Man Drops Bomb That His Wife Is Cheating On Him With His Brother At Family Dinner, Causes Chaos
Finding out that your partner is cheating is hard news to take in, no matter how long you have been together. Grasping the news is usually followed by a lot of thoughts and questions and hard, hard decisions that need to be made. Should you forgive and try to move forward? Should you confront them in person or humiliate them?
And, well – everyone decides differently. For example, one Reddit user found out about his wife’s affair with his brother and decided to call them out in front of their families, causing quite a big scene.
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Finding out that your partner has been having an affair with your sibling probably hurts even more
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Man shares that he recently found out his wife has been cheating on him with his brother, who is also married and has kids
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When he first confronted her, she tried denying it, but finally confessed, saying it was a mistake and she wants to work things out
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However, the man was furious and heartbroken and decided to confront them both during a family dinner, which caused quite a big scene
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He shared that now his wife and brother are saying that he overreacted and shouldn’t have humiliated everyone like this
Recently, one Reddit user shared his quite heartbreaking story seeking to hear online users’ perspective. After finding out about his wife and his brother’s affair, he was furious and decided to call them out in front of their families, causing quite a huge drama. The post quickly went viral, collecting over 7.5K upvotes and 2.3K comments.
The community member (OP) starts his story by sharing that he has been married to his wife for over 8 years and they have 2 kids together and seem happy. However, everything quickly changed when he found out about her affair with nobody else but his brother – who is himself married and has kids as well. Needless to say, hearing her confessing left him devastated.
OP also pointed out that their families are close and one evening, during a family gathering, he decided to confront them both, letting everyone know what has been happening behind everyone’s backs. It obviously caused quite a scene, leaving his parents devastated and his brother’s wife in tears. Now, the man is being scolded by his wife and brother for humiliating them in front of everyone.
Community members online stood by the man, saying he did the right thing and he shouldn’t care what his wife and brother think. “Sister in law needed to know her husband was having an affair. Feeling sorry for someone doesn’t mean keeping the secret so the cheater can keep cheating,” one user wrote. “Cheating is a choice; not ever a mistake,” another stated.
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Being cheated on is horrible; finding out that your friend is being cheated on is almost equally painful. But also, witnessing somebody’s partner cheating on them is not easier – not only because you know how much it will hurt them, but also because nobody wants to carry this burden and dilemma over whether you should tell them or not and how to do it.
Well, according to Triple J, their survey conducted on Instagram showed that 92% of respondents would want to know if they were being cheated on. However, there isn’t really a right or wrong response. Everybody approaches the subject of “should you tell someone if you know they’re being cheated on?” via the lens of their own lived experience.
However, if in the end you decide to tell the person, intimacy coach Georgia Grace shared that she would always recommend these really challenging conversations to not be done online or to not be done via text or a call, if you can, be there with that person to support them. But if you don’t even know that person at all, she recommends sussing it out with someone close to them.
Now, discovering your partner is not loyal to you may bring quite a lot of various feelings and thoughts, one of the main ones being ‘do they still love me?” And, well, according to the Baltimore Therapy Center, it’s very likely that your partner loves you, has loved you in the past, and will love you in the future. It’s true that you can have feelings for someone and still be unfaithful to them.
Actually, a lot of affairs occur in otherwise really happy relationships. It is not necessary for someone to have any dysfunction or a lack of emotional stability in order to cheat on their partner, though those things can occasionally result in adultery.
But what do you guys think about the story? Did the man in fact overreact? Was he wrong to announce his wife and brother’s affair to both families? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Redditors backed up the man, saying his decision to break the news was good
Made the "mistake" of banging her BIL for a year and then they have the balls to gaslight OP saying that HE did something wrong by speaking out and not hiding their affair. Wowza!
DARVO. Deny, argue, reverse victim and offender. Classic behavior of a narcissist.
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The affair went on for a YEAR! I agree the kids shouldn't have heard it but I would've done the same. :) Blow up the cheaters cozy little affair. :) And SIL deserved to know.
He blind sided them just when they thought he was a malleable schmuck they could manipulate somehow. Wife felt no shame she was attending an event where his brother would be knowing she had cheated with him for at least a year because she thought she had her poor hubby on a leash with whatever lies had convinced him not to blow up and leave initially. Poor wife and bro never had time to manipulate the fallout and that's the way it should be.
The nerve of these two people playing the victim. It's bad enough that your wife is a wh0r3, but your brother... He's the real piece of 💩
Absolutely! (Anybody else hearing the theme song from "Bridge on the River Kwai?" or just me?)
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A mistake is a one night stand. Doing someone for a year is NOT a mistake.
People keep mentioning that OP shouldn’t have said it in front of the kids. I doubt the younger kids even knew what was going on. I mean, don’t those people remember being young kids at family gatherings? You weren’t privy to the adults discussions and arguments. You were in your own kid’s world, tuned the adults out whenever you could (especially when they drag you to yet another boring—-for you—-family get together), and depending on your age, probably wouldn’t understand what they were talking about in the first place. So I think the younger kids weren’t immediately affected. Besides, their own parents would have ended up telling them about the changes in the family dynamics (“Aunt Mary and Uncle John won’t be at any more family dinners, honey. They’ve….moved away. No, not with Uncle Jim and Aunt Sue. Just the two of them. No, they moved too far away to be able to come back.”). As they get older, they’ll be clued in to what really happened. However, the older kids, especially those with a clue about relationships, infidelity, and divorce, would immediately understand and be affected.
Yup, the kids should not have heard, but otherwise I would say, you go! Cheaters don't get a say in how they will be exposed. In this way at least the entire family knows at the same time, so no room for misunderstandings. Maybe the family will not recover from this, but that's not OP's fault: it's the cheater's fault.
NTA but if he had any thoughts of reconciliation, this destroyed any possibility. I also don't think it should have been around the kids. While publicly doing that isn't my style, I don't blame OP on this
Here's your response: "F**k that, and f**k you." Get a lawyer and shed a wife.
They're mad, because he exposed the affair in front of the family? They're part of that family. Of course he told them. It wasn't a one time thing. It went on for over a year, and the only reason it stopped (IF it stopped) is, because they got caught. Mistakes, don't involve planning and deception.
Probably would have been better to tell the sister-in-law in private - dropping that on her in front of her husband, children and in-laws wasn't the best - but 100% nta
I disagree. It would give him/them an opportunity to deny anything. By bringing it out in front of the "principles" there's no wiggle room. In front of the kids? Maybe not the best decision but given the OP's mental state, understandable. The in-laws need the unadulterated truth. No painting the pig, because there's going to be a lot of discussion about this and probably some pretty serious fallout, so instead of little nuggets coming out now and then (read- whenever the folks make plans) and a monkey wrench being tossed into the machinery. It's time to pay the piper.
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I don't see where the OP says the children were there. As soon as the last bite is swallowed, kids usually disappear up to their rooms to play and gossip. I was thinking the adults were lingering over coffee. But the OP should have told the sister first, even if it was right before the announcement.
Yes, he was indeed in the wrong for making the announcement at a family dinner. He was not wrong for telling the family, but the timing was wrong. He definitely had the right to tell everyone, but consider for a moment the feelings of the non-adulterous members of the family, and also sister in law. I can imagine it being a huge shock to the parents, blind-siding the sister in law, and the stuff of nightmares for the children. What his wife and brother did was wrong, and they deserved to have their actions brought out into the open. I totally get the guy was heart-broken, and angry, but announcing this at a family dinner just seems like he wanted to hurt as many people as possible. He was wrong (not the only one who was in the wrong.)
Wow. The nerve his wife must have, to have a year long affair with her BIL and to then think everything is going to be sweetness and light at the next family dinner with her AP and the AP's own wife. I feel sorry for his wife (OP's SIL), finding out at what was supposed to be a happy family event, but there can't be any good way to find out your hubby is having an affair with his SIL.
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Made the "mistake" of banging her BIL for a year and then they have the balls to gaslight OP saying that HE did something wrong by speaking out and not hiding their affair. Wowza!
DARVO. Deny, argue, reverse victim and offender. Classic behavior of a narcissist.
Load More Replies... The affair went on for a YEAR! I agree the kids shouldn't have heard it but I would've done the same. :) Blow up the cheaters cozy little affair. :) And SIL deserved to know.
He blind sided them just when they thought he was a malleable schmuck they could manipulate somehow. Wife felt no shame she was attending an event where his brother would be knowing she had cheated with him for at least a year because she thought she had her poor hubby on a leash with whatever lies had convinced him not to blow up and leave initially. Poor wife and bro never had time to manipulate the fallout and that's the way it should be.
The nerve of these two people playing the victim. It's bad enough that your wife is a wh0r3, but your brother... He's the real piece of 💩
Absolutely! (Anybody else hearing the theme song from "Bridge on the River Kwai?" or just me?)
Load More Replies... A mistake is a one night stand. Doing someone for a year is NOT a mistake.
People keep mentioning that OP shouldn’t have said it in front of the kids. I doubt the younger kids even knew what was going on. I mean, don’t those people remember being young kids at family gatherings? You weren’t privy to the adults discussions and arguments. You were in your own kid’s world, tuned the adults out whenever you could (especially when they drag you to yet another boring—-for you—-family get together), and depending on your age, probably wouldn’t understand what they were talking about in the first place. So I think the younger kids weren’t immediately affected. Besides, their own parents would have ended up telling them about the changes in the family dynamics (“Aunt Mary and Uncle John won’t be at any more family dinners, honey. They’ve….moved away. No, not with Uncle Jim and Aunt Sue. Just the two of them. No, they moved too far away to be able to come back.”). As they get older, they’ll be clued in to what really happened. However, the older kids, especially those with a clue about relationships, infidelity, and divorce, would immediately understand and be affected.
Yup, the kids should not have heard, but otherwise I would say, you go! Cheaters don't get a say in how they will be exposed. In this way at least the entire family knows at the same time, so no room for misunderstandings. Maybe the family will not recover from this, but that's not OP's fault: it's the cheater's fault.
NTA but if he had any thoughts of reconciliation, this destroyed any possibility. I also don't think it should have been around the kids. While publicly doing that isn't my style, I don't blame OP on this
Here's your response: "F**k that, and f**k you." Get a lawyer and shed a wife.
They're mad, because he exposed the affair in front of the family? They're part of that family. Of course he told them. It wasn't a one time thing. It went on for over a year, and the only reason it stopped (IF it stopped) is, because they got caught. Mistakes, don't involve planning and deception.
Probably would have been better to tell the sister-in-law in private - dropping that on her in front of her husband, children and in-laws wasn't the best - but 100% nta
I disagree. It would give him/them an opportunity to deny anything. By bringing it out in front of the "principles" there's no wiggle room. In front of the kids? Maybe not the best decision but given the OP's mental state, understandable. The in-laws need the unadulterated truth. No painting the pig, because there's going to be a lot of discussion about this and probably some pretty serious fallout, so instead of little nuggets coming out now and then (read- whenever the folks make plans) and a monkey wrench being tossed into the machinery. It's time to pay the piper.
Load More Replies... I don't see where the OP says the children were there. As soon as the last bite is swallowed, kids usually disappear up to their rooms to play and gossip. I was thinking the adults were lingering over coffee. But the OP should have told the sister first, even if it was right before the announcement.
Yes, he was indeed in the wrong for making the announcement at a family dinner. He was not wrong for telling the family, but the timing was wrong. He definitely had the right to tell everyone, but consider for a moment the feelings of the non-adulterous members of the family, and also sister in law. I can imagine it being a huge shock to the parents, blind-siding the sister in law, and the stuff of nightmares for the children. What his wife and brother did was wrong, and they deserved to have their actions brought out into the open. I totally get the guy was heart-broken, and angry, but announcing this at a family dinner just seems like he wanted to hurt as many people as possible. He was wrong (not the only one who was in the wrong.)
Wow. The nerve his wife must have, to have a year long affair with her BIL and to then think everything is going to be sweetness and light at the next family dinner with her AP and the AP's own wife. I feel sorry for his wife (OP's SIL), finding out at what was supposed to be a happy family event, but there can't be any good way to find out your hubby is having an affair with his SIL.
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