treat me like a lady. But I worked in a shop selling technical equipment with two male colleagues. Every day men and women equally would look straight through me and talk to the men. One of them had WAY less knowledge about our products, but still, he was a MAN!
It might also be a mix of sexism and xenophobia. As a migrant I was treated as a useless idiot by many when i lived abroad.
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Back in the 80s my parents were car buying, my Dad is completely out of touch with his financial position, my Mum is the money person, my Dad knows cars, my Mum is right up there with him, if you want to sell the Johnsons a car then you best talk to my Mum. She walked out of numerous dealerships because she got treated like a wallflower, they all addressed my Dad. Eventually they found a dealership that had a sales team who had their heads screwed on, they bought cars from there for another 40 years, my Mum will not deal with narrow minded fools. Ignore her at your cost, she’s well into her seventies now and as feisty and savvŷ as ever. Why would you ignore 50% of your potential customers? That’s gonna kill your business y’know?
Thank you, for posting and your mom for letting 'em know! :-)
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I went to discuss a breast reduction with a male surgeon. I told him I would be happy to go down to a "full B cup", as I have a lot of back, neck, shoulder issues...He chuckled and and said ,"Well your husband might not be too pleased with that,.You have a chat to him and come back to me when you know"..I said "well when he gets his breasts reduced, (p.s he doesn't have mas-boobs) he can decide what he size he wants his.In the mean time ,I'll keep myself busy finding a better surgeon" and walked out.
not sure if this is really the same as other posts, but whatever: i was in 2nd grade and we had a substitute teacher (he was a guy) we were suppose to be writing about our family and friends and sh!t like that. back then my older brother liked baking, sometimes he would make us some butter cookies. anyway I wrote something like:"i like video games my big brother likes baking" later the substitute said that i had switched what me and my older brother liked. so i looked him in the eyes and said "no i didn't, stupid head."
Love the term "stupid head." Might use it next time this nonsense happens to me.
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I had a guy (contractor) who: Came to my house. Saw my uniform "Oh, are you married to a pilot" "Can I talk to your husband." "Where is your husband?" "No, I'll wait for your husband" I explained to him that, A: I'm bisexual and dating a woman B: the pilot was me C: he was being a jackass Then I booted him out of my house.
Doctor to my *husband* a few weeks ago: "What's the problem with her knee? Has she been having mood swings?" I thought I'd have a stroke from rage. My torn-up knee is connected to menopause? WTF?... Also, hello, I'm right here. So I started sing-songing, "Shinbone's connected to the knee bone, knee bone's connected to the thigh bone, knee bone's not connected to my UTERUS!" a d when the (argh, female MD in the case) turned to me, I said I'd aced Anatomy and Physiology, but if she thought patellar tendinits was related to my uterus, she might want to turn in her license to practice. And then I limped out. That, btw, wasn't a mood swing, Dr. Dumba$$. That was me being me! (and I hold an MD, tho' I recently declined to renew the license to rpactice in favor of research again)
I'm so f*****g proud of you. I still regret not getting up and leaving from several of these kinds of infuriating appointments.
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Recently went to a neurologist for a checkup and my husband come along because he could explain the episodes I was having (my memory of them is foggy at best.) This doctoral douche bag proceeds to point each and every question at my husband. Does not even LOOK at me. I began to speak and he interrupts me with a "shh shh" noise and then tells me what I felt was not actually what I felt. Every opinion I tried to state was wrong, he even ROLLED HIS EYES. But what topped it off, was when he looked straight at my husband and told him, "I can tell you what's wrong with her. It's her mood!" I have never in my life been treated so disrespectfully! Needless to say, I didn't stay long or take the medicine he tried to push on me. For those who are saying it's an "American" thing...this man wasn't American. I really don't think that's the issue we should be harping on.
Bingo. Patriarchal attitudes are *everywhere* ---- even in *female* doctors. If you're taught to think that way, that's how you think. Gotta do a good refresh on the medical education system in the world. That said, I hope you're okay?
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I'm a biologist & worked for the State of CA managing wildlife for Animal Control & police. Yrs ago I was called because someone had a bear in their garage - a cub. I arrived & these 2 weightlifter-sized guys were there squealing & running around like little girls. When they saw me, they rolled their eyes. " Don't you have a partner?" they asked. "Nope, no," I said. Opened the garage, found the bear cub, looped her, & pulled her out to put in a crate. One of the guys hyperventilated, stiffened up, & fell over backwards- passed out cold. I crated the cub & took her away to some rehabilitators. Just a classic!
I'm actually impressed that at least one of them didn't try to be all manly and tough and end up with massive injuries.
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I live in Italy and there is still a strong patriarchal mentality here, especially in some areas of the country. But NOBODY would ask a woman to have her husband "sign the papers" or put his name on a car property by default. Its uncanny as I assume these were related to the USA
A survey found roughly half of all in India and Russia find women inferior to men. Globally, it came out to 20%. Add in the need to feel "powerful", and you get a lot of people of 7 billion being utter a-holes based on female/male identity. It's ridiculous. BTW, in Russia, 50% of their population in that survey skewed it up a good bit ---- half of Russians in that survey felt women were inferior to men. It's freaky, but it's how some will never stop thinking, alas.
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I had a bird lice infestation ( pigeons had gotten into the roof space) Pest control dude showed up, I showed him where the man hole was & asked him what it was exactly that he would be doing, he looked @ me & I s**t you not said to me “ Don’t worry your pretty red head about that”. He left after 30 minutes of doing exactly Nothing but smoke cigarettes in my bathroom. The second he was gone I called the pest control company, lodged a formal complaint then when I got the bill I lodged a complaint with the office of fair trading because they tried to charge me $532. For doing Jack s**t. The owners ears were on fire by the time I finished tearing him a New one
About 15 years ago I had to deal with a commercial contractor in another state. He had emailed me with a question on part of the plans and to please call him. I called, he asked for the Project Manager. I told him that was me. Him - "No, not the administrator, the person who drew the plans." Me - "That would be me" Him - "I meant the person who created the plans, not the draftsman" By this time he was obviously getting angry, thinking he's talking with a moron simple drafter. "I need to know what this on the plans means. I need to talk to the architect" Me - "Speaking" Total silence. Me - "When you have your questions organized call me" I quietly hung up. My boss got the client to fire the contractor.
Wow...this thread makes me sooooo angry, especially as I'm a woman in heavy industry. Have had all this and more over the last 27 years, and I thought we were starting to become more evolved ....but no. The patriarchy is alive and well *sigh*
What's worse is, in some parts of the world society is regressing. A storm is building.
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You would think these men would be uncomfortable living under a rock for such a long time!
Despite my pop culture reference of a username here, I am a doctor. My husband is not. The number of people that see "Dr. Glass" and even "Dr. Jan Glass" and assume George is the doctor is pretty consistent. The appropriate collective address for us is "Dr. and Mr. Jan and George Glass," but without fail, we instead get "Dr. and Mrs. George Glass." Even my own family members refuse to address me as "Dr.," but have no problem addressing George with pretend superlatives to, ostensibly, keep me "humble."
Replacing a tire, boyfriend calls for a price, I go to get it done and they try charging me $20 more. I got loud, management stepped in, I got the original price from the phone call. Dude left the property a couple minutes after I walked out of the office. Someone else did the work and got a $20 tip.... apparently the one guy no longer works there.
My employer sent me to take a 2 day Unix training. Went there and was the only woman in class. Well I don't care, was not the first time that happened. BUT when I went to use the bathroom it turned out there was NO "ladies" bathroom! Mind you, this was a learning center with 3 classrooms and an office. They made me use the staff bathroom (the receptionistst were all female).
At least it had a female bathroom for staff! I worked at a utilities depot (electrical linespeople etc) and there was only a men's toilet. All the female staff had to use the disability toilet. And this was Australia in 2018, not a backwards country!
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A major auto repair chain, you know, the one whose touch turns everything to gold. Repairman tried to convince me my car had 2 air conditioning compressors and both needed replacement. Reamed him and said I would report to California's Bureau of Automotive Repair, Complaint Intake Unit. Boy did a manager show up quickly. But I told him the complaint would be filed because who knows how many other people have been cheated by them. No golden touch there anymore. That location shuttered about 8 months later. Never followed up to see if it was because of additional fraudulent repairs.
The salespeople in these stories aren't just crappy people, they're also crappy at sales. I did car sales for a few years in my 20's, and any good salesperson will tell you that women make most purchasing decisions in a relationship, and to always focus the presentation/negotiations on her unless she tells you to deal with her partner.
My wife and I bought a car recently, and we had to take our two young kids with us. I'm terrible at negotiation, and my wife is fantastic at it (she's so ballsy), so she did the talking while I watched the kids. We walked away with a great deal :)
My wife and I were out shopping for a crib for our newborn. She had stopped off to look at something else while I went on to look at the cribs. I had wanted a specific setup, so I decided to ask the sales lady for help. I was talking to the sales lady when my wife joined us, and the sales lady immediately stopped talking to me and started discussing the crib with my wife. Because I was the one who wanted the setup, my wife asked her why she was talking to her, and that she should continue discussing it with me. We were young and hadn't been married a year yet, but that's when I realized my wife would always have my back. Still married to her 20+ years later.
My boiler broke, called out a repair man. The man came and I told him what was wrong, it wasn't actually the boiler but the switch that flicked from hot water to radiators. Apparently I was wrong it must have been a certain part that he didn't have in stock so had to be ordered. Came back 2 days later with the part which shockingly did not fix the issue. I said again what the problem was, no no no it was x part. Waited another 2 days and on his return when said part still didn't fix it I rang the company and told them to send someone else. New man came the next day with the part I told him to bring and after a week with no hot water and heating the issue was finally fixed. I may not know the technical terms for the thingys that are broken but I also aren't daft. He wouldn't listen to me because I am a woman, more fool him
And people say that we are already equal and that we don't need feminism anymore... more equal compared to the past is not equal. Blah.
I have one. It was 1985 and my husband and I had the same GP. I had recently been diagnosed with a debilitating auto-immune condition affecting my digestive tract and liver - and there were serious concerns I would not live more than 4 or 5 years. We were at the dr discussing my getting my tubes tied; we had never wanted more than one child (which we had), the medications to treat my illness made oral contraceptives ineffective, and pregnancy would exacerbate my disease, possibly costing me my life. When I explained why we were there to the dr, he immediately turned to my husband, explaining that surely he didn't want to miss, "...your best years for making children...and you never know, she might get a miracle!" We saw 6 doctors after that, each refusing to provide me with the procedure and each giving the same, 'she might change her mind' rationale. Finally, my husband went back to our primary and told him he wanted a vasectomy. 48 hours later, he had the procedure.
Bought my son a fairly high-powered remote control car, too highly powered as it turns out, since it smashed into a wall and knocked out the alignment. Took it to a model shop - no, not that kind of model ;) - to ask advice. Middle aged bloke behind the counter told me 'you can't really get this fixed, but if you've got a man at home with a screwdriver...' Fella found out what I would do with said screwdriver if I had to come back...
Had some trees cut down at the front of my property. I look out later & see 2 guys taking the wood so I go out to ask them what they’re doing. Oh, does your husband want this? Um, I want it & it’s mine. Asks what I’m going to do with it & mansplains that the wood has to season for a year before burning & they could just help out & take it so I wouldn’t have to carry it, blah, blah. I say again that no, it’s my wood in my yard on my property. Persists to ask what I’m going to do with it (probably to tell me whatever I planned was wrong so they should take the wood). Finally got so fed up that I told them it didn’t matter if I was going to carve wooden sex toys because I had a splinter fetish - I said it’s mine & I meant it so gtfo of my yard. They left, lol
Few weeks ago, first week into my new job, team lunch. A coworker says "in the military, they teach to add some javel in dubious water to drink it". I reply that no, they don't. I explain everything they teach in the military about dubious water (filtering, boiling, adding the little sanitizer pill) but he insists. I reply again "no, they don't. Do you believe they carry a javel bottle everywhere?". He open his mouth again, then my boss says "she was in the military, actually". Mic drop 😂
For 10 years while I was a single parent I used to get my taxes done at H&R Block. I was their customer first, and 10-years of tax returns were filed under my name. The first year after I re-married and went there to get our taxes done they began filing our returns under his name as Head of Household. We no longer use H&R Block.
I took my niece who wanted to dye her hair and barber kept asking her if she's sure and what if her boyfriend doesn't like it... I got her out of there so fast because I was furious. To be clear - this wasn't just a random question. He kept repeating it and she couldn't even understand why he is asking her that. She later started crying cause she thought she did something wrong. Luckily, the owner heard about it, called to apologize, offered some compensation and when we came back forced that employee to apologize.
I manage a restaurant. The owner is female too. She isnt around much so i took over most things. People keep asking for the owner or manager. When i tell them thats me they look confused and say dumb stuff like 'ya no some thats like.. in charge' which i just told them is me. Most of the time they just leave. When i told someone my male coworker is the bartender but that the owner is the woman inside i got told 'geez they can get away with anything these days'. I am usually 'just a waitress makinb some pocket money' or they think im just hired because im the owners daughter or married to the chef. Im neither. Im also really short and people keep talking over my head to my male coworker. Usually he just leaves mid conversation which is cool of him. But dumb that its necessary. Before i got this function i was the chef and when i got compliments for the chef i thanked that and told them that that was me. I got told 'no the real chef'.
Years ago, a coworker's car developed a problem while her husband was out of town. She and her teen age son went to the dealership. The salesman would NOT talk to her , only the son. Salesman would ask the question to the son, he didn't know the answers. She had to tell the son who then tole the salesman. Of course when it came time to pay she signed the check. That was the last time they bought a car from that dealership.
I had the same problem at Magnolia Stereo & Video in Seattle. Went in with my (then) husband, must have been about 1993. I had done the research, knew exactly which model of stereo & speakers I wanted and also knew the exact price. I'm asking the questions and he's answering to my husband. My husband had the good sense to just walk away. I looked at the salesman and told him I was perfectly prepared to spend upwards of $1,000 dollars for that system, my husband didn't show sh*t about stereo equipment and he had just lost a pretty decent commission as I was taking MY business elsewhere. His manager WAS FEMALE and she basically laughed right at him.
The reverse happens too. In the late 1960's my husband came with me to the pediatrician and he was completely ignored.
So I have watched mum fix tractors, agricultural equipment, the machinery for milking cows etcetera. And out of my many sisters, everyone can fix most small jobs on their cars if they feel for it. Last year, one of my sisters parked outside my garage and changed chock absorbers, springs, made a full service and a number of other jobs on her old Nissan. Mainly because I have lots of tools, and the space. A sister-in-law to my twin brother is a highly qualified welder. The idea that women can't do things/understand/whatever is totally false. And it has hurt women - and men - for far too long.
Sheesh I feel fortunate after reading these...this has never happened to me where I live. I lease a new car every three years (my dad retired from General Motors so I get his discount since he passed) and the sales people all but trip over themselves to greet me when I walk in the door. I guess the commission they get from GM must be good. I usually go to my doctors appointments alone as my hubby cannot handle watching me get blood drawn (he nearly passed out last time he went with me) so no issues there either. I guess the men here are used to women being independent?
I was at a campsite once, and the owner was showing me and my other half our pitch, he said do you want some help reversing in there? I'm a lorry driver, and I spend most of my days reversing massive artics into tight spaces, so obviously I felt a little patronised... I then went and reversed my van right into a Boulder
I am male, and I used to be an auto mechanic. I would always ask a couple who was the primary driver of the car, then I would speak to that person on any issues. I don't care if you have boobs or balls, you drive the car all the time so you know what it is doing on a daily basis. I always assume the person paying knows what they want, and I explain it like they are an adult. If they don't understand, I could always tell when they didn't understand, and I would explain it differently. But I never assume the guy was in charge.
A surprising reversal happened to me. I'm female and was hiking with a male friend. A Mennonite woman walked up to me, completely ignoring him, and asked me a question about the trail. She did not make any eye contact with him, not in that inclusive polite way women tend to do, and she directed her question only to me. It was so interesting and such a shock. It made me think of all the ways in which women are overlooked, not greeted, not asked any questions when there's a man beside us.
Even though my country (Russia) is still behind in many ways, such situations are quite rare here. Men and women may not have 100% equal pay or job opportunities, but s**t of this scale is unthinkable. Women are capable, intelligent and educated, and few would assume otherwise just because she's not a man.
I booked and paid for a hotel room in Dubai for me and my (now ex) boyfriend. My name was on all the booking and payment information but neither the male receptionist nor the luggage carrier would make eye contact with me and only spoke to my boyfriend - including to ask for a tip.
In South Africa, to create jobs and for security, there are guys who guard your car in parking lots of malls etc. Even though I drive in there and get out my car, they invariably greet my husband who got out the passenger seat. They will also ask him for the tip when we leave - and I get into the driver's seat.
Here's the funny thing: I sold kitchens and bathrooms. I very quickly learned to talk with the wife while the husband was browsing the selection. Come to an understanding with her about what they're looking for, and what SHE wanted. Maybe we might look at a couple in a couple different price ranges. Then the husband would come over to talk to me, I'd point out what the wife and I had picked out together. I wouldn't keep it a secret if he asked or trick him into thinking it WASN'T his wife's pick, but I wouldn't present it as "here's what your wife wants." Rarely I'd show him a different one in a different price range depending on how he reacted, but invariably, he'd buy what the wife and I picked out together. The wife would always be like, "Oh, I like that one!" I don't think I EVER sold a kitchen or bath that wasn't the wife's pick. EVER, or failed to sell one that the wife really liked. UPDATE: To be clear, I NEVER treated the wife like she couldn't make the decision on her own. That's what was funny about it; usually it was their way of feeling like they both had their input.
Often when we're out for dinner, golfing, shopping, etc. they always gave the tab/invoice to my partner. It's annoying AF, "hello us women can afford things and spoil our male partner too!"
I was going to meet my husband at a car dealership after work to look at a car he was interested in. I knew I would get there first so asked my husband to give me all the facts about the car. I show up, indicated what car we would be looking at and the salesman actually showed me the visor mirror and "how much room is in the trunk for all my packages when I am out shopping". I didn't let my husband get out of the car, told the salesman we were no longer interested and left. Another time I was looking for a pick up. We arrived at the dealership and my husband went into the bathroom. While I am waiting for him a salesman came up and asked what kind of truck my husband was looking for. I told him I didn't know since I was the one buying the truck. When we went to walk out to the lot I was in the middle of them and the sales person kept moving my way until he pushed me out and I was walking behind them. Got to the showroom told him he was an a*s and we left.
Working my dream retirement job at our local Hardware store after 30 yrs in the fire service. My singular answer to males asking "Is there a guy who can help me?" is DON'T HATE ME CAUSE I WEAR 'MY SET' HIGH! Shuts them down every time!
for some reason, when we had cable, it was in my husband's name. whenever they would call to upsell him something, he would say, "my wife deals with all that, you'll need to ask her". they'd talk to me and then say they needed the account holder's permission to change services. he JUST told you to talk to me. i'd be like, "well he's left the house now, too bad." and hang up.
I used to take my dad with me when I was car shopping, because it weeded out the assholes much faster. My dad knew absolutely nothing about cars. I mean, less than nothing. He once put antifreeze in the crank case. After that, my mom told him to do nothing except drive the car. 9 times out of 10, the salesman would only address him and ignore me.
Whenever we skied with random kids at a resort, through classes or whatever, the boys always got massively pissed to learn I'm a girl under the hat and goggles. Like they were disappointed it wasn't another boy who was the better skier and funnier kid. Gotta say, though, that sh neeeever got old. "Wait, yer uh gerrrl?!" Yep. But seriously, your little tiny skis are so adorable. Maybe one day your mommy and daddy will let you go fast, too. Conveniently, "suck it" is one of those phrases that carries when you shout it as you ski by. They can hear it coming and going. So can everyone else.
The whole car dealership happened to me so many times. Finally, at one dealership another woman was waiting to be approached by a salesman, but it never happened. After over 30 minutes she hissed "What do I have to do to buy a car here? Walz onto the lot with a bag full of money?" Sadly not even that helped and she left.
Seems to be an American thing (again). You guys are living in the 1950s, in more ways than one.
So you've witnessed this but still think these are made up?
Load More Replies... I'm from Hungary which is not the leader in equal rights, to put it mildly. Lots of men have ancient ideas in their head about women. BUT they still know it's not 1850 so usually you won't meet blatant examples of this sort of thing in a public/professional setting. So I was used to it that if I go to a shop and ask about cars, heavy tools etc., I'd still get an answer, even if I can see in their eyes they think I won't understand. Then I moved to England and I was shocked by how I was treated as a woman. I lived there for years and could never get over it, the millionth time made my blood boil just as much as the first. In a casual setting men would be really polite, treat me like a lady. But I worked in a shop selling technical equipment with two male colleagues. Every day men and women equally would look straight through me and talk to the men. One of them had WAY less knowledge about our products, but still, he was a MAN!
It might also be a mix of sexism and xenophobia. As a migrant I was treated as a useless idiot by many when i lived abroad.
Load More Replies... Back in the 80s my parents were car buying, my Dad is completely out of touch with his financial position, my Mum is the money person, my Dad knows cars, my Mum is right up there with him, if you want to sell the Johnsons a car then you best talk to my Mum. She walked out of numerous dealerships because she got treated like a wallflower, they all addressed my Dad. Eventually they found a dealership that had a sales team who had their heads screwed on, they bought cars from there for another 40 years, my Mum will not deal with narrow minded fools. Ignore her at your cost, she’s well into her seventies now and as feisty and savvŷ as ever. Why would you ignore 50% of your potential customers? That’s gonna kill your business y’know?
Thank you, for posting and your mom for letting 'em know! :-)
Load More Replies... I went to discuss a breast reduction with a male surgeon. I told him I would be happy to go down to a "full B cup", as I have a lot of back, neck, shoulder issues...He chuckled and and said ,"Well your husband might not be too pleased with that,.You have a chat to him and come back to me when you know"..I said "well when he gets his breasts reduced, (p.s he doesn't have mas-boobs) he can decide what he size he wants his.In the mean time ,I'll keep myself busy finding a better surgeon" and walked out.
not sure if this is really the same as other posts, but whatever: i was in 2nd grade and we had a substitute teacher (he was a guy) we were suppose to be writing about our family and friends and sh!t like that. back then my older brother liked baking, sometimes he would make us some butter cookies. anyway I wrote something like:"i like video games my big brother likes baking" later the substitute said that i had switched what me and my older brother liked. so i looked him in the eyes and said "no i didn't, stupid head."
Love the term "stupid head." Might use it next time this nonsense happens to me.
Load More Replies... I had a guy (contractor) who: Came to my house. Saw my uniform "Oh, are you married to a pilot" "Can I talk to your husband." "Where is your husband?" "No, I'll wait for your husband" I explained to him that, A: I'm bisexual and dating a woman B: the pilot was me C: he was being a jackass Then I booted him out of my house.
Doctor to my *husband* a few weeks ago: "What's the problem with her knee? Has she been having mood swings?" I thought I'd have a stroke from rage. My torn-up knee is connected to menopause? WTF?... Also, hello, I'm right here. So I started sing-songing, "Shinbone's connected to the knee bone, knee bone's connected to the thigh bone, knee bone's not connected to my UTERUS!" a d when the (argh, female MD in the case) turned to me, I said I'd aced Anatomy and Physiology, but if she thought patellar tendinits was related to my uterus, she might want to turn in her license to practice. And then I limped out. That, btw, wasn't a mood swing, Dr. Dumba$$. That was me being me! (and I hold an MD, tho' I recently declined to renew the license to rpactice in favor of research again)
I'm so f*****g proud of you. I still regret not getting up and leaving from several of these kinds of infuriating appointments.
Load More Replies... Recently went to a neurologist for a checkup and my husband come along because he could explain the episodes I was having (my memory of them is foggy at best.) This doctoral douche bag proceeds to point each and every question at my husband. Does not even LOOK at me. I began to speak and he interrupts me with a "shh shh" noise and then tells me what I felt was not actually what I felt. Every opinion I tried to state was wrong, he even ROLLED HIS EYES. But what topped it off, was when he looked straight at my husband and told him, "I can tell you what's wrong with her. It's her mood!" I have never in my life been treated so disrespectfully! Needless to say, I didn't stay long or take the medicine he tried to push on me. For those who are saying it's an "American" thing...this man wasn't American. I really don't think that's the issue we should be harping on.
Bingo. Patriarchal attitudes are *everywhere* ---- even in *female* doctors. If you're taught to think that way, that's how you think. Gotta do a good refresh on the medical education system in the world. That said, I hope you're okay?
Load More Replies... I'm a biologist & worked for the State of CA managing wildlife for Animal Control & police. Yrs ago I was called because someone had a bear in their garage - a cub. I arrived & these 2 weightlifter-sized guys were there squealing & running around like little girls. When they saw me, they rolled their eyes. " Don't you have a partner?" they asked. "Nope, no," I said. Opened the garage, found the bear cub, looped her, & pulled her out to put in a crate. One of the guys hyperventilated, stiffened up, & fell over backwards- passed out cold. I crated the cub & took her away to some rehabilitators. Just a classic!
I'm actually impressed that at least one of them didn't try to be all manly and tough and end up with massive injuries.
Load More Replies... I live in Italy and there is still a strong patriarchal mentality here, especially in some areas of the country. But NOBODY would ask a woman to have her husband "sign the papers" or put his name on a car property by default. Its uncanny as I assume these were related to the USA
A survey found roughly half of all in India and Russia find women inferior to men. Globally, it came out to 20%. Add in the need to feel "powerful", and you get a lot of people of 7 billion being utter a-holes based on female/male identity. It's ridiculous. BTW, in Russia, 50% of their population in that survey skewed it up a good bit ---- half of Russians in that survey felt women were inferior to men. It's freaky, but it's how some will never stop thinking, alas.
Load More Replies... I had a bird lice infestation ( pigeons had gotten into the roof space) Pest control dude showed up, I showed him where the man hole was & asked him what it was exactly that he would be doing, he looked @ me & I s**t you not said to me “ Don’t worry your pretty red head about that”. He left after 30 minutes of doing exactly Nothing but smoke cigarettes in my bathroom. The second he was gone I called the pest control company, lodged a formal complaint then when I got the bill I lodged a complaint with the office of fair trading because they tried to charge me $532. For doing Jack s**t. The owners ears were on fire by the time I finished tearing him a New one
About 15 years ago I had to deal with a commercial contractor in another state. He had emailed me with a question on part of the plans and to please call him. I called, he asked for the Project Manager. I told him that was me. Him - "No, not the administrator, the person who drew the plans." Me - "That would be me" Him - "I meant the person who created the plans, not the draftsman" By this time he was obviously getting angry, thinking he's talking with a moron simple drafter. "I need to know what this on the plans means. I need to talk to the architect" Me - "Speaking" Total silence. Me - "When you have your questions organized call me" I quietly hung up. My boss got the client to fire the contractor.
Wow...this thread makes me sooooo angry, especially as I'm a woman in heavy industry. Have had all this and more over the last 27 years, and I thought we were starting to become more evolved ....but no. The patriarchy is alive and well *sigh*
What's worse is, in some parts of the world society is regressing. A storm is building.
Load More Replies... You would think these men would be uncomfortable living under a rock for such a long time!
Despite my pop culture reference of a username here, I am a doctor. My husband is not. The number of people that see "Dr. Glass" and even "Dr. Jan Glass" and assume George is the doctor is pretty consistent. The appropriate collective address for us is "Dr. and Mr. Jan and George Glass," but without fail, we instead get "Dr. and Mrs. George Glass." Even my own family members refuse to address me as "Dr.," but have no problem addressing George with pretend superlatives to, ostensibly, keep me "humble."
Replacing a tire, boyfriend calls for a price, I go to get it done and they try charging me $20 more. I got loud, management stepped in, I got the original price from the phone call. Dude left the property a couple minutes after I walked out of the office. Someone else did the work and got a $20 tip.... apparently the one guy no longer works there.
My employer sent me to take a 2 day Unix training. Went there and was the only woman in class. Well I don't care, was not the first time that happened. BUT when I went to use the bathroom it turned out there was NO "ladies" bathroom! Mind you, this was a learning center with 3 classrooms and an office. They made me use the staff bathroom (the receptionistst were all female).
At least it had a female bathroom for staff! I worked at a utilities depot (electrical linespeople etc) and there was only a men's toilet. All the female staff had to use the disability toilet. And this was Australia in 2018, not a backwards country!
Load More Replies... A major auto repair chain, you know, the one whose touch turns everything to gold. Repairman tried to convince me my car had 2 air conditioning compressors and both needed replacement. Reamed him and said I would report to California's Bureau of Automotive Repair, Complaint Intake Unit. Boy did a manager show up quickly. But I told him the complaint would be filed because who knows how many other people have been cheated by them. No golden touch there anymore. That location shuttered about 8 months later. Never followed up to see if it was because of additional fraudulent repairs.
The salespeople in these stories aren't just crappy people, they're also crappy at sales. I did car sales for a few years in my 20's, and any good salesperson will tell you that women make most purchasing decisions in a relationship, and to always focus the presentation/negotiations on her unless she tells you to deal with her partner.
My wife and I bought a car recently, and we had to take our two young kids with us. I'm terrible at negotiation, and my wife is fantastic at it (she's so ballsy), so she did the talking while I watched the kids. We walked away with a great deal :)
My wife and I were out shopping for a crib for our newborn. She had stopped off to look at something else while I went on to look at the cribs. I had wanted a specific setup, so I decided to ask the sales lady for help. I was talking to the sales lady when my wife joined us, and the sales lady immediately stopped talking to me and started discussing the crib with my wife. Because I was the one who wanted the setup, my wife asked her why she was talking to her, and that she should continue discussing it with me. We were young and hadn't been married a year yet, but that's when I realized my wife would always have my back. Still married to her 20+ years later.
My boiler broke, called out a repair man. The man came and I told him what was wrong, it wasn't actually the boiler but the switch that flicked from hot water to radiators. Apparently I was wrong it must have been a certain part that he didn't have in stock so had to be ordered. Came back 2 days later with the part which shockingly did not fix the issue. I said again what the problem was, no no no it was x part. Waited another 2 days and on his return when said part still didn't fix it I rang the company and told them to send someone else. New man came the next day with the part I told him to bring and after a week with no hot water and heating the issue was finally fixed. I may not know the technical terms for the thingys that are broken but I also aren't daft. He wouldn't listen to me because I am a woman, more fool him
And people say that we are already equal and that we don't need feminism anymore... more equal compared to the past is not equal. Blah.
I have one. It was 1985 and my husband and I had the same GP. I had recently been diagnosed with a debilitating auto-immune condition affecting my digestive tract and liver - and there were serious concerns I would not live more than 4 or 5 years. We were at the dr discussing my getting my tubes tied; we had never wanted more than one child (which we had), the medications to treat my illness made oral contraceptives ineffective, and pregnancy would exacerbate my disease, possibly costing me my life. When I explained why we were there to the dr, he immediately turned to my husband, explaining that surely he didn't want to miss, "...your best years for making children...and you never know, she might get a miracle!" We saw 6 doctors after that, each refusing to provide me with the procedure and each giving the same, 'she might change her mind' rationale. Finally, my husband went back to our primary and told him he wanted a vasectomy. 48 hours later, he had the procedure.
Bought my son a fairly high-powered remote control car, too highly powered as it turns out, since it smashed into a wall and knocked out the alignment. Took it to a model shop - no, not that kind of model ;) - to ask advice. Middle aged bloke behind the counter told me 'you can't really get this fixed, but if you've got a man at home with a screwdriver...' Fella found out what I would do with said screwdriver if I had to come back...
Had some trees cut down at the front of my property. I look out later & see 2 guys taking the wood so I go out to ask them what they’re doing. Oh, does your husband want this? Um, I want it & it’s mine. Asks what I’m going to do with it & mansplains that the wood has to season for a year before burning & they could just help out & take it so I wouldn’t have to carry it, blah, blah. I say again that no, it’s my wood in my yard on my property. Persists to ask what I’m going to do with it (probably to tell me whatever I planned was wrong so they should take the wood). Finally got so fed up that I told them it didn’t matter if I was going to carve wooden sex toys because I had a splinter fetish - I said it’s mine & I meant it so gtfo of my yard. They left, lol
Few weeks ago, first week into my new job, team lunch. A coworker says "in the military, they teach to add some javel in dubious water to drink it". I reply that no, they don't. I explain everything they teach in the military about dubious water (filtering, boiling, adding the little sanitizer pill) but he insists. I reply again "no, they don't. Do you believe they carry a javel bottle everywhere?". He open his mouth again, then my boss says "she was in the military, actually". Mic drop 😂
For 10 years while I was a single parent I used to get my taxes done at H&R Block. I was their customer first, and 10-years of tax returns were filed under my name. The first year after I re-married and went there to get our taxes done they began filing our returns under his name as Head of Household. We no longer use H&R Block.
I took my niece who wanted to dye her hair and barber kept asking her if she's sure and what if her boyfriend doesn't like it... I got her out of there so fast because I was furious. To be clear - this wasn't just a random question. He kept repeating it and she couldn't even understand why he is asking her that. She later started crying cause she thought she did something wrong. Luckily, the owner heard about it, called to apologize, offered some compensation and when we came back forced that employee to apologize.
I manage a restaurant. The owner is female too. She isnt around much so i took over most things. People keep asking for the owner or manager. When i tell them thats me they look confused and say dumb stuff like 'ya no some thats like.. in charge' which i just told them is me. Most of the time they just leave. When i told someone my male coworker is the bartender but that the owner is the woman inside i got told 'geez they can get away with anything these days'. I am usually 'just a waitress makinb some pocket money' or they think im just hired because im the owners daughter or married to the chef. Im neither. Im also really short and people keep talking over my head to my male coworker. Usually he just leaves mid conversation which is cool of him. But dumb that its necessary. Before i got this function i was the chef and when i got compliments for the chef i thanked that and told them that that was me. I got told 'no the real chef'.
Years ago, a coworker's car developed a problem while her husband was out of town. She and her teen age son went to the dealership. The salesman would NOT talk to her , only the son. Salesman would ask the question to the son, he didn't know the answers. She had to tell the son who then tole the salesman. Of course when it came time to pay she signed the check. That was the last time they bought a car from that dealership.
I had the same problem at Magnolia Stereo & Video in Seattle. Went in with my (then) husband, must have been about 1993. I had done the research, knew exactly which model of stereo & speakers I wanted and also knew the exact price. I'm asking the questions and he's answering to my husband. My husband had the good sense to just walk away. I looked at the salesman and told him I was perfectly prepared to spend upwards of $1,000 dollars for that system, my husband didn't show sh*t about stereo equipment and he had just lost a pretty decent commission as I was taking MY business elsewhere. His manager WAS FEMALE and she basically laughed right at him.
The reverse happens too. In the late 1960's my husband came with me to the pediatrician and he was completely ignored.
So I have watched mum fix tractors, agricultural equipment, the machinery for milking cows etcetera. And out of my many sisters, everyone can fix most small jobs on their cars if they feel for it. Last year, one of my sisters parked outside my garage and changed chock absorbers, springs, made a full service and a number of other jobs on her old Nissan. Mainly because I have lots of tools, and the space. A sister-in-law to my twin brother is a highly qualified welder. The idea that women can't do things/understand/whatever is totally false. And it has hurt women - and men - for far too long.
Sheesh I feel fortunate after reading these...this has never happened to me where I live. I lease a new car every three years (my dad retired from General Motors so I get his discount since he passed) and the sales people all but trip over themselves to greet me when I walk in the door. I guess the commission they get from GM must be good. I usually go to my doctors appointments alone as my hubby cannot handle watching me get blood drawn (he nearly passed out last time he went with me) so no issues there either. I guess the men here are used to women being independent?
I was at a campsite once, and the owner was showing me and my other half our pitch, he said do you want some help reversing in there? I'm a lorry driver, and I spend most of my days reversing massive artics into tight spaces, so obviously I felt a little patronised... I then went and reversed my van right into a Boulder
I am male, and I used to be an auto mechanic. I would always ask a couple who was the primary driver of the car, then I would speak to that person on any issues. I don't care if you have boobs or balls, you drive the car all the time so you know what it is doing on a daily basis. I always assume the person paying knows what they want, and I explain it like they are an adult. If they don't understand, I could always tell when they didn't understand, and I would explain it differently. But I never assume the guy was in charge.
A surprising reversal happened to me. I'm female and was hiking with a male friend. A Mennonite woman walked up to me, completely ignoring him, and asked me a question about the trail. She did not make any eye contact with him, not in that inclusive polite way women tend to do, and she directed her question only to me. It was so interesting and such a shock. It made me think of all the ways in which women are overlooked, not greeted, not asked any questions when there's a man beside us.
Even though my country (Russia) is still behind in many ways, such situations are quite rare here. Men and women may not have 100% equal pay or job opportunities, but s**t of this scale is unthinkable. Women are capable, intelligent and educated, and few would assume otherwise just because she's not a man.
I booked and paid for a hotel room in Dubai for me and my (now ex) boyfriend. My name was on all the booking and payment information but neither the male receptionist nor the luggage carrier would make eye contact with me and only spoke to my boyfriend - including to ask for a tip.
In South Africa, to create jobs and for security, there are guys who guard your car in parking lots of malls etc. Even though I drive in there and get out my car, they invariably greet my husband who got out the passenger seat. They will also ask him for the tip when we leave - and I get into the driver's seat.
Here's the funny thing: I sold kitchens and bathrooms. I very quickly learned to talk with the wife while the husband was browsing the selection. Come to an understanding with her about what they're looking for, and what SHE wanted. Maybe we might look at a couple in a couple different price ranges. Then the husband would come over to talk to me, I'd point out what the wife and I had picked out together. I wouldn't keep it a secret if he asked or trick him into thinking it WASN'T his wife's pick, but I wouldn't present it as "here's what your wife wants." Rarely I'd show him a different one in a different price range depending on how he reacted, but invariably, he'd buy what the wife and I picked out together. The wife would always be like, "Oh, I like that one!" I don't think I EVER sold a kitchen or bath that wasn't the wife's pick. EVER, or failed to sell one that the wife really liked. UPDATE: To be clear, I NEVER treated the wife like she couldn't make the decision on her own. That's what was funny about it; usually it was their way of feeling like they both had their input.
Often when we're out for dinner, golfing, shopping, etc. they always gave the tab/invoice to my partner. It's annoying AF, "hello us women can afford things and spoil our male partner too!"
I was going to meet my husband at a car dealership after work to look at a car he was interested in. I knew I would get there first so asked my husband to give me all the facts about the car. I show up, indicated what car we would be looking at and the salesman actually showed me the visor mirror and "how much room is in the trunk for all my packages when I am out shopping". I didn't let my husband get out of the car, told the salesman we were no longer interested and left. Another time I was looking for a pick up. We arrived at the dealership and my husband went into the bathroom. While I am waiting for him a salesman came up and asked what kind of truck my husband was looking for. I told him I didn't know since I was the one buying the truck. When we went to walk out to the lot I was in the middle of them and the sales person kept moving my way until he pushed me out and I was walking behind them. Got to the showroom told him he was an a*s and we left.
Working my dream retirement job at our local Hardware store after 30 yrs in the fire service. My singular answer to males asking "Is there a guy who can help me?" is DON'T HATE ME CAUSE I WEAR 'MY SET' HIGH! Shuts them down every time!
for some reason, when we had cable, it was in my husband's name. whenever they would call to upsell him something, he would say, "my wife deals with all that, you'll need to ask her". they'd talk to me and then say they needed the account holder's permission to change services. he JUST told you to talk to me. i'd be like, "well he's left the house now, too bad." and hang up.
I used to take my dad with me when I was car shopping, because it weeded out the assholes much faster. My dad knew absolutely nothing about cars. I mean, less than nothing. He once put antifreeze in the crank case. After that, my mom told him to do nothing except drive the car. 9 times out of 10, the salesman would only address him and ignore me.
Whenever we skied with random kids at a resort, through classes or whatever, the boys always got massively pissed to learn I'm a girl under the hat and goggles. Like they were disappointed it wasn't another boy who was the better skier and funnier kid. Gotta say, though, that sh neeeever got old. "Wait, yer uh gerrrl?!" Yep. But seriously, your little tiny skis are so adorable. Maybe one day your mommy and daddy will let you go fast, too. Conveniently, "suck it" is one of those phrases that carries when you shout it as you ski by. They can hear it coming and going. So can everyone else.
The whole car dealership happened to me so many times. Finally, at one dealership another woman was waiting to be approached by a salesman, but it never happened. After over 30 minutes she hissed "What do I have to do to buy a car here? Walz onto the lot with a bag full of money?" Sadly not even that helped and she left.
Seems to be an American thing (again). You guys are living in the 1950s, in more ways than one.
So you've witnessed this but still think these are made up?
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