While it's easy to think that gender bias against girls and women exists only in classrooms and workplaces ("After all, it's the 21st century!"), in reality, you don't need institutions to find examples of the discrimination they face. It's way more widespread.
Recently, writer, politico, and mom Krista Pacion from Arizona, USA, tweeted about an experience she had with a repairman who started ignoring her the second her husband walked into the room, and it inspired other women to share all the similar situations they've had the displeasure of being in themselves.
The discussion under Pacion's tweet eventually evolved into a thread that serves as the perfect reminder to be the change you want to see. We can all do better, people.
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We managed to get in touch with Pacion, and the writer said she's very happy about the way her tweet was received.
"I tweeted about an ordinary encounter that resonates with women because it is such a relatable situation, and the comments read like a live action women's studies class, with women sharing specific examples of their own encounters across a wide range of fields," Pacion told Bored Panda.
"The follow-up comments range from those of support that build women up to criticism from people who simply don't see or understand the issue. My biggest takeaway is that women want their stories to be heard, and there is a great opportunity to elevate these powerful and real-world stories through other mediums, like an article, a book, or a podcast."
Pacion believes the large number of replies to her original tweet indicates that gender bias is pervasive. "I think the most blatant forms of gender bias I currently see are with my girls (ages 9 and 13) and what they experience at school, from learning 'pink is a girl color and blue is a boy color' to being admonished to 'sit like a lady' to being told girls can't be spies, not even as a Halloween costume."
"There are far more qualified people who can talk about the areas in which women suffer the most sexism, but an area I see it in a lot is in politics, where coverage for women candidates is often more about what they wear and how they look as opposed to their positions," the writer added.
Interestingly, there's a way we can calculate just how different societies treat men and women. Since 2006, the Global Gender Gap Index has been measuring the extent of gender-based gaps among four key dimensions: economic participation and opportunity, educational attainment, health and survival, and political empowerment. Tracking the progress towards closing these gaps over time, it reports benchmarks and provides country rankings that allow for effective comparisons across and within regional peers. According to its 2020 data, there is still a 31.4% gender gap that remains to be closed globally.
Across the four characteristics, on average, the largest gender disparity lies within political empowerment. Despite being the most improved dimension that year, the gap on this subindex has only been closed by 25%, meaning there are still not enough women occupying seats in government across the world.
However, it's important to note that the political empowerment subindex fails to measure the legal rights of women and girls in comparison to those of men, which plays a significant role in determining the extent to which a society is equal.
"Although progress [has been] made in advancing women’s rights, it has been slow and inconsistent, and many sex-discriminatory laws remain entrenched,” Romina Canessa, a human rights lawyer at Equality Now, told Global Citizen. “When governments deny women and girls the same rights as men and boys, this legitimizes discrimination and abuse, and means they have no formal recourse if their rights are violated.”
The economic and labor market gender gap has been closed by 58%. This is due to the fact that, on average, only 55% of women are participating in the global workforce, and their presence in higher-yielding positions is even lower.
Plus, this disparity is exacerbated by the global wage gap, which affects women across all industries and backgrounds, and has remained relatively stagnant throughout the last five years or so. These components highlight the challenges women face to escape poverty and become financially and economically independent.
I've heard from a moving company guy that was loading my furniture that a pretty girl shouldn't be living alone, creepy and scary...
At least 35 of the 153 surveyed countries have closed the education gender gap by 96.1%. However, this number varies across education levels.
Globally, girls are less likely to receive an education due to gender-based discrimination, child marriage, and the burden of fulfilling domestic chores, all of which prevent young girls and teens from attending school.
While more young girls and women are attending primary and secondary school, less than half are going on to attend college.
Although the global gender gap for health care and survival has been closed by 95.7%, millions of women worldwide still do not have equal access to health care, especially reproductive health care.
Jennifer Weiss-Wolf, vice-president for development at the Brennan Center for Justice, thinks that period poverty and menstrual stigma play significant roles in holding society back from achieving gender equality, noting that these barriers can also hold them back from participating in politics, the workforce, and education.
They let someone without a y chromosome work as a car salesman? So enlightened of them. We all know it's all about the y chromosome.
“If menstruation inhibits anybody from any one of those things, it inhibits them from all four, which places it squarely in the heart of what it means to achieve full gender equality,” Weiss-Wolf explained. “If we don’t have policies in place to ensure a safe and open, and accurate discussion around menstruation, treatment of menstruation, in all of these ways, we are leaving off the table a considerable component.”
In order to achieve gender equality and make all of these pictures a thing of the past, countries across the globe must increase the number of women in government, ensure education is accessible to all women and girls, create free or affordable child care so that more women can participate in the labor market, and provide access to safe reproductive health care.
Had that with a gardener. I always did the gardening in the house, it was my project. Once i became too ill to work i decided to hire a person once or twice a year to give a good trim. Our neighbor was a gardener so i asked him if i could hire his services. He barely listened to my requests and insisted in asking permision of my partner, even after I explained him that my partner did not care, that the garden was mine and i was going to pay him with my money. I didnt fire him in the spot because i didnt want trouble with a neighbor but I should have. He ignored all what i said and did a p**s poor job. Obviously i never called him again. What an a*****e.
Across 34 countries surveyed by Pew Research Center, a median of 94% think it is important for women in their country to have the same rights as men, with 74% saying this is very important.
Men, however, tend to be more optimistic than women about prospects for gender equality, with differences of at least 10 percentage points in 10 countries and smaller but significant differences in 11 others. For example, 77% of men in Japan – compared with 58% of women – say it’s likely that women in their country will eventually attain or already have the same rights as men. Nigeria and the Philippines are the only countries surveyed where a larger share of women than men are optimistic about gender equality.
Krista Pacion thinks that it's not enough to simply want a better future for women. We have to work for it too.
"One of my daughters wants to be president of the United States and my other daughter wants to be an astronaut. It's my job to pave the way for them and other girls and women to achieve their goals," she said. "Whether that's by making a joke about a personal experience on Twitter or by teaching them that colors are colors, I'm operating from a position where I know my personal actions impact their future, and there is always room for improvement."
Obvious the kid didn't know the difference between truck weight and carry capacity.
It bothers me that they enforce consensual sex, where both people have to want the sex, but if having a baby isn't consensual, only the man's opinion matters. My body, my choice.
I would have (not so) kindly said, "I'M the one who's here now, not him. GTFO of my house."
should have lifted it on your shoulders and turned around 180 degrees and 'accidently' knocked them unconcious if you know what i mean 😉 Edit: Spelling and thanks for the Upvotes!!
Same here. My name in italian is man's name.... I'm not living in Italy, but sometimes, when I'm applying for jobs, I get a response with "Herr". Funny, because my name in german is woman's name. It has to be the job: different chef positions... (and no, no salads or sweets :D)
Similar happened to me. Went with a friend who was looking to buy a truck. She knew exactly what she wanted. I was literally just along for the ride. Salesman kept talking to me. I finally just said they were taking to the wrong person and anyways, I only liked pretty red ones which they didn't have so they lost a real and an imaginary sale and we went to another dealership.
The neighbor is the “farm animal” that’s making the noise here, clearly.
It always amazes me when salespeople and business turn down commissions because of stupid s**t like this. Yo a*****e, that’s your paycheck you’re dicking around with, ya f*****g moron.
why are so many of these posts about care sales? is it coiiiiincidence? (to be sung to the tune of the rainbow connection, but im actually wondering.)
So even if you weren't together he would just ignore someone in line before you? Some people...
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I'm from Hungary which is not the leader in equal rights, to put it mildly. Lots of men have ancient ideas in their head about women. BUT they still know it's not 1850 so usually you won't meet blatant examples of this sort of thing in a public/professional setting. So I was used to it that if I go to a shop and ask about cars, heavy tools etc., I'd still get an answer, even if I can see in their eyes they think I won't understand. Then I moved to England and I was shocked by how I was treated as a woman. I lived there for years and could never get over it, the millionth time made my blood boil just as much as the first. In a casual setting men would be really polite, treat me like a lady. But I worked in a shop selling technical equipment with two male colleagues. Every day men and women equally would look straight through me and talk to the men. One of them had WAY less knowledge about our products, but still, he was a MAN!
It might also be a mix of sexism and xenophobia. As a migrant I was treated as a useless idiot by many when i lived abroad.
Even our postman would come in every day, ignore my greeting completely, like I wasn't standing right in front of him, and would wait for my colleague who had his back turned, stocking shelves. He'd wait for however long it took, then hand HIM the mail. The mail that was addressed specifically to ME, who has an obviously female name.
We also had lots of customers who did everything they could to turn me into a racist bigot. They were from countries/cultures where "traditional" male-female roles are still very prevalent. Every day a couple or two would come in, the wife/daughter would need our product. But she'd be standing there with her eyes on the floor, and the man would talk to me (if they could not choose a male colleague of course). They never knew the answer to my questions as it was all about HER habits, needs etc. I always tried to talk directly to the women, but their men would always interrupt. I can't express how much I hated this.
I worked in medical offices and was shocked at how many men would call on behalf of their wives & children, even though they didn't know a damn thing about their health histories and weren't able to answer any simple questions.
Got to be honest, I've not had this kind of experience in the UK. Not saying it didn't happen to you, or that it doesn't happen, but just never happened to me. Not when buying cars, vans, building supplies, nothing like that. I must have been lucky.
It can be a regional thing as well. When I lived around Birmingham or Manchester, I did not experienced this. The last 6 years I spent near Bristol. There it was an every day thing.
I am from Slovakia. I never encountered situations like this (at least not in capital or big cities). My wife goes shopping to hobby stores, furniture stores, goes to car service…, never had any issue with that she is woman. This must be historicaly set from countries built by men 😁😁
Fellow Hungarian here. I think it might be a bigger problem in certain countries, but Boredpanda also likes to cherrypick these moments. I have a feeling 'mansplaining' and 'toxic masculinity' and 'all men are pigs' are one of their favorite topics. We see one at least once daily. Very rarely anything the other way around. I'm a male by the way and know I'll be downvoted because why not. I still wanted to tell my opinion.
They are common posts because they are common problems that women face daily. You are just too ignorant to take womens experiences seriously.
My guess is that since you are from a formerly socialist country, you might be unaware of how omnipresent this problem is in the "west" (US etc.). During the socialist era, it was common that women were part of the work force. In the west however, women have been expected to be housewives since the 50s, and sadly, this image is still prevalent in many cases.
it amazes me when i read these posts how women are treated at the so glorified "west". i am from Slovakia. I dont feel like I was mansplained or ignored at stores. it happened to me ppl were rude or confused because I am short and look young. for example at the unemployement office they would ask me if i came to visit my mother ( they thought i was a daughter of some employee there and got lost) . no i came with my masters degree to register as i have finished my studies. or i was asked at shoes shop if i need the trainers for physical education. no i need them while i commute to work. but i was never treated badly as a customer because of my gender. and to think THEY look down on US as the less civilised ones. they explain to us how a microwave works when we are there as if we in the former eastern block were living in caves or something and they do not even own an electric kattle and have slower internet connection than us 🤷🤦