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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
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#1
Imma Use This One Sometime
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#2
Photographer Shaming A Guest
#3
Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...
The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
#4
4 Weddings And A Cat Party
#5
Found On Twitter
#6
Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter
But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
#7
This Is Terrible
#8
What A Hilarious Prank!
#9
I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On
Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
#10
Real Life Soap Opera
#11
Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
#12
It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know
#13
You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
Full of Giggles 5 years ago
A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.
Retro Dan™ 5 years ago
You are the most wicked person I've ever wanted to marry based on a single mean-spirited line of text. YOU ARE NOW MY SPIRIT ANIMAL.
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Theodore Theodora 5 years ago
No need to fat-shame. Enough to shame here without stooping to that.
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Iris Wolfie (づ ◕‿◕ )づ 5 years ago
Lady, if you're so desperate to get married, MAYBE don't wear a bridal gown at a wedding WHERE YOU ARE NOT THE BRIDE!!!1
GirlFriday 5 years ago
When my cousin got married, her mother-in-law did this. The MIL went out and bought a wedding gown and wore it to the wedding and insisted on having photos taken without the bride.
Toujin C'Thlu 5 years ago
I've read about some MILs doing this. It's rather creepy if you think about it...
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NMN 5 years ago
If I had had a fancy wedding I wouldn't mind someone using that, but that's just me
Eulalie Grace 5 years ago (edited)
Yeah, but go to a professional and have it dyed another color.
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Celtic Pirate Queen 5 years ago
What kind of attention whore does that? A friends stepmother (attn whore) did that at her sisters wedding. Luckily, she was spotted getting out of the limo she had rented and stopped at the door. She was informed that if she wanted to attend the wedding she would have to go home and change into something more appropriate (45 minutes away) and NO, they would not postpone the wedding for her. The kicker? Her Dad was giving her away and was in the limo with this nutcase. He was heard saying, "I told you that was disrespectful. I guess I'll see you at the reception". She started throwing a fit & the Dad literally shoved her back into the car and told the driver "GO". She never did make it back for the reception, which I'm told was absolutely gorgeous. The bride didn't know anything about it until AFTER they got back from the honeymoon. THOSE are the friends you want at your wedding.
Marcellus the Third 5 years ago
Was it a ghost haunting the venue? Groom's ex? What? We should be told more details.
Paizleypie 5 years ago
SOMEBODY just can't stand not being the center of attention. For SHAME!
Valerie Anne 5 years ago
Let me guess: she's either Mother of the Groom and she's the only one who will ever really be able to take care of her son or she harbors a secret love of the bride or groom
Elaine Mattingly 5 years ago (edited)
Tell her she looks lovely and walk on with dignity.
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bunny 5 years ago (edited)
Never wear white (or off white) to a wedding. Don't get near this. Never wear the style of dress with lace that might be used as a bridal gown. This is way over the line. The bride must always shine at her wedding. It is her day. It is absolutely a very long tradition that should be observed on such an important day for the bride. Somehow this person didn't know this. Or maybe they thought it wasn't important. They still made an awful faux pas.
danielw 5 years ago
unless your the bride (or groom, or whatever.) Then, where whatever you want.
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Shinomi Chan 4 years ago
Awful. No one should make the bride/groom feel awful on THEIR WEDDING DAY. If she wants to wear that then, WEAR IT ON YOUR OWN TIME/Wedding day. If she tries to come in, with that on, I say shut the door with a slam.
Sonika Schroeder 5 years ago
I need her face.... Why not publicly shame her if she publicly showed up like that??? Hey, it's a chance you take!
Eulalie Grace 5 years ago
Maybe it's her old gown and she wanted to get more mileage out of it. Yeah, the red wine solution sounds like a great plan.
Mars Lander 5 years ago
Or possibly a failed attempt to make the statement she was supposed to marry the groom before he stepped out on her? There's a theme here... js
Ainsley Hallum 5 years ago
If it was my wedding i would walk up to her and say "at least we know who looks better."
Aria Whitaker 5 years ago
Did you just ask why people are shaming someone who had the gall to wear a freaking wedding dress to someone else's wedding? Seriously?
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Dorothy Parker 5 years ago (edited)
IMHO it's a ball gown, Oscar ceremony formal dress, not a wedding dress. But not appropriate for a wedding unless ball gowns were specified.
Viviane 5 years ago
It's hard to tell the colour - lighting and camera can affect how colour is recorded. While there's no law against non-brides wearing a white wedding gown to a wedding, it is considered rude. I realize it doesn't sound logical to tell men to dress like the groom, but insist that women not dress like the bride. There's a history of women wearing virginal white at weddings. I overthink these things too - I wore a green ballgown to my wedding because "White is for virgins. I've been living with the guy for ten year, who am I fooling?" Oh, and I look better in green. :)
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Mama Panda 5 years ago
I would guess the bride at this wedding cared. It is simple etiquette to not wear anything that remotely looks like a wedding dress unless you are the bride.
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LittleMissLotus 5 years ago
It's pretty easy to go buy a cheap dress at the goodwill, or even borrow one.
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Foxxy (The Original) 5 years ago (edited)
I personally couldn’t have cared less if someone wore white to my wedding but I would care if someone came in a dress that looks similar to a wedding dress like what is pictured. That to me is a big no-no.
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#14
Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
#15
This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!
#16
Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!
#17
We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money
Downunderdude 5 years ago
We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.
#18
A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....
#19
Do Not Talk To The Bride At All
#20
Gahhh This Is Bad
#21
Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
#23
Yikes Yikes Yikes
#24
Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day
#25
“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”
Downunderdude 5 years ago
Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.
#26
Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit
#27
$250 Min Gift To Attend
#28
Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time
Downunderdude 5 years ago
No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.
#29
She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride
IlovemydogShilo 5 years ago
Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”
#30
I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?
Analyn Lahr 5 years ago
Is there a joke I'm not fully grasping? Because that's camo not nudist.
#31
More Depressing Af Cake Toppers, Just Why?
#32
Tell Your Wedding Guests To Die
#33
Politics At Non-Political Events Is Probably My #1 Pet Peeve
Jarno Flinkers 5 years ago
Hey dad, I have a riddle for you. How many Trump supporters do you need to put in a light bulb? None, because they are shooting at the room for being black.
#34
Bride Urges Guests To Uber To Her Wedding In Order To Avoid The “Quarantine Police”
#35
Kid Wants To Dress Up As A Lion To Their Wedding. Also Told To Change Their Centrepieces As Kid Doesn’t Like Balloons. Kid Is Op’s Mother’s Best Friend’s Child
#36
The Bride Is On The Right
cybermerlin2000 5 years ago
Should have turned her away before she even walked through the doors
#37
From Pinterest. I Really Dislike Things Like This... Is Someone Forcing You To Get Married!?
Katy McMouse 5 years ago
I'm sick to death of cutesy signs every time you turn the hell around.
#38
I Can’t Believe You’re Afraid Of Covid, What About My Wedding?
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
How dare You not risk you life to watch me walk around in person rather than waiting til it's safe. Ur selfish desire to live is breaking my heart.
#39
Normal Thing To Do...
cybermerlin2000 5 years ago
Just saw the date 8th of December 2019. I think none of them will be getting what they want
#40
A New Low?
#41
I Don’t Even Know Where To Begin
#42
While We’re On The Topic Of Cake Toppers....i Can’t Stand The “Woman Trapping The Man And Keeping Him From Things He Likes To Do” Trope. There Are Far Too Many Versions Of These
chi-wei shen 5 years ago
And why is that groom always portrayed as being insultingly immature?
#43
Videographer Refuses To Do Same-Sex Weddings
#44
My Idiot Cousin Is Getting Divorced. After My Friend Told Me How They Got Engaged, I’m Not Surprised. Karma
#45
Bride In The Middle, Cow Who Turned Up To The Wedding In A White Dress With A Train On The Right
#46
Is It Wedding Shaming If The Groom Doesn’t Even Know They’re Dating?
Candace Fitzpatrick 5 years ago
Sorry, but I feel like this has to be fake. Regardless if she misheard him or whatever the case would’ve been.... planning a wedding for 7 months and they didn’t even have ONE conversation about how it was coming along? I don’t buy it
#47
Taken From A Party Planning Site, Advising How To Have A Free Wedding. Other Gem Advice Was To Get Mother-In-Law To Make The Wedding Cake
#48
We Both Got Covid But All That Matters Is That We’re Married
#49
Well Ok Then....
#50
Brilliant Job By Videographer
#51
Girl I Rarely Speak To Anymore Asks If She's Invited To Our Wedding. After Telling Her That She Isn't She Tells Me I Should Rethink Marrying My Fiancé
Sent From The Slytherin House 5 years ago
My goodness. This is terrible- using God as an excuse!
#52
"Hey, I Have An Amazing Idea For A Super Unique Pic!"
#53
I Don’t Know What To Say About This
Lauren Caswell 5 years ago
Way to make a young probably teens step child feel even more embarrassed about their braces than they already were. I would never want someone who would be so oblivious to be my child's step-anything. Thank God my son's stepmum is a gem, she always treats him as one of her own, as I tell my boy, parental decisions are made between the three of us (myself, his father and his stepmum). I don't think that's common though we are quite lucky.
#54
Yikes
#55
Making Fun Of Corona And Blm At Your 200+ Person Wedding. Yes This Was The Only Time Anyone Wore Masks
#56
Uh Oh... Shame. On. Us. (18k In The Group On Facebook)
#57
Because We All Want Our Guests Knowing We’ll Be Too Drunk For Sex On Our Wedding Night
#58
Great Wedding Photos
#59
Found In A Disney Shaming Group- I’m Sure Ashley Tisdale Would Be There!
#60
I Didn't Realize A Pandemic Stopped Once You Are "Over It"
#61
"People Are Still Afraid." I Mean, It's Not Like The Pandemic Is Still Happening, Right?
#62
I’m Sorry, You’re Trippin About Your Ex At Your Wedding? Wat
#63
This Trend Is Universally Bad, But This Iteration Is The Worst I've Personally Seen To Date
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KombatBunni 5 years ago
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
CamlikesCookies 5 years ago
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
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Cecilia Bivald 5 years ago
I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
westwing 5 years ago
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Steve 5 years ago
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
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Cathelijne van Weelden 5 years ago (edited)
Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Steve 5 years ago
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Helen Haley 5 years ago
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
Kathryn Patterson 5 years ago
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... Mohammad Azhaan 5 years ago
We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
Viviane 5 years ago
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
Eulalie Grace 5 years ago
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
Flavia Slag 5 years ago
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
Isle_of_stressed_pilots 5 years ago
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Steve 5 years ago
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
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Tracy Wallick 4 years ago
Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
Valerie Anne 5 years ago
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Kathryn Patterson 5 years ago
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
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reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee 5 years ago
I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
KombatBunni 5 years ago
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
CamlikesCookies 5 years ago
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies... Cecilia Bivald 5 years ago
I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
westwing 5 years ago
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Steve 5 years ago
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies... Cathelijne van Weelden 5 years ago (edited)
Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Steve 5 years ago
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 5 years ago
The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Helen Haley 5 years ago
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
Kathryn Baylis 5 years ago
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
Kathryn Patterson 5 years ago
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... Mohammad Azhaan 5 years ago
We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
Viviane 5 years ago
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
Eulalie Grace 5 years ago
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
Flavia Slag 5 years ago
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
Isle_of_stressed_pilots 5 years ago
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Steve 5 years ago
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies... Tracy Wallick 4 years ago
Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
Valerie Anne 5 years ago
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Kathryn Patterson 5 years ago
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies... reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee 5 years ago
I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
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