“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Just Had To Shame These Weddings Online (New Posts)
There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
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Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"
It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"
Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
Sure, for $3,200. She can even wear her wedding dress if she wants to.
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts
Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
Looks like they rummaged through the florist's bin for the bits stripped of the wedding bouquet flowers
I have a bunch of food restrictions and I always eat before events and bring snacks. I honestly think it's a bit presumptuous to assume food chosen by another will suit you. Even for people without food restrictions and special diets, the bride and grooms choices are often unappealing or the caterer falls down. My attitude is that a wedding really isn't about enjoying the best meal of my life, it's about celebrating with others and if a protein bar in your purse prevents me from getting hangry, it's well worth the few dollars investment. It really saves a lot of emotional energy.
As a vegan, I always try and message for events with my kids with something like "we're happy to bring vegan treats for the kids" which both alerts them that we are vegan and then also says "hey, we got this". But when you have a fancier event and the caterer says they can and will make something vegan and then pops up with something like this, it does make me a but upset. Like, I can get better vegan food at a 7-11, is this seriously the best you could do for almost certainly well North of $20/plate? PS, I don't hold this against the people organizing the event, unless it's a deliberate dig at me.
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That's not the vegan option, that's an after thought of "Oh $hi+! We forgot about the vegans!"
More like "they can bloody well eat the same as everybody else or starve"
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*voice dripping with sarcasm* Oh, whee! Just what any vegan would want! 3 slices of melon with a handful of dandelion greens and a makeshift vinaigrette...
My (extremely lactose intolerant) daughter asked for the vegetarian option at a conference dinner at the Radisson. She received a cold fruit soup as starter, a basic green salad for main, and sliced fruit for dessert. For this she (pre)paid £50.
If I understand correctly, lactose intolerance means you cannot have dairy products, aren't there any non vegetarian dishes which are free of dairy products. On the other hand how do we make sure that a vegetarian meal does not have cream or cheese in it.
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My vegetarian dish at (friend’s wedding) the most expensive hotel/wedding venue in our city: uncooked block of tofu with some mustard drizzled on top.
I had a co-worker who had a 10-course meal for her reception. She was excitedly telling me the menu in the weeks leading up to the wedding, and I pointed out that a) everything except the dessert contained meat of some kind and b) at least two of the guests were vegetarian. She dismissed my concerns, saying all the dishes came served on vegetables and they could eat those. The "vegetables" turned out to be garnishes - lettuce leaves, raw carrot curls, that sort of thing, and of course they were covered in juices from the meats. Fortunately, the reception was at a restaurant & the food was being cooked fresh, so after the 3rd course the husband of the vegetarian sitting at our table asked the server to have the chef prepare something she could eat, which he did. Unfortunately, this was after we all - including the vegetarian - had sampled the "noodle" dish that turned out to be jellyfish...
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But they put rockmelon for you too! That is so nice, do you know how much one slice of that stuff can cost them?/s
If I was the vegan, I would order DoorDash and ser up the styrofoam trays on the table, loudly.
I've had a few pretty sad vegetarian options, but this really is the worst. How hard would it have been to offer a real vegan meal salad with a variety of greens, tomatoes, chopped or shredded vegetables, garbanzos, and some crunchy sunflower seeds or other nuts on top? Bruschetta, with bread that was vegan, would have been more festive and filling, with tomatoes, basil, balsamic vinegar, and olive oil on toasted slices. Or how about actually making something hot, like some root veggies drizzled with olive oil and oven roasted with a side of quinoa, rice or couscous made with olive oil instead of butter? Even a baked potato with salsa would have been better than this mess.
Bruh it looks like when you asked for a vegan dish the caterer just went outside and collected some leaves from the ground
To me it looks like they accidentally left it out in the sun for a week, then found it, then fed it to their guest... Then they be like, "this is fine, atleast its not me..."
Don't blame the wedding couple. Presumably they had professional caterers - who being "professionals" who do weddings for a living should know everything needed about asking guests if they have special dietary needs and about producing genuine AND tasty vegan options if needed.
Totally agree with this. Unless I know specifics, I try never to blame on malice what can be easily explained by laziness and ignorance, which is almost always on the part of the caterers. I am pretty used to fancy events with terrible alternatives for anyone with dietary restrictions (self imposed or not) but just because I am not upset with the people or group who planned the event doesn't mean I am happy being sidelined like this either.
Load More Replies... While I agree that that looks neither very interesting nor nutricious I find it hard to find complaining about it correct. What is served at a wedding is entirely up to the bride and the groom, and you pretty much just have to accept what you are being served. Other people may not like the roast or the brusselsprout or whatever, and cooking to 100+ people's specific taste is a nearly imposible task to put on the chef. Yes they could have been a bit more considered, but just putting up with your special demands is already a nice gesture. To be honest, I find shaming them for that a bit entitled.
Vegetarian is hardly a rare option. Any decent caterer should have a vegetarian option that’s the rough equivalent of the meat options. It’s not a lot to ask at all.
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Obviously this is ridiculous, but I'm honestly not sure what a good vegan option would look like. Can y'all give me suggestions about what meals would be not only good but also vegan? I have a decent idea what a vegetarian option would look like, but I am not familiar with ways to circumvent things like milk and eggs.
All kinds of vegetable soups like for example tomato soup, pasta with pesto or with vegetables/mushrooms, pierogi/dumplings, hummus, grilled tofu - options are plenty. People often don't realize that they eat vegan food on a daily basis :)
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tbf did the couple even know op was vegan? were the caterers informed thered be people with restrictions?
Wow... I've heard of Vegan haters, but this ***** went out into the backyard and pulled some weeds and added slivers of ancient dairy product then let her bloody nose leak over this sorry insult.
Vegetarian isn’t just “scrape the meat off the plate and serve what’s left”. 😂
This reminds me of a time I was at an oldschool inn in a tiny village and asked if they had anything without meat, expecting either an angry no or a plate looking like the one above. Instead the chef bursts out of the kitchen, looms over me and yells (the French equivalent of) „You’re vegetarian! I never get to make anything vegetarian around here! I’m gonna make the best vegetarian dish you’ve ever had!” and storms back to the kitchen. At this point I’m terrified of what I’m gonna get, but man it really turned out to be the best dish I ever had and it was presented like something you’d expect at a multi-star restaurant. (So the exact opposite of the picture above.)
If you have special dietary needs, always bring your own food. Grow up.
Nah. It's rude not to have reasonable accommodations for your guests. I bet you have no friends.
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This is not an option for anyone, vegan or not. That's not even a decent size starter salad.
I'm vegetarian but my parents aren't, and a few months ago we were on vacation and there was a resturant that my mom really wanted to go to, but it had no vegetarian options at all, and my mom didn't want to go without me so we went somewhere else. I feel absolutely awful about it!
This looks like a starter I would like - melon, rocket and balsamic dressing. Lovely. But it would not make a main course.
be thankful you got a. vegan meal...been to many a wedding where there has been nothing safe for me to eat. vegan was your choice...coeliac disease wasn't mine.
I'm sorry that's happened to you. Were you told there would be an option for you? As a vegan with a celiac mom who also has some issues with cashews, MIL with type 1 diabetes and a cousin with a life threatening peanut allergy (and my SIL also having a tree nut intolerance, and an uncle has some digestive problems with things like seeds) large family meals can get a bit interesting. Most of us try and do our best to have at least some offerings for anyone's needs, but I am sure you understand how much it can actually feel bad to be left out of something social over food.
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Stop whining! It's not your wedding. Weddings are expensive and you probably didn't pay for it. If you're that picky then eat before you get there. Or, if you don't like it, then here's an idea, just don't go at all. It's their day so let it be about them. Sit there politely, smile and celebrate with them. It's not always about you...
Don't invite people if you're not prepared to accommodate them. If your wedding is "all about you" then get married at a courthouse with 0 guests. Clownery.
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Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.
Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too
Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!
A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months
From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes
Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
Wow 🤦🏻♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!
A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited
I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.
I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.
My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
Bride Wants Bridal Party And Friends To Pay For Her Solo Spa Weekend Instead Of Having A Bachelorette Party
God Forbid Her Sister Getting A Tattoo Before The Wedding!
Warning - I'm about to be judgey - if someone having a tattoo that doesn't match your wedding theme is something you find devasting - you've lived a charmed life.
Nothing Says Love Better Than Dead Fish Instead Of Flowers
No! First off, black moor and fantail goldfish wouldn't be cheaper than flowers in most instances. Feeder goldfish are cheap as hell but fancier varieties are at least a few bucks a piece...and they definitely aren't meant to stay in a vase. Goldfish need well aerated, cold, filtered water as they breathe from their gills and produce a ton of waste. You'd literally be killing those fish over the course of the event and even if you gave them away and/or kept them, it's highly unlikely most would survive. Goldfish will grow as big as their environment will allow and keeping them confined like that is bad for them and will leave them swimming in & breathing their own filth.
Imagine Thinking That Your Color Scheme Is More Important Than Your “Closest” Friend
Women Shares Petty Story Of Revenge At Wedding. I Understand How One May Wish To Do This, But Don't
Found In A Book Of Faces Group. Far Too Many Commenters Are Saying, Though Tacky, The Brother Isn’t Out Of Line
I would NEVER pay to be at a wedding. Here in the UK I’ve never heard of anyone having to pay for their plate or simply to attend. A gift is not mandatory either….yes it’s polite to bring a gift for the couple but you get them what you can afford. If you want to get married, you pay for the wedding. It’s that simple. If you can’t afford a big wedding, have a smaller, more intimate day. So much attention is payed to the wedding day when it’s how you go forward as a married couple that’s more important.
She Looks Absolutely Beautiful. Too Bad - That's My MIL At My Wedding 7 Years Ago
Groomsmen Plans To Propose At Bachelor/Ette Party. Group Is Split On Whether Or Not It's Okay
Well but also why would you use someone else's celebration/event to propose??
Vape-Themed Wedding Shoot Turns Terrifying
This one made me laugh out loud, looks like something just offscreen is sucking out their souls!
Oh God. Found On Fb. Even Matching Pearls!
My Sister Got Married And Her MIL Decided To Get A Bigger Wedding Cake Than Our Mum's Self-Made
Bride Looking For Ways To Honor The Groom’s Native American Heritage
This is a case of 'heart in the right place, head in wrong place'. It's a great idea, but I would suggest discreetly asking his family what/if any traditions normally take place, then see about having them incorporated in your wedding.
Ewww, I Would Prefer Nothing Over A Mlm Gift
Sure, I'd take the products for free. Just don't expect ME to pay for them - I want absolutely no part of those financial scams.
Seen Posted On Facebook. Erm, What!
Bride Wants A Bridal Shower But Wants The Guests To Pay For It
I didn't have one but I think the MOH is the one that orchestrates the Bridal shower not the Bride.
Bridesmaid Dyes Hair Red After Bride Asks Her Not Too
Leaving A Review After Showing Up Drunk At A Bridal Appointment With More Liquor
Wow, these absolute bastards wanted them to be safe and live to see their wedding day, how very judgemental of them.
“Parents Are Paying For Everything So They Should Do Everything For Me, But Also My Mil Is Helping Me Plan And I Hate It”
Let me get this right…..You want your family to not only pay (a small fortune) for your wedding, but organise it all too? and when your MIL tries to help you with some of the organisation (which you’ve stated you are too busy to do) she’s in the wrong? I’m lost for words on this one….
My Sister Is Getting Married.. This Is The Dress One Of Her Bridesmaids Bought
Bride Books Cabin For Her Ceremony Location Without Making Sure It Was Okay With The Renters To Do So
Jealous Of Children…. New Low In The Wedding Group
I'm really torn about this one. On one hand these kids are apparently a big part of his life and he wants them there. On the other hand she doesn't feel comfortable. So who should respect whom?
“Selfish” Bridesmaids Ruin Wedding By Saving Their Money During Record Inflation
I Guess Enough Is Never Enough When It Comes To Gifts Or Cash Donations
Found This Doozy In A Buy And Sell Group
Girl, Just Don't Have A Bridal Party
When Wedding Planning Is The Only Thing On Your Mind
That's where you are: alive, not under constant threat of artillery exploding near you, or burying your family members who were shot by soldiers. Be thankful, you incurable a**l cyst.
Spotted On Fb. Casual Beach Wedding, So I Totally Thought This Woman Was The Bride At First
Influencer At A Black Tie Wedding Reception. Gotta Get Content For The Gram Right
Bride Refuses To Host Reception For 100-Person "Micro Wedding"
Couple Posted A Tik Tok Of Unique Things They Did At Their Wedding, One Of Which Being Unity Milk!
Found This Whilst Looking At A Hashtag For A Wedding Venue…. That Is Not The Bride
Sounds Like He Dodged A Bullet
She Posted In A Wedding Shaming Group For Opinions And Is Getting Completely Roasted
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
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Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies... Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
