“That’s It, I’m Wedding Shaming”: 40 Times People Just Had To Shame These Weddings Online (New Posts)
There’s one kind of event where everything is at stake. All the money, all the effort, all the planning, all the dreams, and yep, we’re talking weddings.
And when pressure to have the perfect day reaches the boiling point, it basically becomes a real-life reality show with drama, unstaged emotions, toxic family members, entitled guests, bridezillas, and lost grooms.
The content weddings provide us is so immense that wedding shaming groups have been popping up one by one on social media lately. This corner of Reddit known as the Wedding Shaming subreddit is also a destination to shame anything from wedding themes, vendors, brides and grooms, in-laws, and Uncle Bobs, and boy, it’s been buzzing.
Below we collected some of the new posts shared on the community, so scroll down below for some crazy nuptial drama. More wedding shaming content can be found in our previous posts here and here.
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Wedding Shaming, The Dear Prudence Edition
Check Out This Horror Of A "Mother"
It Truly Is Funny How Being A Part Of Someone's Bridesmaids Or Being The Maid Of Honor Is No Longer Chosen By How Close You Are To The Bride But By How Well You Fit Her Aesthetic
Once got told to ‘make an effort to not take the attention away from the bride’ by a then friend who was getting married. She meant ‘lose weight and don’t use walking aids’. Didn’t attend and haven’t spoken to her in over 22 years.
No wedding has gone without at least a tiny drop of drama. This is because people put the pressure on themselves a little too much, until for many brides and grooms, it becomes unbearable.
To find out more about navigating your perfect day in a way that doesn’t cost all your nerves, Bored Panda previously spoke with Jen Glantz, the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and The Newlywed Card Game, a 3x best-selling author, a voice of You’re Not Getting Any Younger podcast, and the brains behind Jen & Juice coaching, digital courses, & the Pick-Me-Up newsletter.
You Want My To Cut My Hair. You Can’t Fire Me, I Quit
Bridesmaid/Sil From Hell From Dear Prudence
that's not a joke! that's just cruel! wtf is wrong with people?? EDIT: the stroy goes on (about 4 more pics); OP's whole family will be absent from the wedding. the sister is just "a child" and the sister dubbled down with "it's not like it was the actual skeleton of the dead sister"
Asking The Girl Your Fiancé Groomed To Be Your Photographer For Free
It turns out that conflict and drama starts as early as the bridal party. “That's because weddings are filled with decisions, pop-up challenges, and a lot of emotions. When you bring your friends and family into that equation and ask them to stand by your side, while also giving them a to-do list of things you expect them to do during your wedding adventure, it can bring a level of intensity that didn't exist before the wedding within that relationship,” Glentz explained.
Too Bad, So Sad Wedding Photo Edition
Sure, for $3,200. She can even wear her wedding dress if she wants to.
Poor Photographer.. That Said I'd Be Interested To See The Pictures That They Had To Capture While This All Went Down
Mother Of Groom Insists On Being In Son’s Wedding Portrait With Bust Of Deceased Husband
A lot of conflicts, however, could be avoided with better communication and slightly lower expectations, Glantz argues. “So much can be avoided if the person getting married clearly states what they want from their bridal party and the people in the bridal party openly share what they are able and willing to do before the wedding process even starts,” she told us in a previous interview.
I Paid $600 And Gave Her Six Months For My Wedding Dress Hem To Look Like This
Host A Photography Competition Instead Of Paying For A Photographer!
With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies
But no matter how much drama weddings may have, you may wonder if it’s still okay to shame these events and the people behind them. After all, are wedding shaming groups considered to have some form of hate that may be harmful to their targets?
Well, we previously asked that question to Darlene Lancer, who is a therapist, relationship & NPD expert, and the author of "Codependency for Dummies." Lancer explained that according to the FBI, “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group or people of a particular sexual orientation. They investigate these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty. “So defined, wedding haters and shamers are not members of a ‘hate group,’” she said.
Say Yes To The Dress Bride Wanted An “Avatar Unicorn.” My Friend Had Thoughts
Mother In Law And Sister In Law Wore White
I personally dont care about this tradition and want everyone at my wedding to wear white or beige - but if it was clearly done in spite at my friends wedding I’d be very clumsy with the red wine :D
When a friend of mine got married she had a Matron of Honor (me) and a Maid of Honor (another friend) as her attendants. She wore a white wedding dress and both of us wore white suits (white skirts with white jacket) with red blouses. If we were buying clothes for her wedding, she wanted us to get some use out of them. As in this photo, it was still clear who the bride was. No one mistook us for her.
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I know a lot of people could care less about this tradition but it's just considered rude to wear a white dress to a wedding if you aren't the bride. And it's not so much that someone maybe didn't know; it's never some random guest or friend. It's always the MiL or another in-law who does it as sort of a dig at the bride.
Are any family members Filipino? Wearing white, or a variation is the custom for some cultures. This might be one of those cases. It is a sign of respect and honor. Not only for the family, but also for the culture.
That was my first thought. I posted that as well. I am guessing so.
Load More Replies... wearing white at someone else's wedding is really tacky. So though it may be hard as hell, I think the best thing you can do is not to let it get to your hard, and instead let them expose themselves as the nasty idiots they are to the rest of the guest. If you cannot manage that, an "unfortunate" situations involving a glass of red wine may save the day...
Your not supposed to wear the same color dress as the bride regardless of that being white, green, purple, ect.
I'm a bit confused.... what is the problem here? My mom wore a blue dress, at her wedding, A teacher of mine a green one, so whats the thing with this "only white" - obsession with some brides?
It's not that the bride cannot wear another color, but rather that women other than the bride are wearing white. Wedding etiquette states that no guest should wear a white dress to a wedding because other guests may confuse her with the bride. In this case, I doubt ignorance is an excuse. MIL and SIL are a couple of immature backstabbers, if you ask me.
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The whole "white wedding dress" started with Queen Victoria at a time when the royalty's finances and the nation were in a time of austerity. The white dress cut down on costs. As most people have innate sheep-like tendencies, especially when insecure, other have followed suit every since. Over the years, I have asked my friends and acquaintances what advice they would give their younger selves about their weddings. It's almost always a variation of the following: "Spend less on the wedding and use the money to minimize debt or pay for help; not sweat the small stuff at the wedding so they could actually enjoy it and realize that the friends and loved ones at the wedding are people you want in your life, so who really cares about these little missteps. A wedding is not some kind of competition, it's a celebration."
At my wedding I didn't care what color you wore it can be white or anything else the reason brides wore white was to symbolize purity me and my husband already had 3 kids by then so that ship has sailed so I didn't care about wearing white and I didn't police my guess either
I didn't want anyone wearing white to my wedding either but did not think I needed to state that. My grandmother showed up in a white suit with ankle length skirt, and as usual when she had it altered she had the excess made in to a cover for her cane (cane always matched her outfits). I did not give a hoot when I saw her on the day, and there are people who still 26 years later talk about how classy she looked with that matching cane cover.
My own mother wore a cream colored suit to my wedding. I BEGGED her beforehand not to - but she refused to listen to my concerns. I was extremely hurt but, as always, swept my feelings under the rug. Years later, after 10 years in therapy, this was just one more incident of my family ignoring my needs/boundaries. I miss my mother (she has passed away) and divorced the groom. Now I'm happy to have those professional photos of us together. PS I still think it was horrible that she did that and I have MANY more stories from that day and the $$it both families pulled.
this is why you arm your bridal party with waterguns filled with red wine, or liquid a*s stink fluid
Seems like a lot of people here are missing the fact that when the matrons and/or sisters wear white at another woman's wedding this is a deliberate atttempt to hijack the occassion, or, to at least comp some of the attention.
By the same token no other man should be allowed to wear the same colour as the groom is wearing.
Sometimes that's what the bridal couple asks for though. There is a rising number of wedding parties who wear white or beige as a trend. I know it's not global though.
It also is a color of prosperity and good luck in some countries. Cultural reasons. Not the full story.
I just don't get the rules of weddings. If it doesn't look like a wedding dress then I don't care what color they wear.
At my aunt's first wedding she had all the bridesmaids in white princess dresses and all the groomsmen in Pepto pink. But the only people besides the bride who got sparkles on their dresses and flower crowns were me and her baby sister, the flower girls. Of course the brides dress was the sparkliest and poofiest, so there was no confusion. What makes this especially over the top is that all three of her siblings had small justice of the peace weddings.
If you are three type of person who is focused on looks that this spoils the celebration of your love and marriage with friends and family, you have only yourself to blame. In the big scheme of things this is a tiny blip so don't let it spoil all the positive aspects of this special day.
I don't understand this rule at all. I was only on one wedding, when my aunt was getting married. I was 14 back than. And guess what? I was wearing white. Actually, I was wearing a dress which my aunt gave me to wear (not speciallly prepared for a wedding, she just picked it up from her wardrobe and gave it to me). NOBODY said anything. Maybe that was because it was her will, or maybe that was like that because in our country we don't have this stupid tradition about which colours guests can or cannot wearing at the wedding.
My cousin got married in the late 80's and every woman in the wedding party, including myself who did the guestbook, was asked to wear white. It was a beautiful event. That might have been the case here.
It is seen as rude in the US to wear white to a wedding if you aren't the bride.
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Mil Really Wanted To Be Bride. I'm Now Divorced From Her Son, Who She Posed With In The 2nd Picture
Having said that, Lancer explained that blaming and shaming often is done by people with low self-esteem and who carry shame themselves. “They shame others to project and rid themselves of the shame they have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious. Projection is a defense that works for them. It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame.”
From My Cousins (The Grooms) Wedding, Of Which I Wasn’t Invited
Guy Asks Fiance If He Can Invite His Friends On Their Honeymoon
Spare A Thought For This Poor Girl Who Has Been Dealt The Injustice Of Being Gifted A Mere $32,000 For Her Wedding
Since she is an adult, she can pay for her wedding herself. If she can't afford it, it's her problem, not her future in-laws. A wedding can always be modest.
“Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status,” a therapist said. This is to compensate for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected, she concluded.
Please Be Considerate About Peoples Choices At Your Wedding
Guests Called The Police To The Reception Because They’d Been Unknowingly Drugged By The Bride!
Guest Demands To Bring Their Son (18) Daughter (23), 3 Grandchildren, And A Dog To The Wedding
Guest demands to bring their son (18) daughter (23), 3 grandchildren, and a dog to the wedding. Bride puts her foot down and guest ominously ends the friendship with ellipsis
I had a no kids wedding. Some people just sent their regrets - still okay with them. Some sent me long diatribes about how weddings are ‘about babies’ and how evil we’re being - don’t speak to them anymore. No loss.
Received This Abomination Of A Save The Date… Whole Card Was Filled With It
To not produce waste we send you a letter full of waste. And the letter will be waste too
Just Got This In My Email After Receiving The Invite 2 Days Ago
What In The Hell. What A Nightmare!
They're lucky she didn't have a weapon and found was àble to find alcohol. That was atrocious!
A "Friend" Took Our Wedding Photos As A Gift To Us And Then Ghosted Us. It's Been 6 Months
From A Wedding Group I'm In. People In The Comments Were Ragging On The Step Mum's Choice Of Shoes
Bride Doesn’t Want Her Great Aunt’s Nurse To Attend The Wedding
Wow 🤦🏻♀️ How heartless do you have to be to discriminate against a guest, your own family member whom you presumably WANT to bear witness to your wedding, for having a disability that requires a nurse?! The nurse would literally be working during the entire event, watching over the aunt. What does she think she's gonna do?!
A Former Coworker Of Mine. She Was Always Extra At Work. It's No Surprise She Posted This Before Her Wedding. I'm Glad I Wasn't Invited
I don't agree with her tone, choice of words or method of delivery but I do understand the sentiment - people, as guests, can be just as rude as bridezillas these days.
I ‘Broke Group Rules’ With This Comment To A Bride Who Was About To Disown Her Dad For Not Being Able To Afford To Spend $3k On Chair/Tent Rentals
Seen On Facebook. What Is This Kind Of Trash
Bride Used Fish As Decor And Centerpieces
“Bride” Gets Angry When Fb Group Advises Against Surprise Wedding
Bride-To-Be Asking For Alternatives To The Garter Toss, This Was One Of The Responses
This Is Supposed To Be Cute But It’s Just Weird And Awkward
Didn't Know It Was Possible To Agree And Disagree To Everything In A Single Post. Yes To The Sentiment, Big No To The Execution
What Would Make Someone Ever Want To Take These Photos
From An Fb Group I'm In. Girl, If You Have To Ask, You Probably Already Know The Answer
My Sil Just Asked Me If This Was Okay To Wear To My Wedding
It’s The “You Can Dance For Free!” For Me
Working together? To me it seems photographer would be the only person working there.
My Sil Wore A Black T-Shirt, Khaki Cargo Pants And Yellow Sneakers To Our Semi-Formal Wedding
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I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
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Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
I am an Indian.. our wedding have totally different.. I am always getting nervous attack whenever I got invited to my American friends .after reading this I don't want go any weddings here .
These are more like already terrible people who now have the excuse of a wedding to be awful, rather than a reflection of American weddings. Likelihood is if people are nice enough that you are their friend, they probably are not one of these people :)
Load More Replies... Wow. So glad I haven't had to go to a wedding in over 20 years, and I don't anticipate any for at least another five. IF there is one in a few years, it would be held in our minister's home, where we meet for Sabbath services, and only with people well known to all of us, and much loved among us. No drama, no MIL trying to be the center of attention, and nobody upstaging either the bride or the groom. Everyone in my own family that would be married is already so, but even the older of my two nephews, when he chose to get married a dozen years ago, did so quietly, with only his brother and sister present---didn't invite my sis, and she wouldn't have gone, anyhow. No angst, no anger, and no gifts expected, just whoever was there, enjoy yourselves at the restaurant afterward, bride and groom's expense. Can't stand the entitled young people of today and their foolish, selfish, self-centered demands.
