“He Was Crying The Whole Ride To The Airport”: Husband Calls Wife Pathetic And Cruel After She Skipped FIL’s Funeral Because MIL Bought Her An Economy Ticket
Two days ago, a 31-year-old woman took it to the AITA subreddit to ask for advice. Nicknamed Sadandexhausted133, the author explained that she and her mother-in-law don’t have a close relationship. “She’s civil towards me but can be a bit passive-aggressive at times and we tend to disagree oftentimes,” she wrote.
“FIL passed away suddenly and MIL told me and my husband to come to attend the funeral. She booked our tickets to fly to her state.”
However, when the author found out her MIL bought her an economy seat while her husband received first class, she felt humiliated. “I felt like she was treating me as less than even in her hard times.”
Feeling down, Sadandexhausted133 made her decision not to go to the funeral, causing a huge stir in the family and leaving her husband livid.
A woman felt so humiliated over her MIL buying her an economy class seat and a first class for her husband that she refused to fly to his dad’s funeral
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Some people thought that everyone was to blame in this situation
Others believed that the author was wrong
While the rest thought it was not the author’s fault and that the MIL was not right to get her an economy seat
I'm guessing this was a final straw thing. MiL has been a petty ***** to OP for years in a way that seems 'civil', her husband has probably not supported OP at all, and this made OP realise that she was putting in a lot of emotional labour to help and support people who don't return it.
I agree. But if you care about someone, you bottle that up until after the body is in the ground!! Unless you plan on getting divorced
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Everyone sucks here. MIL for the deliberate slap against the OP even while MIL dealing with her husband's death. OP for storming off and leaving her husband to take the flight alone, when she could have dealt with her MIL once she got there, and the husband for not taking the obvious solution and asking the flight attendant to see if the person next to the OP's seat wanted to switch seats and enjoy a free first-class upgrade.
Yeah. The husband down grading would have solved everything! I bet if OP and husband had explained that there had been a mix up with seating and they were on their way to a funeral the seats would been been swapted quickly.
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When my dad passed, I wanted my spouse. But I'm not so full of myself that I would have flown in first with him in economy. Even in extreme grief, I'm not a pompous a*s. My spouse is not a doormat because of the death. Would I have been weird about the situation? Absolutely. But my spouse wanting to leave signals something bigger here. My dad was/is REALLY important to me, but even then my spouse IS the relationship that matters. Anyone toying with that is in the wrong. MIL is an a*s an knows it. The OP was put in a shitty situation and chose to stand up for herself. Bad optics because of timing? Oh yes. Lots to repair and healing needed for a healthy relationship.
THIS!!! Narcissists are going to put you on a position to stand up for your boundaries at the worst of times. The MIL used the death of her husband to try to force her DIL submit to her control. That she’s using her own sons emotions as the p**n to put the DIL in her place, a backseat in her own marriage with mommy always taking precedence, is classic narcissist abuse. It often happens at funerals and family emergencies when they strike. I’m glad the OP stood up for herself no matter what. She wouldn’t have had to if her husband had historically had a backbone with his mother. If my mother did that to my spouse, I’d say goodbye to my father on my own terms, be that a different time or different flight. I sure as shît wouldn’t be letting mommy call the shots.
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I'm guessing this was a final straw thing. MiL has been a petty ***** to OP for years in a way that seems 'civil', her husband has probably not supported OP at all, and this made OP realise that she was putting in a lot of emotional labour to help and support people who don't return it.
I agree. But if you care about someone, you bottle that up until after the body is in the ground!! Unless you plan on getting divorced
Load More Replies... Everyone sucks here. MIL for the deliberate slap against the OP even while MIL dealing with her husband's death. OP for storming off and leaving her husband to take the flight alone, when she could have dealt with her MIL once she got there, and the husband for not taking the obvious solution and asking the flight attendant to see if the person next to the OP's seat wanted to switch seats and enjoy a free first-class upgrade.
Yeah. The husband down grading would have solved everything! I bet if OP and husband had explained that there had been a mix up with seating and they were on their way to a funeral the seats would been been swapted quickly.
Load More Replies... When my dad passed, I wanted my spouse. But I'm not so full of myself that I would have flown in first with him in economy. Even in extreme grief, I'm not a pompous a*s. My spouse is not a doormat because of the death. Would I have been weird about the situation? Absolutely. But my spouse wanting to leave signals something bigger here. My dad was/is REALLY important to me, but even then my spouse IS the relationship that matters. Anyone toying with that is in the wrong. MIL is an a*s an knows it. The OP was put in a shitty situation and chose to stand up for herself. Bad optics because of timing? Oh yes. Lots to repair and healing needed for a healthy relationship.
THIS!!! Narcissists are going to put you on a position to stand up for your boundaries at the worst of times. The MIL used the death of her husband to try to force her DIL submit to her control. That she’s using her own sons emotions as the p**n to put the DIL in her place, a backseat in her own marriage with mommy always taking precedence, is classic narcissist abuse. It often happens at funerals and family emergencies when they strike. I’m glad the OP stood up for herself no matter what. She wouldn’t have had to if her husband had historically had a backbone with his mother. If my mother did that to my spouse, I’d say goodbye to my father on my own terms, be that a different time or different flight. I sure as shît wouldn’t be letting mommy call the shots.
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